How does therapy health? A lot of people recommend therapy.

How does therapy health?

A lot of people recommend therapy. They say it could help with depression, self-confidence issues, and in general with my steadily declining mental health. But how does it actually help anything? I feel extremely uncomfortable talking about my issues with anyone, and I don't really want to have to explain my thoughts because they're usually fucking sad and I don't want to have to think about them. I feel like attempting therapy would just make me feel like shit.

Anyway can someone just explain how exactly is therapy supposed to help mental problems.

  1. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    You're paying someone usually a post-wall roastie to pretend to be your friend.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Sadly accurate.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >wife has been going to therapy for 2 years to deal with her issues
      >no much progress
      >sometimes I tell her things straight
      >something that the therapist doesn't do
      At she is paying with her own money.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Your wife will leave you. Had a teacher who had a happy marriage and wanted to try and head off trouble by going to therapy in the good times and his wife was convinced she was actually a lesbian in private sessions, divorced him, took his house and car, and dated the therapist for a few years before selling the house and moving to California.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Oh, don't worry about that. I already set the paperwork for divorce. There are other reasons for this, not just therapy
          >inb4 why did you help her with her issues?
          I did, and I only got spit back more than enough. And I noticed way back then that her misery was self inflicted and she believes everyone is against her. For shame though.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >At she is paying with her own money.
        lol cope cuck, that money is your money as the head of the family, but you're letting her throw it away

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          As a matter of fact, no. We have separated accounts and she uses her money as she sees fit. I do the same.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            why were you even married with her then

  2. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Look at this fucking pictures. That's all the fucking parts that play into depression. All you need to eternally fucked is to have 2-3 parts that are connected to malfunction. You know why? Because if you try to fix one, the other two parts resist the change and revert the work you put in. That is obviously assuming you're self-aware enough what your cognitive biases are and you know how to change them over time.
    Trying to fix that yourself is fucking hard and time consuming because you turn on random knobs not really knowing what exactly is. Trust me, I have wasted about 8 years trying. And while I made some progress, the same progress could have been made with professional help in less than a year.
    Especially your aversion to deep diving into your problems will cost you a lot of time to overcome because you will probably procrastinate on areas that are okay or don't need that much fixing.
    How does the therapist do it? By knowing how the mind works and also giving you objective outside perspective. This in combination with some homework you have to do weekly can change your behavior slowly over time. Don't get me wrong, it's hard fucking work. Cognitive behavioral therapy has probably been the most brutal thing I have done in my life and I have been in the military. It sucks going through but I would say it's worth it.
    And a last note: think about all the stupid shit you have tried to fix yourself. Did it help? Why not just give therapy a honest try. You can always go back to being miserable and fumbling randomly at your mind.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      thank you

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      I'm trans btw, never knew until I started going to therapy

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Beware

        Kek
        This might be a joke, but it's a tale that is all too real.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Care to share more of your experience anon? I've been fucked up for a bit and this last year has been really bad. Thought about therapy. Even reached out to a couple but either got no response or they were booked. I've made strides personally but I still drop into a cycle where I slowly hate myself more and more until I act stupidly.

      This post makes me want to get help.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        For me it was mostly a self-destructive cycle of self-improvement. It's a pattern I picked up because essentially my parents emotionally neglected me and the only positive reinforcement / praise I would get was by either getting good grades or picking up prestige worthy hobbies (sports, music instruments, whatever else) and otherwise they basically ignored me. That led to low self-worth that I constantly was trying to fix through achievement while never working on my self-perception. Looking back it's kind of insane how many things I have tried to do to achieve some kind of worthiness but it's hard to see when you're stuck in your own head. I don't know what else to tell, ask if you want more specific stuff.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          this is sad, your parents raised you to be motivated and seek pleasure in the reward in good things and you still ended up seeing it as a negative. maybe they missed the part of enjoying the process of getting good at things, so the bigger picture of why its good to do hard things.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            I had my suicide note written and a date was already picked. After making that decision I was like well if I'm going to live only a couple more months might as well not subject myself to my parent's bullshit. And in just a couple months away from them my mental health improved more than any other time giving me enough hope to successfully start therapy.
            But yeah sure, by never showing any positive affect my parents really tried their best to teach me the value of hard work. That's not how humans work.

