>late night with the wife
>are you going to the gym again
>yes babe you know I have to
>I just do
She will never understand the male plight. The burning motivation I have to be stronger than my current self. The look of disgust I have for my weakness in the mirror. Sitting at home, watching Netflix, eating snacks is poison. I do it sometimes to entertain her but I know the second that becomes my lifestyle I'll get fat and unattractive. I'll be weak and a shell of my former self.
Therefore the only way to go is forward. Into the iron jungle and come out the other side lean, strong, a figure of peak virile masculinity.
"the iron jungle"
Invite her to the gym bro
I'm in the exact same position.
If OP is a father then it's impossible.
We have a newborn so she stays at home cosleeping with her
It's just something you have to do. I go late at night once the kids are asleep. She wants to use that time to lounge around, during the week I go to the gym. I do give her Sunday so we can catch up on our shows. I still go to the gym afterwards though.
Keep yourself fit and in shape. It's the single best thing you can do. She may not appreciate the time away from her, but being hot and in shape goes a long way to being a better father and husband
I am in the same boat. I am 34. Wife is 34. 3 kids. She has been watching what she eats but doesn't do fitness anything, no walks, runs, nothing. She still looks good although the kids put some weight on her so she could lose a few lbs. I just get so bored on playing on my phone and watching netflix or whatever, I don't see how you can sit there and not want to exercise. I don't even have plight. I just want to be better for myself, kind of like golfing. You are never going to be on the PGA tour, and I'll never be a bodybuilder, but I still want to be the best I can be.
Its more than just that, and you're right, but its about being the head of the household and setting an example. Be the best dad, husband, be in good shape, make good money. Do what you're fucking supposed to do.
On the other side of the coin, if the wife doesn't get into shape and I get hotter and get hit on (this is already started happening) than I get good sexes because she gets really jealous, also her self esteem gets way lower so she lets me do more stuff to her in the bedroom since she is afraid I'll leave her, so that has been nice.
That's the male plight. To strive to be better than you currently are. Women don't have that. They are ok with whatever situation they are in, as long as it's comfortable. They want you to become like them because you being fatter is comfortable. But It shows complacency, which then they also eventually hate.
Like you said. You have to be the leader. Even if you don't force her to the gym, just her seeing you make progress will turn her towards your path. My wife started doing regular walks when I told her walking was making her butt look big. I showed her my progress pictures of 40lbs down and a few thirst trap pictures and even now she watches what she eats a little better.
Even better when the other dads in your friend circle are the "stay at home and watch netflix" types. I was playing with my son and another toddler. I heard from the kitchen "I wish (my husband) played with him like that". Then after the play date my wife was all over me about how I'm a better husband and dad than the guy. It's that example you want to lead, but its the sacrifices at the gym that make it happen
The "please don't leave me" sex is a very nice bonus though
My wife has been an avid gymgoer for 5 years and has been going 3×/week even during pregnancy. You guys can keep imagining you're Guts though
And how will she do that with a newborn baby?
Can you guys share pics of your wifes butts so we can compare and see whos the winner?
No, last time I posted my body or my family on here people larped as me. Creeps me out to know you sickos are doing this shit
Can’t imagine being a fit guy and having a wife who just sit and eat. God, this will never be me.
When the kids are young you don't have a choice. She needs to eat because breastfeeding is a priority and if she doesn't then the body will steal nutrients from her.
After the kids are done breastfeeding then yeah it's cringe
Women gain 20lbs/kid per average on pregnancy. Then they have to wake up every 3 hours for 6 months straight. I know you incels don’t know this, it’s okay. I didn’t either until I had kids. They get a free pass for a bit but if they’re still fat by the time the kids go to school then yeah we’re gunna have a problem
It will never be your because you'll never have a wife
We are in the exact same position... Good to know there are other IST anons here.
How do you do it with that many kids? Are they all older now? I have a 2 year old son and we're trying for another. I don't see how it will be possible for me to go to the gym on a regular basis with a 3 year and newborn.
I have a 2.5 and a newborn. It's tough. But like I said before, I just go at night. Put the 2yo to bed and the wife stays with the newborn. It's better that way anyway since she's better suited for childcare. Of course during the time you are home you should be taking the baby off her hands to compensate. My wife knows that I'm going to the gym. Sometimes she still tries to get me to stay home, but fundamentally she knows I'm going to the gym
I have a 3 year old a 1 year old and a newborn. I wake up at 5AM to make coffee and feed and let the dog out. I then am up doing dishes and laundry or whatever chore. The older 2 wake up and I throw them in front of the tv and get them breakfast. Wife and newborn have to be out by 8 when I work. I usually go to the gym at nap time around lunch or after they go on to bed at 8pm. Anyone who says they can’t make time is cope. You can do it if you stay disciplined
My son still wakes up in the night, I guess it will hopefully get better as he gets older but if we somehow had another baby in the house I can't leave her with dealing with both. I have about 20 minutes of driving to/from the gym so doing a workout in a lunchbreak will have to be rushed as fuck. I'll make something work I guess.
