Happy Friday, IST. The Feels Bar is open for the weekend. Come on in, have a drink, and tell us what’s on your mind.
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Happy Friday, IST. The Feels Bar is open for the weekend. Come on in, have a drink, and tell us what’s on your mind.
just got 1488
grats anon.
thanks
>had an amazing week despite being swamped with uni work
>legit had 2 days working 10+ hours
>was stressful but felt good to be productive
>somehow still managed to get in a great workout every day
>on top of that had multiple mires this week including a IST qt from my classes who I think I'm developing a crush on
>today my last lecture finally ends and I have a weekend off planned
>say goodbye to my bros
>sun is shining
>feel on top of the world
>head to climbing gym
>injure myself after 30 minutes, probably broke my toe
>leg day tomorrow is fricked
>other plans with friends this weekend might be fricked
Heh, nice try, but I'm still in a good mood
Endure the pain and go out.
Be careful, but defo enjoy yourself.
I wish you a speedy recovery
Day 12 of nofap, no porn, intermittent fasting 8-16, water only, cardio 3 days a week
Feels good
Hope I stay strong forever
>be me
>early twenties
>whole family besides two butthole abusers dead
>mom died violently in front of me at 16
>groomed and physically/sexually abused by piece of shit "woman" from 16-20
>isolated and bullied
>more
>go to therapist
>tell them this
>"Wow that sounds really hard anon"
>refuse to help
>months later
>"Here is someone I think could help"
>repeat process
>oh but in the meantime take your meds
>antipsychotic, SSRI, antidepressant, gabapentin, Xanax
>don't even know what is wrong with me bc can't get a psychiatrist (burgerland)
>stay inside all day basically zombified from drugs
>moronic
>unemployed college dropout NEET
at least i don't drink or do Phenibut anymore right? haha life is so much better right?
i wanna try jumping off a tall object again but this time with cement instead of water at the bottom
also >tfw gf but she's a heroin addict and i am waiting for the text that she's dead
how do i get someone to fricking shoot me bros, i don't have the balls to do it myself
stop taking israelite prescriptions, leave the junkie, build yourself up. do you lift? what are your goals?
You have a gf, stop complaining. There are others who never had one before
the first step is taking charge of your life. your upbringing isn’t your fault but everything going forward is a result of your choices. no shrink is going to fix your life for you.
i hope things get better for you, sounds like youve been through a lot of shitty situations anon
how long have you been on meds? also you can tell your GP or psychiatrist how the meds make you feel.
>at least i don't drink or do Phenibut anymore right? haha life is so much better right?
Yes. One thing at a time anon.
WAGMI
That freak has a death grip on the kitten
Not gonna lie bro if I were you I'd spend my life trying to be a hero. Go to a fire station and become a firefighter. One day you'll save a life and it'll turn your life around for you.
unironically since you're in the US join the army or the marines, it'll give you stability and structure to your life, and you'll have some money saved up if you leave, you could even learn a job thag has civilian value if you're a pog
btw psychiatrists are to be payed even with public healthcare to my understanding, and even if not you need to contend with the waiting lists
>I'm mentally ill and on multiple antidepressants
>Join da army lol
Great advice
"You are loved anon"
"It is actually really hard in life, Id tell you to pray but it can get you into fights"
"There are worse things than medication"
even this homosexual can get a gf.
I had a fairly normal upbringing, middle class, only slight parental neglect and yet my life is 10x the nightmare of yours.
lynchian.
don't be a lady. I'm an average ass guy but I love my gf
I do work out every day. being hot gets women on their knees. and I agree having no sex is worse than the shittiest life if they have a partner. but
>I had a fairly normal upbringing, middle class, only slight parental neglect
and fit on top of that?
come on. lift harder
don't you have some heroin to inject right about now, druggie?
I'm just a little drunk, hanging here before I sleep. Never done hard drugs.
If you want to leave hell, its one step at a time. Pray that you beat your shit and win
Mountain Jack please. Just got a 5% pay raise, which bumped me to $60k. Life is good so far. I ordered a 24kg kettlebell so I can do swings since jump rope gets boring.
Water please sir.
My fear is it won't pay off. Having 15k or so to my name at 22, earned from a job I hate, with countless hours wasted at a desk in an office of old people, that could've been better spent, since ill need more than what i have and am getting to move out comfortably, but the economy is shit and getting a new job is shit. That I won't be able to lift heavy enough to pull myself out of my hole, that school was a waste and I'm a fool for pursuing higher education. That I'll be in the same shoes at 23, then 24, then 25, just a bit buffer and with more money. With most of my youth wasted away in a miserable situation. It terrifies me.
dude you are so far ahead of your age group. don’t pay any fricking attention to social media - you’re already way ahead. by the time you’re 25, everyone else will be playing catch up and you’ll already be getting ready to chill in your 30s
I don't know dude, success feels hollow when it's just a meaningless march through each day. And with no social prospects, and little change visible on the horizon, it makes it rough to get out of bed each day to go do stuff. Honestly, I could handle being more or less isolated fine if I didn't have any responsibilities but what can you do? My hope is that my crypto stockpiling pays off, or that I get one of le 6 fig wfh do nothing tech jobs.
“Most of your youth” is over at 22? “Only” $15k at 22? You’re upset because at 22 — entry level, first job out of college — is dogshit? You’re having a hard time because you have no perspective. Of course your job sucks, you’re at the lowest least employable part of your career. You’re having a hard time in life because you lack perspective. You are younger and richer than most and you complain about lack of youth and worry about not having enough. You’re sheltered and spoiled, the sooner you accept this and seek experiences that make you grateful for what you have, the sooner you will be happy. The more you dig your heels in that “you don’t get it, etc”, the longer you’ll suffer. No doubt you’ll respond to this post with a shrug of your shoulders.
imagine being 27 and feeling the same but you deliver Amazon packages and you have ~$5k to your name owe ~$5k on a used car and share an apartment in a shitty apartment with your brother. 22 with $15k is the golden ticket to take calculated risks and have fun as well and figure stuff out. don't think too hard about the future, you don't even know that you will make it to 50. you could die in a car accident tomorrow that wasn't even your fault, would you be satisfied with a life of worry and stres, looking back, if it all ended right now?
>Double Lagavulin please sir
Got told I had 5 years too live. Managed too live past the date and I have a six pack and my childhood best friend is my wife now. I don't feel the need too end my life anymore; for the first time after surviving a pedo ring I was groomed into I feel alive... We are all going to make it bhoys and lassies.
Happy for you man
Thanks Anon I hope the Celtic GODS bless yea with everything in life ma wee mukker
Water please, no tea this time.
Randomly had stomach issues earlier this week after eating some biscuits and gravity with fried quail eggs, puked my guts out and had the runs for an extra day. I had a similar incident earlier in the month after eating hot pot, also with quail eggs, so I'm starting to wonder if I have an allergy to quail eggs specifically, since I can eat chicken eggs just fine.
On a brighter note, in a discussion with my wife I mentioned that I had a thing for muscles, and she got a little flustered and remarked that she USED to have muscles, and she had a really contemplative look on her face so I think I may have successfully planted the seed. It's looking good, bros!
>quail eggs
what country are you from? I am burger and I have never seen in person nor eaten a quail egg
>I may have successfully planted the seed
nice bro. get that girl strong
I'm a burger too, Midwest. My wife and I tend to eat a lot of Asian food so quail eggs tend to come up fairly regularly.
When I have to explain to my grandkids in 59 years time what a quail is because they went extinct, I'll blame you and your wife.
neat. the more you know. I hope they're delicious that and you're not allergic to them
At what point should you have a nice day? I don’t see much point in living, but I have youth
Never
Just be an adult and handle your classes. Bang college bawds if they come onto you but don’t pursue unless you look like the typical early 30s dude that young girls go for. Focus on bettering yourself.
Could be worse, you could be a woman.
Change doesn’t happen, you make it happen. If you spend your life waiting for the moment, you’re going to miss it. You’ve already managed to get this anon to think you’re a decent guy, you just gotta put yourself out there
No just live miserable until you keel over
I'm spam applying job applications while I go through my days along with saving up what money i can and doing schoolwork, but it's not a fun ride
I guess, but my job is actually doing pretty much nothing all day, it's just lonely and frustrating. I know I'm sheltered, but it's hard to understand when you are. I guess I need to grit my teeth and keep trying, but fear of missing out is persistent in the back of my mind. I know logically I'll be fine, but emotion isn't logical. Thanks anyway.
It’s not a fun ride but that just means you’ll appreciate where you end up a lot more. Shit can seem pretty bleak when everyone *seems* like they’re progressing and you aren’t but we are living our own timelines, anon. Unironically just be yourself and you’ll meet your goals.
I’ve gone through the same. Ended up 5 years down the road and obviously nothing really changed except how it hurt so much more. My advice? If you truly love her and think you can take the abuse, keep trying and maybe she’ll change - but more than likely not.
>I’ve gone through the same. Ended up 5 years down the road and obviously nothing really changed except how it hurt so much more. My advice? If you truly love her and think you can take the abuse, keep trying and maybe she’ll change - but more than likely not.
Thanks brother, I do love her and I'm willing to put in effort. I'm sorry about your 5 years gone sour, there is no way to stop BPD unless the person gets professional help. It's a ticking time bomb if they aren't constantly going to therapy, sadly.
My girlfriend works 55+ hours a week so she has no free time and definitely never goes to a therapist. I don't even think she knows she has an mental issue. She explained to me how she thinks but she doesn't know they're symptoms.
What do you recommend in your 5 years experience? She ignored 3 apology texts (over something stupid, I rescheduled a date) and we haven't spoken in 10 days after that.
Do I just wait?
