I only guess men will treat me creepier. Other people treat me (very) nice already. Perhaps bc they don't see me as fat as I'm and think i'm kinda pretty. idk
They don't. If there's one thing I've learned, simply dressing nicely and being nice in general means folk just ain't got it in em to think bad of you.
For real, back in high school after I traded in my ratty military-style jacket for wool long-coats and selvedge denim I have never once been stopped by the police, which was previously yearly.
It’s annoying at times, because it just points out how mediocre people are when it comes to their judgements of others. Not saying I’m not guilty, but because of my experiences I know the dangers of judging others and being way off and at least try to temper my judgements. I don’t think most people even bother with the very idea that they may be wrong about their impressions of others. The overall majority of people don’t have time for nuance or critical thought and so they take you at face value. That part bothers me a lot as I live my life.
I get where you’re coming from OP because I liked being left alone at times as a Joe Schmoe with a bit of fat on me. I was largely ignored and left alone. At bars, coffee shops, in public overall. Now I get noticed and I have to manage the extra attention. There is pressure when there’s a hot chick who eyeballed you across the room. You go from just being to being self conscious. Which irritating. I’m at the point where I balance that with apathy towards it, and also able to take advantage of it when I want to.
Still, I resent that society puts such a premium on such superficial things but what are you going to do? It’s the rules and reality of the matrix we exist in.
>It’s annoying at times, because it just points out how mediocre people are when it comes to their judgements of others.
this really makes me hate being human as a whole, people's opinions are so fixated on appearances I have no respect left for them
The best way to deal with resentment is with gratitude. I feel the same way but I am grateful for the opportunities I have had, the teachers and mentors who have made me think differently and the challenges that came my way that I had to overcome to have put me in this position on the first place.
Others my not have not had those things put in their life, available to them or had the ability, courage, attitude or support to allow them to learn the things I have and that is something that I must remember because to forget is to lose my ability to stay humble and greatful.
>I get where you’re coming from OP because I liked being left alone at times as a Joe Schmoe with a bit of fat on me. I was largely ignored and left alone. At bars, coffee shops, in public overall. Now I get noticed and I have to manage the extra attention. There is pressure when there’s a hot chick who eyeballed you across the room. You go from just being to being self conscious. Which irritating. I’m at the point where I balance that with apathy towards it, and also able to take advantage of it when I want to.
This is the bad part. Because some times people get offended and feel rejected if you just try to mind your own business and they start acting passive agressive and try starting cliches against you. That shit is fricked, shit suddenly become political.
>able to take advantage of it
Far too many anons don't take advantage of what they have or don't know how to. Some think it's manipulative to do so but if you had an extra 500k would you not spend any of it? Tbh most of these homosexual anons pretend to take the moral high ground when it comes to taking advantage of others. This is only because they are completely unable to do so themselves. Just my thoughts. Good shit handling your new powers though. You already made it
Stop being a woman? Dont be salty about the very human desire to treat people who put work into themselves with respect? Idk. You sound like a fricking homosexual gay. >"oh no people treat me better now!"
KYS
people treated me less nicely. i couldnt go to local music shows because everyone thought i was a meathead and lots of indie types i was previously friends with distanced themselves from me. hurt at first, but its been years now and theyre all at dead end jobs with shitty albums and coke addictions so guess it was just nature taking its course
All human interaction is conditional. Once you accept this life gets a lot easier. You don’t like your friends “just because”, you like them because you enjoy their company for whatever combination of reasons. Being fit is just another reason people might like you.
>How do you deal with the fact that people are only treating you more nicely because you got ISTter?
I find it fascinating. Women are definitely nicer. Men generally more begrudging respect. There's a sub class of men that hate me more though, i.e. bros/fratboys. I'm guessing its because they perceive me as threat, as I am not in their "tribe."
They don't, I was a nice person before getting IST
Still am tl;dr
Pretty well seeing as the whole fricking reason I lift is to feel better and get treated better.
I only guess men will treat me creepier. Other people treat me (very) nice already. Perhaps bc they don't see me as fat as I'm and think i'm kinda pretty. idk
You will never be a woman.
I’m a very fit gay men thank you.
I apologize
sorry, genetics says: woman.
They don't. If there's one thing I've learned, simply dressing nicely and being nice in general means folk just ain't got it in em to think bad of you.
