She packed her things and left while I was at work the other day without so much as a text message. The memories are the only preworkout I’ll ever need. I have to make it.
I’m still insane and I’m both sick and in love with it
I hate medication and I’ve been taking it over a decade and it’s a big ol bummer
Otherwise things are awesome-o
Congrats on the lifts, anon.
Sort that shit out with your wife now, anon. Have a talk, go to a mediator who can be professional or just a family member/friend, if needs be.
The second you realise what you've realised, is the time to talk and address it. It will get worse and more awkward the longer you leave it, and may only be fixable for a short time. >t. Has too many friends who are either in unhappy marriages or are depressed single fathers
Like the other anon said, don't let this build up, try to find a way to bring this topic and have a conversation about it. Good job on the lifts.
im 29 and I think im going on a date on saturday. (i think it is but i'm not sure if she thinks its a date).
Good luck anon
I'm a manlet
Is there a point in lifting or am I just compensating?
If you don't roid it will be fine, short people with overly massive muscle just look ridiculous. I'm short myself, but I'll only go as far as my discipline and natural limit takes me.
I honestly feel pretty fricking great.
Ive spent the past 10 years being a complete fat fricking loser.
I turn 30 this year and Ive finally gotten my shit together. I workout everyday, eat right and I'll soon have a nice chill job and a new apartment.
Since January Ive lost 21kg and are starting to look really good.
Its cringe as frick, but I started watching Anime for the first time recently and some of the shows have really inspired me to become a better person, live a better life and search for a girlfriend.
It feels like Ive been wandering a cold desolate place my whole life and were fine with it because it was all Ive ever known, but then I found a cabin and peaked in and saw a couple hugging by the fireplace, and now I want that too so Ive started building my own cabin.
So I feel pretty fricking good.
Good shit anon, ygmi
I'm pretty miserable, this month was stressful and because of that my gym progress halted, next week I'll be able to fix that though. I was letting my hair grow to try improve how I look, but I was looking like a clown and went back to buzz haircut. I tried slowly putting myself out there to try find a girlfriend, but from the people that I have met only late 20s or early 30s are single. It seems I only get the attention of depressed woman, I'm not even joking, at this point when a woman is too friendly with me and keep pushing it I already know what I'm dealing with. The situation gets worse, but I'll end my blog post here. I hope you gays are having it better than me
you need to say this to her. not as harsh sounding as your post, but you need to let her know that you feel you both need to take care of your bodies more in order to frick more. no ultimatums like "or ill leave and frick someone else" or criticisms like "youve gotten fat" - you save those for when you are justifying leaving. but right now the terrain can still be happy and positive so just stating facts like "we can't lose eachother in the relationship's security, and need to hold onto the flame that had us crazy for one another- i want us both to be in good shape for the length of our marraige, yes for sex but god damnit dont you wanna be able to run around with our grandkids?" it all makes sense and is logical because this is the way it should be. god bless you and good luck anon, whatever you do do not hold onto those feelings too long or keep them to yourself, you will only multiply your internal struggles. COMMUNICATE IN RELATIONSHIPS ESPECIALLY THE HARD STUFF
Turn up in a suit, with a hat, with roses and then act perplexed when she's not in a flower dress with a fancy hat. >I think there' might have been a misunderstanding
>I'm not sure if she thinks it's a date
You fricked up big time.
Quickly message her telling she's got a great ass and you're looking forward to seeing it at the date.
Turn up in a suit, with a hat, with roses and then act perplexed when she's not in a flower dress with a fancy hat. >I think there' might have been a misunderstanding
its an ex co worker i worked with that i havnt talked to for 8 years. I asked her out for coffee over messenger and for whatever reason she agreed. I'm so nervous bros....
>Haven't talked to for 8 years >8 years >invited for coffee >she agrees >Off messenger
This whole thing seems sketchy as frick.
Who talked first after those 8 years? And how?
If she likes you, you literally can't frick up.
So assume that she likes you, because she probably does.
shes cute and I regret not asking her out when we were working together. she agreed but she did ask me why I am asking her after all these years. I'm 29 and I've never had coffee with a female one on one before...
You'll be fine.
