any oldcels here? how do you cope with getting older, not just gymwise, but in whole life aspect
How the frick did that happen? It's so fricking funny and sad at the same time. We used to be young, and now we are old men. I always used to be the young dude who would hit on MILFs and GILFs, and suddenly I'm 30..frick this gay life, i cant fricking cope
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tfw 31 but people think i'm in my early 20s
OP here, I also look fairly young, but my ID says otherwise...
Fellow shut ins, I see you too are on the no sun diet
Is greek yoghurt good for gaining mass?
Bulking rn because I keep getting bullied by my 15yo brother (inb4 underaged, I'm 30 ; ;).
I heard it's anabolic due to igf-1 spiking and caesin absorbs slowly so you have a constant protein source throughout the day.
He forces me to do a silly dance and chant I'm a Gaylord or he wrestles me to the ground and slaps me.
Pls respond, I can't take it any longer
I wish I had a big brother to pick on.
40 year old reporting in. Time is running out. I value my routine and habits. Every night I put a CD in my stereo and go through a simple exercise routine. I'm becoming more of a minimalist. I pack away things I don't or won't use and make lists of how I want to spend my time. I put one foot in front of the other to keep suicide away. It's ironic that I work more on self-improvement than happy non-suicidal people do, but that's just the way it is.
Had a woman guess that I was in my twenties and that was before I shaved.
>25
>people think i'm 19
You're not old yet, dude.
Is this a good or a bad thing? I’m in the same spot
good thing I'd say, you only look young for so long before the aging catches up to you
You might just be a gay.
I'm 31 and having the best time of my life.
these
i'm about to turn 30 and am having the time of my life, and i know damn well when i roll up to 40 i'm gonna be the happiest 40 year old going.
literally me
I'll be 32 in a couple months and never felt better tbh
Yeah I am enjoying life way more in my 30's than in my 20's, especially early 20's
>in best shape of my life even after a fairly serious injury in my 20's
>have a career that pays very well
>comfortable with myself
>know what I want and don't want
As long as you don't give up, life just keeps getting better
OP is PUSSY
who30yokhvhere?
Your 30’s are the best decade of life, lots of money, lots of free time, good health, no responsibilities, can go after women of any age since you are still in peak physical condition and they all have daddy issues. 40 is when it’s going downhill fast.
Chasing women in your 30’s is pathetic. You think you’re Leonardo DiCaprio but you’re just some sad freak at the bar. Get married before then and have kids like a proper human being.
lel
>Leonardo DiCaprio
Literally gay and pays young models to pretend he isn't.
Kind of makes perverse sense that he'd be the cope pope for lookists.
And let some broad ruin your life?
Eh I want to get married bros. Granted it's like Russian roulette but I figure I've worked on myself and have enough experience to know if she's worth it. Even if 50% of marriages fail, that means there are at least some non-losers out there.
>Get married
marriage is dead
get as much young pussy as you can, then switch to escortmaxxing once you age out of being able to pull
>marriage
lol
Ideally yes, but it's a raw deal nowadays.
Chasing women is pathetic
mid 20s here but similar feel. Obviously there's no stopping or reversing time, you'll die eventually, but the best compromise I can come up with is unrelentingly pursuing novelty or goals. After all, isn't that what youth is? Besides the physical aspects? It's looking at the world through the lens of 'the world is my oyster'.
tl:dr. Get some long term goals and new hobbies.
yeah this. If I'm still on dating apps or hunting for women in my 30s I may as well an hero. Or become a degen sexpat coomer in SEA.
>Chasing women in your 30's is gay
sorry did you misspell that? You meant to write 20 instead of 30 right? haha dont worry that happens to all of us!
Jfc you hedonistic insects, go reproduce
You’re a midwit if you think reproduction is any more meaningful a goal than simple hedonism.
>30’s
>no responsibilities
Manchild detected.
Take care of yourself. I'm 33 and when I was 30 I looked like I was 25ish and I had girls as young as 18 hitting on me and inviting me to get coffee.
