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Over the summer I've been writing a book but I'm only at 28 pages. Porn and Vidya have been holding me back. Sometimes I worry I won't be finished before school starts again. Want to have at least 100 pages finished beforehand. Woke up today at 4 to get a headstart. Need to keep focused.
What's the book about and why did you want to do it?
>What's the book about
It's about a 40 year old man living through the 2020 Lockdown in New York and seeing all the shenanigans the government pulled off, as well as how fricking crazy people became (hoarding, stealing, freaking out when somebody coughs, et cetera). Right now I'm writing a scene where his bakery gets shut down, causing him to go into an autistic rage where he destroys a bunch of shit in his house.
>Why did you want to do it?
Want to build a name for myself, and people tell me I'm good at writing.
Ty frens
Is it a self-insert, are you the 40 year old?
Anyway good luck dude, hope it works out.
I chose a 40 year old man to avoid making it a self-insert. Irl I'm a 20 year old NEET living in suburban Texas.
>hope it works out
Thanks fren
It's so difficult to sit and write when you have an internet connection. Just staying focused is hard enough never mind actually being creative.
Good luck anon.
Not that anon but do you write too?
Yeah, I'm a technical writer for a software company. I'm the guy who writes all the training and support articles. I can find it difficult to focus as well, but in my case it's because the content is so dull.
Alright yeah that sounds like a snooze. You ever do creative writing?
Good luck to you man, I'm trying to force myself to be more disciplined too when it comes to working on my drawing.
Doing nofap because personally it keeps me energized and more focused, hard part is gonna be not spending so much time on Stardew Valley since I just got hooked on that
I've been trying to do pull-ups. Not becoarse dey are easy, but becoarse dey are HARD.
It's just not happening.
...I shall be doing more horizontal pull-ups using the lower bar to the right.
>Over the summer I've been writing a book but I'm only at 28 pages.
That's awesome, anon. I love writing - but rarely ever do it. I always enter this trance-like state where I'm completely submerged in the story to the exclusion of eating, drinking and fricking going to the bathroom. 5 hours feel like 20 minutes. I can't always slide back into reality, and I'll still be mentally preoccupied with the story when most of all I just want to take a break and focus on something else.
Keep up the good work! I find that tracking my performance paces me to exercise more and harder. My smart watch keeps me exercising daily (but then I'm a data autist who can't get enough biometrics and visualizations).
How do I stop thinking about sex? Every time I am looking for something to do even if it's only about 5 seconds of searching my mind just diverts to thinking about booba or my ex's body or some sexual fantasy etc.
As a result I have what feels like a consant urge to jerk off. If I'm outside it doesn't really happen but at my new job I'm supposed to work from home most of the time. I want to stop these thoughts because I jerk off too often as of now. Attempting nofap just made it 100x worse and made me detest my sex drive which lead to just general self hatred.
>inb4 stop watching porn
I did, ages ago
chimp jerk off only in captivity .
you must find more goals - expand your desires.
even if your goal is a harem you must find one .
I am literally trying to work on many other things during wfh downtime but my brain just diverts to thinking about sex
trying to lose bodyfat, lets see if i can pull thru this time. not getting younger, this might be the final chance
I started liftan this week for the first time in about 3 years due to relocating to the other side of the planet, adjusting to my new life, getting through seasonal depression etc, what's important is that I'm moving and lifting again, but I'm kinda scared about falling off again and not having the desire or drive to get back to it.
Crack open a cold one for me.
Still trying to get over her. I realized the other day that until now I've never truly missed anyone, not even my parents (aside from in childhood obviously). I think it's getting better overall though. I've gone from feeling like absolute shit all day to some days I only feel like shit for the first half then sort of okay the other half. I'll be fine again eventually, or at least I won't wince every time I let myself think of her, I just wish it went faster. What a wonderful way to ruin a summer though.
Oh well, maybe next year will be nicer.
As long as you're trying it matters, even if you fall off again, just gotta keep wanting it and to not give up trying.
Hang in there. It's all any one of us can do.
Feel u bro my last summer was also ruined by a breakup. Following 12 months have been some of the best and growth-filled of my life though.
Hope I can do the same when I start to feel better. Just feeling like this anon right now though:
How long am I going to be this way? That's on my mind.
How 'bout you?
Gf is late. She took a pregnancy test today and it's negative, but I'm still scared. The worst part is that I didn't even cum inside, although I was careless about condoms.
Neither of us wants or can afford to be a parent. She says she has ADHD, don't know if it's real or just justification for shitty behavior and being emotional.
I'm autistic enough to browse here.
That's not a good genetic mix. Add to that guaranteed poverty while growing up and we're looking at the next Adam Lanza.
She’s not pregnant. Women can be late for any reason or no reason at all. Stress can and will make it later. It’s relatively common for cycles to get messed up
I'm praying to all gods above and below for that. She's been taking my Ashwagandha and that might have fricked her up. Or maybe even her ADHD shit is caused by a thyroid issue.
Lol on the way to the store for a pregnancy test right now. I seek a little comfort knowing anons are here with me.
I'm with you, brother.
Congratulations daddies!
Welcome to the club, it sucks.
I unironically have been trying to convert to as much of a stoic personality as I can, and have found women to find it very attractive
I know the current algorithm is pushing a bunch of viral "hate women if youre a man" shit, but unironically, a lot of the shit these frickers say is true and applicable to most women
try it out for yourselves if youre skeptical
also for reference if you dont know what im talking about: watch freshnfit and andrew tate
stop playing by their rules bros, WE are the dominant sex, stick to your values and theyll fall in line
Give stories/experiences
I used to be the guy that would always be scared to hurt a girl in any manner, always tip toeing around compliments and making sure I didn't hurt them in any way shape or form emotionally
completely skewed fricking mindset, especially for modern day women, if you're like this, you'll get fricking steamrolled in the current dating market
my previous long term relationship was destroyed long term because of this, I didn't put my foot down, got constantly directly or indirectly humiliated, but whenever i raised a concerned it was always met with resistance about something else i had done, so i never pushed back
slowly but surely that woman gained too much ground on me and thought she could get away with absolutely everything, so she cheated
I found out, when she came running back pretending she didnt do anything I told her, I'm not fricking arguing about shit, to pack her shit and leave
I've never seen somebody cry and sob so hard in my life I swear BUT, bottom line is, once i healed and looked back at it, it was clear as day what the frick went wrong
of course i started watching these youtube guys talk about modern women and modern relationships and everything fricking clicked
fast forward to today, I met a really REALLY cool girl whom I have a lot in common with, but I put my foot on the ground am currently doing everything opposite i did before, being for a good part emotionally negligent, told her that since man and women are inherently different, me having sex with other women is ok but not the opposite
told her she can leave if she doesnt agree with my values
told her once we're more set on the ground together and I have a decent networth to look back at, we can think about me throttling back on this lifestyle and raising kids together, but for now I'm going to take advantage of my late 20's and early 30's
she hasn't left yet and wants to frick me wildly.... stop simping for women bros, it's not attractive and you're just feeding THEIR RIGGED GAME
oh and on top of all this
I have a pretty good body of 8+ year of gym, but im a fricking manlet and shes taller than me
Women will frick you much better if you’re not exclusive with them. It’s odd.
I don't know, whenever I read shit like that I'm always imagining a very specific kind of woman who responds to those things. Actually, not even imagining, that type of woman is literally always the type those dudes are with, the ones you mention, the youtube guys. But good for you that it's working out for you and you're getting what you want.
Heights?
maybe man, maybe so
I guess its gonna take a bit of exploring to see if this is applicable to most women or not, but thank you for the support!
and height is 5'7 me to 5'9 her
Good luck on the trial, hope you get what you're looking for in the end.
Well I get that to a certain extent. It's why women always prefer men taller than themselves, they want to feel small(er) and protected.
I don't know, for me personally I like those "strong independant" types. I don't mean the meme types but the girls who really do have their shit together, outgoing, all that. Maybe it's because I'm a fricking mess. And that makes it even harder to get with someone like that unless they got a thing for "fixing" guys. Frick me, dude.
thanks, bro i was a fricking mess a year ago, whatever hole you're in, I promise you can make it out
as dark as and lonely as it gets, I promise you that there's always a light in there, sometimes you just don't want to see it
I'm trying, been rough lately. Got oneitis for one of those types I described, rejected, and now I gotta deal with the feelings of that plus the general shithole of a mental state I'm in. I'm hanging in though, I'm trying to get better, to improve and fix my shit. It's all about trying, is what I tell myself, so I just gotta keep going through the slog.
