FEELS BAR

It´s Sunday. The feels bar is open. Come on in, what can I get you anon? What´s on your mind?

  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    gay general

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      some people need space to vent their problems and insecurities. I´m happy for you if you have a life you are happy with, bur many anons do not.
      >t. massive gay that wants to help anons

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        discord or reddit might be the place for you my friend.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Get the fuck outahere this a fag bar you fatherfucker cocksucker huh

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Sodomite poster

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      unironically, this is one of the few regular threads i enjoy on IST even if it is a sneedfest. giving some life advice to the younger guys going through it is always worthwhile.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Feelings are for women.
        Life is meant to be suffering. Embrace it you pussies

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          dumb and gay. gayest thing ive read in a while actually. gayer than monkeypox even

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You know i'm right.
            We are approaching hard times. You will get filtered or you will survive

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              no. i can do both. you are gay

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Both what?
                They're mutually exclusive

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                nta but shhhhh. Its okay pal, youll get out of this angry phase someday. Keep your chin up !

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Im unsure which program i should do now
    SHould i move on from nsuns to texas method

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      It depends. It depends on your objectives, on the amount of time you will spend at the gym in a week, on how well you recover, etc.
      IMO texas method is more "fun" but im too much of a pussy to 1RM so I´m very biased

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I mean nsuns currently has me doing 9 sets of each compound lift
        Which on most days is 3 compound lifts a 9 sets with varyying weights
        And im on a cut currently, i recover good mostly
        Although i just saw PHUL.... i feel confused...

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          The best advice I can give is the following:
          Changing programs every once in a while is the best way to jumpstart progress.
          Maybe changing programs and volume and accesories might help

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I think ill do that yeah, its been around 7 months now and ive lost over 5kg
            Still skinnyfat af but im getting demotivated by my strength los

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      conjugate

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >drinking on a sunday
    My feels are not that bad tbh

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I think I'm becoming bitter because I crave a relationship but ran away from it my entire early 20s. now I feel like I'm a lost cause even though I'm in the best shape of my life.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      same im 31

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I'm in a similare situation.

        It's never too late if you're willing to try, except a lot of rejection tho.
        Do not quit without trying properly first.

        Godspeed anons. WAGMI

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I'm in a similare situation.

      It's never too late if you're willing to try, except a lot of rejection tho.
      Do not quit without trying properly first.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      maybe ponder on why you are so afraid of closeness with others, why are you so afraid of forming a relationship and loving an other.
      Are you carrying past trauma from childhood?
      Most of us, if not all, are. Try your best and keep your head up.
      Can ypu not trust? Are you afraid of fucking up?
      Trust and open yourself to love. Most first relationships (and even second, third or fourth) don´t work out, but the most important thing is you can learn to love an other and yourself. We all fuck up.
      I hope the best comes your way anon, I truly do.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        haha the entirety of my childhood was spent in domestic violence and mental trauma but everyone outside was surprised since I never let that show. being the good student and charming normal social kid I maintained as my mask. the moment I hit 20 something inside snapped and I stopped making friends and being social altogether, never even knew I was capable of this .. any who I truly appreciate your genuine answer anon and I hope nothing but the best for you as well!

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I understand your situation anon. My childhood was similar in the sense that I was always a great student who never showed my anguish, but my house was hell. Both parents though they never hit me, never showed an ounce of support and unconditional love, so I grew into a people pleaser and a high performing individual.
          got into 2 longish relationships were I was a doormat to "abusive" partners.
          The point I was going to make but lost track of is that it takes time. It takes time and it takes help. The best thing I could do these last years was start therapy, and also keeping a journal. Wounds might never heal, but you can recognize the wounds and work enough to keep them clean if that makes sense. It takes time, and it breaks your heart, but everything gets better if you want it to and work as hard as you can.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I think I'm becoming bitter because I crave a relationship but ran away from it my entire early 20s. now I feel like I'm a lost cause even though I'm in the best shape of my life.

            I am sorry you had a shitty childhood too anon. but I'm seeing where you're coming from. I went to therapy once in college and the PhD student they attached to my file transferred the case to her supervisor the head of the department lol I skipped all my sessions after that.

            I see your point about time taking its own pace and understand that. I'm just too good at giving myself reasons to not make big changes but recognize they need to be made at the same time.

            I'll keep trying and maybe soon enough results start appearing.

            ps:, I just fucking hate the people pleasing aspect of my personality too. this default mode is the worst.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              Holy shit intellectualizing everything is probably one of the worst, it keeps you from making any progress.

              In my case, it helped me justify abusive behaviours of parents and partners, and also kept me from going inside myself.

              Everything had a cause, and I knew every cause and every consequence, so there was nothing left to discover about myself and others. It helped me to stop making progress.

              Typing all of this made me tear up a little bit. I hope you and all other anons the best in order to heal.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                bro. I'm on my phone or I would have typed a fucking blog post on self justification on the exact same lines as you. Preach!! How the ever loving fuck is this never addressed elsewhere?

                I've educated myself on self help, psychology and human brain in a desperate attempt to 'fix' myself. I dunno why but I gravitate towards these topics in books, podcasts and research blogs. Whether this is my subconscious trying to self heal I dunno. The logical part of my brain is eerily accustomed to equating correlation with causation. Some days I could give sound advice to another person but never come to implement it myself. Even though I know the "process" and also the struggles that come along with taking the first step and then the next and then the next...

                Thanks for the kind words anon, I wish the same for you as well!

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                I´m actually amazed at how similar our experiences might be, even with everything you said you gravitate towards.

                I would like to recommend a book, a podcast, and maybe a hobby:

                This jungian life podcast has been a true lifesaver to me. Everyhting discussed is done so very professionally and every single episode has a nugget of wisdom.

                The body keeps the score is a fantastic book on trauma and its effects on us.

                Drawing, photography, writing, any other hobby related to producing art in some kind of fashion is liberating. There is something magical about a craft that permits different insights on reality and our world

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                >body keeps the score
                does this book explain how to escape trauma? i got like 30 pages in and it just talked about how trauma gets established

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Yes it does. It provides some helpful things one can do as an alternative to drugs mainly and as a complement to speaking therapy

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Thank you for these recommendations. I'm very happy to see names I've not heard before and I've gone ahead and subscribed to the podcast right now. The book I'll definitely get a Kindle version tomorrow.

                To reciprocate a bit, if you haven't heard before, try the episode on procrastination on a podcast called "ologies". I subscribe to mostly linear podcasts rather than conversational ones but I liked this one. Others like "speaking of psychology" and the first two sessions of Nike's "trained" were amazing. The new host isn't that good but all very actionable advice in those!

                Book: The Midnight Library (if you haven't read) - about a girl who commits suicide and gets trapped in a library between life and death. Every book within provides a chance to try another life she could have lived. To see how things would be if she had made other choices.

                It shifts perspectives for sure and brought me brought me out of a rut earlier this year.

                I was pretty damn good at painting until like 8th grade and then I dropped it completely, maybe it's time to try it yet again. Appreciate the words of advice anon.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                I appreciate your recommendations anon, will make sure to check them out, specially the book intrigues me very much

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Fuck. Are you me?

            I can rationalise all of the above but how do you REALLY move on? Find self worth, avoid one sided relationships, stand up for yourself? How do you talk yourself into acting opposite to your programming?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I'm not bitter but i feel the lack of experience fucked me over bad, i feel i could never be with a woman in her mid/late 20's knowing she's been through a plethora of different relationships, that sort of imbalance is something i could never accept.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        So what you are gonna stay alone forever because of that lack of experience? It's just another hurdle to pass dude.
        I was in your boat spouting the same shit 2 months ago. Then I randomly met a qt and hit it off. Turns out making out, fucking and all that is really not hard. It didn't work out with this chick and me being a clueless retard might have contributed, but at the end of the day I gained experience. I swear the moment we first kissed all of this insecurity just melted away. I know I'm enough. And chances are you are enough. The only thing standing in your way is that insecurity and there is no way to beat it except getting out of your comfort zone.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >I know I'm enough.
          Chadpilled.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    My lifts are slowly going up again after being sick.
    I'm also fight back on my porn addiction.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Girl who's a friend of many of my friends really likes me. She even got my number from them and messaged me at 5am one time. I don't find her particularly attractive and think it's kind of akward how she knows a lot of my friends but I know that I'll regret missing on the opportunity of free pussy if I don't take it but I'll probably regret taking it too.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Also I'm in a LDR so I would technically be cheating. Even tho gf has been really bitchy and pissy lately for no reaso I love her and wouldn't want to let her go but also fuck man I'm horny and feel like I'm missing out a lot

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        don't do it anon, yes LDRs are said to rarely if ever work but don't be the cheater, rather break it apart first than be scum

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Girl who's a friend of many of my friends really likes me. She even got my number from them and messaged me at 5am one time. I don't find her particularly attractive and think it's kind of akward how she knows a lot of my friends but I know that I'll regret missing on the opportunity of free pussy if I don't take it but I'll probably regret taking it too.