Now that I'm 33 and haven't taken care if myself partly due to covid and life stressors, I look like shit and barely get glances from anyone younger than 23
dudes age like frick in that age. Its like years of aging comes out of nowhere and hits and boom in a year or two they went from looking 25 to 35
>nearly (not even!) 30
>old
Choose one and only one.
The years have been kind to me, still get ID'd all the time. I had a babyface all my life so it's finally paying off for me.
This isn't like a "man up" type of post but you genuinely sound like a woman anon. Use the fear of getting nearer to death perhaps but if you're ageing poorly or sad that your twink days are over that's on you and the culture you maintain. I like being better skilled, better status and etc and richer than I used to be. Am doing fasting and yoga regularly on top of my programming, eat well and aside from being less explosive than like my early 20's I can't tell much difference physically. That's probably genetic too but w/e. Life is good even in these times. If you're living hard, wagecucking too hard (idiot) etc that's something that is going to JUST you in your 30's long term, even late 20's and maybe irreversibly.
>I like being better skilled, better status and etc and richer than I used to be.
maybe the op is hitting 30 and he is none of that.
How to wagecuck less hard?
Quit being a homosexual and stop acting like a woman. Life begins for men at 35. The golden decade where all things are possible is 40 to 50. b***h.
Can confirm
>good high paying job
>38 years old, aging like wine
>more fit than most people in their prime
>feels good man
The unexpected cool thing about being fit at an older age (I'm 38 by the way) is the older you get, the less peers you have that are fit. Everyone I went to high school is now either obese or has drug issues.
I'm about to hit 30 and I have been feeling down the past few months. I wasted the last 3 years of my life on a relationship that I got the raw end for and I dont know what to do with my life now. I'm trying to get fit but aside from that I'm aimless
What do you do professionally? Or are you interested in a life on the high seas as a pirate? For me, a man should be doing at least one of those things if not both. Let the foids fall where they may, as the old saying goes.
39 here, it doesn’t get better
>complaining about starting one of the best decades of your life
If your life was shitty and unfulfilled enough that you're already lamenting about it as you're approaching 30, try doing something about it instead of crying like a homosexual.
39 here. If you want to have children, do it within the next 2-3 years max. Or it will no shit be too late. If I had a kid tomorrow I would be 58 when they graduate high school. In my sixties when they finish college. I’d never live to see grandkids probably.
Having kids and building a family is a critical part of life. Don’t take it lying down. If you can land a decent woman who you can see building a family with - go with it. Don’t be afraid.
Also
>don’t injure your back. Lift with your legs, never help Boomers lift things because they will flake/bail/get distracted/stroke out leaving you to get hurt.
>don’t eat crap or at least not often
>find a kind of exercise that you like and do it as often as practical
>family matters. The most precious thing in this world is people who love you and care about. The other 99.99999999% of humanity does not give the slightest frick about you. So those few loved ones matter. And you can make more of them, by being a good friend, neighbour and pillar of your community. As well as being a good, patient and loving parent to many children. You can also lose loved ones through carelessness. So take care.
>have fun. You are here to witness Creation. So witness it and enjoy the experience for its own sake.
I feel like the not helping boomers part is never emphasized enough. Tit for tat NIGGGERS
I was agreeing with everything and then you brought up
>community
>Creation
frick off. Blood is thicker than water. Your community are just people who live around you. Yes you can be friendly and respectful and whatever - but in a time of crisis, they are not guaranteed to have you back, unlike your family (blood) and friends (true friends, not in the way Americans understand it).
was right there with you until Creation
Frick off christgay
I'm 21 but I feel like if nothing changes by the time I'm 30 (no gf, HKV) I can probably pull off being dark and mysterious older dude.
Does that make sense? Probably not. Probably sounds autistic as frick now that I think about it.
Go outside and try doing normal things immediately. This place is turning you into, well, me I guess.
You're right.
