>go to gym
>20 mineuts in start feeling good, weight off my shoulders
>eventually make eye contact with girl that I think is cute, she smiles
>I look away and never look back
>start feeling depressed again, think about how I haven't had sex in 9 years and how I'm a broken man and a coward
>mood ruins, finish workout but not happy
I go to the gym every day, this happens about 4-5 times every week now for the past 3 years I have been going to the gym, especiallypast year since i got to 2 plate bench.. I don't have it in me to cold approach. It doesn't matter how I look or how rich I get, I will never make it simply beacuse I'm too much of a coward to approach a woman which is weird beacuse I fought a guy almost a foot taller than me(and won)over disrespecting me at a concert a year ago and I used to do crazy shit when I was young so it's weird that I choose approaching women as my phobia, I blame my mother.
just hire an escort if you're not an amerifat and get it over with. Your coom anxiety is going to fuck your entire life.
I don't have coom anxiety, if I got with a girl and came instantly I would just tell her to wait 20 mineuts, I have never been shy.. not approaching women is more of a cowardly than a shy act beacuse with cold approaches most people fail most of the time. I bascially just don't want to get rejected 20 times to get 1 date. Everyone I know got date from someone they knew from freinds and work and shit..
It's more important that we don't look the part and don't give people the satisfaction of looking down on us
I started a new job and I'm wondering if I should tell my coworkers I'm an incel if the topic of my love life ever comes up. I have been itching to just tell someone. I don't want advice, I just want to come out of the incel closet and tell someone. I know how gays feel now..
if you're socially anxious you are not an incel, if anything you're more of a volcel than incel unless you tried 100 times and got rejected every single time, in that case you would be an incel
I've never been rejected and honestly it just makes the rejection even more intimidating.
I've been rejected many times and let me tell you those gays who say it gets easier after being rejected are lying. It's never get easier.
I want you to do things to women like you want to get rejected on purpose. Go to them, pull their hair, talk in a strange language. Keep that frame and interact with girls.
Just say to them 'I wanna get drunk with you on an afternoon and then have messy, sweaty sex until we're dehydrated".
Women reject cowards. Otherwise they sooner or later give it up. Just ask. "Hey, I'd love to take you for a cup of coffee and see the sunset on a nearby hill. You free Saturday?". If she says no, let it go. When you meet her the next time ask again. And again. Until she says 'Yes'. Women are the real COOMERS, sooner or later she will agree. And even when she does, don't shrivel like a cock in a 10 degree lake. Do things, be carefree. Don't give a fuck about her.
>"Hey, I'd love to take you for a cup of coffee and see the sunset on a nearby hill. You free Saturday?".
Very cringe. Never do this.
I rarely approach but when I do it's usually when they are 9s and I got rejected which probably affected me on a psychological level. I am a human being and want companionship, volcels don't exist outside of Tibetan monestraries were people are meditation and connection with the divine on a daily basis. Every other sexless person is coping..
Also, if u cold approach u are going to get rejected most of the time no matter who u are. Cold approaches rarely work
>Every other sexless person is coping..
You could use to deal with your ego.
If you’re struggling with not having sex that is your problem but if others not having sex and being fine with it is a problem for you something else darker is goin on with you or you’re hiding something from us. (Reverse role playing your gender or sexual orientation)
>never had gf, never had girl fall asleep in my arms
>haven't had sex in 9 years
Of course something very dark has formulated within me. U have to lose a bit of ur humanity to cope and move foward with life..
>volcels don't exist outside of Tibetan monestraries were people are meditation and connection with the divine on a daily basis. Every other sexless person is coping..
There are asexuals
They aren't asexual, they just had several childhood trauma
>volcels don't exist outside of Tibetan monestraries
not true, i've rejected every single girl that approached me, even the ones i found attractive and with good personality, i just simply know that they would start annoying me after week or two together and i'd tell them to fuck off, socializing makes me tired and if i had a gf that i'd be seeing almost daily i'm pretty sure i'd lose my shit real quick
idk about the telling your coworkers part. Opening up to them and talking about it, if the topic ever gets brought up is fine I guess but don't use the term "incel". as a anon hiding their power level I would gringe and die a little inside if I heard someone use incel unironically irl. Most normies probably think of school shooters when they hear the term.
