Bar is open. What's on ya mind son? Got something you need to get off your chest? Posted on April 28, 2023 by Anonymous Bar is open What's on ya mind son? Got something you need to get off your chest?
There's an 18 year old at my weekend job and I actually think she's cute. I feel a little weird about it given I'm 25 and she's graduating this year.
You feel a little weird about thinking an 18 year old is cute
The only one complaining about legal age gaps is post wall women, shoot your shot or live in regret.
>I feel a little weird about it
You feel a little weird about talking to an 18 year old at your job that you think is cute.
I, a man of 35 years old, drove half-way across the country to take an 18 year olds' virginity because I thought she was cute.
We are not the same.
>drove half-way across the country to take an 18 year olds' virginity
sure you did bro lol
Get stabbed in the stomach and have the hole fucked by 18 morons.
Cut off your balls.
Put a loaded gun in your mouth and have a nice day by slitting your throat.
>look everyone i was a virgin until 30 and i was so desperate to fuck an "18 year old virgin" that I never did in high school so I drove halfway across the country to do it
>lol sour grapes
get raped by morons.
>35 year old IST incel drives always across the country to take an 18 year old's virginity because of how desperate he is for sex
bet you think that made you sound chad huh
>Instinctively avoided eye contact with a gym gril that was definitely looking at me
Mr Wembley, it happened again
>tfw failed to make a move again on my crush now I just look weird
I'm fucking hopeless
>see girl checking me out at the gym
>sit down on lat pulldown next to her (legit had to use this next)
>she has her head turned 45 degrees directly facing me
>does this for literally a minute straight
>look at her
>she is staring at me but immediately looks away
>2 seconds after I look straight ahead I can see her turn her head towards me again
>autistically stare in the empty air in front of me for 5 minutes and leave
I am basically 2 weeks out from being done with college and holy shit I am so over it
3 presentations left, finals, extra credit shit I have to do, then I'm done. Literally the worst semester ever, got put in the worst groups in all my projects, one of which has a retarded schizo in it. FUCK
It feels crazy I'm almost done though, took longer at community college cause I didn't know what I wanted to do, then once I transferred I switched majors again, so I've been in college a little longer than most people, but I'm so close to being fucking done. Feels like it's impossible that I'm gonna get through these next 2 weeks though
I hate how these threads devolved into "hur dur me and girlfriend got in a fight, she isn't as good looking as my previous 5 girlfriends". Like damn, can't we have a thread for lonely dudes that are trying to self improve? I feel like any space for lonely dudes is blackpilled as hell and not for self improvement.
Same situation here, wagmi
Nice work. If everything goes well I'll be there in a few months. Its a struggle.
I got one
I've been a lot more positive this week. Still a 22yo khhv, but I managed to add 5lbs to every lift and I submitted a school assignment after not being able to focus for the past 2 weeks since I was so demoralized. I think it won't be too long until I'll be able to do weighted pull-ups with 1/2 my body weight (I think my max is 1/5 rn). I'm nearly done with school so I need to power through and finish it. I'm gonna start spam applying to better jobs out there, ideally I'll land a do nothing job like I have currently, and maybe even a remote one if I'm extra lucky.
I'm a bit anxious though. I'm gonna try and socialize more once I have time freed up. I plan on moving out no matter what in a few months. But I'm worried about the scene when I do. I'll be out of college, so it'll be harder to meet young people and girls my age, not to mention I spent the past 4 or 5 years essentially a shutin. Being socially behind is bad enough, but I'd have to deal with aging into the adult population. I hear it goes downhill as people don't really party at all past 25 and the social scene dies out. Like I missed the ball. Some guy on here was talking about how I wasted my school life since I stayed with my parents the whole time. Maybe I did.
I'm the guy you replied to and I am in such a similar situation. Wasted my college years not being social (covid happened I guess but that shouldn't be an excuse). Best thing I can say to you is to never give up on college. Not everyone graduates college so if you can just power through you will have something to be proud of, and an actual asset in your life. We may be KHVs but at least we can be KHVs with degrees.
This may be lonely cope but I'm holding out hope that our generation will realize how bad we got fucked by lockdowns and constant phone usage. I think soon there will be a change in society where people are more social just due to the loneliness starting to reach the average young person. Also if its consolation, I don't think that your loneliness is correlated with staying with your parents. Loneliness is becoming way more common, its not due to any one factor.
Just keep on trying, giving up always makes things worse. I wish I learned that lesson back when I was 16, oh well.
Thanks. I don't know if I'm super proud since I'm getting it from sort of a meme college, but I'm also thinking i might only power through a masters degree in the future from a fairly prestigious university that I might be able to get into.
Covid screwed things up a lot, and i blamed my parents for screwing me up socially too, but I think back and wonder if I might not have been able to change things somewhat if I really had tried, instead of assuming no one wanted to be near me and slowly rotting away in school. A lot of opportunity was squandered, but I'm not throwing in the towel.
I've been thinking a lot about risk taking recently. Like some guys get raised to never take risks, to be conditioned into being passive and shy. I wanna take more risks, I think that's the main shot I have at changing my life. Moving out even if I don't feel fully ready, talking to people even if I'm unsure.
One of the things that gives me hope is this really pretty redhead girl I met once. If I ever get the chance, I'd want someone like her.
Just last week I wanted to give up, but you never know. I might meet a beautiful young girl who falls for me a week from now. One of the cryptos I've stockpiled might moon within the year. I could land an easy 6 figure job in my field on my next application.
Envious of you right now, im just about to complete community college and transfer to a university. But I am already so tired of college. I just want to find a job, meet a grill then die.
im biting my teeth not to call my bpd ex. we broke up back in dec22 and she still reaches out . she is out for phd and we met at the easter holiday 2 weeks ago but we didn't fuck and she is coming for the summer and she is staying for 2 months. I love her like you wouldn't believe but our past is really dark. She just called me today and 2 days ago and i ghosted.
When we met i asked her if she did anything with other dudes while we were off and she said no just talking stage. im fucked
I have zero tolerance for bpd girls, but if you want to, hit it and leave it
i wish my bpd ex would reach out 🙁
You broke up for a reason anon. There's plenty of fish in the sea and many of them aren't bpd and/or your ex. Start fresh and love yourself and new people.
Me and my ex we go to the same gym and we see each other there occasionally.
Over the years I have seen her morph into the typical western whore doing hip thrusts in the smith machine.
It's so depressing.
Should I rope if I’m an Incel? I don’t know how to get better I’m 5/10 face but 5’7
So fucking what? There are smaller guys than us (I'm 5'7 too) walking the earth like giants. Get a grip man
If you're white you would be a king in Asia, personality and finance max, maybe pick up an art/instrument, thank me later
if you are white, go find a 5/10 or so turkish girl
literally go talk to a turkish girl you see in campus etc
I met a turkish girl at a mixer and told her I'd have to fight her because I'm a bvllgarian chad and she was basically on my dick the whole night.
What the fuck turkbro.
extreme inferiority complex in some circles
heard tales about it, had to see it with my own eyes
tfw turkish friend of mine
shes a virgin
i was the first guy who fingered her and got her to orgasm
she is now married to another turk
i still think about how close my dick was to her pussy hole damn
Dude I see people your height all the time with families, I just saw a man today walking with one kid in his arms, the other walking, and his wife beside him. You can definitely find someone. Try to avoid some crazy gold digging bitch, but worst case scenario you'll find fulfillment in your children, they are the real reason to keep going. Not your wife.
You actually internalized the manlet psyop? Not like this king
Well barkeep, do you ever feel like your devotion to bodily improvement pushes everyone in your life away from you because you hold yourself to a minimum gym time so you can make progress?
Getting numbers left and right. Fixing to get my own apartment. Fit, healthy, and have money saved up. Got a nice job that can pay my expenses. Life is good bros. We are going to make it.
>mired by skinny Asian girls (do not want)
>ignored by chubby white girls (want)
wtf let's trade
>ignored by chubby white girls (want)
wtf is wrong with you
an ex of mine dumped me about a year ago. i work at this high-end premium gym and today she came in with her boyfriend. had no clue until i had to give them an introduction tour which lasts about 15 minutes. she avoided eye contact at all costs and didn’t speak a word to me the entire time, just staring off into the void. her bf seemed cool and unaware of it all, but it reminded me how lonely i am despite having improooved a lot since last year.
Sorry you had to deal with that bro
Me (30) and girlfriend (18) got in a fight, although she isn't as good looking as my previous 5 girlfriends. AITA?
>working part time as a project writer in a start-up while studiying, most job is online
>project partner is a qt grill and sister of a co-founder (this part will be important later)
>she works in a different city then mine and turns out I was able to impress her with my mature behaviour and strong work ethic since other guys in her school are either unserious nerds whose only successes in life are to study medicine in a respected university (le epic redditors) or guys who look to smash pussy and escape.
>Turns out I am able to unintentually fake things and look mature enough to get her interested.
>I get an offer to develop project from the main boss, I tell her to get involved in the project as a co-founder too which she loves.
>Some days later she has to come to my city to attend a fair for the start-up. We plan to go out for a day.
>We go to a some island in a bright day, everyting goes well. Eventually we kiss on the cheeks (I could kiss the mouth but this was our first f2f meeting so I didn't want to force everything).
>She is plesantly suprised, she wasn't expecting me to be this playful and flirtatious (thanks ISTbros).
>We agree to try to develop some sort of a romantic relationship between us beside our working relationship.
>Next day I go to the work and the main boss' wife tells me that if I enjoyed the day with the girl.
