Are you supposed to be social at the gym?

>been going to the gym for a year
>haven't had a single conversation with anyone there
>just go in, do my workout, and go home

Is this normal? Do the other gym members think I'm a weirdo for never talking to anyone?

  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i'm like that as well and there are other people that are the same.
    at the same time there are others that more talk than do anything else.
    people have different personalities, stop being so insecure.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I’d encourage rather than criticize here anon, though you are right. Not being social is a cardinal sin in america to the point where people think you’re a serial killer if you’re too quiet.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've been going for fifteen years and have only had a couple of real conversations, usually in the sauna.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The gym isn't a place to hang out and chat. Go get your workout done and focus on what you need to do, then head out. There's a million places to be social, the gym isn't really one of them.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This is pretty normal. Lifting isn’t a great way to meet people. Occasionally I’ll talk to a guy or two but it’s rare. I also don’t wear AirPods or bring my phone to the gym so maybe you can try that. Fitness classes or group sports would be better since you actually are forced to talk.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      yeah earbuds are do not disturb mode for irl
      chances you talk to someone go up if you start it. but what do you want to talk about op?

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're supposed to talk to other's in the Sauna room.

    You DO go to the Sauna after working out, right OP?

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Depends on personalities. Some people will be receptive to talking to other gymgoers, others will keep to themselves and their workout. No, it's not weird to be by yourself. It's also equally not weird to want to chat at the gym

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    When you see other regulars it's okay to greet with a hello instead of being autismo and have awkward silence walking around each other.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's not abnormal to not talk to anyone neither is talking to people. I've been to my gym for 4 years now.
    I basically only say hi to the receptionist, the staff and maybe 20 different regulars. I might also talk a bit with the receptionist and maybe half of those I greet if I happen to be near them and have something to say and they aren't in the middle of anything.
    There's currently only one kinda-friend with whom I talk some pretty much every time we see. No friend currently goes to my gym.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Is this an american thing? In the UK no one talks to anyone unless they know each other outside the gym

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I have the same question
      same here in eastern europe, anyone who's not friends beforehand barely talk to each other in the gym

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Noone in my gym is particularly chatty. Rural town in the South. Might be an urbanite thing.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I only acknowledge if I know someone directly. Otherwise I'm there to work

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    if you go to the same gym for months/years and havent made small talk or befriended anyone then yea its kind of weird.
    Im pretty autistic myself but people come up to talk with me all the time bc Im big and I made a bunch of friends and get invited to parties and stuff on the weekend from it. I dont even like to go out but its nice to be noticed

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      fibs

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This is how I felt until I saw this tweet. Are you actually supposed to talk to people at the gym?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      She probably goes to smaller gym like these guys mentioned

      Depends on the gym. When I worked out back in the city, id put my headphones in and never talk to anyone.

      Started working out in a small town gym and noticed that people are friendly and talk to each other. Not wanting to be that one anti social retard, I make an effort to say hi to people and try to make small talk. I only wear one ear bud in now unless Im the only one there. Its a bit annoying but feels nice to not be in a city where everyone is antisocial

      if you're in a serious lifting gym, like im talking about usaw gyms and powerlifting garage style places then its kind of natural to see people who've been training there for years to socialize somewhat and be part of the community.

      however I'd say in a commercial gym, where its usually crowded as shit and everyone has their headphones in, then its not a place really to socialize.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Its kind of the difference between rural and urban settings in general. If you live in the city, you dont make eye contact with people on the street and you probably dont even talk to your neighbors. In the country, neighbors talk to one another and people wave at each other.