Thanks for the encouragement man. We're all going to make it.
>I'm always imagining a very specific kind of woman who responds to those things
to caveat on that, I think the reason a lot of women don't respond to that is because of the extreme feminism STRONG INDEPENDENT POWERFUL women propaganda thats spewed in our faces every day these days
what those youtubers try to say is that, biologically women always revert to being the submissive sex, and not only that, THEY SHOULD, because down the road those end up being the healthiest relationships
Last week an Anon had mentioned No More Mr. Nice Guy, quite eye opening for me. Looking back on my most recent relationship, when I put my foot down, things got better. When I let her walk all over me and whimped around like a pussy because I was scared she's leave me, she traeted me like shit. Stay strong lads, put yourselves 1st, and ike this Anon said, stop simping. Looking back, what a gay I was being. Never again.
i'll take "Incel Fantasy that never happened" for $500 Alex
Turning 30 tomorrow. Found a rave that's happening tonight but realized that I'd be bored sober. And I don't drink or use anything anymore. And nobody wanted to go with me.
I fought with my gf that she insisted not using safety bars while she was doing atg squat. I’m just so worried that this b***h might hurt someday like me. Every time she doesn’t listen to me, my desire to restart alc/cig/weed cripple out… but the reason I quit these recreational drug is to improve myself, no matter how stressed I become
I've got to spin. My trainer is making a weird noise and not resisting as much, I spin out way too easily in highest gear when sprinting too. goddamnit I'll have to buy a new trainer soon.
Doing my best to not hit on a cute girl at work, the temptation is strong she's very feminine and cute.
eh, my security job... ive been doing it for 2 months now, and I'm struggling to find ways to deal with the shit that comes with dealing with vagrants and violent buttholes. the street that I work on is pretty rough, but since our company pays different for each zone, I've been getting paid 19/hour. which I like right? but idk man, I'm trying to take it one day at a time, talking to my girlfriend helps, shes a good listener, shes one of the only people I know that I can REALLY talk to.
i quit drinking 3 weeks ago too so that's good.
working on my weightloss, its been going well too.
i gotta keep my chin up, and learn to take every situation one at a time.
I work security too. Eventually the scum gets easier to deal with. Most of them are cowards and once you learn how to speak to them, then they get the message and frick off. Plus you get cold to it too.
if you dont wanna do this, why do you subject yourself to this torture?
can you try and switch to a trade job maybe as an apprentice?
i do enjoy this job bro, but since im new to it I have to acclimate to the good and bad parts of it. i want to be a bouncer as well.
Look into an ASIS membership, shop around for security certifications. The security industry is the kind of sphere where you can climb to some pretty well paid positions or remain a gatehouse slub forever, all according to your own personal drive.
Back is jacked up, starting to think it will never heal :(. Don’t deadlift kids.
what the frick did you do
After one day into my three day fast, I have flue like symptoms. Never felt like this before. Always felt great when doing a fast. The day before my fast I only eat fish, multivitamins, and whey protein. Might that be it?
Lately, I had a dispute with the president of the frat I'm in. I corrected him in a group chat and he got very butthurt about it. Then said he was kicking me out of the chats because I've been being "toxic". Now half the frat is on my side and say he's just overreacting, but there are unknowns here that say apparently I've been out of line. Which is only coming up now as a justification to kick me from the chats. Even if I'm allowed back in, I'm not so sure I want to be back in. He's calling me "untrustworthy". I think he's just acting like a teenage girl.
It's honestly been eating me alive that I've been kicked like this. I have a hard time dealing with negative social interactions and now I feel like a bunch of people are pissed off with me. I've offered to apologize if I've upset anyone but I've gotten no response. It feels annoying to be a situation like this, but at the same time, I don't know what's the best course of action here. I'm not gonna change my opinion but I don't even find it that worth dying. This is all over stupid group chats too.
frick that c**t, hes a dickhead snob like a lot of other frat prezzies, don't beat yourself up homie.
>I don't know what's the best course of action here
Beat his ass and humiliate him in front of your brothers and live forever in glorious memory.
My cars speedo cable fell against the exhaust manifold and melted but today I got a new one and replaced the old one. Feels good to be productive outside of work for once in my life
Probably a brain dead question but how much fat can I expect to gain on a +500 bulk? I cut down to a decent weight/bf% and maintained for a few months and I feel good but want to start getting some size and strength gains. I’m afraid of gaining too much fat because mine gets distributed to my hips, but, and upper legs so whenever I get overweight my pants feel tight then I get into my head.
If I do the bulk the right way, and eat really good food, how much might I expect for a 6+ month bulk? My routine is 3 day PPL and 3 days of BJJ.
I was a really troubled autistic kid struggling with a disability I didn't even know I had
The world didn't give a single frick about me. I was alone until I was a senior in high school
But I worked at being better. I worked to become a reasonably well adjusted functional man. And dammit I've come a long fricking way
But
One thing I will never understand is how the frick people make friends so easily. I'll be in class and everyone will be talking to each other and I'm like how? It just
It blows my mind
One of the simplest ways is in the beginning, when nobody knows anyone. After that, honestly, just listen to whatever someone is talking about close by and butt in when there's an opening. Ask the person next to you about some class work for the day on some shit in general.
I'm worried I'm going to be forever stuck in my shitty job and will never get into the industry I went to college for. It's a competitive industry so I know it's hard but the more time goes by the more my stress and self resentment increase. I want to be able to work towards it more but with my job I have little time to even do that because as soon as I'm done for the day I need to start getting ready for tomorrow. Just feels like I'm trapped with no good way out.
Also can't lose the fat around my waist after going on a 3 month cut at 700 deficit, think I only lost muscle because the measuring tape says its the same.
I have lost 5kg in around a month. 30kg to go, this is going to be a long year.
very nice amigo keep going
Embrace the feel of hunger, when your stomach rumbles. You're gonna make it.
I dreamed with having sex with her again.
The sex/intimacy dreams can be rough…especially if you’ve never actually had the real thing
Oh yeah? Well I dreamed of holding her hand again, so
I think it's worse when you have. The memories when you wake up are suicide fuel.
i had a panic attack after eating a sandwich (unrelated, i dont have an ed) and my stupid monkey brain is linking eating with that now
for the past three days eating anything has made me feel nervous and scared, which i know is really funny because why am i scared eating oatmeal right now
There's this coworker that texts me over work stuff. Around once-twice a week. Sometimes unnecessary, or extra- stuff.
I wonder if he just cares a lot about work or actually wants to talk to me. I don't know if there's a way I can find out. I'd like to be his friend, or more, but I don't want to be annoying.
Are you the only person he can ask for help on those things? If no, he likes you enough to want to talk to you.
>Are you the only person he can ask for help on those things?
I'm not sure, I'm the only devops engineer in our team so maybe. But sometimes these are really dumb questions, so maybe it's an excuse
Ultimately it can be hard to tell over text. You gotta feel it out in person more.
I am changing but i am having trouble pushing through .
i need a lucky break - something to make me happy .
gym succubus asked me if i was using a certain machine. i resisted her this time.
I have body dysphoria about being circumcised. I have almost no foreskin, my glands are keratinized because they are always exposed and I can hardly feel anything with them, I've always felt like I'm missing out on pleasure from sex, and I hate the way it looks. I hate what my parents did to be and I want them to pay for a restoration when Foregen makes the procedure available.
I'm attracted to my sister in law.
Sometimes I think she's attracted to me.
I'm attracted to my wife too.
What's wrong with me?
Dude you're a fricking sicko. Being attracted to your wife? Fricking euthanize yourself my goodness.
In rehab for xanax now but I'm making rocket speed improvements to my life, I'm so glad I started taking vitamin D and being OCD about diet and exercise, just last week I looked in the mirror and looked like a 40 year old creeper (which was a wake-up call), I also started limiting alcohol and my cheekbones + jaw are defined again, I look and feel like a 22 year old now with my new diet of lean meat, eggs, veggies, yoghurt, milk, fruit, tea, wholegrains etc while with my terrible diet of alcohol, xanax bars, frozen pizza it made me look 45 and feel 69 years old
Skins a lot clearer and hair is a lot shinier and has much more volume
Also not getting cold sweats or even sweating in general lately even after intense workouts
Never want to get back into doing xans and drinking on non saturdays again, feeling great rn despite a slight flu and full of energy I had none of before
Tree nuts and fish are Godsend foods that have improved my eyesight a lot too, wagmi bruhs
>like a 40 year old creeper
Gonna choose not to take that personally but you don't gotta lash out like that homie.
