I've been lifting for 7 months. I've lost 82lbs. I'm single because I have no self confidence or self esteem, a bad personality, I'm 30 and live with grandparents and work a job only making $17 hr. Very depressed and suicidal. No ambitions, motivation, or passions. Lost all interest in life and past hobbies.
>No ambitions, motivation, or passions.
You're depressed and suicidal, right? That means that there are aspects of your life that are making you unhappy. What do you consider a good life? One where you have money? A good job? Your own apartment? A girlfriend?
Whatever your answer is, that's your ambition. If you don't work as hard as you can to get there, you have no right to complain
>but I have no discipline
Your ambition is to build discipline
>but I have no confidence/I'm depressed/anxious
Your ambition is to fix it. Go see a therapist (or an equivalrnt that you can afford), read books about it, go to social events and practice. There is a way out
>but I don't have the skills for a good job
You're on the internet, acquire them
>but the system/dating scene/job market is unfair
So what? You lay down and accept it? If I told you that there's a 100% chance I'd chop your dick off, but if you get in shape, it'll be 99%, would you not get in shape?
If you don't at least try, you have no right to complain, and the depression and suicidality you get is the direct result of your lack of effort.
>What do you consider a good life? One where you have money? A good job? Your own apartment? A girlfriend?
I don't know what a good life would be nothing seems worth working towards. I have tried a bunch and failed. I've gotten back up and failed again. Idk what to do anymore I'm lost.
>but I have no discipline
Never said this. I obviously have discipline I've lost 82lbs, quit weed, saved 10k the last 6months. So I don't think what you said makes sense
>Go see a therapist (or an equivalrnt that you can afford), read books about it, go to social events and practice
I'm 30 and have done therapy and medication, group therapy, dbt therapy for 12 years nothing helped. I've also studied Philosophy and other self help stuff for a minimum of 1 hour a day for the last 5-6years
>but I don't have the skills for a good job
I've worked numerous different types of jobs since 15. I don't have any interests in any jobs. I'm only working now because we need money to survive nowadays. I don't see the point in going to school/learning a trade if I have no interest in it. >If you don't at least try, you have no right to complain
I've objectively have put more into life then most people and have got nothing from it.
Thanks for taking the time to try and help but you don't know my life and shouting platitudes at me just makes me think you're retarded. Not trying to be an ass just trying to be honest. Some people are destined to fail no matter how much effort they put into life.
>I've been lifting for 7 months. I've lost 82lbs. I'm single because I have no self confidence or self esteem, a bad personality, I'm 30 and live with grandparents and work a job only making $17 hr. Very depressed and suicidal. No ambitions, motivation, or passions. Lost all interest in life and past hobbies.
When people try and make me feel bad I show them my progress and it shuts them up quick. I don't care what you do or don't wanna see. Me seeing others progress on here helped me so I'm doing the same. Dont click the image then. I don't know what to tell ya.
Yeah I'm a crying loser. Who is making progress. Towards what I have no clue.
>You gain the fat by embracing hedonism and nihilism >To lose the weight you must embrace the struggle. And to actually succeed in losing it all, you must find Purpose.
Your reward will be that you will become a different person with a new lease on life.
What you do with that life you'll be able to decide for yourself.
... But not until you become that new person. So, keep grinding, King! And if you find that Purpose, You're gonna make it.
I'm trying to lose 43 lbs the next 2 months because I'm come up on a year of getting in shape. It's an unrealistic goal but it would be cool I guess. I appreciate the words of encouragement. We are all gunna make it. Even the haters
Do you do fasting? My gf lost over 10kg by fasting 21 days straight.
She said that after she survived the first 5 days she was on easy streak.
It sounds insane to go without food for 20... or 40 days! But imagine being able to say that you actually did that. That's like heroic next level shit. People will have 1000s of questions they'll want to ask you.
