How to get gf to lose weight

Recently I've hit the 12% BF milestone, and found a gf, that i love very much. However, she has been gaining weight recently mainly due to stress I think. She's not fat, but she has gotten chubbier. I'd like her to be lean, like I am. What's a healthy approach to it? How can i persuade her? I don't want to straight up order her around, that'd be quite toxic.

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    if you are not a betacuckott you can just get away with telling her "i liked it more when you were slimmer" after sex

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Can't change someone. Lead a horse to water, etc etc.
      If she sees the value in working out and wants to, excellent. If its not priority, it's not priority.
      >
      >if you are not a betacuckott you can just get away with telling her "i liked it more when you were slimmer" after sex
      This is what teen virgins think like

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Nah, you don't know shit about women. They crave direction & even though they protest they will love this shit. Women are paradoxes, haven't you heard? They always fall for guys that treat them like shit? It's not cause they treat them like shit exactly, its being assertive. Unless you're shacked up with a libshit feminist they love being told what to do.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Unless you're shacked up with a libshit feminist
          Even libshit feminists love being told what to do, at a carnal level. It's just that the ideology they are so attached to demands that they consciously resist it.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Unless you're shacked up with a libshit feminist they love being told what to do.

          Libshit feminist want to be degraded the most

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Women are the ONLY ones who can be changed in a relationship. Look at how married women are more conservative than single men for instance but single women are incredibly liberal minded. They change when they get with a man and have children.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I think that's due to men only wanting to marry conservative women. Not because marriage magically transforms liberal women into conservative women.

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I CHOOSE NANOMACHINES SON

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I guess my dick is a nanomachine

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Gf

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Let's take couples pictures on the beach like this one.
    >we'll book a holiday just to do it too
    >haha wouldnt it be crazy if we did it each year and always looked better than last time?

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Before you start eating dinner/lunch together you just gotta say: "you're really gonna eat ALL that?"

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Oh we don't live together yet, and when we go out she really doesn't eat much so that won't do.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nanomachines, son.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    have more sex with her

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    The problem with these dilemma's where a gf is one of the options is that they fail to clarify things:
    1. Does she just become my gf and everything is open ended from there, or am I guaranteed everlasting love and loyalty?
    2. Does choosing the alternative exclude the possibility of getting the other through other means?
    2a. Is the above retroactive? Meaning that if I already have a tomboy gf who loves me, does she leave me? Or disappear? Or stop being a tomboy? Or stop loving me?

    In the absence of clarification, nanomachines is the safe option.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      It's obviously yes, no, no. Otherwise the question posed becomes trivial.

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nano machines son.

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You can't. Those types of women never lose weight and keep it off just because you tell them to and every time you bring it up it will just make it worse. Reason being is that, in reality, its not as simple as just losing the weight and then you're done, you have to maintain it through lifestyle changes - consistent exercise and healthy diet habits and not overeating. Its a discipline thing, and women suck at this. Anytime there's anything stressful or difficult in her life, job etc, exercise/healthy diet is the first thing she stops. If she's sore, she doesn't work out that day. If she's tired, she doesn't work out that day. If she's mad about something, no workout. But she'll still happily eat a large meal or a sweet treat like a donut or cake.

    Beyond that, these type of women don't understand how nutrition and portion sizes work and pay no mind to it. They'll dole out literally 1200 calories in a meal if they are "so hungry" and then not understand why they've gained weight over some weeks.

    They'll have coffee in the morning with added milk, cream, sugar, etc. A muffin etc. The days barely started and theyre already at like 700 calories when their TDEE is like 1300. A sandwich for lunch with plenty of mayonnaise on it. Then big dinner and snacks while Netflix in the evening. It's all little shit that they don't notice that they do that adds up.

    They don't understand the concept that you don't have to absolutely love and enjoy every single thing you eat. Basically if it doesn't taste good, they don't eat it. That's why they can't lose weight.