>She tells me lots of stories about her years in business and seeing lots of collagues getting romantically involved and warns me to be careful. Also tells me to not to talk about this conversation to the girl I am seeing.
>Eventually decide to tell to her
>She is shaken and furious about this
>Turns out she told her sister that she was meeitng with me. Then her sister told his boyfriend who is also a co-founder and the nephew of the main boss' wife. These three were (for some fucking reason) very interested in this "relationship".
>She is very angry, about all this. Blames her sister and cries each time a person learns about this.
>I can't even hold her hand anymore since she isn't interested about the romantic aspects anymore.
>Eventually meet with the main boss who is a swell guy, looks after me and teaches me a lot.
>Says that he is very angry about her wife's involvement. But workplace gossip will remain no matter what and he can't do anything about it.
>My main plan was to ignore it too, so nothing changed.
>Qt grill doesn't want to play the ball anymore, tells me to finish this thing once and for all and to focus on the existing work
>I accept, honestly she and I are from VERY different backgrounds and ethics so I knew the relationship wouldn't last if one of us didn't comprimise and submitted to the others lifestyle. But I wanted to get more experience and at least kiss her.
>Next day (today) I go to the fair and just do my job in a stoic manner, not smiling or being pleasant (like my normal self)
Honestly I am very angry about all this. I get this rare opportunity to get a girl interested in me and half of the company starts to gossip about this. She was so frustrated that I spend more time hearing and talking about this then I held her hand. Why is workplace like this? Also what to do?
i'm not sure if you passed a shit test by not deceiving the girl after the boss's wife told you to keep it to yourself or if you somewhat failed by telling her before your relationship could advance. either way i think you did the moral thing, but personally i'd double down and maybe write her a love letter to spill your feels about it all. is she concerned that her professional image would be tarnished from seeing you or what?
>write her a love letter to spill your feels about it all
That was exactly what I was thinking. I have written a poem for her before, so I may write a letter before she leaves town. But the thing is I am not in love with her and I know in my heart that we are not compatible and not going to be able to form a healthy relationship if one of us doesn't comprimise. And these problems include my family structure too, which I am very sensitive to. Her family is rich and educated, mine is opposite. She is liberal (altough her family isn't) meanwhile I tend to be conservative and request her to be more sensitive of her apparel. I not only believe but KNOW that this relationship is destined to be a failiure. I know it is not the moral thing but I just want to mess around a bit with her to gain love and life experience. She is a very beautiful girl and she has several satellite guys she (I think unintentually) has around. One guy is around her since 1st grade. It's funny to think that I was able to fulfill his 13-year-long desire in just one day. Should I just try to form a relationship? I am young and I want to learn more before I get old.
If you don't try to roll the dice this can turn into one of those "what could have been?" Regrets that haunts a man.
If you throw the die who knows what fuck will happen, but you won't wonder what could have been, and you will learn.
Stop being a limp pussy and go chase your Juliet, Romeo.
You're right gnomeanon. I think what made me attractive to her was my maturity. It would look mature and romantic if I wrote a letter, expressing what I felt and thought this whole week. I really don't think we could have a stable relationship but it won't hurt if I took the chance. I already have had the talk with her, so I have nothing to lose. Thank you for the advice. God bless.
Thank you for not repeating my mistake. God bless.
Anon, love letters can be a hit and miss thing - whether she finds it sweet or cringe will depend on her individual personality. I, too, suffer from indelible romanticism, but unless I felt confident I could imitate Shakespeare I really wouldn't try and write a love letter unless this was someone I was actually seeing. Having a frank and honest conversation about her feelings might be a better approach.
Ignore me, I can't read. If you've already talked then fuck it, do a hail mary.
>tells everyone about a romantic work relationship in a small company
>Turns out she told her sister that she was meeitng with me. Then her sister told his boyfriend who is also a co-founder and the nephew of the main boss' wife. These three were (for some fucking reason) very interested in this "relationship
What is this a spanish soap opera?
I just started fucking an 18 year old at 39. She's very submissive and need some rules. I'm going to make her study hard, eat healthy, train and use her phone less.
Tomorrow I will start a months long solo bicycle tour trough Europe. I was a bit anxious at first about potential loneliness during the journey. But at this point I think I will prefer actually being alone to feeling lonely amongst a group of "friends". Either way I am excited to see some new surroundings and to be free of my wageslave job.
I’m never gonna have sex again
what happened anon ? you hated it ?
Yeah... I just don't know if my ass should hurt so much afterwards
18 year old gave me herpes
Not with that attitude, you're not. gay.
this was 2ish weeks ago
jannies are uppity, be on the lookout anons
>got pegged after training arms a couple months back
>I still think about it while doing arms accessories
>I do more reps than usual while thinking about it
>finishing degree only now because I was a mentally ill NEET after high school
>wrinkles getting deeper
>can't find a connection with a woman
>gonna have to get a wage cage job which the thought of makes me want to vomit
>doesn't really seem to be anything to look forward to, will be losing friends to life/girlfriends
I just don't know what I'm doing anything for at this point. Simply because the alternative of doing nothing would be even worse than my current pursuits which are in vain anyway. What a sad life it is where your every motivation for doing anything is simply to try your best to avoid the barking dogs of death at your heels
I'm in a similar position. 27, noticable again, no bitches, in college to build a career. What's helping me is self improving. Getting my teeth fixed, upgrading my fashion, staying fit, getting lean, getting tan and being outside, hobbies, etc ... All of these things help me and give me small Victories to look forward to every week. Its all cope, but eventually it will pay off big time, at least I hope
The things I wished someone would've told me when I was younger, and a piece of advice that I give to younger Anons here, is that the maintenance of friendships and relationships in general is almost entirely dependent on the existence of shared space with each other. School is the best time to make friends, it becomes increasingly harder to make new friends when you're an adult just because of the disparity of people's lives. Effort should be made to keep in touch with people who were your mates in school.
Ever since I got IST there’s been unspoken rizz between me and my mother in law
"have you tried just talking to women" is definitely not a thing, once you try talking to women and they reject you over and over your confidence will be in the shitter, you'll realize you need to change, need to be something else. I think this just shit advice women give to men not realizing they'd reject those same guys. Obviously you have to talk to women, to learn and evolve, get your game up, fitness, status, money, so they don't reject you but the idea that anyone can just talk to a woman and they'll date you that easy is fucking insane.
The reason this advice is given out so often is that so many men don't even try to talk to girls they don't know
ever thought that maybe people that believe they can't get women and don't try are actually just right? lifes not some fairy tale world where "if you just try you might succeed and get that chick you want".
i’m an ugly incel and i’m proud
I think you're too proud of yourself to try and fail
I have tried, they literally walk away, my brother has tried way more than me and he's been rejected all day. what other excuses do you have?
Try some more bro, ur just unlucky and it takes more tries
Only waiting for my parents to die before I take my own life.
Don't do it anon
Went on a date Sunday with a super nice girl
Not interested in anything fast so we'd been talking for a few months
Lack of physical attraction and different life values killed it though
Went from having a fun phone call every night, to the week blurring by alone
Almost want to call my ex out of loneliness, but that's a terrible idea
At best I've got another several weeks of searching just to find someone and start a multi-month process
Be happy you at least went on a date
My dad died last Wednesday. I took care of him for over a year before hoHispanice care took over. Regardless I still visited him almost everyday and got him what he wanted while there. Shit's tough and exhausting anons. Because of this I've been out of work for about a year and a half now, resume all fucked up, will have to think of a way to forge it and get back into the workforce, but then again I hate my career choice so I really have no clue what to do atm.
I think I am genuinely afraid of girls if I am not introduced to them via friends and we click during first time we meet
I get constant looks and interest from women but I really dont know how to approach, nor if I want to, I really need to feel a "connection" to pursue something I think
I can guarantee you that within the last 5 months a normie could have bagged at least 3-4 chicks if he were simply in my shoes
I just wanna get a GF and be done with this shit, there is one candidate who I see "fit" for myself, lets see if I can manage that
rip anon, stay strong please
Thank you anons. I'll give that advice a shot. Worst they say is "no" and then I'll try again elsewhere.
The “connection” need is the worst
I had a nailed on relationship with a super hot girl but there wasn’t that spark that I had before with a much uglier girl who i was obsessed with at first sight
That gap's totally fine, at worst the inital hr call will ask about it and once you say
>I was taking care of a sick relative
Or if you decide to try a different career
>I was taking care of a sick relative, and now that I'm looking I decided to look into X that I was always interested i
After that it'll never be considered again
Sorry about your dad, sounds like you did right by him when he needed it
Just lie about the gap. Fuck these companies.
just cut ties with my best friend since high school and probably commited social suicide this way since I'm autistic as shit and can't really make friends anymore all that easily
strangely enough I feel liberated though
Went to a party this week and got terriblt drunk (I think it was near alcohol poisoning for my weight, if I hadn't thrown up).
Some of the worst things
> some guy told me I'm stunning (or I hallucinated that?), turns out later he's a known weirdo
> arm wrestled with same guy
> another one tried to talk to me and I said "you're cute but I have no idea who you are"
> started talking about my arms and shoulders routine to someone (I think it was unprompted, maybe imagined it too)
> threw up on the couch
> laughed at the job of someone I don't know
> told the guy I adore I miss him
And probably more embarrassing stuff, unrelated to guys, since around three hours are blacked out.
GTFO this is a male space. Your problems are all caused by your hedonism.
>go to party
>drink too much out of nervousness/boredom
>can't remember multiple hours of the party
>repeat next weekend
Story of my life, except I do it around once a year because I'm an asocial coward.