My experience was that she would generally cool down after a couple of days to where we can talk and reconcile - it would always have to be face to face as a text just didn’t do it for her no matter what I said. If I ever wanted longer than 2-3 days (we honestly fought quite a bit but it was worth it at the time I guess for us) - it would end up worse than before because she’d feel abandoned as well.
Show her that you care - do some research into some therapists/psychs/whatever, get in physical contact with her and sit down and talk about whatever. When things are finally calm, bring up the possibly BPD and present her with the research - but make sure it’s in a totally supportive way - nothing than can be seen as accusatory or shameful or etc - as long as she knows you’re there for her no matter what, and she wants to change, it can be done
This is horrible advice. You’re telling him to coddle her delusions. Did you learn nothing in 5 years of this? Do you have no self respect?
I suggested anon help her seek psychiatric help. I didn’t do it soon enough and that’s why my relationship went bad. Anon still has a chance and BPD isn’t a relationship death sentence if she gets on medication and works on resolving the issues
It’s not why your relationship failed. It was never your responsibility to cure her mental disorder. don’t tell this other guy it’s his responsibility. You can’t make her fix her BPD she has to want it for herself.
>implying
anon said she isn’t even aware of having it. how is sharing resources with her making it his responsibility to cure it?
that’s not the problem with your advice. It’s the “don’t wait too long to reconcile or she will feel abandoned” bullshit. it’s coddling her and taking responsibility for her fricked up mental state
that’s literally every woman
and it’s a bullshit way to handle literally any woman
lol this is exactly what im dealing with pretty much
to be fair she was actually getting better with the ghosting (she was forcing herself to angrily respond instead of running away) but it all went back to square one
its so sad watching a girl i love just completely destroy her closest relationship because of her traumatic past
i said it in my response to the other dude, if this doesnt resolve this weekend and she doesnt admit she needs therapy, i will be done with it
Good luck, anon.
Continue to ignore her for the rest of your life. Don’t listen to the other anon. You will waste 5 years just like he did. The best thing you can do for her is cut her out and let her feel the consequences of her actions. By repeating the cycle neither of you will learn or grow.
Finally got a good physique but lack in other areas tbh
Early thirties
Deadend wagie job, small studio apt, no skills, no friends, no network, no gf
Oh well, just signed up for community college, summer and fall semester
Hope that will work out, gotta begin somewhere
Any advice for people going to college later in life?
being a sub 5 male is a living nightmare
I invested too much into my stocks account by mistake after getting my 13th salary and now I have very little money left for the month lol, and I have a very strong savings setting
>after each spending, cents are rounded up 3 times and added to my account, so if I make a 4.50 purchase 1.5 is taken to my savings
I'll pick up some freelance stuff instead of selling what I bought, its gonna be a tough month
I feel like 18 again kek, always had a thing for "class tourism", feels good to scrape a living by choice, its good for the soul
I got minor petellar tendonitis. Gotten better after a couple of days. I hope it resolves until next week. Strangely I don''t feel too depressed about it. I managed to hit my set goal of running 6km. I also have a good protocol with dealing with tendonitis.
I thought dietmaxxing was going to be hard based on how much women complain about it but it’s frickin easy lol
I haven't drank or smoked the whole month. For no reason, just didn't feel like for 25 days.
Today I've thought about nothing but drinking some beers and smoking a couple of cigarettes. On one hand, I don't wanna do it cause it would be cool to reach a 1 month streak. On the other hand, I don't give a frick. I have zero intention of not smoking or drinking anymore, although I was starting to feel good, morally, for being so healthy these past weeks.
Don’t do it anon. If not for yourself, for me.
Anything on your mind? Mental health is key to fitness.
It’ll continue to feel like a chore until you get back into shape and then you fall back in love with it but I’m sure you already know cause
mirin.
Id say stay away from the girl, even if you loved her and want to be friends, that shit that likes to tug at your heart strings - it won’t ever go away, you just learn to deal. My ex cheated and I still feel jealous when I think of her when she’s with whoever now even though that was over a year ago and we’ve both “moved on” . I wish you luck on recovery from your ex and good luck on saving up some money. You seem like a good guy, I believe in you.
>no prospects
Are you studying anything?
Congrats on the bonus, anon. Forget about the women and stick to your plan, focus on yourself and work on bettering yourself so you can find another job that’s a promotion.
thanks boi
sometimes I'm at work or at home or whatever and I think of some things about her and I literally have to hold tears, but there's also negative things that make our breakup and our not getting back together make sense, still it sucks.
for training I have to keep going anyway, I think that after some time of slogging through I get used to it plus once you start becoming chadded it goes better and I do it more happily.
tomorrow I'm going on a hike with an alopine group, I hope to meet some people to go out with or to go hiking with, the best would be a nice girl that also likes going innawoods.
Trust me man, I still cry over the random shit that somehow reminds me of her and the memories come rushing back. I self medicated for a while with drugs and alcohol but the only things that got me through it, truthfully, was being consistent in my routine no matter how shitty I felt and IST - you’re better off than me in that regard tho as you at least have social interactions and possible chances of meeting a new partner. it’s hard to be yourself again after a breakup but once you find yourself again, things turn around. you just can’t give up
>Congrats on the bonus, anon. Forget about the women and stick to your plan, focus on yourself and work on bettering yourself so you can find another job that’s a promotion.
Thanks mang. And yeah that's the plan. I'm planning on getting some cloud certs to pivot in that direction, I work in tech. thanks for the kind works.
This is the gayest thread in all of IST
>This is the gayest thread in all of IST
newbie
ok so i used to do competitive boxing and was fricking fit, now i havent worked out seriously for 3 years (worked out/ran 2/3 Times a month), i started again 3 weeks ago, i go running and rucking and go in mountain trails, do some weights and bodyweight stuff.
honestly working out is a chore to me I do it just because I feel I have an obligation to myself and dont want to be a fat disgusting homosexual.
I'm not fat but I have a layer of fat ofc.
btw for the feels part my gf left 3 months ago and she's in Holland at home with a guy she knew some time ago and they're 100% fricking and it bothers me, but she seems still interested in me and she's writing me, she asked to go eat together but I said no bc I cant just go like that as if nothing happened, i cant stand she fricked another guy even if we're not engaged anymore, we're in very good standing btw, we broke up in a good way but still I cant do it.
for the rest I landed a good job and hope it keeps going well and I can move country in the next years.
I got basically no friends, but some ex friends, so I'm hitting them up, plus I'm trying to do new activities to meet new people, in the end the thing auto feeds, if you know people you'll find yourself in social situations and meet new people, while if you dont know people you'll keep not knowing people, like a snowball rolling and getting bigger.
I'd like to have a gf to come back to after work and be happy together.
my parents are divorcing and also moronic about money so even if they earn good money combined they have like 50% of their combined monthly income saved and the Black folk asked me for 1000 euros to pay bills last month and I've been working for 3 months
that's how I was
Lol it's like you have insect antennas on your head hehe
>jobless
>homeless, living woth mom
>mom and I hate each other, she's an alcoholic
>no prospects
>no car
>no jobs within walking distance
>no schooling
>no friends
>no other family
>every time I try to apply for a job mom b***hes and screams that it's too far and she doesn't have time
> I've been pissed off for the past two weeks without understanding why
Tubby queue tbh there's no reason not to kill mykms.
Garbage thread.
Frick all you dumb Black folk.
Who is mykms and why do you want to kill them?
>28 years old
>been frustrated about my situation. I have a good wfh job(90k/yr), but I live at home now after a bad breakup with my gf I was about to propose to
>moved home to get my head together and save money, was in a lot of debt after buying a wedding ring to propose lol
>was denied a promotion at job, my current position doesn't get yearly bonuses
>have been wasting time and money dating random women to cope instead of going hermit-mode like I intended to
>feeling like a failure and aimless since I'm at home with a stagnant job, no b***hes, and a lot of debt
>wake up thursday morning and see that I got a $5k bonus despite not having the position for one
That was very nice surprise, and was a kick of dopamine I needed to get my shit together. Going to cut off these attention vampire prostitutes and start working on myself the way that I need to.
Also, I have a very bad spending habit because 90k feels like fricking nothing after taxes, despite living at home and only paying $600/m to my parents in rent.
how much do you get after taxes?
I make approx 46.000 a year before taxes and my after tax is approx 24.000, and in Italy that's a high salary, I was lucky to get it at 21 with no previous experience
at the end of the first 12 months of work I plan to have saved approx 16k, I spent almost all of my first 2 paychecks because I said frick it and bought some stuff I wanted for a long time, but now there's not much more I want and anyway I'll be more restrained, so if my parents dont make me pay rent I'll save almost everything
Around 65k after taxes, including the bonus. An average 1 bedroom apartment in my city is around $1,500/month for rent. Food is around $400 for a high protein diet with a lot of steak and shit like that.
How's that compare to Italy?
>How's that compare to Italy?
its alot since your disposable income is still 3.5k.
in Italy where I live, which is Milan, a you'll spend 200 minimum on groceries, if you're tight and dont buy too much "unnecessary stuff", rent is around 800 to 1k, you can find stuff at 6/700 but it's very rare, like 4 houses on an entire housing website, and they're usually mega shit, and consider that the average wagecuck here makes 1500 a month after taxes, that's without even counting a car and its costs of ownership, no shit that most people still live with their parents after one considers these numbers
Damn you're doing pretty good for yourself then. Keep it up spaghettibro
Italy probably makes most of their GDP from tourism and italian staples, so it's no wonder average salary is on the lower end. Most of your economy is chefs/food production people, waiters, and nightstaff.
But as a bonus you enjoy a pretty cheap cost of living paired with good social systems. What does a room or apartment rent at on a monthly basis there?
literally every sentence of your post talks about money. learn some other priorities in your life.
>wahhh wahh i make 90,000 a year working from home, i dont get even more bonuses, i pay nothing in rent but somehow still have no money.
have a nice day
lol his real problem is that he's still fricking poor and thinks he's made it. 90k isn't even middle class.
