How's life Anon? How are your lifts going?
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My bf left me, but still talks to me and claims it's because he is mentally ill, and now I want to kill myself.
Haha homosexual!
Okay? Just erase hin from your life and move on.
I can't bring myself to. I love him, and I'm certain something happened to him because it was such a sudden change. I don't want to just cut him out if he's going through something.
It's just an excuse. Move on. You can't help a person who doesn't want to be helped.
You can still love him and be there for him and yet move on with your life.
I'm trying to move on, but it hurts so much. It's the worst thing I've ever experienced, and I don't think I can get over it, he's the only person I've ever felt this way for.
Yeah, first real love never goes away. What helped me was understanding that for her it wasn't the same and that she's capable of feeling that for another person.
What you need to understand that real relationship is not built on feelings, it's built on mutual respect, trust and support. Don't look for another head over heels love, look for a partner in life. Someone who will support you and who isn't scared to lean on you when they need support.
It's much easier for gays too, so good for you.
Thanks for the perspective. Although it isn't as easy for me, because I hate gays and gay culture, and loose sex. Really makes it difficult.
Apparently there are gays that are just normal people looking for relationships and not those party "frick whomever" gays.
That said, I've only ever seen one gay guy in my life and he was that cartoony lispy gay type.
Yeah, he is one of the former. Really was everything I ever wanted.
They can go from one type to the other too. Especially if he's claiming mental illness. Chances are you'll see him in some gay bar blowing a dude for $100
I'd probably kill them both and then myself.
Why? You broke up, him getting with someone else is inevitable
I don't know. The thought just really angers me
That's ok for now. But that's something you'll have to work through. Either by getting a new relationship or by accepting. You cannot be jealous of your ex.
I'm still holding out hope that it's temporary and we will get back together.
Ok, time for the sobering truth. How would you feel knowing that as soon as you broke up he went out and hooked up a person. Or ten? Would you want to get back then? And how do you know he didn't?
I don't know. He's not that type of person anyways. He's never really been that sexual, we took eachothers virginity. I know that he went on a date, but he's really more in a depressed mood right now where he doesn't want anyone I'm pretty sure.
>we took eachothers virginity
that is the only problem here, you are attached to your first love and that is completely understandable
however if you relationship is over there is no point crying over it, just move because that is how life is
focus on yourself and you will find someone new, or they will find you
Thank you guys. I am going to stop talking to him. I won't block him or anything, but I'm not going to just be strung along by him anymore. If he wants to get back together that'd be great, but I'm going to focus on making myself better. I hope I can stick to this.
You're going into this with the wrong attitude. Don't say 'I hope'.
>I WILL stick to it
You WILL stick to it. No excuses for delayed self improvement and don't let inaction consume your daily routine. You could've started lifting, tidying up or reading instead of sitting around. Go on walks, fix stuff around your flat, learn a new skill, do anything. Don't ponder the possibilities, be active. Don't engage in self-pitying, prove your self worth.
Best of luck, man.
Thank you anon. You've made me feel much better.
Good lad. I know it's hard but this is what you need to do right now, look out for yourself.
First love is tough, and its normal to be reeling coming out of it so suddenly, so spend a while falling in love with yourself, learn to be alone and be okay with it, otherwise you may end up with somebody just to have somebody, and that's not the answer either.
All the best anon, gonna make it.
dont be a gay, the past is in the past, just move on
say he comes back, what then? shit will be just as bad, if not worse
just keep doing your shit, you will meet someone eventually
As you should
Girlfriend broke up with me recently. Deleted all our pics/vids, dumped presents she gave me, burned photos and drawings not even half an hour later. Blocked her contact everywhere. Then I lifted for the entire night, had two hours of sleep, went to the gym and then to work. Don't be weak, man, life goes on. Turn your sadness into anger and lift until you can't raise your arms past your hips.
>dumped presents she gave me
I did that too. Now I miss the hand-crafted box with her hand-print and a lovely message and a plush cat she had sewn herself.
Turns out there was a note saying I love you in the cat.
The worst part is that she's changed and now she wouldn't do that for someone she's dating.
Recently asked her why she's not breaking up with her current bf despite the obvious flag and got hit with: "I once broke up with a man I loved without trying hard enough and look where it got me".
I'm in a good, happy relationship now, I just miss the person that she was. I wish at least she stayed that person, even if we both have moved on.
How did you guys maintain contact?
We talk a few times a month, mostly to complain about life. Nothing serious, my gf doesn't mind, her bf is a seething jealous type but he doesn't do shit.
>Deleted all our pics/vids, dumped presents she gave me, burned photos and drawings not even half an hour later. Blocked her contact everywhere.
Incredibly based. I went full Stalin on all women that broke up with me and got over them surprisingly fast. There's only one where I was considering staying on good terms with her mum (she helped me with a ton of stuff) and the breakup still fricks with me nine months later.
I think with the other ones, I wouldn't even recognize them if I saw them on the street.
Based as frick. I was in a crappy relationship for a couple of years and I've never felt better after deleting everything.
Awesome, good for you!!!
Did something similar as well. I was actually engaged and we had golden rings, which I asked back when I dumped her after she cheated on me.
I quickly sold the rings in the gold market and made some bucks from them LMAO. Seeing the rings turn into useful money gave me the exact same feeling of burning stuff, like all the emotions and pain attached to those rings had been set on flames and the money was the smoke coming out of those (imaginary) flames.
breasts (or gyno) or gtfo
lol what a beta cuck.
>talks to an ex
>shares mental problems with a chick
Get over him. He is not worth even thinking about.
I know that every time you think about him your body releases some oxitocin which makes you want him back but as soon as you will get together again, you will regret you accepted this autistic dweeb back into your life.
>Very good point. The key to understanding it unlocks the door to the real drive. Then it allows us to read into the not really think about it and everything good saying the door is unlocked.
No fricking way
How
I'm not interested in women because I can't picture myself with another woman, even though I've had a gf before and am not a virgin. Like I'm disgusted at the thought of even trying. This isn't because I'm afraid people will reject me it's because I don't think I deserve the person I'd be talking to. Mires do nothing for me because I either don't believe them or don't see them as valuable. Being in bed with a woman now is inconceivable to me because it feels like I don't deserve to be there. Not to mention I have a bad perception of sex overall, it's frightening to me altogether. what's the right way to fix this?
Have sex with men homosexual.
If you can't seem to break your faulty state of mind with evidence (mires) then its probably something that you can only root out with therapy anon.
You're being delusional and not in a good way.
Stay strong.
Yeah, a bullet to the temple
Rape. The answer is rape.
sounds like a tough case for dr. 300qg of lsd
How do I get lsd or mushrooms? I've never bought drugs before.
Watch this to learn how to identify them
then go out and get some, you can do it right now, autumn is the main mushroom season
plus you will get some fresh air and out into nature, both of which are very beneficial
I live in a desert.
Then find some psychoactive cacti with mescaline
I was in your exact boat a year ago anon and it was bollocks, honestly a therapist does help to talk to, in my case OCD and a rock bottom self-esteem was cucking me, but I defintely needed that expert help to break out of those shite thought patterns. If I can get better anon, you sure can
>it was bollocks
And with that one sentence I trust everything you say, fellow britgay. I do think it makes perfect sense, finding a therapist to fix clear delusions. Thanks all for the advice so far
If you do go down the therapy path mate, just be prepared to wait a while for the NHS. Took me nearly a year to get good 1 on 1 sessions on the go.
Struggling to keep my mind on the positive. I don't want to keep being a victim of my own fricking weakness.
Lifting is the only thing keeping hell at bay.
I made a promise to go on a trip before the year ends, but honest to god, i don't know where, I just need to get out of my hometown, alone, for once.
I just need to know what's out there.
I crave adventure. I crave becoming someone else.
Canada, Europe, no fricking idea. But the promise is made and I must go.
Suggestions for a 26 year old with 3k to burn?
Zermatt Switzerland
Looks gorgeous. Is Switzerland expensive to visit?