    Us men on the other hand, can eat fairly bland foods but not be bothered by it because it keeps us full and fueled. Women don't understand this part and really never truly will. Everything has to be emotionally fulfilling.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      that's a lot of words just to ignore my post

      have more sex with her

      that solves everything you wrote about.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I didn't ignore.
        I told you the truth.
        You can't change her behavior or habits just by talking to her. Some people may tell you to encourage active dates like hikes etc. This isn't actionable advice for a true lifestyle change because of the effort and time required for it, you can't go for a hike every day, you can't go for a walk every day that will offset her poor eating habits. It simply won't burn enough calories.

        If she keeps gaining weight and doesn't seem to have a desire or effort to change, and it's a deal breaker for you if she's chubby, then end it. If you genuinely love her, stick it out. But just be warned that 9 times out of 10 when this kind of thing happens, it DOES NOT get better. It gets worse if anything, because she views the weight she is as normal, so won't put effort into losing it. And if you give her a kid, fitness will be completely over for her it won't even register on her radar. Trust me, I've been there and done that.

        It has never ended well. That's why I'm single now. I work too hard in fitness and career to stay with a woman who won't even meet the bare minimum of jusr staying fit, not even lifting regularly, but just simple exercise and not having a horrible diet habits.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Made for BBC (black bear cuddles)

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        It doesn't solve shit it just validates her gaining weight because you're fricking her more

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Fat women don't deserve sex

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Correct

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      > It’s a discipline thing, and women suck at this. Anytime there's anything stressful or difficult in her life, job etc, exercise/healthy diet is the first thing she stops. If she's sore, she doesn't work out that day. If she's tired, she doesn't work out that day. If she's mad about something, no workout. But she'll still happily eat a large meal or a sweet treat like a donut or cake.
      Damn this is true

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Hungry?
      >Gotta listen to my body and eat.
      Not hungry?
      >Gosh, I better eat, skipping meals is DiSoRdErEd EaTiNg
      Happy?
      >Yay, cake!
      Sad?
      >Ice cream is my comfort, frick off
      Single?
      >Gonna treat myself, because why not
      Dating?
      >Tee hee, which restaurant are you taking me to today anon
      Have a bf?
      >Look, when you're in love you eat more, that's science
      Have a husband?
      >He likes that I'm soft and have big breasts, tee hee
      Have kids?
      >Darn pregnancy weight, it's impossible to shift!
      Husband tolerates?
      >He finds me sexy at every size, isn't he the best!
      Husband complains?
      >fricking shallow bastard, marriage is a promise to love each other no matter what, that's it I'm cheating, also I'm stressed now so I need to eat more

      Women were a mistake

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Park really far away when you go to Chili's.

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nanomachines. Not even a choice.

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Could you still make gains if you have nanomachines? Or would they just hinder your progress by taking the toll instead?

  15. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What would she say at like 20% cuckhomosexual?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      She'd still love me, since we have matching personalities and great chemistry

      https://i.imgur.com/51uWy73.jpeg

      I didn't ignore.
      I told you the truth.
      You can't change her behavior or habits just by talking to her. Some people may tell you to encourage active dates like hikes etc. This isn't actionable advice for a true lifestyle change because of the effort and time required for it, you can't go for a hike every day, you can't go for a walk every day that will offset her poor eating habits. It simply won't burn enough calories.

      If she keeps gaining weight and doesn't seem to have a desire or effort to change, and it's a deal breaker for you if she's chubby, then end it. If you genuinely love her, stick it out. But just be warned that 9 times out of 10 when this kind of thing happens, it DOES NOT get better. It gets worse if anything, because she views the weight she is as normal, so won't put effort into losing it. And if you give her a kid, fitness will be completely over for her it won't even register on her radar. Trust me, I've been there and done that.

      It has never ended well. That's why I'm single now. I work too hard in fitness and career to stay with a woman who won't even meet the bare minimum of jusr staying fit, not even lifting regularly, but just simple exercise and not having a horrible diet habits.