I've been going out more recently. Went to a live live show a couple weeks ago. Seeing a concert next month with some friends too.
Thinking about going to a rave style concert with a friend or two but I'm not sure I've got that kinda vibe in me tbh. Feels like there'd be too many super social hyped up coke fiends.
I’m a normal guy that’s been spending more and more time online, I guess the opposite of you. It’s fricking gay on here man, everyone’s a moron and has no idea how the world works. Frick I need to get out more.
>It’s fricking gay on here man, everyone’s a moron and has no idea how the world works.
Yeah man. Agreed
I'm coming up on 32. Never gave a shit about 30. Don't care about 32. I've never felt older. I train just as hard if not harder than I did in my 20's plus all the 18 year olds with a daddy kink want my dick now.
i feel the same way at 20
had a suicide attempt when i was 30 because i was a complete and utter failure. it gets better later (34 now).
Its not bad but people more and more expect you to have a good job and people often will talk about their jobs alot. Its fricking weird. Im some factory working mediun skilled moron and sometimes women will look down on you
>oh hes not rich
Especially in their 30s but women like 20 years old or something think your cool cause you have an apartment and abs and can frick
Getting older sucks.
I turned 30 this year. My life is good on paper. "Good Looking", make over 100K a year, my fiance earns triple what I make, we own our home, etc.
But it just feels like I'm going through the motions. My corporate job is just boring and meaningless - I'm not inspired at all. My life is the worst routine where Monday - Thursday are just work and trying to not think about work. I'm jealous of my friends who are NEETs who spend all day working out and having a stress free life.
All I think about is having enough money to not have to work ever again, quitting my job, and taking a year to get insanely fit / "find what my purpose is".
Realistically though, I need to reinvent my routine. Go to bed earlier, set strict working hours, incorporate daily exercise. Also need to be more purposeful with what I want to achieve - physically, mentally, etc. Life is short, I'm still pissed COVID robbed me of my late 20s.
being a NEET is insanely stressful man, you may think its not but it is
>anon with serious insomnia/anxiety/fatigue/other issues
>haven't held a long term because issues arrive (especially the insomnia, I went nuts after staying awake an entire mon-friday work week and it was horrific).
I want to do better 🙁
https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-principle-or-the-office-according-to-the-office/
read this
It'll change your life
im not that anon but super comfy read. Will probably print it out and keep it for posterity thx for the sharing anon
I'm 31
I don't even try to get girls because all of them want a serious relationship at this age and most of them don't fall in my expectation of wife.
too much effort to get laid (90% are shit anyway) and it's not even worth it since 99% of them are either roasties, single moms or nutjobs. I feel like all this tiktok shit was the last nail in the coffin of traditional families.
focus in yourself. it's for the best. unless you wanna become a cuck and pay alimony
Life is pretty bad unless you have the knowledge and strength to live it right. I feel so clueless. I am 22 yo and I barely know myself. I keep having to make choices and I just don't know which ones I should make. I keep letting myself down and repeating the past no matter how hard I try. This overwhelming sadness weights on my shoulders and eyes every day. I feel completely lost. I feel like I am just spinning in circles until one day I die like every other human being. Now I just remembered about a childhood friend who died last year. He was murdered with knives and stones. He is gone and so will be all of us soon. I wish that in the mean time I knew what I am doing. All these feelings are trapped within me and I have no one to share them with or to take them away from me. I keep lifting, but I don't even know why. I am just a bunch of meat and bones. I really don't know the meaning of things.
>Life is pretty bad unless you have the Chad genetics to live it right.
youre an idiot. everyone who is 22 is an idiot. Pick a direction and go.
Found you itiswr1tten. Don’t ask who I am or how I know, but I know that’s you, you cute little homosexual.