How do you deal with everyone around thinking you're annoying and cringy afterwards?
all ya gots to do is pace yourself and have a planned location to go full retard without huge repercussions then don’t get blotto until then
just check the time between drinks if you can’t do it by feel
or lol don’t drink
I'll have an Americano, please.
Current stuff in my life:
>struggling to decide on whether or not I should marry my gf (and in therapy to help sort it all out)
>job is completely fucking me up right now (long hours, lots of travel, TONS of time wasted on bullshit, terrible company)
>struggling to find a new job that's interesting and doesn't pay like shit or grind people up with travel
>the last ~4ft of my truck's exhaust pipe fell off while I was on a work trip this week, have to get it fixed
>one motorcycle doesn't charge anymore (needs the engine pulled to replace the alternator), the other isn't street legal yet
>Muay Thai coach had to stop coaching because of life stuff, have to find a new gym
>fucker leg kicked me for real during a demonstration in our last class, and now I'm limping and can't run or train quads as planned today
>still haven't gotten all of my tax stuff together (appointment next week)
>trying to fix my weed-riddled yard and get it ready for some gardening, but it's resistant
>struggling on my cut (partially because of the travel and time issues)
don't marry until no fault divorce is gone
I have come to the conclusion that if I stopped messaging people first I would have no one to talk to
Haha, nice man!
People are happy to respond to notification bells but few take the effort to reach out first with intention
idk I've never received a message like 'this made me think of you' can't imagine what that would be like
Just water tonight.
Porn addiction as per usual. It's just so frustrating as this is the single area of my life where my rational mind just gives up control. I have been adopting a somewhat stoic approach in dealing with emotions like anger and fear, but lust is a massive fucking monolith which just keeps tripping me up. What makes it worse is that I have found a nice Catholic community in the town where I am staying for the time being. It's a TLM community with actual young people (in fact 2 weeks ago I talked to a nice young lady and it seems that there are quite a few people my age who attend the mass there and there are plans to form some sort of youth group or smth). Thus, for all intents and purposes, I have a clear reason to avoid sin and overcome this one obstacle to living my faith; the sense of community I have been lacking and the possibility of finding a girlfriend/future wife.
On the other hand, things are going well otherwise. As I have mentioned, I am staying in a new town for the time being, and I am otherwise thriving. Lifting before work 4 days a week, practicing kickboxing on Thursdays (where I am meeting some decent lads) and HEMA on Tuesdays. I suppose this information belongs on IST rather than IST, but I'm probably going to invest in buying proper HEMA gear in a week or so, and the club has a tradition of members creating their own coats of arms to be embroidered on the gambeson. I have so far come up with the traditional CoA of my hometown, alongside a device in the top right corner of a shepherd's staff and two drummer sticks, which symbolise the two sides of my family. Not entirely happy with it yet, but not sure how I could improve it.
I'm 22 and I feel like total fucking shit.
I basically lost last 6 years of my life, because of my fucking weight and the inability to even cope with it. Those years felt like a nightmare, one in which the terror comes from the chronic inaction, like you can only watch how your own body festers and decays. I coasted, stagnated, actually did nothing but "survive" until now.
I finally managed to pull myself up though, and I lost 5kgs in last 2 months, ~25kgs to go, and I've yet to hit the gym for the first time.
But the fact that I lost the best years of my youth is just so fucking crushing. I can never emulate it now. Everything I will do, partying, first romance, whatever will be tainted by the adult. I actually feel like it might be literally joever for me, as a person.
I don't know if this sounds ridiculous, probably it does. I have grown so fucking bitter and cynical and yet I crave meaning and perspective. Maybe this autistic ramble will help me
>Everything I will do, partying, first romance, whatever will be tainted by the adult.
All of that shit is overrated and its glorification is a product of Hollywood™. Real satisfaction in life comes from building stuff you're proud of, whether its a physique, a career, a family, a home, or a passion project. The whole idea that "partying and experiences" are what make people happy in life is rather new in the history of the world. You really think a 30 year olds happiness is determined by what he did on a Friday night 13 years ago? Or that he will give a shit about the girl he kissed behind the bleachers 15 years ago? Never despair over made up experiences that you can do nothing about. Instead think of what you can build today.
You ever just try to quit cold turkey? You could probably do it if you just treat it like a drug addiction.
NTA but a wonderful perspective on life.
lol. Nro, I would murder people to be 22.
Re-write your post, swap 22 for 12, read it out loud in front of a mirror, repeatedly, until you realize how ridiculous it sounds.
If you are a 22 yr old dude who is lifting and actively seeking out ways to improve, you have life by the balls. Embrace it. Go talk to chick's and do cool shit. Have fun.
I got a lot goin on mane
>grew up in a very sheltered environment (Mormon household) and after moving out I've found myself floundering as I try to develop a system of values while still subconsciously conditioned to the Mormon system
>also very poorly socialized due to upbringing and barely contribute in social situations outside of work, and have a hard time socializing with normalfags anyway because I don't drink alcohol
>also have had off and on depersonalization episodes since I was a teenager likely due to SSRI use (thanks to my retarded ass deciding I was "depressed" in junior high) which exacerbate the above
>can barely function at work, much less come up with funny shit to say or do when around people because I'm busy trying to prevent my body from autopiloting itself into doing something retarded or endlessly repeating one word replies all night long
At least I can squat 3pl8, I guess.
Your situation mirror my own in some ways anon, though I don't know if I can reliably squat 3 plates. In my case, I was on antipsychotics for a month before my mother took me off them, and while I'm not close with them, that I'll be eternally grateful for. It did give me gyno in the short time I was on them tho, but I'm gonna get it removed someday. Are you close with your parents? Are you good with girls? I feel like it fucks you up a lot if your home life js too sheltered, which I'm trying to reverse now as an adult
>Are you close with your parents?
Not particularly. I'm on good terms with them but I see them once or twice a year and have a hard time talking to them about anything that isn't surface-level.
>Are you good with girls?
>She ignores me when we write
>still watches my stories and follows me on IG
The fuck she want from me?
fuck, can relate bro
I think she's just bored
this is literally, unironically nothing
like, I'm not trying to attack you, insta stuff is not a metric to consider
it is deemed childish and immature to unfollow block unblock etc so most people just stay "connected" and browse whatever new story is up
> it is deemed childish and immature to unfollow block
I always unfollow someone when I don’t have contact with them anymore and if we wanted something from each other, it’s just distracting to see them in your feed and brings up old memories and feelings you don’t want to remember. To follow them will just hurt you more in the long term
bro what you just said is immature and childish. you are supposed to just ghost people.
I'd seriously recommend learning social media etiquette, observe what people post, what people dont post, do's and dont's etc, which type of person posts which type of shit etc, it is kind of important as you age and navigate more intricate social relations
for example, I'm 28 now and it is not socially OK to post crazy night out stories as they look cringe and you are supposed to be maturing slowly, calming down and developing a taste for stuff
what I say might sound cringe to you but it is true and since this is a feels bar thread, we should be able to discuss these things
No what he said is the adult thing to do. It’s fucking social media. It’s not blocking your bosses email and number. It’s the most logical course of action. And everyone’s different about this, maybe YOU don’t feel the same way he does where seeing them post their life brings back those old memories and feelings that do nothing but bring pain. Good for you. The point of ghosting is to secretly hope they come crawling back in some shape or form and feel liks you “win” somehow by them seeing your life on social media while you secretly seethe about theirs behdin close doors.
What he said helps you move forward in life which is all that matters because that’s the only path there is to take.
no its not and no I am right and no men are supposed to be part of the communities they are in and not shut themselves away
be a man and learn what you should be doing instead of playing modern day Don Quixote as social media and mass media in general is a HUGE part of our lives now, there is no need to act like its fucking 2010
taking action like this on socials immediately brands you as someone who cannot handle a setback when it comes to a relationship, someone who has the fragility of a child and who cares wayyy to fucking much to the point that they delete others from socials
these type of stuff are always, always remembered. there is this one time where a girl was posting stories about how important this one election is and she'd unfollow anyone who posted holiday stories instead of voting, a friend of mine did and she actually unfollowed her, we still mock her for this after 6 years
it is good for the soul to assess and understand the tides of the era you live in and act in semi-unison with that as 99% chance is that you are not a trendsetter so dont act like a gay and follow etiquette
trust me, people care about these stuff WAY more than you do, so its OK to just suck it up and as indians call it, do the needful
> trust me, people care about these stuff WAY more than you do
Sad for them why should I care what a other person I don’t want to see anymore thinks when I unfollow her? My mental health and stuff is more important to me than what some person i had contact with thinks
>She makes jokes about you with her friends.
So I life rent free in her head than.
Because she still talks with her friends about that
>OH NO I CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK THE WAY THEY FEEL ABOUT MY PERSONAL CHOICES FOR MY ISN HAPPINESS AND COMFORT!
lol this is the guy speaking on maturity
>OH NO I TOOK SOME MINUTES TO NOTICE TRENDS EMERGING AROUND ME, ADJUSTED MYSELF AND NOW I HAVE A BETTER SOCIAL OUTLOOK OR AT THE VERY LEAST I DON'T STICK OUT LIKE A SORE THUMB
>OH NO I LISTENED TO WHAT EVERYONE SAYS, STUDIED HARD DURING EARLY 20S AND NOW I HAVE A NICE LIFE
you are not unique specimens lads do what you are supposed to do, you wouldn't be here on a friday night if you were, its OK to take a step back and understand socials matter
But why should socials matter with someone I don’t want to have contact anymore?
