how the frick are you meant to get your gf/wife to do physical activity when they don't want to? we have a home gym but my wife still doesn't want to work out and when she does it's the bare minimum and complains if i tell her maybe she should increase the weight or do an extra rep or just progress in some way. my wife does basically nothing to look good for me and it's pissing me off. frick
You can't.
If you wanted a fit wife should've looked for a woman that already worked out before you met her
she did actually do exercise when i met her though. she used to go to the gym and go hiking. now she does fricking nothing
Sheeit man that sucks, I guess she got comfy in the relationship
>et her though.
she used to go
this dude nailed it.
Why would she work out? you are not going to leave her and other girls dont want you.
>now she does fricking nothing
Well, she already has you, why bother?
Ask her to go hiking or to exercise with you, make it appear like something special though, like you're feeling down or to celebrate an accomplishment that you wanna remember by hiking to a nice spot you know.
Frick, I feel you bro. Gf used to go to the gym quite a bit, enjoyed going together.
Now she just says she's too busy while staying up till 3am binging mindnumbing youtube vids.
Got a homegym now, but she refuses to use it because it's "cheap", I bought most of the stuff second hand but it's clean and functional.
I hate this part of her
>Got a homegym now, but she refuses to use it because it's "cheap"
Pretty massive red flag right there. You've got a gold digger who resents you for not flexing (or maybe even having, I don't know your financial situation) the gold
And where would you recommend looking? Fitness groups? Too much of a sperg to approach on the spot at the gym so I might be doomed. Maybe cycling or rock climbing would work?
I approach women all the time. Hot chick that lives down the street from me is married to a Star Wars nerd. I’ve seen him mow the lawn he is balding.
I mow my lawn in my dilf shirt. She’s been walking her dog. Talks to me for a few minutes “I love your shirt” wife is watching from the window all jealous. The next day I’m out doing more yard work shirtless. Chick walks her dog again, this time wearing only shorts and a sports bra. Smiles at me. She definitely wants the wiener. My wife automatically hates this woman. Never even talked to her.
Incredible
Frick her so hard and often that she sheds the pounds. Even better if you don't AC
>complains if i tell her maybe she should increase the weight or do an extra rep or just progress in some way.
My gf gets pissy if I do that. I just add more to the weight to the exercise she's doing. Whenever she notice it's a bit more heavier, I reply back to her that she already did that weight before.
This is what I tell my girl too but she doesn't really backtalk me back in the gym. She decided to tag along one day and after seeing the clothes and the women at the public gym, she decided to come EVERY DAY. I ended up just changing to a 24/7 gym for now but OP your girl would have wanted to workout if she cared.
tl;dr - don't get married, you lose all leverage
>don't get married, you lose all leverage
By that logic you could also never buy a house together or have kids with her. Because all of those things will make it hard or impossible for you to leave her. So unless your plan is to stay childless and never enter a comitted relationship, your advice is flawed.
Far too many men become their wife's handmaid. It is important to avoid this fate.
lol i've tried that, my wife is too smart for that
My gf never bothers to keep track on the weights she does so it makes it easier for me to subtly add more weight. Plus I have her focus only on legs and back since I think those are the most important exercises for women to be aesthetic
Throw some fitness videos on YouTube on your TV at night. Maybe some reviews. Chicks who lok like her but just a bit better.
Women won't improve themselves in a relationship it's not in their nature. They're supposed to bulk and shit out healthy kids. Your goal is to make her think she's going to lose the chance to get fat and have kids.
Then you accidentally slip when spotting her bench and squash the fetus in her stomach before she can get to the fat and kids phase.
Have you tried talking to her about not being a stupid lazy prostitute?
>wife
it's over
how the frick are you meant to get a gf/wife?
Maybe take her out often
Her belly will be noticed awhile
A women will be excited for anything
As long you take her somewhere
She will lose weight
>my wife does basically nothing to look good for me and it's pissing me off. frick
Just tell her this.
> married
LOL.
As someone who has lived with a girlfriend of 4 years, and then later in life was married for 6 years, let me drop some knowledge on you: Most women don't like exercise and don't want to eat right. They merely maintain their physical image long enough to rope a man into a marriage, a house or kids. Then the act drops they eat like a pig and never work out. THE KEY is to find a woman who loves exercise and proper diet, EVEN if they are thin when you are dating them. A thin woman who hates exercise WILL get fat once you marry her or move in with her or have a kid with her.
the girl I lived with, when met early 20's and she went from 135 to 175 over 4 years. Later when I got married the b***h I married did the exact same thing. Went from 135 to 175. That first GF I looked her up on FaceBook recently and she is probably around 200lbs.
Don't wife up a woman who is not into fitness. They WILL get fat. Oh and trying to convince them or motivated them by example, GOOD LUCK.
it's over
>Most women don't like exercise and don't want to eat right
They do want to look good and be healthy deep down, everyone does, but:
>Everybody wants to be a bodybuilder, but nobody wants to lift no heavy-ass weights
Few people actually put in the effort.