> Anonymous 01/30/23(Mon)04:56:58 No.69772386▶
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33 KB >I've been lifting for 7 months. I've lost 82lbs. I'm single because I have no self confidence or self esteem, a bad personality, I'm 30 and live with grandparents and work a job only making $17 hr. Very depressed and suicidal. No ambitions, motivation, or passions. Lost all interest in life and past hobbies.
too fucked up in the head (add + autistic traits) and used to living in isolation for years. i get close to girls but never let them in, in return they will complain that i am cold and too distant. sometimes i just don’t want to talk to anybody for 2-3 days, be alone and obviously that doesn’t fly in a relationship
so what i mean is that we will start spending more time together and the bond seems to grow stronger. at the same time i like to keep it at a surface level and avoid/steer away from deeper more emotional conversations. i’m not one to text her “good morning i love you” and text/call/facetime throughout the day. especially the texting and “not expressing my love for her” i get shit for and then feeling like i constantly need to validate that i like them. . hope that made sense.
this is exactly what has happened to the last girl i dated. it becomes very overbearing and turns me off even more she relentlessly asked me out despite me being flakey and not very responsive towards her advances. plus at the same time i seem to attract bpd women which doesn’t help.
35, been lifting since 25. Maybe only 2 years of significant no lifting in between. Im single because i gave up on dating and dont care anymore. Obsessing over sex and feeling like I "need" someone around died in my 20s. I lift for myself.
I've been single for almost 3 years. I've asked out maybe 20 or so women the past year and none of them have said yes, and the girls that did say yes did not agree to a second date.
Almost had a one night stand but I fucked that up and I really don't want one of those.
1 year. on and off before
Single because girl I told I had feelings fo said she killed hers for me, and then months late said she had to cut me out of her life and doesn't find me attractive and we could pretend to be friends in groups. I'm still fucking reeling as she's living it up but dgaf about our friendship
been lifting for like 14 years or so, consistently for about 12 of those. I am single because I am possibly autistic and definitely socially retarded and women expect you to do everything and will not initiate if their lives depended on it.
it's part they are cowards, part they can get away with it because sooner or later for most of them, event the uglier ones, a guy will approach or they'll find someone on a dating app who will do all the work.
Yeah I'm aware that's why they don't. They literally have life on easy mode and it bothers me so much. I'm 30 and have had a woman interested in me in over 8 years. I just keep getting rejected and turned down. People heavily underestimate the need for validation of the opposite sex. We are genetically programed to need it for a healthy mind and body. Anyone stocisism maxxing is just coping.
Anyone that says they are autistic are just ugly/fat/poor. Women only care about those and status. They don't care about love, loyalty, compassion, kindness
4 years
i like to fantasize about romantic relationships, but don't want a real one. I'm not even ugly and can hide my autism in front of normies pretty well, so my family gets even more confused on how I don't have a girlfriend yet. I can't explain it, I just don't want it
Seriously lifting for like 2 years with breaks but I have always tried for lots of years
as for being single I even get approached but Im extremely mentally ill ,difference is unlike braindead NPCs I dont take meds but I have panic attacks,anxiety,depression,suicidal thoughts and generally think like people are talking shit about me,I have my reasons about the last part actually caught "friends" talking shit about me more than once and confronted them,I dont get along with people
lifting for 2.
my problem is me. just haven't found anyone i click with. women seem to like me, but i barely get enjoyment out of anything anymore, and that includes talking to people, going on dates, even sex.
lifting for about 4 years and im single for the same reason most of us are, I'm not really social. you can be the most dutiful bf/husband, fuck her brains out, make her laugh ect but you still have to interact with people, go to events ect to be in a relationship. i do like traveling though so maybe women might tolerate my introversion if i travel often. thankfully i like milfs and they dont care about anything but getting fucked so that's kept me sane.
2 years
I have one but I kind of wish I didn’t. Anyone who’s had a few girlfriends know that the grass is always greener. But that being single is better because it gives you drive (and you can actively pursue anyone you want) honestly if it wasn’t for the fact that we live together and I’d have to couch surf for a couple of months to find a new place I’d leave her when she wakes up. I care for her sure and she’s not bad looking and actually has a brain. she’s just boring like all women are. I’d rather date 2-3 women at a time like I did before I met her. But you get enough female attention and body parts without having to offer up your sanity in return. You have to have more than 1 if you’re like me because I always for some weird reason get dependent otherwise (for the first 2-3 weeks)
1.5 years. my dating life just now is picking up. In all honesty, improving your body is much more easier than improving your personality in my experience.
>why are you single?
No one I've ever been interested in being in a relationship with has ever been interested in being in a relationship with me other than one time and she was nuts.