Move out of commiefornia gay. 90k is very very comfy
90k isn't comfy anywhere but flyover states and even then only if you're a single dude who isn't taking care of anyone. You're not sending your kids to college on that income.
90k is literally destitute. people couldnt even pay rent on 90k a year.
It's well above average. Stop larping. You add very little value to the world and yet you're a parasite off it, we get it.
lmao you sound like LA homosexuals. I live in in a gated community paying mortgage on a 400k house with 85k a year and I’m comfy as frick.
yeah you're right, now that i think about it 90k is basically homeless
you're right and it shows how irresponsible I've been with my spending
>was in a lot of debt after buying a wedding ring
>paying rent to your parents
Do Americans really
>did sandbag workout for the first time on Wednesday
>felt overwhelmed immediately
>2 hours after it ended I got chills and aches and had to go to bed early
>still feel shitty now
Every week somethings fricks up my workout schedule
Just found out the girl I'm in love with has BPD (borderline personality disorder)
Basically any time I make even a small mistake, she will forget all the good times we had, all the good things I've done for her, all the times I've taken care of her and she will think I hate her and cut me off.
I haven't spoken to her in 10 days now, shit breaks my heart, idk what to do
She is a super sweet girl otherwise, it sucks so bad
>Just found out the girl I'm in love with has BPD (borderline personality disorder)
Not worth it bro. BPD is like those bug zapper lights for men. She'll get back to you soon and be all sweet like she hasnt just broke your heart for the past two weeks. BPD is a choice of whether you break up with her now or later because she'll have another episode and go frick a load of guys, or slash your tires, or burn all your clothes. If not IF you break up with her, its what will be the straw that breaks the camels back.
i think maybe you're confusing bipolar and borderline personality (what she has)
it doesnt make them psychotically violent or anything, they literally shut down and run away, then harm themselves if you wont take them back (she already admitted to cutting herself)
you're probably right though, the world is my oyster and i shouldnt be caught up on her
if this doesnt resolve this weekend (and she admits she needs therapy) i will officially be done with it
She's just a crazy b***h using a simp (you)
>Just found out the girl I'm in love with has BPD (borderline personality disorder)
I refuse to believe this bullshit I see all over the internet that all girls claim to have BPD.
I mean these days every tiktoker claims to have mental illnesses
this girl didnt claim to have BPD, i did my own research because she was acting so odd and i found out
the most obvious: constant ghosting (5x in 3 months), only seeing people as evil or good (no grey area), idolizing me and thinking im perfect instead of realizing i have flaws and every human does
lmao if I was a simp I'd be chasing her around, I'm not
you're right that she's "crazy", her brain doesn't work properly because her parents abandoned her at a young age
if she wants to get professional help I will support her, if not I will leave
Just some warmed ice water.
Ex texted me a week ago. Every time she texts me it knocks me back on my ass. I swear she has a 6th sense or something for when I delete her contact and start getting back on track. She texts me a day after I delete her contact, consistently. 2 weeks of good genuine progress and effort every day down the drain.
My father is in the hospital. He spent yesterday and will be there until tomorrow morning I visited him for a few hours. I live with him. I was pretty worried, turned out to just be an issue he’s had his whole life. The veins in his stomach were bleeding. Endoscopy and cauterized. They’re holding him to make sure he’s good and there’s no more bleeding.
I was genuinely afraid to go, wasn’t sure what his condition would be like and didn’t want to see him like that. Also haven’t really had much of a relationship with him since I was a teen. But I did it. Even spent time with my sister after she arrived.
Now I’m home alone and contemplating blowing $120 I don’t have to spend like that on an Asian massage vs just jacking off and smoking weed. Nice rainy night, which is perfect for me with all these stressors. I’m standoffish for the massage although I could go, get my tuggie, come home shower then smoke weed and chill. What does fit think I should do? I seriously don’t have the money to spend on something so non critical and would be dipping into the entirety of my emergency savings effectively setting me at $0.
What am I even saying how fricking dumb could I be this wouldn’t have been been a question for me before that text from my ex sent back into a downward spiral of bad decisions again. Frick I was doing so well. I’m not editing this post to welcome getting called a gay or a moron, and to display exactly what that shit does to me when she texts. I was doing so fricking well. I’ll just beat my meat and enjoy the storm. I’ll get a massage when I finally land a job.
(OP)
I'll take an old speckled hen or sam smith's barkeep
>Notice weird neurological symptoms after getting covid this year from a c**t at my work
>Like random intermittent stabs in my right brain
>Go to pcp
>Thinks it's nothing
>Go to Neuro
>Thinks it's nothing
>Wait a month, ask for MRI
>Get MRI this morning
Hoping and absolutely praying it's nothing serious, saw a couple migraine-related disorders that could cause it but I've seen people in my life get absolutely FRICKED with surprise deadly diseases and I'm a hypochondriac because of it.
On the FLIPSIDE
>Get first-multi-thousand project payment from freelancing this week
>Good gym sessions this week
>Back on track with diet after a cheat day gone wrong
>Finally got to crack my bottle of champagne I bought two years ago intended for the first single-client project where I break 2,000$ for work delivered outside of my dayjob
>Closer to being able to leave my dayjob and actually live, earn a living with something I enjoy doing, escape depression, get b***hes and hang with friends for the first time since like 2018
Mixed bag, not giving up, and neither should any of you brothers.
WAGMI
Update: Date flaked on me, she's flaked the last 3 times. Said she had something "personal" to take care of.
I fricking hate my life that I'm pushing myself to work two jobs and can't do anything on weeknights. What if she found some other dude and is just brushing me off? I hate women and resent modern dating.
Went to go watch some playwithfire videos on flaking and he's saying there's basically a 30:1 flake:date ratio right now and I'm just... I don't fricking know.
I'd say the ratio for most dudes is way higher than 30:1
Remember that you are just one of dozens of dudes she has in her notifications harem giving her dopamine hits. Unless you're #1 then she's only setting up a date with you because it feels good to her to know that if she wanted you you'd be there.
>be Anon in 2023
>excited to get into seeking a partner dating
>get no matches on dating apps, matches you do get don't respond
>get ghosted 99/100 dates before or after
>get a bad review on one of those "Are We Dating the Same Guy [city]?" facebook groups because you accidentally dated a psycho and now your chances have gone down further
>endocrine disrupters in your clothes, water, food, daily life appliances will make you infertile/impotent by 30 so your time is ticking down as you try to get any Modern Female whose been mindbroken by being raised on social media since middle school to act like a decent normal person
>dating apps
>expecting anything other than total prostitutes
you are indeed a clown, anon
>go out to bars
>find nothing but bar trash prostitutes
>go to work
>no attractive women there
>go to mall/public spaces
>impossible to know if you're about to possibly hit on an older looking teenager and get put on tiktok as a creep
>go to gym
>get put on tiktok for glancing at a woman let alone trying to approach or talk to one
Sure is fun being a man in Current Year.
Hinge has worked out for me except for the time some fat b***h reported me and got me banned for like 2 years.
Plenty of matches, higher quality women that I want (tall). Unfortunately, the bullshit spiral of actually getting them on a date still remains.
Kinda pissed because I'm super low effort now because I don't want to waste my time texting them before a first date or inadvertently causing the "ick" and losing it but then the nicer girls think I'm fricking around and don't want to engage come time for the date.
>bars
prostitutes
>work
shitting where you eat
>mall/public spaces
public spaces isnt horrible but it’s usually just cold approaches and that’s only for chad
>gym
also shitting where you eat.
You need to find some kind of hobby/interest that somehow relates to group/team effort as that weeds out most lazy, modern women. Also avoid things that are “instagrammable” as that just attracts social media prostitutes too.
Best bet? Church
>Best bet? Church
Imagine believing that women that go to church aren’t complete prostitutes kek
“Frick church, they singing and the shit ain't even worth it
In the choir, prostitutes and liars, scumbags and the dirt, b***h”
>le hobbies/interests
In the nicest possible way, I have never ever seen or encountered an attractive female at any club for anything. Example, pic related is the local fitness club that IST is always saying, "Bro just take classes at the gym, it's all girls!" The closest I've ever experienced was one genuine great gal at a charity organization, and another at a theater group, but both were already married/in serious relationships.
Which is the realest problem. Girls of any quality over like 22 are already taken by that point. Most quality girls capable of being in a relationship get snagged up in college into longterm relationships. If you didn't meet your wife in uni, you're about to be fricked afterwards. At the same time, those girls 18-22 are specifically told and encouraged NOT to get into relationships and bawd things up instead which makes it even harder to get one in uni. I've met some quality women who are older than that, but they are never single.
>church
Literally the only possible salvation for men now, but you have to know you're going to be battling it out for the one young attractive girl in the entire church congregation. Churches are mainly elderly peoples and people with kids and their kids, with no in between. If you're going to church looking for young single women, good luck.
>During uni got addicted to /sips/, "needed" them to pass exams and study.
>About 2 a day at it's worst.
>Graduated a couple of years ago, working now.
>Wanna get of the /sip/, whilst it was "okay" in Uni when I studied "for myself" I don't want to sacrifice my money (it ads up) and my long term health for my employer. That was not part of our deal.
>Try to quit, had a few ups and downs.
>2 weeks ago get the idea to only drink right before heading to the gym. Something I still do very much for myself.
Since then I have not missed a single gym session, and gone from "one, maybe 2 times a week" to 3 times a week without fail. Lifts have also increased, most notably the amount of reps.
Honestly never thought I'd be able to Frankenstein together 2 bad habits (/sips/ & dodgy gym attendence) into a good one, but it has worked. Also got off my ass and bought a new digital scale to replace the broken one.