In which way does my life get better if I stay in contact with her be it online or in RL?
Please tell me the consequences of my life I I unfollow her and block her because we already know the consequences if we don’t
There's nothing wrong with blocking especially if the reason is understood/guessable by the otherside
Modern "social media etiquette" is to never commit to protect yourself. So people don't commit to a single other person and relationships fail, then they don't commit to ending it and drag a bunch of baggage along with them
I'd never consider talking to someone that follows their exes
> Modern "social media etiquette" is to never commit to protect yourself.
And that is a stupid mindset, why should the other person believe in something if you don’t do it yourself, why should the other one try if you don’t do it yourself.
People life this way because that’s what most of them think other people are doing as well so they should be doing it themselves. They never think outside the box and say:
Ok i believe in myself and the other person so I try what I can.
Instead they go the other route and think everybody else does it. Everyone wants to be the special person but nearly no one wants to be the person who chooses their Special person because they are afraid to get hurt.
And IST is the best example that you have to risk getting hurt to get what you want and you’ll see that it was worth it to risk it
if you shared very intimate moments and you are now left broken and she is lively on insta, it might be better to unfollow, I agree
if you share absolutely 0 acquaintances it doesn't matter yes, it can be also OK to unfollow
but if you do share acquaintances, and chances are you do, you are supposed to keep calm about the fall out and carry on, this is true for most things in life that are not EXTREMELY dear to you. this is not about your life improving, this is about being able to handle a probably ugly situation as best as you can so stacey doesn't go around saying to your friends
>anon blocked me on instagram
which makes things worse for you as you should be thinking about your social standing with others. again, the goal is to not cause a scene as a man, suck it up and carry on
how old are you btw? you should be feeling less intimate stuff as you age
> if the reason is understood/guessable by the otherside
a really good way to put it, damn. this anon said it better, I have been sipping some wine so posting is not my biggest strength at this point
just don't look vulnerable if you were not actually in a position to be legitimately, objectively vulnerable
Actually, it’s a very mature thing to do, if you do it consciously. You form good habits around people this way, by creating obstacles for both of you to engage in arguments and trigger each other unnecessarily. Kind of like handling anything you are addicted to, in terms of dopamine kick-back, a couple of steps out of immediate reach. So, if you block a person, they are out of immediate reach for engagement. It worked well for me to eliminate distractions that I didn’t need.
> I'd seriously recommend learning social media etiquette, observe what people post, what people dont post, do's and dont's etc, which type of person posts which type of shit etc, it is kind of important as you age and navigate more intricate social relations
for example, I'm 28 now and it is not socially OK to post crazy night out stories as they look cringe and you are supposed to be maturing slowly, calming down and developing a taste for stuff
Imagine having to follow after a „given“ system that you have to follow to be seen as mature.
It’s not immature to unfollow people you once had feelings for and don’t want to stay in contact anymore. Or do you keep the chats/texts and number of your ex after you broke up?
>you are supposed to just ghost people.
Since when is ghosting seen as mature?
This is a troll post 3/10 for making me reply
>Having the insight to walk away from someone's bullshit
>Sit around and get strung along like some gullible child
Which one is worse?
The context is important here.
If it was a bad relationship then yeah it’s better to ghost but if things were well and the other person just ghost the other one because they are not interested suddenly or what without saying anything then yes it’s childish and the other person is afraid of confrontation and takes the easy way out because that’s all they can do
Just ice water, please.
I’ve been climbing out of my depression, already running into hurdles. Cleaned my room a bit today, did some laundry for once. Managed to wake up at my desired wake up time. Tmrw if I can do it again I’ll start going on walks at 4am. Even if it’s not much I’m trying to do some form of resistance training twice per week, even just a few sets of curls and then band work to rehab an injury. It’s better than nothing I suppose.
Today is gonna be my last day smoking weed, only have 0.5g left. I have no clue how to deal with the anxiety I get without it but I know if I white knuckle it for a week I’ll be fine. Makes it harder being stuck inside with nothing to do all day, can’t even enjoy vidya without it. But that’s why it needs to go. I’m anxious and awkward with it, anxious and awkward if I don’t have it. And life is a shell of what it once was for me while sober. I think that will help me be less depressed and more productive and then ultimately not depressed anymore after some time.
Other than that, tmrw is my anniversary with my ex. She last contacted me 3 weeks ago. It seems like that was the last time I’ll ever hear from her. But she’s my ex for a reason and even if she contacted me the right way finally realizing where she fucked up and being ready to try again and make it right, I just don’t think I can do that. It shouldn’t take us breaking up for her to realize and acknowledge what I’ve told her 1000 times wasn’t okay and was an issue that she did, for months. Ironically that was my attempt to work on the issue and her last message included “I wanted to work on things and fix stuff but you didn’t value that lmao.
Other than that I slipped up got curious peeped my abusive BDP exes social media, she’s trying to get fit and be an influencer like lean beef patty now. Which rubs me the wrong way because I got super out of shape after her and only JUST began fixing it.
If anyone actually read this, thanks.
Why did you break up, I could maybe share my experiences with you because it sounds like my ex
I’ve bitched so much about this in this thread over the months youve probably seen it
>meet girl 5 years ago
>dating doesnt workout figure shes not into me move on, tries to text me, now that I’m not interested she is
>hmu on and off for the 5 years
>celibate whole time kinda gave up after that first BDP ex I mentioned
>tired of no sex actually start talking to her, we meet up for a weekend go on dates fuck a bunch, turns out she moved 5 hours away but I agree to do long distance, completely rushed into a relationship with her
With the back story out of the way, I spent the whole day on the phone with her one day. 9am-11:30pm. Not doing shit but talking. I wanted to go to sleep I was tired, it was rare I could sleep earlier than 1am and she knew this. She wanted me to stay on the phone longer and her brilliant solution was to say
>Fine Ill just go keep someone else up then!
At first my issue was the blatant disrespect but she wouldn’t hear it, she just kept changing the narrative “it was a joke haha so funny” then “I meant my friend I swear its not how it sounded.” And 100 others. THEN she started deflecting saying I was making her feel like a hoe and she somehow expected me to say sorry. At this point I actually stopped trusting her. It was the disrespect that wasn’t okay at first and I didn’t think she meant it at all. But the way she acted after that made me lose trust.
This occurred 1 day after I got comfortable enough to open up and tell her I sometimes worry she may be taking to other dudes behind my back with the distance.
Stayed with her for like 1.5 months after that and it was somehow a constant issue. If I stopped mentioning it, SHE started fights about it for some fucked up reason. She got super emotionally abusive in the end about it, where if I seemed to stop caring about the issue and tried to let it go move past it she’d get all mad. So I left. No trust, manipulation, gaslighter, comfy being disrespectful. I’m good.
First relationship in half a decade and that’s how it goes. She seemed too good to be true at first. But I was getting over my trust issues from the other ex with her until that shit happened.
One good thing came of it. I learned from the first ex and put an end to it much earlier than I would have in the past. Which gave me some confidence now that I know I have some ounce of self respect and won’t put up with bullshit I am not okay with. Even if I’m still pissy over it going down like that.
Yeah dude she has some mental and Personal issues going on. She doesn’t know what she wants and acts like a child. Keep yourself really far away from those kind of girls.
Trust me I’m 42 and had my own problems with one in my 20‘s.
She had 5 relationships, her dad died early so she had no father figure and other family problems.
In the end she was together with a guy who cheated on her multiple times and left him, started taking to me. I’m gonna spare you the long story but in the end she went back to her ex and he fucked her up even more mentally. Well behold she ignored me and started talking with me after she heard that I have a relationship. She probably wanted to be a part of my life or some shit but i didint.
Here is a tip for your 20‘s (if you are there)
Keep yourself away from people act like children and are mentally unstable and don’t know what they want. Don’t try to work it out no matter how good they look.
NEVER START A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO CANT BE ALONE BY HIMSELF
Thanks man. I’m late 20s. The way I’m looking at it, do I feel safe with these women? Can I see myself spending my life with them, do they help me grow and want the best for me and are they mature or are they selfish and childish? Do I even enjoy just talking to them about anything or do I find it to be chore like. Would I trust them to help me raise my kids someday? Stuff like that
And yeah the worst part is she’s the hottest women I’ve ever been with. I used to think girls like this we’re out of my league. But it’s not worth putting up with trying to make work, even if it wasn’t long distance and the temptation of sex was just a few miles away it’s not worth it. I want someone I can spend my life with not just sex I’m at a point I would prefer to jack off and get high than have meaningless sex even with the hottest of women.
Oddly this ex blocked me everywhere but while together she wouldn’t block her ex who was simping over her still despite that he was engaged to some other chick. That whole classic situation. Nothing to block me, but couldn’t block her ex.
>story about your ex
That sounds like my first ex the abusive BDP girl. After splitting years later she contacts me, we start talking again, I get roped back in feelings wise because I never fully moved on. Tons of sexting and nudes and her talking about how she’s not dating anyone she at most briefly messed with “some guy,” she kept saying how she hasn’t been filled the same since kisses my creampies, makes all these plans for us to hook up. Then she ghosts me, tells me to fuck off randomly when I reach out. Come to find out months of talking later shes having her 2 year anniversary with a new guy. I moved on, but guilt got to me so I sent him everything I had. Purely because I would want it done for me if the roles were reversed. And wouldn’t ya know it I’m the bad guy now lol I’m “disgusting and creepy” as if she didn’t hurt 2 men who cared about her
>Your Ex Story
Yeah that’s why you keep away from these people. They want to see if they can still get you just to fulfill their narcissistic feelings.