She agreed to meet up with you, so either she's already attached and she likes you enough to be friends or she's not attached and already fancies you. In the former case, she'll let you down easy and be haply to hang out with you both presently and in future regardless of how you approach asking her out formally, in the latter you could turn up in a Pikachu onesie and she'd find it endearing.
You literally can't frick this up.
>but she did ask me why I am asking her after all these years.
WHAT DID YOU FRICKING SAY??
2 years ago
Anonymous
You'll be fine.
She agreed to meet up with you, so either she's already attached and she likes you enough to be friends or she's not attached and already fancies you. In the former case, she'll let you down easy and be haply to hang out with you both presently and in future regardless of how you approach asking her out formally, in the latter you could turn up in a Pikachu onesie and she'd find it endearing.
You literally can't frick this up.
I asked to meetup on saturday but she hasnt responded yet so its not confirmed or anything. I just dont want to live my life wondering what if...also I'm tired of not having a gf and want to do something about it
2 years ago
Anonymous
You made the right decision, anon.
Good luck, but you won't need it.
2 years ago
Anonymous
You need to keep your oneitis shit in absolute check when/if you meet up. Don't look at her past self when you see her, but the person she is now.
2 years ago
Anonymous
Don't go in with any expectations. As difficult as this sounds, it's a must, otherwise you'll feel really bad if it doesn't go the way you wanted.
Understand that something might happen between you or not and don't take it personally if it doesn't happen. You don't have to overthink and dress perfectly, act perfectly and say the perfect things, be funny, charming, etc etc if she's into you. Real life isn't like in the movies, when a woman likes a man she doesn't create obstacles, she makes it easy for him.
2 years ago
Anonymous
Id exchange another few mesages before asking her out, also write:
Im was gonna go do x on saturday would you like to join me?"
This way she knows that you have a life besides woman and your room.
>Is there a point in lifting or am I just compensating?
Having a healthy body for old age and being physically attractive. The only time it's compensating is when you're picking fights with people, acting alpha, or just being a twat.
Lifting, cardio, etc is a good hobby but don't make it your sole personality.
there are sports were manlets have an advantage, and ofcourse getting fit will only help also it teaches disciplin routine and helps with overall mental health and mental capabilities.
I honestly feel pretty fricking great.
Ive spent the past 10 years being a complete fat fricking loser.
I turn 30 this year and Ive finally gotten my shit together. I workout everyday, eat right and I'll soon have a nice chill job and a new apartment.
Since January Ive lost 21kg and are starting to look really good.
Its cringe as frick, but I started watching Anime for the first time recently and some of the shows have really inspired me to become a better person, live a better life and search for a girlfriend.
It feels like Ive been wandering a cold desolate place my whole life and were fine with it because it was all Ive ever known, but then I found a cabin and peaked in and saw a couple hugging by the fireplace, and now I want that too so Ive started building my own cabin.
So I feel pretty fricking good.
>Its cringe as frick, but I started watching Anime for the first time recently and some of the shows have really inspired me to become a better person, live a better life and search for a girlfriend.
Which anime have you been watching
also i know is out of nowhere but watch Kamen rider kuuga
I'm struggling in grad school, 3 classes and a dissertation to prep by this Sunday. I've been feeling down and low energy, a qt friend told me last night that I seemed a little down too, that I wasn't talking as much and seemed more nervous too. She said she was worried about me and wanted to know if she could help.
that's the kick in the ass I needed, she reminded me that I can't fall into a old habits here and need to push forward. Gonna give her a kiss and hug later today for that reminder.
Heatwave in here. Was in a rush to get out of the house to work today because I had some shit I needed to get done before a deadline. In the rush I forgot to take my pre-workout meal along. The little sandwich shop is also closed because of the heatwave. Gonna have to lift on an empty stomach in a gym with no air conditioning on a hot day.
To top it all off, I didn't even get that shit done on time and therefore I'm in this shitty corner of the internet.
Honestly have no idea. In all reality it’s going good. Moved to a place I’ve wanted to move to earlier this year, work an awesome job out here, plenty of time off, am in good shape. But I’m 34, single, no kids, and no dating prospects currently. I’ve had girlfriends before and random hookups but lately I just feel ambivalent towards the whole thing. On paper everything is awesome but something inside me tells me something is off.
