>making friends as an adult is impossible

>making friends as an adult is impossible
Do people seriously believe this? I swear people are looking for an excuse to be lonely and depressed most of my friends now I met as an adult outside of college

  1. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Have you made any of those friends outside work or work-related events?

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Most of them outside work. You just need hobbies

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        Such as?

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Well I go to the gym regularly and go to a rock climbing gym couple times a week. Made several friends at those places alone

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            How do you make initial interactions work and keep the spaghetti bagged?
            That's the thing.

            • 4 months ago
              Anonymous

              Say words bro. Thats all I can tell you. Say words that are related to what you're talking about. Eventually you won't have to think about it.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Well that depends what you like to do, and asking those things, what can be done socially.
          I like to lift, but I don't make friends at the gym because I'm headphones in music on the whole time. I don't talk to anyone

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      I dance and post my dance videos online. Joined an online dance community. Met those people in real life at New York city. We just walked and danced throughout the whole city, pretty cool.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        you're black/homosexual/black(homosexual)

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        Oh my god real life step up

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        I've never met a male dancer who wasn't a creep.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Can confirm
          About to start dance lessons and I'm a creep

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          I have but he was Mexican and taught Latin dancing at our school. I was friends with the female instructor and went to her birthday once. All the white dudes there were obviously homosexual, they had an incredibly off-putting energy.

          I don’t know what it is, every other race dances.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          What the problem with creeps?

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Not OP but yeah I'm a musician and I post my music online. Made some friends online because of that. Also made friends irl at my gym. Just said hi to some regulars, took on from there.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Bro it's not that hard to make a friend. I met one of my close friends randomly 6 years ago because a train strike fucked our journeys. We just happen to live in the same area and we had a chat on our long walk home. We exchanged Snapchats at the time since that was still popular and we're really close now. I met another friend in a car park. I liked his car and we talked about the modifications he wanted to make. I recommended a mechanic friend of mine and boom, we're acquaintances. I tagged along to a few car meets and met some of his friends.

      I get it. Its really awkward making friends when there's no reason to ever talk to these people. In school, university and work, you kinda have to or else they'll force you to talk to eachother anyways with their gay icebreakers. It improves with practise. Start with just asking people for directions
      >"Ermmn my phone battery died, do you know how to get to X, I'm not from her"
      Once you're confident saying this, start some small talk with people who work at the stores you're buying shit from. Idk I don't have an actual plan for you to follow because I've never been a shy kid growing up. Social settings were never a problem for me so I can't really relate to you guys but it's really fucking easy.

      However, I am 6ft 3 and conventionally attractive so there's that. I know it's harder when you're short and ugly, but do the best you can.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >making friends isn't hard just talk to random strangers about stuff
        >However, I am 6ft 3 and conventionally attractive
        kys

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Yh but he's right. At least he's semi self conscious lol. Dick doesn't realise people don't treat us the same as him. We could say the same shit as him to the same people and get completely different results. Never take gym advice from generic freaks or life advice from Chads.

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            Also agree with you, you aren't a chad bro and that's rough. Best end it, sad!

  2. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Most are goy cattle eating goyslop. That's why it's impossible. If your """"friends"""" couldn't tell you how the scam called fiat works or why it will collapse they're not human let alone human friends

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Based, all my friends are schizos and woke to the JQ

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        How do you find people like that?

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Its difficult, because when you just meet someone it's not exactly easy to allude to it in normal conversation.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          They’re in his head.

  3. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    You definitely have to reach more out of your comfort zone. Most in HS/College just make friends by being there.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      >You definitely have to reach more out of your comfort zone
      Not even. I mean I guess it's harder than being in high school like you said but it's really not some impossible thing. People just use it as an excuse. "I don't have friends and I'm already an adult that means I shouldn't try anymore"
      It's like saying that since you're an adult who hasn't has sex yet you'll be a virgin forever.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >It's like saying that since you're an adult who hasn't has sex yet you'll be a virgin forever.
        The thing is that it becomes increasingly harder and harder as more time passes and your inexperience starts compounding.
        A 30 year old kissless virgin still has to go through the awkward teenage phase in order to become comfortable with intimacy/flirting/showing interest, but that awkwardness is acceptable with teenagers while that same awkwardness is seen as extremely weird and creepy on a 30 year old man.

        Sure, it isn't impossible, but it's very very hard and at some point close to impossible as time marches on.

  4. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    In my entire life I've had like two friends.
    I've drawn the conclusion that's simply impossible to make friends.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      I have now zero and have been like this the past 8-9 years. It can get worse.

