>been going to the gym just mindlessly raising numbers on my lifts and building muscle
>been studying computer science, just passing classes and learning stuff but no real goal where I would want to end up
I don't know where the fuck I am going or where I even want to go with my life, especially what the fuck to do with my degree. I wish I had some dream I could pursue but really nothing comes to mind. Help.
How do you develop some kind of life goal/dream?
Maybe get a wifs? Travel? Get your own place?
You still have the basic stuff to cover. Once you will be around 30 and have another existential crisis. The it's time to either have kids or become an alcoholic
wifi is cheap as hell bro
Same fucking sitch here man
Been thinking about dropping out of mech engineering and just joining the military, getting blown up by a hellfire missile fighting with people you trust seemes preferable to slow decay in the slave cage of some tech corp
Dunno about you but modern life is just so fucking demoralizing, and nah, i never wanted a wife and kids, doesn’t scratch the itch for a life where i truly got to live
You're not retarded, so you wouldn't have to pick a combat rate/MOS. You can join the Navy, Air Force, CG, or whatever and get a technical rate. It's an adventure.
I'm a professional musician and I don't like music anymore. I find no joy in it, but I'm 31 and have already fucked up enough that I have no other options.
Its kind of fucked how much music means when you are young and how you lose it when youre older
I sometimes question how much I ever liked it, and whether I'm just in it because it's what I'm best at.
It’s why actors stay on shows like Law & Order or CSI for 20 years. Even high paying creative jobs become regular jobs as you age.
I rarely listen to music. maybe once a week. The gym I workout in plays no music Alhamdulilah.
I generally don’t enjoy when music is playing because generally the songs that show up most often in my age group are superficial or even lewd, but there’s a dozen songs give it take I find it to be kinda nice — Beethoven is actually really nice. Is it possible that you never really have enough time away from it to appreciate it? I live next door to a mosque, and so I’m there at least once everyday but I used to focus better on the prayer when I was living far away and would have to walk 16 minutes or bike there.
For me, it’s blink-182.
I just watched the blink 182 first dates mv, and I laughed so hard. Thanks for the rec ^_^
Break your life down into 3 main aspects: health, relationships, finances.
Come to terms with the fact that you'll be lifting every 2-3 days (depending on recovery) for the rest of your life. Do a basic progressive overload hypertrophy routine and cardio (cycling, swimming).
Mental health - find a hobby that's both fun, interesting and useful at the same time. Pick up a musical instrument.
Spend time with your mom and dad, siblings as well. If you have 2-3 good friends by 30, consider yourself lucky. Try dating.
I'd say education goes here. You don't get rich by earning a lot, but by saving. I can buy 3 new Iphones with my monthly paycheck, but I'm using a 100$ Samsung A12 that I bought on sale.
>You don't get rich by earning a lot, but by saving
Getting rich by saving? You're a clueless moron.
It's both and the fact that a lot of lottery winners go broke in less than a couple years proves this.
Millionaires accrue wealth by buying assets, not saving until they get their first million.
Lottery winners go broke because they did not have to earn the money and thus no attachment to it, as well as having poor financial intelligence to begin with.
You get rich by INVESTING.
Most people don't know today. We should have had a big war that we all coulda died in. Anyway, people cope with life in their own ways, the most popular being alcohol
Unironically read the New Testament, and yoke yourself to Jesus Christ. Focus ONLY on obeying the words of Christ, and being more like Him. Glorify Him in all that you do and turn from the worldly gods of lust, greed, self reliance, ect... Lean wholeheartedly on Him and He will be your strength and your assurance. Walk not by emotions and what you feel, but by faith.
If you do this, imprefectly but earnestly, He will make your paths straight, He will be your guide and compass, you will never be alone or lost again.
Only Christ can break the chains of the world and the grave, only the risen Christ can give you true freedom and pluck you from the hand of the Destroyer.
His ways are not the ways of the world, and people will think them strange and condemn you. Pray for those that harm you and do not return evil for evil. When you do so you heap coals upon their heads and store up treasure for yourself where moths cannot eat and thieves cannot steal.
Do not delay in your repentance, He is patient and kind, His will is that none should perish but He is coming quickly and without warning, like a thief in the night.
Trust me anon. I promise you.
>I don't know where the fuck I am going or where I even want to go with my life, especially what the fuck to do with my degree. I wish I had some dream I could pursue but really nothing comes to mind. Help.
This is a very gay post but I would encourage you extremely strongly, in fact I would beg you, to start getting certs and applying for internships and crap-tier entry level type meme jobs where they pay you like 17/hr to plug cables in and troubleshoot shit and write shitty code so that when you graduate you can get an actual job making 70k a year starting and not eat shit like everyone else who gets a degree but has no plan on how to actually use it.
>certs for a compsci degree
he's not gonna be a mouthbreathing iq tard
Cloud certifications, things like kubernetes certification if he's going in that direction. Everything can build your resume up and give you leverage to ask for more.
what this guy said. I'm 21 and had no idea what I wanted to do with my higher education up until my Junior year when I changed majors to Business Information Systems. If the department at your university really cares about their students they will hold "get hired" events, "resume writing workshops" and ghey stuff like that but you should really go. get in contact with alumni, build projects, have something to talk about during an interview. So many people are left in the dust after college because they don't get involved with their department or network with their successful alumni. I managed to secure a $26/hr internship position for this summer and will likely move on to making $70k/yr after graduation at the same company. I go to a small state university I'm sure nobody's heard of. I only "made it" by getting involved with the part of the university system that actually wants to help me.
Have a child
Who are you jealous of?
Then become better than them.
>Who are you jealous of?
