erectile dysfunction at fucking 23

I'm 23, and i have been dating this girl for 3 months (first girlfriend ever). I really like her but i still haven't been able to have full sex with her because I can't keep an erection when i'm going in. My moronic penis stays hard during all the kissing and oral sex before, but then i put a condom on and and try to enter and it goes soft. I think it's an anxiety issue, since it would be my first time but i still can't overcome it. What could I do? Is there any over the counter stuff i could take to help? This shit is killing me inside, i feel like i can't complete my main biological duty as a man and I'm leaving my supportive gf unsatisfied. (I'm normal weight, lift at least 3 times a week and i haven't watched porn in 1 year)

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >but then i put a condom on
    There's your problem.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Pretty much this. Nothing is less hot than fumbling around opening a condom and putting it on.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      this anon is correct, why the FRICK would you use a condom lolz

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Start watching porn, have a wank, be normal, don’t listen to the fricking virgin moron shills on here

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Terrible advice.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/u89KUbu.jpg

      I'm 23, and i have been dating this girl for 3 months (first girlfriend ever). I really like her but i still haven't been able to have full sex with her because I can't keep an erection when i'm going in. My moronic penis stays hard during all the kissing and oral sex before, but then i put a condom on and and try to enter and it goes soft. I think it's an anxiety issue, since it would be my first time but i still can't overcome it. What could I do? Is there any over the counter stuff i could take to help? This shit is killing me inside, i feel like i can't complete my main biological duty as a man and I'm leaving my supportive gf unsatisfied. (I'm normal weight, lift at least 3 times a week and i haven't watched porn in 1 year)

      Don't listen to this moron. If you regularly watch porn, stop immediately

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      This is likely his problem. Stop jerking off and watching porn. When you feel yourself getting ready to bust, stop pull out and go down on her while you recollect yourself. The only thing worse than stopping mid thrust is thrusting indiscriminately and busting early. Don’t neglect for play so you can at least get her off first, so if you do bust early, she’s not left completely hanging.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      What a Hebraic post

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Is your dick big enough that the condom is squeezing the life out of it? Are you trying to have sex while drunk with a condom? Are you on SSRIs or similar medications? Are you not in good physical shape? If yes to any of these, that may be your problem.

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Listen, just go to one of those free services where you do a phone consultation and get a prescription for Viagra. You have an anxiety problem. You'll overcome it after you frick a few times. Get some viagra, make your dick like a Louisville slugger, frick the living hell out of your gf, and then after a little while try it out without the viagra. Spoiler alert: you won't need it anymore.

    Then take the viagra when you go to lift for better vascularity.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Cialis is much better than viagra. You can take 10mg on Friday and have much better, stronger boners through to monday

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Good advice. Finally got a girl that pushed for condoms and ran into a the same issue. Used one of these services, answered a few questions on an online form, and had some Cialis two days later. Now I could put on three condoms and still be good to go. Reasonably priced as well.

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    It's probably mostly anxiety, but condoms also choke my dick out and it's not even thick. The act of putting on a condom also adds to the anxiety and obviously it also reduces the sensitivity. First of all I would say just get some blue pills. This is just for ease of mind. Pop like half a pill, have normal sex, regain some confidence, then try it without help the next time. If that works there is probably nothing physically wrong with you, so that's nice to know, too. I don't think there is any otc stuff worth trying. Maybe L-Citrulline helps you but I would increase cardio, that should do the most in terms of erection quality, and also try to stay hydrated.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Listen, just go to one of those free services where you do a phone consultation and get a prescription for Viagra. You have an anxiety problem. You'll overcome it after you frick a few times. Get some viagra, make your dick like a Louisville slugger, frick the living hell out of your gf, and then after a little while try it out without the viagra. Spoiler alert: you won't need it anymore.

