How do I stand up for myself

I'm done coping with my intense confrontational anxiety, how do I fix this shit. In moments where I have to stand up for myself, I just shut down. I literally can't scream, shout, let alone say something meaningful in those situations. Starting to sweat profoundly, voice shivering and even turn red sometimes. It's building up all inside of me like some kind of defense mechanism, and people will notice and abuse it. What the fuck is wrong with me, I just want to feel strong, manly and confident

  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    people have different reactions to adrenaline. it's quite common for people to start crying when they get into a fight, not because of some sense of sadness but because the rush of emotions from the hormones and neurotransmitters getting released is overwhelming and the body reacts in somewhat odd ways to it all. if you shy away from confrontation then you're going to be caught off guard when you do encounter those feelings and have to consciously do a lot more to maintain a sense of control. exposure therapy obviously works well here. go join an mma or boxing gym.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    lern how to fight

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    bro you are going to die,and you're wasting time

    You children will need a strong father

    Your wife same

    You need yourself

    Don't let this be a one day flash of mental strenght, make it a journey.
    Be polite, but firm AS FUCK

    Embrace your embarassment and clunky akwardness, who fucking cares, as long as you stand up for yourself

    Also, 11/10 the anxiety comes from something unresolved, being fat, a soft addiction, or socially related

    Lift, eat good, sleep good, take care od yourself anon

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Try Lexapro, I used to fight all the time and then I got jumped and would try to avoid fights and when my adrenaline would rush in an intense situation my lower back would seize up.. since Lexapro I don't have any fear or anxiety and I look confrontation in the eye and don't let people walk all over me for the sake of keeping the peace. Good luck

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're a pussy, like most zoomers.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe you are right, but I want to change it. I don't want to fight anyone and never had to, even just loud arguing with someone can shut me down. I just can't bare people taking abusing and taking advantage of me, I don't want to stay there smiling in every situation as if they were right, I literally want to be the bad guy and the asshole, when it's necessary and forced by others of couse.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Phenibut and anxiety meds.

        But the lasting change will be from exposure.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just work at a bar or especially a recreational facility lwhere they serve alcohol. You get to deal with assholes every weekend and you learn to stand your ground. First couple of times you feel like a jerk and have 10 different comebacks that you didn't have in the heat of the moment. After these encounters you can use these to your advantage. You have to throw yourself into the deep you don't learn people skills behind a computer screen. It's not for everyone though some people never learn. Don't go out fighting you'll just go to jail.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    That happens to me aswell. I usually cope by forcing out extreme anger at the other party.
    I gnash my teeth and start thinking "fucking moron, I'll bash your skull in with a brick", and that usually stops me from feeling any sort of emotion that would bring me to tears.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Unironically steroids

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Did you ever fight?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Learn boxing. Or BJJ. Or Judo. Any combat sport really. It sounds dumb but knowing that if worst comes to worst you can hold your own against another man physically gives you confidence.

      see

      Maybe you are right, but I want to change it. I don't want to fight anyone and never had to, even just loud arguing with someone can shut me down. I just can't bare people taking abusing and taking advantage of me, I don't want to stay there smiling in every situation as if they were right, I literally want to be the bad guy and the asshole, when it's necessary and forced by others of couse.

      I never fought and don't intend hurting anyone. But if someone were to threaten me, I'd shy away like a rabbit, if that is what you were asking for. If If I were forced to fight I'd 100% try to not hurt my opponent, I know that for sure even if I was never in a fight.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You are overthink everything you are only scared of the unknown which os completely natural you are just scared because you never had a fight before many people children and teenagers fight all the time and that removes the fear and fight or flight reaction becomes fight.

        My friend you need to get into wome boxing classes and that will ease you up

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          but that's not the same, is it? I wouldn't have problems boxing or artificial fights, there is no unknown present. I also want to mention it's not just about me, imagine an old lady was being harassed on the street. I don't want to be that guy looking and walking away like an NPC, but I know that's what I'd do because I can't get my shit together and man the fuck up

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            It removes the fear you ding dong if you do boxing someone is going to punch you and you will get used to it thats all. You're overthinking this shit

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Like

        Learn boxing. Or BJJ. Or Judo. Any combat sport really. It sounds dumb but knowing that if worst comes to worst you can hold your own against another man physically gives you confidence.

        said, join a martial art gym. Find one you like with good instructors and a good group of people
        It will 100% do what you're asking for

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Learn boxing. Or BJJ. Or Judo. Any combat sport really. It sounds dumb but knowing that if worst comes to worst you can hold your own against another man physically gives you confidence.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The next time some dipshit gay talks shit to you don't say anything just beat him. Once you get in a real fight you realize how weak most people really are, they're just gonna stop talking when they get punched.
    Everybody acts tough until you bring that pain to them.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      pricture this
      > guy takes up two seats in a train, refuses to make space
      > someone cutting the line in a supermarket
      > someone being an asshole or disrespecting, like 'what you looking at dumbass'
      > someone just being a net-negative on purpose
      you can't just deck someone for that, unless you want to end up in prison, but letting that rest on you is even worse. what are you even supposed to do in such situations? I know it's simple but whatever I'd do is not the right solution

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        > sit on the floor or walk
        > order food online
        > close your eyes, he's right and you shouldn't look at people
        > seething, since two negatives make a positive

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    INCREADIBiLISSSS

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Can somebody explain the logic behind that helmet design?
    Also that shoulder armor?

    I know it's off topic and I could google it myself, but anons are so good at summarising these kinds of things that I simply feel more comfortable asking.

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    dont be afraid to come across as a dick, not everyone has to like you

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