I have a test today I'm not even close to being prepared for. Otheriwise, I'm doing pretty good. I'm training to be a firefighter and honestly, it's the only thing that currently gives me joy in life.
Doing kinda fine, second week Home office writing my phd thesis right now. Later on gonna lift (leg day). Still kinda melancholic dont know what it is..gonna get some vitd on the balcony
Good I'm back to the gym after years of not going and the gain train has begun. Just started losing some weight too and have lots of motivation. Got a workable meal plan set up. Had salmon, a baked potato, and green beans I picked from my garden sauteed in butter with red pepper flakes and fresh garlic last night. Can't complain.
Presently life sucks: second month being unemployed. Only calls off. People are annoying me, tell me I'm a loser bc I'm 30yo, have no job, no relationship, no senpai, no house, nothing. Insomnia. Heartwave. Shitty feelings. My life feels over. Wish I still could make it but... seems to be more realistic that everything's over.
Only shit which is working currently is losing slowly weight. hope i'll get below 200lbs til end of july/beginning of august.
My ex came back from her studying in another country and she came back literally crying that she can't get passed me and she wants me back. I was the one to break things off because she was a b***h (male friends, bad traits) although thin and hot.
I eventually gave in had a massive boner from her ass and nofap 30 days and i went in to frick her hard. When i put the condom on she started screaming that she doesn't want me to use condom and that i never used before with her. I realized she is crazy and i dont want her to get pregnant. Anyway i used the condom and it happened another two times.
Everytime i try to put on a condom she says that she can't feel me the same and that i never used with her in the past. I wore all the 3 times. Is this shit a redflag? is she trying to fricking lock me down?
>Is my psycho ex girlfriend that's aggressively against condoms trying to get pregnant?
Oh wow, I'm just not sure anon. This is surely a puzzle for the ages. There's just not enough information to make a clear judgement at this time.
I really was in love with her. And I took her for granted back then because she loved me too muchh I didn't have to love her back. Now she's with another guy, and this evening I talked to her for a second chance. Drooling beta aura all over while I accompany her in tue grocery store so she could buy ingredients for cookies for her new bf; and there I was asking for a 2nd chance, promising loyalty, fidelity, commitment if she'll grant. I know I've idealized her and put her on a pedestal. I'm turning a blind eye to all her faults whilst exaggerating to rationalize that she's not that good. BUT SHE IS!! She's not perfect but she's someone I wanted. And now, I feel like that the only way I can find my happiness or "true love" is if I find someone that remotely resembles her personality, her quirks, her laugh, etc. And I know that shouldn't be the case. It hurts so much. I lost her during the pandemic. And now... Just frick...
FRICKK...
Give it to me straight IST. I'm sorry, but I'm running out of friends to unload this into
She broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years 2 months ago. We started seeing each other more and more in the last months.
Never got really physically intimate because we got so much in common and i thought this could really be the one and i didn't want to ruin it by pushing to quickly.
We got extremely emotionally intimate one night we went out drinking.
Since last week she still answers me but she never starts a conversation, we still meet and talk and smile but now it's just smalltalk.
I feel like i lost her and i have no idea what to do. It hurts so much. >inb4 simp
I always told myself nobody gives a frick about me and i don't give a frick about no one. And it worked for most of my life.
I can cut people out of my life without big feelings but she is so god damn precious. She is the only person i ever fully opened up to who didn't treat me like a leper afterwards but understood me.
I know i will be okay again in time but i don't want to be.
Frick me.
I had to move back to my parents as my place got bought by a couple for their kid and I was expropriated. The closest gym is 1h11 away by car. I'm trying to find a place to live that'd be closer to civilization but the inoccupancy rate is 0.5%. That's in a 250 km radius. The available 0.5% is pure shit. My parents constantly eat like shit and I try to remain strong. I cook my own food and I'm berated for it. People here are either 16 or 60. I shop around to build my own homegym, but the prices are fricking crazy. Like, 150 CAD for ONE 45 lbs plate. I'm doing not bad but I feel like my coil is being pressed and I'm just ready to jump out. I want to keep moving and improving, but my life is currently on pause. I could try to buy a house but my place of work is taking its fricking time to come up with their stance on remote work. I need my own place, now if only boomers could die off so a place would actually be for sale/rent.