      I made some new ones but it deteriorated after 2 years due to mandrama, bs and shitty manipulators.

  5. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    you're homosexual/girl/girl(male)

  6. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Wow. OP made an adult friend at the park today so he decided to share with the internet. Cute.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Nah. You can be as jaded and salty as you want but I'm sick off all the posts I see, not just here but all over the internet, saying that their life is over because they're in their 20s and don't have a gf or don't have any friends. It's not fucking rocket science. You get to know people by making eye contact and opening your mouth. If you don't have friends ask a fucking guy for a spot at the gym for Christ sake. It's easy to start conversation.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        The problem exists because you can eh friends with anyone, but I can't. I'm an ultra-weirdo apparently and normies can sniff me out in minutes.

        So no, what is possible for you is not possible for me.

  7. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Loser incels just want to blackpill themselves and be miserable and have an excuse for being miserable. They congeal online and convince each other they're right. They've completely ruined IST and even reddit. IST was never for blackpill incel losers. I hate them all.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      >IST was never for blackpill incel losers
      who the fuck are you kidding there anon

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        It wasn't. 4chan and /LULZ/ ruined IST.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          What ruined IST is that the users got older. The well-adjusted ones mostly moved on with their lives and used IST less or stopped using it altogether. The maladjusted losers kept using IST as frequently or more frequently and of course increasingly started talking about their loss of hope.

          It's not some magical factor falling out of the sky or some kind of CIA psy-op, sometimes the simplest explanation is the best.

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            You being the exception of course right? You have an awesome life but for some reason still post here.

            • 4 months ago
              Anonymous

              >You being the exception of course right?
              Hell nah.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah bro, a site which was made with an anime discussion subforum called "Anime Death Tentacle Rape Whorehouse" as main inspiration back in 2003 is definitely not meant for loser rejects, you are so right.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Newfag

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      >and even reddit
      you have to go back then newfag plebbitor, nobody wants you here

  8. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I can't ok? I just can't. I'm an extreme introvert, ISTJ and schizoid personality disorder, just kill me

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      We can be friends :^)
      But first, you have to get a radio, turn it to a freq with no channels and let it run overnight.

  9. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    people get more freedom in time and they dont raise their self confidence and appreciation in parallel to the freedom they gain
    in highschool etc. people arent in control, they are supposed to be there and they get exposed to thing unwillingly, and they get friends by doing what they have to do being there.
    later on such as collage etc., they are less "have to be there" but still not fully, so again they make friends and get exposed outside their comfort zone by just doing what they need to.
    after that in adult age as people get full freedom, they get the freedom to just not having to be anywhere. and thus they fall down a spiral of weird social anxiety as they always choose to take the easiest ways, as they try to avoid exposure to anything outside their comfort zone and as they avoid all risks by just retreating to their homes comfort and try to keep and defend everything they own to stay as it is. this is the fucking problem those most people have.
    be brave and dont shy from throwing yourself out there outside the comfort zone anons, and you'll eventually attract the people similar to you and make the best friends. comfort zone retreaters will continue living in their own twilight.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      interesting analysis on bases of friendship, hs/college environment of requirement of being in location engendering spontaneous friendships, and full adulthood freedom of time and place sending us into comfort zones of isolation and social anxiety

  10. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Well I'm in my early 20s and starting to think it's over for me. No I don't have friends or a gf

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      This is the type of stuff I'm talking about bro. You can't worry about it too much. Trust me, I used to have pretty bad social anxiety. Was an fa virgin till 17, am now 25 and slaying randos so don't worry youre gonna make it

      Was so shy that my first kiss was at 16...and she kissed me first

      You'll be ok

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        Is this entire post bait?
        You're aware that it's absolutely normal to lose your virginity at 17? To have your first kiss at 16? To be awkward as a teen in those years?

        I on the other hand am near 30 and I never even kissed. How did it happen? I did exactly what you said, I "didn't worry about it too much." Guess what, if you don't worry about it nothing ever happens

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah you are worrying about it... You're too scared to approach people which means you are nervous. I'm telling you I used to be the same way. It's even easier now with online dating.

          Once you put yourself out there and actually start talking to people you will see it's not that hard. Trust me. I used to be TERRIFIED of talking to new people especially talking to girls.

          You can't worry about people bringing you down saying it's over.

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            >It's even easier now with online dating.
            More like even harder.
            >Once you put yourself out there and actually start talking to people
            I talk to people every single day, it's literally my job. That alone doesn't suddenly make me good at getting girls.