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              maybe youll feel differently when youre 30. youd be surprised how many trials and tribulations are just part of life and how common they are and how often your perceptions of things change as you age and get more experiences. but yeah im not here to give you advice, just commenting on it as an 30 year old who wouldve liked for well adjusted parents who could hold down a job.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I'm 33 this year and no my parents were by no means successful people, they absolutely sucked at managing money or moving forward in their careers. I remember one time trying to help them budgeting their shit and when looking over the expenses I noticed that 30% of their income was absolutely unaccounted for and when pressed they just got aggressive and told me to fuck off despite asking me in the first place.
                They just tried to feel accomplished through me because they were too fucked up themselves to achieve anything. Honestly if we were fucking rich and they provided me with opportunities for my life I might have been grateful despite how they fucked up my self-image. But no, I neither got proper love and care like most people and also got to live barely above the poverty line, feeling forced to achieve insane success out of nothing. To this day I still struggle with just using my money on things for me because of that, it just sucks.
                I can understand there are people off worse with their parents and at the same time it doesn't make emotional neglect okay because they didn't beat me or we weren't homeless.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                I know what your problem is. You're a grown man who cries about his parents and blames them for his problems. No parents are perfect. There's not an instruction manual for raising kids. You're a pussy and need to grow the fuck up.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                You want my dad's number to suck his dick some more?

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Just giving you the truth. We all have to deal with shit. Nobody has it perfect. Your plight doesn't even sound particularly bad at all. My parents were heroin addicts and I spent my formative years living with friends. I had no role models or advice. Still, every single issue in my life is my own problem. Nobody else is to blame. What would be the point in blaming other people?

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                lmao man up
                >muh plight
                >muh formative years

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      i have been in an out of therapy since i was a child, first involuntarily and without responding at all, and recently voluntarily and motivated and willing, but none of it ever does anything. it just doesn't work for certain personality types, while i would recommend a lot of guys to basically confront themselves and the world by just trying something like therapy and seeing what happens, some men just are too aware of the fact they're sitting infront of some mid 20s-30s liberal roastie who doesn't give a shit and is simply receiving cue's she reponds to with practiced reactions after getting mindlessly dicked in college/university for 10 years.
      the whole re-organizing your thoughts by letting a therapist unpack them and feed them back to you with a better focus isn't revolutionary or amazing at all in an increasingly crumbling society where some shit simply isnt your own fault and doing anymore with no actual answers besides the inevitable "just stop wanting things and see the good in things despite it all being bad" it comes full circle to slavemorality secular christianity instead of the individualist striving its meant to invoke. dont even get me started on psychiatric medication.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Sorry to hear that. You have to find a therapist that clicks with you and that can be hard because there are ironically many therapists in it only for the money or just too intimidated to go off the cuff because insurances companies and the government breathing down their necks for any mistakes they make. I guess you could try the book Cognitive Behavioral Therapy by Becks which helped me make the 2nd best progress after therapy.
        Also you're on spot with the existential stuff of life. Therapy as it was designed never bothered to look at the world of the patient, mostly because it's easier to change one person than to change the whole world we live in. This leads to therapy more or less just trying to change your perception of the world so that you can live a happy and fulfilled life which is obviously high subjective in what it exactly means. But I think the general is pretty pragmatic as it tries to find ways that help you live your life as you want to within the constraints the world puts on you. So for the existential stuff you probably need some kind of spiritual mentor. You could try healthygamergg on youtube, he is a psychiatrist that likes to do weird stuff. I don't have a specific video of his in mind but if you scroll through the list you probably something that might help. Best of luck to you.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >some mid 20s-30s liberal roastie who doesn't give a shit and is simply receiving cue's she reponds to with practiced reactions after getting mindlessly dicked in college/university for 10 years.
        Get a different therapist you fucking retard. There are male therapists. God damn, you fucking losers won't do a god damn thing to help yourselves.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          i'm the guy who has been posting about the scarcity of therapists, they assign you one that happens to be available, usually after a very long waiting list. male therapists are rare as fuck, you're ridiculous. i requested a different therapist and haven't heard anything in 9 months.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Are you in the UK or something? Literally go fucking find one. You go to a clinic and fucking find a male therapist. That's what I did. It's not hard. For nine months you sat like a cuck, therapy doesn't work for you because you don't put any work into it.