It is, but you should be able to do it for 3k. Matterhorn is there too.
>I just need to know what's out there.
Hippies, pickpockets, faux intellectuals and morons to take advantage of like yourself. Still it seems like you're one of those people (and going on a trip is an important milestone for your type) so go ahead and do it. Learn the truth the hard way and tell a story about it, preferably by posting pictures of places you visited/foods you ate on Instagram. Make sure you do as many drugs and frick as many std ridden bawds as you can.
T-thanks anon. I guess.
After passing 215 on a cut rolling 72’s with a rolling 96 every other week but I’ve been waaay more hungry I think it’s because I’ve been eating meat and then being around people who eat more and it’s hard to keep this shit up but November 1st I’ll be done
My gf is combative and aggressive af, it feels like one wrong word from me and there’s a bad atmosphere. Then she’s completely fine minutes later and my mood is ruined for the day. Is this normal? First gf at 28 years old.
BPD? Either way that sounds c**ty. You wanna deal with that for the rest of your life?
mine is quite similar, gets mad and changes mood pretty quickly while I feel bad for many hours.
Lockdown was the worse, and I still can't really get over the fact that she was very harsh with me because she didn't have anybody else to be mad at.
Give yourself some time, ponder the situation to see if it's worth it.
This is my 3rd or 4th gf and I can tell, there are many women out there who are more chilled.
Why stay?
some people change, if approached properly, a conversatiom can change many things and doesn't need to be a fight. At least, from my experience, it's worth to talk.
If things go south, you get your answer.
That's a big if tbqh
it's what's known as borderline personality disorder and the answer is to ditch her immediately - if she makes you unhappy then why the frick stay?
>if she makes you unhappy then why the frick stay?
pusy
I never got this, I'd rather just fap then rearrange my entire life to share it with some c**t that makes me unhappy just so I can cum inside her
>after months of no contact be in the same room as oneitis who rejected me
>couldn't bring myself to even look at her
>at one point she's close by and as she was talking I saw out of the corner of my eye she turned in my direction and was looking at me
>autistically still refuse to acknowledge she's there
I can't do it bros, I can't. And yet it's all I want. I've spent months suppressing the feels and memories, I can't unravel all of that. I even started to feel like I'd 'forgotten' what she looks like, and I don't want to be reminded of how gorgeous she is. I don't even know what I would say, just pointless formalities? "How you been, good you? Great" blablabla. It's all so tiresome.
Lifts are going fine at least.
Move on brader, it is a battle against you, not against her, she probably has never though about you more than once, the mind plays games with you, you have to believe you love her so much for no other reason that you are choosing to do so.
I'm trying, it's fricking shite. The shitty part is she might have liked me when we first met based on what a friend told me, so frick me I guess.
I know it'll get better with time, that's all there is to it. I'm better now than I was a month ago, and a month from now I'll feel even better. Can't wait to be able to look at and meet other girls without comparing them to her.
Lift pretty well but i’m overtrained now due to bad sleep and overworking. I’m very lost with my life and sometimes i wonder if i am even a human because i feel so alienated by my surroundings. I am more alone when i go out with people because i realize how much different i am and despite trying to mimic the normie way of living (/fit, got my own home and car, 200k in savings and make edm music) i do not feel any less suicidal than when i was 8. I’ve tried so many things and nothing has ever helped me in any way so i guess it’s time to try drugs, what do you think are the best?
Drugs are a cope, same as alcohol. Hang in there bro.
Do you think that life, particularly ours, characterized by a higher order of consciousness, has inherent significance?
I’ve pondered that question alot. The fact that we are here and our material structure allow us to be conscious enough to have a meta understanding of itself i think implies a certain degree of meaning. Even the fact that physical rules exist is still baffling to me like how in the world could a higher being make all of this stuff work so precisely in order for us to manifest consciousness and be aware of it but it stops here. I don’t know what have to be done to reach a even higher degree of consciousness but i guess that the simple fact if doing what we are doing now and doing what determinism impose us to do tomorrow and so on will inevitably bring us to the result that the universe equation has in mind. Still i prefer to not have been born and despite trying my best to be a good Cristian(volounteering, charity, helping people, friends and comunity) I will probably go to hell for rejecting this gift
My first question asked you about the significance of life. Now, I'd like to ask about living life itself: Assuming you've rejected the possibility of suicide (at least, in this moment), what do you do now? How do you go about living life as a human being in our world?
>wake at 5.30
>work 6-16,30with 30 min lunch pause
>train clients usually from 17.30-20.30
>21.30-22.30 i train/make music
>volounteer at sunday but not always and go out with friends Friday and Saturday night.
>repeat
1. I did see your original post, but if you could elaborate: Overall, are you content with the way you're living? Do you feel a sense of fulfillment in what you do and who you are?
2. I believe I worded the question in my previous post somewhat poorly; what I meant to ask was how do you think life should be lived? I suppose your answer to (1) will connect to this, but is this work + hobbies + socialize type of life which you and many others have the life you believe you should be living? Or are you just going through the motions?
I don’t feel fullfillemnt despite doing what i wished to do and having succes in it(started making music to join a compilation and did it with very positive feedback) but i always feel mechanical in doing every task like i lack soul. When i was little I remember playing guitar extremely well and when doing concerts i remember receiving lots of praises but i always felt out of place because the way i play was extremely mechanical and i focused my gaze on a single point even for 15/20 minutes like a machine.
For the second question i rationally like what i’m doing because i’m following my moral code but at heart i know that i’m doing all wrong and I should something else but don’t know what.
Thanks for the interest anon
I appreciate your responses; I always enjoy hearing others' perspectives on life.
Wishing you well, anon.
Feeling like shit. Yesterday was the day I completely gave up on finding a GF or even sex.
What the frick is that autismo pic dude. Get a grip and get out of your head.
>Get a grip and get out of your head
Easy for you to say.
You probably aren't walking from rejection to rejection. Your success rate for the past 5 years is probably more than 0% at least in terms of getting SOMETHING, even a phone number.
Being a whiney b***h ain't gonna help you either
Not being a whiney b***h didn't help me either so who cares?
You apparently care you b***hy high-estrogen homosexual.
I swear all incels are just catty women at heart with a subhuman emotional intelligence. The reason women don't want you is because natural selection is weeding out weak effeminate "men" from the gene pool. Your weak ass dying off without procreating is doing the human race a favor.
Thank you for your service
>says deeply introspective guys who are afraid of making others uncomfortable and are focusing more on what others feel than what they personally want have subhuman emotional intelligence
>calls people worse off than him who are clearly struggling in life whiney b***hes, b***hy high-estrogen homosexuals, weak effeminate "men" and weak asses and proclaims that he's glad natural selection is weeding them out of the gene pool because them not passing on their genes is doing the human race a favor
>Continues being a passive aggressive b***hy woman
>"I'm such a victim, woe is me!"
>"Why do women not see my vulnerability and never come flocking towards me and offering me pity fricks?!?!"
That's you, that's how you sound.
Here's some advice
People are MUCH more likely to help a man broken down on the side of the road if he is struggling to push his car solo than if he just sits in his car crying with emergency lights on. Women will sit in their car hoping prince charming comes and saves them. Men don't waste time venting to people over social media, they begin working towards a solution.
Start working, stop b***hing.
I'm not the one who posted the pic so no need to lash out on me.
Why are you so angry about men who vent their frustrations? Where is that vitriol coming from? You used to be a loser, eventually got your shit together through hard work, but still feel bitter and resentful about all the years and chances you missed? Did I get that right?
I relate strongly to most points in that pic.
>tried sex 2 times before, couldn't get hard
>lied to one of those girls about why I couldn't get hard
>terrified of one night stands but also terrified of refusing them
>don't want a fwb
>believe I don't deserve a gf
>never watch porn but struggle with masturbation habits
>overthink what might happen if I am going to a social event with women
>panic about masturbation
>always end up edging before a social event which fricks up everything
>doing nofap makes everything above worse and constantly heightens anxiety, never got past day 8 because constant sensations in testes impossible to ignore
>not even good looking or muscular to compensate
Where do I even begin with fixing this shit
Sounds like you have some mental issues that you need to break either through therapy or having positive experiences in regards to women.
nobody deserves a gf moron make yourself into someone who can earn and retain one. been there on the ED shit. all went away when I met my current gf because I know for certain that she loves me and is attracted to me. gotta go find her man shes out there
Do 30 minutes of cardio every day
I'm curious. How many times have any of you attracted women before?