            • 4 months ago
              Anonymous

              The key to speaking to women is using words (preferably words from the language she speaks)

              Nah but seriously I'm relaxed when I talk to people its just the way i am idc what ppl think so i say what i want and alot of girls actually seem to love it. i talk about whatever pops into my head and it could be the most insane thing.

              Find out about stuff she likes and ask her questions

              • 4 months ago
                Anonymous

                >ask questions
                Hey how are you?
                ...Good?

                Now what?

              • 4 months ago
                Anonymous

                Y-you too

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      funny how this place is considered to be full of people who doesn't give a fuck about social norms and shit and are social outcast but after reading couple of threads like these it's clear that the majority is extremely insecure losers who want nothing more than approval of society

  11. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    The difference between friends and "adult friends" is night and day. True friends are people you grew up with, you have a shared history and know things about each other that no one else does. You trust your true friends with damaging personal information that you would never share with an adult friend. True friends are made early in life and barring circumstances out of your control usually last throughout most of your life.

    Adult friends you share a hoppy ipa with down at the barcade after work and maybe you know what state they were born in. Sometimes you go biking or climbing on the weekend. It is the norm and expected that you will swap out your adult friends every couple of years as you change jobs and transition through life.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      You're such a fucking moron. I bet that sounded so good and reasonable in your head.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        t. only has adult friends

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      my friends that i made in college and some in work are far better friends than high school ones. mostly because we actually chose to be friends and weren't forced. after graduating it became clear that we had nothing really common with my high school friends and all we could talk about was old stories and shit we'd done in hs.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >after graduating it became clear that we had nothing really common with my high school friends and all we could talk about was old stories and shit we'd done in hs.
        My best friend I met in high school and this is still like 60% of our conversations. College friends disappeared once I stopped going to school, and like immediately.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >after graduating it became clear that we had nothing really common with my high school friends and all we could talk about was old stories and shit we'd done in hs.
        My best friend I met in high school and this is still like 60% of our conversations. College friends disappeared once I stopped going to school, and like immediately.

        i'm still friends with so many people from high school
        college friends all became weird gays

  12. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's not impossible but it's just takes an active effort. Most adults won't consider you needy or pushy if you ask to hang out, assuming you know each other from something (work, some hobby, old friend, high school, something). They'll just say "yeah, sure." It's just that they won't follow up with you. If you want friends as an adult, you have to be the one to set up all the plans, schedule everything, and invite people, etc. It takes actual effort, completely different from in college or earlier.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      As a teenager or college kid, if you're always the one setting up plans, you can probably assume the other person isn't really interested in being your friend and is just tagging along.

      As an adult, it's a little different. People are legitimately busy but might still enjoy hanging out with you. You shouldn't worry as much about coming across as needy, but just try to have a good time. This is the difference, kind of.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      As a teenager or college kid, if you're always the one setting up plans, you can probably assume the other person isn't really interested in being your friend and is just tagging along.

      As an adult, it's a little different. People are legitimately busy but might still enjoy hanging out with you. You shouldn't worry as much about coming across as needy, but just try to have a good time. This is the difference, kind of.

      >Most adults won't consider you needy or pushy if you ask to hang out, assuming you know each other from something (work, some hobby, old friend, high school, something).
      This thread's here so I might as well ask. There's this guy from our union I see on occasion, about my age and similar in height. He's real nice and I wanted to know more about him. I met his boss and asked for his work number, called him up and asked him questions about his job and himself as a person. He's a people person, has that very polite "high" tone in his voice. I'm thinking of taking him out to coffee or something he might enjoy. I guess I'm trying to find someone that could be that very personal, close friend that's not afraid to be intimate, y'know? I've gone to bars and had small talk with co-workers and it's nothing compared to what a best friend can offer.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        You sound like a fag

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >similar in height
        Only a woman or a gay would even think to mention this. Which one are you?

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        I could tell from the first 2 sentences that you're probably a woman, and I wasn't even sure why. But that makes the answer completely different. Are you a woman?

        If you're an adult trying to be "best friends" with a single coworker, you should stop because he's absolutely going to get the wrong impression. I have had "work" friendships with people of the opposite sex, but I'm married so the expectation is different from the get-go, and even then I would never invite one of them out to coffee or anything. With male coworkers, it's perfectly fine for me to invite them out to get drinks or hang out alone.

        The only real intimate opposite-sex friendships you should have as an adult are the ones that have stuck around since childhood, and even then I am cognizant and respectful of their partners/husbands so everything stays kosher, if you get what I mean. Otherwise you will end up looking like a creep who's trying to weasel into something.