Since last May
L Rizz
3 years
because I have adhd, anxiety, and I'm way too neurotic and mentally ill to ever sustain a relationship
>why are you single?
i dont approach because its pointless
I've been lifting for 7 months. I've lost 82lbs. I'm single because I have no self confidence or self esteem, a bad personality, I'm 30 and live with grandparents and work a job only making $17 hr. Very depressed and suicidal. No ambitions, motivation, or passions. Lost all interest in life and past hobbies.
whats your job
I'm a greenskeeper at a golf course
>No ambitions, motivation, or passions.
You're depressed and suicidal, right? That means that there are aspects of your life that are making you unhappy. What do you consider a good life? One where you have money? A good job? Your own apartment? A girlfriend?
Whatever your answer is, that's your ambition. If you don't work as hard as you can to get there, you have no right to complain
>but I have no discipline
Your ambition is to build discipline
>but I have no confidence/I'm depressed/anxious
Your ambition is to fix it. Go see a therapist (or an equivalrnt that you can afford), read books about it, go to social events and practice. There is a way out
>but I don't have the skills for a good job
You're on the internet, acquire them
>but the system/dating scene/job market is unfair
So what? You lay down and accept it? If I told you that there's a 100% chance I'd chop your dick off, but if you get in shape, it'll be 99%, would you not get in shape?
If you don't at least try, you have no right to complain, and the depression and suicidality you get is the direct result of your lack of effort.
>What do you consider a good life? One where you have money? A good job? Your own apartment? A girlfriend?
I don't know what a good life would be nothing seems worth working towards. I have tried a bunch and failed. I've gotten back up and failed again. Idk what to do anymore I'm lost.
>but I have no discipline
Never said this. I obviously have discipline I've lost 82lbs, quit weed, saved 10k the last 6months. So I don't think what you said makes sense
>Go see a therapist (or an equivalrnt that you can afford), read books about it, go to social events and practice
I'm 30 and have done therapy and medication, group therapy, dbt therapy for 12 years nothing helped. I've also studied Philosophy and other self help stuff for a minimum of 1 hour a day for the last 5-6years
>but I don't have the skills for a good job
I've worked numerous different types of jobs since 15. I don't have any interests in any jobs. I'm only working now because we need money to survive nowadays. I don't see the point in going to school/learning a trade if I have no interest in it.
>If you don't at least try, you have no right to complain
I've objectively have put more into life then most people and have got nothing from it.
Thanks for taking the time to try and help but you don't know my life and shouting platitudes at me just makes me think you're retarded. Not trying to be an ass just trying to be honest. Some people are destined to fail no matter how much effort they put into life.
>I've been lifting for 7 months. I've lost 82lbs. I'm single because I have no self confidence or self esteem, a bad personality, I'm 30 and live with grandparents and work a job only making $17 hr. Very depressed and suicidal. No ambitions, motivation, or passions. Lost all interest in life and past hobbies.
I hope it wasn't you writing that lengthy ass description of the basedjak.
Also you don't have 191 basedjaks
wtf now they censor so¥jak too, fuck this gay ass board
Holy newfag
came back after years, so¥jaks weren't even a thing when I left.
so¥ was censored as onions
Yeah I'm a crying loser. Who is making progress. Towards what I have no clue.
you're getting there bro, but I didn't need to see that
When people try and make me feel bad I show them my progress and it shuts them up quick. I don't care what you do or don't wanna see. Me seeing others progress on here helped me so I'm doing the same. Dont click the image then. I don't know what to tell ya.
IS THAT MY BOY J.C.??????
Lmfao if you mean Jesus Christ? No just a fat sinner trying to attorney from my gluttony.
"they call me fat jesus, wide moses, food goes in, mouth closes. Food junkie, lookin for a dealer, called in a pepperoni, to my pizza dealer"
>rhyming dealer with dealer
moron detected. Initiating extermination protocol.
That isn't me that's a random nog trying to be me. Take him out moon man
>You gain the fat by embracing hedonism and nihilism
>To lose the weight you must embrace the struggle. And to actually succeed in losing it all, you must find Purpose.
Your reward will be that you will become a different person with a new lease on life.
What you do with that life you'll be able to decide for yourself.
... But not until you become that new person. So, keep grinding, King! And if you find that Purpose, You're gonna make it.