This is how I feel.
She packed her things and left while I was at work the other day without so much as a text message. The memories are the only preworkout I’ll ever need. I have to make it.
I’m still insane and I’m both sick and in love with it
I hate medication and I’ve been taking it over a decade and it’s a big ol bummer
Otherwise things are awesome-o
Explain your mental illness
Still don't have a job and failed my 8th drug test for the army because I smoked a metric frick ton of THC
Feel like I'm going up, started lifting pretty recently and changed my thinking about a lot of things
Lots of abstinence
Falling out of love with my wife. I keep improving myself and she’s letting herself go and get complacent. Feels bad my dudes.
But I finally got 1/2/3/4 within the last month after years of stopping and starting and struggling to stay consistent. So it’s not all bad I guess.
What are you doing to help her?
Congrats on the lifts, anon.
Sort that shit out with your wife now, anon. Have a talk, go to a mediator who can be professional or just a family member/friend, if needs be.
The second you realise what you've realised, is the time to talk and address it. It will get worse and more awkward the longer you leave it, and may only be fixable for a short time.
>t. Has too many friends who are either in unhappy marriages or are depressed single fathers
Like the other anon said, don't let this build up, try to find a way to bring this topic and have a conversation about it. Good job on the lifts.
Good luck anon
If you don't roid it will be fine, short people with overly massive muscle just look ridiculous. I'm short myself, but I'll only go as far as my discipline and natural limit takes me.
Good shit anon, ygmi
I'm pretty miserable, this month was stressful and because of that my gym progress halted, next week I'll be able to fix that though. I was letting my hair grow to try improve how I look, but I was looking like a clown and went back to buzz haircut. I tried slowly putting myself out there to try find a girlfriend, but from the people that I have met only late 20s or early 30s are single. It seems I only get the attention of depressed woman, I'm not even joking, at this point when a woman is too friendly with me and keep pushing it I already know what I'm dealing with. The situation gets worse, but I'll end my blog post here. I hope you gays are having it better than me
you need to say this to her. not as harsh sounding as your post, but you need to let her know that you feel you both need to take care of your bodies more in order to frick more. no ultimatums like "or ill leave and frick someone else" or criticisms like "youve gotten fat" - you save those for when you are justifying leaving. but right now the terrain can still be happy and positive so just stating facts like "we can't lose eachother in the relationship's security, and need to hold onto the flame that had us crazy for one another- i want us both to be in good shape for the length of our marraige, yes for sex but god damnit dont you wanna be able to run around with our grandkids?" it all makes sense and is logical because this is the way it should be. god bless you and good luck anon, whatever you do do not hold onto those feelings too long or keep them to yourself, you will only multiply your internal struggles. COMMUNICATE IN RELATIONSHIPS ESPECIALLY THE HARD STUFF
My legs are fine.
>drinking that dog piss
I'm going to cut your face off and wear it to a party as a moron mask
im 29 and I think im going on a date on saturday. (i think it is but i'm not sure if she thinks its a date).
Turn up in a suit, with a hat, with roses and then act perplexed when she's not in a flower dress with a fancy hat.
>I think there' might have been a misunderstanding
>I'm not sure if she thinks it's a date
You fricked up big time.
Quickly message her telling she's got a great ass and you're looking forward to seeing it at the date.
its an ex co worker i worked with that i havnt talked to for 8 years. I asked her out for coffee over messenger and for whatever reason she agreed. I'm so nervous bros....
kek
What are you doing c**t?
If she likes you, you literally can't frick up.
So assume that she likes you, because she probably does.
>Haven't talked to for 8 years
>8 years
>invited for coffee
>she agrees
>Off messenger
This whole thing seems sketchy as frick.
Who talked first after those 8 years? And how?
shes cute and I regret not asking her out when we were working together. she agreed but she did ask me why I am asking her after all these years. I'm 29 and I've never had coffee with a female one on one before...
You'll be fine.
She agreed to meet up with you, so either she's already attached and she likes you enough to be friends or she's not attached and already fancies you. In the former case, she'll let you down easy and be haply to hang out with you both presently and in future regardless of how you approach asking her out formally, in the latter you could turn up in a Pikachu onesie and she'd find it endearing.