        Sorry to be so blunt here.

        If I've misread you and you're actually just some guy, then yeah say "Hey man I'm gonna check this bar this weekend, do you wanna join?" Simple as that since you clearly live near each other.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          I should clarify that I, the person who wrote this post:
          am a male, so it's less confusing.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          I'm a dude, just sensitive and have been making gay male friends lately.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        Fag

  13. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Most adult men are co-dependent on their wife and their life revolves around their kids. Leaving them with no outside support network or time to develop one.
    >most of my friends now I met as an adult outside of college
    You must be 24.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      I'm married with kids and I'm this guy:

      As a teenager or college kid, if you're always the one setting up plans, you can probably assume the other person isn't really interested in being your friend and is just tagging along.

      As an adult, it's a little different. People are legitimately busy but might still enjoy hanging out with you. You shouldn't worry as much about coming across as needy, but just try to have a good time. This is the difference, kind of.

      It's not impossible but it's just takes an active effort. Most adults won't consider you needy or pushy if you ask to hang out, assuming you know each other from something (work, some hobby, old friend, high school, something). They'll just say "yeah, sure." It's just that they won't follow up with you. If you want friends as an adult, you have to be the one to set up all the plans, schedule everything, and invite people, etc. It takes actual effort, completely different from in college or earlier.

      I regularly hit up my old friends and say things like "Hey I'm going to be in [city that my friend lives in] with my family this weekend. If you have time, could I take you and your wife out to dinner and catch up?" and they usually say "yes". If they're single it's usually just "Hey I'm gonna be X next week. Let's go out to a bar while I'm there."
      My point was that I have to be the one to initiate everything or nothing's going to happen. People are busy and I get that.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        Most adult men are co-dependent on their wife and their life revolves around their kids. Leaving them with no outside support network or time to develop one.
        >most of my friends now I met as an adult outside of college
        You must be 24.

        Being friends with married women however (I'm a guy) is a whole different ballgame. I have some genuine friends from childhood and work that are women, but I have to be careful not to step on their husband's toes so I always invite both of them to catch up and rarely message her at all anymore. It can be done, I think, but it's a lot harder to do this.

  14. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I hate this Just World Fallacy reasoning that people keep applying
    >Oh, [thing] doesn't work for you? Well, I did [thing] so that means literally the only reason [thing] doesn't work out for you is because you don't want it to bro!
    Also you cracked the code: people really want to be depressed. It's such an enjoyable experience to be sad and lonely and want to have a nice day that people actively seek it out rather than trying to avoid it like the damned plague because it's a trap where others only offer you shit tier advice like "damn bro, I did [thing] and it worked for me so clearly you don't want it".

    If you have nothing to say, just say nothing.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      You can't be so negative. That doesn't help. At all. Most of the people I know lost their virginity late into high school. It's really not something that becomes a problem until you're 18.

      Even then, you still got plenty of time brah. College is the time to make improvements, be friends with as many people as possible, improve your social skills and you'll be making up for lost time soon enough.

      Don't worry you'll make it.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >"Don't be negative"
        >Inane platitudes that don't do anything
        >Literally implying I'm underage
        >Implying all those points in time aren't long behind me already
        Thanks for the brilliant idea of "just improve your social skills brah", that had never occured to me.

        Your next line is an accusation that I'm causing my own problems because I point out that "just have social skills brah" is literally the least productive advice you can give. All is well in the world, your advice is good and everyone who suffers in spite of it had it coming. There is no injustice, you can sleep soundly while believing you offered help.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Dude.

          Your attitude is the main reason why you aren't getting chicks.

          Keep working on yourself...whether it be your body, your style, your personality, your social skills.

          Also don't give a fuck about whatever people think of you. I know it's tough, but if you think a girl is cute then go up to her and start a conversation. The more you speak to girls the less awkward it will be and the more confidence you get. It doesn't matter if you approach 50 girls and 48 reject you...if two don't reject you then it's a win.

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Your attitude is the main reason why you aren't getting chicks.
            Called it.

            what kind of advice do you expect gay? you are like those morbidly obese fat fucks who always complaining about being a fat fuck but won't eat less. you just don't have the willpower to actually do it, you are weak and coward, thats it. after you admit it to yourself you can actually start to improve

            >you are like those morbidly obese fat fucks who always complaining about being a fat fuck but won't eat less.
            Not quite. Imagine meeting a starving man and telling him "just eat lmao", then getting mad when he explains that he can't afford food and can't work because he's too hungry to work. Then to rub salt in the wound, tell him that his attitude is why he's starving.