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              whats with this meme
              you dont know anything about me or how i treated therapy, i got in touch with therapists first when i didnt even hit puberty yet. before i quit my last one i was trying my hardest and was open to them despite having a very bad opinion of therapists and medication, yet all that happened was 2 years of zero progress, a bunch of covid lockdowns and pointless no-effort bi-monthly "how are you" talks despite me saying things are getting worse and worse.
              i ghosted them to make a point, eventually i went back and requested someone else and a different approach, they told me they would get back at me. they simply have nobody or they dont give a fuck/cant help me. why do you midwit fucks act like therapy is some magical fix-all?

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      surely there was a better way to make this chart

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        its supposed to look really technical and intimidating so that you trust them and buy their product.

        most therapists are just emotional prostitutes. they tell you you have a big dick and youre very handsome, but the emotional equivalent of it. what you really need is someone in your life who actually feels that way about you.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >they tell you you have a big dick and youre very handsome, but the emotional equivalent of it. what you really need is someone in your life who actually feels that way about you.
          most dont actually do this, they just ask you how your week went and how you feel about that then keep finding new ways to ask you again until time runs out

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >most therapists are just emotional prostitutes
          Holy crap couldn't have said it better myself

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >that picture
      having a shit life makes your life shit
      how is depression an illness? It’s like saying I have a disease which makes me terminally tired because I don’t go to bed early enough. Or even at best like that due to circumstances beyond my control I can’t go to bed. Like if a person comes and keeps me awake till 3am every day and I can’t do anything about it is that an illness that makes me tired? No. It’s just shitty circumstances

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Insomnia?

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >move in next to a 24/7 gun and explosion testing range
          >can’t sleep at night
          >can’t afford to move house now
          >I must have insomnia

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        psych-tards will arrogantly call this criticism of them a simplification but it isn't, psychiatry basically treats normal (negative) emotions and traits as things that shouldn't ever exist in nature/humanity, its a specific worldview that gets in the way of actually pushing true personal evolution at times. the concept of taking a pill to cure depression isn't just an extra option, its an idea that severely corrupts and attacks ideas that could be useful or necessary. for example the world actually being shit. the first reaction of a psychiatrist to that would be that i'm a negative genetically depressed person who ignores help due to some complex and therefore needs medication, but no, maybe i should simply move out of the neighbourhood i live in lol.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >just stop being depressed

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          It’s quite possible that the circumstances might be beyond your control but that doesn’t make it an illness. You just probably have
          >a shit life
          >a shit face
          >a shit spawn location
          if you put your brain in a rich chads body all your problems would melt away. In fact even chad could get ‘depressed’ under shitty circumstances. If your life makes you depressed go be someone else. Move continent. You could be billions of combinations of factors that make a unique individual but you choose to keep being you because it’s scary

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      I have never had a single therapist offer to help in any real way. They all say I’m a smart kid(now almost 40 condescending gays) and will figure it out and push drugs that will “probably keep you from having erections/block your ability to fall in love”. The only help you get is learning how limp with your own brace made out of tree branches and stolen barbed wire.