>I am 22 yo and I barely know myself
Ironically, realizing this now puts you ahead of the curve. ygmi
22 yo here with admittedly a bit of a better life than you from what i am reading but unironically start being comfortable with yourself will help a lot. I am still busy finishing up my college degree I technically could have finished 2 years ago but let a girl and covid get to my head too much. Now I'm taking my time and just enjoying the free time and freedom I have granted myself. Everyday there are new challenges but knowing who you are and what you can make those challenges a bit more bearable in my experience. Unironically live laugh love anon
Just gotta live it, buddy. More opportunities will pop up for you as you hit a more respectable age and build up experience. I was an alcoholic burnout for most of my 20s, but the one thing I did well was just put time into my field, and at age 29 and a net worth of -$4,000 I finally got a decently high-paying job, bought a house, started making it mine and found a love for landscaping and gardening with a net worth of like $20,000. Future's honestly looking pretty bright at this point. Just keep putting in the work.
I will say that it's getting harder to meet women, and I don't pull as much as I did in my early 20s (not always at bars--not enough free time), but at this point I'm looking to settle down. You've gotta adjust your life a little bit, but it's nothing to hate or be afraid of. Learn to find a love for the change.
You're gonna be all right. Take care of yourself, young blood. After you break past 30 you'll realize that nothing really changes. It's been a slow evolution since you were born, and the digits don't mean dick.
Near 40 here, get your shit together.
I’m married, kid, decent career.
My biggest regret sometimes though is knowing myself and getting the l confidence I needed until later in life. I’m also frustrated I did not become politically active until having a family made it inconvenient.
Grow. Learn. Expand your knowledge. Don’t chase women. Have a drink sometimes. Frick the israelites.
I'm about to be 38. Getting old sucks but there's nothing you can do about it.
Oh well.
Deal with it.
Oh, and frick the israelites.
I turned 37 this summer. I feel like the world has ended, society has disintegrated, and there is no future in anything.
>30 isn't old, dude.
I noticed feeling old around 33. That's when shit just stopped working together smoothly.
>I noticed feeling old around 33. That's when shit just stopped working together smoothly.
Do you stretch? Do you lift? Do you food in modest cardio? Do you eat right?
*fold in
>lift?
>modest cardio?
>eat right?
I was doing all of those things, plus I was on TRT at the time
It wasn't enough to prevent the onset of aging.
The one thing I would change would be dropping caffeine.
I feel like caffeine dependency has contributed enormously to aging.
Tretinoin/Retinol for the skin, if you can't get a script for tret, get an OTC retinoid. Should help freshen you up a bit, bro.
30 isn't old, dude. The only people who think it's old are moronic teenagers and 20-yo manchildren who can barely even afford to feed and clothe themselves.
it's over
simple as
I'm already 31 and I have the worst body i ever had. I didn't do anything when I had a good body, just staying inside reading.
Life passed me by, there's no coming back.
That's on you. I was in the best shape of my life (so far) at 32.
Go read the Bible.
Jesus go on and start a mission to save us exactly at 30 years old of age. Why do you think is that? Because that's where your age is the "Prime" age for a man where you have truly mature body & mind.
30 is a peak Top condition for a man. So go do what you must do and live to the fullest fellow bro in Christ.
Me myself have reach 40 this month. While my condition is not the same like in my 30 its not much different. Just need more rest but it still manageable as long as you keep your body fit and in healthy weight. People still think im 20-28++ years young because i have good genetic, take care of myself and asian so thats a perk of it.
Nice bro, mirin' skin
Christgays are pathetic.
“I liked him better before, at least he had a sense of humor when he drank”
What pathetic is your Godless life. Your life have no meaning whatsoever and you die without knowing the truth. I pity you.
Buckle up, sweetheart. There's nothing you can do. You will get older, you will lose your gains, and you will die.
t. 34
not if i start taking roids at forty im not
>roids
Into the trash you go.
Maybe ill be a youtube larper also when i start roiding and attribute my success to keto or creatine.
>28 and still virgin
I know that feel bro
>suddenly I'm 30
Holy shit.., you're fricking Methuselah, bro!!! Better start looking for assisted suicide.