            • 4 months ago
              Anonymous

              It’s not like he’s wrong. Whatever solution would there be?

              >”I keep being a negative piece of shit who can only see the worst of life. How am I supposed to not be lonely anymore?”
              >”How about you stop being a negative piece of shit?”
              >”NO ITS EVERYONE ELSES FAULT PEOPLE SHOULD ACCOMMODATE MY GARBAGE OUTLOOK ON EVERYTHING REEEEE WHATS GOING WRONG!”

              Or

              >”Man I’m starving and I’m gonna die I think I need something to eat”
              >”here’s some food and once you feel better let’s get you a job so you can have more food”
              >”no thanks that sounds like too much work I would rather waste away and die”
              >”ok I’ll leave you to your fate”
              >”I can’t believe I’m going to starve to death”

              I hope you choke on those black pills and die in the hole you dug for yourself. Absolute degenerate.

              • 4 months ago
                Anonymous

                >here’s some food
                What even is the food in this analogy? It would probably be some guy showing up to explain you how to make friends. That's the hope that never shows up. Hence meaningless "don't b negative lmao" platitudes that are on par with "just eat lmao" or "just buy a house lmao". All advice that would solve the problem, but also so blatantly obvious that anyone who has in a position to do so would automatically do it.

                The only reason why people keep repeating "just eat lmao" is so they can sleep soundly with the know that the only people who starve are the ones that chose to. It's much easier on the conscience than accepting that people are dying in the street and much less effort than volunteering for a soup kitchen.

              • 4 months ago
                Anonymous

                You are just in disbelief that the best solution is the most simplest. Your brain is so warped and twisted by being such a depressing nihilist that the mere thought that maybe if you were just a smidge more positive about anything in your life things would start to improve. I would try to explain it to you but I think you have already dug your head into the sand so deep that it will be nearly impossible to take you out. So continue shitting up threads with your annoying pessimism and self inflicted misery while blaming the rest of the world that it made you the sad bastard you are. I would pity you but that would require me to care anymore about you which you obviously don’t want or pretend you don’t.

                There’s 8 billion people on the planet there will always be someone out there looking to make a connection with you but you have to meet them halfway. Because that’s what being a human means; to connect with your fellow man no matter how simple or complex and if you even refuse to do that then you are less than human.

            • 4 months ago
              Anonymous

              I agree with you completely, life has been unfair to you. Your only option now is to have a nice day, sad but true!

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          what kind of advice do you expect gay? you are like those morbidly obese fat fucks who always complaining about being a fat fuck but won't eat less. you just don't have the willpower to actually do it, you are weak and coward, thats it. after you admit it to yourself you can actually start to improve

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            I know. These idiots are something else. Like talking to a brick wall

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            Difference between losing weight and making friends/getting gf is that it takes two to tango. If normies sense you as some complete wierdo, which they always do, you are fucked.

            • 4 months ago
              Anonymous

              the harsh truth is there is nothing else you can do. they might sense you are an autist weirdo, but there is literally nothing else to do, you will fail several times for sure, but eventually you will find another weirdos you can be friends with

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      You’re a gay and you should have a nice day. Posting anime pictures is enough to tell me why you can’t make friends

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      well then rot and be depressed, nobody gives a fuck, i know a lot of people like you that are miserable and do literally NOTHING about it, they come up with excuses for every advice i give constantly and I had to realize these kind of subhumans doesn't worth the effort

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      >anime poster
      >is mentally I’ll and depressed
      Checks out, kys immediately you loser

  15. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    How to make friends:
    1) BJJ / CrossFit
    2) coach youth sports
    3) church
    4) gf / wife friends & friends of friends

    Bars are a meme, there's no forced interaction. Dating is fun, but only if you can talk about it with your bros.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      She's hot.

      I wonder if women like her are ever able to truly 'live in the moment' though, or are they always analyzing how sexy they are being? Even scooba diving on vacation is a modeling cat walk it seems.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Who?

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        https://instagram.com/pennylaneisthename?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      best post itt. at my mma gym, the strikers don't interact at all outside of class. the bjj and judo guys are fukin best bros, constantly hanging out outside of class, group chat pinging all day, lifting together. learn to grapple, put your life in someone elses hands and become part of a community.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        i noticed this too. my only issue with bjj is there are too many fucking redditors and shitlibs. it's basically an activity for upper middle class yuppies to feel tough without risking much. now, this isn't inherently bad. boxing is incredibly risky and i stopped for this very reason. but i just hate how bjj attracts a certain reddit type crowd of nu-males.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Wild, I train in ATX and the effect is inverted here. The BJJ crowd is far more conservative than the median pleb.