>I look and feel like a 22 year old now with my new diet of lean meat, eggs, veggies, yoghurt, milk, fruit, tea, wholegrains etc while with my terrible diet of alcohol, xanax bars, frozen pizza it made me look 45 and feel 69 years old
Frick, I wish I felt the effects of a healthy diet like that. But I don't feel any different eating clean than when I lived on spaghetti and microwave meals. But I don't doubt it's healthier, so I still keep a healthy diet.
I've been a NEET since 2009, but Friday night still feels like Friday night.
>I've been a NEET since 2009, but Friday night still feels like Friday night.
Actual NEET or some code monkey autist that works 2 hours a day from home?
Actual NEET. Though I've been volunteering 4-7 hours a week since 2017.
I'm considering quitting. Things have stagnated and I don't enjoy the company of the fella I currently share my shifts with as much as they guys I used to work with, and a bunch of life shit happened in the last few years - I often find myself ruminating over stuff and wishing I was out hiking.
You're fine with NEETing it up for all those years? Is it some severe mental health thing that let you get out of work? Asking because I think in total I was NEETed up for maybe 3-4 years inbetween finishing high school and college and work, and during those times I was depressed but at the same time I couldn't imagine doing anything.
I was granted disability on the grounds of a questionable "atypical autism" diagnosis, but I don't think that's what I have. It was more like learned helplessness and a consequence of chronic disease.
I did eventually yearn for something to wake up to, which is why I ended up taking a volunteer job. But I've gotten much better at doing something rewardimg with my day on my own time since then. Not least because of exercise. That gives me something to wake up to and significantly boosts my mood and energy levels throughout the day.
Alright I see. I don't know, don't you feel like you'd want more out of things? Like imagine living the same way when you're 40 or 50. You're fine with that?
What type of food do you eat on one of your healthy diets?
>look in mirror
>pleased with my looks
>someone shows me a picture with me in it
>vomit
What is the meaning of this?
body dysmorphia, relax, don`t judge yourself too much, and keep improving
Last week was kinda rough for me, but a whole lot better than a couple of months ago. This community has actually saved me, which I know is kinda moronic since it is IST but hey the results are what matters. My gains are improving and I'm starting to see big changes from the skinnyfat loser I started as. My face has a whole lot less acne which also helps. I'm doing better in classes and excited to start the actual compEng classes next semester. Only bad thing is that my family's economic situation is kinda up in the air rn. We live pretty well off, and money has never been an issue for me, but some changes in my country would mess that up. Thank god I get an American work visa after I finish my degree since I'm studying there. I've also been talking to this girl, I think I'm vibing with her pretty hard, but some of my friends have warned me about her being kinda weird sometimes. Haven't found out for myself, but hey things have been going good so far. Thanks a lot to all of you anons for being as autistic and helpful as you can for a fellow autist. I'll have a moscow mule please btw. (sorry for ranting but it helps me put my feelings into words)
nice story fren, good vibes. About the girl, stay away. Yeah maybe your friends are exaggerating, but I would advice to get far from weird people, especially girls, go vibe with someone better, that you deserve.
Good luck with your work and your lifting, once again, congrats
I know this will sound like cope but I didn't know what word to use so I just wrote weird. She is friends with a girl I go to uni with. She lives in my hometown and I only come here during summer and maybe christmas so I'm not planning anything serious.
oh got it, I think I just got trauma from an anon yesterday who was with a crazy girl with a kitten/toddler complex, insane shit.
Nevermind it then, my best wishes for ya
Dude that chick was insane, not "weird".
yeah lol, still, being cautious is always a good thing. Not too cautious of course
I'll just have Absinthe at this point. On Saturday it's my sister's birthday and my gf hates her like you wouldn't believe. This fricking woman drama will kill me, I came down with covid too (still have to go there and hope my gf doesn't make a scene)
you need to whip that b***h in line brother
This girl is insane my bro. Whenever I stand my ground she has these crying fits that sometimes ends with her absolutely shaking, other times she be sobbing for 2 hours or so. It's all so tiresome
She is manipulating you and you are letting her. Do not take her to your sister's party since you know what she's going to do. I'm getting mad now so I'm just going to leave it at this: currently, you are the b***h in this relationship.
My daughter turned 1 recently and it just has me thinking of all my flaws. I want to be a good father to my daughter and son but I'm very aware that despite my best intentions I will probably fail in a lot of ways. I want to do more for my wife and kids because she was always there even before I got fit and has been nothing short of a great mother.
I worry a lot about the future, and whether I'll make the right choices. Lately I just find myself being torn between being a good father for my family and going out and trying to help fix things (regardless of how futile or inconsequential that might be). I can't even enjoy my old pleasures (drawing, learning to code, etc.) anymore since things just seem to get worse by the day.
I just want to be a great man guys. If not by society's measure I at least want to be for my family.
In other less depressing news, next week will mark 6 years of training for me. I'm glad I was able to put in some decent time before I turn 30 next year.
>"no one cares"
>tl;Dr
That's fine. I just needed some catharsis.
>despite my best intentions I will probably fail in a lot of ways
That's every parent. You're ok.
You're gonna make it.
You already made a good decision by caring for them and acting accordingly anon, there are a bunch of manchild who would prefer futile things. over their family
Just don't let our people fail, I know you can
I tested positive for thc again. I underestimated how much I smoked this year because I've been clean for a month and a half. Yet it still pops up in a drug test.
Should I give up joining the army and go back to construction and smoking weed lmao or continue for another month
>friend started dating chick I was interested in
>deluded myself into thinking she was into me
>turns out I likely just misinterpreted her trying to get close to my friend through me and my social circle
It feels like I'm eternally doomed to be a side character. I have always had plenty of friends and acquaintances. I don't really know why since I'm introverted and kinda stoic/cold, but people seem to really enjoy my company. But nothing more. Nobody seems to ever really feel anything for me. I got rejected in school. The biggest crush of my life also started dating a friend. I got brutally rejected by a female friend two years ago. And now this happened. I don't get it. He is the only person I know, besides me, who isn't in a relationship. And all other people just randomly met compatible partners and hit it off. While I just drift through life as an afterthought to everyone I know.
I'm just so tired of this cycle of getting my hopes up only to fall back down. The only positive is that this disappointment always turns into rage fueled motivation and every other aspect of my life is going insane thanks to that. But I don't know how long I can being alone.
As above, so below. As within, so without. Change your inner narrative, the story about your life that you tell yourself, change how you perceive your circumstances, and slowly, the outer world will start to reflect your new inner world
Excellent advice homie. For real.
>I got brutally rejected by a female friend two years ago.
Mind sharing? Are you over it?
Nothing horrible from an outside perspective. We just became close friends over the summer. I once again misinterpreted this as something else. Tried to make a move, somehow never got the opportunity in person. Decided to ask her out over text. Basically laughed at me for misunderstanding things (I still remember the fricking laughing monkey emoji she responded with), immediately told all of our friends and treated me like some wounded animal afterwards.
Yeah I'm over it, we wouldn't have made a great couple anyway. What hurt me was the reaction of it somehow being ridiculous for me to even consider this. Which is kinda echoed in how my friends treat me in general which is a whole other boring story
>We just became close friends over the summer. I once again misinterpreted this as something else.
you cannot be friends with women. how do you not realize this
>ask her out over text
loser move btw
>>We just became close friends over the summer. I once again misinterpreted this as something else.
>you cannot be friends with women. how do you not realize this
>>ask her out over text
>loser move btw
>Tried to make a move, somehow never got the opportunity in person. Decided to ask her out over text.
Definitely better in person, it's hard when you really like them to do it in person, but the dread from doing it over text from the one time I did it convinced me never again.
>Basically laughed at me for misunderstanding things
>laughing monkey emoji
>told all of our friends and treated me like some wounded animal afterwards
Sounds like a c**t.
That reaction for sure is fricked. But in a way, maybe it also helps because you see a really nasty side of her like that. Makes it easier to get over them, right? Almost makes me wish my last one was worse but she was so nice about it it fricked me up either way.
And get better friends dude, since you already got a group try to branch out through some of them. Don't get stuck with a bunch of c**ts that drain your self esteem.
If you have no attraction to them or interest it's possible. Or maybe I'm coping.
>That reaction for sure is fricked. But in a way, maybe it also helps because you see a really nasty side of her like that. Makes it easier to get over them, right?
Yeah that definitely helped. Spend way too long crushing on this chick and it evaporated in that moment lol.
>And get better friends dude, since you already got a group try to branch out through some of them. Don't get stuck with a bunch of c**ts that drain your self esteem.