>33 years old
>NEET living with parents
>trying to learn to program
It's over isn't it? At least I'm not fat...
ahahahaha "trying to learn how to program"
bro go outside and get a fricking job and be around people
to learn to program
Fair warning. A career in software engineering requires a significant amount of soft skills.
>trying to learn to program
so you're not even learning, you're TRYING to learn?
>23
>Software dev for 2 years
>think of suicide every second I am at the computer
Grass is always greener
At this point I'm just hoping the vaxx depopulates everyone so even if I'm a total failure 35 year old NEET at least I passed the most important test of our lives.
CoQ10 + collagen + good quality fish oil, Decent sleep, and dont overexpose to the sun like a moron and groom yourself and your boomer ass might extend your youth looks for another couple years, atleast thats my cope.
last week i had a girl 5 years younger than me thinking i was younger than her i had to show her my ID as proof. Im 33 and she thought i was around the same age as the early twenties zoomers from work i was out with.
32, can't relate
>29
Nah, there’s definitely been some years that I’ve wasted but I’ve done tons of solo traveling and career building. Social relationships on the other hand are lacking because im an autist that can’t keep up with people. I can barely talk to my family. They’re always surprised I’m in some random place when I send them pictures because they think I’m a shut in which is half true but I still get out and enjoy my time
im 34 and frick girls in their 20s all the time
get off the computer you fricking loser
Make me, incel.
I am 28 years old and I never even kissed a girl
all good bro, keep trying.
i lost my virginity at 26.
If youre worried about getting older, then you're not accomplishing your goals in life. Getting older should mean more money, more social connections, more network connections, more events to attend, more opportunities to meet girls. If you're not at this point yet, you should be shooting to get their quicker.
>If youre worried about getting older, then you're not accomplishing your goals in life.
frick this one hurts
>30s
>old
Do you all realize that humans have a lifespan of 80+ years? So 60% of your life is being old?
Your body replaces cells as they mutate or die. However, much like a photocopy of a photocopy, the replacements are a little less perfect each time. Around the age of 28, you are no longer replacing cells effectively.
What that means is after the age of 28, approximately, you are actively in the process of dying because your cells are being destroyed faster than they can be replaced and the replacements are more and more imperfect each time.
>60% of your life is being old
Yes
Only a sliver of life from ~14-28 is where you are actually good looking, getting laid and enjoying the magic of life
The rest is decay, suffering, loneliness
>Only a sliver of life from ~14-28 is where you are actually good looking, getting laid and enjoying the magic of life
Oh
didn't realize
I will now stop having sex
thanks for clearing that up anon
32 year old virgin here. I don't want some nightclub cumbawd and girls I liked always rejected me so I am resigned to being a weightlifting machine with no purpose. Just floating in the void.
30 here, same just exercising for hours dying alone
it seems like when most men turn 30 their life becomes just work until you die. No more goals or aspirations, just wageslavery. If you have a regular job that doesn't really allow for expansion or promotion you probably should have a family so you at least have something to get up for, you if you hate your job, for the love of god get a different job
So many 30s go "Its over for me." Ok, understand this. If you live to 80, you still have 50 years of life left. If you retire at 70, you still have 70 years of work left. You will work for FOUR MORE DECADES. And you think its "over" for you?
A lot more yet to live but its all garbage because everyone is older, uglier, busier. At 20 it's easier to make friends, to find love, everyone is beautiful. It's the opposite when you are older. Late bloomers are better of killing themselves.
>all this shit
>doesn't lift
go away
sage
50s here. Stop being a whiny homosexual.
i have a wife and a kid and studying and working. Dude, just get busy and live. who the frick has time to think about how gay life?
