Approachable at the gym

So I've had this problem for a while and I can only assume this is the cause.

So I was at the gym with my bro and my father. And we were talking about how everyone seems to want to talk to my brother and not me.

I'll have small talk with the receptionist and typically one of the old boys that train and a guy who I helped out when he first started. But no one else's seems to want to be talkative with me.

Where as my brother who comes to my gym occasionally, will do something as casual as filling his water bottle and random people who I've seen round the gym for ages will randomly try and strike up a conversation with him. Even when we're together, gym staff will direct their bodies towards him even if I'm the one speaking.

My Dad said that "my brother has a more approachable face... Where as you look like you'll stab someone in the neck at any second"
We all laughed. But it hurt just a bit. Me and my brother are pretty similar personality wise. But everyone would rather listen and get to know him. Where as people avoid eye contact with me.

>It's not just the gym. I mean the amount of times I've been stopped by security at shopping centers or events is insane.
Is there anything I can do about this?

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    learn to conciously relax your face in the mirror,I've had this problem as well. Dont even realize you're doing it most of the time.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      this is 100% true I used to take adderal and I was pretty much making a pissy face at all times and everyone thought I was a weirdo. After quitting it and learning to relax and just getting my shit together in general people are way friendlier to me. Its a you get what you give out kind of deal

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      OP I've had this problem, especially recently for whatever reason.
      In my case I think it has to do with me finding social interaction stressful, so whenever I'm talking to someone I have a tendency to make a stressed out/ concentration face, which people interpret as hostile. I think the answer is what this guy said,

      just force your face to behave.

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Why in the 6 fricks would you want people to start bothering you for no reason

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Because what he really wants is for the gym hoes to start talkin to him but he doesn’t want to say it like that.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Everybody wanna intimidationmaxxx but don't nobody wanna get no b***hes

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I'd say Zombie fricked up Halloween but it was already shit after Carpenter left.

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    do yoga unironically
    it will fix your issues
    you sound stiff

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Based intimidationmaxxer
    You should try going to a high crime area and see if you get fricked with
    If not, then your countenance provides opportunities
    Go be a bodyguard for a millionaire

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I’ll be your fren

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    My buddy will strike up random conversations all the time. He's 6'4" so that helps and is almost entirely it because he's not great at conversation. Sorry anon, it's not in the cards for everyone.

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Damn the coomer got swole

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I think I have this problem to, my brother seemed to get to talk to the other gym vets a lot easier. I think I slowly worked my way in though and they realised that my death stares are just autism and psychosis

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      and not psychosis*

  9. 1 year ago
    Anonymous
    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >have you heard of the high elves

  10. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    it's called the halo effect

    OP, you're just ugly.
    people here like to disregard the blackpill but the reality is it's the realest pill there is.
    Once you understand it, the world makes a lot more sense

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      This. This. This. So much this. The halo effect is the ultimate life pill. In the end it’s truly all about lookism. Attractive people are subconsciously associated with positive traits, and unattractive people are subconsciously associated with negative traits. Then everything else spawns from there. People will treat you differently based on looks and not even realize they’re doing it. There are studies about this, it’s not just an incel buzzword.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Is this supposed to sound as sarcastic as it is?

        https://i.imgur.com/sLM3W6P.png

        I'd say Zombie fricked up Halloween but it was already shit after Carpenter left.

        Yeah but I have a soft spot for RZs work. That and Mayne played a great Myers, even though his backstory was made much more cliche. I may never be 300lb and definitely not 6'9" but I'll try in spirit

  11. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >tfw i am like your brother and everyone wants to talk to me and its exhausting and i don't know how to not talk to everyone without being seen as a butthole so i just decided to isolate my self at home instead.

  12. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I bet your brother is below 15% bf and you are +20%

    Yet another victim of starting strength, many such cases

  13. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    boomers always try to chat with me but never anyone my own age, i think our generation is just socially stunted

  14. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I've always thought I was a bit intimidating, so I thought working out would help reduce that. Although I'm a lot more proud of myself for working out and keeping it up, I now look even more intimidating, to the point where people actually comment on how scary I look.

    Luckily I've raised my self-esteem enough where being seen as intimidating doesn't hurt me emotionally as much. And I can just lower my intimidation levels by smiling or telling a funny joke. Plus, I'm an actor and most of the gigs I get typecast me as the big, intimidating guy (always antagonist roles), so there's at least one tangible pro for me being intimidating.

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