        Don't do it. Pussy isn't a magic grail. Just jerk off and get yourself some clarity. It's not worth it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Don't be a pussy bro, live. Fuck the tradpilling going on these incel infested boards, have fun.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        honestly, what is with that crap? why is this trad shit being pushed by losers so hard?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Losers with no social life and no romantic/sexual experience fetishize a lifestyle where they suddenly wouldn't be losers anymore. A fictional virgin tradwife won't laugh in your face when she finds out you are a virgin at 30

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            absolutely pathetic. would rather everyone be miserable instead of just growing a fucking spine.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Because incels can kid themselves that their current lifestyle is only one short leap away from the "superior" "trad" arrangement.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Only you can answer this anon, but honestly weight what you have to gain against what you have to lose, and then err on the side of change and growth.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >25
    >35k in the bank
    >degree in env sci and cert in GIS
    >working as a surveyor the past year
    i don’t know how to progress in this career sector. can’t find a place that will hire for GIS or give experience. there’s so many different routes to take for a job and i feel lost. id be happy just making 80k a year.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Do you have to stay in that sector? Look for other jobs and apply for the hell of it. See what happens. That's what I did. I haven't used my degree in years.

      https://i.imgur.com/PlsU0pX.jpg

      I haven't posted an update on this in over 5 months and there's no way anyone remembers the rantings of one random gay out of hundreds from these threads, but I may as well give an update regardless. I had a crush on this girl in my architecture program, but I didn't want to ask her out because 1) I'm a pussy and I have no experience doing that, and 2) if she turned me down it would be awkward for both me and her to have to spend 2 more years together in the same program (it's a very small program, under 20 people, I'd be seeing her multiple times a day every day). From my perspective all the signs seemed to be there that she was into me: she'd regularly come over to my desk for no reason just to chat and would always compliment my models and drawings. She seemed genuinely engaged in our conversations in a way that I'd never seen from a girl. I had high hopes.
      Anyways, thanks to a handful of anons being very helpful and encouraging I eventually worked up the courage to ask her out. All I did was ask if she wanted to grab a coffee. To be honest she have not even recognized I intended it to be a date, all I said was "hey if you aren't busy want to grab a coffee". She gave me an immediate "no thanks". I'm still coping by telling myself that she was just busy, because it was just under 2 weeks until our big final review and she may have needed the time to finish her project, but deep down I know that isn't likely. I've been dreading the beginning of this semester because I've barely seen or talked to her since that day, but in the back of my mind I knew I wanted to see her again. I've been hoping that she forgot and that I'm blowing this way out of proportion.
      I get to class and she isn't there. I learned a bit later that she had transferred to different, much better program at a better school across the state. So I guess my worries never really mattered all along, haha. Thanks to everyone who gave me advice if you're still out there. gay out.

      If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be man. Honestly this is so much better than you pining after her for a whole semester or years on end. I don't care what people say, it's always, ALWAYS best to make your intentions clear and then move on if she doesn't reciprocate.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Census Bureau

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've had enough of IST
    I've had enough of porn
    I've had enough of goyslop

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I wish some power mod could ban me from here. I hate my IST addiction

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Ey

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      The video is unavailable

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    2 shots of burb 2 putins, and a chaser of nig Plz

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I feel so lonely, another girl fell through and it feels like I'm destined to be alone

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      destiny doesn’t exist lol
      keep at it

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Death is you're destiny, eventually, now what do you want to drink

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          yes
          a chubby mary

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            We only serf thicc Maries take it or leave it pall

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Spit in the face of destiny and keep pushing on. That's what I'm doing.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      The system has strongly weaponized your natural desire to breed against you. Control your biology. The loneliness is an illusion. Stay strong.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I haven't posted an update on this in over 5 months and there's no way anyone remembers the rantings of one random gay out of hundreds from these threads, but I may as well give an update regardless. I had a crush on this girl in my architecture program, but I didn't want to ask her out because 1) I'm a pussy and I have no experience doing that, and 2) if she turned me down it would be awkward for both me and her to have to spend 2 more years together in the same program (it's a very small program, under 20 people, I'd be seeing her multiple times a day every day). From my perspective all the signs seemed to be there that she was into me: she'd regularly come over to my desk for no reason just to chat and would always compliment my models and drawings. She seemed genuinely engaged in our conversations in a way that I'd never seen from a girl. I had high hopes.
    Anyways, thanks to a handful of anons being very helpful and encouraging I eventually worked up the courage to ask her out. All I did was ask if she wanted to grab a coffee. To be honest she have not even recognized I intended it to be a date, all I said was "hey if you aren't busy want to grab a coffee". She gave me an immediate "no thanks". I'm still coping by telling myself that she was just busy, because it was just under 2 weeks until our big final review and she may have needed the time to finish her project, but deep down I know that isn't likely. I've been dreading the beginning of this semester because I've barely seen or talked to her since that day, but in the back of my mind I knew I wanted to see her again. I've been hoping that she forgot and that I'm blowing this way out of proportion.
    I get to class and she isn't there. I learned a bit later that she had transferred to different, much better program at a better school across the state. So I guess my worries never really mattered all along, haha. Thanks to everyone who gave me advice if you're still out there. gay out.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      🙁

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Hahahahaha

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      not everyone will like you and you don't know whether anyone will like you until you ask everyone on earth. so don't worry in the long run as long as you keep making efforts.

      https://i.imgur.com/t2uFXlA.jpg

      It´s Sunday. The feels bar is open. Come on in, what can I get you anon? What´s on your mind?

      I don't drink, thanks.
      But I will tell you that I am going back to school and there is a woman there whom I consider to be perfect in personality. She's very smart, witty, and likes to tease. The conversation is great too. She has been in a long term relationship with a someone with a white collar job whom she seems to love very much. I am tortured seeing her in class.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      At least you had the balls to ask, that's more than most people.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Despite how you may feel, this is still far, far better than chickening out and never knowing what could have been.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        This is what I kept telling myself in the days leading up to asking her (I neglected to mention that I pussied out on two former occasions). I just have to learn to rip the band aid off I guess.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >no thanks
      can't even cope around this, this is the most fuck off response ever lol.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        SHUT UP SHUT UP
        WHY DID I COME BACK TO THIS THREAD

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        https://i.imgur.com/KVq9yR7.jpg

        SHUT UP SHUT UP
        WHY DID I COME BACK TO THIS THREAD

        > needing to cope a simple "no thanks"

        Jesus Christ, put suicide prevention on speed dial. How do you continue living when people *actually* want to hurt you??

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      glad you got it out anon. hard to feel like my life isn't slipping between my fingers sometimes when I never shoot my shots

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Are you me?
      >small program
      >meet her early on and we get along as if we've known each other for years
      >we talk a lot, she even gets touchy when we barely know each other
      >develop feels after a couple months
      >can't bring myself to tell her because if rejected it's over and I'd be miserable seeing her every day, and she's the only person I get along with well on the program
      >fall for her hard, finally talk to her at the end of the year
      >she doesn't feel the same, but 'still wants to be friends'
      >says some more shit, I know it's cliche lines but at the same time she seemed genuine about it and we'd been like glue for the past year on the program so I thought maybe she's being honest
      >was supposed to hang out with her and some others from the program a while later
      >text her to see if she's still up for it
      >she's going on a week-long trip but will get back to me when she gets home
      >that was 2 months ago
      Kek, I spent half the summer trying to cope with missing her and feeling like shit. I felt like I'd been manipulated seeing as how she gave zero fucks now that we're on break, but just a couple days before the last time we met we were all good, messing around, laughing, being more physical than ever, fuck man, whatever.

      Anyway, as opposed to yours I know I'll be seeing her again soon for one of the courses, but not as often as before. I felt like you did with not wanting to see her but really, deep down, I wanted nothing more than that, and I kept going back and forward trying to convince myself. It took two months to genuinely feel like I'll be fine with not talking to her again. I'm sure it'll still hurt when I see her, and I'm still not sure what to do if she tries to talk to me. There's no way she does, right? How could you talk to someone after you blew them off like this? I'm not going to seek her out, and I think if she talks to me I'll just give curt replies and not look at her like a sperg.

      At least this experience gave me self-improoovment fuel.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Your mistake was not cutting all contact the moment she made it clear that she doesn't have feelings for you. Obviously you'd still have to see her in the future but that should be kept just to the necessary niceties. Appreciate the fact that she was honest and didn't lead you on and just forget about it. Easier said than done, but what else is there to do.

        I'm actually in a very similar situation. Don't wanna get into details but the the story is extremely similar up to the point I told her about my feelings. The difference is she didn't totally blow me off. She said that she doesn't feel the same way yet, but definitely feels something they she can't specify. I even told her straight up that all she needs to do is say one word and this conversation is never coming back, and she refused to say it. So no declarations of anything, but 'we need to work on it', though when I asked her later what she means by that she said that she hasn't even thought about it. Don't really know how to proceed with this. One thing is for sure, I'm not getting myself into some emotional limbo situation, so if there won't be any sense of 'progression' towards some clarity or any attempt from her to sort it out it, then I'm gonna tell her that it doesn't make sense. It would suck ending this chance completely but that feels better waiting like an idiot for "of yeah so I actually feel nothing lol" or for her to ghost me or something

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Your mistake was not cutting all contact the moment she made it clear that she doesn't have feelings for you.
          Funnily enough that's what I told her when she said we should still be friends and hang out. I said I didn't think that was a good idea, but she kept going. I knew it would be for the best, but at the same time, she's the one fucking person I get along with on the program, and it's been years since I've met someone I felt like I clicked with like this, even before I caught feels for her I felt like that. I haven't had contact since her last text two months ago. As for her being honest, well, she was honest in the rejection, but not the bullshit friends talk after. And what really hurts is that none of it mattered to her, being friends or whatever. I guess it's just karma, I've been on the other end of this before. It's even worse when you know how little of a fuck you gave about some girl, and then to think that's how the girl you got oneitis for feels about you.
          Even worse in all this, I met a few other girls that were great and talked really well with, but this one was stuck in my head so I never went further with the others, never really sought them out to talk more even though I could have. Lesson learned.

          >though when I asked her later what she means by that she said that she hasn't even thought about it
          She doesn't think about you at all, same as mine. We don't even cross their minds.
          She might be scared of hurting your feelings by cutting you off hard. You're the one that's gonna have to decide to either stick around and hope she changes (while she possibly parties and fucks with Chads), or say nice knowing you cya.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >she was honest in the rejection, but not the bullshit friends talk after
            What was dishonest about that talk? Sounds like at least in your situation it was clear, she's up for friendship and nothing more. Whether you actually want to stay friends is up to you in the end, personally I wouldn't do it obviously.
            >She doesn't think about you at all, same as mine. We don't even cross their minds. She might be scared of hurting your feelings by cutting you off hard
            I did consider this possibility. I've had it with girls before where they for whatever reason just can't straight up tell you 'no', but wait for you to do it for them. Which is why my plan is basically what I typed in the previous post. I'm not going to stay in this situation for long unless I'll actually feel like it's going somewhere. One thing I definitely care about is not feeling like an idiot myself, but if there's still some doubt between us right now for no reason then it's her fault, not mine. So at least I won't feel like it was me who fucked up the situation.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              >What was dishonest about that talk? Sounds like at least in your situation it was clear, she's up for friendship and nothing more.
              The fact that I texted her to meet up with the others and she never got back to me even though she wrote she would. When we spoke in person, she was the one who talked first about being friends and hanging out together, and then I said that I wasn't sure that's a good idea, and she kept going saying no we should be etc. She had an out, she could have agreed. But she didn't, and then basically ghosted me later.
              It's fine, I'm more or less over it. I still want her, obviously, but I don't wake up feeling like utter shit any more. I wish I'd never caught feels, really liked her platonically as a friend. What a shame.

