How do you just ignore pain and suffering
Like, sometimes things are beyond your reach, yet you keep thinking about them. Im looking for tips how to live despite it, I dont want to spend my time and energy on them. I know about some 101, like fitness, meditation, some philosophy books, etc. What do I do when the thought hits me
Literally just stop thinking about shit that is beyond your control. It's that easy. You don't need any fucking philosophy books to do something that simple
What do I do if I have cheated myself up to this point? It's easy to say move on, but, how do I cont to live on with my past?
If You really need to reset Your mind short-term then play tetris. It completly overrides Your thinking, after 15 minutes You'll be focused only on how to fit those blocks together. Sounds dumb af but works. I think there was even a legit paper about this, not sure tho.
Does it have to be tetris or any kind of vidya would do?
Do tetris, don't let it be an excuse to start playing lol again
an interesting idea, something else then games to occupy me there? 2minx5 intervals of jumping rope?
you wont have rest if you keep committing actions that stir your mind and end in remorse
dont lie, speak harsh speech, shitpost, cheat on your partner, engage in sexual promiscuity, watch porn, take drugs, drink alcohol
wean your mind off of coping mechanisms like vidya, netflix, youtube etc.
don't make impassioned bonds with people that make you dependent on things they do or say or their opinions or views or anything
be watchful of your intentions and whether they are rooted in distraction or base desires
spend time in nature or in seclusion where you are less entangled and contemplate the larger context of your life, how little these things matter (this will only work if youre gradually doing all the other things here)
most of all don't expect any short term fixes, thats what made your mind spiral in the first place, look for long term gradual progress. with time your mind will calm down and you'll be more conscious of what things you are doing that are making your mind revolve around itself
>look for long term gradual progress
thats the point bro, the long term is there, I just need to focus to live in the present as well
Not sure. I'm just now realizing I was genuinely fucked up when I was younger
>Mom once asked me to finger her pussy while she was masturbating when I was like 5
>Once she even watched lesbian pornography in front of me
>When I was like 8, a friend was staying over at my house
>parents were gone
>one of the things we did was stick wooden skewers up our ass and show each other's dicks
>I suddenly just ask if he doesn't want to stick our dicks in each other's assholes
>he says "ew no that's disgusting"
>I was 8 and had literally no idea what sex or being a gay even was. No idea why I would even fucking say that
>fast forward a few years to when I was 12
>discover porn and 4cuck soon afterwards
>Watch mostly vanilla straight shit
>For literally no reason just decide I want to suck my dog off
>Did this several times
>Discover gay porn a short time later
>Turn gay or something
>fast forward to now
>Incapable of feeling any romantic attraction. Do not have much interest in sex either
>Asocial schizoid hermit
>Just goon to gay porn twice a week while barely even feeling anything
>Otherwise turn out "normal". Not some kind of a freak. No flamboyant homosexual behavior. Just asocial and aromantic.
So what the fuck was all that? Was I abused as a baby and I just don't remember it? I'm so fucking confused about how I even got to such a degenerate state and did all this degenerate shit when younger. I'm just now realizing how horrible this shit is. The rest of my teenage years were normal except for homosexual attraction. Are such sins even forgivable?
hit it back lmao , fucking pussy.
>hit it back lmao
sounds like I should get angry at the thought, I do that sometimes. I reckon in moderation its beneficial
You don’t get it don’t you ?
>You don’t get it don’t you ?
nah m8, explain this please like if you were talking to a child
Someone help me here to explain what is a vagina to 5 year old .
>ignore pain and suffering
You don't. You should allow your feelings to be and let them out. The best way is to talk about your feelings, can be friends or a psychologist. Writing about your feelings is another great way. Letting your feelings out in a physical way is good, too, like sport. There is no way around spending time and energy on your mental health.
>allow your feelings to be and let them out
up to a certain point, afterwards it just becomes masturbation. I have a fairly active social life (for an introvert), my parents and sis cares for me as well. I need something more, pain makes me stumble in my life goals (does include the fitness goals)
If you think of pain as something bad and something to be avoided then you've already lost. It's just stimuli, get over it, it won't last forever
>It's just stimuli, get over it, it won't last forever
it lingers for longer then I want it to. Would be nice to curb this down, somehow
If something is beyond your reach then you should accept it as such and move on, and instead focus on the things that you can change. If you're having reoccurring thoughts then figure out the root cause behind them. You can have intrusive or weird thoughts in your head without them being true - you are the one who decides the importance and value of the thoughts and ideas you have.