>Snitched on her
You did good anon, it shows that you grew up mentally and don’t want anyone to feel the pain of getting cheated and were able to position yourself in someone else’s shoes. You will be a great husband and father someday I can see that.
I won’t wish you good luck on finding someone because I know that you don’t need it. You will find someone who will have the same values as you and won’t play stupid Mind games if you keep your morals
>You will find someone who will have the same values as you and won’t play stupid Mind games if you keep your morals
Thank you anon. That’s all I really need. I feel like my bar of standards is simultaneously easy enough to meet yet seemingly so out of grasp for most women. But then if it wasn’t like that, the one who meets them wouldn’t be special.
Fuck lifting fuck going to the gym it is all horseshit fuck this stupid ass hobby fuck everything
I feel it bro, just don't stay angry for too long or things will start fucking up in your life
I'm so tired and lonely, bros. It's all so exhausting and boring. I have some joys in life, but 95% of the time I feel so empty.
Still, I believe that everything will eventually become better. I love you, guys, if you ever feel bad - remember me and know that I am rooting for all of (you). 🙂
Here's a funny image of a cat.
That kitty is living the best life.
my only source of motivation is proving to other people that i am in fact capable and not a complete loser. always thinking about my wasted potential if i didn’t do something with my life. all this time that was the only thing stopping my from becoming a NEET. turns out it’s not a very solid motivator once you realize people don’t care and you should live for yourself.
that was all it took for me to get on (mental health) welfare. never been ‘happier’, i’m just going to ride this one out until certain requirements are met. i am at my happiest when lifting or sleeping, that’s what i’m going to be doing from now on. high functioning autism my ass. cheers anons
I lost a tomboy friend to globohomo a few years back. I knew at the time i just didn't confirm it till now. I had feelings for her but never expressed them because i was an ugly unIST fuck.
I was just reminiscing because so far 2 people i was close to are pretty much dead spiritually because of this fucking psyop and their bodies dont have that much longer.
But in my heart i have compassion for these people. They just needed love. And instead of having love and being in love with themselves they only hate themselves and the world. No wonder their suicide rate is so high. But now? I can't even show any affection to them. I cant coexist within their range.
I don't blame them.. i just wish things were different. This modern world is truly cursed. Maybe someday. I just wish they could listen. I just wish they would let themselves be themselves.
POO POO PEE PEE MY LIFE SUCKS AND I HAVE NO GF
Exactly,there motherfuckers are pathetic as fuck. Whining all the timr about stupid sluts and my life is so hard buuuh uu. U
>be me, 28
>ex's from high school like my stories on IG and hit me up and
>mfw these busted 28yo women know they are hitting the wall and are desperate
God forgive me, but I am enjoying seeing modern women hitting the wall and getting rekt
>live with mom because moron
>she remembers I exist when Im louder than her TV and immediately asks me to do a list of things for her
>first up, need to hang a knife magnet
>ask where the studs are
>where the lines are
>oh do you k own if the lines are centered or at the edges of the stud
>make sure you have enough space but it needs to be centered!
>it could go here or here or here or here
>says all this without even fucking pointing
>says we won't need the drywall anchors
>it won't reach two studs, it's too short, while using the bar as a prop, indicating that it won't reach two studs
>I don't understand you, but make sure it has enough room with the light covers
>ask of she's hanging lights
>no with the light switch covers
>I want them in line
OK I'll go get a straight edge
>she fucks off
>I draw a line, and use our longest knife to verify there's enough space to hang it, it's too tight when above the line or in the middle
>put it below, it looks nice
>she comes back in
>don't you think there would be more room if it were above the light cover? As if I kicked her in the pussy
>I set the screw and drill down
>is something wrong
>Yeah we have communication issues
>start walking away
>Yeah that's a good idea
I hate not being able to fucking communicate the most simple shit and being fucking micromanaged by someone who skips half the words needed to communicate and bitches at me when I do it wrong.
How do I explain things better, how do I understand things better.
>How do I explain things better, how do I understand things better.
moms will always have a special way of pushing your buttons, it's tough to deal with at times but so long as she isn't totally insane (and she may seem that way at times) then if you can tough it out you'll be a better person after with a higher tolerance for bullshit. in the heat of the moment, though, maybe it will help to think of her opinions as you would your own - she's known you since birth, after all. hope that helps at all lol
>How do I explain things better
Talk to people who are not black. Your mother isn't being logical, she is being black and trying to socially dominate you.
I really fucking hate social media and cell phones and the internet. It has done irreparable damage to our society and the youth. Feel bad for any zoomers itt who have to try to date these insufferable human beings
bros, I'm going into army for finance trade.
It's already woke at the recruitment but this is my only hope of collecting a pension
What am I in for?
just a basic office bitch
enjoy basic (legit most fun part), do your years, get out and use the GI Bill/home loan
What MOS? What’s your long term goal? Anyway be ready to be treated like a kid at worst, like a mildly retarded adult otherwise. Right place, right time, and being in decent shape will set you far ahead of your peers though.
Save your money, take advantage of tuition assistance, then do your time and get out. Use your GI bill- make sure you pay in, it’s basically nothing- and go to school for a well paying job. Just make sure the school you use your TA with is decent so it’ll mostly transfer to a real college.
If you’re looking for something else or to do it as a career go SOF.
>friend of my friend's GF girl invited me to hangout
>I am a.26 year old khv
>already had a girl comeover once before, but was too much of a pussy to do anything
What the fuck do I do?
I am almost considering fucking a hooker so I atleast somewhat knowledgeable on what to during sex.
So update from last week with the doc and the cashier.
I meet up with the doc nearly everyday this week and we talk a lot but I still have feelings for the other girl which are stronger.
What would you guys do?
>Go for the 25 year old doctor who’s a gym girl and a really good fashion sense
>The cashier who I have more fun talking to and where the feelings are stronger.
I do know the doc for only 2-3 weeks tho while I now the other girl for a few months
Once again I'm looking for a job. This time it's by no fault of my own, however the fact that this is the 3rd time in 6 years that I'm unemployed and it's really wearing on me.
Truly Lemonade for me barkeep
>Have side-locked slight headache/brain pressure since after having covid for a 3rd time in January
>Go see doc
>Doc thinks I'm fine
>Ignore doc and go to specialist
>Neurologist says I'm probably g2g
>Concerned I'm dying but no other symptoms have manifested (thank god) and the primary symptom has stayed exactly the same with no change but just for 3 months now
>Want to write it off but something in me is pushing to drop the 1,000$ for a fucking MRI just so I can be certified healthy ™
Granted, I watched some people get fucked up with strokes and cancer so it's probably just the long dick of hypochondria fucking me rn, but what do y'all think I should I do?
I don't want to cower and live and fear but I don't want to waste a fucking grand on a 30 minute scan that could either tell me I only have 6 months to live or everything is perfectly fine.
get the MRI, you can make $1000 by being alive. if you act quickly on brain tumors you'll live long
>met a girl last friday, friend of an emerging ragtag friendship group
>basically introduced two other girls I knew from HS and college, who were also looking for friends, and they invited their friends etc
>anyways I really liked her, she liked me too I think, we had an intimate-ish night, nothing serious but affection was prominent
>added her on socials, liked a story of her posting herself 2-3 days ago
>posted 2-3 stories of my own since, mainly scenery and POV shit, no likes, no nothing
will post myself soon as we have to get this "these are chatting on their own" thing going if this is gonna stick as I dont want to be blunt and generate tension in this friend group, which will be necessary as I move forward in this new town
so either she makes a move until I see her next week or we can this thing, lets see
>oh no this girl I don't know didn't like the picture of a sky that I posted
Fuck off to /LULZ/
Holy fuck dude stop being such a child just ask her out if she says no you didint waste time and have your answer, if she says yes then even better but stop with these stupid mind games
but if she says no then it will create tension within this new, emerging friend group
and I will be the dude who (agressively) hit on the very first single girl he saw
which is not a good look
I will immediately ask her out on a date if she makes one, tiny single move though
so either we cancel this entire operation so I can have a proper friend group without any drama (I hate drama) or I go out on a date
based if true, still based if not
kek'd at the image
Ok. But stop with the mind games man.
Yeah a friend group is important especially if you don’t have one BUT PLEASE don’t think about her every free minute you have and just do your thing
nah man its all good, I understand and appreciate your angle and yes, this circle will be a lifesaver come summer as I know very few people in this city
we have a gig next saturday or friday, I forgot, I think I'll chill until then and not do anything unless she does
Want to call ex
Want to passionately kiss in bed
That path only ends in pain
>someone finally call me regarding a job application (this was april 14th)
>they say they want someone who can start quickly
>a few days after the call I send a message with some additional info on how early I can start, also ask them that if they don't plan another talk with me, then please tell me early instead of leaving me uncertain
>get an immediate answer that they do plan another talk with me, but the process is taking time for some reason
>this was ten days ago
I don't know what to think. why would they take long if they wanted someone to start as soon as possible? feels like I got ignored by yet another employer.
No matter how fit i get, have s decent fashion style and got s decent personality I don't find any friends and don't know how to gain some. I feel so lonely that I started drugs again everything is just shit
>tfw know for a fact no one itt has a worse life than me
>still going to the gym today
Pretty based man. Out of curiosity and perhaps some desire for motivation, why is your life so bad?
>wife letting herself go
>only took 2 years to stop being very attracted to her
>having nightly dreams where this tiny big dumper Latina with great skin and hair coworker of mine is my wife/girlfriend
Losing my mind, frens.