After years of stagnation I'm finally feeling stronger each time I visit the gym.
Stopped talking with a girl yesterday because of religious differences. She was awesome but It's better than running with something neither of us were completely comfortable with out of fear of being alone.
At least I hope it was the right decision.
Anyway today's the first day being back "alone" with no one to talk to. Trying to work up the energy to start really sending messages and working on finding the girl that is right.
Aside from that my cut's going on track, determined to get to visible abs for the first time ever. I'm really tired though, that plus all the time thinking if I should distance from the lady friend this week has put my work and workouts way behind.
All in all this week was okay, I think the next will be better as I get into the swing of a new routine.
idl dude if you think she was awesome maybe the differences about religion can be overlooked at least temporarily to get to know each other better, idk the details but cutting it off that way seems too abrupt especially since you say she was awesome
I definitely don't know either, but it wasn't abrupt. We both talked about it extensively and just couldn't see a way past it.
>Was it your beliefs or her beliefs
It was both, she's Pentecostal, the Bible is 100% literal, no evolution, etc. I'm somewhere in between more mainstream protestant and Catholic. We even agree on the most important points, but the way that we go about those main points made the other go
>....ehh I guess that's okay, maybe
We decided since that's how we find our faith, happiness, purpose, etc. it'd be better for each of us to find someone who's reaction is closer to
>that's awesome!
Still we wish each other the best, some guy is gonna be insanely lucky to find her
>the Bible is 100% literal, no evolution, etc.
>some guy is gonna be insanely lucky to find her
maybe a /misc/ack lol
do you as you feel but in my opinion if all else is good you shouldn't lose her for something like that, at least try
Was it your beliefs or her beliefs, if you don’t mind me asking, anon? And I hope you get those abs man, keep at it
On vodka and orange tonight. Ive come to the conclusion male masturbation simply isnt worth it, even tried P-play and its fun the first time but dull afterwards. People spend hours gooning and 99% of the time end on a disappointing finish and then youre just done.
I'm so fricking lonely, I haven't been touched in a year apart from my daughter hugging me.
There's nothing more important than this and still I don't have it, despite having everything else.
I can't go on living like this.
Had a one night stand on Thursday and god it felt so good to have hands all over me
>water for me
> Be me turbo loser for most of my life
> at 29 said Frick it, and started my self improving journey
> fastforward now 35. Im in a pretty good place.
> Still Khv because you cant outlift autism and a very bad parenthood
> but finally getting mires from bellow average girls. Mature women do simp for fat, muscular, succesful and manly 30yos.
> not the same for young girls. I heavily suspect that i need the swallow the lean pill for that to happen.
The Question being:
Should i date now some roastie to have fun and to learn, or should i focus on my career (im very close to get my college degree), lose those last 30 pounds that separetes me from chadkingdom and then focus on sex and relationships with zoomer thots?
>Should i date now some roastie to have fun and to learn, or should i focus on my career (im very close to get my college degree), lose those last 30 pounds that separetes me from chadkingdom and then focus on sex and relationships with zoomer thots?
both
The only downside is that a 35yo khv that is used to be alone has a high risk of falling for the first woman that gives him some happiness
You're 35 asking questions that would be sad to hear from a 25 year old. I'd say you better start getting every experience you can with what time you have left. You'll be 40 before you know it, use that as a motivator and maybe you can be a man by then.
>35 year old khv loser
>calls people roasties and uses phrases like "chadkingdon"
yeah dude
Words have meaning and are used to comunicate ideas. The faster and clearer the better. You damn moron.
Listen homosexual, Im strong and successful. And i achieved that by will, againts all odds. Not by luck.
Only women value men for their sex life.
> be me
> girl I really like ended it with me in March.
> down 30lbs since and 20lbs from my goal
> look good now, use her BS as motivation
> see her yesterday while on my motorcycle
> still not over her after all this time
Usually I’m over people fast. Even after my gf of two years ended it I was over it within a few weeks, but this one lingers
We gunna make it tho
Does "I can't today maybe another time!" mean frick off or actually another time when asking a girl out?
I've known her for a long time and probably friendzoned but she doesn't do friendzone shit to me like calling me "a good friend" or talking about other guys with me. I have no idea if I should finally just give up or keep trying. We flirt a ton but it never goes further because I'm a pussy
>Does "I can't today maybe another time!" mean frick off or actually another time when asking a girl out?
It means frick off. If she was interested she would have suggested another time. Even something as simple as "I cant do today, maybe next weekend?"
frick
I literally had a girl tell me the same shit cause her car was having problems. I hesitated because I remembered anons like you telling me I should frick off.
>”hey you need a ride then?”
>”sure!”
>fricked her 4 hours later
fricked a random girl after 4 hours of meeting?
idk my only sexual experience is with my ex gf of 3 years, we fricked alot in most ways possible but I've only had sex with her, I kissed a couple girls and ate one of them out but that's it, one thing I always felt lacking in is that I havent fricked/kissed etc many girls, because I used to be very shy in the past, now I'm not and i can go and talk to them even tho I'm not a giga Chad at apprroooching
Not random, worked with her and decided to invite her on a date and it went well.
>she actually had car issues
You don’t have to be giga chad to frick. Literally be yourself and not a fat moron and you’d be surprised at the amount of women who’d frick you
who cares what it “means”? ask for what you want. a refusal is not a refusal unless it’s explicit or you get ghosted
Fair enough, probably about time I take my panties off
I'm so lonely and horny bros...
Chatted up a broad last night, got her IG. Shot my shot. Then got nothing. Damnit was pretty keen on her too.
I don't understand why I keep betraying my body. It feels fricking amazing to wake up early, exercise and eat healthy, yet I fricking slip every fricking time. I don't even have the excuse of it being hard because it's literally what I prefer. What the frick is wrong with me.
Probably because doing all of that takes constant effort throughout, even if only a little. It's never easier to try than it is not to, I believe, strictly speaking. Anyone could just slouch and not try, but to actually try is a different thing entirely. You know?
Same brother. Maybe it's true, that we all have a death wish, like Freud said?wxjg0
i got scammed and lost $160,000. I want to sleep and never wake up
Story?
how
How do I actually stop being an Incel? I have friends who are fat as shit smoke drink shit personality ugly (ones literally got a facial disfigurement) and they manage to not be incels. I’m obviously not amazing and I am a bit tubby but I’d say I’m a solid 5/10, but I’m 5’7. Is this why I’m an Incel? I’m age 20 as well, I’ve never had a woman show interest in me before
You’re an incel because you’re a 20 year old tubby zoomer with no self confidence that compares himself to his friends instead of comparing himself to himself from yesterday. 5’7 isn’t the end of the world.
Women get attention, they don’t give it (only to chad, aka top 5% of men. don’t feel bad, most of us aren’t there either). Get into shape and be confident or at least project confidence and that will attract women.
I have a friend that literally waffles about wanting to neck himself on the daily, cries about the most trivial shit. He gets the most pussy btw
>my friends are all fat ugly stupid drunkards and terrible people
With friends like these...
>probably never looked better (dyel by IST standards but ay)
>self image's never been worse
I guess that's what IST and blackpills do to a homie
You're actually redpilled coz now you see yourself for how you really are and can't go back.
not him but, the blackpill dogshit is the opposite of redpill
redpill = you are a pussy and need to improve
blackpill = you are born a pussy and will always be a pussy and theres no point of improving
blackpill here should be permaban but mods love it for some reason
I have to break up with a girl because she's not right for me and I'll never really be who she wants, but she's been the victim of such continuous awful luck for the past half year that I don't know how to do it without feeling terrible.
Just start doing unhinged things like making passes at her sister and friends. You're playing with house money at this point.
Her shitty past choices isnt your problem nor is it your fault. Do what you gotta do
>late 20s
>IST, good career, generally social and active
>been feeling up and down on life last two years
>always felt like a coward when it comes to kms
>tried once but pussed out of it last minute
>trying to develop confidence to do it
>felt really shit so I decided to take a last minute trip to a random island to free solo climb (climbing without protection by yourself)
>start climbing
>don’t feel like kms, honestly all I felt was uncontrolled laughter
>actually finished the climb (and made the down climb)…it was maybe 100’ in height, started it by down climbing half way and then traversing across before going up to get to the hardest route there, allegedly a 5.11c).
Sitting in my hotel room with nobody to share my feelings with…can’t say I feel “great”, but I def have a different perspective on death. My existence is a joke, I’m a broken man, and my dreams are likely to stay that way, but frick if there isn’t something so hilarious about staring death in the eyes and laughing at it. I have to continue living simply to mock death. I wish other anons that are down on life can find meaning in their lives.
When you're ready to die, you can do anything
I'm 19 and I want a pretty 16 year old gf that hasn't had a romantic bond yet. Where do I find one?
Its my exes birthday tomorrow and im in a slump over it. We broke up like 2 months ago and im still not over her, i cant stop picturing her celebrating with some other guy and theres a lot of feeling with that. I know its not healthy to think like this but its tough to stop.
I deadlifted 315 for 5 yesterday though so im pretty stoked about that.
The worst part is that while you're sitting, being bummed out about it, some guy who barely cares about her is pumping her full of cum before making an excuse to dip before it gets too late.
Why would that be worth your psychic energy? You have no control over anything in this situation except what you choose to focus on. Hit the gym, wink at a zoomer thot in spandex, then go get a scoop of your favorite ice cream. You're going to make it, as soon as you spend your energy on appreciating how beautiful life can be.
Im pretty sure shes in her ho phase right now. We were talking a few weeks ago and she said people werent made for monogamy and when i asked what she meant she stopped talking.
I know its not worth it. We were talking about buying a house together before the breakup and i had planned a vacation to the beach for her birthday. I cant find anything to distract me right now so im struggling stopping my brain.
>ho phase
That’s not real and she’s a bawd. You’re better off without her
Yes.