For real, back in high school after I traded in my ratty military-style jacket for wool long-coats and selvedge denim I have never once been stopped by the police, which was previously yearly.
Stop seeking approval from others. At the end of the day, they don't care about you anyway.
It’s far more important than you realize. Being alpha is not an act.
Uh hello? Enjoying life more ofc
by hating other fatties
i was handsome even when i was fat and a very good conversationalist so people always treated me nice, i even got laid a few times.
not that i'm lean i get showered with attention if i really want it. too bad i'm gay.
It’s annoying at times, because it just points out how mediocre people are when it comes to their judgements of others. Not saying I’m not guilty, but because of my experiences I know the dangers of judging others and being way off and at least try to temper my judgements. I don’t think most people even bother with the very idea that they may be wrong about their impressions of others. The overall majority of people don’t have time for nuance or critical thought and so they take you at face value. That part bothers me a lot as I live my life.
I get where you’re coming from OP because I liked being left alone at times as a Joe Schmoe with a bit of fat on me. I was largely ignored and left alone. At bars, coffee shops, in public overall. Now I get noticed and I have to manage the extra attention. There is pressure when there’s a hot chick who eyeballed you across the room. You go from just being to being self conscious. Which irritating. I’m at the point where I balance that with apathy towards it, and also able to take advantage of it when I want to.
Still, I resent that society puts such a premium on such superficial things but what are you going to do? It’s the rules and reality of the matrix we exist in.
Didn’t read a word plus you’re gay
A few paragraphs of reading too difficult? good luck with that.
>It’s annoying at times, because it just points out how mediocre people are when it comes to their judgements of others.
this really makes me hate being human as a whole, people's opinions are so fixated on appearances I have no respect left for them
The best way to deal with resentment is with gratitude. I feel the same way but I am grateful for the opportunities I have had, the teachers and mentors who have made me think differently and the challenges that came my way that I had to overcome to have put me in this position on the first place.
Others my not have not had those things put in their life, available to them or had the ability, courage, attitude or support to allow them to learn the things I have and that is something that I must remember because to forget is to lose my ability to stay humble and greatful.
>I get where you’re coming from OP because I liked being left alone at times as a Joe Schmoe with a bit of fat on me. I was largely ignored and left alone. At bars, coffee shops, in public overall. Now I get noticed and I have to manage the extra attention. There is pressure when there’s a hot chick who eyeballed you across the room. You go from just being to being self conscious. Which irritating. I’m at the point where I balance that with apathy towards it, and also able to take advantage of it when I want to.
This is the bad part. Because some times people get offended and feel rejected if you just try to mind your own business and they start acting passive agressive and try starting cliches against you. That shit is fricked, shit suddenly become political.
>able to take advantage of it
Far too many anons don't take advantage of what they have or don't know how to. Some think it's manipulative to do so but if you had an extra 500k would you not spend any of it? Tbh most of these homosexual anons pretend to take the moral high ground when it comes to taking advantage of others. This is only because they are completely unable to do so themselves. Just my thoughts. Good shit handling your new powers though. You already made it
they don't treat me any different, I've always been very friendly and social with people
Stop being a woman? Dont be salty about the very human desire to treat people who put work into themselves with respect? Idk. You sound like a fricking homosexual gay.
>"oh no people treat me better now!"
KYS
Good, I put in hard work and got rewarded
People pathologically hate ugly people. Welcome to the real world.
Is that Chestbrah brah?
people treated me less nicely. i couldnt go to local music shows because everyone thought i was a meathead and lots of indie types i was previously friends with distanced themselves from me. hurt at first, but its been years now and theyre all at dead end jobs with shitty albums and coke addictions so guess it was just nature taking its course
They are not. Literally nothing changed in my social life, people still don't like me
Why does this bother people. Of course people with good life habits are more appealing than depressed sacks of shit.
Looks are everything.
All human interaction is conditional. Once you accept this life gets a lot easier. You don’t like your friends “just because”, you like them because you enjoy their company for whatever combination of reasons. Being fit is just another reason people might like you.
>How do you deal with the fact that people are only treating you more nicely because you got ISTter?
I find it fascinating. Women are definitely nicer. Men generally more begrudging respect. There's a sub class of men that hate me more though, i.e. bros/fratboys. I'm guessing its because they perceive me as threat, as I am not in their "tribe."