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            where is ATX?

      • 4 months ago
        car sellersman

        >striking sports enjoyers are normal people
        >grappling sportscels are literally homos
        Man lands on moon...

        Wrestling is like teen love, the window of opportunity is short and if you miss it you miss out forever. You only get a few years in your youth to learn grappling, if you take it up as an adult it's just fucking weird.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Wtf is this bitch doing? that bikini is way too small for her

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      >having it so easily in your life that you're about to sleep from relaxation while you go for a snorkel dive
      do women really have it so easy irl

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >this post brought to you by rajeshri, formerly ranjeesh

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >do women really have it so easy irl
        YES

  16. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I just join circles that accept everyone eg
    >anime clubs
    >k fags
    >out fags
    It's kind of like racing a bunch of toddlers in a f1 car. Only drawback is that you need to be immune to drama

  17. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Had a guy working at my old job that was extremely kind. He always wanted us to grab a beer though but I thought he was gay or something so I avoided it. Found out recently that he was going through tough times and probably just wanted a friend...

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      You are garbage and will experience his pain in due time.
      Karma is a bitch gay

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      I try to avoid gay people too. Even ones I think are secretly closeted, but married.

      It's just, I always have those awkward interactions with them like, "I told you I am not gay, why are you trying to bring this up".

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      pro tip: you are the gay

  18. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Instances of me making friends(that I hang out with) as an adult
    >through uni ~5
    >through work ~2
    >through the gym ~7
    >through hiking 2
    And last but I won’t really count it
    >at this one pub in the Northern Territory I visit every time I’m in Australia (one month a year) the entire pub. Even got invited to one of their weddings and they only know me as some crazy Dane. They dubbed me an honorary Australian because I like catching snakes and lizards

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Is it strange that I only hang out with all my adult friends like once every year or 2, max?

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      >through hiking 2
      Explain this. I have never made friends and I've hiked 100s of miles. I do avoid people at the overlooks, however

  19. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Why do you need friends as an adult?

  20. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I have a tendency to have people I don’t want to be my friends latch onto me. Annoying try hards (last one was a fubu wigger as late as 2017) or wormy nerds. I know that is a me problem and that is why I chose misanthropy above all else.

  21. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    If you aren't able to learn social skills in your earlier years then yes it has a compounding affect

  22. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Everyone always comments on how laid back I am when I know it's just another way of saying shy. I find it hard to start conversations and my mind is blank some days, it annoys the hell out of my gf. I constantly feel out of my element and dumber than other people and it holds me back from getting to know others and let them to get to know me.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      me

  23. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I love my friends, bros

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      One in the striped shirt. I'd let him ruin my life and drink his sweat.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >proof that a mustaches is a signal to the gays

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          It's literally all in the ultra confident pose. The guy to his right jaw and height mogs him, but the way he stands so relaxed, yet takes complete control of the guy to his left, radiates masculine energy with a slight aura of homoeroticism

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        https://i.imgur.com/kiAjp7b.jpg

        >proof that a mustaches is a signal to the gays

        That one is me kek

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        wot? He looks the same as the others.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Nice group of lads.

      Does your bald Chad friend get laid a lot

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yes, he's bald and a manlet yet gets a lot of pussy, contrary to what IST would have you believe. He is very outgoing and has good values, and that has gotten him pretty far. He's the oldest in the group, he's 32, but it married to a 21 year old cutie

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Damn. I’m bald and I do alright but I’m always a bit insecure. Always good to see other baldbros doing well. Can’t see his face but he looks like a good looking fit guy. Life fuel tbh.

          How long have you had this friend group for? I’m sad cause all my long time high school friends are all high quality dudes but have never gotten along with each other when I tried to get us all to hang out. They would gravitate to their own groups which all fell apart for one reason or another. So now I only ever hang out with my friends one on one which is better than what most people have but I miss going out with a big group of dudes.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      unreal mogging, far right guy has to be a foot shorter than the left

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        They’re standing on stairs you stupid fuck

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        from left to right, we are: 5'9 - 6'0 - 6'1 - 6'5 - 6'1(standing on toes in the pic)

        The 5'9 guy on the left gets considerably more pussy than the 6'1 guy on the right

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Man I wish I had friends.

  24. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    When you're a loser like me making friends as an adult is very hard. I'm a home body who'd rather sit inside and play video games than go to a bar with people and drink. I don't like big crowds and I don't like meeting new people.

