How do you develop unbreakable confidence?

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just stop caring about what other people think. In reality, no one will ever do shit to you. For example, next time you go to CVS or some shit and see someone wearing a mask, just say outloud "look at all these freaks still wearing masks," and watch as no one does anything.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Not OP but my issue is shit that would happen in middle and highschool still happens in my adult life.
      Middle school
      >try to talk to girl I like at new school
      >Group of people start laughing and say her name in a way that’s only meant to be belittling towards me
      Highschool
      >talk to girl I like in art
      >kids at my table start whispering and I hear my name said and they got really weird and awkward about it
      Adult life
      >try to go donate plasma
      >talking to girl at counter asking a few questions because first time
      >starving moron in seats behind me starts mocking me
      Yeah I get this was a broke crack head and he was a regular there and probably thought the 20 year old would give him a chance some day

      But at what point does it stop? Why can’t people just fucking leave me alone? This is why I can’t shake social anxiety and shit. I know when it’s in my head, which I can overcome, but real shit like this always happens. It’s pathetic. Like I understand the world is full of judgemental assholes but holy fuck why can’t they keep it to themself like everyone else?

      Yeah I know no one will ever actually do shit but it’s always like this. Co workers gossip, friends talk shit, randoms (especially nigs) always have some shit to say about other people. It’s not like I’m some high status figure who makes people jealous either so it seriously makes no fucking sense why I’m still running into this shit at damn near 30.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Just laugh along, like what else are they gonna do to you

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        you sound like a bitch rn bro
        read the subtle art of not giving a fuck

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        When people try to mock you or make you insecure, it's because they themselves are insecure and there is something about you they are inherently threatened by.
        A guy used to make fun of me for something I didn't really have control over, and I didn't really let it bug me; but the funny thing is his girlfriend was getting fucked by some other guy all through highschool, as if karmic forces were at play.
        I've really grown into the thing he used to mock me over, and I know now it's something he himself was insecure about. One thing I learned from that is to never mock someone over something they have no control over.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Was it a tiny pp?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You probably look weak. People feel safe around weaklings like you - safe enough to torment you with obviously no defense coming from you

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      cringe

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      zozzle

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Either have a positive reinforcement loop starting from childhood or have a severe mental breakdown from life shitting on you constantly/actual near death experience.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      total deconstruction via psychedelics then a long period of coming to terms with it eventually culminating in you coming to terms with being that which you always were

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >needing to use psychedelics for that

        Don't you have to pick up your chud pills at the pharmacy buddy?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >t. spins out off a beer and calls an ambulance

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            No idea what any of that means

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              Not him but if you can't parse that post you lack basic literacy

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                I just don't understand your subhuman speech, thats all

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Nah if that's literacy to you, you're mentally ill
                Nothing they said was of any value

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      /thread

      if you've never had either experience ngmi

      Vertical not required.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you either have it or you don't

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    For me, it was about both exposure and shedding my previous self. I had to do this physically, moved across country and left my friends / family behind. After about two years of studying and working at the same time, I was alone on Christmas and went for a walk at night. I realized how far I had come and that I was confident because, after all, for the previous two years I had been forging my own path, and I found that confidence is intrinsic when you decide your own fate.
    To be confident, you must first control your own life, otherwise the dependency on, and influence of, other people will cause self doubt and insecurity.
    You must kill the boy, and let the man be born.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous
    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      stop caring, it's not about being "confident", like brave or something, literally:

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    practice
    how can you be confident about something you've never done before?

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Take failure as motivation and reason to grow instead of crying about it like a bitch.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You are right, no matter how much I fight it

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      remember Ls are just tiny wins that haven't yet sprouted. You need to plant your Ls and tend to them like a garden learn from them let them grow and you will see.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        No cap fr fr but foreal tho

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        too true, each one of my Ws are forged out of a thousand Ls

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    train brazilian jiu jitsu

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Sorry I’m not gay

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        It does what you asked and Giorno is as gay as they come. He definitely rolls.

        BJJ is hella gay, but it's humbling and makes you know your place. You can better gain confidence with this correct perception. Confidence means grabbing ass and not caring who's it is. Do it.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Not him but how about literally any other martial art? Not only is bjj gay I just don't see the appeal

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        It does what you asked and Giorno is as gay as they come. He definitely rolls.