Any time counts.
Informative years, periods in education, stints in work, anything.
When have women been into you and what has been the common denominator?
For me, every woman who has been gaga over me would non stop text me.
I wouldn't ever need to double text or wait around my phone to get a greeting.
It's something I've lacked from every woman I've met in the past 2 years.
Even between ages 18-20 as a legally defined adult, grown women who were into me would want to constantly talk to me where they could.
I lack that now.
No woman really reaches out.
I've met like... 4-5 this year.
None of them are gaga over me. I text them a bit and things don't really feel like somethings ablaze.
Even in circumstances where I make the women laugh IRL, when they make little scowls at shit I say which I find frustratingly cute, even when people around me say "I thought you and that chick were together, the way you were flirting"
It dies in our time apart.
None of them interact with me like I even exist when I'm not in the same room as them.
It's a good learning experience for me.
>Personal whitepill none of you will give a shit about
I am so close to a bodyweight dumbbell bench press, I'll have it down pat in the next fortnight.
>t. 83kg fat c**t dumbbell benching 40kg on each arm
Hopefully I also hit the 1pl8 ohp too in the next fortnight.
>But in essence,
I want to know if any of you have or haven't had a woman interested in them.
>I want to know if any of you have or haven't had a woman interested in them
Not since my teens. Like 14-15yo. It's been so long that most of the memories have faded and I doubt those experiences have any relevance.
I've been there in spades.
I do a little chart about what I was then vs what I am now to figure out the differences between past me and present.
>At 15
>Slim
>got up at 6 in the morning to style my hair in the gaygiest way that looked good to me
>didn't give a shit about anyone's criticisms against me
>was a little crazy when it came to people fricking with me and would not tolerate it
>I'd sing moronic shit out loud
>Have all my classmates join in when I started rapping boys in the hood by nwa.
A lot of those habits as an adult might not fly very far, but the principals probably do.
First thing would be weight. If I slimmed down, I'd probably do a lot better.
I dressed better then too.
I cared about what my hair looked.
I don't think your memories would have no relevance. Just think.
>what has been the common denominator?
Me not giving a shit about them.
Maybe they just see you as the guy who uses "gaga" unironically and their c**ts dry out on the spot
>When have women been into you and what has been the common denominator?
Not being privy to my extensive autism
I’m disappointed in myself. I’m weak, overweight, undisciplined, and unenergized. I’ve only been working out for 2 month and I’ve lost about 16 lb with 190 lb as my start, but every time I hit the weights and look at myself in the mirror, I realize how weak I was and how I’ve wasted my body’s potential. I got a lot of work that needs to be done.
2 words. Rabbit starvation
Rabbits contain next to no fat.
c**ts stranded in the arctic had an abundance of rabbits to eat but because of the lack of macronutrients they contained, members of the expedition literally starved despite having bellies full of rabbit.
If you eat a majority of protein for your macros, you'll likely lose weight pretty easily. Even if you're eating at a surplus with nothing but protein, your body will have no choice but to burn fat.
Do so at your own risk.
Nah, I’ll stick with counting calories for now. I’ve had past experiences with hurting myself trying too hard with diets and lifting. As long as I have progress I’ll stay on track, but once I start to plateau I’ll push even harder
>gf is on birth control
>tells me if i make it 1 year we can have a daughter
>idk what to do
>part of me want to have a daughter to make my parents happy
>the other part is terrified of becoming a father
Maybe I should will probably regret not having a kid on my death bed
>tells me if i make it 1 year we can have a daughter
That's a fricked up way of talking about having kids.
I'm falling in love with my best friend and I don't know what to do.
I know for a fact that we would make a shit couple. She is really extroverted, and wants to travel and has no intention of ever settling and having a family. She just wants to travel and hook up with randos. I am a quiet person, and all I want in life is to raise a family and provide for them.
She is my best friend, but i know for a fact we wouldn't be good together. But i still feel myself falling for her, i cant stop looking at her. I cant distance myself from her because she is my main source of friends really. If i lost her i'd be utterly alone.
Does anyone know any mental exercises i can do nip this at the root? its starting to affect my uni and daily life.
you need to cut her off if it feels like so, both of you don't need the hurt
i cant loose her though. she's literally the best person in my life.
better to sever the bond now bud, i've dealt this heartache shit plenty of time and it's better when you have closure.
Need to make new friends, sorry anon.
>Does anyone know any mental exercises i can do nip this at the root
Yeah, stop communicating with the c**t.
Hey thats my best friend youre talking about you filthy goblin
Im not looking to ruin either of our lives, im looking for a way to work through my problem
Your problem is this twat being your only source of social interaction. The only way to work through that is to cut it loose. Bet she laughs with chads/stacys how clingy and nice you are when you're not around lol
kek don't listen to this dude, but do find more sources of social interaction
finding another woman that you'd like more would likely also help, or generally just exposing yourself to more people so that you become less clung on your best friend
She's not your friend. The second you start having feelings for a friend they stop being your friend.
You can move on and find another relationship or you can keep her in your life and whine about being "friend-zoned" like an omega b***h.
Either way you won't stay friends.
I’m sorry anon, that sounds like a tough spot to be in. Good friends are hard to come by, so if possible don’t frick it up. You know you wouldn’t be a good couple so you’ll just have to have a strong mental when you’re around her and maintain your spaghetti
in this transitionary phase in life where i know i am moving out elsewhere but still gathering the money and experience to do so
thankfully the days have pass through quickly and with little stress, and the regrets i have that chews me doesn't fell too bad
What do you want to do with your life?
get a stable job in a place where i don't hate the people, perhaps raise a family and build meaningful bonds there
Is that what you value most in life? Having meaningful relationships with the people around you?
i could live a desolate life i guess but yeah, i like to be atleast part of someones life in a good way
Is there a particular type of relationship which you feel is most important you?
Examples include friendships, romantic relationships, familial bonds, etc.
a mix of that, but i'd say being part of a social group would be what i immediately want when i move, romance can wait, family will come later on
my friends are getting less involved, even with other circles and i can feel the drift and future rift
I understand. Wish you the best, anon.
I'm officially homeless, I'm flying to another state and hopefully someone will accept my room rent request because IV got nowhere else to go lol
I'm sorry anon. I always thought that if I was on the verge of honelessness if fly to Hawaii and become a beach bum. Don't have to worry about cold. And there's sort some respect in being a beach bum.
Haha sounds kinda cool, I'm just happy to be out of the shit situation I was in - I may not have a house, I may not have gotten much of the houses value back but I'm fricking FREE: WAGMI
Things haven’t been the same since I lost my mom. All I can do is lift the pain away
Sorry anon, I hope it gets better with time for you.
I bet she's watching over you in peace now, god bless anon
Checked, I'm in the same boat. I am sorry for your loss.
Got my car fixed after 3 months of no car for 2k, thought now everything is going to be alright, but literally on the same day a letter arrived that I'm getting sued for 11k.
2022 was the worst year of my life so far, with every single month having a new low point and life punching me in the dick.
But hey, atleast we got eachother, r-right haha
Lmao what did you do
I'm a "vexatious litigant."
Wanted to buy a house in January, already had the yes from the bank, but the seller jumped ship last second.
Wanted to buy a house again in march, told the seller yea no problem with the money, I already got the yes from the bank 2 months ago, its all ez.
Then Ukraine/Russia happened, I didnt get the loan, seller is suing me because I already said yes.
Theres a lot more behind it but thats pretty much the super short version
>getting sued for 11k
elaborate homie
Water please.