  3. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I honestly think that if I had a gf and access to regular pussy 90% of my mental health problems would be solved

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Not really. You'd just develop new mental health problems around feelings of inadequacy, fear of abandonment, and anxiety for the future

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      you dont have real mental problems then

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      having a boring lame life isn't a mental health problem dude. People need to stop throwing this shit around so lightly

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yes it is. You said it yourself, normal. It is normal to have a partner who loves you. It is normal to have kids and turn your parents into grandparents. It is normal to have friends over for barbecue or to go on a picnic. It is normal to have larger social gatherings like church or everyone enjoying the fair. It is illness to not have those things or how to form the bonds to get those things.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          what are you talking about dude? Normal? What did I say about that

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            I… I’m sorry. Boring autocompleted in my head as normal. Maybe I should try neck hangs to failure.

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              kek
              I'm just saying like, our society is gay and sucks, so while in some way it's ""normal"" to have a gf and whatever, it's also normal and fine to feel bad in bad circumstances

              thus the reasonable way out is to try to change your circumstances rather than believing there is something wrong with your brain

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >80 IQ post
      >Frogpost
      checks out

  4. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    >doing it on my own isn't working
    >I'm just gonna keep doing it that way even though it's not working
    >also I don't wanna think about it because it's not working

    ???

  5. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I went for the first time last week and only because work pays for all medical stuff.

    Actually feels good to get some of that stuff off your chest. She said I've been through a lot more than most people so maybe that's just my experience.

  6. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >But how does it actually help anything?

    Because your disease thrives in the shelter that your shame and silence provide. The less you talk and think about it, the less you understand of it on a systemic level. Also, I guarantee you there's multiple ways you're fucking yourself over without thinking about it. It's a form check for your cognition.

    And ignore the incels screeching about female therapists. I have a male one for that reason.

  7. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    See what the another Anon with the chart is saying.
    Some of what makes us feel good or bad is inherent. Some of it is in our control. For example: “I feel different from other people and have a hard time connecting. I am lonely all the time. This makes me sad.” It is not a guaranteed *fact* that you *are* actually different, you can only say that you *feel* that way. That feeling may contribute to you not taking the initiative in inviting people to things they would say yes to. This leaves you alone. Being lonely makes you sad. Feeling sad makes you feel different. A therapist might help you explore whether that feeling makes sense, and alternative strategies you could try.
    An analogy might be a personal trainer for exercise. “My body hurts all the time. My exercise lifts/run time/flexibility isn’t improving. I need to exercise more so that I can break past this plateau!” A trainer might recognize that your joints ache because your form is poor, and help you correct your form while giving you a recovery period to decrease inflammation in your joints. So that when you restart, your joints feel better, allowing you to focus on form, and genuinely increase your lifts. Go talk to a therapist, Anon.

  8. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >How does therapy health?
    >posts coomer anime picture
    GOOOD MORNING SIR PLS DO NOT REDEEM ALSO LOSE WEIGHTING AND FIXES DIET THANK U SIR

  9. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Therapy could help if it wasn’t dominated by gnomish feminists. They aren’t even human.

  10. 5 months ago
    Anonymous
    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      unironically you guys are my friends, i mean it could be worse, also i got genuine help in this place as bad as that sounds

  11. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Anyway can someone just explain how exactly is therapy supposed to help mental problems.
    There's a thing that you use every day. With the correct maintenance and environment this thing is absolutely amazing, however when things go wrong your life becomes hell. You haven't spent your life and career specialising in fixing this thing, and you have some equipment but not all of it, so there are some jobs you can handle and some you can't. If the thing's truly fucked, you go to a specialist who has the skills and the kit to take you through the (often painful and expensive) process of fixing the broken thing.
    It's the same for cars, teeth, plumbing and brains. The fun thing about brains, though, is that the tools you use don't take up space and once you learn them well enough, you don't need the specialist any more.

