So I asked women at work for lunch and she asked in what context I am asking and I said at work and she agreed. Seeing that I asked if she wants to go for lunch outside work and she said she is afraid she can’t. I said that’s fine I understand and she froze and looked at with me sad eyes for a while. She seemed sad and angry afterwards.
Months have gone by and whenever she is around me she is angry and sad. I said Hi to her the other and she looked away with disdain. Will she burst out one day and go to HR if I don’t completely cut all contact at work with her or something else going on?
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>I said that’s fine I understand and she froze and looked at with me sad eyes for a while. She seemed sad and angry afterwards.
She wanted you to react a certain way that would tell her you were going to be hurt and keep trying, and you deprived her of that reaction.
Why would she want that?
Because she's a woman who wants attention.
Do women care that much about attention from just some guy they don’t even want to date?
oh my sweet summer child
But didn’t she already got all my attention? I mean I just asked her out and she is good looking and quite successful so she gets plenty of it daily from many men so it seems illogical to me why she cares about attention even now?
>woman
>logic
Attention is EVERYTHING. To them. We dont care about it. This is why ignoring a woman is the best way to get her attention.
Yes. It’s not like she cares about you, but seeing you acting blasé about being rejected by her probably triggered all sorts of insecurities. The way she feels about you since then is probably just some insane gigacope. Don’t try to understand it or her because understanding women is a frivolous and tiresome task that should be reserved to those you care about. Probably nothing is gonna happen but she may try trowing some shit your way if the opportunity presents itself. Unless she’s some crazy bpd hoe it’ll be harmless stuff, like b***hing about you to your coworkers at the most.
I think she wants his wiener now solely to quell those insecurities. As the days go by she grows crazier and crazier for OPs slightly above average wiener. homie straight up turned a b***h, minding her own damn business, into Helga from Hey Arnold… mans got that dog in him. Savage
If you gave her the reaction she wanted, she could have engaged in a manipulation campaign full of push pull.
Basically you react negatively, a week later she asks you out (pull) then pushes you away immediately.
Once you begin to show more frustration, she pulls you back in and pushes you away.
And this repeats until you get wise to it and walk away, or she stops getting attention from Chads and you are one of the settle guys she pulls out of orbit to save her.
Yeah, makes sense. Although she could still try her manipulation campaign now although she would fear rejection now that is true.
Makes sense, she is already b***hing about me to coworkers I think, Kek. Their body language was a bit suspect.
How is just moving on from rejection less honourable than trying to pretend and play it cool by still acting flirty afterwards?
Well you gotta not be cringe and rejection shouldn't even happen. You gotta manipulate the situation in ways that it's impossible to get to that dialogue option for her.
But if you failed like a b***h and it happened, then you just do what you did. The guy meets the woman everyday, so if he didn't say that cringe thing, then it would be different.
But other than that, you gotta win as a man in life and she'll have a reason to be with you. Cuz right now, her subconscious thinks this:
I rejected this cuck and he started sobbing. It means no one else wants him and I am his only option. It means he offers nothing of value and other women see it the same.
So you gotta raise your value now in the job or if you are friends with her on social media, start posting racks of cash money and your rented rarri and so on... Show her your dms, like... You gotta show it that you are wanted by women. It's for her subconscious........
Right now her conscious thinks frick.... I shouldn't have been so harsh, I pity this guy..... frick..... It's just pity now, you know.... And her subconscious won't allow it to happen.
So her subconscious has to be conquered first. And you do it like I've said
I don’t really want to manipulate situations and I want to get the point I am good enough to be not rejected by the prettiest girls while being truthful about everything.
Yes you do, that's why ur b***hing on the internet
Step number one:
stop being cringe
stop raising her anxiety / awkward levels
learn to keep her anxiety at 0
be funny
= you win
That’s so much wasted energy in mind and action when there’s literally so many women in the world giving their pussy away for a simple compliment. If you’re butt ass ugly I guess give it all you’ve got with your Jedi mind tricks or whatever, for the rest of us they’re just numbers on the board.
yeah, a woman will frick with a good looking guy for a day. but she won't be obsessed with him. if it's a marriage, then it's over in a year.
the difference between you and I is that women get obsessed over me.