I used to live with several anxiety and depression all throughout my 20's, am 33 now. Don't have that shit anymore but still look back sometimes and realise what i missed. But then I realise that you're still a child in your 20s and not the adult you think you are. Your 30's are awesome! You don't give a shit about societal norms anymore and you're mentally a step ahead. I frequently fart in front of people at the gym now, don't feel ashamed at all, I need to fart so I fart. Frick those small 20's frickbois. Sometimes I moan like a woman fricking I porn while lifting too, just because its fun. Sometimes I fart and moan like a woman at the same time. A couple of days ago a guy was reracking his plates wrong and I know that he does it because he doesn't care. So I went up to him and started to rack them right in front of him while holding eye contact and singing WAP.
>I’m always anxious I’m not living my life to the fullest
It’s because you probably aren’t.
are you literally a woman? post body.
I turned 30 in July. I still feel like I'm 20something, probably because I did nothing with my life throughout my 20s and feel like I missed out.
I broke up with my ex in 2015, became depressive, quit studying, quit working and did nothing with my life until last year. These 7 years have gone by in a flash and I still feel like we broke up last week, even though I have never seen or contacted her again. From time to time I start to wonder if she too thinks about me and wonders what I'm doing with my life.
>I always used to be the young dude who would hit on MILFs and GILFs, and suddenly I'm 30..
I can't relate. I've been married and boomermaxing since I was 20. I'm 30 and nothing is different. Still living the life I want and that I just decided to start living immediately.
>I cant cope with the fact that im nearly 30
well, take comfort that you've made your fortune or at the very least are well on your way. You HAVE made your fortune, haven't you OP?
I'm am 30. I don't need to cope much because everyone still thinks I'm 20-22. But I have more money now. I still draw early 20s women like it's nothing.
Hi, I'm 27 and about to head out to ask random hot girls for their numbers.
Wish me luck.
failed. Couldn't approach any.
They are either on the phone (while walking) or talking to each other, so that they don't even notice you.
damn
):
Im 32 and loving it. 20s was slightly chaotic. Im now married, got more money saved up and more disposable income to spend on hobbies etc. Friends have come and gone but mostly have stuck around. Perhaps most importantly i just feel so relaxed. I do agree with the guy who's pissed that covid took away our time and freedom but frick it its in the past..for now, anyway. I recently started doing some martial arts on top of lifting and stuff and rather then thinking 'i wish i started earlier' i think 'im glad i didnt start later'. Basically im really excited for what the future holds. My advice for ppl in thier 20s is: you will never regret not skipping the gym. Identify your values and live them. Plans might not work out but planning is essential.
Bro 30 is young in a developed country where you aren't obese and have light to moderate routine cardio. Just take the rooning-pill.
>30 is young in a developed country
It's true. I moved to europe and everyone out here is living with their parents until they're like 40 lmao.
Zoomchad website. If you haven’t made it by 25+, you’re never gonna make it
I'm 44. It's fricking wonderful. My kids are now teenagers, I lift with my son whenever I can. I divorced the old bag like 10 years ago. Now I just do whatever the frick I want, I have no money problems, etc. No, life's pretty good in your 40's.
>tfw 30 in 13 days
>any oldcels here? how do you cope with getting older, not just gymwise, but in whole life aspect
55-year-old here. just roll with it. i still feel like a kid. i can do all the things i like to do (surf, ride, run, hike, etc)...i sometimes wonder when i'm gonna hit some kind of wall (maybe never?).
also, one nice aspect of getting older is that my emotions don't frick with me as much as they did when i was a teen and in my 20's. i feel more chill now.
How's your family situation? Married? Kids? When did you get married?
At what age would you advise men to take the responsibility of a wife/kids/mortgage, if at all? I'm in my early 30s and feel like I'm not equipped enough to truly support a family but on the other hand I'm running out of time
>How's your family situation? Married? Kids? When did you get married?
family is great. i got married at 25, had 3 children. they're all grown up now and doing their things.