Anon love is about communicating.
Tell her how your feeling and try to make changes.
Don’t be a little kid dude and do something about your problems
My molar is killing me.
Trip to the dentist is ez bro- just do it before it becomes a bigger problem necessitating root canal or extraction and you're needing to pay 3,000$+
There's a girl I know. She says she's asexual. I think she's just saying that as cope to explain why she's been single her entire life, because it's easier than admitting she doesn't get any male attention because she's extraordinarily plain.
Thing is, I think she's beautiful (you know, in an extraordinarily plain kind of way), but I'm too autismo to do anything about it.
>autistic people are actually like this
>autistic people are consciously aware that they like someone before they're body begins signaling interest to the other person
Bro I don't get what you're trying to say here. Like I /think/ this girl might like me back but be dropping her spaghetti harder than a drunken Italian in an Earthquake because she's also got robot traits. Some of the things she's said feel very "I'm telling you I'm single, please ask me out" but then she turns around with shit like claiming to be asexual.
There was once a time I thought I was "asexual" just because I didn't see the appeal of sex and assumed that the only explanation must be zero sex drive, yet then I somehow stumbled into a relationship and realised I do want to do the bonin', it just has to be with a girl I actually love.
>I am actually diagnosed autist so plz be patient and explain things to me like I'm a fucking retard (because I am)
benis in bagina :DD
I asked a girl out for the first time ever. How do dates work? I'm autistic af and don't know how to do this. Do I hug her when we meet or do I shake her hand? How do I know it's going well? Do I ask her if she wants to come to my place afterwards or should I wait with that until the second or third date? How do I know she's not interested in whatever autistic shit I might be talking about so I can change topics?
Go to place
If you've never done this alone the date will go bad.
Only thing I can tell you is that you should give her a quick hug.
Girls I am friendly with usually go for that.
I just feel so lucky that I can navigate these stuff without stress man
> Do I hug her when we meet or do I shake her hand?
You don’t do anything She initiates the hug if she wants to, if she doesn’t she won’t. Believe me it’s obvious. You just say hi how you doing etc. and see how she reacts..
> How do I know it's going well?
If she’s on her phone all the time or not. Looking at it sometimes is ok but if she doesn’t put it away it’s over.
> Do I ask her if she wants to come to my place afterwards or should I wait with that until the second or third date?
No. You’re to autistic for what comes after and will screw it up. Just have a chill fun day.
> How do I know she's not interested in whatever autistic shit I might be talking about so I can change topics?
Don’t give a shit it’s your day have fun. Ask her some stuff and she asks you stuff make some fun comments about stuff that happens and ask about her life.
Everyone loves talking about themselves.
God speed anon, what ever might happen you will come out as the winner because you gained key experience
Fuck all of you retarded autistic gay moron retards God fucking damn it I hate that IST is JUST /LULZ/
Mental health is part of the whole fit/healthy package. Why so angry, fren? Wanna get something off your chest?
Dog is dying, final due on Monday, workouts are lacking…but we stay winning. Hope all the other anons in this thread know they’re gonna make it.
This is a special time.
That’s the plan, thanks bro
Whiskey neat, keep the rest as a tip, is it cool if I smoke in here?
I use alcohol as a crutch but it makes me too depressed/pensive to get laid, even if the girl is keen
Just got home from a chill night out
>pool with buddies
Yet i come home, mire myself in the mirror and all i want is a gf.
Everyone around me is marrying, moving in together etc
Here i was thinking dating would be easier with 30+
Are you putting yourself out there? Or are you simply hoping one falls into your life?
I refuse to try and get in a relationship because I look in the mirror and feel disgusted. I've only recently started getting into lifting and loathe myself even more for squandering so much of my life.
Good man. Don't base your self respect on the validation of a partner.
>water my dude
anons.. i think.. i think she actually likes me...
i know, gay commentary as fuck, but im a 35yo khv and she is a early 20s Very cute and very lovely girl.
i mean, i self improved a lot but still. i am a mega autist kinda fatass... i mean.. how? is this real life?? the fuck is happening???
enjoy it while it last
always know that she is nowhere near the amount of life experience you have
i spend my whole 20s locked up depressed in my rooom.. then i spend the next 5 years self improving my autistic ass.
Pretty sure she has a lot more experience than me in relationships... of any kind..
I'm in the locked in phase right now. How do I get out
Literally just fix your diet you lazy piece of shit. No wonder you feel like shit, you eat shit. Your body is shit. Think about how shit you are and how shitty your life is. You're only given one life so either kys to stop living such a shitty one or actually do something about it.
I eat healthy. Why do you sound so mad?
As someone who made it.... Hit rock bottom. Reach to the point that offing yourself isn't the worst you could do. And reaching that conclusion Not even as a cry of help, or attention whoring, just because it's the truth.
Then decide to change things or else.
I tried A LOT of things in the last 5 years, but the best and most important are:
>3) low carb and intermittent fasting
>4) books instead of smartphone
In that order
Nofap seems genuinely impossible. If I don't coom for 48 hours I stop functioning. I can't concentrate on uni work and I can't sleep. All I do is think about sex and women. At the gym I permanently run around semi hard and have to use all my willpower not to pop full boners at the slightest sight of a female
How do I stop being a loser? I’ve never dated, never had sex, never had a woman show interest in me. I have tried reaching out like on tinder and stuff but nobody’s interested in me. I struggle to even make friends. I’m age 20, 5’7 and average face but I’m a social retard
Sorry you're going through that anon, I don't have advice but I wanted to acknowledge your post.
Been on an extensive diet and training regiment for a whole month now. Quit porn and fapping for just about a month as well. Feel pretty disillusioned at the moment. I'm making clear improvements to my life but I still feel like something is missing.
Social circle/sex is probably the missing link, were social creatures at the end of the day
>similar boat right now, improving every day
Yeah that has to be it. I want to save sex until I'm at least 3 months into working out and eating healthy but I should probably find a social circle at some point.
>got drunk and beat up my dad again
I'm not sure what I want to do anymore, like for my free time.
I like working out but that's really all I do. Any ideas of a hobby I could get?
Could you elaborate? Are you looking for a hobby that is more of a social thing or independent?
Honestly anything. Just something I can do that's not vidya, tabletop RPGs, working out and jerking off.
40k is a possibility if you have money and enough time to autistically paint miniatures. Otherwise reading and learning about ancient history is always fun. Maybe go on walks through trails if you have any nearby.
Learn an instrument
Ive been alone for so long i dont even know if I want friends. I made friends with this one guy recently, and we have a lot in common, but when he comes over I just want him to leave.
I don't know whats wrong with me.
A social circle, a good dating life all seems so out of reach it's so hard to even get started on it.
Went on a few dates lately, and i'm able to hold conversation fine, but thats about it. I give off beta vibes and it's gonna be so hard to fix it i'm not sure it's even worth it.
I suddenly have this weird lump in my scrotum and feel like shit
Even if it's probably not cancer any of the other options would still require surgery
I already have a painful ear infection so I can barely hear shit and now this
And to think I actually wanted to fly to Japan in 2 weeks
Haha fuck me
I had a cyst on my sack for about a year, it got bigger and bigger until one day I checked and it was suddenly gone. Good luck anon.
I really hope it just away but I very much doubt it
Cysts are how witches give birth
They gro and grow. And one day.
They roll away.
I'm 31 and I had a nervous breakdown to my mother on Tuesday morning. I was going to leave for my shitty job (of course I live with my parents) and started hyperventilating and she heard me, came over, and I collapsed on the couch with my jacket zipped up over my head. Tried to suffocate myself with a pillow and kept repeating how worthless I am. Since I turned 30 I've been in complete despair about how I've wasted and ruined my entire life and this was the first time I really had a breakdown about it to another person rather than just crying to myself at night.
She was going to call 911 to have them involuntarily commit me to a psychiatric ward but I told her not to even though I think I actually need that because I am so despondent with life. All I do is think about how much of my life I have wasted and will never get the time or experiences back and don't see the point in doing anything and have no confidence that I can even succeed at the smallest tasks. Even though I want to improve my life, I just don't see the point at all.
Life has never been worse.
I feel you. I had a psychotic episode this past December, literally on Christmas due to smoking too much weed. I ruined Christmas and was hospitalized for a month thinking I was some messiah, life was great before then and now I just feel like shit because I was so delusional and I used to be so happy but now I feel like a shell of my former self. Eating healthy and working out has helped for me but I still feel like shit at times. I’m 22. Socially retarded, lost all my friends and just work and go home even on weekends I’m just home
I bet it was fun though when you were delusional so it’s not all the worst thing
I’m sure they told you way too many times but stay away from weed because once you have that door opened it’s easier to just have it happen again
find new friends, people just treat you differently after something like that happens and some not great, so dwelling on that aspect is almost worthless since it’s just how people are, mostly through just not knowing enough or caring to about the subject
It’s harder to meet people the older you get oftentimes, so start tomorrow
That’s the thing, it was the most fun I’ve ever had yet now knowing the happiest moments of my life were all just a sad delusional state of mind is depressing. The highs I was experiencing were astronomical I had profound joy , it’s all gone and I’m a fuck up for it
Similar story, used to smoke a lot but I eventually slipped away from reality after an lsd trip when I was 20 (see picrel). Im 25 now and after a long readjustment, finally graduating from community college and getting ready to transfer to a four year to complete a degree in computer science.
Losing all my friends probably ended up saving me from the self destructive path that I was on.