I would be real with her and tell her that if shes going to be the future mother of your kids, she needs to act the part. Try to get her in a mindset of doing it to instill healthy habits in her future kids.
Aside from that idk. My ex gained 30 lbs (at 5’0 lmao) and also refused to listen to a single word I said about calories, protein or exercise. But now her sleep apnea and pre diabetes are some other guys problem
Go to fitness events with your wife and compliment the women who workout there to their face in front of your wife.
You can’t force women to do anything. You just have to subtly hint at stuff until they come around to it on their own. My wife did let herself go a bit when the kid was very young, but now we have sitters and she is back to her job. About a year ago she started working out a lot more, wearing makeup and dressing better. No particular reason why but I definitely appreciate it.
>No particular reason why
This thread is pure comedy gold. Should we tell him boys?
So who's the new man in her life?
she's cheating on you
>No particular reason why but I definitely appreciate it.
9/10 bait really well done but a seasoned oldgay like me can smell it out
How I got my girlfriend started three weeks ago, I just set up my barbell, dumbbells and a weight bench in the back of the living room, put my boomer playlist on and called her over, started dumping the weights on her and now three weeks in its habitual and she works out when I do now.
You have to just tell her to come over, say I want to see if you can lift this, and then do the whole "I think you could go for twelve".
Make a spreadsheet to show strength gains, my girlfriend's got stronger and I have the volume % increases on it with the reps/weights of the different workouts. Really helps.
She's currently at 27.5kg bench (haven't gone for 1rm) 82.5kg deadlift and 30kg ohp. Squats day today so we'll see what it is.
Just work harder on yourself, eventually she will get jealous and start working out too, or dump you.
Don’t date / marry a chick who doesn’t make fitness a priority. She’s just going to get fatter and fatter. My fiancé is a year away from being a DPT at 24 (I’m a 36 year old boomer) and despite taking 24 credits she still makes time for the gym. I refuse to try and create a life and raise children with someone who thinks ‘letting themselves go’ is acceptable.
you may try to get her to join a group activity with other women, women often need peer pressure to motivate themselves to care abou their appearance, its when they stop competing that they get lazy. you may also attampt to humiliate her , like grabbing her belly infront of other people, this shame may also help.
shame and social expectations are the most powerful motivators for women unironically.
i say this with no joy, but what must be done must be done.
ITT: morons who think letting yourself go is just a female thing.
Look around you, how many married men over 30 are in decent shape? Maybe 30? Maybe even less than that?
>Maybe 30?
*30%
this is true, i am 38 and most guys that lifted years ago no longer do, maybe they just run now if anything at all.
>t.also trying to get gf to work out whos gained 30 lbs in 2 yrs
jerk off to old photos of her when she was skinnier/fitter and let her catch you
Don't worry OP, she will either see that other women are eyeing you and get jealous and start working out, or is just lazy, just keep improving yourself.
You have 2 choices, tell her how you feel and see if she changes, or say nothing and become more and more bitter and it fails anyway because it becomes harder to hide it.
My ex-fiancée started smoking weed so I told her I fricking hate drugs. Asked her a few times if she was going to stop after that. Not pressuring her, just asking her if she is going to stop. The answer was always yes.
One day she brings up planning the marriage, so I told her I'm not marrying a drug addict and that I wanted to marry her and liked every other aspect of her, but I'm not compromising on that. I know many of you pussies here also smoke weed, but I don't give a frick about you degenerates. A drug addict is a fricking drug addict, and I wouldn't marry one.
After that she told me she hates that I'm trying to change her. So I told her I'm not trying to change her - she can smoke weed if she wants. And I can chose to not marry a drug addict if I want and ended the relationship.
Sometimes you have to make the hard choices.
based, hard to accept, but based
>t.weed addict
>autistically anti-drug
>reddit spacing
casually mention about other girls at your gym that you've "befriended".
For example: come home with new supplements and when
For example: arrive with a new supplement or a new gym equipment and when she asks why did you get it you mention about this new girl that you met who recommended this to you. Or if you want a more aggressive approach, arrive much later than you normally do from the gym.
Don't advise a man to lie to his wife, Anon.
Tell her to get fit or you're going to leave her
My wife loves me and want to please me so when I tell her that I would like her to train a bit and lose a bit of weight, she does, no questions asked.
The issue here isn't the sport, it's that your wife doesn't want to please you anymore.
Sounds like she feels pressured into lifting and resists that.
Try to find fun activities that you can do together. Book a holiday that involves hiking, cycling, kajaking, something like that and suggest to keep doing it together when you return home.
>itt we learn that women are the worst gains goblins and the overwhelming majority are shit
How do you frens even have the patience for that after the third time? I'd be losing my shit.