      Then take the viagra when you go to lift for better vascularity.

      thanks guys i'll look into it, even tho i'm irrationally scared of viagra side effects

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Cialis is better, it lasts longer

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Cialis is better, it lasts longer

        seconding cialis over viagra. it lasts longer and works better for me. no sketchy vision sides either (those are from cross reactivity with pde 6).

        icariin in horny goat weed is an OTC pde 5 inhibitor worth trying as well.

        https://nootropicsdepot.com/horny-goat-weed-capsules/

      • 1 year ago
        fuck every single last one of you

        See if you can find this.
        >be me
        >fricking don't eat hardly anything because i'm just not hungry (jetlag etc)
        >1000 calories per day, most of it probably beer
        >limpdick.jpg
        >aw frick never had this problem before, guess i crashed my T
        >find picrel in 7/11
        >I'm a grower not a shower but this shit keeps me half hard for three days, like a literal Black person
        This is WAYYY better than either Viagra or Cialis which is honestly a crapshoot IMHO
        If you can't find this, try getting Cordyceps and TRIBULUS TERRISTRIS, because those are the main ingredients.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        be careful and never take pills from anyone that isn't a doctor, they could be laced with Fentanyl and kill you.

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    That's God letting you know sex outside of marriage is a sin.

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I had this problem, turns out I was choking my dick with condoms and had to buy some online. Look up my.size or mister size, they do 64mm and 69mm condoms which are bigger than what you can get in stores

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Also, something to consider, although unlikely to be the main issue. Sometimes, if you really have to piss, your pens will have less sensation, and you'll have a hard time keeping it up. Make sure to piss first.

  9. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I remember being 15
    >getting hot and heavy with my gf
    >we decide this is the day we lose it together
    >try to put condom on
    >go soft
    >excuse myself to the bathroom
    >try to get hard, takes a while
    >finally do
    >manage to get it on, but lose half of my erection in doing so
    >take it off again
    >it breaks
    >go back to her room
    >"uh i guess it just doesn't feel right"

    Kek what a loser.
    A couple of weeks later we tried again, I think the trick is to get a hj or bj for a while until you fully realise
    >this IS happening, she is touching it, she's into it, we are gonna do it

    Also try getting her to wear one of those moronic female condoms, see if that helps the first time

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      > A couple of weeks later we tried again, I think the trick is to get a hj or bj for a while until you fully realise
      > this IS happening, she is touching it, she's into it, we are gonna do it

      I think you're on to something, you have to disassociate from your head voice and let your wiener voice takeover, live in the body

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        This.
        Tell her you want this to happen you're just too much in your head about it, but what really helps is when she does x and y.

        Let her take care of you for a while, stop giving a shot about whether she's enjoying it or getting tired, itll be her turn soon.
        Let her get you off like that a few times and your confidence issues will fix.

        We pretty much all went through this mate.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Get better fitting condoms.
        like said, let your wiener voice take over
        Finally, make the whole ordeal lighthearted and fun. You're going in with thoughts in the back of your mind like "oh shit I have to last long to make her cum" and that's just going to torpedo your libido. Protip: girls can cum multiple fricking times and even if you make her cum the first time you're gonna agonize over her cumming the second time and you still won't be able to bust which will bring HER down

        Also grab her hips and manhandle her a little bit. They love that shit.

  10. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    But also frick condoms, it quite literally never gets better.

    israeli invention probably.

  11. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    you heard it a million times, and here you have to read it again : stop watching porn.
    do it or dont you are only young once on this planet, keep watching the shit and stay with your issues or drop it and be normal man its that simple

  12. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Take KSM 66 (Ashwagandha).
    Gives me random boners all the time like a teenager.

  13. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Exactly the same thing hers. 22yo, got my first gf ever in november and been trying to frick her for 2months now with little sucess. I lose my boner the moment I put it on or get a half boner that goes soft once its inside her. If I don't jerk off for a week and am really horny I might last about 5-10 minutes before losing it.

    Make sure to blame it on the condom saying they suck. Finger bang her violently for 20minutes and leave her twitching in the bedroom after while you stand in front of the bathroom mirror flexing your superior forearm pump. My girl is going on the pill in 4 weeks and I won't jerk off 2 weeks prior. Will stop any degenerate /gif/ porn and violently bang her the coming month. God speed lad

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Remember anon that the pill women take needs at least a week to work.

  14. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I had ED issues because it's really cold in my house. I started to wear warm clothes and the issues dissapeared.

  15. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >guys I'm having trouble getting wood for my first time (stagefright that most young guys experience that first time)
    >np bro, just immediately start taking pills made for overweight 58 year old losers with shot endocrine systems

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      N-NO don't take something that works 100% and can fix your problem entirely

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Frick off and snack on your meds, loser.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          How about you snack on this DICK

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            then i would have to wait for your viagra to kick in you fricking loser

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              That anon can take a quarter of a pill, frick his slag and from then on there's a really good chance he will never need to take any viagra or cialis again. It's a one time thing.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        viagra can be very beneficial, i used to be an anxious mess and after a couple limp dick scenes with girls i started taking it. gained confidence, phased it out, havent taken it in years and i dont have a limp dick anymore. technology is there to be used (wisely).