>At what age would you advise men to take the responsibility of a wife/kids/mortgage, if at all?
i don't think there's a particular age for starting a family, etc. i think there's always going to be uncertainty, so if you wait until you've got all your ducks in a row, it might be too late (eg: you might not *ever* get all your ducks in a row). so, you just have to weigh the situation and decide if the risk is worth it. also, you never know exactly *when* you're gonna meet that girl that makes the thing click in your head that makes you want/need to have children with her...you might meet her before you're ready, and then you'll have a tough decision to make. or you might get all your ducks in a row and then never meet her. :/
>I'm in my early 30s and feel like I'm not equipped enough to truly support a family but on the other hand I'm running out of time
in all honesty, i definitely did not feel equipped to start a family when i got married, but i had confidence in myself that i would figure it out...and, luckily, i did haha (knock on wood).
I just turned 31. Better shape than I've ever been in, more money than I've ever had, most stable relationship as well. Idk put the work in today and tomorrow dont look so bad
I just started a new job, and found out two days ago that I'm the oldest employee at our location.
Talk about feeling old...
then again, I'm also the most buffed employee at our location by a bit.
As a 35 year old I look down on most twenty-somethings and their pathetic lives. If you think life gets worse at that point already you are probably doing it wrong.
Well aren't you just a bundle of sunshine
I'll be more positive: Say you are in your twenties and you are afraid of becoming "older" already, you have to ask yourself, what exactly is going to get worse in the near future? Are you really already peaking in all aspects of life? If not, then you have so much more to look forward to since almost everything can (and should) still improve. If you are only clinging onto youth you're missing the bigger picture.
I'm 35. So my my 30s have been great as far as career, relationships, life goals etc are concerned.
However, I do have an ever present existential crisis lingering in my mind.
If I live to be 90 I have less than 2,900 weeks of life left and they just continue to fly by. I envy people who are religious, because the thought of not existing terrifies me. Not enough to stop me living my life. I ride a motorbike and do other arguably dangerous things that put me at greater risk of death. But late at night, usually right before I close my eyes, I often think one day I just won't exist. That shit is haunting and becomes more haunting as the weeks slowly tick away.
worrying about getting older as a man is extremely embarrassing tbh
you can get everything you like about youth at any age if you're a man, as long as you have your shit together and don't let yourself go. the only difference is that when you were young it was sort of handed to you due to circumstances and the social dynamics of school/college, and now that you have to rely on your own resources to make it happen a lot of men realize how little they actually bring to the table as individuals so they start thinking that life is over at 25. sad!
Being young is a state of mind
>Being young is a state of mind
Aging has been solved, do your research brainlet. Anyone that dies before 120 minimum right now is doing it willingly. And your body will still function normally well into the end, if you're not being a turbo goy consumer
well I'm 45 but told I look younger like mid 30's, have some grey hairs but not as much as others my age and I also mog a lot of guys my age. fI have a lot of work to do still but I'm committed. Been lifting on and off since college and I usually start lifting in the spring and stop in the fall but this year I AM going to keep going year round.
>but told I look younger
stop.
I turned 30 earlier this year. I definitely feel existential pressure to do the marriage/kids thing. So far I’ve used this year to break up with an ex, do some real self analysis/therapy, and now I am thinking about breaking up with the current gf - I probably got sucked into this new relationship too fast. She’s tall, pretty, very sweet, and is going to med school but I just don’t feel that deep “connection”. What do bros? Do I severe ties once more or play it safe and try to make this work?
Oh and she has genital herpes.
Looking at all these responses, am I the oldest one here at 47?
>how do you cope with getting older
Not sure, but I guess I did because there is no other option. I do that with a lot of things. I make my choice/decision/what not and that's it, or if there is no other choice to be made then that's it too. Like with getting older, aging doesn't stop, you can slow it, feel young maybe but there is nothing else to do about it.
I will say that if I didn't have my wife and family, I would probably be worse off. I love being a dad. My son is on track team, and I can't express how proud I feel when he does good. Or when we get compliments from teachers or others about him and how he behaves.
I've felt like an old man since my late teens. Meanwhile my 40-something siblings still act like dumb college students. Don't let your age define how you live, nobody is going to give you a medal for putting on your big boy pants and being a boring old fart.
