Getting GF to lose weight?

>Get with obese girl on a whim
>turns out to be very nice girl
>kinda crazy which I like
>talk about weight plus vaping and basically get told that they know they have a problem but have eating disorder

What do bros? Tried going about it subtle, then foreword, now she threatened to break up with me if I brought up her body negatively again... Even though she says I'm the greatest thing to happen to her. Seems kinda dumb.

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  1. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Don't go for the easy, don't be lazy and get a person that takes care of herself

  2. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    she will get fatter and fatter

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      this OP. once they are fat - even if they get skinny - they will one day return to being fat.

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        Mine used to be fat (as did I a lifetime ago) but we both talk shit about fatties regularly. Hopfully disgustmaxxing will help for the future.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Seems kinda dumb
      women are dumb anon

      onthe other hand, if I were you (and I totaly understand to like a girl for her cuteness and not for her shape) I would be desgusted with her fat each time I would see her.
      BRUTE FORCE IT, ANON!!!!
      GRAB ON THOSE COW TIDDIES OF HERS AND TUG HER IN TO THE GYM!!!
      SHOW HER WHAT IT MEANS TO BE HEALTHY!!
      SHOW HER WHAT IT MEANS TO BE SEXY!!!
      SHOW HER WHAT DISCIPLINE MEANS!!
      >kinda crazy which I like
      oh, nvm.

      >she will get fatter and fatter
      this

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      This, women are moronic, better sneaking some appetite suppressant shit in her food, discipline is nonexistent in the small western woman brain in the current year

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      If she was with me I'd ensure that it happens.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      There might be a chance at maintenance at a non-obese weight, but considering the refusal, it's not gonna happen

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      >she will get fatter and fatter

      and that's a good thing

  3. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Look for a skinny crazy b***h

  4. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    If ur serious, start turning down sex. This will make her insecure about her body but she won't be able to get mad at you since women do it all the time.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      Great plan for getting cheated on with some guy with no standards

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        >its ok when women do it
        pussy-chasers and women rationalizers need to be shot on sight

        • 12 months ago
          Anonymous

          moron, who said that men and women should be held to the same standard? I bet it was someone israeli.

          The main reason why OP is with that woman is for sex, so why would he turn it down?
          Also, acting like a b***h and "punishing her" by not having sex (!?) is a gay b***h söyboy move. Anyone who thinks along those lines is a gay.

          If anything OP should double down, show some balls and tell her YOU'RE MY WOMAN NOW, DO AS I SAY. If he pulls it off convincingly, like he's not bluffing, the win woman will obey him

          • 12 months ago
            Anonymous

            i feel like contracting second hand virginity from your post

            • 12 months ago
              Anonymous

              This. Holy shit do you actually think that is going to work on the modern female?

            • 12 months ago
              Anonymous

              >Nooooo men and women are equallll! My disney show told me so!! My elementary school teacher says so too!!
              >And anyone who disagrees is.. is AN INCEL!!!

              shut up homosexual. Your first-hand virginity is on you only. Don't blame me if you're the cuck.

              This. Holy shit do you actually think that is going to work on the modern female?

              There's no such thing as a "modern female". There's just the "eternal bawd" and the "eternal mother".
              If you act like a simp and a cuck and wymen-respecter you will encourage bawds.
              If you act with strength and conviction, like a Man, then your woman will be faithful and obedient

              • 12 months ago
                Anonymous

                I dare you to post something like this on 'cafe

              • 12 months ago
                Anonymous

                What's "cafe" ?

              • 12 months ago
                Anonymous

                The cafe of crystals.

              • 12 months ago
                Anonymous

                crystal cafe

              • 12 months ago
                Anonymous

                I dare you to post something like this on 'cafe

                The cafe of crystals.

                Ohhhh it took me like 10 minutes of googling to figure out what you meant.
                Anyways i made the perfect meme for them. Hope they enjoy it ^^

              • 12 months ago
                Anonymous

                post it on 'cafe i double dare you
                you dont have what it takes to survive femcels

            • 12 months ago
              Anonymous

              I feel like contracting second hand lack of brain cells from your post.

          • 12 months ago
            Anonymous

            It was actually some liberal atheist.