I'm moving away to the other side of my country in 2 months in part because I want to get away from some of these buttholes and my extended social circle that I actually do like is completely intertwined with those people. Gonna be tough starting from 0 but I know I can do it.
>Spend way too long crushing on this chick and it evaporated in that moment lol.
Lucky fricker, that's what I mean. Mine was sweet so she's still in my system. A recurring thought I have is to literally ask her to be honest and tell me her worst features or something the next time I see her. Obviously it's stupid, but I just wish she was a dumb c**t in some way so I could latch onto that and move on faster.
>Gonna be tough starting from 0 but I know I can do it
Good luck man. WAGMI
>Lucky fricker, that's what I mean. Mine was sweet so she's still in my system. A recurring thought I have is to literally ask her to be honest and tell me her worst features or something the next time I see her. Obviously it's stupid, but I just wish she was a dumb c**t in some way so I could latch onto that and move on faster.
Yeah that sounds like agony. I guess the best way to move on is to find someone else.
exact same thing happened to me. She was luring me,then I went for the kiss and she refused. I was like:"ok, whatever, i get it". But then she went and told everyone I as essentially autistic and that she had never given me any signs whatsoever, which pissed me off because she was constantly flirting and we hanged out 1vs1 a bit.
I really wish it was fake.
The fact there are these thicc MILFS walking around also belongs in one of those porno mags.
>Unironically realize she's probably getting broken in by some dude every weekend.
yeah, thanks for pointing it out. This afternoon something already threw me off.
>" I went to see a Marvel film with a friend(male) of mine yesterday"
She mentions her male friends a bit. Ehh, I think I know that type of b***h.
>why tf do you like it btw? Explaining some behaviors through spiritual justifications seem much cooler to me
I like that too. I don't think they are so far apart.
> I like that too, I don't think they are so far apart
Can you elaborate? I'm curious
trying to get over my ex, we broke up late june and we haven't talked since, i was the one who had to end it because she was insufferable.
I had sex with a girl last night which i cold approached at the coffee shop like a week ago. It was fun i fricked her really hard but im still thinking about my bpd ex. Women can really frick with your head
>also ex was hotter.
Hey, at least you had the courage to break up, unlike me
>Hey, at least you had the courage to break up,
it was way long overdue since octomber, the b***h texted with another guy, she was calling me that my physique is not good enough and i should humble down, she would call me socially akward and all these kidns of shits. thank god i fricked another girl last night and i feel better that i slayed, i have to keep the momentum tho
Goddamn bro, you should never take shit like this for even a day. Glad you're doing better, keep it up my man!
That's on God bro. Do girls with personalities like hers even exist? All the girls I know are pouty complaining hags in a young woman's body
they do exist but usually in the fringes of leftist culture, which unsurprisingly is out of reach for a lot of ISTners. I guess Jessie makes sense since she's a literal eco-terrorist in that regard
Bet she read kaczynski before joining the ecoterrorists, fricking based
nowadays it's neomarxist gender literature but maybe in the waters 50 years from now we'll get based Jessie ecoterrorists
They do exist, especially if they're in love with you
Jessie was such best girl in that game it's unreal. Especially with Japanese voices holy shit, so charming
I haven't played ff7 yet, is it good my friend?
the writing can be a bit cringe at times and the dialogue is way better in Japanese than English, but aside from that it's raw kino. Easily the best gameplay out of all the mainline FF games. For me personally it was worth it
Funny, I saw the English demo and though it was very well acted, but what makes you think so?
Ps. I'll agree to disagree.
ff7 remake is not ff7 and its not a remake. its a sequel
I'm so tired
Have you tried coffee?
clean your colon
I had some crazy shit happen this week and I really want to get it off my chest, I feel like this thread is gonna get nuked by the troony jannies though. If I come back after work and it’s still here I’ll post.
>Sit down, grab a drink. What's on your mind?
Honestly op, I feel at peace but in a weird, transitory sort of way, in the same way one would feel at the end of a story with a great ending thst provokes feelings of fulfillment thst leaves you uncertainly curious as to what chapter the story goes next.
I've just finished sixth form and I'm 19 right now, I'm just sort of looking for temporary jobs over the next few months before starting this apprenticeship as a software engineer.
I just need tk find a few part time jobs right now but I'm just excited about the future.
How is everyone else on this night?
I don't know if anyone cares but I've also got a life plan for the next 5 to ten years.
>19 to 23: Do this apprenticeship which gets me a higher national certificate in software engineering, get highest grades on that and a bachelors degree in digital and tech solutions.
>whilst also serving in the Royal navy reserves as a rating for the next 2 years until I'm either either 21 or 22 and leave at the rank of leading hand or even petty officer
>all the while supporting my parents as they are both getting older (Dad is 65, mum is 59), generally try and be a good son
>22 to 23: get bachelors degree with 1st class honours, leave navy reserves and join the Royal air force as a pilot officer
>23 to 25: work my ass off to the rank fo flight lieutenant and getting another bachelors in aeronautical engineering
>25 - 27: get my masters degree in aeronautical engineering and work like hell to get to the rank of squadron leader
29: achieve rank if squadron leader and either leave or stay on for a few more years
>30+: train to become an astronaut and compete in many different sports
And that is the tip of the iceberg.
But I always remember, that Rome wasn't built in 1 day, so it takes time.
Guys today when I handed over my exam ,like 5 out of 8 girls in the class did the same.
What did they mean by this? I was not the first guy to do so.Did they think I am handsome or wtf?
I hate being a shut in incel,I might be turning schizo.
Whiskey on the rocks.
>talk to a girl in a different state for a month
>shes wholesome, good caring family, loves lifting and anime
>has only had 1 other bf
>she comes back and we go out for a month
>start thinking how she has potential for long term
>suddenly dips again with her entire rich family for vacation
>wont return for 2 months wtf
>i try to text her every few days
>she gradually stops responding
>feels like its ogre
What do? I feel the right move is to just wait and give her space. Im resigned to it being over so I already have dates lined up next week so that I dont go crazy and needy, but id really like it to work with first girl.
Double text her to make her text back twice as fast.
if a person stops communicating with you they dont care about you
this should be pretty easy to figure out
she almost certainly fricked some dudes
She said shes inexperienced with relationships when i called her out on it. am i just coping? i still feel like you are right though
you are coping. a person who likes you will never voluntarily stop communicating with you. consider the very idea, it makes no sense at all
if you are "calling girls out" on behavior it is beyond over in any situation/relationship.
Thanks anon. Thats what i was thinking but I needed someone to get slapped by someone and to hear it
any time buddy. sorry it didnt work but youre young youll go through like 15 of these
Anon. Im like 30 and i have already gone through like 15 of these. It's just that im used to girls literally telling me after a week of no responses that they dont see it working out. i actually much prefer clean closures like that.
didnt find my wife until i was 30. i had to go throguh like 26 of em. keep it up
keep your options open. my wife was 260 pounds. i helped her. now she is 160 pounds and makes 100k 🙂
Congrats anon. Yea Ill never give up the good fight. Ive tried a couple of work in progress girls but theyve never stuck it out so so
What the other anon said is completely true. It's a hard fricking pill to swallow especially if you're really into someone, you just keep coming up with excuses or rationalizing why she doesn't respond or seems vague or this or that. It's cope at its highest. And it's a slow realization of pain when you understand what happened. Even worse when everything seemed good in person, be glad yours was brief and over text mostly.
t. copemaxxed recently
This is the most accurate verbalization of my feelings rn. I think ill just let her know i dont think itll work out so that at least there will be a clean break from at least one of the parties and I can move on.
Good call. Getting closure instead of being in limbo is infinitely better. Hope it works out anon.
I wasted my whole life and hate my life
I'm 40 and don't want to kill myself but I don't want to do anything else either
if you don't have motivation or goals just take adderall. do anything to make yourself do things
42 year old gay here, it's never too late. Broke up with ex in March, reconsidered and asked if we could go to therapy. Nope. Get kicked out of her house, move in with friend and his family, OK but need my own place. Focus on myself and my health. Best shape I've ever been in, 1 hour of exercise a day! Attempting 2 side project for extra income, might fail, but why. not try? Finances are OK, currently in shit job I got because I thought it would help my ex, but that's OK for now. Get off your ass and try something, anything! Who knows, you might enjoy it! I let my deaftest mindset control me for too long. I'm a product of a single mom and never had a positive male role model in my life. Don't give Anon, I know I do every day, but I'll keep pushing forward. WAGMI
You're gonna make it, keep your head high anon.