      I'm still too young to be thinking about moving in together or starting a family, we're both 20. I want to stay with her and possibly in the future have a family together, but I want her to be more attractive. I know she's capable of it, but she doesn't take the effort.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        > know she's capable of it, but she doesn't take the effort.

        And she never truly will.
        Its very hard to make another human being genuinely care about something that they don't.

        For example, there are tons of inane things that women care about that to us men are immediately and instinctively irrelevant. No amount of convincing can make us genuinely care about something at her work, something on her instagram feed, or her love of Taylor Swift concerts for example. It's immediately obvious to us that it's irrelevant and useless.

        That same thought pattern occurs for her regarding working out and fitness. It simply doesn't register as something important.

        The amount of effort in trying to alter her thought pattern to make her care about fitness - it approaches infinity. It's like trying to make a 9 year old boy care more about an English class at school than playing with Lego or Transformers. It simply doesn't work.

        She may go along with a workout plan for a few weeks, maybe a few months, but it USUALLY will just end with her reverting to old habits. She'll be too tired, exhausted, sore, etc.

        I tried for 5 years. 5 years of marriage. It got worse every year.

        You're 20. Thats young as hell. You shouldnt even be worried about getting a long term gf until you're more established in late 20s, early 30s. If you work hard, you'll be able to get a 22 year old woman who's fit by default when you're 32.

        That ship has sailed for me, due to kids and child support. Don't get trapped like me. I'm just warning you.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I feel like you're projecting experiences with your wife onto my gf, when in reality it's not much alike. I started dating her mainly because her personality was great and we had a lot in common. She also has shown interest in getting fit before, and she showed me some pics from when she excercised regularly and actually managed to get a nicely defined tummy. It's also a shame that you're one of those dudes that wasted their life away, and advice others to do the same, by only working on yourself and improooooving in hopes of finding "prime pussy" after hitting 30s. For me the true joy is finding my path in life and improving, while having someone by my side to motivate me.
          I'll take some grains of advice from here, and without being direct I'll improve so much, she will start feeling pressure to not be left behind.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            > you’re projecting
            Why’d you even make the thread then if all you wanted people to say is “just talk to her” you homosexual? On some level you have to know the anon you’re replying to *might* be right or you wouldn’t be coming to fricking IST of all places to ask for advice.
            He’s right by the way. You’d have to dedicate a truly insane amount of effort to get her to switch her lifestyle up, effort that you should be pouring into something else at the age of 20. Most likely scenario: your honeymoon period will end, your hormones will die down, and your gf won’t have lost the weight. NOW have a nice day!!!!!!!!

            • 3 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              I mean honestly, you're right. No idea what I was expecting. I just don't know what to do, "just talk to her" is reddit-tier advice, the other guy is right and I understand his experiences. I think what i'm gonna try to do now is motivate her to become attractive to me again, and try to send a few under the radar jabs.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >She also has shown interest in getting fit before, and she showed me some pics from when she exercised regularly and actually managed to get a nicely defined tummy.

            Kek you actually believed it was she actually cared about being fit. No she wanted a relationship that's why she was fit. Now that's she got one she can let herself go because you're too pussy to leave her. The only motivation for women to behave and keep themselves in shape is you having the ability to upgrade to a hotter woman. But you don't wanna do that and say all that bullshit about love. She knows you won't leave and you won't do shit other simper at her asking her to lose weight. So does she really love you if she's gonna take advantage of the fact that you won't leave regardless of how fat she gets because she thinks she doesn't have to do shit to keep you.

            • 3 weeks ago
              Anonymous

              if you really love a woman, let her get fat. That way it's harder for her to cheat on you.

              OP actually has it pretty good. The architect didn't fatten his sow because he liked the body type. He was angling for security, something only true architects will understand.

              • 3 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                Hmmm this is a fair point actually. I feel at a certain point though it becomes too much.