        BJJ is hella gay, but it's humbling and makes you know your place. You can better gain confidence with this correct perception. Confidence means grabbing ass and not caring who's it is. Do it.

        Not him but how about literally any other martial art? Not only is bjj gay I just don't see the appeal

        >le jiu jitsu is gay meme
        Men have been grappling since the dawn of humanity. You three are gay.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    find something you're good at
    for me it was trapping, i never thought i was good at much other than sex which doesn't translate well to the irl

    but then i started a trapline and i had the biggest line (for americans it means i had the biggest customerbase) in my area and i was making thousands every week all alone, i was really popular and for once i wasnt poor and had everything i could ever want + i had a really good system. i used to take long trips across the country to source the best shit but then i just found i can use my customers to buy thousands in bitcoin for me and then id just get it all sent to me which also made me confident as i know i can talk to people to get them to do risky shit for me

    it was short lived because soon after people were trying to get me killed and take my line and nothing ever happened to me but i said well a year is good enough but honestly if life doesnt work out im just going to go back to know what i do best and this time invest in guns and take it seriously

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      look anon I'm not reading all that. I'm sorry that happened to you, or really happy that it worked out in the end, but what's your max overhead press . . .

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You mean like trapping game?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        he wore skirts and when he got some dude to take him home he took a pic and blackmailed them for money

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Hitting girls above your league to failure

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Face the most terrifying thing you could think of and survive it

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    That pic goes hard

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    YOU HAVE TO LIVE IT

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    There's a few things I would mention.

    1. Age
    For myself, I became more confident and self-assured as I grew older. Especially under 25, most people still have a ways to go in becoming a fully mature adult.

    2. Get out of your comfort zone
    I don't mean just go to the gym and work hard, or don't play video games or some shit. If you really get out of your comfort zone, it will change you. Big experiences that force you to re-evaluate your life and who you are will begin to change the way that you interact with others and the way you feel about yourself. I suppose lots of people do this through travel, seeking out new experiences, martial arts, volunteering etc.

    3. Know your shit
    When it comes to a specific circumstance. Say you're a paramedic or a firefighter - if you're brand new, you're probably not going to be very confident when you go to a really difficult emergency. But, if you've studied a lot, you know a lot, and have plenty of experience you will be less fazed and more able to just act - it hasn't got much to do with being a confident person, that's more to do with just knowing what needs to be done at that time, and thus being able to direct other people simply because you have good suggestions.

    A couple other things I would mention are:
    -If you're not very social, being more social and interacting with lots of different people from all walks of life will help you.
    -Be careful not to mistake some things for being confident. If you punch someone in the head for some reason, you might feel like a badass momentarily - but you may have unwittingly done it out of insecurity. In fact, I'd guess a lot of people who take lots of risks and get in fights are often insecure. So it's good to check your intentions and reflect on shit.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    SSRIs and other garden gnome pills.
    They work.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Ask yourself why arent you confident and work on the reason.

    >"Because im nervous!"

    Not good enough, why are you nervous?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Even consciously knowing the problem isn't enough if you have say CPTSD. The weight of thousands of negative experiences prevents you from thinking normally, which is why some people just never improve

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I stopped caring so much, that I just don't really care about women or sex at all. I just work, work out, and enjoy my hobbies. Sometimes I get upset by this lonely existence, but then I just stop caring and go back to being a recluse. I'm not sure not caring is the best advice.

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    ConHispanicuous confidence is either fake or unnecessary. What you need is fearlessness/not giving a fuck.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you begin by never again asking such questions.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    1. Get awesome at one thing
    2. Go do another.
    3. The fact that you know you're a real cool dude even if you screw up the new thing will make you more confident and willing to take risks, leading to more success
    4. Other people see this, see you're a cool dude, cheer you on

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >IST-Fitness
    But I'll toss you pic related out pity anyway and hopefully give you something to think about.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Alcohol usually helps

  23. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's more than just not caring about what other people think.
    It is fully insulating your mental from the consequences of your actions.
    Know that even if you accidentally commit triple manslaughter that you will be okay.

  24. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    literally just don't care about what other people think. Hell don't care about other people at all. My life got 100x better when I realised that most people were DYEL losers

  25. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Cocaine works for lots of people.

  26. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I read his book
    >tl;dr stop caring about the shit you can't directly control and only care about the shit you can directly control
    >simply don't waste the energy caring if you can't control it, just accept it and move on

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