            • 12 months ago
              Anonymous

              Wikipedia, get me a list of liberal atheists by ethnicity......

              ..... Hmmm what the hell is an "Ashkenazi" and why are there so many of them here??

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        Hes with a pig, hes already the guy with no standards.

  5. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    it's over

  6. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Tried going about it subtle, then foreword, now she threatened to break up with me if I brought up her body negatively again
    Being fat is her stake in her relationships. She won't lose ANY weight, she doesn't seem to even want to take on that for herself let alone you. Be glad it's over before it begun.
    >Even though she says I'm the greatest thing to happen to her.
    No kidding, she is not fixable. Dead giveaway is being content with something bad that you bring into a relationship, and being all fine with it.

  7. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >attractive big booty lightskin 8/10 coworker started hitting on me
    >love my gf to death but she's overweight however she's working on it and has been sticking with it for months
    i feel bad for fantasizing about fricking my coworker

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      Unless you and the new girl click better than your gf steer clear. And I mean on a personality not sexual. Nothing wrong with moving on since women monkey branch to better wieners (while still in a relationship) all the time.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      >coworker
      Do it. Frick her. Frick up your entire life. Lose your job and your gf. Do it f gg t. You’re different. Everyone who shits where they eat winds up losing. But not you. You’re different. Do it.

  8. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    I got mine to join a gym. I just point out how every couple seems to let go and get fat and how it's important that we both avoid that (for health and aesthetic/attraction reasons).

  9. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >threatened to break up with me if I brought up her body negatively again
    She's based. Obviously break up with her. If you don't she'll know you're a weak b***h that accepts ultimatums

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Obviously break up with her. If you don't she'll know you're a weak b***h that accepts ultimatums
      This. Zero tolerance for threats. If someone even brings up the notion of it being over, it is absolutely over.

  10. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    is her fat distribution at least good

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      I just came across this pic. She's 5'4 200lbs on right

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        how old? tbh if shes a certain age i could probably live with that for a bit. at least grey. idk green might be pushing it. would need to see some nudes to be sure.

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        Just get her on metformin or wellbutrin or something, start suggesting hikes and other physical activities to her.

  11. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Get with obese girl on a whim
    Why would you frick up your life like that?

  12. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    She's a man. You are with a troony that will never be a woman.

  13. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >on a whim
    Yea okay homosexual. Cope harder that obese chicks are the only ones you can pull. Dump her fat ass bc you'll end up just like her.

  14. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    You are statistically more likely to rehab a crackhead than a fat woman.

  15. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    the whole
    >oh i know and i want to get better
    thing is her stonewalling you. she thinks if she says it you’ll drop it without her having to do anything. youre in no mans land. she’s already said what will happen if you bring it up so either get used to it or drop her. had to do something similar. damn sweetheart too but in the end it wasnt the weight that got on my nerves but the attitude about it.

  16. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Leave. Her current weight will not be her final form and she will get fatter. I was in the same situation as you
    >Meet fatty
    >Actual has amazing personality, great ass
    >Shes fat though and its hard to have sex with her in any position that isnt doggy because i'm disgusted by her weight and gut
    >Can maintain a hard on but still isnt jiving with me mentally
    >She was still wasnt over her ex and broke up with me after 2 or 3 months
    >Sad but also relieved i no longer need to lie to myself anymore that i could "get beyond" her looks
    >pretty sure she knew it was a problem to because as we spent a weekend together she realized I was hardly trying to have sex with her despite being pretty horny over calls

    Its not shallow to break up with someone because of their looks especially as a guy. We are visual creatures and being a fat frick is a choice. I know your thinking "well I dont wanna be lonely either so i'll just deal with it" dont do this either. Better to be lonely than miserable. After that mess I never dated another fat chick again. Frick fat people and they're sea of endless excuses and coping about being "thicc" and throwing a tantrum if you dont find their gluttonous bodies attractive.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      Reminds me of a chick I used to smash in college. She was thick at first but quickly started ballooning. It was all good though because I could do all kinds of shit to her, like DP her with a zucchini while I plowed her ass, she would suck my homies dicks if I told her to and even peed on her a couple of times. It was fun as hell, but she just kept getting fatter.