You literally can't frick this up.
>but she did ask me why I am asking her after all these years.
WHAT DID YOU FRICKING SAY??
I asked to meetup on saturday but she hasnt responded yet so its not confirmed or anything. I just dont want to live my life wondering what if...also I'm tired of not having a gf and want to do something about it
You made the right decision, anon.
Good luck, but you won't need it.
You need to keep your oneitis shit in absolute check when/if you meet up. Don't look at her past self when you see her, but the person she is now.
Don't go in with any expectations. As difficult as this sounds, it's a must, otherwise you'll feel really bad if it doesn't go the way you wanted.
Understand that something might happen between you or not and don't take it personally if it doesn't happen. You don't have to overthink and dress perfectly, act perfectly and say the perfect things, be funny, charming, etc etc if she's into you. Real life isn't like in the movies, when a woman likes a man she doesn't create obstacles, she makes it easy for him.
Id exchange another few mesages before asking her out, also write:
Im was gonna go do x on saturday would you like to join me?"
This way she knows that you have a life besides woman and your room.
I'm a manlet
Is there a point in lifting or am I just compensating?
>Is there a point in lifting or am I just compensating?
Having a healthy body for old age and being physically attractive. The only time it's compensating is when you're picking fights with people, acting alpha, or just being a twat.
Lifting, cardio, etc is a good hobby but don't make it your sole personality.
Thank you friend, I needed to read that
I wish many gains and much success to you
there are sports were manlets have an advantage, and ofcourse getting fit will only help also it teaches disciplin routine and helps with overall mental health and mental capabilities.
i've never been so depressed.
What's wrong anon
i bought that game just for its coop mode and i have NO IDEA how the frick does it work (it doesnt)
I honestly feel pretty fricking great.
Ive spent the past 10 years being a complete fat fricking loser.
I turn 30 this year and Ive finally gotten my shit together. I workout everyday, eat right and I'll soon have a nice chill job and a new apartment.
Since January Ive lost 21kg and are starting to look really good.
Its cringe as frick, but I started watching Anime for the first time recently and some of the shows have really inspired me to become a better person, live a better life and search for a girlfriend.
It feels like Ive been wandering a cold desolate place my whole life and were fine with it because it was all Ive ever known, but then I found a cabin and peaked in and saw a couple hugging by the fireplace, and now I want that too so Ive started building my own cabin.
So I feel pretty fricking good.
>Its cringe as frick, but I started watching Anime for the first time recently and some of the shows have really inspired me to become a better person, live a better life and search for a girlfriend.
Which anime have you been watching
also i know is out of nowhere but watch Kamen rider kuuga
I'm struggling in grad school, 3 classes and a dissertation to prep by this Sunday. I've been feeling down and low energy, a qt friend told me last night that I seemed a little down too, that I wasn't talking as much and seemed more nervous too. She said she was worried about me and wanted to know if she could help.
that's the kick in the ass I needed, she reminded me that I can't fall into a old habits here and need to push forward. Gonna give her a kiss and hug later today for that reminder.
Heatwave in here. Was in a rush to get out of the house to work today because I had some shit I needed to get done before a deadline. In the rush I forgot to take my pre-workout meal along. The little sandwich shop is also closed because of the heatwave. Gonna have to lift on an empty stomach in a gym with no air conditioning on a hot day.
To top it all off, I didn't even get that shit done on time and therefore I'm in this shitty corner of the internet.
Honestly have no idea. In all reality it’s going good. Moved to a place I’ve wanted to move to earlier this year, work an awesome job out here, plenty of time off, am in good shape. But I’m 34, single, no kids, and no dating prospects currently. I’ve had girlfriends before and random hookups but lately I just feel ambivalent towards the whole thing. On paper everything is awesome but something inside me tells me something is off.
I’m in the exact same situation. I suppose it’s up to us to find meaning where we will.
I have a test today I'm not even close to being prepared for. Otheriwise, I'm doing pretty good. I'm training to be a firefighter and honestly, it's the only thing that currently gives me joy in life.