I know im not the first or the last to suffer heartbreak. Ive accepted im never getting the closure i want but its not easy. I just dont get how it went from moving in together and talking about kids to never wanting to see me.
A wise man once said: “Women are fricking stupid”
Hey man, just wanna let you know that you’re not alone in this. My fiancée (who lost her virginity to me) broke up with me and said women aren’t worth less based on their body count. She got ran through right after the breakup and is now a fat slob. It’s hard, but you have to accept that your ex has been tainted with ideas from modern women and can’t be saved. You’ll realize that you’re worth more than some prostitute that doesn’t see the value of owning a home. raising a family together, etc.
>said women aren’t worth less based on their body count
Wow, color me shocked when a woman determines her own sexual market value. You dodged a bullet, sorry though
>My fiancée (who lost her virginity to me)
so you turned her into a prostitute and released her into the wild. cool
>log onto the weekly fit friday feel thread
>everyone talks about their great wfh six figure job again
This plus having girlfriends. Why has this become the humble brag thread where boring normies complain about some minor bump in the road?
Because we’re surrounded by a bunch of autistic attention starved DYELs that can’t get compliments for their 2 plate bench so they larp as 300k/yr math majors that frick 10s every day
IST is one of the more mainstream boards and for as much as we laugh, I'd say this board has the highest rate of users who had a chance to become normies and users who do become normies.
t. 25 y/o with 20 y/o GF and never stopped going on fit.
On the one hand if you come on IST, you are probably more likely to stick to your fitness regime, I find that myself. And if you do fitness, then you will definitely improve your chances of becoming a normie. On the other hand, you get exposed to extremely demoralizing and baity posts that suck up your time and demoralize you to some extent and hope that the "you become the people around you" saying isn't that true. Like there are some terribly toxic and messed up people here, endless manlet stuff, and so on. Because of that I think these compete:
Television & Film might sound contentious but every girl watches television/film and you will be watching shit with her, so it's good not just for the exact knowledge but to have good opinions and commentary. Being on IST it is a bit moronic of course, they also talk about pretentious directors and shit. The danger obviously would be you just get wrapped up in stupid shows and going on the board would get you to waste huge amounts of time watching them instead of being a normie.
Animals and nature - everyone normal loves animals and nature. An interest in them can definitely lead to normieism.
The others I marked should be obvious. Fashion - maybe but I doubt it, I think people should just wear something that looks good to them and not care about fashion. Music/literature - potentially yeah like tv, but people often have very specific tastes in those.
The demoralization stuff is just funny to me. I know from when I was younger/more vulnerable and hung out on LULZ how badly it can frick up somebody who is susceptible to it though.
Also add mu to your list.
>no IST
>no IST
>no IST
>no IST
>no IST
>no IST
You sound boring
>Why has this become the humble brag thread where boring normies complain about some minor bump in the road?
Because to normies this isn't a "bump in the road" it's driving off a cliff. Just like how all normies now are on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications because on occasion they sometimes get sad or nervous about something. People's lives here are so good that any minor nuisance like not getting a raise at their 6 figure job, breaking up with a girlfriend, some issue with the house they own, feels like the end of the world.
>I make 90k (lmao)
>I'm miserable!!!1
ever considered killing yourself you braggart?
I have a completely worthless life and I'm suicidal about it but I still do nothing to change it. I hate everyone including myself. I'm terrified of everything. At 30 years old, what's the point when you've wasted your best years doing nothing.
it's over
Lets start of with some beer barkeep, keep the strong stuff ready though.
>had two family members die within a week of each other
>first funeral last week
>may have failed a very important licensing exam, won't get results for another three weeks at least
>would be ultra mega fricked if I did
>don't have a lot of friends to begin with, possibly won't see them for a long time due to shitty conflicting schedules
>most lifts have plateaued, not making much measurable progress
I don't even know what to make of it all. Feels like I've just put everything in a box and am trying to ignore it while coasting on momentum.
>31
>get depressed over the fact that I don't have a six figure career like everyone else on IST
>realize that even if I had money nothing about my life would change
>I would still be a miserable khv too afraid to get in a relationship anyway
>I would still be asocial with no friends anyway
>I would still have nothing I wanted to spend money on anyway
>I would still have no desire to own a house anyway
It has never been more over than it is right now. At 31, there is literally no point anymore.
Same here. I am very mentally ill. This month has felt like the make-or-break point for turning my life around. It's still to be decided.
I have 6 months left to get my shit together
>at 31 there’s no point
>at 40 there’s no point
>50, 60, 70, no point
The point is to live homosexual. You’re going to get older no matter what so do something that’s gonna at least help you later
>be me late 20s
>chat up qt early 20s coworker
>we become pretty close friends
>talk everyday
>she mentions a guy
>avoids using the word boyfriend
>recently starts calling him bf
>he’s going out of state for like a year
>tells me she’s sad about it
>wondering if I should try to make a move or if I’m firmly in the friendzone
>she’s genuinely fun to talk to so I’l feel like b***hing out and settling for friendship
>I don't respect your relationship choices, I am not happy for you that you've found someone you like, you're sad at the idea of being temporarily apart from him and I am considering using that to my advantage, please date me
You’re right anon I’ll just be a good friend instead
Yeah I’ll take a whiskey. Top shelf. Yeah whatever. One rock please. Thank you thank you
>late 20s
>6 fig job
>comfy 4 lift day regiment per week
>no gf no real friends
I was hoping the Feels Bar would be open. I do have an overwhelming sense of appreciation and gratefulness of how beautiful life is, but I keep getting the feeling I’m like stuck on a boss on some deep level that I can’t get past.
>girls on le dating apps ignore me after the 3rd message
>practically have to invite myself to hang out with friends
What is this feeling. I am introverted but not enjoying life with other people is a sinking thought. I just want a gf and some real friends.
>6 fig job
like clockwork.
ignore
Just another crab in a bucket. Reddit tier response. He speaks from jealousy and lacks empathy or understanding of your situation from what I read in his response. Just because you are ahead in some aspects of your life doesn't mean that the issues you face aren't real OR could be shared and understood by those who aren't doing as well (in dating, their careers, finances, etc.). Dude considers 6 figure earnings as "rich" in 2023.
Dating is brutal these days, especially on the apps. Don't take the messages dying off as your fault but understand that these girls have so many options that its hard for them to just stick to one or have the energy or drive to keep up all the small talk. My best advice would be to get off the apps. I used them since I was 18 and they have brought nothing but bad things into my life. Gave me a really bad relationship with sex and how I view women. Was not good for me. Also struggling to find a girlfriend or build meaningful friendships. All the guys my age are juvenile and the girls are out of touch with reality. I swear I have seen things you wouldn't believe and im only early 20s.
>early 20s
>dude guys my age are so juvenile, im so much smarter than them
>dude the girls are so out of touch with reality unlike me
enjoy your life of autism
My room mate is 25 and wipes his snots on our bathroom wall while he pisses when there is toilet paper and a trashcan both within reach of the toilet. The best part is he leaves them at eye level. Its very impressive. My best friend hold his girlfriend down and farts on her. Yeah, I think I am doing fine comparatively on the maturity scale. Never said I am smarter, the one who wipes is snots on the wall is in the same doctorate program as me and studies half as much as me for the same grades. Nice guy, just acts like a child.
Didn't I say in my post that I had experienced my own issues/lapses with reality with my feelings on intimacy and the opposite sex? I have my own flaws. Trust me. Plenty. As for you, you are a...
CRAB. IN. A. BUCKET.
>More anecdotal bullshit that nobody cares about
>"I have my own flaws!"
>Talks about more pointless bullshit
>"uh....uh r*ddit post!"
Wrong boardo
"Cancer is a genus of marine crabs in the family Cancridae. It includes eight extant species and three extinct species, including familiar crabs of the littoral zone, such as the European edible crab, the Jonah crab and the red rock crab."
buck·et
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"a bucket and spade"
ive been so gassed from work this week. I do field research and while its not like im digging ditches, i am walking around, and squatting down over and over again all day in the hot sun. I havent gone to the gym as much as i wouldve liked to and its kinda upsetting me.
I’ll get a strawberry milkshake
>Russian, don’t drink so no socializing in my age group
>Last month of uni, only now got enough money for Work&Travel program to the US
>The program is only for uni students
Bros I’m torn between wasting another year of uni getting másters just for a chance to see the world and get some $$$ (converting ur minimum wage to rubles can make me not work for like 3 years) or just moving on with my life here getting a normie job. One of the only times I’m lost
Go get those US dollars and see the world my man. This is a no brainer.
kys yourself, why the frick would you want to wash dishes in burgerland
third world mentality sucks
>5’6”
Why should I go on
5’6” is fine, you're still visibly taller than most women. Some girls shorter than you will still filter but they're just the type to get caught in trends and would be annoying to be around in the first place. Taking them out there's still a million decent women out there.
Practice meeting and talking to women by whatever method seems interesting to you and don't worry about height
And I'm saying this as a skinnyfat 5’6” guy that has no issues getting cute girls to date
>promotion
>yuge raise
>coworkers respect my input despite no relevant experience, cuz i know what im talking about
>fricked fwb the day after I broke up with my ex, went on a getaway with her the weekend after and fricked for 12 of the 24 hours we were away
>get mires from girls that are too young to be miring me, or at least im too old to go after them
>20 year old has been all over me, heavy eye contact. got her number, she's got a bf but has been mezmerized by me, wanted to know all about me
>fricked 3 separate girls raw last weekend
>realize ex has lipedema, caught her while she still had good proportions. roman statue like, but will continue to balloon up
life has never been so good, everything is coming into place. Investments are doing phenomenally too.
sure anon
After talking with a friend of mine I'm really starting to see the biggest mental hurdle I have left in my life.