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Viagra and tadalafil are great for heart health also and maintain your dick health forever. There is literally no reason not to take tadalafil.

  16. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Every night before bed, maybe after your shower, take all of your clothes off.
    Free your mind.
    Achieve a meditative state.
    Imagine a woman.
    Go through the motions of fricking her as if you’re actually trying to please her.
    This is the simplest, most effective trick you can try.
    There can be no feeling of shame or self consciousness in this act.
    You are an artist, practicing his craft.
    You are a master, practicing his form.
    You will gain sexual confidence very quickly.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You will know this process is working when you achieve a calm but steady state of arousal and control every time you do this. Don’t worry if you can’t get into it at first.

  17. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Do kettlebell Rus Swings and nofap for a month.

  18. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >I get really turned on during the natural lead-up to sex but then when I stop all momentum and stop all arousing activity to fumble around for a plastic package, rip it open, and hold up the entire process to put rubber on my dick, for some reason I'm not as turned on after this

    Honestly I never had this problem because I was always hypersensitive and got rock hard boners just from sitting on a couch with a girl knowing we were gonna touch, but now I'm 30 and this sort of shit will probs start happening soon. I've had one time a girl dead fished and killed my boner, and another time I lost a boner because somewhere mid-fricking I really just realized I didn't even like the girl and wasn't all that attracted to her but had become a tinder coomer banging any 7/10 or higher bawd who'd let me.

    Your dick can be weird and mentality plays a H U G E part in it, which is something I think a lot of younger guys don't appreciate. Plus the more pressure you feel the less it's gonna work, creating a shit anxiety cycle. Mentality affects your libido in general in a massive way.

    Haven't tried dick pills yet but they seem like something it'd be better to have and not need rather than need and not have, even though they're pretty expensive every time I've looked into them.

  19. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    If you're uncut you need to pull your foreskin back before putting the condom on.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      what really?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      No

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Dubs of truth, which dumb fricks here aren’t taking the hat off and complaining they can’t feel the sun on their scalp

  20. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    You gotta take your penis out the equation for a night. Finger her, eat her out, whatever, but never let her touch your dick. Hell, keep your pants on the entire time, pretend you're a eunich. Just no touch. If she reaches for it or asks for you to put it in, tell her she's not allowed to have it. b***hes love that shit.

    Get her off a few times, cuddle her, scratch her back. Make (you) what satisfies her anon. penetration can be treat for you after getting her off next time.

  21. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >This shit is killing me inside

    Ironically that's your problem, if you stopped caring you wouldnt have a problem staying hard
    T. Stopped caring whether the woman enjoys sex or not, not my problem, and what she thinks of me, if she doesnt like me her problem, and voila I have no problems getting and staying hard
    Stop pedestalizing women

  22. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Whatever you do DO NOT USE CIALIS/VIAGRA AS A CRUTCH, it will ruin you and your sex life and you'll feel the need to pop one every time from there onwards
    Work on your nerves and relax, don't be like me

    t. miserable pill addict

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >Whatever you do DO NOT USE CIALIS/VIAGRA AS A CRUTCH, it will ruin you and your sex life and you'll feel the need to pop one every time from there onwards
      For me at least using cialis for a few months gave me better erections off it.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah I'd like to keep that as very last resort, i don't really trust it

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >it will ruin you and your sex life
      Fricking liar. Cialis can be taken every day at a low dose with zero issues.

  23. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Before even thinking of touching meds, start REGULAR kegel exercise. Every day, normal AND invers kegels. It's our magic, but you'll have to stick with it. It's a muscle like all the others after all.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Sounds smart, where can i find a decent working routine?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        There are tons of apps for it. Some offer specific routines for sexual stamina. I'm using PFEI by Olson, but that's a paid one. I'm sure there are many free ones.

        My problem wasn't staying hard during sex, but I was an insta-shooter. I get so aroused during foreplay, I would come the second I put it in.