Being pregnant with your first is nothing. It hasn't even begun yet.
Incel cope projecting his porn fetish onto a discussion for real men.
>I have about 20 minutes of driving to/from the gym so doing a workout in a lunchbreak will have to be rushed as fuck.
Get a home gym. I work out after the kids are asleep.
Why do you watch shows with your family? I cant speak but when I do have a family, thats the last thing I'd want on in the background. Some gnomish propaganda on corrupting the minds of my wife and kids.
You don't have a choice with women. They all get caught up in whatever new show all their friends are watching. As a good husband you just watch with her. During the day time? You absolutely must watch what your kids are watching if you let them watch TV. There are plenty of good shows for your kids to watch and plenty of bad shows that will brainwash your kids. My wife and I probably had to block at least 30 shows for being cocomelon spin offs. TV is a necessary evil though. Kids learn very fast by watching characters perform actions. My son would watch a learn to talk series as part of his learning time and he learned to talk relatively fast.
>learn to talk series
read to your fucking child. mine has been able to read since he's 4 and has always been easy to understand when he speaks unlike most kids.
>life is like a shonen anime
stop using bugman analogies
>there are dads that won't let their kids watch tv because its gnomish propoganda
at least let your kid watch old spongebob and shit
yeah keep telling yourself that. It will ensure you're able to keep working hard to pay the alimony when she takes your kid and settles down with her new boyfriend who isn't a meathead gymrat and actually cares about spending time with his wife and family.
Not possible she's madly in love with me and only gets more in love with me each day as her friends and sister have to deal with the fucked up dating scene. Everyday she leaves me little notes in my lunch. She's done so without fail since I started this job a year ago
Cope. You must have no real ambitions
The dating scene is pretty easy for women
Women have the easiest time getting a date. But they have a very hard time finding a high quality male that actually wants to settle down and start a family
Lmao NTA but this post reeks of cope and projection.
This is practically fedora posting in 2023.
>TH-THOSE MUSCLE BOUND GYM RATS WILL NEVER WORSHIP YOU LIKE THE QUEEN YOU ARE M'LADY
either touch grass or an hero.
three times a week if you go hard is enough bro
I do Push/Pull/Push/Upper/Push/Upper 80% /rest or upper 80%
And I'm seeing good results. 3 days a week would make fasting much harder too. It's easier to stay on track if I'm constantly going to the gym
>It's easier to stay on track if I'm constantly going to the gym
same, been like that with everything
>Invite her to the gym bro
Very bad idea.
She'll improve herself, and have access to better men. That means if she does a good job, OP will be worse or equal to her, which disgusts her, and then she'll look for the better men in the gym. Inviting a GF to the gym is a deathsentence for a relationship.
>honey can you fix the sink it's been leaking for a month
>NAH BABE I NEED TO PICK HEAVY THINGS UP AND PUT THEM DOWN I'M LIKE GUTS BABE I HAVE TO STRUGGLE IN A MANLY FASHION AND AIR CONDITIONED GYMS ARE PEAK STRUGGLE
>I'm cheating on you with Tyrone, and I'm leaving
I doubt people go to the gym if they have a high priority home ownership issue like a leaking sink. Plumbing + Leaks = stop what you're doing to fix it. I didn't go to the gym for a month when I was tiling my basement.
Even with how autistic I am about going to the gym, I still took the weekend off to fix the sink when my garbage disposal failed. Or when a storm blew some housing panels off. Most of the time house repairs are as intensive as the gym, so I consider them functional strength workouts
You've never owned a home or been a husband, that much I can tell.
What is it with all the cuck fantasies here? I thought cuckoldry was a Reddit thing.
You have autism
It's all ogre now
Let a ugly fat man fuck you in the ass while your wife get fucked by chad in front of you with no protection and then raise chads autistic child like your hero and inspiration Guts.
That will help your wife understand Berserk better.
why do you talk like an anime character
As a man life is a Shonen anime. You are the main character who starts with nothing but potential. Your life becomes whatever you make it, how you use your potential and better yourself with it. The training you do, hidden talents you find within yourself. The guts and courage you bring forth from countless failures and successes. They all add up into creating your character, who you are at the current moment. You MUST continually improve, or you'll be stagnant and mediocre.
Goals are nothing more than arcs, and you can even go a step further to giving yourself stats and improving your stats like a videogame.
Continually improvement is a way of life. It expands to everything not just the gym. The gym is the improvement of your body, but you should always be looking to improve your mind and spiritual well being. So yeah the gym is a hobby. A simple tool used to keep moving forward on my path of life
>As a man life is a Shonen anime.
I've never read anything more based
Nice wife bro. You mind?