My wife doesn't put things away, leaves everything a mess, only cleans when we have company, and expects me to do all the little stuff around the house. She won't turn lights off, leaves the freezer open, etc etc. When I remind her to do the basic little parts of life, she turns it around and says that I am controlling, OCD, etc. The latest meltdown was yesterday - she left a sharp steak knife on the counter, where our toddler could grab it. This is a reoccurring problem. I told her that she needs to do better with safety. She flipped and said I was attacking her parenting style, attacking her as a mother, making her feel worthless, how dare I say that she would intentionally want to hurt our kid, etc etc. She's got issues.
She also got fat after having baby and wont lose the weight - she blames the baby three years later. But she won't work out or commit to a different eating mindset. Also I get maybe one blowjob a year now.
RIP me bros.
Better start hitting up our closest synagogue. You're gonna need the best israelite you can to save you from the inevitable divorce rape.
She has everything she wants
Women seek comfort and when they have it they are content until they die
She has at least one wiener when she wants pleasure
She has a provider
Her thot brain sees no reason to improve herself
Treat her like a dog.
By that I mean, if she does it, you reward her.
You don't. You work on yourself, she can put in effort to keep you or you increase your value enough to find a better girl
You need PASSIVE DREADGAME, Anon.
You need to make her notice how other females want you, and how you do have other options in women, without you actively hitting on other women (since that would be cheating behavior).
Talk to women, especially attractive ones. Put yourself on situations in which you'll be exposed to female attention. Don't try to flirt with them, just have polite, fun conversations. If they flirt with you, be flattered. Don't flirt back, but make sure your wife notices/finds out other women are interested in you.
You can even exaggerate a little bit sometimes, but you have to experience the real thing at least somewhat, otherwise your wife will pick up on the bullshit. There is a certain "glow" that we men get when women (especially attractive women) show sexual interest in us. This is hard to fake, but very easy for women (in this case, your wife) to pick up.
And fear of loss, when it doesn't stem from a disloyal behavior from your part (which would be actively hitting on other women), is a great motivator for women to improve. Right now she takes you for granted. She shouldn't.
what kind of situations do you have this thing occur? my wife and i don't really go out to bars and stuff very often, we have some friends but they are all couples as well so i'm not really going to get attention from my friend's wives.
On top of bars and the other obvious ones....
- The cute cashier from the grocery store
- Cute women on the street
- Coworkers
- Any hobby in which women may be present
Make a habit to strike conversations with attractive women, with no intent of hitting on them, just socialize. Sooner or later the mires will come, and you'll feel it if you're paying attention. And when something that genuinely makes you feel good happens, don't refrain from telling your wife about it.
Can confirm this works wonders
Have any of you morons considered just sitting down and having a heart to heart with your wife
won't work, they will either just get defensive and tell you they're not doing shit or they will pretend they care then not do anything
beating them up like that one moron suggested is not a good idea either because it just makes them see you as the bad guy and when they cheat on you with tyrone they will feel justified
you have to do what this guy said and
make sure they know that they have to compete for you.
NTA, but the gym works great for this. It took a few tries to get my wife to go with me, but now she goes almost every time I do even though she's 7 months pregnant. Women (and weird old gay dudes) look at me, which I assume she notices, and I'll occasionally have a women hop on the treadmill or elliptical next to mine in a row full of empty ones. When that happens she'll come talk to me about something random before going back to working out.
I think I also accomplished this unintentionally when we had dinner with her family and her brother's teenage daughter was glued to me (I did nothing to encourage this). My wife was very grabby for the rest of the evening.
Posts like this remind me why women are such a fricking meme for a LTR
how do you people even get to the point of marrying people like this without seeing the obvious red flags beforehand?
moron, women change after they marry.
that's a cope, change = being able to get away with shitty habits while young vs suffering the consequences once older
You failed. Took drastic measures. Then succeeded. Well done.
Next time don't fail.
This is like America playing with China until China finally completely stomps the Asia an America ends up having to nuke China.
Hit on her friends
Slaughter pigs in front of her until she gets the message
keep getting more fit to increase your value, when she sees you getting more attention from women she will actually try to look good for you. If she knows that you wont find anyone better, shes gonna get comfy and stop trying.
This is not a healthy relationship. Just tell her she is getting fat and you're not going to cheat on her or anything but to get her shit together. Encourage her to exercise with you.
you are supposed to drop them and get someone who would do these things for you
I need to stop having sex with here to make her feel insecure, however she might cheat
Gaslight and neg her, or take the architectpill.
get a gf from a society that looks down on fatties (an asian)
whiteboys with zero game general
Delete current wife, obtain IST wife (male)
I told mine that if she gets fat we're done.
>but I want to be single and focus on enjoying life now
Are there really people out there who don't read this as
>but I want to be single and focus on enjoying fresh wiener
?
simps morons and simp morons
Scare her
Tell her her knees are gonna give out if she doesn't work her glutes and it's true