>30 in April
>grey hairs are peeking through
Thank god I still have all my hair though.
Im 26 khv and still live with my parents. Stuck in my factory job with only 20$/hr to show up. I only finished my associates
Old gays keeps complaining, but there are worse people like me.
34
girl on the phone
>finally called me after i fricked her brains out months ago
she thought i was in my early 20s
eat healthy - hide your age on the swipe apps
lift the fricking weights
I just got single from a long ass ltr nearing my 30s. I'm not in a bad shape but I've been better and other than the heartbreak things have been going ok. Kinda sucks that I had the whole kids thing planned with someone I loved and that went belly up but I'm sure I'll figure something else to do with my life.
What is with this mindset that your life is literally over the moment you hit 30?
My 20s are zooming by and I've been torturously mentally ill for the entire thing. Constant mind shredding anxiety to the point I can barely breathe or think. And the worst part is, I know how I want my life to be and I try so fricking hard to put this anxiety behind me. All day I read, journal, practice, do exposures occasionally, but it won't fricking stop. Maybe some of us are truly just fricked genetically or because of upbringing. I've gotten better but it's still so bad and I can't fricking take it anymore, my life is so hollow empty and painful that I can't cope
it just gets worse. I too missed out on everything due to anxiety. maybe we'll have better luck in the next life.
>All day I read, journal, practice, do exposures occasionally
Btuh...
>All day I read, journal, practice
This ain't doing shit for you. This is a distraction. This is not gonna get you ANYWHERE, its not gonna improve ANYTHING
This is gonna improve things, that is the ONLY thing that is going to improve you.
>do exposures
If you want to actually change then this is what it should look like.
>All day I do exposures, occasionally read, journal, practice,
Well I have OCD and exposures are only so effective especially for different kinds. How many times can I do exposures to my own heartbeat? I get obsessed about acting weird or creepy around my own family members, how many times can I "expose" myself to them? I essentially have social phobia now so I guess I could try to go do things with and in front of people more, but the thoughts and feelings got to be their worst when I actually had a job and was forced to interact with people. I think it's different in nature than normal social anxiety
I don't have all the answers or whatever, but i do think exposing your self to it so that you become so numb to it, is what is going to make it go away. And if that never goes away, then you have to learn to live with it, and to live your life fully, and if that thing wants to hang around and exist like a bad passenger in the buss, you just got to keep trucking on and not let that passenger ruin the ride. Because the choice as bad as it might sound might be to either not have the ride of your life, or having the ride of your life with that bad passenger. And having that ride sure is better then not having it.
You're still young brah. I still do stuff kid me would do - watching cartoons, setting stuff on fire, flying kites, it's all good fun still. You've got a lot of time to enjoy life still. Or not, if you happen to die soon haha. That'd be crazy.
shit man Im 18 and I already feel that way. Im trying to change my old habits though.
That's nothing, it gets much much worse than you think after it. Every year.
gays will tell you otherwise.
Men were happier when most of us died before 40.
I'm 27 with a son and a wife on the way. Just bought a home not too long ago. Life is fine. Yeah i panic over not living life fully or dying with dreams in my chest, but im approaching my 30's understanding that even though time is behind i still have a shitload in front of me. Plus having kid(s) has been dope. You learn to live with the dread and not let it get in the way, i suppose.
When I become a mod I'm permabanning everyone who makes boomer cope threads
not IST frick off
>We used to be young, and now we are old men.
Speak for yourself bro, I'm 37 and not counting myself (or anyone else) as old until I'm 60.
It's really not so bad at all. The opportunities and potential diminish, but I mean your human instinct is designed to make the most of your current situation. No point regretting things about the past.
I just don't think about it. There is no need to cope with anything if you don't put yourself under pressure of expectations. Learn to let go and live, focus on today.
Early/mid 30's is the best time to peak IST-wise, but only if you started lifting in your early 20's (like me).