I'm trying to lose 43 lbs the next 2 months because I'm come up on a year of getting in shape. It's an unrealistic goal but it would be cool I guess. I appreciate the words of encouragement. We are all gunna make it. Even the haters
Do you do fasting? My gf lost over 10kg by fasting 21 days straight.
She said that after she survived the first 5 days she was on easy streak.
It sounds insane to go without food for 20... or 40 days! But imagine being able to say that you actually did that. That's like heroic next level shit. People will have 1000s of questions they'll want to ask you.
> Anonymous 01/30/23(Mon)04:56:58 No.69772386▶
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>I've been lifting for 7 months. I've lost 82lbs. I'm single because I have no self confidence or self esteem, a bad personality, I'm 30 and live with grandparents and work a job only making $17 hr. Very depressed and suicidal. No ambitions, motivation, or passions. Lost all interest in life and past hobbies.
2.5 years
too fucked up in the head (add + autistic traits) and used to living in isolation for years. i get close to girls but never let them in, in return they will complain that i am cold and too distant. sometimes i just don’t want to talk to anybody for 2-3 days, be alone and obviously that doesn’t fly in a relationship
>i get close to girls but never let them in, in return they will complain that i am cold and too distant.
sounds like a contradiction, could you elaborate?
He means he doesn't let them peg him.
so what i mean is that we will start spending more time together and the bond seems to grow stronger. at the same time i like to keep it at a surface level and avoid/steer away from deeper more emotional conversations. i’m not one to text her “good morning i love you” and text/call/facetime throughout the day. especially the texting and “not expressing my love for her” i get shit for and then feeling like i constantly need to validate that i like them. . hope that made sense.
if you were better looking, that usually makes them obessed with you.
this is exactly what has happened to the last girl i dated. it becomes very overbearing and turns me off even more she relentlessly asked me out despite me being flakey and not very responsive towards her advances. plus at the same time i seem to attract bpd women which doesn’t help.
made perfect sense, still, when you made your original post i thought you just didnt date women at all or spend time with them besides work/gym
You will find a partner that understands you when you explain them what and how you are.
Be patient with them and yourself.
3 years
Because I don't like talking to people, live in a small state, and refuse to lower my standards.
Today.
Because I was bored with her.
1.5 years . I'm single because I don't know any attractive single women
two days
4 months
because I'm fucking poor
probably around one year
I'm a weirdo
also my I'm embarrassed by my family and have all sorts of issues that would make dating me hell for any girl
One year
Low confidence, not interested in the chicks interested in me
about 5 years but the first two were the most intense.
I travel to much for work and I refuse to do long distance.
10 years
I'm married
It's hard to say how long in total, but I've been back at it, dedicated, for a year and a bit
Women are embarrassing
1.5 years
I'm not single
35, been lifting since 25. Maybe only 2 years of significant no lifting in between. Im single because i gave up on dating and dont care anymore. Obsessing over sex and feeling like I "need" someone around died in my 20s. I lift for myself.
>how long have you been lifting?
I started in 2018
>why are you single?
unrealistic expectations
1.5 years, I've been married for 10 years.
Almost one year
I've been single for almost 3 years. I've asked out maybe 20 or so women the past year and none of them have said yes, and the girls that did say yes did not agree to a second date.
Almost had a one night stand but I fucked that up and I really don't want one of those.
>attractive enough to get girls interested in me initially
>they almost immediately lose all interest when they find out how autistic I am
bro I'm autistic too
you'll get there
I lifted back in 2015-2016. I dont anymore, just do tree work on the side for exercise. I have a gf.
6mths
Anxiety, but im pretty comfy being single to be honest.
10 years of cali
5 years of lifting
I am saving cash for an apartment and women take up too much time.
1 year. on and off before
Single because girl I told I had feelings fo said she killed hers for me, and then months late said she had to cut me out of her life and doesn't find me attractive and we could pretend to be friends in groups. I'm still fucking reeling as she's living it up but dgaf about our friendship
4 years on and off. Probably 2 years of regular lifting in total.
Awkwardness, fear of rejection, lack of attraction to the women I know
I'm single because I'm a 31 year old neet loser going no where in life.