        Its kind of nice honestly, theres a little sense of community. I had my first convo with one of the cute girls that work at the gym. Im kind of out of practice talking to girls I dont know but it went well and she was nice. The gym owner is a guy around my age and he has some gun paraphernalia around the gym so I been meaning to chat with him and see if we cant become friends.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It’s the one place and time I can have my phone on airplane mode and no one fuckin bothers me dude I need it

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm almost flabbergasted when someone talks to me at the gym.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Fuck no. The occasional nod or fist bump with a regular that you see at the same hours is fine, but I’m not there for social hour. I’m there to do my work, get in, get out and leave. I’m normie-tier extroverted, but when I see gym fags stay for two hours past their workouts, I just don’t get it. I did meet my ex gf at my gym, however, but I literally just made eye contact, saw she was interested, and then got her # and quickly introduced myself.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    if you're in a serious lifting gym, like im talking about usaw gyms and powerlifting garage style places then its kind of natural to see people who've been training there for years to socialize somewhat and be part of the community.

    however I'd say in a commercial gym, where its usually crowded as shit and everyone has their headphones in, then its not a place really to socialize.

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's normal. Even normies barely have conversations these days

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's fine, working out is the point of a gym. It's not a social club, most people probably don't want some random stranger talking to them about mundane shit while they're exercising

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Social people make friends everywhere

    I only talked to someone once but that was to rape them in the bathroom

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're not a weirdo but you'll probably have more fun if you chat with the bois.

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I mean it's not weird, most people at my gym keep their heads down and just work. I've talked to like 2 people in the last year.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I don’t think anyone really wants to talk at the gym but I’m starting to realize that’s the only way a fit bf will give me a chance to woo them. Without seeing me in action I guess I’m just not worth it.

  23. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It’s normal to not talk to anyone. It’s also normal to talk to people and make friends. Just know that a lot of people working out don’t want to be bothered so if they seem disinterested in what you’re saying, leave them alone.

  24. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    When I was 18 I never talked to anybody at the gym besides the occasion where I brought my friends who wrestled at the time.
    Now I work out at home with my girlfriend.

  25. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    My gym is a small local club and everyone talks. We have a new member that joined and isn't talking much. He was clearly doing SS/SL but was too awkward to ask to share the platform with me when it was time for clean/row/deadlift. On the speakers he was listening to a mix of hyperborean meme songs, zyzz playlists, and metal mixes of Doom and Command and Conquer.

    Will I know you post here and if you don't start making progress I will shit in your back seat.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I would hate you so much if I were him (I am).

  26. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I think it depends on your disposition. Some people rely on the gym as a place to see people they know and have a little bit of socialization. I just like to go their for personal time and dislike when people try to engage with me... I find my headspace for high intensity exercise can't easily pivot to being charming and friendly with a person. This is especially the case when I've had preworkout. It's tough because when you have a routine you tend to see the same people a LOT, and when you are actively avoiding talking to them or engaging, it can get really awkward I've found. This is amplified by the intense, latent sexuality in the gym, where often these people are very attractive women in skimpy outfits.

    At the end of the day I'd rather just focus on getting in a good workout than socializing or flirting. For the latter, I'd also prefer to not shit where I eat. The gym is way too important to my sense of wellbeing for me to ruin it by creating awkwardness with another person like that. chances are also good that other people are there to work out and focus on themselves and you are likely to be a nuisance by trying to hit on them

  27. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Man, I had 2x the bad shit happen today at gym.
    First, I'm working on a Bench tucked right up to the Smith Machine, but not using it. Just the Bench.
    Blonde girls comes right up to me and asks if she can use Smith Machine and I of course say sure. I don't own it.
    Next thing I know is her ass is within 1 foot of my face, and I'm not exaggerating. gym was packed, and like I said, I had to tuck real close to Smith machine.
    Now, I'm happy about this UNTIL after closer inspection, this seemingly cute skinny blonde is 99% surely a dude. I had dude ass in my face for full sets.
    Next, I'm checking these maybe 20 year old regulars out as I always do. Staring at their asses packed into their cheater shorts.
    The better ass having girl of the two walks away towards restrooms, and just eye fuck her from behind in the mirror UNTIL, she whipped her head around, looked me DEAD in the eyes and just fucking BEAMED a, "gotcha " smile directly at me.
    Fucking caught red handed.
    This day was so fucking distracting. Hard enough when nothing interesting happens and it's just sexy girl asses everywhere, but toda7 was something else.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      and, no, I don't socialize at rhe gym because I'm retarded. I just eye fuck and get pumped.
      Every time I hear some dude "socialize" with some random chick, I'm reminded why i don't do that. So fucking cringey

  28. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Normal for me but I'm now recognized as the weirdo in the gym.
    No matter how much I want to talk to regulars, it's been too long.