I think you’re just obsessed with women so much so that you think like a woman now. Are these women you obsess over attractive at all or are they bottom of the barrel “happy to have any dick in sight” kinda hogs?
The higher you go, the more the obsessed and needy. Because at the top, chicks date top looks wise, but not manhood wise. Just think of all the chads acting fem, doing sub things and having no honor in life.....
fpbp.
This guy nailed it as well
I hate women so much it's unreal
>don't be a pussy and cut your losses!
>instead be a honorable man and keep begging for her attention like a starving dog begs for leftovers
>instead be a honorable man and keep begging for her attention like a starving dog begs for leftovers
no dumbass, but if you really want a chick, then you get it. man gets whatever he wants. and he doesn't do it like a pussy, like you
Never shit where you eat anon.
Because women subconscious operates like this. Women hate you giving up. Women hate you being a loser and simpy and wimpy. Women hate it when you have no honor. It's their subconscious. And you've actually made her conscious feel bad.
>Here, study these words:
90% of modern society is homosexual. they do submissive acts like going on their fours like a dog for a woman. they watch other men frick females they want to frick online and jerk off to it. they makeout with a woman that's had other men's wieners in their mouths, their lips on another man's wiener. they do casual sex and before it they put a condom on like a nerd. they would suck another man's wiener if they were offered an X amount of money. they let nerds rule over them and ruin the atmosphere in their family and in their whole society, tribe. they betray their ancestor and lose all the tradition, culture and religion. they are poor like slaves and treated like so and do nothing about it, instead they give up and spend their lives doing nonsense. they act feminine, talk like nerds, are anxious with women and always try to appease them, when it's that which they despise the most subconciously. all in all, they're just morons and jokes of nature and they can't even conceive of what honor is, of what it is and why it is the most important thing a man has besides his Creator.
>What you should've done:
You should've persisted and not have been cringe. Why be cringe? You are supposed to flirt, it's supposed to be a game. She rejected you one time? You keep going at it and you keep it playful. You don't be weird and stuck up like a little kid not getting what he wants. You don't act like a woman. You go and persistent and you win. You win. You are a man. Remember who you are. You are a man
>What internet addiction does to a mf.
Least schizophrenic ISTizen.
Are tou trying to get him fired for harassement?
You can fire me, death before dishonor, and what man has a boss telling him what to do anyways??
I gotta look cool for the chick. Optics.
>She rejected you one time? You keep going at it and you keep it playful.
Nope. Her reaction says that she wanted him to be a manipulative simp butthurt about the rejection, and OP handled it right by not reacting how she was expecting him to. He showed indifference, when she was expecting something else.
Don't give her another chance, there's too many women out there to spend additional energy on one that has already rejected you.
She's a manipulative b***h getting tossed to the curb by Chads, so leave her in the gutter where she belongs.
This.
>Hot software engineer? Anon, I... That explains a lot.
Yeah. Hot women have their pick of dudes. Having her pick of men and not needing them financially means she's going to act like a queen b***h.
Then she'll hit the wall and be like:
>Where did all the good men go?
lol
>she's going to act like a queen b***h
Yeah, but one would never think that by meeting her. She acts extremely friendly at work and has a reputation of being the most helpful and nice person. I guess she is smart after all.
Although she has a big ego. Her first question to me when we met was literally how much you interns make? Can’t be that much JFL.
I have a family member that is extremely charming to the outside world, but she's a cold hearted b***h to people that actually know her.
>If I beg she's going to find me attractive
I summed your argument up and
No, she hates simping cuz then it shows you have no other options to her subconscious. Unless you give her billinos of dollars, but she won't find you attractive then
Please turn off your phone/PC and go outside for 2 weeks.
Calm down
you know, i really think you are a homosexual
I really think you need to take a chill pill motherfricker
you dont talk about pills. you are leaking estrogen right now
DEATH BEFORE DISHONOR is what you should be about. Stop being feminine please.