Good job anon
eh, I'm in my 30s, make 200k a year, almost have a 7 figure net worth and struggle with women because I have an average face.
Money doesn't solve shit. yes I lift.
oh look anther multi millionaire software engineer on fit. no one asked. die alone and have a nice day
I never mentioned that I was an engineer, but sounds like we've got another upset blue collar cuck that lets people smarter than him live rent free in his head.
>makes 200k a year and 10 million net worth
>can't get a woman
autistic software engineers having nothing but their salaries and dying alone and miserable is very funny. dont worry though bro, your house and cars and portfolio will bring you happiness lol
You didn't need to mention that you are an engineer. The two things in your original post that clearly show you are an engineer
>immediately seeking out a post to talk about your insanely high salary and net worth because bragging about your finances are all engineers have
>refusing to acknowledge the possibility that you're alone for a self-inflicted reason like your terrible personality but no it's just "my face is average that's why I'm alone" so you're some lookism autist
And then you respond calling people who work in trades cucks and how smart you are with an image saved to criticize and demean people you view as stupider than you and below you. But yeah man, I'm sure it's just "your average face" that's why you are completely alone and have no social skills. Don't worry though, I'm sure your huge house, multiple cars, and huge retirement portfolio that you can spend with your friends, wife and children will make you happy.
In a transitory period of my life. I'm 28. Moved back in with my parents so I can save up money quickly and buy a house/condo. Been dialing in my diet and weightlifting, gone from 300lb>255lb in the past 6 months. I'm a recovering autist, so I've been socializing a lot more this year. Met a few people, including some girls that I've been dating a little bit. The social shit just feels pointless and empty, even though I often crave it when I'm alone.
I'm self-isolating again, even from my parents who are very nice and supportive of me. All I care about right now is studying certs for cloud computing, investing, and working out. I don't want to be a shut-in recluse again, but it really feels necessary to get where I want to be.
Hard to find the right combination of socializing and self-improvement. When I go out with friends I have a great time, but end up spending at least $100. Just feels like there's something better for me out here, somehow. Maybe it's just a cope because I'm still working through my social anxiety. Who knows really. Things are getting better though, just need to keep moving forward.
i look at posts like this and wish i could gather any sort of motivation to do the same.
The thing is that you can, friend. I wallowed in severe social anxiety and depression from 15-20 years old. 21-28 I was a functioning alcoholic that only went to work and came home to drink. Ballooned up from 210lbs to 303 within that time frame. It was fucking brutal on me. Finally went to therapy to start addressing my shit. Started talking to girls and going outside to do things that I think are fun by myself. Eventually met some people that like me. It can get better man, but it's hard. It's shitty and you'll have bad days like I'm having now.
Just keep at it. On days you don't feel like working out, go to the gym and do a few pullups.
Whatever you're having issues with, it will get better if you continue to work at it and get better.
I'm your age and share a couple common features except for saving money (renting from my parents)
No advice, just saying we're out there
Self improvement seems like it'll eventually lead to socialising though
Thanks bro, we're all gonna make it (with panned and intentional effort)
There's a really nice girl that likes me and treats me right
She's literally an elementary teacher at a school for kids with disabilities
Super patient, loves kids, will be an amazing mom
Super tiny, no curves, no hips, no butt, no boobs
I'm just not into her and I feel like an asshole
So tell her you're not interested instead of wasting her time.
>in an LDR
>not that great, and it's not just the distance
>want to break up, but I know she will not be able to handle it
>anyways, I've been making a lot of gains
>this one girl at my gym, very cute, very homely
>the other day at a nearby park
>caught her mirin hard
>she pretends like she wasn't looking
>she smiled and went like "oh woops" when I noticed her mires
>I blushed hard
>haven't talked to her
>that mire got me by surprise, I was stunned
>but I'm scheming conversations as the giga autist I am
>feeling bad about it all
>even tho my relationship is completely broken
>I can't stop re-living her smile over and over
I know it was just a smile and all, but it got me lost into thoughts and possoble decisions I should make. damn
Just kill your gf.
Just strangle her.
Just crush her windpipe after fucking her.
Put your thumbs in her eyes.
Break her bones and tie her to a tree.
Feed her honey.
Squish her head like a grape.
You stupid fucking moron.
>omg I have gf
>I never fixed or addressed any problems I just let everything break
>she doesn't know anything
Just fuck other women you dumb moron.
Just record yourself fucking prostitutes to this new girl you "like" because she smiled at you.
Just go to an elementary school and fuck children.
You stupid fucking gay moron.
>Feed her honey.
bro I guess you're right. thanks
I didn't go to senior prom in high school. I'm 28. How do I cope?
I really want to die chasing my dreams or there's no point in living life
About to turn 30 in a few months. Fucked around for over 10 years but was never able to be disciplined enough to train consistently because of work and because I do lots of cardio intensive activities (football, hockey, cycling, track and field).
It's over I will never make gains I already feel a drop in energy those past few years
Anyone else scared of making friends because you have no friends? I'm in a cycle of meeting new people, having a good hangout with them, then pulling away because I have no other friend group. I feel like they eventually sus it out and look at me with this sense of pity. Same with women. It's frustrating.
Kinda depends on which context you are trying to make friends I'd say. I had that exact issue in university because after the first semester I didn't know anyone and felt it was too hard to break into the already established friends groups, while feeling like a loser.
But finding friends outside uni was easier for me, guess I didn't have that feeling of intruding or being a loser.
Spending my birthday high and alone. Whatever. I guess I'll get a good night's sleep at least since I'm getting zonked right now.
Oh no I don't have any friends and nobody loves me because I'm a piece of shit! Oh this very special day, when I, he who would do absolutely nothing and help no one, was born to this world.
Who will celebrate my coming?
All remain silent.
What an odd post.
Fuck you moron.
happy birthday anon. you can make it better if you want to
Happy birthday anon!
Women are selfish
They want every man of high value to give them their time
Pretty sure I blew it
>bestfriend's (who is girl) friend used to text me daily and invite me out
>progressively got more flirty but we've never done anything physical
>we're both super busy
>I get feelings for her like 3 months ago
>make it totally obvious I'm into her by writing her a note of encouragement for her competition in her jacket she lent me or literally giving her my old hoodie
>always asking her to do things one on one
>now she never texts me and when I text her she takes hours to reply and then leaves on read and says she's busy when I invite her out
>she never acted this way months ago
I'll definitely see her again since we're always in group activities with our mutual friend but I think I fucked it by being a pussy
Suck dick then
Rape your mother and father and kill the nearest baby with a large object like an old tv.
there's probably another fella in the picture if she goes hot and cold
Yeah, wouldn't doubt it. She hasn't acted like this until a few weeks ago. She still came to see me play my sport despite her being super busy with hers but yeah that would make sense. At least I have the long game ticket but it's destroying my mental health
tell her that and make things clear
>gym is small, not a ton of people
>barely any cute girls go there
>go at an off time
>two smoke shows finish up and walk out right as I get done with warm up
>absolutely crush a squat/leg workout
>no other cute girls until I’m cooling down with core at the end
Everytime. I just want some scenery to trick my monkey brain into really grinding through those heavy sets. I should just go to a bigger gym.
It's weird how I'm handling my breakup. The for the first month I felt relief, especially since she was a hassle the months leading up to it. Every now and then I get flashbacks of memories with her. I feel an intense emotion take over and leave and then leave just as quickly.
>No respect from kids, they go off and do what they want or only listen to their mom.
>Wife distant and not intimate for several months.
>Got demoted from job from missing work due to kid's illness and her doctor fucking up the FMLA paperwork.
>Always tired, lifts are going down, appetite is minimal.
Just tell me to neckhang until failure so I can be done with it all.
Was ready to ask out cute girl at work but ended up being a rough and hectic day and never got the chance I wanted. Almost want to just text her because won't see her again til next Friday.
Text her gay
Isn't texting to ask someone out a beta thing to do though?
no lol just say "let's grab a drink at x place on Friday" or whatever it's literally that easy. If she says no move on
nta but doesn't that open you up to the risk that she screencaps it and sends it to people to make fun of you and then everyone at work thinks you're a beta creep?
you're overthinking things, probably not gonna happen unless you say some weird shit
also why give a shit
Who cares lol so long as you don't go "ay gurl lemme holla achu" or something gay and creepy then you're set. If they claim harassment then move on and laugh at clown world.
lol send it at 11:11am or 12:21pm or even better 3:33pm so she thinks the universe is sending her a message or some gay shit. Good luck bro.
>lol send it at 11:11am or 12:21pm or even better 3:33pm so she thinks the universe is sending her a message or some gay shit. Good luck bro.
Does this really work? I gotta try hah
Appreciate it. I'll send a text tomorrow morning so I don't look like a degenerate awake thinking about her at midnight.
Anons I had a shitty day.
>done with usual work out
>still got time, sweet
>time to do pull ups and weighted pull ups
>I love pull ups
>some girl is using it, dressed in what is basically a sports bra
>ask her if I can have a turn
>I respectfully turn around to not look at her
>when she's done I turn around, she hides her chest like I gave a shit in the first place
>looks at me like I'm a creep
>her and her zoomer looking bf leaves
Why are gym whores like this? Why do they dress like sluts and get mad being looked at? I didn't even look at them and she still looked at me like I was a creep.
I already look fucking scary so I try to smile often. I know I shouldn't let this get me down but it hurts. I never had a gf and tried not to care but I don't know anons. It cut deeper than I expected.
