im 23 and i have no friends and social anxiety
and i feel like i'm running out of time :/
fuck what do i do?
im 23 and i have no friends and social anxiety. and i feel like i'm running out of time :/. fuck what do i do?
im 23 and i have no friends and social anxiety
and i feel like i'm running out of time :/
fuck what do i do?
friends arent a real thing in the adult world tbh
anyways you can always get a mail order bride like i plan on doing. start learning russian and use an app like hello talk
>friends arent a real thing in the adult world tbh
This is such a cope and absolutely horrible advice. Humans need friends, we are social creatures. Loneliness breeds depression, atrophies your brain, and leads to all sorts of other mental ailments. Anyone who's perfectly fine being alone 24/7 is either a legitimate sociopath or (more likely) has convinced themselves they're fine with having no friends as a coping mechanism.
>Friendships are real
fuck forgot pic
Go to a doctor and tell them that.
Lift.
already am
i work as a bartender (dont ask me how i manage)
college yes, bartending
to elaborate, i am able to make some small talk but 90% i'm super uncomfortable because i'm afraid of coming off weird so i shut down the conversation asap
i thought exposure would fix me but it hasn't, i still feel uncomfortable and it never goes away
talking to people isnt natural yet
thoughts include "ok cool they brought up a topic i have no idea about and can't bring anything of value to it apart saying something like oh that's neat" or idk just a lot of the times i feel like i become agreeable for the sake of it or because thats the easiest route for me when im uncomfortable
i also tend to repeat the same stuff over and over again in covos which is driving me mad because i feel like i'm autistic but i'm not, i just have bad social anxiety and suck at small talk
it's always the same few shit
1. weather talk
2. asking them about their accent (in a friendly way ofc), which then leads to asking about where they're from etc etc
3. how's your day going? proceed to nod frequently for the next idk 1-2 mins
holy shit why is small talk so meaningless and hard to do
for context i work in an area where tourists are everywhere
just get a book about mastering conversation
i got one with 50 basic rules but it's japanese
biggest takeaway is to focus on feelings and dig deep into each topic
I want to learn how to make small talk too. There must be a class or something
drink
You will grow out of that and start living for yourself
get a job that forces you to interact with a lot of people
Are you in school? What job? When I was a younger autist in high school I used to hang around at the library and strike up small conversation, you can do something similar.
Acceptance is the last stage
you could try going to therapy for the social anxiety. Noone is going to force feed you any garden gnome pills
Realise that you ARE running out of time. You are rapidly approaching the prime years of your life and, unless you look after yourself, it's all downhill from there.
Start living bro.
It’s unironically over, consult the graphs
For me, it's
>y=0
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>y=24
most people are selfish and not worth spending time/money on, just enjoy to solo dolo
How is that a problem? I had friends and realized I'm better off alone tbh. Get more satisfactions from reading books, daydreaming, and playing vidya. People are annoying, even "friends". Doesn't mean one has to be with no connection though. I can spend at most a few hours with a friend and then I'm sick of beign around them and have to be alone for days.