>social anxiety gym goer here
Sometimes I work out pretty late, gym closes at 11pm.
I see more dyels than usual getting in their 100lbs bench sets around this time, the place I go to otherwise has a lot of very strong people.
Do you guys really believe anyone cares about your lmao levels of lifts? Everybody was a beginner at some point.
Social anxiety isn't so much from being afraid of judgment, it's mostly being uncomfortable around large amounts of people regardless of what they are doing, at least for me.
Same. Also any social friction ruins my day as a turbo autist. The other day some guy got mad at me for using the only free machine in a packed gym because he was “using it” even though he was on the machine next to it. Didn’t know how to react so I just walked away as he was talking shit lol. That kind of thing doesn’t happen when the gym is empty.
I used to have social anxiety so bad it completely ruined my life. Barely left the house, dropped out of uni and had health problems from constant stress.
You will never live a normal life if you keep feeding your anxiety by doing shit like not going to the gym when other people are around.
I had that until around age 16 but probably not as severely, then I stopped giving a frick and discovered I had some talents and latent social skills. Now I chuckle at people desperately trying to fit in while being grown ass adults, the facade is shallow and very transparent, literally just >be yourself bro
and stop giving a frick
The weirdest and craziest people on the planet are able to find people like themselves and form social groups. It's easier than ever with the internet. If Betty (58) can find people to practice shakra crystal healing ceremonies with her in rural Idaho, then you can find someone who is as weird as you are to hang out with.
Stop trying to play the normie game. Accept that you are weird and find other weirdos that you can befriend
I remember being like you.
Just bite the bullet and go. Do your workouts being autistic and not talking to anyone, no one else cares what you do, just fly under the radar for a few years.
Once you actually have decent strength and know what your doing move to a new gym and make friends with everyone. Easy.
Having intercourse regularly with a loved one or even just hugging them for 2 minutes a day can dramatically lower stress hormones like cortisol. This can drop anxiety to nearly 0.
Give it a try.
It won't get better if you never make an attempt. Exposure therapy is a thing. It will never completely go away, but it will get easier. And people are friendlier than you think.
I've tried every single mental and physical exercise possible to beat my social anxiety and it's still only getting worse.
Like I can try to pump myself up in the mirror of a bathroom before going to some whatever college class, rationalize to myself in every way possible that literally no one gives a shit and do every mental and breathing exercise possible like widening myself as much as possible with my arms wide open or whatnot and exiting the bathroom telling myself there is no reason to feel this way over and over again, but the moment I touch the door knob and open the class door my heart starts beating like crazy and my head feels like it will explode as if I'm in a near death situation, every single time no matter how much I "expose" myself to it. By the time I sit in my chair I am already sweating like crazy and afraid of the person closest to me literally being able to hear my heart bursting out of my chest because of how much I am stressed in that moment.
Every time the same exact thing, even though I know it's not rational. At this rate I'll die in my 30s out of nothing but pure stress and anxiety.
Ah shit, I had that irrational anxiety when I went to classes too. I didn't get over it but what made it better was that I stopped trying to fix it and just let it ride its course and thinking to myself that it doesn't matter because these people don't see the "real" me anyways. Only other thing that made it easier was exercise.
>my heart starts beating like crazy and my head feels like it will explode as if I'm in a near death situation
get a prescription for propranolol, will stop all the physical symptoms of your anxiety
>I've tried every single mental and physical exercise possible to beat my social anxiety and it's still only getting worse.
ok but have you actually tried therapy?
Meme exercises and mind tricks dont work.
start here then see a therapist:
(click on the workbook)
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Social-Anxiety
I was like that to. It was really fricking hard doing it. Especially when it was around rush hour. But i forced my self to do it and it went away after a while. You just have to push trough it and keep going trough that internal resistance and eventually it goes away.
>get headache, crazy fatigue, diarrhea symptoms, shaky weak legs, guts are trying to kill me before going to martial arts >dont have any negative thoughts or feelings about the gym, try to rationalize the symptoms away >enter gym >smile and greet everyone including the girls >outperform literally everyone in all ways >casually beat them in sparring >go home without a sweat broken
every time
i think my body is trying to teach my mind to dare things out of my comfort zone by both intensifying the suspense and then giving me a dose of test in the moment or something.