Met a girl at a club a few days ago, yesterday she first-texted me by herself and in the span of less than a day we got to arranging a "date" and going out yesterday evening. Everything went way too well except the fact that she revealed to me that she had cheated on her last and 2nd "psychologically abusive?" boyfriend.
The chemistry was great, we kept on talking so much that we never got to finish many of the topics because we'd just segway to other random stuff midway, she is beautiful, very energetic, sporty and all that, kept talking about how she wanted to go on hikes and do all kinds of stuff, but I honestly feel like this just killed all my attraction or something.
After some experiences with my ex I had decided that "has cheated" would be among the big NOs for me and I'd never start anything with someone who has done it as I felt like it was playing with fire. I considered changing my stance for a while as I'd really like to believe people can change but ever since she'd said that everything kinda feels off for me. This makes me sad as I really liked her very much and enjoyed her company greatly.
Make sure you pump and dump her, also slap her around and choke her a bit while doing so.
Nah frick that, I don't like when people take advantage of others so why should I? I just want someone for a connection.
Yeah I know. It's really weird how all that happened in just one day.
>take advantage of
She's clearly begging for it, why not give her what she wants? Why do you hate her like that?
>I'd really like to believe people can change but ever since she'd said that everything kinda feels off for me.
Trust your gut anon. Your instincts are the result of literally hundreds of millions of years of evolution. Your unconscious is a finely tuned bullshit detector.
I know the feeling. I have a no drug policy, but the girl I'm interested in does weed edibles occasionally.
I don't know.
Honestly anon I feel like that's the kind of situation an exception could be made, many people you'd otherwise see as great indulge in some kind of drug once in a while, especially if she does it in a social settings as a kind of special occasion to have some unconventional fun with friends, go into nature or whatever, I don't see an issue. Depends on the frequency really.
No.
Be her girlfriend and go shop/get manicures together then
No.
How else are you gonna connect with her then?
What do you mean?
You literally made a post about wanting a connection and have implied you'd really like for this one to be the one you can connect with. What kind of connection do you even have in mind?
No I made a post about being sad because I didn't think a connection was possible in the wake of what she'd revealed to me. Ah yeah I see which part you mean, that wasn't referring to her specifically but what I'd be looking for in a woman in general and why I'm not looking to take advantage of her or just have sex, sorry for the ambiguity.
I feel like I wasted and ruined my life
>everyone tells me how handsome I am, even non family members
>have only managed to date below average girls
>everyone tells me how smart I am and to study something in science
>got a degree in it and have no interest in finding a job
>no hobbies
>no real friends
>only thing I do is gym and even then my body isnt much
I started to change things before I turn 25
I joined a boxing gym, started to research other things I want to do in community colleges, apply for jobs anyway for money, force myself to eat clean
Oldgays, when does it feel like I haven't wasted my life yet
We are all insignificant rodents living on a rock floating through the vacuum of space. Life is what you make it. Do what you want, don't cheat yourself, and on your deathbed you'll feel as if you had a good ride
Maybe focus on one/two of the items named in that word salad and keep at it
>when does it feel like I haven't wasted my life yet
When you stop thinking about it
>Feels
Extremely depressed. I hate everything. I’m tired of trying hard and frick all changing and extra tired of being surrounded by morons. I’ve pretty much lost the will to live.
Turned 30, now looking into advancing my career. Got five years as QA in various gamedev companies under my belt, now looking into moving to software and Product Owner positions.
Holy shit, do courses contain nothing but corporate speak.
And I'd have to work instead of playing vidya all day. But the lowest salary for a junior is triple what I make now.
Gf just moved to a financial manager position, gotta keep up.
I want to run, I want to smash my mileage goals, but frick man.
Last night, I broke my first 5 km in the treadmill. I was dying and coated in sweat, but I've never felt more alive and energetic before in my life. For once, I think I felt good about myself, if only for a brief half and hour before I got back to my misery. However, today I woke up with an aching knee, not anything too serious but enough to notice the strain I put on my joint.
I don't wanna stop running, I love the feeling, but I also really don't wanna frick up my knee for the rest of my life.
Take some rest and look into getting inlays for your shoes.
Finally marry my wife
She stops taking birth control
Month long honeymoon mostly ruined from hormone imbalances
I love her less now
She is still trying very hard
I am exhausted
>Married a birth control tard
Your first strike was the crucial one
The reactions I get from women are very ambivalent and have been so since I can remember. I had a bunch of experiences of attractive women spilling spaghetti when talking to me, staring at me, blushing when we make eye contact and even hitting on me. At the gym, friends of friends or work colleagues. With these I often get the feeling they're not just interested but so insanely attracted they stop functioning.
At the same time the rest of the female population treats me like some disfigured freak. I don't expect every women to be into me, but at least objectively acknowledge I'm a decent looking guy. Somehow other chicks, especially friends gfs act like I'm some hideous freak who should be aiming for 5/10s.
Is this normal? What are you guys experiences like?
This is really fricking with my head, especially since the last and first girl I was dating went from being fricking nuts over me to ignoring my existence in the span of a day for no apparent reason
Literally this same shit, some women I feel like spill their spaghetti or are losing their shit over me whereas others just don't see me as existing at all? I don't get it entirely, though I'm guessing it might be due to some specific feature or set of features that women are either supremely attracted by or don't care for at all, nothing inbetween really.
Yeah I think so as well. I'm a hairlet with thankfully otherwise top genetics and a decent headshape. Seems to be either all or nothing with women
Some girls like you and some don’t. It’s cool focus on the ones that are interested.
You can pick mushrooms ground anon, they are free.
Always assume attraction
Officially one year of straight edge this week. Feels good to be in control of my life again and not wasting so much money poisoning myself. I now have the state of mind and finances to finish school and hopefully leave poverty behind when I graduate
>three years ago paid for a professional photoshoot to boost my confidence after a few years of getting IST
>photographer posts it to his social media this week for some reason
>comments are like "you're the most cringe photographer I've seen"
>feel like shit
They didn't even call me cringe, what the frick?
I'm the anon who's been reflecting on life the last two friday feels threads. I've talked to family about this, and all I got was "yeah in hindisght this and that". It just doesn't feel right. Is it really hard to just sit down for perhaps half an hour and think about possibilities? Hell even if this takes a month it could pay great dividends later. It feels like an excuse at this point.
Guess it's my responsibility to do right, but man I can't help thinking wtf is going there.
Didn't read those other threads, so I'm probably missing a lot of context. Reflecting on your life is definitely worthwhile. I've gotten better at a lot of things by studying my behaviour and focusing on growth. Therapy is just some c**t asking you "why did you do that?" "How did that make you feel?" and it really helps people who don't have the reflective capacity to do that themselves, so if you can do it to yourself for free then 100%. Just be honest with yourself and patient.
Checked.
I'm 29 now. When I was younger there was money issues at home so for so much time I had issues with using money. What I'd do in retrospect is save some and get my own apartment at 21-23, just to be more independent. But rent prices are really fricking high, so I preferred to keep the money.
I'd also be a lot more social and reconnect with more people. Kind of crazy how relationships just disappear like nothing. Probably get a longterm gf too.
I dunno man, just feels like a "how could I miss that". Worse yet, how everyone around you misses that?
I’ve used porn to cope with life stress since the start of teenagehood and I’ve only just begun to realise this. Porn corrupted my mind more and more over the past decade and I feel as though I haven’t made a single conscious decision in all that time because of it. I used porn to escape from having no social skills, no discipline, no hobbies or skills, and now I’m the same person all this time later because I wore a mask to hide from reality. I wish I never discovered porn. It possessed me to be a bystander to time as my life went by.
