im 23 and i have no friends and social anxiety. and i feel like i'm running out of time :/. fuck what do i do?

im 23 and i have no friends and social anxiety
and i feel like i'm running out of time :/

frick what do i do?

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  1. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    friends arent a real thing in the adult world tbh
    anyways you can always get a mail order bride like i plan on doing. start learning russian and use an app like hello talk

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      >friends arent a real thing in the adult world tbh
      This is such a cope and absolutely horrible advice. Humans need friends, we are social creatures. Loneliness breeds depression, atrophies your brain, and leads to all sorts of other mental ailments. Anyone who's perfectly fine being alone 24/7 is either a legitimate sociopath or (more likely) has convinced themselves they're fine with having no friends as a coping mechanism.

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Friendships are real

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        frick forgot pic

  2. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    Go to a doctor and tell them that.

  3. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    Lift.

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      already am

      get a job that forces you to interact with a lot of people

      i work as a bartender (dont ask me how i manage)

      Are you in school? What job? When I was a younger autist in high school I used to hang around at the library and strike up small conversation, you can do something similar.

      college yes, bartending

      • 10 months ago
        Anonymous

        Are you in school? What job? When I was a younger autist in high school I used to hang around at the library and strike up small conversation, you can do something similar.

        get a job that forces you to interact with a lot of people

        to elaborate, i am able to make some small talk but 90% i'm super uncomfortable because i'm afraid of coming off weird so i shut down the conversation asap

        i thought exposure would fix me but it hasn't, i still feel uncomfortable and it never goes away

        talking to people isnt natural yet

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          thoughts include "ok cool they brought up a topic i have no idea about and can't bring anything of value to it apart saying something like oh that's neat" or idk just a lot of the times i feel like i become agreeable for the sake of it or because thats the easiest route for me when im uncomfortable

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          thoughts include "ok cool they brought up a topic i have no idea about and can't bring anything of value to it apart saying something like oh that's neat" or idk just a lot of the times i feel like i become agreeable for the sake of it or because thats the easiest route for me when im uncomfortable

          i also tend to repeat the same stuff over and over again in covos which is driving me mad because i feel like i'm autistic but i'm not, i just have bad social anxiety and suck at small talk
          it's always the same few shit

          1. weather talk
          2. asking them about their accent (in a friendly way ofc), which then leads to asking about where they're from etc etc
          3. how's your day going? proceed to nod frequently for the next idk 1-2 mins

          holy shit why is small talk so meaningless and hard to do

          • 10 months ago
            Anonymous

            for context i work in an area where tourists are everywhere

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          just get a book about mastering conversation
          i got one with 50 basic rules but it's japanese
          biggest takeaway is to focus on feelings and dig deep into each topic

        • 10 months ago
          Anonymous

          thoughts include "ok cool they brought up a topic i have no idea about and can't bring anything of value to it apart saying something like oh that's neat" or idk just a lot of the times i feel like i become agreeable for the sake of it or because thats the easiest route for me when im uncomfortable

          [...]
          i also tend to repeat the same stuff over and over again in covos which is driving me mad because i feel like i'm autistic but i'm not, i just have bad social anxiety and suck at small talk
          it's always the same few shit

          1. weather talk
          2. asking them about their accent (in a friendly way ofc), which then leads to asking about where they're from etc etc
          3. how's your day going? proceed to nod frequently for the next idk 1-2 mins

          holy shit why is small talk so meaningless and hard to do

          I want to learn how to make small talk too. There must be a class or something

  4. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    drink

  5. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    You will grow out of that and start living for yourself

  6. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    get a job that forces you to interact with a lot of people

  7. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    Are you in school? What job? When I was a younger autist in high school I used to hang around at the library and strike up small conversation, you can do something similar.

  8. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    Acceptance is the last stage

  9. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    you could try going to therapy for the social anxiety. Noone is going to force feed you any israelite pills

  10. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    Realise that you ARE running out of time. You are rapidly approaching the prime years of your life and, unless you look after yourself, it's all downhill from there.
    Start living homie.

  11. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    It’s unironically over, consult the graphs

    • 10 months ago
      Anonymous

      For me, it's
      >y=0
      >y=0
      >y=0
      >y=0
      >y=0
      >y=24

  12. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    most people are selfish and not worth spending time/money on, just enjoy to solo dolo

  13. 10 months ago
    Anonymous

    How is that a problem? I had friends and realized I'm better off alone tbh. Get more satisfactions from reading books, daydreaming, and playing vidya. People are annoying, even "friends". Doesn't mean one has to be with no connection though. I can spend at most a few hours with a friend and then I'm sick of beign around them and have to be alone for days.

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