We've both packed on quite a few pounds over the years due to sedentary lifestyle but have recently decided it's time to make a serious change. We want to start trying for a baby soon (will be my first, she has a daughter from her previous marriage who doesn't live with her) and the it's well known that obesity can complicate things, so we want to make sure our chances are the best they can be, since we're both getting up there in years...
Anyway, I bought a home gym (we both work from home so it's really convenient for us) but she never uses it. Always making excuses about being too busy, tired, or not having the time for it, which is nonsense, because she spends a lot (A LOT) of time on social media, especially twitter. I've been using the equipment we bought myself and I'm already seeing decent results (7 pounds lost in January) so I know it can be done, but she just seems to lack the willpower.
What are my best options here since getting her to exercise regularly is just not gonna happen? Diet change? What's the best one for a sedentary woman like her? Should I try to get her on keto, or maybe IF? She unfortunately likes to drink quite a bit so keto would be a hard sell...
Please help me IST, I just want us both to be healthy and happy with the way we look.
wtf she looks like a man
go ask for advice on reddit together with your husband
Is Patrick Tomlinson your wife?
I don't want to be that person, but it has to be said. If she does not want to loose weight you cannot force her to do it (unless you restrict calorie intake by force and control her every meal). Motivation has to come from within (e.g. she wants to have a healthy child, she does not want to loose you to the slim waitress you've been flirting with after you became fit) so maybe she does not want it at all and likes her lifestyle as it is now. And you gotta understand, when you start lifting you should be lifting consistently till you die (at least that should be the mindset). No amount of motivation will best discipline/habits.
*beat, not best
I realize this very well but I think the exercise route is just a no go for the foreseeable future. That's why I'm gonna try focusing on diet change, it's something that doesn't require effort on her part as I order and pay for our meals anyway.
Welp... That's gonna be a tough one lol. She's very fond of our local bar, it's where she does most of her networking.
Btw the pic in the OP was older, she's"*this* big now.
>shes this big now
oh my fucking god
And this was her when we met... Fml lol...
she was still a fatass bro. unless you are equally as unattractive and just generally dumpy looking, leave and find an actual human
Nah she was pretty hot back then, trust me. That's why I looked past her being a divorcee and having a kid lol...
Post a hot picture of her
This is probably at her best.
Not giving me much hope lol.
You have to come to terms who have you married with. She might want a kid with you but she disagrees how to do it. I have absolutely NO IDEA how you can convince her to take her health seriously. I do not know her, only you know her. Best advice I can give you is trying to scare her by watching shows about fatasses and drop hints she is going down that road.
Why is her previous daughter not living with her? Might as well tell us so we can know the situation better and give you better advice. Her not having custody of her daughter is a red flag imho, atleast on a surface level.
>Best advice I can give you is trying to scare her by watching shows about fatasses and drop hints she is going down that road.
This is a good advice but the problem is she's not there... yet lol! and she feels like she has her under control... Which she kinda does because she's not blowing up rapidly or anything but the extra pound add up over month and years.
>Why is her previous daughter not living with her? Might as well tell us so we can know the situation better and give you better advice. Her not having custody of her daughter is a red flag imho, atleast on a surface level.
Her ex-husband cheated on her while she was pregnant and got really mad and threaten to murder him AND the kid once it's born lol... unfortunately the police got involved and she later ended up losing custody to her ex and his new wife.
*and she got really mad (sorry missed the word, typing on my phone)
>got really mad and threaten to murder him AND the kid once it's born
This is a big yikes tbh.
>she feels like she has her under control
Tell her if she is not counting calories she has no control. Show her pictures of different years to show how has she gained weight. I know it is really hard to tell women they are doing something wrong, speciall with their weight, but you will end up taking care of a lard elemental and miserable.
You met in 2020?
Yep. Packing on pounds "over the years" was a bit of an euphemism, she gained all the weight during the covid nonsense.
No matter what she looks like when you meet her, look at her mom and you'll see where she's headed.