OP might be an AI
bro it's just a hobby u enjoy doing
Bring your wife and your kids
I like anime but you anime bros are so cringe holy shit. You have a wife but you type like a 16yo, embarrassing. Just lift the heavy thing and don’t get all fucking gay about it goddamit
The best thing you could do for your kids is to have a nice day so they can grow up without your influence in their lives
I watch my soi entertainment in between sets kek
Think smarter not harder
>verification not required
you look ridiculuous
She will understand and appeal when your newborn is a toddler and you're able to pick them up and throw them around while playing
Definitely already happening. My son weighs 25lbs and I pick him up between my legs like an ab crunch. I can do it easily but my wife can't so when he tries with her he gets upset and runs to me.
Also my wife usually asks for me to pick him up from the bath and carry him to his room.
We play another game where I'm a dump truck and he's a trash can, I pick him up from the front, flip him over my back, and shake him. My wife can't play that game
It's kinda like the ox parable, the more you play with them the stronger you get
Cringe you are probably dyel as fuck and this post s reams I'm 15. Taking a day off like she said won't hurt your noob gains squirt
>typing out a long post about muh evil women instead of nicely explaining it to her in a way she can understand
makes me think you're a fake. anyhow, just explain it, geez.
she fucks your black neighbour when you're out at the gym sorry anon
It's truly uncanny how fried their brains are.
This is a prime example that you can still be a manchild even with a wide (mistake but she's probably fat anyway) and kids
>being a fit and healthy father is now being a manchild
Women only ask you that to test your resolve. She knows your answer, but if she can whittle you down a little and make you give up even a single workout she can get you to get a vasectomy next.
Funny enough, my wife wanted me to do something one time. I said no, then she said what if we have sex right now, then you'll have to do it. So it was funny, I complied I was horny anyway. Fucked her, did the thing she asked for. 2 days later another thing came up. "Do it and we will have sex right now" immediately told her no. You should of seen her face. Women really will try to hold something over your head and make you do tricks like a dog. The first time it's cute and funny, second time you're trying to manipulate me. She doesn't do it anymore after that
The irony is that if you followed her advice and stopped doing the gym regularly - over time she’d become less attracted to you.
A lot of long term relationships lose their Hispanice because one of the partners let’s themselves go.
Men must always be in prime condition. This keeps her attracted and also subtly informs her to keep her figure as well. She’s less likely to put on the pounds if you’re not.
Then you see couples who both let themselves go. What a sad state of affairs. Two unattractive whales. Don’t become that.
When I met my gf she was the chubby/bbw type now she’s just chubby. I always made gym and health a large focus of the relationship and my personal goals. I always told her health was super important to me in a long term relationship. I’m also dyel as fuck but I’ve been improving and she has too. Haven’t even been together for a year yet and she looks better than ever and is still improving. She also makes more money than me and I have a shitty retail job, she wants sex all the time and has never been more attracted to me.
Being fit really is the answer to all your problems. But the key is to be actually fit and healthy. Not a bloated roid monster. Women like healthy athletic men, they’ll do anything for them.
This anon has bought into the validity of his surrogate activity to such an extent that he has created a mythology around a chain gym full of dubious chang-clang machinery and its ability to give him beginner gains.
Have a word with yourself
Sounds like you need to do the same
sounds like she wants to chain you down
how about finding side girls
Please tell me women do not really
>CRAWWWWWLING IN MY SKIN
you overdramatic gay lol
>I just do
Give her a proper answer.
women who actually think you have value will non stop try to sabotage you because they are insecure, sounds like OP is doing it right to me
Jesus you went full Reddit mode on her
>newfags calling others redditors
Why won't she workout with you?
She stays home with the baby and we don't have daycare/grandparents
Why won't you workout at home with her? You could use her as free weight to lift.
I lift my gf for squats and bench her.
You do that everyday? 7 days a week, for up to 2 hours? It's cute once. The next 6 days it's demanding. She's tired from watching kids, last thing I want her to do is sacrifice her sleep for my autistic gym needs. I dont have a home gym either, so nowhere to do pull ups or cardio
I'm going to the gym now so she can watch by example. When we are done with the newborn/todler phase, she will have years of watching me go to the gym which will make her going much easier. The longcon, but the pay offs are immediate
Yeah, well, I don't workout every single day per se, I don't need that. I just do push and pull and workout my legs by hiking in mountains or hilly areas. I also do mtb all year round and go to work on it aswell.
If you wanna go full autist powerlifter, then I guess, you rly do need 10/10 gym.
she's cheating on you
Why do you think that?
>ITT: married betas
you chose this.
Lmao, the left chick's hair makes her shoulder + bicep look vascular as fuck in the thumbnail
What is beta about sucking on boobs, having regular sex. And watching your son shoot his first deer?
What should I be doing instead? Playing wow?
How does one bounce back after a divorce? You guys called it around summer that if I married that girl I would end up divorcing her. I’m sure every one remembers my story.
Anyway I decided not to rope but I need practical tips to get over it. I’m at my basement right now back with my parents. I gained 10kg with a lot of muscle in it thankfully. The problems I’m facing:
Lack of options
Facebloat from bulk.
I know I should lean max but how do I stoicmaxx? I’m constantly in dread and fear and females can scent it. HELP KINGS
>divorced after less than a year
What's wrong with you?