              Your plan is what exactly? You wrote you're waiting to see what happens, if she says something. That's limbo.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Well, yeah, I guess that is kind of a bitch move. So it could be that in your case she also meant something else than she said, because she basically wanted you out of your life at that point but wanted to soften it up with the ‘let's stay friends talk’, hoping that you wouldn't take the chance.

                My plan is definitely not to just wait for her to say something or randomly change her mind. We'll see each other again soon and I'll ask her to hang out together in some way. If she doesn't agree, well then obviously it's over. If she does, then I'll basically tell her that we need to set some terms on how this is gonna work, and again if it won't be possible to get some reasonable agreement on what we can do over time to clarify our feelings then it's also over that very moment. I’m pretty sure my thinking about this is autistic as fuck and women generally just don’t clarify their feelings very often, but I don’t really give a shit.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                >because she basically wanted you out of your life at that point but wanted to soften it up with the ‘let's stay friends talk’, hoping that you wouldn't take the chance.
                Which is what's so fucked, things were great between us, the day before last that we saw each other was probably the best time I'd had with her. And now it's all ogre. I really don't want to fucking see her and be reminded.

                Good luck with that, sooner you figure shit out the quicker you can notice other girls.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                women are expert liars
                men can not compete without serious education and experience in order to catch the lie when its utterd

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Agreed. They know how to lie and manipulate in ways that we have to consciously learn. And then even when you get to a point when you can recognize it, what's the correct way to respond? Shit's fucked and shit's tiresome.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          You're already in the same spot as the previous two you just don't know it. She's too nice to say it to you. Girls are wack like that.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      M8, don't fool yourself, she wasn't interested that much or she cooled off with time. But also don't feel down, she probably had personal stuff going on due to the move so she wasn't ready for something.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Got approached by a cute girl for the first time ever, IST. I'm over the moon. Spilled my spaghetti a bit but got her name. Hopefully will see her again.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      get that ass anon! good luck. also trim your pubes now.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I still can't get over my high school oneitis and I'm 27

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      wtf is a oneitis? first crush?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, basically, a girl you focus on so much you lose interest in other girls
        Sorry for the late reply, I'm drinking to forget

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i hate working and interacting with people but my job pays me too much to quit - especially now that i have a normie wife and 2nd baby on the way. lifting helps but what do bros?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous
      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        i can't. any opportunity cost to learn a new skill to make more doesn't make sense when i do the math. i think i'm stuck.

        >i have a normie wife and 2nd baby on the way
        just fuck off. fuck you.

        she's not white if that helps with you being an insufferable gay.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          is she at least a latina?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >i have a normie wife and 2nd baby on the way
      just fuck off. fuck you.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Im waiting for monday so i can call my new gyno and ask why despite having problems with this ovarian cyst for close to a year she wants to watch and wait. I dont think its going away and oral contraceptives arent recommended for treatment which is all i was given.

    I feel like i have an alien egg inside of me sapping my gains and i want it fucking out asap.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      you know the rulez bby

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Post pussy hole

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Get a new gyno, goddamn. Watch and wait my ass. If an anon had a cyst on his balls he wouldn't wait and watch.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Havent had sex in close to 5 years now
    Fuck

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      ive never had sex, count your lucky stars

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    started an SSRI 1 week ago my dick is dead. Tugged on it for 30 minutes earlier and didnt come close to cooming. not even slightly. whenever it feels like a climax is coming I get really winded and feel really light all over. its an overwhelming feeling in a bad way. not enjoyable its stressful

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Update: managed to coom. Took 30 minutes of extreme focus. Cant be bothered doing that again it took too much effort

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >be me, completely content by myself
    >girl takes interest in and starts pursuing me
    >go on date with girl
    >slowly start developing an obsessive crush
    >at the same time become sceptical because why me?
    >girl rejects me after 1 or 2 dates
    >spent weeks thinking about ‘what if’ and daydreaming different scenario’s
    >finally get over it
    >next girl comes and does the same thing

    yes i have mild autism, no i do not want to suffer through this anymore. i know it’s a me problem, as this exact scenario has happened 5 times in the past 2 years. they like me enough to make the first move, but then realize I am weird? I wish i had someone who could spectate me and tell me what i am doing wrong. i think it’s the price i pay for being 22yo and inexperienced, i kissed 2 out of 5 but nothing past that.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Same here, girls sort of stick around for a bit but then dip when they realise im weird. The curse of being attractive enough to encapsulate a girl sometimes but then they realise its beyond working when they sniff out our autism

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        https://i.imgur.com/0MPU5SI.jpg

        >be me, completely content by myself
        >girl takes interest in and starts pursuing me
        >go on date with girl
        >slowly start developing an obsessive crush
        >at the same time become sceptical because why me?
        >girl rejects me after 1 or 2 dates
        >spent weeks thinking about ‘what if’ and daydreaming different scenario’s
        >finally get over it
        >next girl comes and does the same thing

        yes i have mild autism, no i do not want to suffer through this anymore. i know it’s a me problem, as this exact scenario has happened 5 times in the past 2 years. they like me enough to make the first move, but then realize I am weird? I wish i had someone who could spectate me and tell me what i am doing wrong. i think it’s the price i pay for being 22yo and inexperienced, i kissed 2 out of 5 but nothing past that.

        Are you guys me? Its the same for me maybe im boring after the inital phase no idea

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I usually get like 2 fucks in and then they leave because I’m weird and don’t say a whole lot

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Saem thing im always so good in bed t hey tend to stay longer then they try to get to know me better and..leave

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah man, life of the autistic Chad

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              I wish i was a chad anon...

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                You already are dude, give your balls a tug and start acting like it

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        i guess in a way we are blessed to be attractive enough that girls make the first move. it will happen more the more we keep lifting too. but fumbling the bag when it’s handed to you on a silver platter feels so fucking bad. i take solace knowing there is probably atleast one girl out there who will accept our autistic side. got to remain hopeful somehow.

        [...]
        Are you guys me? Its the same for me maybe im boring after the inital phase no idea

        If it makes you feel any better, I do the same thing, am 2 years older than you, have less dating experience, and have not kissed or had sex with any of the women I've dated. Shit sucks man.

        it does suck but i am glad to see i am not alone in this. we probably wouldn’t be happy with those women anyway but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >we probably wouldn’t be happy with those women anyway
          Probably, maybe...i do long for a relationship tho

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            i do too anon. at the same time i have gotten so comfortable and independent alone. I like the dating dynamic and can handle it, but a proper relationship would be hard to adjust to. i have high standards because i want what’s best for myself, i am not settling for anyone but my future wife.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      If it makes you feel any better, I do the same thing, am 2 years older than you, have less dating experience, and have not kissed or had sex with any of the women I've dated. Shit sucks man.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >be depressed
    >rely on coffee and sugar to feel alive
    >coffee needed for motivation but it ruins my sleep and energy
    >sugar makes me fat
    >try to quit one and it feels like I'm fucking dying
    >stuck in the cycle of constantly trying to quit, giving up, repeat
    I guess this is an addiction, right?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      try nicotine

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Former oneitis is still going out of her way to hang out with me, but I find her really annoying and feel like a chump while around her. I feel bad about repeatedly blowing her off. What do?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Fuck man. I don't know.
      I was in a similar situation and I blew it big time. Wasn't oneitis, but she wanted to date me. We were "friends" but never actually hung out outside of college classes. I never told her to fuck off because was a cool enough person, but not someone I wanted to date, and she never actually asked me or or anything.
      Long story short I got a girlfriend and she threatened to kill herself. Not like, I'd made her suicidal, but by me choosing someone who wasn't her she was suicidal.
      Is this why she told me about her failed past relationships? Was it a thread?

      I dunno man. You can't exactly tell her to fuck off, but I'm not sure what the better response would be if she's not taking the hint.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        *a threat
        Like, in hindsight she said things like "I just disappear when people reject me." so was that her saying "You're responsible if I hurt myself." or "You're responsible for taking care of me?"

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        *a threat
        Like, in hindsight she said things like "I just disappear when people reject me." so was that her saying "You're responsible if I hurt myself." or "You're responsible for taking care of me?"

        I think she might have been interested in be before, but I didn't take action. She probably lost interest. I just have to stop being such a fag and tell her "I don't want to hang out with you anymore" in one way or another.

        I don't think it'll turn out as bad as your story, but who knows, it could end up being a clusterfuck if I really mess up.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/liCk0HZ.gif

      Fuck man. I don't know.
      I was in a similar situation and I blew it big time. Wasn't oneitis, but she wanted to date me. We were "friends" but never actually hung out outside of college classes. I never told her to fuck off because was a cool enough person, but not someone I wanted to date, and she never actually asked me or or anything.
      Long story short I got a girlfriend and she threatened to kill herself. Not like, I'd made her suicidal, but by me choosing someone who wasn't her she was suicidal.
      Is this why she told me about her failed past relationships? Was it a thread?

      I dunno man. You can't exactly tell her to fuck off, but I'm not sure what the better response would be if she's not taking the hint.

      Sounds like my ex who recently moved back to my state. All that shit happened, but then it turned out she had a boyfriend during this and kept trying to hook up with me. I sent him all the nudes and now I’m blocked.

