How to be less of a gymcel

I'm 5'9 185lbs 15%bf, normal looking.
Female coworkers at the new IT job hate me, give me disgusted looks, don't talk to me after 1 day.
Is the physique helping or making me even less charismatic as a slightly shy/ timid/polite autist?
I had 0 issues with dudes but I feel like a fricking Quasimodo when they turn away and act like I don't exist.
When I say autistic I don't mean literally, I can interpret social cues just fine, no, they do not like me.
Any tips on how to stop giving off the gymcel vibes? I dress appropriately and I don't smell. I feel like there's nothing more unattractive to girls then a guy who isn't loud, cheerful and calm right off the bat.
How do I placate this issue before it affects my evaluations?

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    who fricking cares what some roasties at the office think?

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Just be yourself bro

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous
  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    What country are you from?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I’m from Sweden

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Serbia

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    They're young and nice looking, I don't expect people to love me but it's weird when they strongly dislike me right away. Is it a class thing, do I look like a semi-mute blue collar worker and thus like a subhuman?

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Embrace solitude. Do you think you can control how others see you? You have control over your own happiness, that is all; you are overstating the importance of attention from one group of people, ask yourself why.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Well I'm gonna spend a bunch of time with those people and I also have 0 ways to meet women outside so it hurts lol

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        You are assigning too much value to meeting women, life is long and there's too many other things to enjoy than just wooing a girl. That will come naturally, the harder you have to try the harder it will become. You do not need to be friends with people that you have to spend a lot of time around, being friends with people is about reciprocity.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Thanks, gonna try to be cool about it and focus on the work.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          meeting younger women (i.e. the only ones that actually matter) only has a short time frame, all the other things you mentioned can be done once op is an old man

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Red herrings that take you away from your mission. Most young women don't know where they're going in life. Be focused on your mission and you can find someone with convergent goals rather than the immature and disenfranchised.

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    This thread seems like a /LULZ/ troony psyop. Post physique with a timestamp

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    post body

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      This thread seems like a /LULZ/ troony psyop. Post physique with a timestamp

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        ok where's the timestamp

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Too lazy, same shower curtain from the pic. My stats are not extraordinary, I asked a genuine question about behaving in a white collar environment and how a buff physique affects it. Frick you

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Focus on your work and being the best at it. You don’t want to shit where you eat. If the opportunity arises when it comes to talking to women at work just keep it light and treat it as practice. Also I wouldn’t worry about how women treat you at work. As long as you focus on your job, you will be immune to the potential drama that may ensue. I currently work at a place where there’s more women than men, at first it was great but overtime certain women would actively avoid the harder work and push it onto others. I and a few others had that happen to a point that we all moved to different departments and the women notorious for not doing the harder work were now struggling to keep the department afloat because they are the only ones left besides a few decent people and newbies. Luckily the decent people see through their bullshit that they want out too. You’ll be saving yourself time and less headaches if you don’t go out of your way to talk to these women.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks for a detailed response, appreciate it

  9. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >I feel like there's nothing more unattractive to girls then a guy who isn't loud, cheerful and calm right off the bat.
    basically this

    i remember when I got into college and half of the girls in class hated me within 3 weeks simply because i didn't go out of my way greet them every morning like the other simps in the class

  10. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Stop caring about what they think and have a good time with your male co workers.
    Women are toddlers mentally, they have perceived something they don't like or more likely something that doesn't sit right within their stone age brain categorization of people and how they fit into hierarchies. Maybe your face and height makes them believe you should grovel and plead like a serf, but your physique and mannerisms doesn't reflect how they perceive you should act according to their preconceived notions.
    Unless your boss is female, then you will just have to accept your fate in a gynocentric era lmao

  11. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    They find you so attractive it scares them, they don't want to get their feelings hurt.

  12. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Listen kid, you want my advice? You give her the door test. Shut the frick up while I'm talking kid. Listen very carefully kid.

    You give her the door test, alright? Listen to Sonny kid. You give her the fricking door test.

