I cannot sleep at night

I literally lay in bed for hours ruminating on every cringe encounter I had in my life and beating myself up over it. It's so fricking over my cringe attacks are now killing my gains and health

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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >can't sleep because of hunger

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Just at night? I ruminate and analyze every single wrong micro movement I did my entire life 24/7. I'm crippled with cringe all day non stop

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Actually same but I can cope with the daytime cringe, I can't handle sleeplessness

      I try to go to bed early but it always fails, because I end up ruminating on everything I said or done. Not taking supps, not diagnosed with depression only social anxiety. 25 years old

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        second reply meant for

        give more info
        when do you go to sleep
        take any supplements or not
        do you have diagnosed depression / ome other condition

        What's your daily routine?
        Do you workout during the day, are you sedentary, do you read or meditate? And what have you tried so far?

        I am sedentary most of the day because im a wfh wagie. I used to run and lift but because of the recent lethargy due to sleeplessness I can barely wake up in the morning. I have slowly tried to implement a workout routine with dumbbells at home to get out of this rut but just started yesterday

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Some things are chicken and egg type cycles that'd are hard to get out of. Like having less energy because you're too sedentary, so you don't workout, which would actually boost your mood and make you feel more energised in the long run.

          Another thing you can try is a brain dump in the evening. Just get a pen and paper or a plain word doc and just write everything that's on your mind. Don't worry much about mistakes or logical flow just get whatever's worrying you or on your mind onto the page.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          i'll repeat
          >when do you go to sleep
          >take any supplements or not
          >do you have diagnosed depression / some other condition

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      HOW DO WE FIX THIS BRO? I AM DYING. MY LIFE IS FRICKED FROM ANXIETY AAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    give more info
    when do you go to sleep
    take any supplements or not
    do you have diagnosed depression / ome other condition

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Ahhahahhaha how anxiety is even real hahahah homie just stop thinking negative thoughts just think nice ones dumb ass b***h

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    What's your daily routine?
    Do you workout during the day, are you sedentary, do you read or meditate? And what have you tried so far?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      What is that cute lil fricker?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Looks like a penguin shedding its juvenile plumage.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      lil homie bussin lookin fresh af fr

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        but you seem to be coping well, im not feeling good also i dont have any other options

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Go exercise. If you do that enough you won't have the energy to think about stuff.

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    One time when i was in school i faked a panic attack just to get attention. Another time i was making fun of something and immediatelly got called out off doing the same thing and the whole class laughed at my expense. I think the cringe situations you go trough the less you care

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >the most cringe

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I have almost zero anxiety, because I see the majority of society to be subhuman losers who are so beneath me it means nothing to me if I'm perceived weirdly by then. You fricking animals are pathetic.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      ohh this frickin asiatic ass piece of wienersuckin gay ass moronic little shit excuse for a god damn keyboard, can't frickin figure out when to leave my frickin words alone now? frickin thing is designed for shitskins who talk like apes, god damn it. frick this bullshit, b***h.

  9. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Unfortunate. I’ve started working out at 6:30 am and it makes me feel good for the rest of the day

  10. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    see a therapist

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      this
      they can give you tools and exercises that are a little bit more helpful than "just don't think about it lol"

  11. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >in college
    >late to class one day
    >only seat open is next to this short cute girl I've been checking out
    >she's 5'4, blond with very pale skin and green eyes, petite with perky boobas
    >sit next to her
    >she drops her pen and it rolls down the floor
    >get up and get it for her
    >hand it back with a smile and firm eye contact
    >eye contact lingers, she smiles back and then looks down meekly
    >realize she's super shy because I've never seen her talk to anyone
    >we just sit quietly during class and then when class ends, we leave without interacting
    >next class, I sit in my usual spot
    >she comes to sit next to me despite tons of open seats
    >don't say anything or even make eye contact
    >we do this for 6 months, I look forward to it every time
    >never say anything but feel like ONE DAY I will finally say "hi" and we will start talking
    >decide to skip class once and go home early
    >get on the bus in front of campus - there is nobody else on it
    >go all the way to the back and sit down as the bus idles
    >see her get on
    >we make eye contact for 0.05 seconds and then I look away quickly
    >she comes all the way to the back and sits RIGHT across from me without a word
    >bus starts moving - we're the only 2 passengers
    >I stare out the window with my mind racing
    >she is forcing my hand, there is no way I can't talk to her now
    >5 minutes go by, is it too late?
    >bus goes under an overpass and we make eye contact through the window reflection
    >I quickly look down and then back out the window when the light is back
    >realize it's too late
    >feel my heart sinking as I realize I'm living through a moment I will regret for the rest of my life
    >brain is screaming NOOO SAY SOMETHING homosexual!!!!!!!
    >can't do it
    >my stop comes
    >fumble out of the seat awkwardly staring every direction but hers
    after this, she never sat near me or looked in my direction ever again
    this was 15 years ago

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Good.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Holy shit, imagine what kind of beautiful relationship you could have had
      Then again, it could have ruined your life and you would be much worse off than you are now. You never know

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Truly sad. I had a lot of stupid situations like this as a teen and adolescent. I feel you, but more importantly, have you changed? You could look her up you know