      One night she kept drunkenly messaging me and asking to come over. I repeatedly told her no but she came over anyways driving like 20 miles while pretty drunk. Of course she gets DUI and arrested down the block from my house. I was busy and couldn't drop everything to go get her out of jail. She called like a billion times. Eat shit piggy, I'm playing New Vegas DLC (had just dropped at the time).

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        Thing is once they think they have a dick on lockdown they comfortable and start letting themselves go. Gotta always remind these b***hes that you are the catch and she is fricking replaceable at any moment in time. Once that fear sets in they will do everything to make sure they dont lose you.

        Cant tell you how many friends gf's i've seen just turn into fricking whales because they know their men are beta's who cant do better.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/RCUWaiz.jpg

      >Get with obese girl on a whim
      >turns out to be very nice girl
      >kinda crazy which I like
      >talk about weight plus vaping and basically get told that they know they have a problem but have eating disorder

      What do bros? Tried going about it subtle, then foreword, now she threatened to break up with me if I brought up her body negatively again... Even though she says I'm the greatest thing to happen to her. Seems kinda dumb.

      How fat are we talking about here? Are you American? American fat is not European fat.

  17. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Display defection cues

  18. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    imagine believing someone would lose weight when you started dating them when they were a whale in the first place kek

  19. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    You must be shagging my ex. I was with her in bed once and only once. She was disappointed by my tiny wiener. She literally wiggled it and said "what the f is this?" As if my tiny wiener wasnt pathetic enough, I couldnt even get erect. Too low T. She took charge but got bored of me. Never heard from her again. Now, she's getting pounded and bred by BIG BLACK wiener and all I can do is fap to the scene of it happening everyday

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      Imagine actually sitting down and typing this

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        I stroke my little wiener to thoughts of my ex getting pounded and bred by superior men

  20. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    impossible, women only get fatter. I'v tried for years.

  21. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Tell her to get a different eating disorder. Like the one where she doesn't eat anything.

    Wtf. Look what all this propaganda against anorexia has done to us! Anorexia was demonized because it caused the ~~*food industry*~~ to lose money.
    It's not even a "disorder", but don't tell that to your gf in case she likes being a victim. Besides, if you call it a disorder then it means it takes no effort to keep it up once it gets going. So yeah: tell her she can keep an eating disorder, it just has to be the other one.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      i know this is bait but dont do this its moronic, my gf has anorexia and its as you would expect not great
      low libido because she doesnt eat
      irritable and grumpy because she doesnt eat
      gets sick all the time
      >i cant have sex rn, i ate too much and my stomach is bloated and im insecure
      >i cant have sex im too tired
      etc etc

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        Ok your gf is b***hy. But is she fat?

        • 12 months ago
          Anonymous

          Sit on your fist, homosexual

  22. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >going to the gym regularly
    >despite lifting, I can't lift away my loneliness
    >meet Brazilian girl on dating apps
    >she's a bit on the chunky side, but really cute
    >over the course of dating her she reveals she's self conscious about her body
    >tell her that as long as she's happy and healthy she's pretty to me
    >looks me dead in the eye
    >"Anon you don't understand, I know you find me attractive, but I want to lose weight and look nice for ME."
    >her face when saying this
    I'm not sure if I did accidental (I really do find her very attractive) reverse psychology, or if that's the Brazilian culture of physical/aesthetic beauty coming out.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      Its a good attitude to have but if she meant it she would have started already. Otherwise its just "feel good" posturing.

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        To be fair, she has lost weight since coming to the States judging by her pictures, but by her own admission she says that's mostly because in her opinion the food here sucks.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Brazilian culture of physical/aesthetic beauty
      Try and find a Columbian and enjoy.
      I am personally looking for a russian lass.

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        >Russian lass
        Anon...the only reason they're all skinny is because of the HIV rate.

        • 12 months ago
          Anonymous

          >because of the HIV rate
          Well I guess that rules out Ethiopian women too
          I'd much prefer a rural lass from the Urals.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      To be fair, she has lost weight since coming to the States judging by her pictures, but by her own admission she says that's mostly because in her opinion the food here sucks.

      Is Brazilian food that good, lads?
      If American women can get fat on the slop we have here, I can't imagine how bad it would be if they had access to the good stuff.