>I don't lift
>I'm not single
2 years on and off because full time job +university fucks me a couple of months each year
Because all the good girls are afraid of commitment, and I have abandonement issues
been lifting for like 14 years or so, consistently for about 12 of those. I am single because I am possibly autistic and definitely socially retarded and women expect you to do everything and will not initiate if their lives depended on it.
>will not initiate if their lives depended on it.
This so fucking much. Women are cowards
it's part they are cowards, part they can get away with it because sooner or later for most of them, event the uglier ones, a guy will approach or they'll find someone on a dating app who will do all the work.
Yeah I'm aware that's why they don't. They literally have life on easy mode and it bothers me so much. I'm 30 and have had a woman interested in me in over 8 years. I just keep getting rejected and turned down. People heavily underestimate the need for validation of the opposite sex. We are genetically programed to need it for a healthy mind and body. Anyone stocisism maxxing is just coping.
10 years
I'm ugly and probably autistic.
Anyone that says they are autistic are just ugly/fat/poor. Women only care about those and status. They don't care about love, loyalty, compassion, kindness
1 year
Because I’m not tall and physically attractive enough for modern day women
24 and a virgin lmao
Where you live? I'll take that twink card from you
Since last June. So 6 months. Quit for 3 weeks in December. Never again.
Not single, enjoying my time with a lovely lady.
Back again for 2 months or so.
I have no libido
4 years
i like to fantasize about romantic relationships, but don't want a real one. I'm not even ugly and can hide my autism in front of normies pretty well, so my family gets even more confused on how I don't have a girlfriend yet. I can't explain it, I just don't want it
been lifting for about three years
my last gf broke up with me just because I cheated
now I only do hook ups
You're not a high value man because women don't care about sharing high value men.
Seriously lifting for like 2 years with breaks but I have always tried for lots of years
as for being single I even get approached but Im extremely mentally ill ,difference is unlike braindead NPCs I dont take meds but I have panic attacks,anxiety,depression,suicidal thoughts and generally think like people are talking shit about me,I have my reasons about the last part actually caught "friends" talking shit about me more than once and confronted them,I dont get along with people
lifting for 2.
my problem is me. just haven't found anyone i click with. women seem to like me, but i barely get enjoyment out of anything anymore, and that includes talking to people, going on dates, even sex.
lifting for about 4 years and im single for the same reason most of us are, I'm not really social. you can be the most dutiful bf/husband, fuck her brains out, make her laugh ect but you still have to interact with people, go to events ect to be in a relationship. i do like traveling though so maybe women might tolerate my introversion if i travel often. thankfully i like milfs and they dont care about anything but getting fucked so that's kept me sane.
8 years, lifting doesn’t bring women. Women are whores aided by government. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8dKbcNRT6bE
2 years
i got a gf after 14 months of lifting
2 years
I have one but I kind of wish I didn’t. Anyone who’s had a few girlfriends know that the grass is always greener. But that being single is better because it gives you drive (and you can actively pursue anyone you want) honestly if it wasn’t for the fact that we live together and I’d have to couch surf for a couple of months to find a new place I’d leave her when she wakes up. I care for her sure and she’s not bad looking and actually has a brain. she’s just boring like all women are. I’d rather date 2-3 women at a time like I did before I met her. But you get enough female attention and body parts without having to offer up your sanity in return. You have to have more than 1 if you’re like me because I always for some weird reason get dependent otherwise (for the first 2-3 weeks)
Don't settle if you have options. It isn't fair to you or her. If women can throw us away like dirt give them a taste of their own medicine.
1.5 years. my dating life just now is picking up. In all honesty, improving your body is much more easier than improving your personality in my experience.
What's your age and height if you don't mind me asking?
25 and 5"7'
running for 2 years, lifting for like 1 month. single because poorfag and ED
What do you consider poor?
i make like $1000 a week but i live in a van lol
Based I lived in a van for 3.5 years it's awesome but sucks too.
>how long have you been lifting?
10 years.
>why are you single?
No one I've ever been interested in being in a relationship with has ever been interested in being in a relationship with me other than one time and she was nuts.
On and off 10 years.
Turbo manlet + objectively ugly + balding. Not rich enough to cope with whores yet.
>10 yrs
>live in liberal shithole nyc and all the women here are horrible
Just saving up to move out of this stinking fucking city
Checked, but women aren’t better anywhere in the first world. Hope you are saving enough to basically just retire in some third world country.
I don't
I'm not