Doing kinda fine, second week Home office writing my phd thesis right now. Later on gonna lift (leg day). Still kinda melancholic dont know what it is..gonna get some vitd on the balcony
Good I'm back to the gym after years of not going and the gain train has begun. Just started losing some weight too and have lots of motivation. Got a workable meal plan set up. Had salmon, a baked potato, and green beans I picked from my garden sauteed in butter with red pepper flakes and fresh garlic last night. Can't complain.
Like fricking shit, but not really any different from usual, i am still standing though
Presently life sucks: second month being unemployed. Only calls off. People are annoying me, tell me I'm a loser bc I'm 30yo, have no job, no relationship, no senpai, no house, nothing. Insomnia. Heartwave. Shitty feelings. My life feels over. Wish I still could make it but... seems to be more realistic that everything's over.
Only shit which is working currently is losing slowly weight. hope i'll get below 200lbs til end of july/beginning of august.
im literally having a meltdown right now.
My ex came back from her studying in another country and she came back literally crying that she can't get passed me and she wants me back. I was the one to break things off because she was a b***h (male friends, bad traits) although thin and hot.
I eventually gave in had a massive boner from her ass and nofap 30 days and i went in to frick her hard. When i put the condom on she started screaming that she doesn't want me to use condom and that i never used before with her. I realized she is crazy and i dont want her to get pregnant. Anyway i used the condom and it happened another two times.
Everytime i try to put on a condom she says that she can't feel me the same and that i never used with her in the past. I wore all the 3 times. Is this shit a redflag? is she trying to fricking lock me down?
>Is my psycho ex girlfriend that's aggressively against condoms trying to get pregnant?
Oh wow, I'm just not sure anon. This is surely a puzzle for the ages. There's just not enough information to make a clear judgement at this time.
all the biking is making my legs go beyond the level cap.
FRICK!! FRICK!! FRICK!!
I really was in love with her. And I took her for granted back then because she loved me too muchh I didn't have to love her back. Now she's with another guy, and this evening I talked to her for a second chance. Drooling beta aura all over while I accompany her in tue grocery store so she could buy ingredients for cookies for her new bf; and there I was asking for a 2nd chance, promising loyalty, fidelity, commitment if she'll grant. I know I've idealized her and put her on a pedestal. I'm turning a blind eye to all her faults whilst exaggerating to rationalize that she's not that good. BUT SHE IS!! She's not perfect but she's someone I wanted. And now, I feel like that the only way I can find my happiness or "true love" is if I find someone that remotely resembles her personality, her quirks, her laugh, etc. And I know that shouldn't be the case. It hurts so much. I lost her during the pandemic. And now... Just frick...
FRICKK...
Give it to me straight IST. I'm sorry, but I'm running out of friends to unload this into
She broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years 2 months ago. We started seeing each other more and more in the last months.
Never got really physically intimate because we got so much in common and i thought this could really be the one and i didn't want to ruin it by pushing to quickly.
We got extremely emotionally intimate one night we went out drinking.
Since last week she still answers me but she never starts a conversation, we still meet and talk and smile but now it's just smalltalk.
I feel like i lost her and i have no idea what to do. It hurts so much.
>inb4 simp
I always told myself nobody gives a frick about me and i don't give a frick about no one. And it worked for most of my life.
I can cut people out of my life without big feelings but she is so god damn precious. She is the only person i ever fully opened up to who didn't treat me like a leper afterwards but understood me.
I know i will be okay again in time but i don't want to be.
Frick me.
I had to move back to my parents as my place got bought by a couple for their kid and I was expropriated. The closest gym is 1h11 away by car. I'm trying to find a place to live that'd be closer to civilization but the inoccupancy rate is 0.5%. That's in a 250 km radius. The available 0.5% is pure shit. My parents constantly eat like shit and I try to remain strong. I cook my own food and I'm berated for it. People here are either 16 or 60. I shop around to build my own homegym, but the prices are fricking crazy. Like, 150 CAD for ONE 45 lbs plate. I'm doing not bad but I feel like my coil is being pressed and I'm just ready to jump out. I want to keep moving and improving, but my life is currently on pause. I could try to buy a house but my place of work is taking its fricking time to come up with their stance on remote work. I need my own place, now if only boomers could die off so a place would actually be for sale/rent.
This is how I feel.
I fricking hate university and I fricking hate people I just want to get the degree and work