I wish I could share my one side hustle, but I can't. This board has helped me more than any of close friends or family. Yeah, I feel like a loser right now, but after listening to no more mr. nice guy this week, all of my past issues with life are coming together. Feminism and single moms truly are pure veil. KInda stuck trying to find positive male influnces at this age, any tips or advice from anon's out there?
>KInda stuck trying to find positive male influnces at this age, any tips or advice from anon's out there?
Take anything you can as a source of inspiration. Doesn't matter if it's from a book, movie, game, fricking manga or anime, anything. If it makes you feel inspired, keep it in your mind. And, at least for me, don't go down the cringy social influencer "alpha male" pipelines. Not that I've been down it, but holy frick those dudes are delusional.
lately i am trying to convince myself to go do habitat for humanity. it seems to be mostly older white men. i feel like even though they will be boomers with very different perspectives a lot of them, they could still be people i could learn a lot from and maybe even find some opportunity from.
For me personally, being a jaded asswipe, being around people like that never did anything for me. If you think it'll help you, go for it.
Lost my smell and taste cause of covid and I really take the senses for granted. Its only been 3 days but just eating food and only get texture alone sucks
I'm at a point where I don't feel fulfillment with what I'm doing in my life. Turning 28 this year so I still have time, but what do I do? I want to forge my own path, but the way is unclear...
I hate traveling, I hate having to eat out at zogslop every meal, not having my gym, sleeping in a different bed, just not living the regular IST lifestyle even for a week. Only reason I did it is because my sister is coming to visit and her unhealthy behaviors are really starting to bother me (eating shit, laying down after eating, not working out) so my negative energy is bothering her too. When I see her high bodyfat/acne ridden face due to her poor lifestyle I really start to dislike her. This is why I just need to be alone in my monkmode. Maybe Im selfish but thats why I am better than most people
you sound worse than most people to be quite honest
I'm generally in a standstill in life, I keep feeling this sense of being mentally tired, I excel at my workouts and fulfill my nutritive quotas but I feel as if something's missing, it doesn't help that most of my close friends are simping like insane, and I've tried expanding my circle as I'm a pretty extroverted person, but it isn't really helping. What do?
create something
lifting itself is not very fulfilling at some point anon. Consider picking up another sport and using lifting to get better at that
>tfw the depression temporarily subsides and you can just FEEL the mania about to kick in
FOUR SCOOPS BABY LETS GOOOOOOOOOOO WE'RE HITTING 4 PRS TODAY
>ever having mania
don't know how lucky you are
This but unironically. Holy fricking shit just those days where for like 30 mins or an hour or two MAX where it all washes away is literally the only reason I haven't necked yet. Frick I wish I could have those highs, those periods. This shit is just draining, prisoner of your own shit brain.
yeah i would rather be manic depressive even if it meant i had like 4 stds and had gotten my teeth kicked out by a horse at some point.
Those 4 stds and broken teeth would at least mean you went out and did things, even if it was prostitutes and horse pussy. With this shit, it's just like fricking quicksand. Are you on meds? I was on some for a while but the numbness to positive emotions and experiences is what made me decide to chuck them since I was in a more bearable life situation at the time of quitting. Now I'm thinking I should just accept fully there's no bootstraps I can pull hard enough to unfrick my shit, and go full blast with meds. JDIMSA
no, one ssri made me want to kill myself, snri made me have hypnogogic auditory hallucinations of people standing next to my bed threatening to kill me with knives and shit which terrified me as my brain interpreted it as real, still feels scary
adderral/ritalin which is what i really need causes me to sink into infinite depression, apparently for some people with dopamine system problems it just wears out your dopamine neurons and permanently makes them work worse every time you take it.
so now i know that i have years of adderall use too that permanently made me less happy every single time i took one
i wish i could take the SNRI it was helping me
Frick that sucks dude. Don't you think maybe it's better to keep experimenting around with meds?
I wish my events would just cancel and I could deposit this 600 euros I made in my usual side hustles to my stocks account
I have a salary, side hustles (half my salary) and grant from my parents (half my salary). I can usually transfer all my side hustle cash into stocks & coins as my salary and grant allow me to live comfortably but I was on a spending spree lately due to some holiday shit and now I gotta spend my hustle money until payday
which sucks as for the last year I didnt actually spend a dime of it
I see that income as something else and not disposable cash
>grant from my parents
>"income"
>"salary"
I have a well paying job along with side hustles and grant
its like I studied hard all my life, have been working hard and really trying my hardest to the point of working 60 hours per week even though I have rich parents so I am mentally OK with getting that extra grant from my parents as it allows me to directly invest 1/3 of my entire income into savings
I tend to think of it as their investment into my retirement fund, only they suck at anything finance so I get to control it
anon if you have rich parents you can't understand the very idea of trying your hardest
cut yourself off from it if you want to grow. honest advice.
I kinda know anon
this is something I realized a couple of years ago but the thing is we were upper middle class at best up until 2017, we only got rich after my parents decided to run their own business. I know how it feels like being middle class, upper middle class and 1%
and truth to be told amongst all these classes I prefer being in the 1%, I am confident that I will not spiral out of control with stupid shit like alcohol etc and can work towards securing myself the same quality of life even if my parents retire by acting smart and advancing my career path, investing etc
same here, I get to work from home tmr though so I'll directly hit the gym after office hours
what did they get rich doing? starting a business in 2017 is not a common success story at this moment
my mom is a medical doctor
my dad is one too but he is better at social interactions so he didnt specialize in anything while my mom is one of the best in the country I'm told
she is kind of a nerd though so it took her a literal decade of convincing to finally open up her own place
goddamn that sounds shitty anon, I get to turn my pc off precisely at 1700, which is something I really love about my job and my line of work
its my legs day tomorrow and I will push 170 kg deadlift, want to get it done before 15th of Aug. what do you have for tomorrow/today?
My squat and bench day. I don't lift on Fridays because of 2 different job schedules, so I might just push this session to early Saturday and then double up Sunday
>my mom is a medical doctor
you were always rich, you cannot be "upper middle class" with a medical doctor parent, period
>you were always rich, you cannot be "upper middle class" with a medical doctor parent, period
You don't know what you're talking about. Real rich people don't have regular jobs at all they just manage their wealth.
I already work from home. But I had to spend the day putting off my normal assignments to deal with client security shit since someone got his account broken into. It means a day of forensics (checking DLP shit, log audits, etc). Wouldnt have been so bad if this shit was caught earlier, but I had to review 24 hours of bullshit.
Hard day at work. I'm mentally fried and trying to find the nerve to go lift.
>end of the week
Imagine not being passionate about ur job that u count days. Every day I wake up happy to go to work, my weekdays r just as fun as my weekend, better actually cuz I don't have to wake up at any certain time.
I don't deserve a girlfriend.
You do. Not everyone does, but I know you do. Believe in the me that believes in you.
I am simply not there yet. I must first climb higher, else I would only be wasting women's time.
>comfy
>security camera
-_-
Just the fact that you're trying to climb higher proves you deserve it. I have high hopes you will acomplish it fren, even if you're not there (YET).
iktf anon...
>girl likes you
>don't like her back
>you feel so fricked anyway so that even if you did like her and got with her she'd just leave once she got to know you better
jdimsa
Sorry to hear that Anon. I don't feel lost or hopeless. I have hope, but first comes accomplishment.
every day i wake up ashamed to be myself
i am not in school, my last 2 years of highschool were assblasted due to covid and i had to do it online
now i work at a liquor store and my dad is my manager. it is humiliating. i hate the customers, and the music, and i hate myself. i am so embarrassed and humiliated of myself.
i dont know how to fix it. i cant seem to bring myself to do anything like talk to girls, get a new job, or apply for college. i am miserable i cant stand this
>now i work at a liquor store and my dad is my manager. it is humiliating.
leave this environment, it will drag you down more than you can understand. do not stay in it because of family. the negativity of the business and knowing you are peddling poison effectively will do you psychological harm
are you kind of fit?
can you handle pressure?
have you ever completed a course or a certificate problem?