But haven't you read the articles and studies? Porn is good for you! Adolescent men spending hours alone watching strangers having hardcore intercourse on their screen is totally healthy and normal! What do you mean depression and inceldom is at an all time high? Couldn't be related! Porn is healthy! Talking to the girl in your class you have a crush on? Noooo, that sounds terrifying. Here just watch this 30 year old pill addict get fricked unromantically for 2 hours by 4 different men. Then you will be happy for the 15 seconds you ejaculate
>Was struggling with my mental health
>Friends were distancing themselves from me
>Hated my body
>Joined gym 3 months ago
>Still the same but I look good as fk and can deadlift 155(my bw)
Almost feels like I'm gonna make it sometimes, hope I don't end it all soon 🙂
Moving out in a week or so to Uni. Living on campus and judging by the message group for my dorm, its women mostly. The group has 6 of the 10 or so people I'll be living with, and all the rest are women. This is what I've been preparing for by improving myself, my body, and my skills in cooking and living away from home.
The future looks bright.
I'm adding cardio to my routine and don't want to lose any size..
Should I take protein or weight gainer??
make your own weight gainer with protein
>protein
>whole milk
>banana
>peanut butter
>maybe some oats
Cheaper and better to just blend this all together
I am turning into an alcoholic. 1 bottle of 200ML Smirnoff every other night with maybe 2 on the weekends. How else does 1 cope with being a tradecuck at 27 absolutely hating their job and people they work with? The frick else can I do?
Make drastic changes to your life or drink yourself to death, hmmm difficult choice I know
Wish I knew what they were, anon. I give 0 fricks about working and am honestly considering NEET life. Being a wage sux.
Then think about it and find out what you wanna do, stop being a b***h
Thank you homosexual boomer. I've thought about it since high school and there is nothing worth the sacrifice that I can enjoy long term. If I knew, I wouldn't be a tradecuck at 27
>23
>bench squat and dl all over body weight
>actually enjoy looking at myself in the mirror
>making racks and flying up the corporate ladder at work
>no friends
>no opportunities to make friends in my rural town
>every year that passes makes being a virgin a bigger and bigger red flag
I'm not gonna make it bros. The homely girl I thought was interested was just being nice, saw her going home with one of the only 6'3 guys in the company. Shit is breaking me. It's getting so hard to resist the urge to give up, play vidya all day and get fat off goyslop. Sometimes I wish I could turn off my libido entirely.
>30
>gay
>virgin
I just can't put myself out there. I am terrified of STDs (HIV and Monkeypox) since I know that the gay culture is really really degenerate.
At least I hiked a lot this week which was very nice.
having my first fight in a 8 days. also i have a broken toe, my shoulder dislocated 3 times in the last two weeks and hurts and I have a sore ankle. So I'll skip sparring today and lifting at least for 8 days. All I wantis to not feel my shoulder in afew days anymore and it not to pop out again during my fight
Frick this life man. She doesn’t even want me, deep down I know this bus she still tells me shit like I love you. Yeah fricking right. I just try my best in this life but it never pays off. Man I’m thinking of killing myself
>thought girls didn't like me cus I was fat
>ff 6 years, 23 and an in good shape
>they still don't want me because I'm sub 6ft
Why do people constantly gaslight like short men have a chance? I really believed that shit.
Every day I'm more and more repulsed by people who act like suicide is never the answer. How fricking evil can you be? At least give us the option to go painlessly IE assisted suicide, instead of forcing us to work our lives away with nothing but marvel movies and goyslop to keep us going.
I have finally ended it with my gf of 10 years after being on and off again the last few months. Met a new girl who is very nice and and excited for that.
feel bad about the ex though now and wondering if I made the right choice. She cheated at one point and even though I have slept with multiple women since the break up and am over it, I still feel like I can’t go back with the ex and retain my self respect.
You lost your self respect when you didn't break up immediately after finding out she cheated.
I'm feeling bigger and stronger, but I traded the little social life I had for the gym, so my life is all about work, gym and my room
Miraculously, today I'm going out with a woman after my girlfriend breaks up with me, but I'm hopeless as always
>little social life
>has gf and a new one lined up
Are you fricking moronic?
>1st gf in 30 years
>my sister arranged this date, I did nothing
Ahh, the good old arranged marriages. Still the best type of relationships.
Shit's fricked, man.
I'm living on the other end of the world away from my home country and finishing my PhD here. I have one year left and still no perspective where to go afterwards. Usually, academic conferences would be the ideal way to find new places for a postdoc, but they all got cancelled because of the coof. Honestly, I don't even know if I wanna stay in academia. After being familiar with it, the whole pressure to publish something, the absolute state of shitty scientific literature, and all that.
I don't wanna go back to my home country either because by the time I finish here, the recession will have killed every job opportunity. I met my gf here (she was here on a temporary visa) and now she's back in her home country and we're long distance. I'll visit her in two weeks but I'm afraid of how to plan out future. We'd have to marry for easier visa, wherever we go and I don't know if I can do that after only one and a half years. I also wouldn't have enough money for a decent wedding.
This shit is on my mind 24/7. I'm constantly tired and exhausted, and as a result, I've become inconsistent with training and cannot properly commit to my cut. I just cannot get below 14 % bf. I finally wanna shed the last 2-3 kg and become w i d e.
The shittiest thing is that I don't have anyone to talk about here because I'm a foreigner and my language skills aren't good enough to have a deep and meaningful conversation. I wish I could escape all of this for two or three weeks, get some focus and perspective. If corona doesn't frick me over again, I might be able to visit my family this christmas, but it's so far away.
I really like her, I think I am in love with her. We've started chatting last week after she asked me my phone number to send me some links for some resistance bands.
We've been talking non-stop since then and are going out on Saturday but my fricking lizard brain is scared even though she has clearly shown interest this is all a fluke. I was in a shitty relationship for 4 years that made me to almost kill myself and gain tons of weight and get depressed. However she seems so different, we share the same interests, act the same way on certain things and we've been making each other laugh. I've never seen that in a woman before, it feels so unreal, like a prank.
>walking to subway station
>lock eyes with qt and we smile
>enter the subway, she sits across from me
>want to strike up conversation but she has earpods in and is watching something on her phone
>one moment she looks around her surroundings, locks eyes with me again
>does a shy smile and looks down again
>happens two more times
>contemplate how to ask her anything at all
>eventually my stop comes and i get up but avoid her a bit
>she follows after me but powerwalks past me
>regret not asking her for her name or something
will probably never see her again. i am going to ask out the next girl in a similar situation no matter what, god i really felt like a huge pussy afterwards
dad told me to stop lifting so much
literally
>have sex
>anon why don't you get good at getting laid and making money or anything useful rather than grinding so much weights
>any boxer would beat you up anyway with your gym muscles
fine, I'll prove myself there as well, whole time I've been lifting because he b***hed me about for being weak and unathletic. now that I'm strong and ripped I'm getting my balls busted over this other shit
gonna smash thotties, grind earnings and I'll learn to box and will win an amateur bout
>bullying doesn't work
mark my words, written and thrown to be witnessed into the void that this anonymous hive is
You should have just beat him.
>fine, I'll prove myself there as well
Why? Your dad is obviously a complete b***h whose favorite pastime is complaining. Don't spend your limited time on this trying to suck up to those people. You're better than that.
I've considered it that way before, that I'm a slave to expectations in that sense.
but it's toward a decent cause
>decent cause
I fail to see which one. Your dad will be pissing no matter what you do. Let him be a miserable c**t and do your own shit, for yourself and no one else.
I plan to od in the coming days. Thanks for everything bros.
How much do I have to lift to get invited to a gangbang party?
>20-30 guys
>Unsure if he should invite women
You are not g*y anon, are you?
One chocolate protein shake.
One of you told me I should bring up my shit flirty work tendencies up to my girlfriend of almost a decade. I am not looking forward to hurting her. We've had a complicated time dealing with sex and intimacy before and I should not string her along without her knowing everything at least.
Water.
Has anyone felt that their energy level dropped as an adult?
Doing pretty well. Had a productive morning of a good dog walk, studying and getting organized for work. I stayed up a bit too late last night, but I developed a pretty decent weekly schedule for myself to be productive through the majority of the day (including productive rest/relaxation).
Tonight I'll work through more of the self-authoring suite from JBP and am greatly looking forward to that after my night gig. And today is the re-re-restart of my long needed cut.