              • 3 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                You stupid fricking Bondposters gave me a fat fetish. I can't stop jerking off to fat b***hes and as soon as I'm done I feel disgusted with myself. FRICK YOU

              • 3 weeks ago
                Anonymous

                That's stupid as shit, guys would throw dick at any size of women

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Ignore these morons OP you're completely right, nice to see a reasonable person around here.
            As for how to get her to the gym, I think you're onto the right track. Still, you have to convince her that exercise is fun and she would enjoy it.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Hit a legendary bulk till you're better than her. Then impose that you'll leave for a woman of your stature if she doesn't fix herself.

  16. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Healthy approach is talk with her about an healthy diet and lifestyle, bringing the focus on the healt part and being very patent. She may just be in the need of some knowledge she currently lacks. The unhealthy approach would be finding a girl to have sex with (she has to be uglier when it comes to face but have a better body) and then tell her. If she loves you she will forgive you and then probably get in shape really fast as she realizes the only possible motif of you cheating could be that her body is inferior to that woman's.

  17. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >YOU CAN'T MAKE AN OMELETTE WITHOUT BREAKING A FEW EGGS

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      We're supposed to be helping OPs gf lose weight, not give suggestions for more food she can eat

  18. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Replace all drinks with la Croix and it'll happen naturally

  19. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Women won't stay thin unless they're aware you can upgrade to a younger hotter model at any point in time.

  20. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Have you actually told her something along the lines of
    >Hey, you've been gaining weight, I'd prefer if you got leaner?
    Because you'll have to at some point.

  21. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    NANO MACHINES SON

    I could tear the president in two... with my bare hands!

  22. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    OP it is completely dependent on her personality, you need to just actually make your own judgement call here based on your personal knowledge & relationship

    There is NO universally effective approach here, theres no effective generic advice

  23. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nanomachines would save me if I ever get shot by a Black person, so I'd have to pick that. Tomboy gf would be sweet but women are a burden. I'd only pick the tomboy gf if she provides money for me and sex every time I want.

  24. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Give women of the ideal weight obvious attention, in front of her.

  25. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nanomachines all fricking day. Tank bullets, smile at car wrecks, it's all gucci. You could straight up rape women while the cops shoot you in the back to try and stop you. I could have a whole harem of tomboys (but I wouldn't because women are annoying as frick). Nanomachines easily.

  26. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >However, she has been gaining weight recently mainly due to stress I think
    No, it's due to her eating too much. Make her stop and she'll lose the weight. You're welcome

  27. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I tell my wife that I tell all my friends how freaking hot I think she is. I also tell her that when people want to see what my wife looks like, I show them. I also tell her girls hit on me a lot while I’m out. They even flash me sometimes. She knows I’m telling the truth, too. And she knows I love her so much. She’s chubby right now but that combo of lifting her up and giving her competition seems to work really well. She’s been losing weight and looking good.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      More on this. I initiated a breakup with my fattie gf. 2 weeks laters she wants to meet up - she wants to get back together and she has lost over 25 pounds in the last 2 weeks by fasting (still has about 40 to go).
      I wanna keep her, especially if she continues, but I'd hate to see her fail losing the weight. What do?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        It's over she's only losing the weight because she's single date her again and she'll get fat again

  28. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Tell her you wanna spend more time together, then suggest you engage in each other's hobbies. And make sure to bring up 1 or 2 other hobbies before suggesting she go to the gym with you, otherwise it'll be too obvious.

  29. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I don't want to straight up order her around, that'd be quite toxic
    thanks for admitting you’re incapable of taking the tough and corrective measures, enjoy your fat gf

  30. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I made sure to always tell my gf she was fat even when we met. She's not fat, but I have the groundwork laid for me to really bag on her if she even thinks of gaining even one pound

  31. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    She is using food as a remedy for her bad feelings. Invite her to a fancy spa so both of you can relax. If anything, do not allow her to drink alcohol

  32. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nanomachines! 100%!!

  33. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nanomachines, son.

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