I have the perfect course for you, no joke
go offshore
in my developing country medicine is a state-dominated field and even though MDs are always provided decent salaries, in the past 7-8 years the quality of life for state MDs radically dropped to the point of a 35 YO MD making less than a 25 YO software engineer
like literally, I have a friend group of 8 dudes and one of us is a state sponsored MD, he is the second least earning one and the other dude is a stoner so he doesn't care
if my mom stayed in the hospital we would have made 1/10th of what we are making today, and half of a MNE tech company middle manager, its that much of a difference
ah, carry on then, was assuming USA circumstances
A little step every day. You don't need to move mountains today. You just need to start. Go look up colleges or different jobs. Do something you don't usually do. Go buy a used instrument and just try something new. Apathy is fricking horrible anon, but you can break out of it. Learn to overpower that shitty voice in your head that tells you to stay in your comfort zone and keep living the shitty life you hate. It's really not that hard once you realize that voice isn't you. It's just your bad habits trying to drag you down.
how the frick you buy a house in this current year? 15 years ago i dreamed about having my own house, my own place and right now is one of the most difficult shit you can do. And im not talking about a homosexual two bedroom apartment, an actual fricking house
I need some advice anons.
Here is the story:
>Understood myself pretty good with a girl (best looking in class/school) in my last school year
>Everyone thought we would date etc.
>Nah she had a bf
>Things didint go well with her bf and I had a feeling that he cheated on her very early on
>FFW 1 year later after school end and no contact, she writes me that she wanna meet
>I said sure
>We meet at her house, it’s goes pretty well
>I go for a kiss, she declined
>Well whatever
>Later That Night she says sorry but she still has bad feelings etc. because of her ex
>We go on a second date
>We Talk, eat, have fun etc.
>She says she would like a third date
>Ok
>The Rona is there and everything is closed, she doesn’t wanna meet because of rona
>We write for the next 6 months
>I just stop writing her cause I don’t have time for games, she says ok we can meet etc. but declines last minute
>After 4 months of no contact she writes me out of nowhere and asks if I got the shoot
>Yep I had to cause of gym
>We write again
>She says she is in therapy
>Feel bad for her and start writing with her
>I know from a friend that she meet her ex again because he works in a bowling alley and saw them play
>Yeah ok don’t care
>Have no contact with her again
>After rona is over I’m stronger and find a gf
>Suddenly she writes me and says she’s happy for me
>Block her
>Gf says don’t be a ass and talk with her
>Ok?.jpg
>Dont wanna write cause I’m more of a talk guy
>Tell her to call me and we talk
>She says, she’s sorry and wants to have contact with me again, say ok cause I’m not a ass or a child
>That was 10 days ago
So what do you say, no she won’t write me again because she did the first step that’s how she works and she wants to see if I was serious with having contact with her.
I don’t wanna be a ass and ghost her but I’m happy without her, also no I don’t have any feelings for her.
So should I write her?
this person is not a part of your life at all. why are you agonizing over this?
look at what you wrote and ask yourself if this person is in any way part of your life
no, the adderall made me almost kill myself recently, i can't just experiment
>why are you agonizing over this?
Don’t know I just saw the chat with her scrolling through my messages and thought of writing „How’s it going in life, we haven’t talked for 1.5 year and I wanted to know how your doing.“ because she was part of my life and I wanted to know if everything is alright even if I’m not romantically interested in her anymore.
she WAS NOT part of your life anon that is my point
just let sleeping dogs lie man there is no reason to dredge up old women after years she is not and was not part of your life
>If you don't now, you will come off a liar butthole....
Yeah I don’t really care what she thinks about me, the only reason I wrote her was because my gf said ask her how it’s going and I said ok, but I didint. My problem is that my brain always thinks:
>What if she isint doing so well
>What if she isint mentally ok and seeks help
My best friend did try to kill himself 2 times and I had to stop him and she’s giving me those vibes
>She already has a boyfriend, if she's texting you maybe something isn't right, pay attention to that.
Any Tipps on That?
I can read human emotions pretty good if it’s in person but I’m terrible in chatting.
you are a loser nobody can give you tips
you dont seem to understand what it means to be valued by or value or a person so youre just seeking whatever anyone you have any connection to,its honestly pathetic
i cant give you advice, do better...when you ask shit but wont listen it just makes people hate you because it shows you to be either stupid or in denial
I got the message Anon, thanks for kicking my ass. I’m that kind of person who has to get it through his thick skull, because my brain cares for other people. I deleted her number and chat.
Seems like she's playing a stupid mind game with you bro, women do these things and I understand it can become tiresome lol
If you had feelings for her and wasn't dating I would say yeah, go for it, but in your situation, I wouldn't. The problem is you said ok with having contact with her. If you don't now, you will come off a liar butthole....
I would say to keep small chat until she loses interest because 1) You literally have a woman to take care of, believe me, you don't want another one, specially because you don't want anything with her 2)She already has a boyfriend, if she's texting you maybe something isn't right, pay attention to that.
I'm so fricking tired. Of everything. I just want to lay down and nap for a year or ten.
You and me both, anon. But you gotta go for the small daily challenges, and victories. Keep hanging on and maybe one day everything won't seem so bad.
Agony doesn't begin to describe it, sadly.
>I guess the best way to move on is to find someone else.
That's what I keep debating in my head: should I just try getting with whoever might want me and see if that helps? Or is it better to toughen out this shit alone and not use someone else as a bandaid? Frick me if I know.
You're gonna make it though, sooner than me.
I don't get it.
>be me, 27
>Haven't had gf in 5 years
>go MGTOW
>"Chase a check, never chase a b***h"
>Finish Uni and automatically get a nice job
>it's pretty ok and there are no datable hot girls there to distract me and whatnot
>3 weeks in
>The director's hot 18yo stepdaughter is assigned to help me with work, as her summer part-time job
>She's intelligent, well spoken, chill af, has a thicc juicy ass, brunette, freckles and great eyes and lips. Literally the complete wifey package, even though I'm a booba guy.
> we click and it's been great working with her.
>We had a few things in common like enjoying japanese music, Japan overall, psychology and philosophy.
Now, why is God testing me like this?
I don't think this girl is attainable nor do I want the smoke. She asked me if I could send her some bands I liked via
WhatsApp and I said sure. I had already given her my number, because she asked for it in case she god lost around there.
She hasn't texted me or anything, so I don't have her number, and I don't plan on asking her.
She's lovely but I really don't want to catch feelings,and I'm afraid I'm might. Maybe it's already begun. How do I avoid it?
congrats this is the most brain dead thing i have ever read
>3 weeks in
>>The director's hot 18yo stepdaughter is assigned to help me with work, as her summer part-time job
anon do you realize people have been writing these same fake stories into porno mags since like the 1950s
literally the exact same stories like the one you just tried to pass off as yours
>How do I avoid it?
Unironically realize she's probably getting broken in by some dude every weekend.
> She likes psychology
That's a red flag anon, pay attention to that (why tf do you like it btw? Explaining some behaviors through spiritual justifications seem much cooler to me).
>spiritual "justification"
ie telling yourself anything you want to do is ok
not him, but now i truly understand what religion is all about. thanks for opening my mind anon, gonna go become catholic this weekend
You're welcome
no, it's telling that the reason why some people are bad, is because something utterly disgusting changed their essence to the point that their form starts crumbling down, and that the virtue from another comes from something higher, more meaningful.
And that the actions you do here, have consequences higher than the material level.
that's a yikes from me dawg
catholics are the experts in that shit
>invent the idea of hell to extort literal street beggars
>use the money from inventing the idea of hell to run a worldwide boy-fricking operation with bases in almost every town in the developed world
Making my dick fit doing foreskin restoration. My hatred of israelites and americans has flared recently, especially with all the my body my choice stuff going on. Progress is slow but sure.
Still need a Korra type gf. Still not buff enough for that. I need to get stronger and I will but what if I will never find one
Why are you guys so obsessed with being happy? The more you covet it the less you’ll have. Happiness isn’t something animals experience in general. It’s just you thinking you’ve achieved something you’ve been indoctrinated into believing you must have and so you’re a mopey c**t when you don’t get it. You compare yourselves to others constantly, that makes you sad too. Cause you don’t mind the 90% of people who have it worse. And while always improving yourself is a good thing, doing so out of envy and greed is pathetic and petty
I was an unhappy miserable c**t too. I realised that everything that made me sad was due to others
>stressed out about uni, why? I have my whole life to finish I can take breaks if I want to instead of burning out
>because I was worried what others would think if I took a semester or two hiatus
>kept worrying about being with the right girl
>because do my friends think she’s attractive and funny? Do my parents approve?
It’s just the constant -what do others think of what I’m doing with my life-
Well anons 30-40 years from now when you’re old and all the people you sought approval from will be dead. And every day people? They don’t give a shit about your life any more than you care about theirs. Ever see a fat piece of shit when you’re out? You look at him and think, Jesus Christ wtf. Then 5 minutes later you forgot about him and you never think about or see him again. That’s you hundreds of times a day. People seeing you for a second then forgetting about you for rest of their lives.