I decided that I was going to commit to a career that I loved and become an animator, but I've taken it to the absolute extreme by mentally staking my entire life on achieving this.
With a healthy mindset this wouldn't be an issue but it's caused me to develop such an unconscious perfectionism that I'm either hyperfocusing on one aspect of drawing or so overwhelmed that I don't know where to start. I understand I need to "just draw" but I've just gotten so in the way of myself I need to take a step back and adjust my mentality towards art once and for all.
How do I stop taking this so seriously and unwind myself from this constantly stressed out state?
I’ve had the same thing happen to me 1 to 1, believe me, the stress will only continue to pile on as long as you bet your entire life and personality on it. Sleepless nights, worries about the time passing, all that shit.
Ironically what helped me get over it and finally made me start anew was letting go. Fear kills creativity and enjoyment so imagine you already failed and just do it for yourself. You will naturally get better at it with practice and patience, so frick objective quality, you decided to do it in the first place cause you enjoy the process so go back to the very beginning
>Fear kills creativity and enjoyment so imagine you already failed and just do it for yourself.
That's probably the best advice I could have possibly gotten. I just need to recognize that the reason people like artist's work is only partially for the skill and mostly the energy of the enjoyment the artist had making it. Thanks fren I really needed that.
I've been trying to work on a good curriculum for myself as well but I think I should take the idea of just consistently drawing every day and build on that
I love the saying that "The perfect is the enemy of the good". I too am a perfectionist. I drive myself into actual mental anguish/agony over myself and my faults and shortcomings. We have to recognize often that when we are hyperfixated on chasing perfection, something that is by definition unattainable in our very imperfect world while we live our very imperfect lives, that we miss out on making a lot of really good, meaningful progress in whatever it is that we choose to pursue. Set small, REALISTIC goals for yourself. It is okay to throw yourself into your work and to let your passion take hold, but you have to maintain some semblance of balance. Life can be rich and full if we choose to make it so and it is much more than just our careers.
I am still trying to figure out the issue myself but I am making progress. I get really upset when a lot of my preclinical work doesn't go the way I want it to or isn't perfect as it can be for the hypothetical patient and I end up scrapping my work when it is overall decent still. Learning to accept my limitations and then focus on improving marginally has helped. I hope this advice helped you a bit and I wish you the best in your career and life. Be good.
>Got a little successful
>People from both sides of my family start trying to frick me over
Just a pint of a dark ale, bartender.
Work on fun side projects you care about.
>Investments are doing phenomenally too
If the debt ceiling doesn't get raised in a few days, you can kiss it all goodbye.
Travel some more if you can. Travel and work towards getting a job so you can stay.
>"I have so much money! Why am I miserable??? :("
Look if this isn't a bait post, for the last 30 or so years, rich people have been fricking over ENTIRE generations of people. You are going to be hated no matter what you do or how nice you are.
People view you as sub-human because of all the damage extremely rich people have caused for millions of normal people.
The only people you're going to make "friends" with are other rich buttholes that are just going to use you.
Get used to it. Go cry about it after you beat the shit out of some prostitute.
>Look if this isn't a bait post, for the last 30 or so years, rich people have been fricking over ENTIRE generations of people. You are going to be hated no matter what you do or how nice you are.
>People view you as sub-human because of all the damage extremely rich people have caused for millions of normal people.
>The only people you're going to make "friends" with are other rich buttholes that are just going to use you.
>Get used to it. Go cry about it after you beat the shit out of some prostitute.
That's what you got from that post? What the hell are you rambling about? That anon's problem is that he's a social autist who is probably a software engineer or similar autistic profession who pride themselves on their large salary (it's why he listed it first like they always do) but have nothing else in their lives.
You need to realize that your current best will look pathetic in five years. You'll grow dramatically, but only if you draw constantly. It is important to target your flaws to an extent, but producing quickly and focusing on your strengths gets better long term results. Think about what you're creating, shit it out, improve it, and when you realize that you're just nitpicking - you're done. It's a bit different as a writer/editor, but the same core ideas still apply.
Work's been shit; buying shit for the gubberments is so autistic with all their clauses and requirements, then they get pissy when I don't bring it onto the dock in a couple days, despite the paperwork they force me to do. Luckily I have some really bro tier coworkers, we even went to a happyhour with some other boomers which was surprisingly fun even if I did overdo it on pizza and beer with everyone.
I'm still a fatass so I'm working on my lifts, I wanna get to 2pl8 bench, when I can only do 1pl8+10lbs; it feels like a really steep hill to climb. Also, I've been trying to do that couch to 5k thing (the guide with Emi on it) which is hard, but I can do the first week pretty reliably.
Lastly, my sister seems to be inspired to work out by me, my mom and dad says she's going to the gym more, drinking whey, doing routines, all that shit; it feels nice that I'm an inspiration as an older brother.
It's hard being lonely, and I feel like I'm lonely all the time. Being outdoors on a trail helps, it puts things in perspective. I came up with a mantra to repeat to myself:
"Life is more than regretting your past mistakes."
Sorry for rambling, wish you the best anons
What are the best feels movies of all time? Place beyond the pines or blade runner?
both inferior to Big Fish
i work with two women mid 20s and they are absolutely insufferable. one has a horrific vocal fry and the other is just annoying as fricking hell and obnoxious. i know most mid 20s women and younger are like this while the late 20s or older seem to be pretty normal. how people here make their life goal to get girlfriend who is teens thru early 20s defies my logic.
You find one that’s not totally brainwashed and you remold her through the very same masculinity she tries to denounce.
Still trying to cope with the ultra-terrestrial occupation of Earth.
Autistic question:
>meet girl who's dad is friends with my dad
>she cute
>puts me in friendzone
>still try to be friends with her, talk to her often, go out with her places
>I'm always the one who has to reach out to say "what's up?"
>get sick of it after the 3rd time
>don't message her
>she hasn't messaged back
Should I keep silent?
Do you pay for her when you go out? Do you feel like she actually enjoys hanging out with you? Are you objectively attractive?
Nah, we split it or she pays for everything, or I pay for everything.
I think so, it's hard to read her emotions as she's kinda "out there" sometimes
I'm not the worst looking but I'm certainly not the best.
I’ve hung out with a girl like this. She told me she doesn’t like being the person to reach out first to anyone. My advice would be to not get emotionally involved with her in the slightest, but maybe use her as a backup plan if you ever need someone to hang out with. Wanna see a movie but don’t wanna go alone? Hit her up.
>go to competition at a different college
>Hang out with other teams after
>Very cute girl on the local team
>Said team invited only our team to the town drinking challenge
>Drink not just because challenge but also incredibly nervous because girl is cute
>Beat the challenge
>Was a champion, but not a winner
>Pass out in the bathroom of the bar, have to get carried out
>Think over and over I fricked up something fierce for the next few days
>Fast forward 2 months to this week, get over it
>Conference for research
>She's fricking here
>Talk with her here and there
>Man up
>Ask her to hangout Thursday night
>We talk for a couple of hours, didn't feel like it was that long at all
>Tell her at the end it was a very unexpected second chance but I was so happy about it
>She said the same
>Right before leaving today she told me that she was really happy she came because of me, and that she doesn't even think about when I got drunk, but mentioned having a pretty traumatic breakup in January
>she's in Oregon
>Im in Utah soon, might be taking a job in Texas after I graduate
>Currently have the worst butterflies in my life
Help me out bros, I was thinking about having some time for a road trip after I graduate and start my job, how terrible of an idea would it be to go to Oregon?
Happy for you, anon. Can be a tricky situation. The best advice I can offer you is to make your choices off the reality of the situation rather than what it could be. Just make choices for your sake, not for someone else. Other than that don't stress. What is meant to happen will happen. All things will happen in their time.
Don't get oneitis and do the long distance shit. If your paths part, go your separate ways and find other women to vet.
Life is too short to get hung up on a woman that isn't going to put some priority into your wants and needs.
I'm feeling a bit lost career wise.
I'm in supply chain, more specifically procurement
it's okay, but I really want to do more stuff with the entire supply chain (identify stopgaps, meeting more with suppliers, conversing with engineers on different companies) and shit like that.
Or I wanna go back to school and get an engineering degree; I dropped it but I was a lazy piece of shit, it feels just half done you know?
I grew up.
I just turned 25 and I feel that.
I went through some traumatic shit when I was a child and then when I was 20 and am just now starting to recover.
I'm optimistic but there is that parasite voice in my head telling me I'm an old man and missed out on the early 20s experience but frick it.
really fricking sucks that my whole life is ruined just because i didn't frick teen pussy in high school
Are there any gold standard methods/books on cracking vidya addiction?
Rational Recovery by Jack Trimpey. It was written for alcoholics/drug addicts but AVRT is trivial to apply to other addictions.
Literally google "rational recovery" and "AVRT basics".
t. was a coomer for 15 years then read RR.
Thank you and God bless you bro. I'm gonna sort myself out and give back, that's my pledge
have a nice day fricking non-replying homosexual moron
What's a non replying homosexual?
There's likely select few resources you could read on digital addictions that aren't too spiritual and/or whimsical in nature, but definitely do your due diligence on researching a book to read for that... I don't know of any to recommend, myself.
In my case it boiled down to that I just bored of vidya and needed to find better uses of my time but also growing up in general.
I had previous experience with nofap and muscling through breaking other addictions, so I never found getting off vidya was hard when I decided it was time.
It was easy to quit and pursue other things that added more value to my life.
Wondering this myself. What's crazy is I never had a vidya addiction, but 6 months ago my gf dumped me and I just feel like gaming all day now. Not sure if it's a legit addiction or temporary or what. I guess my brain is just filling in the time that I used to spend with her as a cope
I think this gay
Got mad that you didn't reply to him. As gay as I feel having a vidya addiction, it helps knowing I'm not as pathetic as someone getting triggered because they didn't get a (you)
Get rid of your consoles/pc. That's what I did, now my only vice is this godforsaken website
what works for me is just selling everything
Having trouble holding onto friends lads. Last year I went out and made 6-7 friends.