>drop spaghetti if I'm not the best person in the room at any given time
I can feel the cortisol spike when someone lifts the same weight or more than me. Am I moronic?
Not at night, but an evening in an almost empty gym. Kinda cute girl who works the counter walked by when I did warm up cardio and we smiled at eachother, then she started talking to me when I got off the treadmill, just some friendly small-talk. Later when I was doing my DLs she kept reorganizing weights around me and smiling at me in the mirror. Then when I was about to leave and putting on my shoes she kept pestering me about this "great 2-for-1 deal on proteinbars". I put my headphones in but she kept talking to me and gave me a very enthusiastic "See you around!". Not the greatest story and she might've just been bored working late but her behaviour was kinda cute.
social anxiety gym goer here
literally go after midnight, there will be only few people in the gym at this time and it's pretty comfy
if you have to wake up in early hours then sleep 4 hours before work and 4 hours after work so you can keep up with night training
It's not social anxiety. Just life stress in general.
>social anxiety gym goer here
Sometimes I work out pretty late, gym closes at 11pm.
I see more dyels than usual getting in their 100lbs bench sets around this time, the place I go to otherwise has a lot of very strong people.
Do you guys really believe anyone cares about your lmao levels of lifts? Everybody was a beginner at some point.
Social anxiety isn't so much from being afraid of judgment, it's mostly being uncomfortable around large amounts of people regardless of what they are doing, at least for me.
Same. Also any social friction ruins my day as a turbo autist. The other day some guy got mad at me for using the only free machine in a packed gym because he was “using it” even though he was on the machine next to it. Didn’t know how to react so I just walked away as he was talking shit lol. That kind of thing doesn’t happen when the gym is empty.
Don't listen to music. I don't have a lot of anxiety but it almost completely disappears if I can hear everything around me.
thanks, i'm cured now
I used to have social anxiety so bad it completely ruined my life. Barely left the house, dropped out of uni and had health problems from constant stress.
You will never live a normal life if you keep feeding your anxiety by doing shit like not going to the gym when other people are around.
ok
Take 10mins throughout the day to sit, do nothing, and controlling your breathing
What are you zoomer homosexuals so "anxious" about all the time really? You guys are such whiny pussies.
Ostracization, being made fun of, not fitting in. It's why I've never had a job and didn't go to college. I'm 22.
I had that until around age 16 but probably not as severely, then I stopped giving a frick and discovered I had some talents and latent social skills. Now I chuckle at people desperately trying to fit in while being grown ass adults, the facade is shallow and very transparent, literally just
>be yourself bro
and stop giving a frick
The weirdest and craziest people on the planet are able to find people like themselves and form social groups. It's easier than ever with the internet. If Betty (58) can find people to practice shakra crystal healing ceremonies with her in rural Idaho, then you can find someone who is as weird as you are to hang out with.
Stop trying to play the normie game. Accept that you are weird and find other weirdos that you can befriend
>Ostracization, being made fun of, not fitting in.
And?
yoga
meditation
deep breathing
11pm on a Wednesday and about to go hit legs. It could be worse bro. Let's do it.
Me too bro, but I just keep going and getting like an idiot
>tfw going to the bathroom for the fifth time to make sure I didn't shit my pants
anyone else?
no, I go there to flex with the dirtiest pump after doing a 4 set giant set of cable lateral raises, curls and pushdowns kek
yes lmao
>when you subtly try to smell your crotch area
I remember being like you.
Just bite the bullet and go. Do your workouts being autistic and not talking to anyone, no one else cares what you do, just fly under the radar for a few years.
Once you actually have decent strength and know what your doing move to a new gym and make friends with everyone. Easy.
working out at home is where it's at
Having intercourse regularly with a loved one or even just hugging them for 2 minutes a day can dramatically lower stress hormones like cortisol. This can drop anxiety to nearly 0.