  23. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >stooping so low as to do anything other than uncontrollably vomit at the very sight and proximity gravitational pull of a fat b***h
    Jesus Christ anon have some standards for Gods sake.
    Desperate bastards like you are the reason an already infinite value pussy is getting even more overinflated.
    Dump her fat ass and find someone you deserve if you have any self respect left

  24. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    You know when you see some woman with a guy who is obviously an unsalvageable moron and the girl he's with seems nice enough and she keeps saying "I can fix him"? Yeah, you're that girl now. You cannot fix her. Are you into fatties? You must be to be dating an obese girl. Here are your possible outcomes here:

    1. You harangue her to lose weight, she diets for a while and is miserable because she's a fat food addict, begins to resent you and make excuses. You become frustrated with her lack of dedication and self control, and the relationship becomes contentious and falls apart.

    2. She goes all in on losing weight and actually reaches a goal and is positive about it and there is no friction between you. She is fit and thin and happy. You get deeper into the relationship, maybe even marry her or at least live with her long term. Eventually she gets lazy and complacent again because it's in her nature, or you knock her up and she's pregnant "eating for two (hundred pounds)" . She blimps up even fatter than she was originally and you're now the guy with a fat wife or long term girlfriend/baby-mama, chances are she will never lose the weight twice.

    3. She goes all in on losing weight and actually reaches a goal and is positive about it and there is no friction between you. She is fit and thin and happy. She begins to realize she has higher value than she used to, and begins wondering how much better she can do than you. She cheats on you or dumps you within 3 months.

    4. You try to get her to diet and lose weight but she really has no interest in it and never makes any attempt. She slowly continues to increase in mass and you either decide you like fricking and dating an obese woman slowly creeping into morbid obesity, and all the "fun" health things that go with it long term, or you leave her for someone better.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      Hey I'm on number (2).
      My wife lost 20kg and was super happy. But now we've had our first kid and she's gained 15kg back.
      Once she stops breastfeeding, which is soon, I'll force her to lose 5-7kg and then we'll start trying for the next kid.

      No reason why she can't lose weight twice, or as many times as it takes. We are all Sisyphus. All our achievements are routinely negated. But we get back up and at it.

      Personally I've lost and regained 15kg three times by now. Yeah I'll suffer the next time it's time to lose weight. But i know how it's done and what to expect. And i have my past victories to inspire me.

      Anyways don't be such deterministic doomer homosexuals.
      >NoooooOooooOooo if she's not perfect then it's not salvageable
      >NoooOoo u deserve a hot queen
      >Dump that zero and get yourself a hero!!
      This is what happens when an entire generation is raised believing that men and women are equal. The women don't get any stronger, but the men get way b***hier and gaygier

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        I'm not being a "deterministic doomer homosexual". I've been married for 11 years but I didn't marry a fat woman, so 4 kids later and we're both still in shape. These are my observations of probably 20+ couples around us that we've known, most of whom have had their relationships fall apart I'll add. God there was this one girl. She was chubby but she was so fricking hot. Like unbelievably hot. My friend met this girl, he asked me what I thought, I gave him my honest assessment. I knew her mom was like 400 pounds, she was 22 and had beefy arms and was maybe 20 pounds overweight. I told him man she's beautiful but she's going to be a god damned cow in 5 years max. He said no no no, I'll get her into going to the gym with me, I'll get her IST, she'll be my gym buddy and thin wife.

        For a while he succeeded. She lost the 20 extra pounds, was absolutely hot as frick. They got married, he impregnated her. The next time I saw her she was pushing 250 pounds. Like, fat gut tucked into her stretch pants while her knock knees rub together when she waddles level of fat. Her face was still pretty, her breasts got enormous. That's how my friend coped. I didn't say shit about it but he knows that I'm being silent on the biggest "I FRICKING TOLD YOU SO" of his entire life. There are a few things that are certain in life, death, taxes, and a fat girl staying fat long term.

        • 12 months ago
          Anonymous

          >There are a few things that are certain in life, death, taxes, and a fat girl staying fat long term.
          Kek.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      >3. She goes all in on losing weight and actually reaches a goal and is positive about it and there is no friction between you. She is fit and thin and happy. She begins to realize she has higher value than she used to, and begins wondering how much better she can do than you. She cheats on you or dumps you within 3 months.