  12. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >I literally lay in bed for hours ruminating on every cringe encounter I had in my life and beating myself up over it.
    Have you tried not doing that? No, I am fricking serious. You have to take control of your thoughts. Don't be their fricking slave you pussy. You have to realize that when you go to bed SLEEP is the #1 priority. Nothing else matters. Let your mind deal with all the bullshit when you are asleep, that's what this rest period is for. These day, when I get an unpleasent thought I just tell myself: "No, I don't want to think about that right now. Now is not the time." and it just disappears.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Kek enjoy your breakdown beating people on a berserk rage or crying like a b***h out of the blue

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        You still process most of it in your sleep and there is always time to deal with problems and emotions, it's just not when you are trying to sleep.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        It's not healthy or cathartic to stay awake nights thinking about shit that happened in high school.

  13. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Only lay down when you are ready to sleep, get exercise, and eat at the same time every day. You will feel tired and fall asleep at the same time every day.

  14. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I create a fantasy universe in my head and when it's time to sleep i think about it an expand the lore and history and the narrative, works really well for me.
    I often catch myself ruminating and make the decision to instead to think about the culture and history of an alien species in my fantasy, puts me to sleep like that.

    Sounds pretty lame but i used to have the same problem and don't anymore, it's my equivalent of counting sheep.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I do this but in the universe i have a beautiful wife and a family who loves me deeply and i create scenarios full of happyness with them

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I do this.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Wouldn't recommend. Everytime you indulge in this you put the dream further apart from reality.

  15. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    This is literally me. I can't sleep at night until I fap. I got used to it since i was a teenager. I've been struggling on nofap. Even after a full day's worth of school, going to the gym and doing hw til midnight I didn't fall asleep til 2am after I cave in and fapped. Anyone here managed to solve this problem? Should I see a specialist?

  16. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I miss my bpd ex so much is unreal bros, it’s to the point of I sleep at 6 in the morning and think of everything we had together. She wanted me back for so long but I said no because it was a crazy relationship but now that off the rollercoaster I’m having a major depressive episode. I’m waiting for my parents to die then I’ll prolly kys. The good thing is that I made gains during the break up

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Are you literally me? My only problem is that my mom is the healthiest person I've ever met and people in our family tend to live long anyway. I'm looking at about another 30 years and right now every day feels like it could be the last

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        How old are you?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          im 30. i loved her so much she did everything for me but she talked to another guy when we were dating and i had to break it off. the other guy also shit talked me and i have beef with him now although i mog him. i blocked the ex and she was calling me from other numbers everyday.

          [...]
          >Bpd
          What makes those girls like honey and you're a fly?

          what makes the honey is their energy i think, they bring so much joy and pain to your life that it becomes addictive, when i benched 100kg for the 1st time single i was euphoric. after i met her and benched 120kg i didn't feel anything because i only had joy from her. even money dont matter anymore. also i lost all my productivity since brekaing up but im a beta sensitive guy, i was always like this

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Literally me
            My bpd ex was a 10/10 too. I heard she got into drugs so that’s probably not true anymore

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              Same. Last I saw she started smoking cigarettes, so I give her another year before crashing into the wall at mach10

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Are you literally me? My only problem is that my mom is the healthiest person I've ever met and people in our family tend to live long anyway. I'm looking at about another 30 years and right now every day feels like it could be the last

      >Bpd
      What makes those girls like honey and you're a fly?

  17. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Go for some brutal night runs. It'll work itself out.

  18. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Reminder that this behavior stems from narcissism. You shouldn't care this much that you farted in front is Stacey in 2007, but since your value your image so much it still pains you to this day. Get over yourself. Be cringe. Everyone is. Stop thinking you're a hotshot that shouldn't be embarrassing.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      This.
      Everybody does embarrassing shit, but some ruminate on the past and let it frick with the present.
      Literally just stop caring. That's all you have to do.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Digits of wisdom.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      This.
      Everybody does embarrassing shit, but some ruminate on the past and let it frick with the present.
      Literally just stop caring. That's all you have to do.

      But how does one actually stop caring? I know rationally that it shouldn't bother me, but that still doesn't change the fact how I feel and I still feel like every mistake I made is like a life threatening mistake.
      Also checked

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Experience. Get off IST and go outside. The problem with IST and the internet in general is that you're not vulnerable. You can exit any conversation at any time cringe-free. Now you rely on the internet for easy social interactions instead of going outside and getting experience with being cringe.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I am outside, regularly. That's exactly where these problems happen. I cringe at myself even with the most basic grocery store clerk interaction, even though I'm perfectly aware that person forgot about my entire existence in like 5 seconds after I left the store.

          https://i.imgur.com/ajtRLQv.jpg

          If you know rationally it doesn't matter then you should be able to understand emotionally that it doesn't matter. You take yourself too seriously. You laugh at others for making a misstep, learn to laugh at yourself.
          During Christmas I hung out with an ex I haven't seen in over a decade and we hit it off. New Years I got incredibly drunk texting her absurd, dumb, crazy shit and had to apologize the next day. She said it happens and didn't care. I, however, let it eat me up for a couple days because I was so worried. She didn't ghost me and we still talk. I think back how dumb it was of me but I can't let it drag me down to hell forever.