      That’s what worked for me. Try to be someone she feels unsafe around in a bad way.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      She doesnt respect you enough to fuck you and she KNOWS what shes doing in jerking you around. Just ghost her and move on. Nothing will ever come of hanging around her

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i dont know whether to take up boxing again. the brain damage aspect really puts me off but what if i get attacked? this is the greatest dilemma of my life.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Yesterday I took my CFA level 1 exam. I previously failed, so I studied really hard with my Kaplan textbooks. I was passing my practice exams, so I was somewhat confident. My family and friends told me to be confident. Yet, when I took the exam yesterday, I felt lost. I'm pretty sure I failed again. I'm not sure if I should start studying again or whether I should even retake the level 1 exam again

  23. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've been working hard towards becoming the person I want to be for the past year or so. Dropped 25lbs, hit the gym (still complete dyel), started dressing better, traveled a bunch and pursued more interesting hobbies.

    It's starting to pay off and I've been getting plenty of likes and matches on dating apps lately.

    The problem is that I have nfi how to proceed and turn it into a date or something more. I've completely missed out on this stuff all my life and I'm left feeling paralyzed.

    I guess I'll just have to try, fail, and start over again, but idk how I'm supposed to learn from my mistakes and get better at these casual conversations.

    Any late bloomers have any suggestions?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Just chat with the girls online, after a while ask If they want to meet a - grab a coffee or a drink. Before the date prepare yourself by thinking of topics you can talk about to have them in the back when the conversation stalls. Also dont worry, when you dont vibe just end the date. Shortest date i ever had was like 30 mins, and we both agreed to end it to not waste time.

      Also, fake it till you make it. Never talk about being a late bloomer or whatever.

      And General advice, dont whine to women ever how shitty your life is.

  24. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Picked this book up today just randomly to kill time and ended up reading the entire thing in one sitting. Not just good advice but it might also be the most inspirational thing I've ever read.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >might also be the most inspirational thing I've ever read.

      Go on..?

  25. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's been a year and two months since we ended our 8-year relationship. There has not been a day where I do not think of her and I come to a place I once thought of being home is now a nightmare. It used to be warm full of happiness, sadness, anger, but that is what it means to be with someone. Now it's quiet, I see her in the hallways, the kitchen, everywhere. There are so many things I've done to change my lifestyle and avoid areas that make me think about her, but this house fucking remains. I cannot wait to sell this fucking house off.

  26. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I need some advice on unfucking my life. I’m 26 I have never lived away from home and I’m broke. I spent all of last years working 7 days a week and saving. Replaced my car and had approx $20k left over saved. Then some asshole slammed on his breaks on the highway and my car got totaled so I had to replace it. My school made some policy changes that caused me to get fucked out of a few grand (for missing a few days due to the accident).

    So now I’m broke and about to restart the certification program again. With my current certs I can hope to make around $15-$20. I’m gonna start with the guaranteed $15/hr job just to get some stream of income on the side of classes. But that’s not gonna do much to cut it.

    What I need to figure out is some kind of alternative hustle or job I can do part time that will make ends meet so I can move out. If done correctly and things go as seamlessly as I want it would mean living paycheck to paycheck for a year, then once school is done be making something I can live comfortably on.

    I need to be making like $3000/month but I only have part time availability

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I'd say work freelance in whatever speciality you may have. Lean into it hard and swallow any imposter syndrome. Wage slaving and/or moonshot investments aren't going to cut it in your situation.

  27. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Id like to go back in time with the knowledge I got now lads, I could change so much

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Same but I'd have to go back to fucking primary school to really fix it lmao. Guess start of university would be ok too, but then I'd already be picking the pieces of a fucked up childhood. Still at least I would've been able to start fixing it way earlier

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I'm the same way. If only I could start over from when I was 5

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Think ahead about how you can teach your child so much within the context of an ever changing youth culture. Dont be the old sap.

  28. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Life is funny

    >23 y/o
    >ex dumped me over half a year ago but i've moved on finally
    >finally got my life together, got fulltime employment and moving out again in like 1 week to my own appartment
    >alcoholism is back, can't seem to stop drinking and now i'm at the point where I can't sleep without being drunk
    >still don't have my drivers license
    >keep on being a retard and the only women I date/get interested in are 18-19 y/o's which leads to a shitton of problems
    >I also have problems with my emotions, I catch feelings for people so fucking fast it's ridiculous, which just leads to a lot of hurt
    >body is in top shape and am actually proud of it for the first time in forever

    Honestly I'm just being a bitch and all the problems are my own fault, just gotta improve more.

    At least I've improved a lot of things this year so far and it's not over yet 🙂

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      How are you 23 without a license you fucking sperg, gonna ask mommy to take you out on a date?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >moved on
      >can't sleep without being drunk
      you only think you're not thinking about it

  29. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Ex's bf asked her to peg him and she did. Now she's crying, thinking about leaving the country because there's nothing here for her.
    If I hung out with her tonight we would have slept together. But I was busy playing DnD with the guys.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Lmao you talk about shit like this with your ex? How fucking pathethic are you?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I'm not the one taking it up the ass though.

  30. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I’m watching someone’s house for the week and in an effort to not waste all my pay on fast food I went and got some groceries.

    The cashier was really pretty and I never made eye contact with her, she said “how’s your day going so far” and I stumbled over my words just to say “it’s alright.”

    I do shit like this and I wonder, how would I be able to date a girl? I can’t even speak to a pretty cashier and I want to have a relationship with a girl?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      good luck anon, I housesat a friends house for a week and only spent one night there. House was haunted, creeped me out. I ended up driving back and forth each day

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Spooky
        I would drive back and forth but this house is 30 mins from mine. I feel weird sleeping in their bed.

  31. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I have a dilemma bros. Last night I met this 18 year old girl through a buddy’s girlfriend (I’m 22 for the record). She seems odd, almost aspie but she’s very cute and quite frankly is hot. She immediately fell in love with me, saying she wants to marry me and have my babies and shit, despite me saying she needs to chill. I want to fuck this crazy little whore because I know the sex would be killer but I feel kinda bad because she’s obviously emotionally vulnerable and still *somewhat* innocent; do I do it and take the chance or write it off and miss out on this experience?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      She’s most likely very damaged from childhood shit and I don’t want her to kill herself when I won’t marry her is where I’m at with this

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      If I were in your position I would say absolutely yes and live my life with her, but I’m a loser so maybe you’ll want something different.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I guess I’m thrown off by the enthusiasm? Shes known me for a day but is in love with me literally. I guess it just comes off as volatile, I’d love a little weirdo wife to pump full of kids, and I want someone to provide for, I’m thinking about seeing where it goes but 18 is still a kid mentally, idk man I’m overthinking it too much

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          22 is a kid mentally

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Fair

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      She's just a dumb child. If you just want to fuck her and then deal with breaking up with her, then sure. If you think it could turn into something serious, then you have to realize that it won't.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, this is what I figured it was. Haven’t dealt with anyone like this before, only more mature people and not fucking fresh-outta-high-schoolers. Will pump for a while and effectively dump, thanks anon

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Just don't fuck her. You WILL turn her into a whore if you pump and dump. She is still normal (wants to start a family). Don't ruin her.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            She was grabbing on my dick and sucking my lips off my face all night I don’t think I’m “ruining” anything lol

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              Is she a virgin? No? Even then, having causal sex perpetuates whoredom and mental illness in women. The more sex a woman has, the smaller her chance of a successful marriage and the harder it is for her to recognize and bond with a male authority figure. Don't do it man

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Is it a bad idea to try and make something long term out of this? Like yeah she’s a stupid kid now but she won’t be forever, why not have some influence over how she develops into a woman focusing on family values, etc? It sounds like grooming yes but I’m saying passively set an example for what a man should be and what his woman should be to him

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                >passively set an example for what a man should be and what his woman should be to him
                This is what parents are for, or more specifically fathers. You can do this, but you would have to have her, and you shouldn't do that unless you know you want to marry her. Any sexual relationship that does not end in marriage will psychologically damage a woman.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                I think if I like someone it’s perfectly fine to have sex with them, I’m not gonna just fuck here with nothing attached but to decide to marry someone takes years and idk if I’d wait more than a month tops, it’ll be fine

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                >I’m not gonna just fuck here with nothing attached
                But you are though. The only reason you want to fuck this woman is because she os attractive. You aren't looking for a potential mother of your children, you are looking for a wet hole to put your dick in.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                You know nothing about me, stop white knighting. I’ve been avoiding casual encounters and whores lately because I’m looking for someone with wife potential. If I think there could be something there, we can fuck while figuring it out, as sex can really enhance a relationships intimacy. To say you’ll know you want to marry someone without regular sex is silly and old timey

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                >silly and old timey
                The old timey people had a functioning society that wasn't rife with mentally destroyed, BPD riddled women. Not wanting my sons to have to deal with what we have to doesn't make me a white night. Healthier women make a healthier society. Sometimes you have to delay gratification for a better result in the long run. Keep up with avoiding causal sex though, that's leagues better than what most are doing now.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      She has BPD written all over her. When the relationship fucks up (and it will) at least one of you will be suicidal.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      you should hang out with her and see if you can heal her
      If you have serious success after a few months then cum right in her

  32. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm extremely bitter, spiteful, hateful and just a huge asshole in general
    For context I am from Eastern Europe and was born into a poor family, not hungry starving poor but cycling between 2 sets of clothes and missing bill deadlines poor, I love my mother and father to death for what they did to me and my siblings and I truly do appreciate them which is not something I can say for other people but since my teens I've been quite miserable and that carried out into my 20s, I am currently 28 and have a college degree in civil engineering but I feel as if I've missed out on a big part of life in socializing simply because of a lack of funds, I couldn't even afford a gym membership until I got a part time job at 17, I never went out for drinks or parties because I was poor, the little friends I have are all people I've known since preschool and was close with my entire life
    I don't know how to meet people and especially talk to girls, because of that and my relatively bad upbringing I am just a bad person in general and everyone says they can see the bitterness and anger in my eyes and body language
    How the fuck do I fix myself? Blogpost over
    Tldr - I'm a poor asshole

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You already took the first and most important step which is realizing in what way you're fucked and why. Now you have to realize that being like this stands in the way of your happiness and simply try to not act based on indistinct, because that is built upon your past shitty experience. Eventually you will relearn how to act and approach various situations differently, without the bitterness. Always keep your happiness in mind and analyze your life from that perspective

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Feels man. It's gonna get better, just live your life the best you know and can. The bitternes will fade away with time if you accept the cards you've been delt.