Loosing weight is no voodoo mystery magic. Many people claim it, but they just don't push through the hard times for a long enough period. CICO determines weight loss/gain. CI = the food you eat, CO = metabolism and your workout
>chud posts pictures of himself to see if he passes
You don't. have a nice day.
prob a troll post but whatever
first thing is only black coffee and water. no soda no beer no whatever. download myfitnesspal, set her limit to 1200 a day if she’s short, 1500 if she’s tall. eat lots of salads with a lot of protein. NO EATING OUT. pack lunches, cook at home for dinner, yadda yadda. do it with her. meal prep, calorie restrict, and workout. develop a plan together for strength training and cardio. go on morning or evening walks that are within the 5000 steps range. it’ll take till September if you start this stuff tomorrow.
Women sneak snacks. I mean we all do it but women do it especially. They will hide snacks and sneak them behind your back and then complain that "no matter what I do, I just cant seem to lose weight!!!"
If you call them out for sneaking snacks, they'll get furious.
A lot of time on social media, doesn't cook, kids doesn't live with her despite women getting the kids by default. Holy shit the amount of red flags, looks like the USSR.
If don't have kids yet, then you should bail. Seriously.
Dude, you are with a nutcase. Her being overweight is the least of your problems.
I know lol but I'm not exactly a catch myself, I'm not sure I can do better than her...
I thought me having some success with weight loss would motivate her but it feels like it did the opposite lol!
> having some success with weight loss would motivate her but it feels like it did the opposite lol!
You are telling her you will work on yourself without her putting any effort so it makes some sense. You have to be more straight to her and demand effort from her.
is right that she seems to be a nutcase. Maybe you are just scared of her because she is indeed a psycho. In which case you should drop her. You are taking care of yourself now and in your hourney to a better life you might think about how healthy it is to be married to her. Don't be scared of being alone because it is far better than being chained to a psycho.
I don't think she looks that fat to be honest witchu. Probably just beer and brat face from those harsh Milwaukee winters
She's getting hefty enough to the point where brothas keep staring and smacking their lips when we go out which is making me pretty uncomfortable nawmean...
Your wife is a lesbian.
Those are just your delusions, poster.
As other's have mentioned, it is very difficult for someone to lose weight if they don't actively want to. Forget about any named diets, the only thing that matters is caloric deficit while being reasonably satiated. Drinking wouldn't be a problem if she could forgo snacking and would work it off afterwards.
Your best gameplan is to reduce sweets, garbage meals etc and make more salads and fatty meals. If she likes her snacks, try going every other day without one. Ideally you would reduce this to as low as possible, but you have to take baby steps to form habits. If you can identify what she eats that could be considered "unnecessary" calories, you should first start and reduce or remove them. Take it slow as removing just 1 excess meal a week wothout compensating will be an improvement.
Next it must be said that any sort of extra movement or working out is a huge plus. If she doesn't want to do it on her own, you need to be with her every step of the way. Again, you're main goal is to make it a habit and to get her burning something extra. Going for longer walks 3 times a week, jogging etc. Anything more than sitting is good. The perfect solution would be cardio and some weight training 2x per week each for faster results, but only you can get her to do it, if at all. Maybe try to weasel in how a bit of extra training will make her less tired, but fall asleep faster? Maybe make it a goal together, reward her for following along.
At the end of the day you are trying to manipulate her into becoming a better person. Let's not beat around the bush here. If she joins you in any physical activity you need to praise her. If she follows along with diet restrictions and is losing any sort of weight, tell her how much better she looks. Bartering workout for gift is somewhat bad, but you can work around it and be more giving in one way or the other. Offering to take her someplace nice on the weekend if she joins you on a jog and a workout during workdays might work.
I feel sorry for you OP, Im not joking or being rued
I bet she throats a mean dick
That she absolutely does. We have sex with skill and enthusiasm.
>anon married an alcoholic manfaced mick with a kid
Why did you do that?
Here's what you do, take her to the McDonalds, order he a dozen big macs and feed them to he.