Give it a try.
>implying
hugging your brother or sister or mom or dad or grandma is still free tho
some of us don't have any gyms near and you who do are scared to go? ungrateful homosexuals
It won't get better if you never make an attempt. Exposure therapy is a thing. It will never completely go away, but it will get easier. And people are friendlier than you think.
I've tried every single mental and physical exercise possible to beat my social anxiety and it's still only getting worse.
Like I can try to pump myself up in the mirror of a bathroom before going to some whatever college class, rationalize to myself in every way possible that literally no one gives a shit and do every mental and breathing exercise possible like widening myself as much as possible with my arms wide open or whatnot and exiting the bathroom telling myself there is no reason to feel this way over and over again, but the moment I touch the door knob and open the class door my heart starts beating like crazy and my head feels like it will explode as if I'm in a near death situation, every single time no matter how much I "expose" myself to it. By the time I sit in my chair I am already sweating like crazy and afraid of the person closest to me literally being able to hear my heart bursting out of my chest because of how much I am stressed in that moment.
Every time the same exact thing, even though I know it's not rational. At this rate I'll die in my 30s out of nothing but pure stress and anxiety.
Ah shit, I had that irrational anxiety when I went to classes too. I didn't get over it but what made it better was that I stopped trying to fix it and just let it ride its course and thinking to myself that it doesn't matter because these people don't see the "real" me anyways. Only other thing that made it easier was exercise.
>my heart starts beating like crazy and my head feels like it will explode as if I'm in a near death situation
get a prescription for propranolol, will stop all the physical symptoms of your anxiety
>I've tried every single mental and physical exercise possible to beat my social anxiety and it's still only getting worse.
ok but have you actually tried therapy?
Meme exercises and mind tricks dont work.
start here then see a therapist:
(click on the workbook)
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Social-Anxiety
>https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Social-Anxiety
gayyyy
Iktf man.
I just got research chemicals benzos I use for anything big.
I was like that to. It was really fricking hard doing it. Especially when it was around rush hour. But i forced my self to do it and it went away after a while. You just have to push trough it and keep going trough that internal resistance and eventually it goes away.
>get headache, crazy fatigue, diarrhea symptoms, shaky weak legs, guts are trying to kill me before going to martial arts
>dont have any negative thoughts or feelings about the gym, try to rationalize the symptoms away
>enter gym
>smile and greet everyone including the girls
>outperform literally everyone in all ways
>casually beat them in sparring
>go home without a sweat broken
every time
i think my body is trying to teach my mind to dare things out of my comfort zone by both intensifying the suspense and then giving me a dose of test in the moment or something.
>My anxiety is paralyzing
Obviously it isn't, or you would be paralyzed instead of gymming. You already won against your anxiety.
>drop spaghetti if I'm not the best person in the room at any given time
I can feel the cortisol spike when someone lifts the same weight or more than me. Am I moronic?
try getting more sleep and limit caffeine. if this does not work just stop giving a frick and realize one day you will be in the grave.
Good Luck
Can some1 here post a story of a comfy midnight gym trip, where there was a cute girl and you talked to her? How did it go?
Not at night, but an evening in an almost empty gym. Kinda cute girl who works the counter walked by when I did warm up cardio and we smiled at eachother, then she started talking to me when I got off the treadmill, just some friendly small-talk. Later when I was doing my DLs she kept reorganizing weights around me and smiling at me in the mirror. Then when I was about to leave and putting on my shoes she kept pestering me about this "great 2-for-1 deal on proteinbars". I put my headphones in but she kept talking to me and gave me a very enthusiastic "See you around!". Not the greatest story and she might've just been bored working late but her behaviour was kinda cute.
Sorry to hear about your vaxx injuries.
You could fix it but you won't.
the trick for people like us OP is to get in love with the grind. just watch stephiscold until you get it
being consistent is the trick
watch 5'1 monkey for life advice.. thanks boss
works for him at 5'1 so why wont it work for you at normal height? if anything you're making even bigger case for it
dumb nig