Stop being so obsessed with what others think of you and you’ll feel so much better right away. Stop being ashamed of who you are. Sometimes life gets Too much. What you do then Is take an axe a fire starter and some camping equipment and sleep under the stars, and just take out all your frustrations on any piece of wood you find in the forest. Don’t bring your phone.
The lovely girl that I have been talking to turns out to be promoscus; out of all the time, she has had sex and has only used a condom twice. Today we are supposed to meet at a Hotel and frick, but I'm having second thoughts. I'm 28, and she is 21. I haven't gotten laid in 6 years, and she has a quality body; I don't enjoy making out with her, I want to get more experience, and she has other friends with benefits.
Just bang her and move on.
>I want to get more experience
What exactly is the issue then? And you even say she has other FWBs. So unless you're scared of catching feelings, why not if you want experience?
>Girlfriend wants some distance
>Told me I should get more experience with girls
>Am about to frick a 5ft Asian from tinder
No going back now homies I'm yellowpilled
Send pics to your gf, "took your advice".
Don’t do this
it just shows insecurity. Frick her and move on. If your gf asks say yeah and show some pics of the fricks you did
There is a girl at work I used to like.
She seemed quiet and artsy and nice, she talked to me every day and made me feel good about myself.
A month ago we got drunk together and she started telling me about all the different guys she is toying with. She basically makes guys think she's in love with them, so they'll keep seeking her out and giving her attention, she keeps them essentially in her stable, in reserve for some later date.
I've cut all contact with her. There is now a girl at work who disgusts me. It feels so uncomfortable to be around her. She keeps putting on this fake sad routine around me, even after I cut the cord, she's still trying to manipulate me, bring me back into her stable.
Not having it boys, but fricking hell it's so uncomfortable to have to work directly with somebody you hate, who acts like they hate you too.
Making it.
That sucks dude. Don't let it beat you down, it wasn't meant to be and you're better off things ending now than in a year or ten.
new girlfriend of a couple months ignored my texts for a whole day backed out of wanting to meet my cousin (whos basically my brother) later that week and asked if I wanted to get coffee right after work instead. I know its over, she says shes mentally drained from family issues and starting a new job. Third time in a row where they've used the excuse "I'm just not mentally ready for a serious relationship right now". Thought I finally found happiness. My family and friends were so proud. Gonna be so embarrassing to tell them I fricked it up in under 3 months. God this sucks.
Graduated from University. Got a job lined up. Whole family is proud of me and got a close groups of friends that supports me through everything. YET I can't stop humiliating myself and messaging a girl that just ignores it. We used to be close and fell out. I still like her and I can't bring myself to delete her number and just move on. When I do, I end up getting her number from someone and end up trying to get in touch just to get ignored again. Then she replies within a few days seemingly to keep me on a leash.
I feel pathetic and can't stop thinking about her when I am alone. How do I stop this behaviour? Lately I have only been happy when I get a notification from her.
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Fact of the matter is: if you told her you liked her, you know she would reject you. Right? The question you gotta ask yourself is can you tell yourself that it's over and cut her off for good, or do you need her to reject you before you can move on? Even though you know, deep down, she doesn't give a frick about you, doesn't think about you 1% of how much you think about her. Sounds like to me you need the closure, the rejection. It's gonna suck and you'll probably think about her even more for a while, but it's probably the best way to start moving on.
>I feel pathetic and can't stop thinking about her when I am alone.
>Lately I have only been happy when I get a notification from her.
I was literally there myself up until a little over a month ago, my man, until I couldn't take it any more and I knew I had to get rejected. It's straight copium, living and breathing for that sliver of attention she gives you in some pointless message she doesn't give a frick about while you sit and rack your brain over how to craft the perfect message that's going to elicit a good response from her. Seriously consider telling her how you feel so you can get bodied and move on. Best to do in person but if there's no chance of that happening, well, texts are awful but what can you do.
Been at the gym three times for the past two weeks, feels good to build consistency chief.
Also I think I've cracked the code on why I want to jerk off less when I lift
>Before lifting, hands are soft, feminine, and feel good to jerk
>Now hands are calloused and it feels like I'm putting my dick through sandpaper
>As a result, I cut down on jerking off from 4-5 times daily to 1-2
Idk wtf is wrong with me bros. Money doesn’t make me do things like it seems to for other people. Even fairly large sums of money just make me go meh. I mean I want it, I’m not some saint. If I could reach out and grab a fat stack of cash effort free of course I would take that deal. But truthfully, 9/10 times I don’t think the cash is worth all of the running around you have to do to get it. I know this probably means I’m a lazy POS, but honestly I’m really starting to think I’d rather be poor/lower class and do what I want everyday than rich while a slave to the whims and desires of the system/others. Obviously marrying wealth with independence is ideal, but I don’t know if there is a lucrative career that I would feel content with.
>all of my friends are now married/engaged and have kids
>I have never had a gf (at least I'm not a khv I guess)
Really puts things into perspective. Lifts are going well which is cool.
Guys I'm in a seriously weird situation and I have no idea what to do.
The super QT ex-gym receptionist emo girl with a super fit bod who I had a crush on matched with me on a dating app. She has been SUPER forward and confident and told me straight up she used to think I was very attractive, and I told her I had a crush on her too. She wants to go on a date ASAP, we got it scheduled for next week.
But this girl is not your everyday thot, her job (don't wanna dox) means she has a pretty large following on social media and has an army of simp orbiters. Like the kind of girl who will get DMs from dudes asking to buy her used underwear. She's smoking hot. Not only this, she's tattooed to frick and into all obscure shit. I have no tattoos. I'm a completely normal looking guy (good looking, but normal) and I have absolutely no idea why she's into me. I'm sure she could get famous dudes and shit or people who you'd think would suit her more (tattooed social media famous chads) but she seems so forward and keen to go on a date with me. I'm stumped. I've had my share of first dates but I'm nervous about this one. I didn't think I'd be interesting or 'out there' enough for her and it's making me overthink everything.
What do?
Treat her like a woman you romantically like and sort out that other bullshit if and when things get serious, you're over-thinking it big-time, my friend.
>tatts
Don't matter
>simps & orbiter
Don't matter IF she's a good woman
>I can't figure out why she's interested in me
Because you're a good dude, attractive - ultimately it doesn't matter, brother. She likes you, accept it. Stop worrying so much, Loverboy.
Take it easy, just have fun. Best of luck to you.
Thanks bro, I gotta do this because my 70 year old ass would slap the shit outta me for missing this opportunity.
I got a bible.
My life so far has been failure after failure, depression and aimlessness. The root cause is mindset, of being too proud to adopt the morality of others.
I don't know if it will help or not or if I even believe it, but if I live by a set code that has given millions of people success, it has to be better than living my whole life as the subject of my own limitations, right? Can thousands of years of Christian ancestry be wrong? This modern world is chaos, I feel.
I think prayer is adjacent to meditation and mindfulness, which is a big reason religious people seem to have an inner calm.
>Can thousands of years of Christian ancestry be wrong?
Yes, there are many different religions and philosophies, some much older than Christianity. In the context of religion, almost all of them have to be wrong for one to be right.
Not saying it isn't a good idea to follow a religion or philosophy. Unless they cause a lot of tension with your already held beliefs, the rituals and mindset can be beneficial.
Obviously the western world has been built on Christianity so its values will better line up with your everyday life and probably will cause the least tension.
One advice I would give is that joining a church is good for your social life but don't get taken advantage of. Not saying have your guard up, let people in, but some specific church's can get a cult-like mindset where they do some fricked up thing or do something for money and they sucker in people.
For example, a local baptist church where I grew up was known as the pedophile church. You would have ~26 year olds dating 12 year olds and the parents were fine with it because since they aren't married it's impossible for them to have sex. So try out multiple churches please.
My life has been nothing but failure and severe depression as well. Never had any sort of religious influence in my life. Only religion I was exposed to was Judaism from my father's side, but neither he nor I ever did any real religious practice. Also once I became a teenager we barely even celebrated holidays like Christmas or anything.
Being religious has never even been a consideration for me but given how close I am to suicide I wonder if it if worth trying one, but I fear I am too far gone for it to help at all.
>been looking for a condo for months
>realtor calls me yesterday and says that one of the places I checked but was priced out of is gonna lower price
>place is definitely worth its original asking price and will definitely appreciate
>decide to lowball, but still on the high end of my budget
>offer accepted
>spend all night having second thoughts and worry about being house poor with mortgage payments, which will increase with rising interest rates
>tell agent this morning that I wanna back out and wanna keep looking for something cheaper
I realize I fell for the psychological pressure of buyer's remorse, but everytime I get closer to signing on a house I get cold feet and feel like I'm enslaved to the bank.