If anyone will do as long as they listen, maybe try epals
>hire an escort
same, i might have stopped looking like a pathetic gay but pathetic gay is still inside my brain no matter how i look
>I look away and never look back
you're supposed to smile back autist
I did before and I didn't know what to do after and it got awkward and I felt bad thinking that I am making the girl feel like I don't like her which is what I feel on a daily basis and I don't want to make others feel the same way.. I don't really have anything to say to them..
say hi the next time your paths cross and she doesn't have headphones in, then ask her about herself
>how's your day
>what's your name
>want to give me a spot?(even if you don't need a spotter)
talking to girls isn't hard, they love to talk about themselves
> I felt bad thinking that I am making the girl feel like I don't like her
Now I blame your mother too. You aren’t responsible for someone else’s feelings
I will add to this…she doesn’t need your cold approach. She gets approached constantly all the time. Even if she prefers you she just goes down the list after your out of the picture. You have absolutely nothing to feel bad about
I can't smile back, I can't show any emotions, I'm Mr. Tough Guy.
give em the ol eyebrow raise
>tfw I'm constantly introspective so I usually just straight up forget to smile at people so instead I just give them a dead, blank stare
>I've had people unironically tell me that I always look like I'm about to kill someone
>volcels don't exist outside of Tibetan monestraries
I wouldn't call myself a "volcel" really but I have never approached a woman at all in my 30 years of life. 90% of the time I simply do not think about asking women out or any shit like that at all. When I do, I find it so confusing and alien that it makes me uncomfortable and I stop thinking about it pretty quickly.
I literally (as in, actually literally) cannot even really imagine how it's supposed to work. Like, you talk to some person and ask them out? I don't want people talking to me for any reason at all. If someone talks to me outside of work or something it freaks me the fuck out and I just want them to go away ASAP.
jebus fucking crust, now I feel like a schizoid.. is this shit meant to be broadly applicable like zodiac signs?
Do a test cycle you retard. If you’re that despondent about it what do you have to lose?
If I can't have kids I will an hero on the spot. I always wanted a family. I am willing to go on a cycle when after I have kids..
I hope so, I would feel better if that's the case
make eye contact with girl that I think is cute, she smiles
this is wherre youre wrong. she didnt smile youre just narcissistic
>I fought a guy almost a foot taller than me(and won)over disrespecting me at a concert a year ago
i love manlets so much
If only we loved ourselves..
I literally can't imagine how other people live their lives. I just assume everyone is an incel like me cuz that's all I know, even the 6'4 Chad's and 9/10 Becky's. They come in the gym alone all the time and l can't imagine why..
All this time Guts was high af, there was no eclipse or demons n shit, he gets his cocaine from a drug cartel called The God Hand run by a drug lord called Griffith who raped his girlfriend Casca while he was having an overdose.
His sword is actually just a big machete and "Guts" is just short for Gustavo.
Either nofap or try beating off only before bed so you have increased testosterone all day.
I do no fap regularly. Helps with a LOT but never gives me enough courage to cold approach girls at the gym
Ye so just casually say it and pretend like it's not a big deal in my life? On second thought probably better to not say anything honestly..
If u say that in the right tone of voice it might just work. I know if I tired saying it I could keep a straight face..
Bro you can't lift these feels
But Jesus can lift all those feels
Brother we shall all be healed
Are church sloots easy lays?
There is no point in referring to God as "jesus"
op here is why you don't have to worry. im going to a rich boomer gym with little to no thots the last 3 years. I broke up with my bpd gf in october and i felt really depressed since then. today i tried to switch gyms and i went to the famous one near a uni.
Im 30 now and i wanted to see if i 'still got it' and boy not only i still have the gains but i mog every zoomer i saw there, it was all in my head. your mindset is what is killing you. the void of you that you are dry for the last 9 years. don't let that hold you down and fight harder each day. start by saying hi to the girl that smiles at you, keep it simple and ask her for a coffee or something.
I also realized that i was a volcel all this time. If you want to get out of your rut do this:
2. go out more. if you are younger than 25 try clubbing.
3.post on insta more(normie shit but game is game.
4.get a haircut
5.no fap(don't get triggered but it works)
I already do no fap, it's not strong enough to overcome 9 years of inceldom
I did that before and idk what to do after I say hi and they smile. Like they obviously were receptive and I still fucked up cuz I just didn't know what to say
Me 2, get used to it..
Bro you don't have to "cold approach" just literally say hi and start conversation like you would with anyone else. The way you've conceptualized approaching a girl you think is hot makes you see it as very different from approaching anyone else. It is not very different, in fact it is basically the same when you first start to interact.
Things like duration of eye contact, posture, gestures, speech patterns, and facial expressions will communicate your sexual intentions without either of you being aware. Literally just talk to them like normal, your biology will do the rest.
>get scared at womem of my own age at the streets
>always avoid looking at them or move myself far from them until i am sure i won’t touch them on accident
I’m tired of being afraid of women. I’m so fucking tired of being retarded socially