2 moved
1 had a falling out
And contact's getting spotty with the rest.
I have a best friend, close family, and a girlfriend, so it's not the end of the world, but I've noticed this has become a pattern for me. I'm planning on moving abroad next year and I'm a bit concerned that I'm gonna find myself isolated.
Maybe I'm making too much of it, i dunno.
I'm losing my friends and I'm worried as well. But I look at my mother
>is 54 years old
>makes friends everywhere
>parties with neighbors all year when she just moved in a year ago
>has so much shit to do she's cancelling plans to hang out with her children cause that's worth more for her than social life
If a 54 years old woman with 3 kids can make friends and have so many events without even trying, sure we, young, fit men can.
A gf, family and a best friend is all you need. Focus on your immediate goals and eventually you'll meet people like you. I'm in the exact same boat, and I know I'll meet people like me somewhere along the way. There's plenty of us.
That's funny, my mom's the same way.
But yeah I reckon it's best to just stay focused for now. & maybe I'll find some time this summer to get out and meet some people.
fricking confused and don’t even know gentlemen, finally talk to a girl that’s my type, brunette..bangs..glasses nerdy girl mommy body even had interests like games and was fun to talk deep with her. she would text me goodmorning and goodnight always give me compliments, played some games too one night everything going perfect. than we schedule meet up yesterday she’s excited told me she’s eager and also said to bring sweats for a comfy movie night , we meet up and it’s going good gave her a hug we talked than walked around the city to a thai place, soon as we sit down she goes to the rest room and same thing when we go to a different restaurant had a feeling something was off, than later in the day she said her stomach wasn’t feeling good and so we went back hugged told me she was really sorry told her it was no problem, she later texted me saying that she got anxiety and depressive wave hit her now the texts aren’t so good right now . frick man… i don’t want to lose this girl guys.. im just so lost because did i do something wrong? im tired of this fricking feeling of not meant for love.
She’s hung up on a previous boyfriend or you’re such a chad that you made her spaghetti everywhere. It’s probably the first one.
There was a guy from Alberta here last week who said he didn't know who would win the election. If you're here bro:
https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/cbc-poll-ucp-alberta-1.6855265
>Calgary remains a battleground
Fricking jeets
I'm white in BC in a majority brown area and frick Pajeeta women pretty routinely.
I'll have a beer tonight. Sorry in advance but I don't have anyone else I can really talk to about this so I'm gonna blog a little. Just kind of need to b***h about something to get it out of me.
my gf got in a fight with my best friend's wife a few weeks ago. Best friend got dragged into it and then subsequently dragged me into it despite me having 0 to do with it, as I was sick and bedridden when it all went down and only learned about it the next day. We all exchanged some words and it exploded into this big thing that it shouldn't have, and the wife said some shit that really rubbed me the wrong way deep in my core. Like I can't believe someone this close to me, who supposedly has thought of me as her best friend for 10+ years, would say some of the shit she said. I won't go into details because it has a lot of layers and needs a ton of context. So I'm far from cool but I knew if I responded right then I'd burn the whole bridge down. Wanted time to cool off but in that time I realized how reliable I've been to them and how often they brush my needs away. I begin drafting a message only to find out that wife called my gf on her break at work and over the hour they apparently ironed things out and so now everyone else is living life like nothing happened. But I'm still here mad as frick but everyone else apparently thinks everything is cool. They think I'm having "one of those moments" and that I'll "come around" but I'm fricking tired of these c**ts taking me for granted. Then I found out a couple days ago that they think I owe them an apology. Absolutely delusional to drag me into this bullshit and then act like I've done something wrong.
I'm just so aggravated by it all. Some shit I had no hand in has pissed me off beyond belief to the point where I've been contemplating cutting my two "closest" friends out of my life. Even though I put way more muscle into the friendships. They've never been reliable when I needed them so I'm battling mixed emotions tonight.
>my gf
stopped reading right there
I only make 31k a year if that helps. I'm not some larping autist pretending to be 6'4", have an 8 inch dick, and 6 figure income like the homosexuals earlier in the thread. But I get it. Hope things work out for you.
but you have friends and family and that's all that matters bro
go talk to them about how you feel instead of bottling it up and letting the resentment grow
I mean, you're right, I do have friends. But the thing is, I don't really like them that much. This time away and being angry has only helped me realize that I put in way more than they ever have. It's been an 80/20 split at least with me giving my all and them taking, saying thank you, and leaving it there. I have gone so far out of my way to be a great friend to them, between helping them move, doing 3 weekends of unpaid yard work last summer with me calling out of my own work while one was working overtime and the other had medical issues acting up, driving 40 minutes every day to feed their animals while they were on vacation every year since they've been married, watching their baby every now and then so they can go on a date, bringing them food, playing a myriad of games I have 0 interest in because he wants to play... But yet when I need something it's always "dang that sucks bro, hope it works out." Never offer a helping hand. They just apparently think that feeding me every now and again and "listening" and "letting" me go to their house every few weeks, despite them begging me to come, and giving cookie cutter advice at any problem I bring up, is them being my "best" friends. They haven't helped me move before. They tell me they see me and my brother at the same level despite my brother being a 300lb absolute shitbag. Never wants to do anything that I want to do. Actively trying to police who I'm friends with on multiple occasions.. Then all the really small things that just add up over time that I can't really list. I'm wondering if I even want them back in my life at this point. How "good" are these friendships? All they really do is take. Reflecting on it all, I feel like dropping them would be lifting a big burden off myself.
I know friendship is important and healthy, and I don't have many friends at all, but out of these 10 years of being great to them, they sure don't seem to see me in the same light that I saw them. idk man.
You may be right, and if you are then you maybe should pull back a little. But I wouldnt do anything drastic and stupid. Sit on it for a couple weeks and let the argument leave your mind in terms of anger. Then if you really think you put too much in, just stop doing so much for them. You dont need to all in or out, and its the mature and responsible way to handle it.
However right you may be on some points, it is best to just forgive and forget. No reason to destroy a good friendship over dumb shit.
Bad advice. Don’t let yourself get steamrolled. The resentment will never go away. Talk to your friends and if they don’t understand your perspective on things you don’t need them.
Tonight I learned the three women I treated well the most ended up twisting my reputation to shreds behind my back.
I'm not misogynistic but I'm asking myself wtf has trusting women gotten me in life? Wtf has being nice gotten me to?
I'm conflicted because I thought I was missing a decent woman in my life but now I'm thinking most women play the same shitty game and I need to call them out on their bs.
Don’t trust women anon. I’m not a woman hater or some backwards guy, but women truly are untrustworthy. Be nice to them, treat them kindly, but do not trust them to do the right thing or be honorable, they are simply different from men.
>go out to concert alone
>hope to have a good time and not bother anyone
>get harassed by a woman
Fricking why, all I wanted to do was listen to music
The 3 dudes I silently asked for help can go frick themselves and the 2 girls that saved me are angels and may they encounter nothing but joy
>get harassed by a woman
harrassed how even
Are you so desperate for human contact that the idea of a stranger touching you and continuing to touch you after clearly expressing you’re not interested is something alien?
thanks for the catty explanation of what happened as though i'd already knew it i asked you fairy frick jesus christ precious
Sounds like projection. Tell us anon, are you THAT desperate?
kek this homie so weak he got raped by a female
I have a good salary but if I spend money on all the things I want to enjoy like a nice rental place, traveling every month etc. then there is not much left.
People tell me that that's irresponsible and I should aim to save and invest around 1/3 of my salary.
In the future will I regret enjoying myself now instead of properly saving?
i can only bench 200 lbs for 5 reps
JUST
i feel like shit
if you still have DOMS after 3 days should you ignore it and just lift again idk
i want to lift to get my head straight and i only just started again but i tense literally anything and its still stiff or sore
>don't feel like im improving anymore
>still have never talked to a woman for longer than 5 minutes before
>still hate uni
At least I'm doing better at uni than last year. But God I fricking hate this slop of a life.
>post 2 girls I love in /b/ share thread
>get ignored
>other anon's gfs get all the attention
after lifting so much... I'm getting mogged by random coomers... how do I cope
Many such cases
I also posted body in IST to shut some buddy up and got no replies
that's 3 fantastic bodies for me that went completely unnoticed
I think my standards are crap
>have hernia
>have been taking Accutane for 6 months now, 2 more months left
>Accutane dries soft tissue and makes body prone to injuries that heal slower
>haven't been in the gym in over 2 weeks because I'm worried hernia gets worse
>do band stuff for my shoulder, biceps, triceps, bicycle every day and on a 500kcal deficit so I don't get fat until my surgery in 3 weeks
>won't be able to lift heavy for 3-4 weeks after the surgery
It's over
I was thinking of getting a biceps tenodesis later this year but I can hardly handle the 2 months I'm out of the gym
I unironically feel like vomiting thinking about having any intimate relationship with women
there's nothing here at the other side
>only have one IRL friend
>friends in highschool, lived in different cities after
>our only socialising/shared interest is playing video games together
>at 25 i start losing interest in video games
>start taking ADHD medication for ADHD
>drive to play video games disappears
>tell him i don't want to play video games anymore
>calls me a normie
>haven't really talked since
i guess i am friendless now for all intents and purposes
why didn't you tell him to get adhd meds
NTA but I’ve been on addies for 2 months and I am losing clumps of hair. Literal handfuls.
It’s down to my shoulders and now I’m forced to shave it as the hair loss is more noticeable with longer hair. Frick stimulants
due to vasoconstriction i assume? or some other mechanism
Mid 20's, moved to a different state, I'm finally down to mid 220's after exercising and fasting, making 55k at my office wagie job, and am almost done paying off my car. I know to a good amount of people I'm living a dream.