    You pick her up in your car, and you lock the doors while she's in, capishe? You keep the engine runnin and make sure the gas has no where to escape, gabgoo, kid? You leave her like that for thirty minutes, no more no less. Go fricking jerk off for what I care. You come back and she still screams for help? She's a keeper kid. You hold on and never let go, acapishe gabagoo? Now gitattaheaaa

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Kek, they're not black tho Sonny, mby they would like me if you could give me your fricking caahr.

      The more frickable you are the more easily you can be labelled as an enemy to women. You could roll through the whole team maybe

      Delusional

      OP, what they think isn't your business. Know why? Cause youre only getting a taste, and you don't know the full story. Maybe one other girl said you were cute and it made another girl jealous because she thought YOU were cute first and to avoid tensions they settled on being a b***h towards you. Maybe they really don't like you. Maybe they're just trying to act uninterested when they DO like you. Maybe they don't even know you exist.

      These are all possible realities; women are like a quantum system. To you, the observer, their emotions are in a superposition of all possible states until you frick around and find out.

      Good point, I'm only seeing the outcome

      OP, what they think isn't your business. Know why? Cause youre only getting a taste, and you don't know the full story. Maybe one other girl said you were cute and it made another girl jealous because she thought YOU were cute first and to avoid tensions they settled on being a b***h towards you. Maybe they really don't like you. Maybe they're just trying to act uninterested when they DO like you. Maybe they don't even know you exist.

      These are all possible realities; women are like a quantum system. To you, the observer, their emotions are in a superposition of all possible states until you frick around and find out.

      Could be, I don't talk about my personal life so people always make shit up about me

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >Delusional
        Says the gymcel asking for advice on what women think

  13. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    The more frickable you are the more easily you can be labelled as an enemy to women. You could roll through the whole team maybe

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Precisely this. Women dont want to frick a guy at work because they believe it will make them get taken less seriously if other people found out. If you make it obvious you want to frick them then they think you'll brag to all your guy friends if they let you do it

  14. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    this is me except I b***h about my coworkers all the time

  15. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    incels will disagree but it's better to be invisible to all women than attract ugly/fat/black women

  16. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    OP, what they think isn't your business. Know why? Cause youre only getting a taste, and you don't know the full story. Maybe one other girl said you were cute and it made another girl jealous because she thought YOU were cute first and to avoid tensions they settled on being a b***h towards you. Maybe they really don't like you. Maybe they're just trying to act uninterested when they DO like you. Maybe they don't even know you exist.

    These are all possible realities; women are like a quantum system. To you, the observer, their emotions are in a superposition of all possible states until you frick around and find out.

  17. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Op, I have bad news. One of the women lied about you doing something for attention/drama and now all the roasties think you did something
    It’s the white woman stray hr bullet

  18. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    w*men at my work are nice to me but they all have bf or husband. I wish there was single girls in their 20s at my work, then I might be able to get a GF

  19. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Women hate the guy who tries to use work as a place to get women unless hes literally gigachad. That could explain the disgust if you even hinted that you were thinking about them romantically. That has to develop organically through months of sexual tension

  20. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I started a new job a few months ago and got the same treatment. Walking down the halls, trying to make eye contact to say hello. Everyone avoids eye contact like it's a pride flag. After a few months, and a few conversations, people greet me more. My point is be friendly, take your time, don't be desperate. But also I know I'm not ugly and office women love having an attractive 30 year old to flirt with, so stop being ugly.

  21. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    What's your job?
    What's your level of education?
    What are your hobbies outside of lifting?
    Did you check any of them out?
    Did you talk to any of them?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Also how long have you been there?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Devops
      Bachelor's
      Japanese and not much else lately, used to play piano read and play vidya
      No
      Greeted them, had lunch and briefly talked about work for a bit, basically no.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >his government profile collection is going well

