How to overcome fear of failure?

>would love to lift weights
>scared that I will always look dyel
>would love to study computer engineering at university
>scared that I am too stupid
>would love to learn coding
>scared that I will always suck at it
>would love to talk to girls regularly
>scared of brutal rejection
>...
How do I overcome this? With every activity I would love to do I feel like I am not enough and don't have the genetic pre-requisites for it.

  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Go to college and take phenibut

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I wish we could still get phenibut here in aus.

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Get a PhD and realize everyone is a failure

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Failure is a part of life stop caring what other people think. Literally nothing matters by default it's up to you to choose what matters.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      This anon knows the meaning of life is what ever you want it to be cause it really doesn’t actually matter

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    join the army, then you wont have to decide shit, decisions will be made for you.

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    most people in college are retarded bro

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You will suck at everything you try but if you do it long enough you will stop sucking and get good. This is true of every single skill. If you immediately give up on something because you initially suck at it you will never get good at anything and you'll be posting this exact meme in 10 years except you'll be in your 30s.

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Here's some lessons from a boomer
    >If you don't life weights you'll always be DYEL
    >Computer engineering requires maths, maths isn't hard if you just apply yourself.
    >Coding just requires practice and has a high ROI
    >Women care about smell, get a basic cologne or perfume.
    >The faggiest thing you can do is not look after your body and skin
    >Nothing Ventured Nothing Gained.

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Buy your own fridge, only keep healthy food in it no sugary bullshit
    >You can get women but the only way to start is by integrating yourself into as many communities as you can.

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Actively seek failure in all things
    >would love to lift weights
    Lift weights and fail your reps. You learn how to gauge your limits and bail safely.
    >scared that I will always look dyel
    You already have body dismorphia, lifting weights won't change that. You've failed there already. Embrace the failure.
    >would love to study computer engineering at university
    >scared that I am too stupid
    The vast majority of people (99.99999%) aren't naturally talented at things like science and maths. They have just worked at it.
    >would love to learn coding
    >scared that I will always suck at it
    Yeah, most people do suck at it. Most people also won't even know where and how you've failed - only you will.
    >would love to talk to girls regularly
    >scared of brutal rejection
    Go out and get rejected. Its not that bad. There are as many girls as there are opportunities to talk to them. Who cares if they reject you. You'll never see them again.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I think this is how you end up depressed.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        You end up depressed because you are intellectually and emotionally paralysed by choice. Once you overcome the fear of having to make a decision depression is impossible. You do this by seeking out failure.

        If you find success in all things you are underachieving, and lead a fragile life of positive confirmation. All it takes is one thing to go wrong and your entire life begins to crumble.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >You end up depressed because you are intellectually and emotionally paralysed by choice
          Geewhiz. You just summed up my life in one sentence. Saving this.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        There are only three possible causes for depression.
        A) someone has died and you are feeling appropriately devastated.
        B) yo brain jeans don work sun (a fraction of a percentage of people)
        C) you are not doing the basic things you are supposed to
        Anything else is just cope and a fundamental misunderstanding of what depression is. It's not an existential crisis. It's not lack of purpose or waifu. It's not the inability to meet fickle and arbitrary expectations you thought of and applied to yourself just two seconds ago.
        Depression is a state that the mind and body goes into and out of when tired, when stressed, when sad. Depression as it is commonly discussed is just the 'extreme' of these states and it can be reversed, temporarily or permanently, by entering other states.
        Bunch of muunchausen fucks.

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I had parents who actively tried to discourage me and infantilize me, took a lot of realization that nobody really gives a shit whether you fail or not except yourself. Some people want to see you not even try so they can control you better. If its just you who cares if you fail at least you tried it.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      assuming you are the type of person I think you are, you are already a major loser/failure. You are scared of looking dumb or inept, but you are already at the bottom of the social hierarchy, Unless you get a drug addiction or end up in jail, you are already at rock bottom, you cant go any lower, you have nothing to fear, you have nothing to lose. You are afraid because of your massive ego yet you have nothing to justify your ego

      1. Lose the ego/pride. Tell yourself "I am already at rock bottom, I have nothing to lose."
      2. Remind yourself no one gives a fuck about you, really, no one in public cares about you no one is paying attention to you unless you smell like shit or are deformed
      3. Start establishing habits a little bit at a time