But even though I know this is the best my life has ever been, I still feel like I missed too many opportunities to do what I actually wanted to do when I was a teenager or as a young adult to ever consider my as a normal adult or to be more successful, I still feel shy and insecure about myself even though I know I am more courageous and confident, and the way I feel when just navigating the world feels the same as when I was a kid.
I still, usually once a month, have feelings of despair and hopelessness. If this happens when I wake up, i call in to work and lay all day in bed, and feel fine the next day.
Basically my mind is filled with what ifs and what could have beens, this is at least better than how I felt after my parents split up, feelings of suicide and hopelessness
Anon, you’ll never be young again and you’ll never have the chance to go back. Trust me bro, we all wish we could have another chance. Hindsight is a c**t.
Now what you can do is is picture how you’re not going to miss out on your late 20s, 30s, etc. dude you’re like 25, you’re still immature and life is still a mystery, we were all in the same boat at one point or another. Just keep in mind the past is the past but you have the present to make the future. Good luck buddy.
No idea to be honest but it’s alarming. After 8 weeks, every time I brush or touch my hair, 5-10 strands over and over. It seems to be a pretty common issue amongst stimulant users
Water or a gun, please.
>life kicked me in the balls again
>lifting to cope
>can't lift away the sadness
Sorry Anon, we don’t do suicides here - too much liability. Let me get you a cold water instead.
Wanna tell me how life is kickin you in the balls?
Sure but it's really gay and a waste of your time.
I was reminded that not even my own parents listen to me. Growing up nobody cared about me at all. I had every warning sign and red flag but nobody gave a shit. Not my parents, siblings, friends or teachers. And why should they? I'm a useless person. Everything predictably spiralled out of control and now I'm paying the price. I've never lived a day in my life, just survived by the skin of my teeth clawing my way out of the abyss every day. Never learned to care about myself or stand up for myself since it's hopeless anyway. So I lift every day and punish myself. The more pain I'm in the better. The only emotions I feel are sadness and self hatred. I hate myself more than anyone else in the world and every day I pray that God exists and he'll drop a brick on my head and crush my skull. Until that time I just lift because what else can I do.
Anon you seem like you have some very serious confidence and image issues. I’m not a therapist but I suggest seeing one - there’s lots of them and a lot of them really do care about their patients.
Do you have any hobbies or interests outside of lifting? What do you do for work?
This girl I've been going on dates with said that we can never have sex but she'll cheer me on with the next girl that I find a connection with. Feels bad but life goes on of course.
Gym has been going great, it's nice to see my hard work come to fruition. Down 50lbs in the last 6 months
I've been drinking way too much. It makes my brain feel good, need to give that shit up before it gets really bad.
Spending has been way too high. Going to adjust and stop chasing b***hes. I'd like to buy a house but the economy is bad I guess (America)
I want to start a car wrapping business strictly for the money. I have no real interest in cars and don't know how much that matters.
>This girl I've been going on dates with said that we can never have sex but she'll cheer me on with the next girl that I find a connection with. Feels bad but life goes on of course.
????
What's the question? She doesn't want to frick me but likes my company
Do you enjoy her company or were you just in it for the pussy?
I'm not in it for only pussy. I actually like her, but it's weird to take a b***h out and not frick her. I know that I'd feel shitty if I knew she was fricking someone else, you know?
>In a long distance relationship
>Considering cheating on her and just fricking around
Help me pls
Don’t be a woman. Break up with her or hold out.
I wanted to tell you that I fricked a fatty chick yesterday and now I miss my ex gf even more.
Got a date with a qt later this morning, wish me luck lads, haven't gone on one of these in 5+ years
>swamped my kayak yesterday in the middle of the lake like a moron
>realized I suck at self rescue and had to swim back to shore towing my water filled kayak
>ended up being a half mile swim
>muscles are dead today
gonna go out and practice self rescue tomorrow morning
Scotch on the rocks please
>tfw group of childhood friends are all lying, traitorous, pretentious losers
>had to realize this the worst way possible
I mean, I would be fine if they lied about body count, and being players. I don't give a frick about that, but them making excuses to not hang out with me while having a completely free schedule to be beta orbiters for girls, or spamming them like needy fricks while they tell me to frick off immediately. Holy frick I'm disappointed. Not one single loyal pal in this world
Gents, how do I stop being so lonely?
I'm someone who just started my fitness journey but it seems like everything I do is by and large for women. I want to be loved man. I want to male love too. How do I fight my own desperation?
For a long time I was fake and paranoid thinking I needed to have ulterior motives since everyone else had them around me.
I changed my thought process to believe others were not backstabbers and it gave me some light. I started trusting in others and acting more genuinely.
Yesterday I found out I WAS thrown under the bus last year by a group of toxic and malicious people I trusted.
My only takeaways are:
Getting burnt wasn't so bad.
Acting genuine made my life so much more simpler.
Double shot of vodka and a bluemoon.
>Another week of just getting by
I got problems, but there's only one I can't see a way out off. I work hard and can support myself and my girlfriend on a single income, but it's not living. After bills/necessities are paid for and savings are put away, we don't have much wiggle room. I'm a rentoid, and worry that my rent will spike at the end of this year, putting us out of a home. I fear all of the staying in is making my gf's depression worse. But I've got goals in mind, I've built good credit, and I'm saving for a down payment on a house.
I guess things could be worse, but my body is suffering from constantly being overworked and cranking my brain to make ends meet while keeping my plans on track. All while completing my last semester before earning my degree.
It's getting to the point that my body is screaming at me everyday. I wake up and have to force myself to move even though it hurts, and even breathing requires active concentration. Too poor for a doctor and couldn't take the time off to go to one anyway.
So I've decided I'm just gonna keep driving until my wheels fall off. Throw my bones in a hole and don't even both to bury me, I don't want people to sacrifice their energy on me.
>girl becomes interested in me
>she's got GDD so she's a but behind in everything
>inching closer over months to show me zoomer shit on tiktok
>get to a point I can tell she wants me to kiss her, right at each others faces, just staring into each others eyes
>don't do anything because I'm good friends with both her father and brother and don't want them to think I'm taking advantage of her
>say something stupid instead
>she distances herself, clearly lost all interest in me
>pull her up on it, she says she didn't have a thing for me
I actually fricking hate myself for not doing it. I get close, frickup, then they pull away and all intimacy is ripped away from me. The day after I fricked up I even talked to her father and brother just to see if they would be alright with it then I just get the cold shoulder. I just want intimacy bros.
On another note I will start gym again, get back on that horse at least so I don't feel so fricking worthless
>Net worth hit $120k this week
I'm gonna be rich let's goooo
>it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all
Absolute bullshit
least you got your dick wet amirite?
You’d rather be a KHHV?
Just broke up with my gf. Had a long conversation where she pretty much convinced me that we could work out our differences, but I wasn’t really sure we could and I I felt like the damage was too much by that point, so I went on with ending it. Now I can’t help but feel like I’ll look back on this moment later in life with immense regret and realize i was just making a rash decision and should have put more effort in to save the relationship, even though I’d been thinking about ending it for a while. Im praying this was the right call and that I just feel this way because it was my first ever relationship. Maybe I’ll hit the gym to get my mind off it
Im you but a month past the same breakup. Im still filled with regret but then I force myself to remember the reasons for breaking up and the reasons are just as good as they were back then.
week 4 of attending a group CBT counseling thing (not wiener and ball torture) so far still feels gay and kinda bs. but people around me have noticed that I seem to be doing better even some that have no idea that I have been going to it. I've made the small goals that atleast once a week to say yes when someone invites me to something, text a friend when I think of them, and share more about myself instead of just observing others silently like a psycho. already feel so much more connected to my friends and have made a few other good friends and acquaintances. haven't had a truly bad day in a week or two, have been drinking a bit more tho but socially so atleast I'm not getting hammered alone looking at pixels on a screen. hoping to rebuild and organize all my music samples and instruments soon to set myself up to be more productive making instrumentals rather than wasting so much time just looking for the shit. it's been good ig bros, I hope I make it
another year, another birthday spent alone
Don't worry anon, it'll be over soon. Happy birthday.
thank you fren
Why did my 17 year old self decide to join the military? What was I thinking?
I'm fitter than I've ever been but the last 5 years have felt like two decades' worth of stress. I swear I'm starting to get gray hairs.
I'm speeding towards wizardhood as well, because military bases attract trashy women who wear booty shorts as casual clothes and landwhales looking for Tricare and BAH and that's a game where the only winning move is not to play.
If it's any consolation being outside of the military ages you too. I'm in my 30s but I feel like a 70 year old.
>tfw dryspell since oct22.
Its officially over bros. im an incel now
I need to finish two reports for work, gonna probably take till about midnight if I start now.
Can't concentrate for shit though, just wanna lie down for a few hours
I had this chick eyeing me up tonight, should've fricked her tbh but I was off my face on coke and wanted to talk with my mates instead
I am this close to killing myself. I am 35, tried so many times, failed every time, at everything. At this point I think I'm just defective, and there's nothing I can do about it. Death sounds more and more like a release from hell.
Matched on Tinder with a girl that used to work at my side job, but I never really got to know her because we didn't work together. We've exchanged a few messages this week and it's basically small talk, not very flirty, and I feel like I'm steering the conversation more. But she responds pretty quick and they're not just one-word messages (uses a lot of the crying laughing emoji though, idk). How do I read this shit? She's liked me on there a few times before and I feel like I don't know her nearly well enough for this to be one of those "friends swipe right to say hi" situations. If I stop being a pussy and just straight up ask her out, I run the risk of getting rejected and hearing about it later from all the mutuals we have.