  25. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    This is true in Australia (Sydney at least). I've been here for a few years and everyone acts like shy autistic 5 year olds if you try talking to them. I made random friends all the time in England

  26. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Friendship can literally be put into a formula, it's most commonly but not always a combination of 3 factors, common interest + proximity + time.
    Another formula I've looked up is:
    Friendship = Proximity x (Frequency + Duration) x Intensity.

    Get analytical about it if you want but we're a fitness board, why do you think some of us made friends at the gym?
    >common interest (gym)
    >frequency (go all the time)
    >duration (you're there for an hour +)
    >proximity, intensity (admittedly this is lower, but you're both in conversation range of each other at frequent intervals)

    Admittedly this formula can't account for cultural factors like in some places spontaneous conversation among strangers is a lot easier. The most entry level conversation starter is something like:
    >ask for spot
    >they help you
    >"hey thanks, seen you here pretty often what's your name?"
    >that's it, but you can say "hi, [name]" when you see them or just keep talking depending on the vibe
    >if you keep talking and hit it off, cool, now you've got a gym bro

  27. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    You are listening to my communications and this thread was created to fuck with me
    You are trying to break me mentally
    You cannot
    I have done nothing wrong but you are trying to psyop me
    This thread is only here to fuck with me and everyone else is not a real person or an agent trying to rub it in
    You have sabotaged my multiple times
    Gotten me fired
    Followed me in public
    Sat next to me in places I go and wispered about the information you thibk you have on me
    Clearly one of the people I knew was up to no good and I suspect running drugs under the veil of a legitimate business
    You have had someone that obviously has ties to people higher in the gov teach me a non illegal skill
    You have approached people I have approached and said the exact same things word for word I have said to this person
    It’s all too odd and is a warning you think I am involved in the gov or crime too and I am a nobody
    I think you might even work with a foreign gov
    You cannot break me
    I am innocent
    I have and will never hurt anyone
    I will never commit a crime
    You are using voice to skull to put violent thoughts in my head
    I will never act on them
    I am a good person
    You can never change that
    Leave me alone
    Stop harassing me
    It is a waste or time
    Pick someone else
    You have access to all my information
    And you think I am someone I am not
    Leave me alone
    Let me live my life in peace
    Quit trying to ruin my life
    Leave me alone

  28. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I only recently started putting myself out there literally last week. over the last 4 years I've pretty much just did BJJ + gym. I have people i talk to during BJJ/gym sessions but it doesn't really extend beyond the boundary of the gym. I was tired of not having friends so i literally just went on meetup.com and signed up for activity that i was vaguely interested in i.e hiking and bouldering. Just yesterday a girl from a hiking trip asked me out and I got invited to a bouldering group chat that goes bouldering every weekend. It's not easy leaving your comfort zone but you just have to take that leap of faith. No one is going to laugh at you for trying to make friends as an adult.

    >tldr
    search for events on meetup or fb that you are interested in and just go.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Oh dang that's actually helpful practical advice. Thanks bro.

  29. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I keep going to the doctor
    I keep taking my medication
    Find some other person who is evil to use for your disgusting plans
    You cannot change me I am a good person
    I have never hurt anyone on purpose
    I am doing everything I can
    I cannot work anymore
    I am a nobody
    Why are you doing this
    I was supposed to just have a normal life
    I am nobody
    The visions I see are meaningless to the greater world
    You have destroyed my life already fuck you
    Everything was fine and it will never be fine again
    But it’s only me
    No one else will suffer
    You can’t break me to kill or hurt people
    I am innocent
    I am a good person
    Leave me alone finally
    I know it’s not all me
    You have picked me and other people like me
    We are no one
    We are nobody
    We are not normal and will never be
    Just leave us alone
    Let gods yell into our ears
    If you want to hear it you cannot
    You are normal
    You are the evil ones
    Leave us alone

  30. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    >wah wah muh friends
    you're a 30 year old not a little girl why do you still give a fuck about "friends"
    pathetically low t
    will literally not make it ever forever

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      Lmao. I worked for a guy who talked exactly like this. He was miserable as fuck and pushed literally everyone away and would cope by saying everyone’s a pussy and friends bring you down. He would even sabotage his own business by being rude to customers and driving away good employees like me.

      The funny thing too is a was young and impressionable and looked up to him. Until one day. Everyday before I would go home and would tell me not to waste my time jerking off and tease me and shit like that. Well once he was showing me pictures of some work he had done and casually clicked past a porn picture. Neither of us said anything but it was super uncomrtable. And the final straw was I went on another work laptop and he had left open about a million fans of deprived porn.