  29. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    the only socializing i do at my gym is cruising in the showers

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      How do you do that?

  30. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Do rock climbing or something. Lifted myself for over 5 years and didn't talk to a single person in the gym. I have been climbing now for over a year and talk to someone almost every day.

  31. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I talk to the employees and other members, there's also lots of overlap there the employees train here also. I lift heavy enough people come up and ask me if they can spot me and if I'll add weight just so they can see how much I can push and a few of the younger zoomer high school age kids have asked me advice since I'm a 6 day a week regular. I'm a very social person though I'll talk to people anywhere I go.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      i feel personally insulted when someone tries to talk to me while im doing my workout, sucks being an introvert tbh

      the duality of man ..

  32. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i feel personally insulted when someone tries to talk to me while im doing my workout, sucks being an introvert tbh

  33. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've never talked to anyone at a normal gym beyond asking for a spot on bench press or asking to work in on a set
    I go to a climbing gym now, and you might get some people asking you how to do a specific problem and maybe talk a little bit more from there, but most people are still autistic azns and won't say much

  34. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I woyluld totally engage in convo with bros, but I never start it and I look like a mad/sad person (I’m not).

  35. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I make sure to keep to myself but today had 3 people come up and speak to me, 4 if you could while i was swimming.
    >girl asking how many sets i had left
    >guy i asked to work in with struck up a conversation
    >guy in the locker room commented on my sweatshirt
    I make no effort to speak to anyone else. This doesnt usually happen, usually i go in work out and leave

  36. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >have been riding subway every day for many years
    >see a lot of the same people on the trains especially people getting on/off at my same spot so we have living area in common
    >on train for 30+ minutes with people with nothing for either of us to do
    >still never speak to anyone because of my humiliation about my life

    same story in any social situation i ever get into. job, gym, it doesnt matter. god i hope i die soon.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      It makes more sense to me not to. You are there every day. They are there every day. The likelihood that you are going to hit it off with this person is most likely low. How many people do you meet that you would always want to be around? If you hate this person you now are stuck with them forever out of obligation.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Dude, just start talking. They know you aren't a rando. They're just as bored as you. No one wants to make the first move for fear of rejection. So the fuck what. Get rejected over and over, until you establish a rapport. Life is too short for this shit.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Fuck that why should I be the one to start talking first fuck them

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This reminds me
      >take the same subway every day for about a year
      >new line and not very crowded towards the end
      >playing with my phone and chatting with a friend online, can feel someone sitting next to me
      >can sense this person is looking at my phone
      type to my friend, "wait a sec, some fucking retard on the train keeps reading my messages"
      >person abruptly gets up and stands near the door
      >glance up, see that it's a hot chick maybe 8/10 looking all sad
      >never see her again

  37. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's kind of weird, but I doubt anyone thinks any of it. I've been going to the same gym for about a year as well and had conversations with two people, that's it. Other than tipping the receptionist and making small talk with her every once in a while, still only those two.

  38. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Don’t talk to people at the gym, lots of people are busy and on a tight schedule. Only people who like to socialize are high school and college students, or jobless loser adults with all the time in the world.

  39. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    OP you retard. Next time you go to the gym, look around. Is anyone talking to each other who isn't there with a friend? No. People are there to use the equipment, and go home. Most people are off on break from work, on the way home, or in between whatever they have going on in their daily lives.

  40. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    eventually, you will, whether you like it or not
    i'm a get-in-get-out type at the gym, in my hometown i couldn't go the first 2 months without meeting at least 3 dudes, and more than that as time went on
    moved to seattle 6 months ago, it is supposed to be the most autistic city (e.g., nobody talks to you unprompted). yet, eventually, someone started talking to me at the gym. i imagine it will get worse from here on

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