  33. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >realise my so called friends don't respect me and never listen to me or take my advice
    >was about to lament in depression over this
    >then realised who needs trash like that anyway
    Good day so far

  34. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I need advice. Should I talk to my dead ex girlfriends (I still love her and think about her constantly) sister and find out where she is buried? Her sister is pretty young but it’s been four months and I’d like to know without talking to her parents. On one hand she can tell me lots of things I want to know but on the other I don’t want her parents to be upset. Thoughts?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You absolutely should do it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Why do you think her parents would be upset?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Why don't you know where she's buried? Were you a secret?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Thoughts?
      fuck her sister on top of her grave

      just kidding anon
      Do what you feel is right
      even if that first thing feels right

  35. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >messaging girl
    >hit it off decent enough
    >trade body pics
    >all goes well
    >seems eager to meet up
    >"now it's time for face, anon"
    >sends hers, and I reciprocate.
    >quickly changes her tune
    >"yeah you're not really what I'm looking for, it was fun chatting with you though"
    This stings a lot more than I originally thought it would. Thing is if I were to be completely honest I definitely would say we were looks matched. Either my perception is way off or I got cucked by the 80/20 meme.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You fucked up by not moving away from texting. Try to steer straight to voice. You'll save yourself so much time.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        i don't think that would have made a difference.

        >trade body pics
        >seems eager to meet up
        What the fuck? Is this just a thing people do now before even meeting eachother?

        Why are you messaging girls you have never seen or met and have never seen you?

        because it was a casual sex site. It's the norm for your profile to consist of body rather than the face. No one wants the world to see you publicly peacock for flings, at least socially adjusted people don't.

        should have been mewing when you were benching bro

        i do actually. But the only physical complements I've gotten from women are "he's cute", or been told I have a 'baby face' (if this is even a complement idk). I guess because I don't have the chiseled Chad jawline women just don't want to get promiscuously involved with me. I have beta-bux provider physiognomy.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          kek it's a catfish who's just collecting your pics
          real girls just use tinder

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            i tried reverse image searching all her pics and got no results (I'm not a noob at this). Plus I don't think a catfish would have the patience to text me over the course of a week just to get some random pics of me when porn exist. I guess anything is possible though.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              Don't use hookup sites advertised to be for anonymous sexual encounters. It's dangerous too, you could be catfished and blackmailed and mugged. Just use Tinder.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                well it's not really for anon sex encounters, you can post your face on your profile, it's just most opt not to because most professional people (rightly) don't want to be associated with sites like that. I used a throw away email, never posted any private info, and the only time I showed my face was to that broad in DMs so I think I'll be fine. I just wanted to try it because I thought it'd be easier to get laid there than tinder, but boy was I wrong.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >trade body pics
      >seems eager to meet up
      What the fuck? Is this just a thing people do now before even meeting eachother?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Why are you messaging girls you have never seen or met and have never seen you?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      should have been mewing when you were benching bro

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe your face just didn't look good in that pic. Compare yourself when you first wake up to after you're ready to leave for work or something and you will rate differently. Maybe you were looking down at the phone and your face looked all distorted. There is no way that your face is that busted she just drops you.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >Maybe you were looking down at the phone
        it was a generic bathroom mirror shot from chest up of me holding my phone.
        >and your face looked all distorted
        yeah something was fuckey with it and it looked 'squished' or 'compressed' went I sent it through the site but I didn't think it was horrible. You could still make out what I looked like.
        >There is no way that your face is that busted she just drops you.
        That's what I thought dude, I swear to God. I can't understand how you could be down for meeting and then just dip out last sec when I reveal face. I know I'm no model but god damn. I appreciate your optimism though.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          my best advice is to just actually go out and talk to a woman. I've gained sixty pounds from living with my mom for a year and getting depressed and I have a date here and there with a cute Guatemalan girl and we make out every time. So for me my physical appearance isn't an issue with women, you just need to work on your game. I recommend watching some clips from pickup artists and they will explain the psychology of dating women.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >my best advice is to just actually go out and talk to a woman
            I want to, trouble is finding a place to do so. I don't have many friends and the ones I do have aren't throwing wild parties hosting tons of people where I can meet them. I'd say my social network is what's lacking most in my life.
            >have a date here and there with a cute Guatemalan girl and we make out every time
            nice. How'd you guys meet?

            [...]
            What I'm trying to say is much of the time physical appearance shouldn't be a barrier with dating women. Do you have a good job?

            i have a job that pays my bills but it's nothing I want to make a career out of. So it's a meh.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              >nice. How'd you guys meet?
              Tinder. I don't get a lot of luck with Tinder and honestly I think much of it stems from a lot of Tinder profiles being bots, and as stated before I have ballooned in size so my face is more rounded and I look (am) really fat. I also speak spanish pretty well so that is also a plus.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          https://i.imgur.com/IFW8BRC.jpg

          my best advice is to just actually go out and talk to a woman. I've gained sixty pounds from living with my mom for a year and getting depressed and I have a date here and there with a cute Guatemalan girl and we make out every time. So for me my physical appearance isn't an issue with women, you just need to work on your game. I recommend watching some clips from pickup artists and they will explain the psychology of dating women.

          What I'm trying to say is much of the time physical appearance shouldn't be a barrier with dating women. Do you have a good job?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Honestly I just take what I remember from watching playthroughs of those Super Seducer games, that guy gives genuine advice both when you pick the right options and when you pick the bad ones, as in "don't do that because of this" also Kevin Samuels was a professor when it came to relationships (RIP). There is a science to dating and men do NOT have to be good looking to score (but you absolutely have to be hygienic).
          Yes, you have to be good looking when the objective of the game (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge) is to be good looking and maybe show off some personality in the bio, but to actually go out and meet someone you just have to keep interesting conversation, be funny, and subtly hint that you have your shit together. Also be confident, but not cocky.
          Confidence is whenever you are challenged you don't back down from it. If she asks if you can climb Mount Everest you say "yeah probably" and don't elaborate further.
          Cockiness is without being prompted or asked, you're just like "YEAH I CAN CLIMB MOUNT EVEREST, LOOKS TOTALLY DOABLE."
          Women fucking smell confidence like a cologne and they dig it.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            thanks bro I'll look into one of those games. And yeah my confidence definitely is lacking. Shyness has always been my worse quality which explains my lack of social network I mentioned earlier.

            But I feel like we're going off on a tangent here. I got rejected after she seen my face, not in the middle of messaging, that went rather smoothly. So I don't think it was my confidence or 'game' that fucked me over this time. I know the incel response is "you're just ugly", but I get likes on tinder decently consistent where I show my face.

            https://i.imgur.com/XQYKI1X.jpg

            >nice. How'd you guys meet?
            Tinder. I don't get a lot of luck with Tinder and honestly I think much of it stems from a lot of Tinder profiles being bots, and as stated before I have ballooned in size so my face is more rounded and I look (am) really fat. I also speak spanish pretty well so that is also a plus.

            based. best of luck with her bro.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              >best of luck with her bro.
              She's practice. I was in a two year pen pal relationship with a russian woman so I'm out of practice. But 255lbs, hadn't had a date in two years but I still managed to put my tongue in her mouth and get a second date, then that second date had the same ending. I was actually surprised when we met because she was even prettier in person.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              >but I get likes on tinder decently consistent where I show my face.
              Talk to them and date them. Literally take them to dinner and get a face to face introduction with them. And you don't even have to take them somewhere fancy or mind blowing, go to a restaurant you like with good food. Grab a pizza, have some drinks. Don't be shy, I know that might be hard for you to do but just remember it's one girl and you have plenty others to choose from. You have options.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                the last 3 tinder matches i had wouldn't even respond to my text. Tbf they were generic "hey how are you?" text but it's hard to come up with a unique one liner for every girl. So let me rant for a sec. It's beyond infuriating to have women complain about guys putting in "low effort" messages like 'hey what's up' but have the most basic and bareboned profiles on the face of the earth. Yeah you dumb hole, you have no bio or have generic shallow demands like "don't be boring" or "make me laugh" and wonder why you get low effort messages. No shit, because you're not giving guys any subject matter to go off of. I dunno maybe list some hobbies or something? And I could start a decent convo that way. End of rant.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Google generic pickup lines or dad jokes and start off that way.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                When they don't out in effort why don't you just fuck around since you don't really give a shit anyway?
                >"don't be boring"
                >'I'm more interesting than you'
                >"make me laugh"
                >'why do I have to make you laugh? It's 2022, you should be making me laugh'

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              >but I get likes on tinder decently consistent where I show my face.
              Talk to them and date them. Literally take them to dinner and get a face to face introduction with them. And you don't even have to take them somewhere fancy or mind blowing, go to a restaurant you like with good food. Grab a pizza, have some drinks. Don't be shy, I know that might be hard for you to do but just remember it's one girl and you have plenty others to choose from. You have options.

              but also remember to keep your dick in your pants. Don't expect them to fuck you just because you bought them dinner, you and I are not that attractive.
              Also keep eye contact.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Either my perception is way off or I got cucked by the 80/20 meme.
      hypergamy is crazy these days anon. You were probably better looking than her, but she got fucked by a 9/10 Chad once so that's her standards for everything now

  36. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm thinking about moving to the States to hook up with an autistic girl I like talking to, but I don't know if I can make it.
    Getting a visa is hard when you didn't go to college.