      I bet you’re just like him. In fact, you’re probably trying to make the point that friends weigh you down and are a waste of time but you’re literally on fuckkng IST lol. Your post reeks of cope.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      >t. has no friends

  31. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I thought left was michael "drink water buddeh" bisping from the thumbnail

  32. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    You only make 3-7 frens on average throughout your lifetime.
    Anyone who claims to have moar actually has none and is just a people pleasing gay with no ability to set boundaries or actually connect with people on a deeper level.
    Everyone is an acquaintance unless they'll help you dig a hole in the woods at night.

  33. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    How the actual hell do you make friends even with hobbies.
    I've been to concerts and people have been like "Oh nice shirt love that band dude." but I never been able to take it beyond that even when trying to keep the conversation going with "Yeah I really like how they took that album."

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      ask for contact info or advice, not life advice just liek where they got their shoes etc.
      what they do outside of the activity you met them, what other events they have planned
      you might need to rephrase so you don't come across as stalky or desperate, e.g tell them you are going to other concerts later this year before asking which ones they are going to

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        I did. Still didn't work.

  34. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Why do their physiques look gay? I know they’re gay but something looks gay without even knowing they’re gay

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      speedo and you're uncomfortable arorund an attractive men

  35. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Is it normal that I've never had somebody approach me for friendship, or a number whatever?
    I know somebody always has to take the initiative but literally everyone I've gone along with I had to show the initiative.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      This. It's so rare otherwise. Back grade school i used to just do it and not think about it and made decent friends. But now I refuse to and even my friends from high-school who live close by don't try to contact me. It's very rare that they do. Now I just refuse to go out of my way to try to make friends. I'll be friendly and all that but I'm not inviting myself out or fishing for numbers or anything like that.

  36. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    There's a difference between a relationship on good terms and actual friends you'd trust wholly. I'm on good terms with people at work but I would never trust them with any serious feelings like I would the 2 guys I've known since grade school. The former is often just a social game people play to get good deals on something like knowing when a nice house is going up for sale or "Hey, maaan, can I borrow your truck? I'm moving." FFS, half the time in these relationships everyone gossips and talks dhit the second the other person is out if the room. IDK, maybe normalfags just live for drama, attention, and validation in the easiest forms in their basic lives.

  37. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Are they really friends? Would you keep in contact with them for 10+ years after moving to another city?

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      OP is confusing acquaintances for friends

  38. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's not impossible, but it's sure as fuck a lot harder. In general, the friendships you make already need to have a starting point that they branch from. For instance, making new friends through mutual friends you already have, or meeting other parents that both your kids go to the same school/activity/whatever, etc. Work is awkward to make friends through though, because you can never really open up and truly be yourself because there's always the possibility of repercussions, or at least awkwardness at work.

  39. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    You can still make friends but they won't be as close as your childhood ones.

  40. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    > I swear people are looking for an excuse to be lonely and depressed
    Correct.

  41. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I have literally never had a friend in my life
    Not as an adult
    Not in college
    Not in high school
    Not in elementary school
    I've always been an outcast
    Now I just wage and wither away
    I hate myself so much it's unreal

  42. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I make friends sometimes. They just hardly ever want to see me, hang out with me, or invite me anywhere, and sometimes when I do see them they laugh at me and make fun of me for not talking very much, or for my autistic sense of humor, lack of social skills, etc.

  43. 4 months ago
    car sellersman

    Friends are overrated. "Oh yeah I know that guy, he's cool" is way better. I don't want to hear about your problems, I don't want to tell you mine, your family doesn't matter to me, and I don't want to hear about your hopes and dreams. I just wanna know you aren't a piece of shit and I can trust you to reciprocate invites to each others' recreational outings and call in favors for each other.

    How to be a good friend:
    >tell funny jokes
    >Don't talk about religion, politics, or your family
    >Bring a six pack and help your bro move some furniture into his apartment n shit
    >Invite a bro out if you're gonna watch the game or something
    >Refer people to your bros for business, ask that they do the same for you
    >If a bro gets to comfortable and be tellin u too much personal shit be like damn bro you need a gf and shut that shit down

  44. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    OP Confirmed as gay.

    *Friends
    *Two men in speedos

    Jesus christ you low iq low t motherfucker.

  45. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I don't think I've ever met somebody who didn't annoy me to some degree
    I'm just meant to be loner, I'd rather read about esoteric hobby shit over the weekend than hang out and socialize

    I'm an incel though so I wouldn't recommend it if you desire a normie life

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