  12. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    One major thing to remember in relationships; codependency isn’t bad and is in fact what keeps people together. Stigmatizing and pathologizing codependency as a bad thing is a feminist tactic to destroy the family. Good luck getting anyone to fight against it anymore as it is now accepted truth. If you can get past it though, your marriage will be iron clad against the blue hairs.

  13. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    What are your expectations? To turn you into a Chad? To be happy all the time? To be able to handle life a bit better?

    Therapy helps but only a minority of people that do it, only if you invest in it, only if the therapist is competent & only if you are a good match with him.

    How? By, hopefully, realizing the part you play in your misery and by coming to terms with and separating your desire from that of your parents

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Forgot pic. That therapist - father figure really helped Will.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >him
      haha yeah..

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        don't tell me you have a female therapist, lol

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          there are shortages of therapists to begin with and almost none of the ones around are male dude
          the fact you point to good will hunting shows you nothing about psychiatrists and therapy

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            >the fact you point to good will hunting
            dude what the hell are you talking about? This is twice in this thread some anon has just completely made some shit up about what I said. I don't even know what good will hunting is. is it a self help book?

            • 5 months ago
              Anonymous

              i was assuming you were the person i replied to who posted about good will hunting, its a movie. you must be some newfag

              depending on your problems I think a female therapist could do more harm than good, depending how good she is. In my limited experience I've seen a lot of girls from my high school go on to become therapists and I don't think I'd trust them to do a good job.

              I wouldn't trust a man automatically either. If I were to see a therapist I would make sure that they do a good job. I'd use my common sense to ensure they're good

              for obvious reasons women would make terrible therapists but thestupid thing is everybody makes it out like you can go shopping for therapists and find some "good" one, maybe you can find private ones in the US if you're absolutely loaded. but here in europe for example despite being some oversaturated field of roastie graduates theres a terrible shortage of terrible therapists to begin with. i ghosted my therapist because it was so bad and after a few months i got back into contact, said i wanted to switch and with a new direction and here i am 9 months later with still no new therapist.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Do you live in a really small town? There are many therapists in Europe and of various schools of therapy too.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                i live in one of the most dense and populated areas of western europe.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Guaranteed you're not looking hard enough. Check the local therapy schools/organizations/whatever and give them a call. They have junior therapists that can refer you to for low cost

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                >Junior therapist
                At that point dude might as well read Think and Grow Rich and 12 Rules for Life. He probably should anyway but the truth is no one else can really change. It really comes down to do you wanna be a sad cunt or a sick cunt? And then wearing the appropriate mask and possibly taking cocaine and Test. Avoid the sauna.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                >go talk to some college thots with no confidentiality
                come on now dude

                Those organizations are very strict about admissions and the junior therapists are supervised by older ones. It's not like getting a college degree and off you go giving eat pray love advice like Americans.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                How much are you paid to post on IST? I wanna know if I should stop doing it for free like the jannies who clean it up.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                i dont know what kind of organizations you're talking about, mental healthcare here either happens through the local government sending you to a place that gets paid for by insurance or you go to an extremely expensive private therapist

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                They're called societies/circles/schools.
                For example
                https://www.freudianletteruk.org/

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                this is also scarce here and has year+ waiting lists
                imagine unironically paying to be psychoanalyzed by some fucking cuck or roastie thot who is an unironic freudian lmao

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                You do know Freud only made up psychology to fuck 8 year olds and to get bored Christian housewives to pay to masturbate in front if him, right? Kinda based but none of it was for it was for the betterment of anyone but his pocket book and penis.