Forget them anon, they're just looking for a reason to be upset over. You did nothing wrong and I'm sorry you feel hurt by their actions. Here's a virtual hug bro
Thanks anon, I needed that
I'm going nowhere in life. I'm severely balding in my 20s, eternal dyel, broke and can't get it up with the rare women that I manage to trick that my severe social autism is charming. Literally cried the last time.
im so bored with my gf but I wonder if thats part of a long term relationship. I feel like generally most people settle and thats one thing I absolutely refuse to do. GFs are supposed to be interesting right?
Clown, this is when the real work starts because the honeymoon phase is over. Never stop acting like you got her and by that I mean continue taking her on dates and talk to her about how you feel. Or don't and find/make up a reason to end things, your call.
>TFW gaining so often that friends stop talking to me
>TFW friends mock me for dedicating myself to bettering my body so often vs playing vidya and deep-talking.
I feel like I am simultaneously becoming more in-tune with myself but less since my friends are leaving me behind for shit.
got back from date just now. no sexo. sad
>girl from gym rejected me
>couple weeks go by and now she keeps staring me at the gym
>keeps passing in front of me
>today she literally stared at me and i kept trying to avoid eye contact
Should I try again or is this bitch fucking with me? Is she just mad I'm ignoring her and she lost her power?
DO NOT VALIDATE HER
DO NOT VALIDATE THE WHORE
She knows you want her and is trying to transmute your lust into her own power..
>be 24 year old studying at a military institute
>Go out with my classmate's Stacy friend
>19 y/o fresh out of HS dykey looking
>short hair, looks like Ellen Ripley
>we hang out first date
>take her to the gym and make her dance to anime music
>we make out in my car later and I play with her titties
Um. Did this really just happen.
Gf getting fat. She knows it. She knows I know it. Doesn't seem like she's doing anything about it. She knows how much I hate fat people. I don't know if she's waiting to become actually fat or until I snap and flat out tell her to do something about it.
Let her catch you looking/fapping at pictures of her when she was skinny. Bring up how you liked whatever outfit she used to wear (when she was thinner) blah blah blah. Make her think wanting to lose weight was her idea and you'll probably have more success, but if all else fails just fucking communicate like a healthy adult before it boils over.
Before reading your reply I was going through old pictures on my phone and I came across one from a bit over a year ago of gf on her cute gym outfit and I felt irrationally angry. Her face is noticably slimmer and more stylized, she is significantly more attractive. I dont know how you're supposed to react to this kind of stuff, if this means I have some deep-rooted issues or something. All I know is that she used to look way better, and that I'm subconsciously a bit embarrassed at how she looks now which just makes me even more pissed. I just don't understand where it all went wrong, I did everything you're supposed to, got a girl that liked going to the gym, didn't like going out to eat, has a really slim mother etc. I'm getting so angry just writing this post holy shit
so i worked at the same place for 5 years and as i rose through the ranks, my mental health dropped off. i left there last may but visited in like january and i was 30 pounds heavier. i'm currently 25 pounds down from that weight, and i'm looking to lose 30 more pounds to get to my goal weight/body, and then i'm gonna walk in and really just flex on the people who judged me when i was in a bad state. i'm really looking forward to this and at my current rate i should be there by july-ish.
and what pushed me to lose the weight is when i visited, i got the 'man he's fallen off and we feel bad for him' reception and i just don't like that.
I excel in the friendzone. When i can get dudes to overlook my initial appearance i can generally get them laughing and engaged but i have literally zero casual interactions with single men my age FUCK.
How can I get 4k cals a day? I'm struggling to eat 3k now and its getting harder to recover from workouts. I'm 3 months into lifting and have gone from 145 to 170, 6'0 recoverying skelly. Eating large volume has always been tough so how can I best do this?
just stay at 170, improve your muscle density and work on your cardio/core and enjoy your solid foundation for a long and healthy life.
Eventually I think I'll end up around this weight, just with more muscle and less fat, but for now I need to get bigger and stronger. I'm not satisfied with my muscle mass at all. I just did 3x5x137.5 bench and even that was a struggle and a half.
Snacks are so expensive though....
do you need to become bigger and stronger or do you want to? not trying to dog you, but i hope you don't let your numbers overcome your goals
My purpose for doing this is to have a (bigger) body that I'm more comfortable with. I've always been a twig and I'm self conscious about how skinny my arms are, no pecs, etc. The numbers help my ego along the way but I'm not chasing them. I've never done a 1RM. I'm 27 and have never got a gf before and my resolution this year has been to push to boost self confidence in all areas to give myself the best possible chance.
you dont need to eat 4k calories if you are benching under 200 pounds.
waht you are saying is that you want to have an eating disorder, because of body image issues. no diff from women
Not trying to be massive, just decent enough to where im not dyel mode. I don't know how much I should be eating tbqh, I did some reading and some sources said 4k was a decent ballpark for solid weight gain. I'm trying to do things right but it's hard to be sure.
>I don't know how much I should be eating tbqh, I did some reading and some sources said 4k was a decent ballpark for solid weight gain
this isn't how health, fitness, weight loss, weight gain, lifting, or anything else in life works. you start with knowledge first, not just do random shit
I can't be researching endlessly, I'll start first and figure shit out as I go.
it sounds like you'll talk yourself into obesity, which is quite easy. your metabolism isn't going to be that of a teenager forever
My natural state is not eating enough, I have the opposite problem. I'd LOVE for my problem to be losing weight, eating less is so much easier than eating more.
don't worry then, you'll end up with that problem
this isn't a place to talk to/about children, you should go now
iokay bud i'm gonna give you something to think on because i'm an oldfag and it's what we do. instead of 'self confidence', focus on 'being comfortable in your skin'. if you want to be 225 and jacked that's cool, but if you can be behind in your goals and still feel okay, that's the real testament and i think you'll get to where you want to be faster.
Thanks bro, I'll try to work on that. I'm already noticing positive changes physically and it's made a big difference in how I perceive myself.
My siblings told me the other day that they would rather do things without me because I never smile or laugh and it "brings the vibe down". It just hurts because no matter how open I am with my emotions I still love them, and I didn't think they all had such a low opinion of me.
i play games with my brothers and they have much better conversation than i ever have with either of them, i feel you on that. it sucks to be the odd one out.
It's pretty much the same with me. They laugh their asses off about some shit from tiktok or something that I just don't understand. They are much younger than me so maybe it's a generational thing? Idk.
yeah maybe it is. my brothers play way more games than i do and they pay more attention to that sphere so they have more to talk about.
i will say, at first i got frustrated, but then i thought about it and i realized that we're playing games and they both had that in common while i didn't. so i stepped back and recognized that and didn't let it get to me so i could have better conversations on different topics. idk if this would help you, but it's how i made it better for me.
i'm sorry bro that's awful
after having two episodes and being mismanaged and not admitted to the hospital while I was literally dying, and shitting blood from high in my GI tract, I finally got a genetic test that says I have hereditary pancreatitis
It feels like the most recent in a long line of gut punches. I might just kill myself if I ever have to go through the pain of an acute attack again.
Why couldn't my body just work right? I have all this shit wrong with me. I have a tumor in my brain
Sorry anon, keep going. There's stuff in life worth living for
I have PIED bros. I wake up with strong morning wood, can only jerk it to weird porn and have problems with fucking girls. This sucks, I hate it and I need to quit this shit otherwise my sex life is halted for good. Good news is that part of my treatment is going out to bars and banging sloots but the bad news is that quitting porn is a nightmare for me. I don't know why it's such an emotional crutch for me, I've quit speed and can moderate my drinking and weed but porn is so difficult. This sucks but will all be worth it when I quit. Fuck this garden gnome shit I'm over it.
Porn induced erectile dysfunction lol
not a real thing
Nice try gpt-Shlomo from Mindgeek
Cut off internet for a while, maybe for a month. Your brain will slowly come back to normal, and stay the fuck away from porn. If not, then at least stick to vanilla. Watching "Trans shemale shemale fisting scat bdsm electroshock" porn will only lead you down on a downward spiral.
I'm 28 years old and just started lifting, will I get in shape in time to fuck 18 year old pussy before it's too late
>everyone around me is getting engaged
feels bad man
I just learned that a brother I have had no contact in around 10 years because he's schizo and bipolar and refuses to take meds became "trans"
wouuldn't wish this to my worse enemy, I feel completely hollow seeing my parents suffer because of this fucking trainwreck of a looney
And? Let him live his way
Why do I go on stupid threads about dudes leaning on photos and end up feeling hopeless and depressed. Id rather be a dumb ass boomer than live in this generation of knowing.
>Be me, 21st birthday, roughly 10kg overweight due to shit diet
>gf of three years dumps me for some twink
>two months pass, pour all my grief and anger into the gym, training, and studying
>social life also improves
>playing music again
>see them posting each other on social media all the time, try not to get jealous, just focus on myself
>another Friday night at the gym, then studying for finals at home
>go to the bathroom, look in the mirror
>mfw I have the faintest bicep vein for the first time in my life
In the midst of "It's so over", I found there was, within me, an invincible "We are so back."
As I was typing that post, a girl I met off a dating app sent me a video of herself doing pushups in a crop top and panties.
I'm thinking I'll just take the W and move on. (Pardon my zoomer-speak)
Today is my 30th birthday. I booked the day off from work. I am currently in a diner eating breakfast by myself. I don't mind being alone. I've gotten used to it. I do have a wonderful family who care about me. I honestly thought I'd be married by now and had a kid or two and we'd live in our house. But here I am, 30, alone and still living with my mom. My sisters keep telling me to move out but it's so expensive and I'd be even more lonely
Happy birthday anon