      >nobody really gives a shit whether you fail or not except yourself
      You both are wrong though. If you fail university classes then you never graduate. You will have no friends or colleagues because nobody likes a failure, you cannot help anyone and constantly need help yourself. You will get no interns and no company hires a failure long-term. Even if you manage to land a job you will get fired for failing.
      Girls also absolutely despise failure. You will have no money, no friends, no gf, be homeless and no skills if you always fail.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >nobody really gives a shit whether you fail or not except yourself
        He's not completely wrong. OP is already a loser and has no friends or degree. Probably can only get a shit job in fast food at best.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          If OP is a loser then there is nothing he can do about it because why did he end up in this situation? He already failed. Failure doesn't get you out of it either.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            It's better to try and fail than continue wallowing. At least if you fail again it gives you another reason to have a nice day

  11. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    love to lift weights
    that I will always look dyel
    Go do it, lifting makes you feel better on its own.
    >to stupid for computer engineering
    You're probably not. If you've got ~115IQ and are willing to put in the work, you can probably manage just about any undegraduate program, though being 130+ does make it much easier. Why computer engineering specifically, though? Is this an informed decision or just a whim?
    >learn coding
    It's piss easy. Literally just write code, after a few years you'll "get it". Learning about basic data structures and algorithms is a must, but it's probably best to do after you've already picked up the basics in some language.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Funny because my IQ is exactly 115. Why computer engineering? I want to know how computers work from the ground up. I learned some higher maths, did some coding in C and even looked into compiler construction a bit but gave up once hard problems arised (Yeah, I didn't even try to solve then, basically looked at them, "Yeah, no way I am going to solve this")
      Basically, what I am terribly afraid of is that if I enroll into computer engineering, pass a few classes but then completely fail after say 2 years of putting in the work.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous
  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    assuming you are the type of person I think you are, you are already a major loser/failure. You are scared of looking dumb or inept, but you are already at the bottom of the social hierarchy, Unless you get a drug addiction or end up in jail, you are already at rock bottom, you cant go any lower, you have nothing to fear, you have nothing to lose. You are afraid because of your massive ego yet you have nothing to justify your ego

    1. Lose the ego/pride. Tell yourself "I am already at rock bottom, I have nothing to lose."
    2. Remind yourself no one gives a fuck about you, really, no one in public cares about you no one is paying attention to you unless you smell like shit or are deformed
    3. Start establishing habits a little bit at a time

  14. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >would love to lift weights
    >scared that I will always look dyel
    >would love to study computer engineering at university
    >scared that I am too stupid
    >would love to learn coding
    >scared that I will always suck at it
    >would love to talk to girls regularly
    >scared of brutal rejection
    >...

    The only solution to your problem is doing it anyway.

    If you want to train beign comfortable in your own skin you need to do discomfortable stuff.

    Do the first thing on your list. get a gym card and go. Get a good program and follow it religiously until you get results.

    SL 5x5 is good for newbs

  15. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You should be afraid of failure, and that should drive you to improve not to hide from your mission

  16. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    OP, what's the worst that can happen if you try things and fail?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >OP, what's the worst that can happen if you try things and fail?
      That my life never amounts to anything and it will be another 60 years of constant failure and then I die sad, unaccomplished and alone.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        you can only fail so many times. eventually you will learn from your mistakes and improve. the key is to actually go out and fail, go out and make those mistakes.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        But if you do nothing it's guaranteed.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        You're already there by taking no action.
        I don't want to trivialize the fear. It's real. But you should realize that there's just as much, if not more, to fear from inaction.

  17. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Therapy.
    Also, I was OPs pic until earlier this year. Getting put on antidepressants really helped. Still have a long way ahead of me though. Did not have a plan for after school, studied for like half a semester, dropped out and was a neet for 5 years, spending the last 3 years 23 hours in bed, only showering 10 times over the course of 2021. Now I'm getting help and it got so much better. So much more energy and motivation.

  18. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Stop caring so much

  19. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    My little trick is that i hate myself and i think i look nasty, stupid and deranged. Thus, failure does not hurt - it is expected result, baseline.

  20. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Who gives a shit. Failure is inevitable. Succeed in spite of it.
    I dropped my shit diet over night, never dieted before, been eating chicken nuggets and chugging coke for years.
    Three months later I've consistently stuck to my diet and exercise and I've dropped 20kg.
    If I can do it you can do it, and most importantly, do it for yourself, because fuck everyone else.

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