  37. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    One of my dream goals that I thought I'd never achieve would be to get lean and look as good as possible, that looks like it might be becoming a reality soon which is cool, but even if I hit that goal I don't think I'd care too much now. looking better in the mirror, but I just feel so emotionless, I feel like I can't enjoy anything and there's no point in anything, I don't look forward to the future, I can't think of a goal that excites me. Becoming a great artist excited me, but the last few months I've been doing it out of sheer discipline. It feels like all the soul has been sucked out of my body.

    There was this chick I really liked, but things got fucked between us, and now it seems as though it's over or ending and we're moving on. I don't even feel like I really love her, she wants a kid I don't and she's already 30, but I just don't want to go back to having nothing, I don't know if I'm capable of loving anyone anymore.

    I'm starting to feel like this is just getting older (28), becoming more apathetic towards everything, failing to achieve the dreams you thought you'd achieve by 25, that or the diet. I just end up spending so much time in bed now because there's nothing to do, nothing I want to do.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Honestly you sound like I do when my diet is off and I’m not getting enough nutrients/vitamins. Just dead, drained, tired, and wanting to rest all the time.

  38. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Bros, how do I shut down my simping side and be more disciplined? I went to run an errand to get more flour from the store, and was talking myself into getting some candy as a cheat. But when I arrived at the store, the number of lone, totally mediocre girls managed to keep me on the right path and get only good shit that was needed.
    I don't like having motivation so external to myself, so I need to learn to stop. I think a lot of it is nofap getting to me

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Any advice?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Fall for a girl, have her reject you, feel miserable for a while, and then maybe you'll start not caring and think more about yourself. I don't know dude.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I did all that. I think that's actually what made this shit worse -- the idea of having that hope

  39. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just came back from a 3.5 day vacation in San Francisco and holy shit I don't want to go back to the grind of existence. It felt so good to leave everything behind. I want to move there and never come back.
    I am incredibly depressed right now and loathe the fact that I need to go back to work. I wish I didn't have anything or anyone depending on me so I could just die

  40. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >be me
    >go through 6 years of living hell via OCD, panic disorder and insomnia
    >i mean literally agonizing pain 24/7, unable to get a job or think or relax
    >have been doing nothing for a year but reading into different theories, about therapeutic approaches, etc., processing them to the extent that I'm even capable given my mind and body are on fire
    >think I finally found the solution, I'm almost finally better
    >dad asks if I'm ready to start working soon cuz he overheard me tell my sister I've finally almost cured myself, realize he still has never asked how I feel, still doesn't fully realize or care what I've been going through, realize nothing has changed for him and now that I'm almost "better" it just means I'll start working soon and he expects me to be my old, agreeable, meek, submissive self
    >begin shaking while next to him, want so bad to ask right now why he doesn't care, explain to him the hell I've been through, and tell him that I don't want him playing a large role in my life anymore
    >I just don't think I can go there though

    Maybe I've been reading too much but I'm afraid if I don't tell him that I wish he gave a fuck that my transformation won't be complete

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Crack him around the fucking jaw

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I hate to be the guy who always posts here and ignores the advice I receive. I think I'm gonna tell him that I l don't really want much to do with him anymore.l but in a more diplomatic way.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Move out and get drugs, moron. Why would you expect anything from a father? That's what mother's are for. Fathers are there to steal your severance when you lose your job to pay for his gambling debts.
      Maybe that's just mine though...

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous
  41. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >have a date in 30 minutes
    >See the most gorgeous girl ive seen in months walking on the streets
    >go to coffee shop
    >see same girl again
    >think to myself its fate and i gotta talk to her
    >"hey dont steal my seat"
    >she giggles
    >talk to her
    >shes giggling and feeling it
    >my autism kicks in halfway and i cant think of anything to say, and somehow i freeze up flirting with her about her hair or her exotic name
    >she moves away when it gets into an awkward lull
    >my date arrives and notice the girl check me out some more
    >date is like 20 lbs heavier than her pictures but i just use it as reps to get my autism out

    I actually feel better than i actually attempted it rather than just wonder what if. Gave me some confidence that attractive girls are feelin me, and that i just need to work on better game. Im actually excited to do more reps of approaching girls now

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Nice job bro, wish I can do this too

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You absolutely can anon. I believe in you. Just do it. Fail or not, ull feel alot better after and the worst part is right before u approach

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Idk what it is but every date I've ever been on has ended with me and the date swapping tongues and grabbing ass. Like once I'm actually out with a woman I make her laugh and hold her hand and we just hit it off. Unfortunately all my dates are ever 1 hour away and never close by, and I work a lot.

  42. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Ok give it to me straight. How much of a bad idea is it to try and pursue friend of a gal who friendzoned you in the past?
    It's been 4 years since I confessed and got shot down. I did said something I regret afterwards but we did make up for it. There's a nonzero chance that the friend of my ex-oneitis knows what I did.

    By all accounts, I'm thinking this is a bad idea since no one wants to be the second choice. But 'who dare wins' ya know and all that yolo suff.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >second choice
      Bro that was four YEARS ago. Unless you're both incredibly boring neither of you are the same person you were back then.

  43. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >mutual crush with the cutest girl ive ever seen in my life
    >we are nothing alike

    it hurts bros

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Shouldn't it be fine to be different?

  44. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've been relapsing on my bad habit of stuffing food in my mouth. My roommate had extra muffins and I just ate a couple. Even though I'm over my calorie cap.
    And I do this consistently. I don't remember how I resisted before, right know it almost like it's unconscious.

  45. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm a senior in college and I'm honestly dreading what my social life would become after I graduate. Everyone says it's harder to make meaningful friendships post-college and I don't doubt them one bit. I'm not a recluse/shut-in or anything, but I'm also not that much of a social butterfly. The only long-lasting friend group I have were the people in my dorm during my freshmen year. I go to a handful of clubs, and while I do have fun with the people there it seems difficult to become friends with them outside of the club itself.
    Does it really get that bad after college?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Does it really get that bad after college?
      like everything else in life, it is what you make of it. i got a worthless degree from a school out of state and didn't know what i wanted to do with my life. i moved home with my parents and the only people left in my city were my old friends from high school. i stayed in my room in my parents house and did literally nothing but lift and play vidya for a year. at some point i decided that wasn't good enough. i got a job, dumped my old high school friend group who was holding me back and started dating the girl i always wanted in high school but couldn't get. after a few years, we dumped an entire other friend group and started all over and made new friends again. now we're married and we both have high paying jobs, own a home and have a group of friends we've traveled the world with. it can suck if you let it, but you can always start over.

  46. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm falling off the wagon. Had a wedding last weekend, got another one next weekend and the one after that. Everyone I knew has gotten their shit together, good job, long term partners, etc. The last couple years have been kind of rough, but i've started getting my shit back together this year - quit smoking, cut back heavily on the drinking/weed, doing well in trade school, lost a ton of weight, but it just feels like too little too late, you know? I'm still at least a year out from getting a good job or hitting my fitness goals, and everyone else seems years ahead. I know I shouldn't compare myself with others, but I just feel like i'm so far behind everyone else.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      how old are you anon?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        29

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          you've probably got more going for you than you think you do. two of my best friends have a trade and they're both doing great. one started younger and joined a union. he has a pension, makes a ton of money, has income properties, huge single family house, hot wife, first kid. my other friend smoked weed and played vidya and lived in his parents house until he was about your age. he took a beginner welding job with no experience or schooling and learned on the job, going out on the road for about a year. he made a move to another company and doubled his income and also doesn't even have to weld anymore. he's one of only 2 people in the company excluding the owner who has his own office. trade school is a good way to go. as far as fitness goals go, that's just staying consistent over time.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Tfw you could have been a journeyman for almost 10 years by now

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I am well aware that I wasted a lot of years sitting on my ass in garrison. Don't join the army kids, it's not worth it unless you get a good job with transferable job skills, and I didn't.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              You were in the army and you're not even fit? Ww4w

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                I was, and then I stopped working out when I got out but kept up drinking and smoking like I was still in.

  47. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    said goodbye to a girl I've been seeing since July, got a hotel for for the weekend for us to stay in near the airport, had lots of sex and she broke down because she feels a strong connection with me and doesn't want to leave me.

    kinda conflicted, I really like her, she's beautiful and has a bright future ahead of her, we have a lot in common, but I don't know what will happen over the year or if she'll feel the same after some time apart. Promised I'd visit her during my vacations in November and December, not sure what will happen but she cried and didn't want to let go when I told her it was time to go and that time would fly.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      nice digits

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      She'll be getting creampied within a month

  48. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    lads, my autism is incurable. i don't mind too much, but i sure wish i could tone it down a bit. i just left a friend group at one of those summer carnival/festivals because they wanted to go on rides and i didn't. last month, i ditched a wedding before food was even served as i could not take all the small talk bullshit with people i don't know, nor care to know. very selfish of me, i'm aware.

    on the bright side, i have a beautiful girlfriend that loves me dearly and understands my odd behaviour. i know i've already kinda made it because of that. i'm also incredibly fit and eat clean thanks to my unrelenting autismic ways.

    i need to tone down it for the sake of restarting my education though. i left high school in the same manner i ditched these recent events. don't care much for the rat race, but i do want a better life for my girl and i. i've been retaking some high school courses in order to go to university, but i keep worrying that i might just be setting myself up for failure as i can't even handle simple shit like going to a carnival or wedding lol.

  49. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You know Anons, i've been thinking lately. Feels like a change needs to happen. Incrementally, not foolishly head first into it. I'm not a morning person but I will be. I'm not as writing as much I use to but that will change. More variation to my workouts. etc.

    It'll be unbearable at first, I figure it will be the birthing pain at first. You know, getting use to the new changes and adapting to them. Tomorrow i'm going to do my best to hit the gym in the morning before work. If the thread is still up by then maybe i'll post something

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I look forward to your post. You're on the right track, anon

  50. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Going to ask here since the other thread seems dead,
    > had bad childhood by normal-person standards
    > grew up to have extremely bad trust and confidence issues and am terrified of taking risks
    > have met people who objectively had worse childhoods than me who seem to be doing fine
    how do they do it?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Unironically walk with Christ. Jesus is the truth.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I had an objectively great childhood and turned out emotionally fucked up and social dysfunctional from 18-25.
      People are complicated.