          >If you know rationally it doesn't matter then you should be able to understand emotionally
          Those two things seem in disconnected with me. I can know rationally that no one cares, but that won't stop my heart from pumping like crazy just for touching the door knob to enter my workplace nearly every day again and again.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            Now you've got to tell yourself that it doesn't matter. You still think it's a big deal. When you are physically reacting, that is when you need to use your mind and calm yourself down. Don't let your emotions run wild and dictate eveything. You aren't hysterical. Nobody is going to change instantaneously. You need to work on it.

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              >that is when you need to use your mind and calm yourself down.
              That's all I do. And in most cases I manage to calm myself down, I am fairly functional at least from the outside. But the cycle goes again and again every day.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                Guess I don't know how to help ya then, bud. good luck with it.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        If you know rationally it doesn't matter then you should be able to understand emotionally that it doesn't matter. You take yourself too seriously. You laugh at others for making a misstep, learn to laugh at yourself.
        During Christmas I hung out with an ex I haven't seen in over a decade and we hit it off. New Years I got incredibly drunk texting her absurd, dumb, crazy shit and had to apologize the next day. She said it happens and didn't care. I, however, let it eat me up for a couple days because I was so worried. She didn't ghost me and we still talk. I think back how dumb it was of me but I can't let it drag me down to hell forever.

  19. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    This is a pretty good sign you aren't exercising intensely enough.

  20. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Depression and anxiety here. Here's how I solved my decade long rumination induced insomnia (before diagnosis):
    Melatonin 2mg, 30 min before bedtime
    Hours and hours of interesting podcasts

    At best you sleep, lose track with the podcast and realize sleep episodes can go unnoticed (as one wakes up like one falls asleep, i.e. ruminating), at worse you learn interesting things. For me it's interesting things, for some it's stories, pick your poison.

  21. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Have experience with something like this.
    A therapist diagnosed me as probably being depressed since I was ~12, this was when I was 28. So yeah.

    There's a bunch of other advice that seems like it'd work. But what really helped me was having a goal that I could push towards. It was really rocky, and it took years. Having a goal helps clarify what is and isn't important. You ruminating is your mind reminding you of things you can fix. They matter, otherwise you wouldn't be thinking about them. But some of them don't matter that much, and until you set your sights on a goal and let that guide you, you have no idea which ones are and aren't important. You have a goal important enough and then that motivates you to also deal with problems like ruminating. You can fix your shit, to some extent, slowly, if you really try. And then you won't have reasons (or maybe even time) to ruminate.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Not him but he could very well process negative emotions the way BPD people do. I do. I inappropriately feel deep shame instead of mild embarrassment, for instance. Having goals didn't change anything to it. On the contrary, I still didn't recover from failing to reach them a few years ago.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        They were not really yours and you rated ruminating over irrelevant things more preferable to setting your goals

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Today's goal is to go through day to day life and not kms. So far I succeeded, life is so much better woohoo.

  22. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Unironically, this. Started two weeks ago,
    and I'm only plagued by my own moronation for 20% of the waking day

  23. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I have the same problem, I think is complex ptsd + heavy anxiety + avoidant personality disorder

  24. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    you are me

  25. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    learn to forgive your cringe
    you did the best you could at the time

  26. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    If you don't make mistakes, you don't grow as a human. What is important is learning from them so you aren't going through life repeating the same mistakes over and over. Once you've learned, do not dwell on the past. It is fruitless.

  27. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    look towards (not at) the sun for 5 minutes in the morning and evening, preferably when the sun is at it's lowest in the sky. it sounds woo-woo but it really helped me fall asleep faster at night

  28. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Hey OP I experienced the exact same thing when I was coping with my ex gf breaking up with me. Did the following for a week and my sleep was fixed
    >journaling
    This was the single most important thing I did. Every night before sleeping, I would write down everything on my mind on a notepad. Completely eliminates the angst and existential dread that kept me from sleeping
    >phone off and away from reach
    Before journaling
    >ice baths
    This may sound counter intuitive, but after tensing up in the bath, I felt much more relaxed. I filled the bath with freezing cold water, dipped myself inside for a full minute, warmed up for a minute, and repeat. Should also give good T gains.
    >play classical music
    While journalling
    >Same alarm every morning
    Build a regimented schedule

    This worked for me, good luck anon, WAGMI

  29. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Unironically pic related

  30. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    how do you have a good sleep (and life) routine when you work shift job? it's a fricking nightmare bros. One week of waking up at around 4am to be on time for 5am when my shift starts, the other I work until 10pm, and I'm home at like 10:45pm. I constantly sleep too little, have fragmented sleep because i wake up anxiously thinking it's time to get up, only to check the clock and see that only one hour had passed and I'm laying there awake unable to fall back asleep. Sometimes when I have eatly shift I try to sleep after work to catch up but that fricks my routine even more. I am constantly tired and sleepy to do anything, can't focus on anything, I miss workouts,etc. Any advices?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Nothing. Try getting out of their. Whatever money you are making isn't worth it.

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