      This is what should scary abyone tbh and I think its the most likely scenario for most people. Especially if the person was gross to begin with.

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        Why would it scare me? If my gf dumped me right now I'd say whatever and go bang some other chick. She knows that and thus she will never dump me. Only a moronic beta homosexual is "scared" his gf is gonna dump him. My chick knows the instant she dumps me, my dick is flying into all her friends and prostitutes on Tinder.

  25. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Build your tinder profile then dump her.

  26. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Hey homosexual, here is some very real advise.
    Talk to her about how important it is for her health to take care of herself despite disorder.
    Don't give her an ultimatum, if she does not start self improving or freaks out on you, remember you have the power and that a single fat chick will not be the only woman ever interested in you, trust me bro.
    Whatever number this fat chick is at start exclusively going after 2 numbers higher and leave her once you have one.
    Pro tip, do not cheat while doing this.
    T. Then girlfriend who had eating disorder and is now wife 90lbs lighter
    Just be a man as swift as a coursing river.

  27. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    She will never lose weight. She will never change. ESPECIALLY in a relationship. Make your peace with it or leave her.

  28. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    crazy which I like
    Lmao this homie really fell for a BPDemon.
    Yeah it's cool and exciting and fun at first, but you wish you never met this b***h a couple months down the line.

  29. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Why would she lose weight if she managed to get guys like you as she is?
    You desperate morons are why women have such ridiculous standards but disregard any standards attempted to be placed on themselves.

  30. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >talk about vaping
    what the frick is there to talk about?

  31. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >gf loses weight
    >other guys start getting boners around her
    >more offers than she ever had before
    >she remembers you treating her like shit to lose the weight
    >"frick him"
    >sleeps wither other dudes and justifies it cause you were mean

    Leave

  32. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    People will tell you this over and over again and it will still take you years to really understand it but: don't date people expecting them to change. In any kind of way.

  33. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    >they
    not
    >she
    You went after a fat troony, you deserve it. Enjoy.

    • 12 months ago
      Anonymous

      you dont understand how english works mr jeet. please do the needful and get the frick off the white mans internet.

      • 12 months ago
        Anonymous

        >troony lover deflects to racism to cover his tracks
        Whiter than you. Cope.

  34. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    Try to include her in your workouts, share healthy food, offer help if you’re willing, plan meals together, try to get her in a female gym or nudge her to get a female trainer if you don’t want to be her personal trainer.
    If that fails just straight up tell her you love her and wish her to be healthy, if she chimps out tell her both of your values may be different, emphasize you want to grow old with her and want both of you to be the best version of yourselves you can be - it’d be useful if you share a personal story of when you had unhealthier habits, and if you still have them then compromise with that as an opportunity to improvement for both of you.
    If that fails just leave, you are too different and not compatible, make her aware at this point it was a dealbreaker and don’t let her manipulate you with “body positivity”, if she’s unstable call her family when you break up and dump her on them. Don’t accept half baked promises.

  35. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    I shrank my wife. Be as healthy as possible around her. When you cook make healthy meals, and take her out to do outdoor activities. Never criticize her for her choices, just encourage her when she does well. It takes a while but she will learn she gets praise from a hike and eating a healthy meal but gets nothing when she eats like shit.

  36. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    American moment

  37. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    force an ultimatum
    shrimple as

  38. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    If its something you can see yourself resenting in the future when it inevitably gets worse - and it will, she's basically told you as much - take the smart option and cut things short now. It's not shallow, your core values don't align, that's a valid reason for not making things long term.

    Her refusal is likely the thin end of the wedge too. If she gets her way now, what do you think will happen the next time you point out that something she's doing is out of line? The precedent has been set. She'll stamp her feet, remind you that she's the boss and what she says goes, and will threatening to break up with you, because she knows that threat works.

    Call her bluff. Either she gets the reality check she needs and compromises, or you've just offloaded a stubborn liability from your life. Win-win.

    >but muh fat girl sex
    There are plenty of whales in the sea.

  39. 12 months ago
    Anonymous

    don't waste your time. dump her and find a girl who is already slim or into fitness.

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