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        DevOps what? Are you one of the DevOps shills, a dev, an engineer, an analyst? Be more specific. Being in IT and being anything other than a Project Manager is likely going to count against you. Having a bachelor's isn't the end of the world, some c**ts will look down on you (especially if you were part of a STEM recruitment round that got other degrees in) but frick those people.
        Unfortunately Japanese, piano and video games are all pretty autist-tier hobbies. I'm doing a little Japanese on the side, and I play/sing in a band so I appreciate those hobbies, but normies won't. Does anything else interest you? Maybe a sport or something that will either a) help you make friends, or b) give something back to the community?
        Hmmm typically the new dude at work isn't integrated immediately into any social circles. Give it time and people will likely warm up to you just because they'll see your face around, even in large organisations.
        I would definitely say don't shit where you eat tho. Dating people you work with or near isn't a great idea but you at least want a professional atmosphere.
        Only other recommendation is to read some self help shit if you're willing to give that a go.

        >Is the physique helping or making me even less charismatic as a slightly shy/ timid/polite autist?
        Lifting does not fix character defects.
        Learn to socialize you fricking sperg.

        While I have worked for a couple of government agencies in Aus, neither were security related and one WAS in ICT. Context always helps.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        You didn't speak Japanese did you? kek

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >Be me, at work minding my own business walking back from grabbing a coffee
          >Fortnightly reports are due today, one of my projects is going to shit so about to put it into Amber and the senior exec are going to ride my ass about it
          >New Dev on the project just stood up out of his chair
          >Weird dude, I've seen him pretending to play piano and writing chink symbols on his notepads during meetings where he was meant to be telling us why he's behind on development of simple product features
          >Oh god he's seen me
          >Takes a bow and says "Ohio gozaimaseru Femanon-san"
          >MFW he's white, 5'9” and flexing so hard he's about to pass out

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Ahahaha, man, frick you guys, idk why I was thinking that someone on here would help me. Even the lifting advice is completely dogshit oh here. Would've ended up as a fat poweshitter if I listen to people on here.
            Just gonna put my head down and try to learn as much as possible.
            /thread

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              > On, listened

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              >coming to IST
              >expecting anything more than to get trolled
              lol

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              DevOps what? Are you one of the DevOps shills, a dev, an engineer, an analyst? Be more specific. Being in IT and being anything other than a Project Manager is likely going to count against you. Having a bachelor's isn't the end of the world, some c**ts will look down on you (especially if you were part of a STEM recruitment round that got other degrees in) but frick those people.
              Unfortunately Japanese, piano and video games are all pretty autist-tier hobbies. I'm doing a little Japanese on the side, and I play/sing in a band so I appreciate those hobbies, but normies won't. Does anything else interest you? Maybe a sport or something that will either a) help you make friends, or b) give something back to the community?
              Hmmm typically the new dude at work isn't integrated immediately into any social circles. Give it time and people will likely warm up to you just because they'll see your face around, even in large organisations.
              I would definitely say don't shit where you eat tho. Dating people you work with or near isn't a great idea but you at least want a professional atmosphere.
              Only other recommendation is to read some self help shit if you're willing to give that a go.

              [...]
              While I have worked for a couple of government agencies in Aus, neither were security related and one WAS in ICT. Context always helps.

              Pls respond before leaving anon. It's not hard to be more of a normie if you put a shred of effort into it.
              Legit hop on the self help train. Read 12 rules for life, awaken the giant within, eat that frog, and 7 habits if effective people.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                DevOps as a position, mainly doing ci/cd sys admin tasks and azure/aws infra related things.
                No, I have a crippling fear of unknown people, especially big groups so no social activities except chatting with gym regulars and old friends.

  22. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >Is the physique helping or making me even less charismatic as a slightly shy/ timid/polite autist?
    Lifting does not fix character defects.
    Learn to socialize you fricking sperg.

  23. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    If you're telling the truth, that you really don't smell and you're not creepy, then those women are just shitty people and you should ignore them.

    I'm not an incel, and I get along well with most women, but I still know some who clearly despise me and act like I'm subhuman for seemingly no reason at all. For example they refused to share a taxi with me, despite the fact that there was enough room for me and it would just have been cheaper for everyone.

  24. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I only talk to women at work if I need something from them for my job, or if they talk to me. They usually won't but on occasion one will say "hi hows it going"

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