The guy on left. I already know that if i actually sat down and practiced my music more and atleast tried to go out more i could have cool musician friends all around the world too but instead of doing that i am wasting my time posting pictures of ryan gosling on a taiwanese woodcarving forum. I hate myself so fucking much.
Took me a minute to realize all these people are carrying backpacks and are college students in their early 20s. That gnomish guy in particular looks really bad for his age he's fucked in another 10 years.
Lol no you wouldn't. I've been there and done that, people in music suck because they all love being progressive politically and aren't really that interesting.
Practice anyway to teach yourself discipline and then think about what would actually make you happy within music. But I'm telling you now, doing a thing to meet friends or girls is a let down because its never as good as you imagine.
>think about what would actually make you happy within music
I just want to play in a band and make music with others. Not even as a job or to become famous, just for fun. I dont necessarily have to travel for that but i figured that since i also want to travel and meet new people it might be easier through music. I only recently started practicing again and even though i am making good progress i still am not good enough to play the kind of music that i want to play. I guess i am just starting to get impatient since i will turn 23 in a couple months and still didnt achieve much in life except for being somewhat good at a lot of thing but not being really good at anything
Keep practicing. I have a music degree, and take a number of years off, but I've spent the last year picking up guitar and I really enjoy it, and I've done it while watching tv passively.
Finding people to play with can be very difficult. It probably used to be easier, you could just put a thing in the classifieds of the papers, and get strangers, and sometimes it'd workout. Unfortunately people are more anti-social or paranoid now than ever, but it isn't impossible.
I'm 33 for what its worth, most of my best growth came later after I was done with university, but most of the time finding people to play with evolves out of falling into the right situation. Teaching as a private teacher and having students progress well is an easy way to get exposure and meet other musicians in the same boat. Or just finding an open mic or some place to jam with people will open up opportunities, but you gotta just practice so that if you get a chance, you're at least decent. That's half the battle.
Just keep trying to play it everyday, music is annoying like fitness where you have to keep training even if you feel like you aren't making progress because you but in subtle ways you can't see yet. Doubly so because musical intuition involves brain gains and small muscles in the hands or throat/lips. And of course, the field is full of assholes and people who think the only thing that matters is making it and getting money.
Just keep practicing so that no one can deny your skill, and people will want to play with you because you're reliable and can make them look better, then it becomes symbiotic. That also means work on stuff outside what you want to play, but it all goes into the same box of musical tools you can utilize later on.
I'll do it for you
Your goal is to get a high paying job and then spend all your vacation days in one fell swoop fucking teenage thai pussy for a few weeks every summer
Find a job you don't mind doing that covers your basic necessities. Then find hobbies and do those to fill the time as long as you fill fulfillment from doing them.
Don't make your hobby your job unless you like your hobbies to stress you out and not be dully under your control.
Most of all, stop caring about 'acheivements' and money and showing anyone else how successful you are; just do it all for yourself and your own fulfillment.
That being said, I've found the more you continually stay curious and teach yourself and try new things (and fail at first) the more fulfilled you'll be.
In terms of a job, find something that won't take up most of your time or will let you work from home so you can be a master of your time and put it toward things you enjoy or care about, however big and meaningful or however small and wasteful. I would advise avoid getting too heavily into vices, but enjoying them in moderation regularly.
I’ve been going through this issue..
>be fat fuck no bitches complete kissless virgin, no real friends basically whole life
>try to kill self after years of suicidal fantasies
>swallow bunch of pills, pretty sure Vicodin, had like 20+
>wake up 16 hours later
>tfw too fat to kill myself
>decide to at least try and get some pussy and then consider killing my self so I don’t die a virgin
>get IST senior year highschool
>lose over 100lbs and end up 6’2” skelly
>start college, actually have girls talking to me, girls checking me out, eye raping me but too shy to do anything
>start lifting, start socially challenging myself and doing some risky stuff to boost confidence
>start getting pussy
>don’t wanna kill self at this point, but don’t really care for the whole reason I started
>lose all motivation lose everything
I need something more. I’m getting back into it again after a shitty break up, I can feel the same desire I had in the past to improve for other reasons, just to be better than I currently am. But fuck I worry I’ll get there and truly be better and then have no dicisolinenor kotivation to keep pushing other than fear of reverting back to who I am right now. Oh well, worst case is I make it happen again and get to be chad for a few years once again. Better than not ever expecting that again.
Well congrats on picking what is probably the most job-secure degree you could get right now (at least one that's not medicine). The only advice in that regard is probably make sure you ACTUALLY tolerate computer stuff as a job. A lot of people start CS thinking it'll just be like playing fortnite for a living until they realise what a software job is really like (it's nothing like playing games). Unfortunately for many, that realisation comes a year after they finished their degree. Good news here is CS is a versatile degree that can also lead to business management and finance positions.
The big answer here is probably goal-setting. You write down (on paper, it helps) a few goals for your health, career, lifestyle, hobbies, finances. Both big and small goals that are SMART(specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, time-sensitive). Examples could be 'hit 100kg bench press by June' or 'put $10k into an ETF portfolio this year' or 'apply for 30 software jobs this week'; notice how each of those goals follow the SMART formula.
Once you have your goals you break them into steps, all the way to the very smallest steps you can think of. Want to save $10k into an ETF portfolio this year? First step is probably researching different brokers and opening an account. Saving $10k is a big thing, but opening google and searching up "investment broker comparison" is quite easy and you basically have no reason not to. After breaking all the goals into steps, you've essentially made yourself a roadmap to personal success, it is extremely motivating.
Remember, at 23 you don't need massive goals, the small goals are enough as long as they're building you a better platform for future success (such as saving money and developing healthy habits). For severely depressed people, their goal might be to shower and eat every day for a week; your goals scale with what you can handle.
>All these paragraphs
Have. A. Child.