Maybe I'm destined to be a renter for life
If you're in Vancouver or Toronto you messed up big time. 500k immigrants every year and they're bringing their money with them buddy
I'm in a long-distance relationship, and I am not sure I can do this for much longer. After the last couple of times I saw them, my self-control went to shit right after the visit ended, and I ended up binging. Trying to be extra careful this time, but not sure if I can make it.
Long distance is nothing but torture. Don't do it to yourself, life is too short. There are tens of thousands of girls within WALKING DISTANCE to you, why in the ever loving frick would you date one you need to catch a fricking flight to see? I don't give a frick how special she is, it doesn't matter how special she is when she's hours away.
Live your good life man, end that shit.
Trying to move closer in the next few months, if that doesn't work I'm calling it off. We previously tried breaking it off when we first got long-distance, neither one of us could do it. Breaking up will suck (known them for ages, have serious feelings), but at least it won't be this slow torture.
work a remote job, but set up a group outing for some of the people working in my state for saturday. qt i've got my eye on is coming with, not sure if i can wrangle something out of this, or even if i want to.
on one hand, i'm content being single for the first time since high school ended, but also i've also got the coom brain.
low level problems over here, but i'm gonna overthink if i want to pursue so much i'm going to frick up both a relationship and a friendship somehow.
I finally have the chance to pursue a PhD, but I haven't been in school for years. Been working construction with my father's company, but now that I have the chance I'm not sure I want to take it. I am the only person around anymore on job sites with him, he's nearly 70 and was hospitalized a couple of weeks ago for heat exhaustion and dehydration. It terrifies me to let him go alone just for something to happen to him.
Tell your dumbass old man to retire for fricks sake, you have a life to live. Don't waste your one life and one chance at self-actualization on your Dad, bless him, who is either too stupid or too stubborn to take his boots off and let it go. I hope you take what you want and don't frick yourself over. Stop rationalizing it, your Dad is a good man, but a foolish man.
Yeah, I know what needs to be done. I also know why he refuses to retire. His father died within 8 months of retiring, but that was nowhere near the same circumstances. I'm pretty sure he's worried the same thing will happen to him
I get it man, my Dad's Dad died before I was born, so when my Dad got to be the age where his Dad died, he got a little weird for a minute. Good luck senpai.
It's rough to see man. Thank you though. Hopefully he comes to his senses before I have to say anything or he actually causes permanent damage
What would your PhD be in and why are pursuing it/what do you want out of it?
I'm a 5th year chemistry PhD so ask me anything if you are curious. There are definitely reasons not to do it we can talk about but don't worry at all about being out of school. A lot of internationals with poor english skills and very poor degrees do fine.
a combination of History and Archeology with a focus of 3rd century Rome through the fall of the Western Empire.
In general I've heard that the first year to year and a half are genuinely challenging then after that it's pretty easy
That sounds very interesting, what your goals with the degree?
If you don't want to leave your dad you could always try a two years master's degree at first instead of a 5 year degree from the get-go.
Also, obviously you can't work construction while going to uni but do you have any universities in driving distance that would allow frequent visits?
I'm aiming to work in a museum. A good sized one, but not one of those monstrous sized ones in NYC or Chicago.
Unfortunately none that have what I want. the closest one is about 2:30 from my place
I have to drive about 5 hours to get home but my parents are aging/bad health so it isn't too crushing to drive.
Museum would be very comfy. I'm assuming it's very competitive so good luck anon. If you decide to do this please do 2 things for yourself:
1) Don't bunker for the 5 years and study. Make sure to live life during that time too.
2) Have a schedule for dad visits.
that's rough but I get it about it not being crushing drive.
I wont bunker up, im in a good relationship and have friends that have said they'll help or work around my schedule. There's always time for family.
Thank you for the advice friend
I hope the girl I'm trying frick this weekend doesn't have a gross vegana
I feel like I can't get over my ex gf. I just have this idea on my mind that she was perfect in every way but then I realize it's only a lie. She was just like every other prostitute out there.
8 years ended almost 2 years ago. We spoke a couple of times but it was always me who started the convos. I guess it's my fault for not seeing the red flags and kept going with her anyway. She ghosted previous bfs and even some sister and her own father. It was meant to be over, even if her words were different from her actions.
I feel like having a relationship is completly meaningless nowdays but at the same side I feel lonely, wanna share all my stuff, discover the world and finally raise a family with some perfect qt 3.13 that deep down I know it doesn't exist
enough fantasy. I'll just keep lifting the feels away
Give up on this fixation with perfection, no one is perfect, youre literally telling yourself you need something that doesn't exist - does that make sense, bro? You're gonna be miserable hiding out for "perfection", when "pretty good" might just change your whole life. Move on, forge new conquests, and accept the imperfection of yourself and others.
I drink too much
I get bored too much
I boredom eat too much
I boredom fap too much
The porn consumption is getting disturbing
I am living in a heap of my own trash and waste, the air quality in this room is probably unsanitary
I have two months before I go back to campus. Is there a way to get myself in serviceable order before then? I think I need to cool it on the porn and the boredom food. I'm going to try to go porn free for as long as I can. Ultimately I just want to hold a cute girl's hand but I'm aware of the mountain of trouble that I'm in for.
Drinking, eating, fapping alone is just pathetic when I imagine how much fun normal people like me have when they have friends and girlfriends.
I'm moving to a real city & joining a climbing gym soon. I have no idea how I should structure my workouts between lifting, running, and climbing now. I'm trying to go for a twunk body to get the fabled cosplay gf but I have no idea if it'll atually work out, but going from slightly chubby to "skinny with some noticeable muscle" has been enough to start getting me attention from women.
It's been a rough year boys. Maybe the roughest I've ever had. Finally, after so many months of sitting on my ass I've started trying to crawl out of the hole I'm in. I polished up my resume and have sent it out to a couple of open positions in my area. It would wreck what little pride I have left, but I might ask my dad if he knows anyone who can give me a job nearby.
If for nothing else, I hope that I've learned to never let myself sink this low again.
how low anon
I graduated and got hopelessly depressed. Packed my shit and moved out without telling anyone, lived in my car for a few months. Cut everyone off. Friends and family.
Eventually my family had enough of my shit and threatened to report my car stolen so I'd be arrested if I didn't clean up. It wasn't drugs though, I was just totally emotionally paralyzed, and I'd rather be homeless than a burden.
There threats got to me though, and I let them put me an an apartment somewhere. I've been here for six months now. Last month I started feeling better. Got into meditation. Got over a lot of bitterness I was harboring.
So now I'm trying to move on. Embarrassed, disappointed in myself. Hopefully it gets better.
I’ll have a kefir in an 8oz glass please.
Im in a weird state of mind, not sure if I’m schizo or just very skeptical. But I have this weird feeling that people are out to get me. Like they ask extremely personal questions and it is almost like they are trying to get a read on me. I don’t like it but I’m naturally talkative person so I fall for the bait each time. I only get this feeling because in the past few months I’ve really put my focus on maintaining eye contact with people and perhaps it’s just my own actions backfiring on me. Outside of my business(I earn yield on broken humans basically) I suffer from crippling loneliness. Haven’t had sex in 2 years, and contemplating on hitting up my ex from 4 years ago to see if she wants to frick. Very horny, gotta be honest here, but last I heard she turned gay. Most of my “friends” are finding their partners or starting families and I feel like a fricking loser. I just want to be a dad. I started bulking again, failed my summer cut so I’m just gonna get as massive as I can. Currently sitting at 26 y/o, 180, 5’9 1/2/3/4 for reps and hoping to reach 210 and hopefully add on .5plate to each of those by my 27th which is in a few months. Kefir has been my go to, and oddly enough is the only thing that brings a true smile to my face aside from gym. Anyways, not sure if I’m developing some kind of mental illness or whatever, but I guess I need to bring myself around more people in my own age group instead of these geriatrics. Perhaps I should start preparing for job interviews once my business becomes self sufficient around mid to late Q3. I’ve always wanted to be a software engineer at one of those gayman companies.
I fell horribly out of love with my gf, and I think she never was my type to begin with. My previous one was awful and I wanted something completely different, but now I seem to be stuck with a flabby-looking spineless insecure mess that just makes me tired to be around.
I should really end it, but she's a good person and I don't want to hurt her.
Just looking for the best time to break it to her, or at the end of the week, whatever comes first