        The way kegels helped me was giving me the ability to stay hard after cumming. So I can shoot, and just keep going. And if I suppress ejaculation (also something kegels can help with), the girl doesn't even know I've already come once.

        Do your exercises every day (takes just a couple of minutes), and you will see the first results within two weeks. Then keep going and never stop (your super powers go away equally fast). Just knowing that you don't have to worry about it anymore might since your anxiety altogether.

  24. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Poor erections can be the first sign of cardiovascular disease. OP, describe the following:
    > Your height/weight
    > Cardio routine (type, duration, frequency)
    > How many portions of fruit and vegetables you consume in the average day

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      But i have normal erections when I'm alone or receiving an handjob and i did a heart exam this year and I'm 100% fine. Btw I'm 185 cm/78kg, don't do cardio (but lift 3-4 times/week) and eat plenty of vegetables and fruits (at least 3 portions/day)

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Basic heart exams only check the electrical conduction and listen for murmurs that would signal for obvious defects. They do not inspect for narrowing of coronary arteries (aka the cardiovascular disease that impairs erection quality).

        You don’t do any cardio and don’t eat enough vegetables (the minimum advice is 5 portions a day, that’s a minimum) congrats, you are on your way to a heart attack in your early 40s.

        If you otherwise get healthy erections then this is a psychological issue but ffs start doing cardio you manchild.

  25. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    i'm 22 and i can only get hard if i want to reproduce with the woman
    i could barely sustain a half chub for 9/10 hot as frick gym thots, meanwhile i was rock hard the entire time when i fricked an unironically high iq athletic specimen of a woman
    she had an average face and a slightly below average body but my brain and CAWK loved her
    it's all psychological

  26. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    1. Consistent cardio
    2. Try a bigger condom
    3. Try no condom at all

  27. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I got whiskey dick for the first time at 30 the other day, so i just waited until the morning and plowed her then. Have you tried getting a hot chick and fricking her?

  28. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Bros help me put please. How hard should be the soft glans of a dick compared to the shaft? It’s much softer in my case and I’m getting neurotic about it since I have realized it.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      oh no

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Mine is entirely soft. Not ideal but it doesn'r really make that much of a difference. If you give a shit why not use a wiener ring?

  29. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    maybe it's just not that sexy?

    for the life of me i could never actually do penetrative sex because i just didn't find it that hot. but once i started fricking in front of a mirror bateman style i had no issues.

    are you having the sex that you actually want to have?

    also sounds obvious but it helps if you don't jerk off the day of, and ideally the day before as well.

    but ultimately the best thing you can do is just stop caring about it so much. stop worrying about what you're SUPPOSED to do and just do what you WANT.

  30. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I just fricked my gf on her second day of her period, there was blood all over her legs and my dick and balls which honestly doesn't look or smell very good. I never lost my erection. The key is to not give a frick and instead of thinking about what you should be doing just do whatever you want and if she's a good one she'll get really horny when she sees you're pleased with her body.

  31. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Same bro shit is the worst feeling. I'm 20 and I've tried to frick 4 different women who I all found attractive but just couldn't get hard when the moment (penetration) arrived. I don't watch porn and I wasn't wearing a condom. Each time I just lied and said I was too tired and then I/they would leave and I'd feel depressed for like the next week. It just gets worse each time because I become increasingly worried about not being able to get hard which just makes me more nervous. Feels like such a waste of opportunity. And yeah the solution is to not think about it but it seems impossible to do, like if you're told to not think of an elephant or something. Anyway I'm probably gay.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >I don't watch porn
      You're probably asexual, I try to avoid porn as much as possible but if I'm not able to frick for awhile I have a fricking insane urge to see and jack off to naked women.

  32. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >be 17, first time with my gf, ate her out tons of times, done dry humoing n shit
    >Anxious af but horny too, have a raging boner
    >Put the condom on, dick starts shrinking
    >Try to enter her, but I can't get halfway in because I'm getting soft and she's too tight (she's anxious too)
    >Try this a few more times, always ends up the same
    Be fricking depressed and hate myself for it, break up with her a month later
    The same happened with my second gf, but we talked it through, she told me it was ok and I have nothing to worry about,
    I ditched the condom because it was choking the life out of my dick and was less anxious after talking it through and ended up finally fricking like an animal. And after that being able to go for 5 rounds a day.
    Communication is important, because it'll remove the anxiety and make you more comfy

  33. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Masturbation is a sin

  34. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    textbook performance anxiety. Usually the fix is talking it out with your partner/becoming more intimate. If you don't want to do that stack Maca with Damiana and I guarantee you will be too horny to care

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      does this work?
      t. just ordered some

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Damiana combined with catuaba and tongkat ali made me horny beyond belief. Also talk with your partner about what turns you on

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I'm taking low doses of both and went from being horny only after a week of no nutting to extremely horny everyday all the time regardless of nut status

  35. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Just take low dose tadalafil you moron.