Gin & Tonic, be sure to add the cucumber slice
Lads I made out with a fat chick I met at a bar after not being intimate with a woman for over a year. She's nice and has a pretty face but there's too many red flags for me to consider being with her in a relationship (smoking, excess drinking, partying, not to mention the weight)
Problem is my horny ass was just saying anything so she'd stick around for five more minutes, she even said she'd "rock my world" in 2 weeks, but after she left I felt empty inside.
This casual thing isn't for me unfortunately, going to just tell her I'm not interested in that way
A "friend" of mine talked and befriend behind my back my FWB while we were a thing and he never told me anything about it. Now he is her beta orbiter, going to her place to help her with stuff, watching movies and even pick her up and take her to her place after she's wasted in some party or bar. His "reasoning" was "she is a friend of my friend, I should befriend her".
Yesterday I went to a bar with him and another friend, that bastard knows we already broke up and are no longer a thing and the first thing he asks is how are the things with her (I fell in love with her and she rejected me) I told him to not say her name and that I don't want to talk. about her. He insisted and I told him to shut the frick up or I would beat the shit out of him. The rest of the evening he tried to talk with me asking me if I was angry at him but I just ignored him because I just wanted to drink and have a good time. Then he got offended by my passive-agressive comments and wanted to leave and told him that he ruined the whole mood, that I told him I didn't wanna talk and yet he insisted like a fricking b***h and that he and me have nothing to talk about. My other friend who was present agreed. Now I'm 100% sure he went to cry about it to this girl for pity poionts
Sugarless soda for me, ty.
>Be me morbidly obese gay
>Full loser until 29
>Frick it, took the self improvement pill.
>5 years later much better, good job, career and muscular.
>Still overweight and kisslessv
>Summer is in three months and I'm tired of being a fat recluse.
I'm gonna go for a VERY restrictive diet. Not eating for a couple of days every week, zero carb or low carbs omads, more gym.
I always was the fat guy, and I'm so tired of it anons. So tired of thinking that "someday" I will make it.
If this plan doesn't work I'm gonna stop eating for as long as it takes. I care less and less about the risks.
Gays do like fatties too just saying.
I don't but some do for some reason.
Not gay, used the "gay" as a ISTner. Hum.. Probably the "i like fat guys" that women and gays use actually means "i have low standards so I'm happy to be with a chubby guy, as long as I like the rest"
I already lost a lot of weight, i was morbidly obese.
My old habits now are OMADs low carbs everyday. Still can't lose the weight.
I think that years of being mordidly obese fricked my metabolism.
calling yourself a gay has been getting out of fashion on IST so I assumed you were a homo.
Also your metabolism isn't fricked you are just doing something wrong and you have to find out what. Try not doing OMAD for a while and eat 3 times a day for example. Maybe eat calories according to your TDEE for a while before going back to cutting.
>think that years of being mordidly obese fricked my metabolism.
OMAD and low carb won't help that if that is the case. Eat more moderately, especially if you're actually active, and spend some time tracking your calories for a bit. Stop falling for every meme pushed by youtube grifters and their shills
I went for the eat less move more meme at the beginning. I lost a few pounds and felt better. But that's it.
Keto was the thing that actually worked. Once again I was morbidly obese.
I never understood all the keto hate here. It really works.
When you're morbidly obese, damn near anything works. That's not a good metric. The reason it gets hate is a) shills are homosexuals, b) your average ketard in the wild are massive homosexuals, and c) it becomes unsustainable for people who keep up athleticism at a normal weight/low bodyfat, yet the same cherry picked examples are brought up every time.
Its a bandage for the problem of disordered eating habits, not an actual cure. But I won't get into it further or risk summoning the ketoschizo.
>eat meat, veggies and almonds
Unless you're eating only boiled and steamed veggies and meat, I'm not hearing anything about controlling the cooking fat that you're using. And almonds are insanely easy to overeat with.
I did try the "low calorie and exercise" meme. It was the first thing I tried. And it didn't work much when I was morbidly obese.
I'm gonna switch from omad keto to omad low carb when i finish the weight loss though.
>Controlling the cooking fats
I don't use vegetable oils if that is what you mean. And the almonds with dark chocolate are also a weekly thing.
>I did the laws of physics meme, it didn't work much
>And it didn't work much when I was morbidly obese.
>allegedly can't lose weight on omad
You're describing the same issue, you double moron, and that same issue is you don't know what the frick you're doing when it comes to tracking calories and macros.
>vegetable oils
Butter too. And if you're eating fatty cuts of meat, guess what you're also not estimating?
You're not some special case of a damaged metabolism cursed to forever be fat. You're a lazy dipshit who is going to desperately hop from one magic pill to another until you either give up or get smart and make real progress.
>Lifting big while being the best in a boxing group and having a successful career.
>Being called lazy.
>Ignoring that unhealthy foods are addictive
Yeah, thank you for reminding me that I have better things to do than reading this.
>Larping fatass with pepe memes saved on his phone wants us to believe he's successful
>bragging about so called accomplishments
>cant be fricked to put a piece of chicken on a food scale for 5 seconds
>b-but muh unhealthy foods are too yummy
Yeah. Lazy.
Truth hurts, but either fix it or stop complaining.
If you do dumb stuff like “le won’t eat 2 days” you will go back to the old habits pretty soon
>I'm gonna go for a VERY restrictive diet. Not eating for a couple of days every week, zero carb or low carbs omads
If you have the discipline to really improve, you don't need this shit. You need to develop patience and practice better eating habits overall because once summer is over you don't want to fall into the shit that got you here in the first place
Anon, I eat once a day and I eat meat, veggies and almonds. Integral rice with a lot of carrot and peas once a week. I lost over 40 pounds and I'm the strongest and fittest guy on the boxing class. But those last 30 pounds arent going anywhere. I'm running out of options.
At this point I don't really want to eat so often. Gonna try the extended fasts.
Thank you for the advice anyway.
MY FRICKING BENCH IS STALLED but I'll be patient. That is all. I've been jobless for 2 months
Just blog posting a little, feel free to skip.
Almost 30, no girl ever gave me attention/compliments, I think in high school a downs syndrome girl liked me and that was it, the girls I liked always prefered the bad boy/drug dealer/gang member type of guy and the few attempts to not so attractive girls I ended up being laught at or just went really awkward, I'm almost losing that last little bit of hope I don't know I still have.
Today, there's a "girl" at the gym I'm going who looks cute and is really femenine, way more than the gym thots and gorillas that try to lift like men, I want to approach "her" but I'm so insecure about it and to think that I'm so unsucessful with women that I need to resort to that it's not fair for "her" and would make me feel like absolute trash.
> Just improooove yourself
Luckly by having almost 0 friends and no romantic relantionships you end up with lots of free time, now I have a high paying job, excellent work-life balance, I speak 4 languages, I play the guitar and the violin, I even now how to draw portraits, I have always been creative and liked to explore lots of other skills I'm not so good at it isn't worth braggin about, and I'm getting there to the best shape of my life but somehow my autism is hodling me back, I still feel like I'm not enough and I will never be...
Damn Black person I think you might be one of the most "stuck in his own head" anon I've seen in these threads... just talk to her you moron, what's the worst that could happen?
> her
By "her" I mean she's trans, she's really passable and cute but I don't wanna feel like "well no real girl wanted me so let's try this second option"
Just do it. What's the worst that happens? Maybe you get a troony gf.
Why would you give her a present? Are you even friends?
I had a similar situation except I fell for her and told her, she didn't feel the same, so now I avoid her. Think she kind of tried to talk to me recently, she talked to some friends who were nearby and turned in my direction, and I didn't so much as look at her. Was out the door before she finished her sentence. I can't deal with it, I'd rather forget she ever existed.
Anon if you like her do something, don't let it build up because you'll go crazy and it'll only get harder to get over her the longer it drags on.
Water please.