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                >go talk to some college thots with no confidentiality
                come on now dude

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                >i was assuming you were the person i replied to who posted about good will hunting,
                never assume bro
                >its a movie. you must be some newfag
                I'm not a newfag because I haven't watched a specific movie dude

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                you're a newfag because you don't know how the fucking site works retard

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                >assuming any reply is from the person you replied to
                this is a big mistake dude, unless the posts are obviously connected and you're having a conversation you treat every post by itself. I thought this would be common sense

                I have been here for 11 years so I'm not an oldfag but I'm definitely not a newfag

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                It is a pretty decent flick. Oversold by psych students but there are a lot worse ways to spend an afternoon.
                -boring retard from earlier

              • 5 months ago
                Anonymous

                Thanks, I'll download it and watch it sometime
                cheers

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            depending on your problems I think a female therapist could do more harm than good, depending how good she is. In my limited experience I've seen a lot of girls from my high school go on to become therapists and I don't think I'd trust them to do a good job.

            I wouldn't trust a man automatically either. If I were to see a therapist I would make sure that they do a good job. I'd use my common sense to ensure they're good

  14. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Depends on the therapist. They'll usually point out problems in your thought processes and strategies to learn new ways to think and interpret events in ways that are healthier. Many of the things holding you back are skills that you learned at one time that allowed you to survive in times of duress, but aren't serving you any longer.

  15. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I feel like I'd rather just speak to a guy who is intelligent and is well read as a therapist rather than someone who got their degree but were fed bullshit the whole time and hasn't read Jung

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      so you want to talk to IST incels?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Honestly? Yeah. I find that even honest introspection is extremely helpful. And I'm on here too. If I talked to someone on here as someone I could bounce ideas off of, it might actually be useful. But it's a long process so it probably wouldn't work well.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Checked

  16. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >look for a therapist in my area
    >they're all dressed like slobs
    what happened bros. No more professional men who actually wear a suit to work anymore?

  17. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    ITT

    Lonely, scared, virgins that hasn't been happy since middle school argue that mental health is a lie

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      How did becoming the woman help you out? Do you pass yet?

  18. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    You people actually pay some academia gay to talk to you? lmao

  19. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Talk therapy worked for me but I was willing and eager to overcome the mental blockages which were holding me back at the time. It takes real work confronting your own hypocrisies and faulty reasoning the brain can use to cover up fear. If you don't want to get better, talk therapy is useless. The therapist just asks pointed questions that force you to face reality and overturn your assumptions and a priori beliefs which could be holding you back. It's an emotional experience. My therapist was able to question me about my perceptions and my thoughts in a way that made me really fucking mad until I realized I couldn't give a good answer, and I realized the point he was trying to make, and I realized he was right.

  20. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    It depends, but if you have a good therapist essentially they should listen to your issues, while also critically questioning you (not just blindly accepting whatever self ID you have in your head), then dissect the causes (trauma, behavioral issues, attachment issues, etc.) and teach you tools to deal with your issues.
    Therapy shouldn't be a forever thing either, if you don't make progress and it's not a chemical issue (like some depression, though not most depression is) you should talk to your therapist and say you feel you aren't progressing, or switch therapist.

    Think of mental therapy like physical therapy: When you come there and say you can't walk after an operation, their goal is figuring out why that is, then teaching you how to learn the skills to slowly fix yourself until you can go back into normal life. The same way that you'd switch physical therapist if you have been going for 2 years and they didn't fix shit, you should switch if your mental therapist isn't teaching you stuff.

  21. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Learning to actively counter unproductive thoughts ala CBT is very useful and most successful people do it very regularly. It's essentially reframing and challenging thoughts that are probably based on faulty assumptions, it assumes that your feelings are often the response to a thought which itself is a response to the situation. Situation/stimulus->thought(maladaptive)->feeling(bad). This is an essential life skill.
    Ultimately though your self perception is based mainly on the things you do/do not do, so things like affirmations never work. You can't lie to your brain. It's not that you don't approach women because you're a coward - you're a coward because you don't approach women. Understand this and you understand it all.
    Last but not least, your diet can massively alter your mood/general feelings. Eat nothing except fruit and meat for a week - without exception (black coffee ok); your mind will be blown. Your brain and all of its processes - presumably consciousness itself - is all of the physical world. You aren't a special snowflake and it does affect you. Good luck.

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