  51. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    My FWB told me she wants a serious relationship... But not with me because she knows I don't like her in that way. One day we were kissing each other at her place and exactly the next day she tells me that... I think she liked me or something but I was very adamant to not involve myself sentimentally. From the beginning I said that I didn't want something serious.
    We just slept together once but flirted and sexted throughout the whole summer.
    I don't know, I feel lost and confused. It was just a sudden change of opinion.

  52. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    32 years old, filing for a divorce, was married nearly 9 years, together for 10. Got a couple kids. I was at a buddies wedding who is same age as me and it's weird to think he's just starting out and I'm getting out of a marriage. I have already stated eating healthier in the last month but I'd really like to put the muscle on, I have a large frame at 6' 5" but never have worked out hard enough to be jacked. I also have no problem conversing with people so I feel pretty confident but I think lifting would give me the extra boost I need to go back into the dating world after my divorce is finalized. It's a different game out there now it looks like.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      She cheated?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      And did we learn anything about inviting the state into our personal relationships anon? Maybe we'll stop licking so much boot?

  53. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Hit the curb on my bike last friday, went over handle bars and fractured my arm... been making really good gains recently and am afraid ill lose them. feeling low

  54. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Sometimes I can't shake off the feeling that care verbally but not actually. It feels like everyone has some sort of advice, but it just doesn't take any load off my shoulders.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Crows are smart enough to sort trash
      >Americans and Chinese are still too fucking dumb

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        HURR HURRR great joke retard

  55. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Be fit
    >Have a good body
    >Girls who like it the most are surprisingly enough artsy/alt girls
    >Date one of them every now and then
    >Sex is always great
    >Realize they are mentally ill and have fucked way too many guys before me to commit to them
    >Cant manage to find a normie girl, find them boring even
    No idea what to do, I want a family and I cant see it with these nosering girls. I also cant stop fucking them

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Move out of the city. Every girl in the city has a body count higher than she can count on her fingers and toes except fat chicks. Why? Because they are approached by attractive dudes almost every day they go outside.
      These women are your gains goblin preventing you from your next goal in life - family.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      How do I into artsy/alt girls?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Be muscular enough to bench 2 plate for 8-10 reps
        Be lean
        Have long hair
        Have a beard
        Look dead inside
        Have dark colored fitting clothes and leather boots
        Thats it, works for me

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          What if I got a big forehead?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Part your hair to cover your forehead, thats my trick as a fellow fiveheadq

  56. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Guys I have a serious findom problem
    I sent $60 today and $120 yesterday to discord girls.
    It’s so fucking addicting and it’s fucking me up bad.
    I WANT TO STOP SO BAD BUT I CANT
    i feel like im spiraling

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Give me your money instead paypig

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Punch yourself in the gut every time you donate.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Unironically just give it to some pov anon. They'll even bully you for free

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        What is a pov?

        Give me your money instead paypig

        No

        This shit is making me feel so bad. I used to indulge a little bit then not touch it for weeks and months, but not I feel like I want to send money every fucking day and I can’t fucking escape it.

  57. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I’m fit, and my old lady is increasingly putting on weight and getting out of shape.

    Pressuring her don’t work. She ain’t a self starter. No idea what to do.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Make it obvious to her through your behaviour that you don't find get attractive anymore

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      make her breakfast lunch and dinner for a month straight
      >im putting my piggy wiggy on a balanced diet
      >you get ice cream randomly

  58. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Drank too much coffee. Poops are not going great.
    Office doesn't like me. Oh well i'll just have to fart louder.

  59. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I travel to Berlin for work about a week per month.

    About 7 weeks ago I met a girl there and spent the week with her, fucking a lot and going to museums, going out, etc. It was like puppy love.

    Texted daily with her since.

    Met weekend before last for a music festival in Hamburg, before going to spend the week with her in Berlin. The weekend was terrific and sexy and fun. Then over the week she got cold and distant. The farewell hug yesterday was long and we kissed sweetly, but it felt definite.

    I don't think I'll ever meet her again, and it blows.

  60. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's been over 6 years and I have accepted the fact that I will never love a woman the same way , like I love(d) my ex gf

  61. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    How do I get into Tinder with 0 social media presence or any decent pictures? I am definitely above average looking and IST as fuck. But I feel like some shitty selfie and a shirt are not going to get me anywhere

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Take lots of pictures of yourself whenever you think you look good. Make a habit of it and get like 5-7 pics a week. After about two-three months go through them and you should have a out 5-6 to start a decent profile with. Going places outside and with people help a ton too so it's not all selfies but selfies can still get girls if you look good and they're not all in the same place.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah that's what I'll do I think. Actually took some pictures on a walk just now, all awful of course.
        Ironically I have a pretty instagram worthy social life going to tons of music festivals, parties, going rock climbing etc. But I never take pics and friends know I don't like my picture taken so I'm digitally a fucking loser.
        I've realized social media is just a game you need to play and get good at like everything else. No use trying to be superior and not engaging in a central part of modern society.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Ironically I have a pretty instagram worthy social life going to tons of music festivals, parties, going rock climbing etc. But I never take pics and friends know I don't like my picture taken so I'm digitally a fucking loser.
          Be upfront with them about it that you need pics for ig and tinder to socialmaxx, why wouldn't they help their bro out?

  62. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    why is giving up so difficult

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I wish I had the answer anon. I want to give up on many people for whom I have no more energy to give, worst of all I want to give up on my old self.

      I wish it were easy

  63. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I just took a shower and now I have to shit FUCK

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      lel
      iktf bro

      >anon makes a blogpost
      >WOE IS ME I'M SO FUCKING GAY
      >anons give him emotional support and touch his dick
      >THERE THERE ANON YOU'RE NOT THAT BAD
      >anon goes away and listens to nothing and comes back the next time
      >WOE IS ME I'M SO FUCKING GAY
      >Repeat until an hero
      Pointless threads for people that just want attention. Go see a fucking doctor or a prostitute.

      careful with that edge, sweetie

      I get a gin tonic with lime.

      I don't know where to start.
      I'm so fucking tired of being the ''nice'' person always. Eveyone thinks I'm sympathic. At the same time nobody is really interested in me, asking me out or wants to get me around. I'm over it. The last 3 years teached me to give a fuck about people. They don't appreciate me nor see my worth. They only take and take. None of them cared when I felt blue or not nice. None of them cared when I needed help. But when they were blue or needed help... yeah that was the time they called me. I'm so fucking over that. I want them all to suffer. I want them to be jealous af and starve for my company/attention. I hate humans.
      Yeah, rage and anger are my motivation to go to gym and get a stacy-body, you gays.

      >rage and anger are my motivation to go to gym
      that actually good but it shouldnt go overboard and make you a dick irl. Just stop caring about them, dont wish they were dead or suffering.
      Theyre sheepish normies, these poor souls probably also had their share of sadness.

      t. good guy being ghosted by friends whenever theyre doing fine, and not even called when theyre low
      I dont even care anymore

      good luck for the stacy body anon

  64. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Been in a long term relationship throughout my 20s, only ever had 2 partners & I always see people talking about knowing when you find the one, just assumed this was the one since we have never really had any isses or arguements throughout the 10 years together. Started a new job 4 years ago and hit it off with a co-worker, get on super well together, similar sense of humour, interests, the lot. Never done anything with them as I'm in a relationship and this new feeling hasn't developed until recently but it's got me thinking about how I've never had this feeling with my current partner and I'm unsure if I want to remain in the relationship since it's starting to feel like it's only lasted this long because we've never had any disagreements causing us to break up. Not necessarily wanting to start anything with this co-worker or just go chasing pussy but with this new feeling I don't know if I'm just coasing in my current relationship.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      how’s the sex with your current partner anon? will she do anything you want and try new things? if that’s the case you have something to consider. if there are limits and you can’t do something you want, go chase. these missed opportunities will haunt you later

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Eh, I mean it's fine, nothing mind blowing. She had a pretty sheltered upbringing so she's not very vocal with dirty talk and stuff which is a shame

  65. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >anon makes a blogpost
    >WOE IS ME I'M SO FUCKING GAY
    >anons give him emotional support and touch his dick
    >THERE THERE ANON YOU'RE NOT THAT BAD
    >anon goes away and listens to nothing and comes back the next time
    >WOE IS ME I'M SO FUCKING GAY
    >Repeat until an hero
    Pointless threads for people that just want attention. Go see a fucking doctor or a prostitute.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      kek this is true

      let me ask something unrelated to babbys first high school girlfriend:
      WHY THE FUCK DOES MY STOMACH HURT EVERY TIME I EAT SOMETHING FOR THE PAST 2 WEEKS?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I know why but I won't tell you because you shit on bar threads.

  66. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I get a gin tonic with lime.

    I don't know where to start.
    I'm so fucking tired of being the ''nice'' person always. Eveyone thinks I'm sympathic. At the same time nobody is really interested in me, asking me out or wants to get me around. I'm over it. The last 3 years teached me to give a fuck about people. They don't appreciate me nor see my worth. They only take and take. None of them cared when I felt blue or not nice. None of them cared when I needed help. But when they were blue or needed help... yeah that was the time they called me. I'm so fucking over that. I want them all to suffer. I want them to be jealous af and starve for my company/attention. I hate humans.
    Yeah, rage and anger are my motivation to go to gym and get a stacy-body, you gays.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe they think you're fine? Or do you mean to say that when you reach out they don't give a fuck? If that's the case, time to distance yourself and try to make new friends.