Things are actually going well. Reconnected with some old friends that are in my town for college, so seeing them has been a morale boost. Began boxing and wrestling which has shown itself to me as the fitness journey I’d like to pursue, Ive set the goal of entering an amateur mma bout when I’m ready. Feeling more confident, sure of myself, and hopeful about the future. I can tell I’m changing and growing as a person; stronger, more levelheaded, optimistic. My stomach has been acting up lately, almost anything I eat sends me into cramps that last hours and knock me out for the rest of the day, but I’m hoping it passes. Life is good when you make it good friends, keep it up. Thanks for reading my blog
I only started working out but I'm only doing pushup and sit ups for now
>be depressed for 7+ years
>sense of smell hasn't worked for years because of this
>read online that low stomach acid levels can cause depression
>order betaine hcl pills from amazon to raise stomach level
>take 2 before bed last night
>woke up at 3 AM and my sense of smell worked better than it has in years
I know no one cares but it was pretty crazy to me
I care anon. I hope we can be a couple one day, living on the countryside in a comfy house with a big garden.
But why
Broke up with my baby mama 9 months ago, she was my first and only relationship. Still frick all the time, asked a couple chicks out and got denied. Lost 120 lbs since the break up, gained 30 of it back with alcohol. Feels like the only way I’ll be happy again is to find my soulmate. Feels like I’m failing my 3 year old son since my unhappiness and alcoholism. Just feel completely lost.
>baby mama
Kys
Hope can be a c**t. Feels like going through the breakup all over again when you finally realise there is no hope.
Hang in there frend, I got you
>get really down a few weeks ago because 2 girls ghosted me for no obvious reasons
>deleted ig, stopped even looking at women
>go back to gym, lifting extremely hard and angry
>get put in a group project with a girl in uni
>talk to her about the project and then about her life and where she's from
>later that night she texts me, says she didn't find my ig
>we talk the next day
>see her talking to another guy at uni, get jealous like a beta
>sat by his side while he talked to another dude as I'm right there
>prefers to be ignored than to talk to me, daily blackpill administered
>next day we talk again in texts and in uni
>we sit outside after class while she waits for her bus
>ask her to skip class today and go eat something, she says yes but hasn't confirmed today
>hug and part ways
>she sent a message 6 hours ago which I haven't responded to, idk internet chads said this is cool
how do I stop overthinking this shit? I hate getting such high hopes just because she texted me, that neediness causes ick behavior. I always cringe after every social interaction for talking to quietly or being too beta. She told me I'm really quiet and serious and I hated myself for a moment.
I don't know if I should just treat her as a friend and let her come to me (since it worked in our first convo, I really was just chatting) or be assertive and clear in my intentions, though I think this was what scared away the 2 girls from the beginning of my post.
I think she's into me from the hug. I was expecting like a hello hug you give women where you touch cheeks but she initiated it and really brought her body close and then looked at me like waiting for a kiss. God sometimes I could be more basal and not live in my head so much.
Any advice is welcomed bros.
please respond
I don't know what to tell you except that I'm the same. Years of being insecure and alone made me like this and I assume the same is true for you. Misinterpreting any friendliness as interest. Immediately latching onto any real interest and already being ten steps into a relationship in your mind after a single date.
I think the only cure is to frick a bunch of different women so we stop projecting our entire needs onto random females
Yes but how to do that without going full zyzz mode and roiding out to attract bawds?
You sound young and inexperienced. The idea of a relationship is exciting to you, and you're putting the pussy on a pedestal. I used to overthink everything a woman would do as well. It got to the point where I would time my texts with my ex in the same intervals she would text me so I appeared to be just as "busy" as she was. She knew I was doing it too, which we laughed about later. Unfortunately, I ended up being narcissistically and physically abused by her for over 2 years. Now, at this point, I'm much happier being alone; lonely, but happy. You get to a point where you know how tiresome, stressful, and in my case soul-crushing a woman can be, so you don't care if you get one or not. With that, you won't care as much if she texts you back or if what you said was weird or not, because it won't be as big a deal to you. This mindset not only helps with overthinking less, but makes it easier to get women because you don't reek of desperation which is a huge turn-off.
I've been in a relationship I know how it is but like the anon said being alone a long time fricks eith you. I can't help it.
>she sent a message 6 hours ago which I haven't responded to
Don't do this shit you homosexual, you start your post talking about how down you felt after getting ghosted and then you pull this crap on a woman you actually like?
Waiting 20-40 minutes is fine, 6 hours is just stupid
Women lose interest extremely quickly
Like the other anon said, you're overthinking everything. Yes, be confident and assertive, don't act too needy. But you're taking it to an insane level and are going to frick it up.
Everything good that has already happened between you happened completely naturally by the sounds of it. Stop overthinking and just let the rest happen naturally too.
I literally didn't know what to say. Waiting on her reply to confirm our "date"
I saw her for the first time in months.
Felt things.
Tell me about it, if you please.
It's simple: just don't look at her. It'll get better.
REMINDER
1. DO NOT CALL HER
2. DO NOT TEXT HER.
She is currently farting HIS CUM out of HER ASS sitting on a TOILET
I've been on a standstill for quite a while now. I keep saying that I'm a bad person and that I hate myself; I keep having having self destructive behaviors like eating junkfood, playing porn games, lying to people, putting down others, more to confirm this narrative than to gain anything from it, I hardly enjoy my bad actions.
I successfully installed mental blocks to prevent myself from improving at all. Surely because I'm a coward and escape every bit of responsability, preventing myself to follow standards and acting upon them.
It's been months, perhaps a year since the last time I felt true motivation. I have a really hard time to discipline myself, shit's feels like I have a discipline for staying in this state. Still don't know how I can fix this.
Just sounds like you're in a huge rut, I like many others have been there. You only realise how unrealistic those mental blocks are once you're on the other side of them. It's easier said than done, but you need to find your trajectory and set some goals. Wheather it's your body and fitness, job, etc. ideally, multiple goals to aim for.
Lmao my job paid me double my salary by accident, I probably have to pay it back
I got fired for being socially awkward
What was your job?
Managed a shitty gym.
Any plans for what to do now?
I'm going to visit my grandma then look for remote jobs.
I wish you well in your endeavors, anon.
Thanks
good feels
>move to a new town by myself
>have made a few friends but doubting myself that theyre just casual acquaintances and dont really care
>hanging out with them last night at my house
>have a bit too much to drink, go to the bathroom to honk
>in there for a while and they come looking for me
>immediately theyre all trying to help, getting water etc
>girl ties my hair up for me and rubs my back for a bit
>guy walks me up to my room after, fills up my water and gives me a big bro hug
i think i may have actually done it these people seem to like/care about me. i was so worried id end up being really lonely here and im really proud of myself for making a solid effort thats paying off
Learn to handles your booze you homosexual. Also I'm happy for you
i was smoking weed as well which i dont regularly do i think thats what did it. thanks anon
Put the plug in the jug, gather round and let's talk religion:
I swear to Christ I will kill a wienersucking jannie if it's the last thing I ever do. ESPECIALLY THE ONES ON IST
YES SIR
FRICKING CUT THAT JANNIE'S wiener OFF AND MAKE HIM EAT IT
recently i came across a supposedly gifted kid i was supposed to teach. I was excited even to help this boy to develop, but when I met him it turned out he was extremely spoiled and had not learned any social skills. He believed he was better than anyone else and would tell everybody that he was the best. Innattentive, disrespectful, full-of-himself. After meeting him I seriously doubt that he is gifted, because those kids usually have their own interest they want to share with you and often teach themselves to read, write, or to do numbers. It's a tragedy really, because his behaviour is a direct result of his parents not showing him any limits while at the same time coddling the boy. The kid isn't really at fault, but he already has a deeply rooted fixed mentality and rage quits when he can't do something on the first try. Guess who probably won't learn reading within the next two years, lol.
Good thing is I don't need to teach that kid. Take aways are: growth mentality is king and don't spoil your brats. Even if they happen to be high IQ, savant, gifted, etc. that's worth nearly nothing if you are not diligent or have grit as well.
Other than that, Lifts are going fine. Gonna head out to the dojo in a bit.
