Every guy I know met his girlfriend or wife the same way
>yeah I was just living my life and then this happened and there was also accidentally a girl that I clicked with and now we are married 10 years
I am 23 and losing hope that it will ever happen, am I just unlucky?
MOOOOOOOOOODS get this underaged low quality bait shit the fuck out of here
I'm in a similar situation.
Worse, every girl I've ever "clicked" with had a bf already.
> had a bf already.
Every
Single
Time
This described me in high-school. Every girl that I was interested in already had a gf, and I would patiently wait for their relationship to end only for that day to never come. At least I fucked a girl on prom night. It sucks because why the hell would I approach a girl who I find interesting? Chances are 99% of the time she's already taken.
Hang in there man. Maybe it is just luck, but you can increase your luck in two ways.
1) Improve yourself. Get more jacked, meditate, improve your mental health, earn more money, get better skills (like hobbies, cooking, etc.)
2) Put yourself in more situations where you meet and socialize with girls. As a man, you need to actively pursue them, ask girls out on dates. The guys who tell you a relationship "just happened" still did this, they just don't day so because they're used to it and it feels natural for them. But you need to do this. Being around them isn't enough. You need to talk to them, ask for their numbers, ask them to hang out.
At 18, I was a KHV.
At 19 some girl I knew from high school got really drunk and kissed me.
At 20 I thought I was going to be alone forever.
At 21 I made out with some drunk girl in a bar.
At 22 I went out for the first date of my life with a girl who was into me, but I messed it up.
At 23 I actively started trying. I joined student groups at uni and asked girl to study. I got the numbers of 8 girls and hung out with a few, but nothing came of it. On a whim I installed Tinder and asked my first match out for coffee. Now two months later, I have my first girlfriend, a beautiful Congolese Christian girl who I might marry. Keep going man, and apply the two above steps.
>2 months of dating
>already debating marriage
>falls in love with first girl he matches with on Tinder
>she is also black
Lmaoing at your life
What people don’t realize is that you have to actually be out and about to run into a girl. No girl is going to happen by your moms bedroom while you’re masturbating and playing video games all day. Get out there. Go to social events, church, work, restaurants with your friends, the local swimming hole or pool. Get outside and do shit
>go to church to get laid
this retarded meme will never not be funny
Notice how its never
> I was inside my house playing league of legends for the 12th hour straight while alt tabbing to IST and this girl fell down from the ceiling and we really clicked
You gotta go out be social and meet people, half of those people will be girls, some of those girls will be single, some of those single girls will end up dating you, but if you arent social enough thats never happening
Good post.
Yeah it comes naturally, and if you are willing to accept some whore with a used up mouth and holes then you're a cuck
wrong board go somewhere else
if you're already in college ( or older) finding a virgin is a pipedream. especially if you want one who's also moderately attractive and socially adjusted. you have to swallow your pride and insecurity or die alone
It does involve a fair bit of luck, most life changing things do.
I met my wife at a party she wasn't even planning on going to.
My wife is the only woman I’ve ever met that I could imagine spending >48 hours with without wanting to tear my hair out. I knew that was pretty special soon after meeting her, dumped my then-gf, and started dating her within a week. Been together 8 years. Meeting her was pure luck because I truly believe going out with any other woman I’ve met would just be psychological torture in exchange for consistent sex
it's luck, but you can game the odds. the more attractive you are and the more you put yourself out there, the more your odds increase. you can't be on that hikikomori life and expect a women just to fall out of heaven and into your lap. if you aren't actually attractive ( one of my friends is a loser by society's standards, but is so handsome girls actually follow him around on campus just to run into him) you have to put yourself out there and be ready to face any potential humiliation in your search for a mate. I know after a while it becomes hard not to fall into the trap of bitterness, but believe me that leads nowhere. and a life lived alone is a suboptimal life, no matter what cope you may tell yourself down the line
Keep going to the gym, get a job and save money. Sadly women this days have insane expectations on man even tho they are competing for the top 10% of man that are fit and rich. Eventually they realize they are 7 or 6 and start looking for other man. Eventually you will find a nice gf keep bevoming the best possible man you can, and dont stop for anything worse than a seven.
Young women don't care for your wallet, they make plenty of money themsleves. More women get a degree than men nowadays. It's all about your face, height and if you can stimulate her mentally
He is looking for a gf not a hooker. Girlfriends will expect going out, gifts and a lift. Money helps at any age, and if shit goes to the altar its better to have some saved money. Love is not cheap neither emotionally, nor economically.
Caring for your wallet is more hooker behaviour than just falling for you physically and mentally, isn't it. Which is actually the purest from of love and lust. Money always helps in any circumstance, that is very true, but people, and mostly men, vastly overemphasize it, I think because they hope they can compensate with money for their other flaws. I know a guy who still lives at home, a real loser actually, but he's very handsome and interesting, and many girls are absolutely smitten with him, buying him gifts, paying for dinner etc etc. He's a breathing walking blackpill. And it made me realise that I was coping with my STEM career, and that women nowadays select men like we as men used to select women: based on their looks and how stimulating they are, mentally and sexually
stop being a desperate fag
grow your social circle(s)
serendipity cant occur when youre sitting in the basement jacking off
Stop being a fag OP. Yeah it is "luck" in a sense but perhaps you've also heard that luck is where preparation meets opportunity.
These guys that always seem to just "luck" into it? Let's break it down:
>opportunity- being around and socializing with people, including women
>preparedness- being able and willing to talk to women
Do these things and you'll find your "luck" mysteriously starts going up.
Or basically what these anons said.
Also:
>IST-Fitness
It IS literally just fucking butt naked luck. That's the best and worst part of it, you don't have to worry about it at all. If you got the luck you could be doing literally nothing, and one day a random ass girl might knock on your door by mistake, fall in love with you at first sight when you answer the door, and there you are 10 years married.
3 years ago I was a 28 years old turbo incel, now I'm getting married in 5 months with a beautiful girl that worships me. And it WAS all just pure chance, I did nothing for it, I was already hopeless, just work gym home work gym home all day every day for literal unironical years
>marrying a person you've know for <3.5 years
yikes
Its like the lottery. If you dont buy a ticket you can't win.
Yes. School is the best time. If you didn't find one in high school or college, work is an option but risky and dependent on the job/company/etc, besides that you're mostly fucked unless you still have a large friend circle or can use dating apps
This is why I always get pissed when people like my boomer parents tell me "you have to actually try!"
Most men don't actively try to get a gf, they just go about their normal life, meet a girl and hit things off. You didn't actively try anything, it just happened naturally
You didn't spend hours coming up with some multi-step plan in your room, "if I do XYZ then I will surely get a gf!"
Besides, actively trying to get a girlfriend will make you come off as desperate, which will make you unattractive
So yeah, you have to be putting yourself in a position that will make you likely to meet women, but can't actually be actively trying to get a girlfriend.
I'll be honest, I have no fucking clue how most people do it.
This shit seems impossible, I will reach 1/2/3/4 before I figure out how the fuck you get a girlfriend