  36. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Been at the same boat, it was 100% my porn addiction, tadalafil (viagra and its variants never did shit to me btw) helped get my confidence back, go for it, anon.

  37. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I know that feel man. When I used to have a gf it was 50/50, sometimes I could have regular sex sometimes not. I've tried many different things and nothing really worked. The times I did have normal sex I don't remember doing anything in particular.
    However what I can tell you for sure is that it's more than likely a mental problem. More specifically, you get in your head too much. You might be thinking about having sex that day, when would that happen, etc. I find that when I "expected" sex to happen I would have a harder time being hard, and when it "just happened" I did not have much problem. I think the anticipation kills your boner, and personally I know that if the foreplay is too long that kills my boner.
    I wish I could help you but I think the best you could do is just keep trying, when you get more comfortable with your gf you'll have easier time.

  38. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    try not having premarital sex. also it's probably an anxiety thing or heart problems, maybe both

  39. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    maybe ur gay
    have you considered you might not like girls homosexual

  40. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    5mg cialis or tadalafil a day is a very mild drug and works wonders for boners. I get no side effects except I’m ready at a moments notice to pound my GF and most of the time I can stay hard after cumming. The only danger of these drugs to me is how you’ll get addicted to super human performance

  41. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    It's an anxiety thing and will take care of itself. Your approach to her maybe is different to your approach towards sex. Maybe just try to frick her as you would like to and see how that goes.

  42. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    It's anxiety, I had a similar problem.
    What you want to do is give yourself a maximum ego boost, and this will get a bit autistic (it often does with me).

    Next, for the act itself. Lets prepare you.
    First of all, you are gonna be confident about the condom. Practice on yourself, take it out, rip the packaging, take it out, with minimum time lost you put it on and retain your erection by rubbing your wiener or squeezing it or whatever. She won't find it weird, she won't judge you, it's very natural.

    You do not fap or touch your dick for anything but 5 seconds of cleaning during showers and while pissing, for at least 3-5 days before.
    You do not watch anything like porn, lightly clad women, you are gonna be fricking pious, turn your head away from women if they are the slighted bit revealing. You are eventually gonna see your gf's ANKLE and you're gonna go into ooga booga breeding mode.
    On the day of the action, you're gonna do a hypertrophy workout that you finish with 2-5 minutes of cardio, preferably running that sends your blood racing.
    You're gonna look great, feel great, your blood circulation is gonna be great, and conjoined with the other steps you are finally ready.

    Now the final pill to take is, this girl is into you. She wants you, you want her, this is great. She will not care if it's awkward, if you fumble, if it isn't mindblowing, because this is your first time - who cares? Do you drift with a car the first time you drive after getting your license? No, you get a hang of it and learn what to turn, pull, squeeze, and that's completely fine.
    Don't be afraid to laugh, have fun, this is the most intimate thing you could ever do with another person, and she likes you enough to do it. Just ask regularly - what feels good, is this good, are you comfortable, do you want me to do anything in particular - and shower her with compliments.
    You're gonna do great, WAGMI.

  43. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Getting and staying hard is easy. My problem is busting massive loads way too early. So incredibly horny I can’t contain it. A few pumps and I’m done.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Just work on your refractory period. And work on the mental game of staying in it once you've blown the first round. Eventually you accept that you blow the first one quick and just keep going to number two.

  44. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I had massive anxiety and stress about sex when I was young. I tried viagra but didn't like the way it made my head feel. Cialis is a pretty decent fix and works on a longer timeline. After using it for a few weeks and getting used to sex with my long term gf at the time I was able to stop using it and just have normal sex. It's also easier if you can get to a place in the relationship where you don't need condoms. Then she can just slip you in with a hip wriggle and you're off to the races.

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