Brown ale for me bartender
>Still in the wake of 3.5 year relationship ending, feeling very lonely
>Seeing a doc next week about my hip, can't really run without agitating it and I'm an endurance lad
>Lifts slightly improving
>Taken up archery, uni has a once a week club meeting at the range
>Roommate is out of the house for the weekend
>Might go to a bar tonight after archery for the sake of staying out of the house and potentially talking to somebody
>date chick
>suddenly goes cold
>says still wants to meet up but makes no effort to do so
>tired of her games stop messaging her
>texts me "sorry for not messaging you so long can we meet next week bla bla"
>arrange we check in with one another monday when we both have time that week
>text her monday when I'm free
>responds 4 days later extremely disinterested
Are all women like this? It's so tiresome
Women who aren't that interested of you, yeah. I mean they have 2-10 other guys in their shitty swipe app texting them and having dates
She was insanely into me for the month we were dating, way more than I was into her. But yeah she probably met somebody else, which is absolutely fine.
I just don't understand why she can't tell me she's done with me and then even comes back texting me, asking to meet up and then proceeds to ghost me. It's like she needed to end things in a way that makes her the one rejecting me implicitly for her ego
Don't bother trying to make sense of anything, and if she ever reaches out again leave the b***h on read.
She had plenty of other people in her DMs (friends and dudes) and plans, you're not at the top of her list.
finally managed to break up with gf. It just wasn´t working out for me. We parted amicably luckily, I would not have been able to handle a big fight.
Since that day I am having fevers and feeling overall like utter shit. Some part of me believes it is the pain and anger and sorrow I had hidden inside of me finally finding a way out.
I hope all you anons have a nice day
>finally got out of abusive relationshit
>taking time to focus on myself
>working out, hiking, studying, learning to snowboard
>the thought of going on a dating app and getting rejected or ghosted freaks me out
I think I'm average-looking, but I always see on here and hear from other people that their self-esteem was shot after using apps like Match or Tinder. I just want a good woman, I don't care about hook-ups and shit. Has anyone here had success with a dating app?
Anyone here hit the gym solo?
I wanna get started with lifting/weights but I'm a pussy-ass b***h too intimidated to do it.
Skinny, sickly/weak all my life and tired of it.
I swear I wasn't fazed by these sort of things before man, I don't know what happened to me.
I got into the gym with a friend, in highschool, but VERY quickly just started going on my own. Probably like 2-3 sessions in.
Since then I've had one other real gym partner who was a guy who posted on my uni message board asking if anyone wanted to spot eachother. Tried to inundate him with /ss/ but he Wasn't Going to Make It and stopped coming.
Outside of that I've always been alone. Just learn how to fail out of lifts and always use safeties if you can.
>Anyone here hit the gym solo?
99.9% of people go solo
Lifting weights is something you do by yourself for the most part. I was lifting with lifting partner few times and it sucked ass. If you need a spot just ask someone.
I don't know a single person who trains seriously who doesn't go alone
>Finally have full-time well paying job, and my own place, have been cutting down to 10% bf to then begin small cycles of clean bulking/cutting.
>6 months in, took about 5ish months to lose 10 pounds, with nearly no strength loss.
>Feel great, daily cardio, first time eating clean after being ebt slave.
>2 months into the start of dating for the first time in my life at 26.
>getting on average 3 matches a day on swipes i really want. I will occasionally get a match from a girl i swiped no on purely out of low self-confidence.
>Struggle to get past 3 messages in any capacity whether they liked me or i liked them.
>Feels as if girls only match for validation.
>The dates i do get to have, are super awkward and usually one-off. From hinge or friends setting me up randomly.
>Have learned that texting chemistry is different than in person chemistry
>Learned to keep intro dates short and sweet and cheap.
sincerely don't care about having sex with lots of women. just don't want to be lonely all the time.
Wondering how far i have to go with the looks maxing to get the moldboard girl i want.
any advice
Why are dates weird? I had dates with all kind of women and always managed to have a good time and 90% of the time ended with sex
If you do anything other than go out for drinks just stop, a couple wine glasses can really help the nerves
If you are not kissing her on the first date you are doing it wrong
Just ask questions, they love to talk
I don't drink alcohol so what do I do
Have a regular wienertail
op here, ty for the advice. Def made my first dates way too long. There have been lots of day trips that just go comically wrong. just bad chemistry really, with or without drinks.
Found out my fish oil is rancid and its been giving me a stomach-ache for a week. Wtf is this shit. Is fish oil a meme? Looked it up and something like 40% of all fish oil sold is rancid. Had a different brand for the first month and had no problems. Switched to this brand bc on sale. Bad idea. I don't have a problem eating fish, so I think I'll skip the capsules from now on.
homie just eat fish once a week
Fish oil has always been a meme. Read Ray Peat
Mad at myself for not improving at Muay Thai as quickly as I want to. I spar with people more experienced than me and it's kind of discouraging seeing the amount of hits I still take without really being able to counter. Aside from that life is going pretty well. I'm pretty positive I passed the written test of my firefighters exam and I'm doing good at my job. Still a KV with no prospects for a GF though
If i'm a 33yo khhv should i just kill myself? All i want is love but it seems like it's just impossible to get at this age.
No you shouldn’t have a nice day anon
9 hours ago, I felt incredible. Motivated, strong, excited for the day and the progress it could bring.
Now I wish I could fast forward 2 months. I have so much to do to actually make noticeable progress, and I'm discouraged by the endlessly long road with no assurance of a positive outcome.
I would have to learn to embrace the grind, but I hate myself too much to hope for even that
I started lifting about four years ago when I was 16 and lost a good 50 pounds as of last year, probably more considering I had built muscle along the way as well
been spending this whole past year trying to get my chest skin fixed, three days ago they did a SECOND surgery (first was botched) and the second is botched as well, now they're telling me I need 6 months of recovery before I can undergo another, except I'm getting drafted in may and have to serve 6 months in the military (shitty third world hellhole) so the 6 months of wait becomes a full year, probably more given we have long long queues in the hospitals, keep in mind I'm also 20 and still don't have a job
gonna get on a cycle soon as the stitches come off if I don't off myself by then
>tfw trying to sleep with a girl 12 years younger than me
I have been feeling bad overall, i cant even understand why, its like a cloud of sadness all day ( i still do what i need to do, eat well, sleep, workout, work, extra curricular activities) with small spikes of euphoria for like 5 min. Maybe anxiety about the future or anxiety about not living life to the fullest? (i dont really have a good social life at this moment due to just being too busy. It sucks because I can fix this feeling if i dont kow whats causing it. Anyone else have this issue?
cant fix*
how exactly bad is your social life? how much time do you spend around other people per day and what is their relation to you? also do you get any specific thoughts when trying to sleep?
it used to be fine i had a lot of friends and i still have friends but i dont have time for them right now/ I had a gf for 2 yrs but we broke up 2 months ago and i tried fricking some bawds ik but it was not interesting at all so it wasnt that, idrc about sex rn tbh. Had you had the same shit i was talking about eariler
i have racing thoughts all day and especially at night, i try to work on it with meditation and belly breathing. I have a hyperactive mind and it has been hard to deal with it but it is getting better.
my lifts are okay, im helping my brother move tommorow and im hoping i can show off and hopefully not embarass myself
How do I stop being a loser? Nobody really respects me and women aren’t that fond of me. I can be somewhat awkward at conversation but I’m trying to be more social lately. How do I get better?
get money, status, fit and keep trying with socializing.
Be someone people want to be around, would you want to hang out with you? What do you offer to a group?
Be groomed as best as possible, good haircut, clothes that are clean and fit
Do things.
>I’m trying to be more social lately
Good, have to keep doing it to get better at it
>How do I stop being a loser?
Start winning. You mention respect, people might not like you but if you excel at something you will get respect
>Go on 3 dates with a cute girl
>Find out she lives with her ex-boyfriend because they bought a house together and then broke up
Life does not want me to have nice things
I'm trying to break up with my gf before I leave the country for 6 weeks but she wont let me