Gain control over your life, man needs this. And just operate like you own the place. If you haven't reached this, then you are not a leader. And a leader is not a man. You gotta go get it. Understand the differences between man and woman in thinking and operating in the world
You're not gonna turn a woman on and win her if you act like she's your equal. You gotta play and you gotta be a winner
The guy in your picture is a movie actor. Women actors frick little kids. They're all homosexuals and weird. Stop idolizing the cucks and invent an idol from yourself that is the future you. Too much of cuckery makes you be like the cuck
Thanks IST bros some part of me was honestly thinking she cares about me but didn’t want to start away go for lunch outside of work but what you said makes more sense.
>IST-Fitness
Just don't do anything submissive in life
I was coworkers with this chick that I used to buy weed from. We were obviously attracted to eachother but I had a gf at the time that I ended up marrying. One day I go to buy some weed and she asks me to go on a ride with her, took me to some secluded place and me, being fricking stupid and loyal, just got stoned and passed out. She gave me the disdain look for a while until I got another job. Regret not banging her but I was young and dumb.
We actually had a teams meeting sometime ago and I gave her zero attention because I just wanted things to be over with her and not to speak to her again. I didn’t respond even when she asked us a group anything. She seemed extremely agitated. I guess that’s where the disdained look came from when we met in Office. I guess attention is everything to women.
If you still want to bang her seems like you’ve got a solid shot. Just warm up the ice tensions when an opportunity arises I guess. Re-break the ice. Just be friendly, not forward with anything and reassess. Maybe she was just busy that day she rejected lunch with you? She probably didn’t mean to outright REJECT you, so she’s like kinda pissed and uncomfortable with the situation. Just be friendly again, no need to turn cold about it.
I would honestly rather make her seethe more if she is doing all this for just attention although don’t know if acting cold will cause her to go to HR or some shit like that.
I don’t really want a casual frick more like an actual relationship.
Don't try to read between the lines.
Observe their actions and make judgements.
A girl that is interested would have said "I'm so sorry but I can't today, can we do another day?"
She would make it obvious she's interested, but she showed that she expected to get a rise out of OP and didn't get it; so she got butthurt herself.
He basically uno-carded her - she wanted him to show butthurt in the face of rejection so she could manipulate him, but he showed complete indifference and this made her insecure - in a way it's her expectation being denied, and she felt rejected from this. She wanted to hurt him, and it backfired on her. Karma is a b***h.
It’s not like I wasn’t hurt but I tend appear even colder and emotionless when I am hurt.
Also, I thought vast majority of men just say that’s fine and move their way afterwards when it comes to rejection or is this not the case?
You said in a previous post that she's attractive, so she's probably used to men like you getting outwardly butthurt from rejection and then she can lure them into orbit; and you denied her of the reaction/outcome she expected.
She got butthurt because you didn't get butthurt, which shows you she had nasty intentions that backfired.
Men who have options just move on, yes; but there's a lot of guys out there, a majority, that don't have options and will get visibly butthurt about rejection.
Yeah, she pretty attractive, also German and senior software engineer so makes plenty of money too. It all makes sense now. Meanwhile I am intern so her ego got crushed when I appeared cold multiple times afterwards.
Funny thing is I was thinking of telling her everything that I just wanted to take things from lunch at work and I could tell she was sad too to clear up ‘misunderstanding’.
Hot software engineer? Anon, I... That explains a lot.
She probably has lots of options, including jobless gigachads she can financially manipulate.
She's smart and financially independent, and smart women can be the most manipulative of them all.
Yeah, how should I act around her if just want my job and her to leave me alone? Just act professionally without acting cold even if she shows cold behaviour?
Or just keep ignoring and making her seethe and she won’t do shit?
She's your senior, so if she wants to she can frick things up for you.
I think I'd just try to avoid her and hope she doesn't go too far.
Just treat her like any other person with more seniority. Respect her, don't try to outshine her. Basically treat her like a human being. No need to be cold or mean, she rejected you and that's that - continue a normal colleague relationship and you should be fine.
>Big ego
Yeah and you bruised her ego by being indifferent to her rejection, when most of the guys in your position would get mopey and butthurt.
Yeah, won’t be a good idea to act cold toward her even if she tries to be. I guess I’ll continue normal work relationship and heck even text and thank her for answering my questions from time to time to get through my internship.
Sorry bro, shes uncomfortable around you because she knows you like her sexually