  67. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    How do I get over a woman when I have zero social circle to meet more,refuse to use dating apps, and the hobbies I enjoy aren't really social to begin with? I'm lonely and miserable

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You realize that not getting over her has literally no positive aspects when it comes to your happiness

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I need to meet other women (hopefully hooking up with them) to get over her

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          No you don't.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Then how do I get over this woman? It's been almost a year

  68. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >normie with normie life
    >great fiancée - gorgeous, smart, same values (i.e not an annoying liberal or leftist)
    >recently had a dream about girl from my past
    >loved her from afar, but she barely even knew me
    >dream was incredibly vivid, we had a life together
    >woke up depressed, still depressed now, obsessively checking her social media accounts even if I know it's wrong and I love the girl I'm with now

    What do? I'm a 27 year old man yet I'm acting like some retarded teenager, it's frustrating. How do I snap out of this?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You ready to spend the rest of your life with your fiancee?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yes, 100%

  69. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >be me
    >quad dominant (read: weak hamstrings and glutes)
    >cannot into full potential for my sport (rugby)
    >am working on it

    how long does it take to get posterior chain dominant guys.. im 6'5 i think my bad mobility and height is at play here

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      do deadlifts and kettlebell russian swings. Very fast as those muscles develop strength faster than the front.

  70. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >called in sick today
    >tried to do some light cardio on the treadmill but felt i was going to hack up a lung
    >forget about any kind of weightlifting
    >going absolutely insane shitposting here trying to find something to occupy my mind
    AAAAAAAAAAAH
    I HATE THE VIRUSES
    I HATE THE VIRUSES
    I HATE THE VIRUSES

  71. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >tfw I can only be myself by myself

  72. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Got a job last month
    >First one in two years!
    >Doing IT good at it
    >Just fixed my sleeping pattern
    >work 8 am 3 pm
    >Sleep 5 til 10 pm
    >hit the gym at 11 pm when quiet
    >my favorite time
    >2nd day of streak now
    >Mom has bowel cancer
    >Will miss her but
    >She's a mean old bitch 68yo
    >I'm 26
    >Managed to dump my hot but abusive ex 3 months ago
    >Don't hate my mom but I'll inherit a house so I can start a family soon
    >Mom been drinking heavy, smoking around me since I was a kid and would chose that over school uniforms and shit, hard to feel sorry for her.
    >Been a rough few years anon, but I catch myself smiling at the gym now

    Things are looking up anons! I feel the incel life fading

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I too know that feeling of watching my mother's health slowly deteriorate and being somewhat happy about it. Though what does that say about us? Feels like we never had a chance to be normal when this is the way we look at the world lmao

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I'm a pretty empathetic person but because she's given me a lot of issues due to shit parenting

        I've got asthma and she'd still smoke around me as a kid. like why should I now be held up to a saints standard because she decided she'd only look after half my needs

        There's also she doesn't do anything or habe a positive influence on anyone. I'm not resentful but I'm looking forward to getting some inheritance and burying all the insecurity and low confidence she's given me.

        Fuck family you don't owe them anything if they mistreat you

  73. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    except im not gnomish

  74. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    All I ever wanted was a Benz and a bad bitch

  75. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I spent so many years of my life doing nothing but play vidya. So many years behind a screen. So many years not daring to do anything. Scared to talk to anyone. Scared to try at anything. Scared to live the life I wanted.
    Fuck me I'm close to making it but I will never get those years back.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Those years were part of your development into who you are today and will become tomorrow. Don't lament over it, it could have been much worse than gayming in your mom's basement, you could have become a druggie, gambling addict, or maybe you'd have gotten injured on a job, or picked a degree and after getting it realized you don't actually want it, and so on ad infinitum.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      we are all immortal spirit anon
      just inform the youth of your mistakes so they dont have to make them longer than you have

  76. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm currently working through my troubled childhood and teenage years with a psychotherapist after walking alone for basically all my adult live.

  77. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm 28 & feel like I have all the things that a women looking to settle down would want: a stable job, 7-8/10 looks (although my hairline is starting to recede so this might've dropped), interesting hobbies, patience/understanding, but I'm not really putting myself out there to meet new women. Most of my time is spent at home since I work remotely & my main hobbies are things to do with the boys like video games or basketball.

    Quarantine kind of pushed me back into a state of social anxiety. I used to meet women through parties, clubs, dating apps, & mutual friends, but now it feels like at 28 I don't have these same opportunities anymore. The women in my life are all pretty settled down with kids or in a long-term relationship, & I'm no longer meeting new friends through them. I'm also at a point now where even if I do meet an attractive girl, her intelligence, immaturity level, or something else about her makes me not want to reach out. Dating apps are experiencing what my friend calls hoeflation, where a girl's value is unrealistically inflated there to where any reasonably attractive girl has her inbox stuffed with messages more than ever, limiting my options there.

    My brain tells me to stick to the sigma grindset and to disregard the hoes until the right one comes along, but another part of my brain is just thinking "they're never going to come along if I don't change up something in my routine to expose myself to those opportunities." I have no idea how to do this at this age, & it just feels like I've exhausted all my options.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Get new hobbies and meet new people there. Also keep using tinder, you never know.

  78. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I fucking hate peak hours gym
    nothing but bitches in groups of 4-6 hoarding every squat rack there is just to squat a mediocre ass weight

  79. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I make six figures but I still live with my parents . Most judge, but I don’t tell them what I make because they are shallow. What’s wrong with helping your parents lol imma buy their mortgage off suck my dick apartment dwellers

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      If your living situation ever comes up just say you live with them to assist as they're older and you're just waiting to meet a solid woman to move out with

  80. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The loneliness is hitting hard today bros.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Hold out bro, don't let the universe trample your spirit.

      Men like us should have died (culled) off in a war by now.
      foot soldiers that don't have a purpose.

      Could have died for something, instead we have to find something to live for. Don't give up.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >giving up
        My struggle is eternal. It's how it has to be.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          That's our burden. Good luck anon, I wish for broader shoulders not lighter loads for you.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I worked a double yesterday
      after 3 weeks of contemplating suicide
      everyone asked me whats the matter
      didnt answer

  81. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Men like us should have died (culled) off in a war by now.
    foot soldiers that don't have a purpose.

  82. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you guys actually get girls?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I've rejected girls yet still a kv, does that count as getting them?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Sometimes.

  83. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm not giving up but damn. Been sick 4 times in the past 6 months and now I've got the virus. Just started drinking today out of frustration I mean what the fuck I barely have time to get well and here we go I'm fucking sick again x5. I just wanna make progress again and have energy to do stuff.

    To think I where I would be in national chinups today if fortune hadn't shat on me.

  84. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Finally achieved my goal body after years of training
    >Guys tell me I look awesome
    >Girls make no comments, but I catch random girls looking at me now
    >Absolutely 0 change in dating app experience. No matches whatsoever.
    How do I capitalize on my appearance irl? I'm confident that I am attractive or at least my body is but I have no idea how to make use of it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      make a new profile pic of you hanging from a noose with moron spraypainted on your chest

  85. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Water, with apple cider vinegar.
    I lost in the tournament this past weekend. Coach and a few other gym guys say I've gotten better and should stay active. There's another fight card coming in less than two months. My weight is a little high, but I can make it. Coach recommended I take a day or two off. Still going to hit the heavy bag at home, though.
    I've got a full time office job that's tough, but I'm learning every day. It feels weird having a career after fucking around in college and as a security guard so much. I also have a side hustle that I'm too scared to get started.
    Social life is eh, I have a low voice and can't approach women yet. Struggle with self doubt and deprecation. It's all part of the process, I suppose.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Are you a kv?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        No, though I'm not quite experienced either. Never even dated, unless you count being walked off on in a bar

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          From your first post you sound like you've got everything going for you that a chick wants. You don't do tinder?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >From your first post you sound like you've got everything going for you that a chick wants.
            No I don't. Lacking social and life skills, and self efficacy
            >You don't do tinder?
            Terrible idea right now.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              >Lacking social and life skills, and self efficacy
              You got an office job, so a career, you do boxing which is good as a hobby and way to explain your fizeek without saying you're a gymrat, and the fighting hobby counts as social too a little bit. You can get a gf, dude.

  86. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm starting to understand my friend.

    >almost ten years ago
    >friend moves away with some girl
    >she breaks his heart
    >ever since he's not wanted anything to do with women and says he's not even interested in pursuing them
    >for the last decade I've been getting trashed and broken by women too but I just keep going and trying, keep on trying to get him to get out there and try too
    >now I'm 29 and in the last year each girl I've gotten vaguely seriously involved with has lead me on acting like they're in love with me then ghosted me and started posting pictures with some other dude two weeks later
    >trying to get girls to not treat me like subhuman trash has started to feel impossible
    >I'm getting to a point where I look at pictures of hot girls and instead of feeling turned on I feel angry and sad by simple repetition programming, I expect that girls are just going to make me feel bad and it turns me off
    >starting to understand this is where my friend's been at all this time, he just jumped straight here where I've taken a long time of getting beat down

    I don't want to be this way, but the more I try the worse it gets now. I'm becoming completely hate filled. I only need ONE thing to work out, yet every time it doesn't.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Start treating them like trash too, it's what they want you to, it's exciting, never let them feel like they mean more to you than you to them. Being a hopeless romantic means being a sucker.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >Being a hopeless romantic means being a sucker.
        This. The worst thing that has fucked up a generation of dudes right now is being constantly told by their single moms and movies they watch that girls want them to be romantics and focused on them. Couldn't be more opposite than that. Showing interest in a girl before she shows interest in you is like pouring salt directly into her vagina.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          This reality hurts so bad
          I want to give and receive love but it seems like to get it I have to be someone im not
          It’s almost not worth it. No relationship with any woman will ever fulfill what I want.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          What I don't get is where the fuck were our fathers to tell us this? I'd rather have my sons sociopathmaxxed than alone and miserable wondering what they're doing wrong.

          This reality hurts so bad
          I want to give and receive love but it seems like to get it I have to be someone im not
          It’s almost not worth it. No relationship with any woman will ever fulfill what I want.

          That's the beauty of it: they get to show as much love and affection and emotions and tears as they want, you get to be her rock and hold everything in 99% of the time and then when you do show something you have to be careful with what and when and how you do it otherwise she's gonna get "the ick" and "lose feelings and I don't know what happened anon" :^)

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