Like the title says, she’s fucking up my efforts. I’m in a cut and lifting weights weekly, I originally was doing a five day split but she’s complained that she gets off work earlier on Fridays and wants to hang out. I’m happy to go first thing in the morning, but she doesn’t want to be woken up super early. Fine, 4 day split.
I make my own lunches, just basic chicken and rice plus protein shake. She doesn’t let me cook meals, and although she generally is fine cooking healthyish stuff she doesn’t track ingredients or let me weigh them to keep track myself because it throws off her rhythm. She won’t use a recipe, she “eyeballs” everything and never makes anything consistent. God forbid we have leftovers or I have to take them to work with me or she gets offended that I don’t like her cooking.
I’m still making progress, but if I could lift five days a week instead of four and eat way more precisely I’d be getting there even faster. All she’s doing is holding me up because she can’t cook proportionately or tolerate me doing shit on my own
Part of being in a relationship is trusting her to do stuff for you and you do stuff for her. If you do everything then it causes anxiety for her. You can focus on other stuff while she cooks. What are you mr olympia? Just cut a bit slower and enjoy the process. You think your gf is the problem but it is 100% you.
Im no expert on women but it is usually considered a nice thing when she cooks for you.
That said in your situation I'd her to fuck off. If she wants to do something nice she can cook a fancy dish on a weekend or something
Worse, you're replying to A WOMAN.
She won't let him workout either, dipshit. He needs to drop her.
she wants 1 day where they can hang and he’s still working out 4 days a week. really not that much of a compromise for a healthy relationship
Kek how stupid. You think after he gives her that 1 day its gonna stop? No he's gonna stop going to the gym within a year. You don't compromise because if you give an inch they'll take a mile. It amusing when guys always say you have to compromise in a relationship but you never hear a woman talking about how she'll compromise something.
If only women were like men, you would be right. But, as
points out, you give them an inch and they take a mile. She's not asking for a single concession, but rather beginning a long crusade against his freedom and independence, with the single day and cooking being only the first of the many future concessions she will wring from him. They cannot sit still, whether they're waking you up at 8 on the weekend to grab brunch, pulling you out of comfy weekend relaxation time to go shopping for decorations you'll spend the rest of the day putting up, or continuously leveraging their feminine charms so that you're gradually doing less of what you want and more of what she wants. To top it all off, if you're fool enough to go along with it, her pussy will dry up and she will utterly fucking despise you without even understanding why, whereas telling her to fuck off at step 1 makes her upset but also keeps her attraction going.
You have 12 - 16 hours after you end a shift, lifting for an hour - because let's be honest, OP isn't lifting heavy or long if he's on a 5 day split - won't impact the possibility of spending time together.
OP's gf is just a stupid bitch.
>My gf is sabotaging me because I'm trying to make my entire life about lifting and taking it super seriously. Whereas she is trying to add love, variety, and relaxation into my life but I'm too obsessed with fitness and "progress" that I went to a gay fitness message board and complained about her.
Ehh seems like he wont understand whats really happening until its too late.
>Haha yeah! What a bitch! Wait, so she doesnt let you get a pump???
>love, variety and "relaxation"
take that dildo out when you are talking to me boy.
>. Whereas she is trying to add love, variety, and relaxation into my life
actually he is right in this one. women WANT to add value to your life. lifting in nature is meaningless and procreation is the only thing that matters. why go lift when you already have a girl? its obsession and a waste of time. the only acceptable truth is to go the gym twice a week max
Found the low test beta virgin
Lol just eat less of whatever she cooks. As for her not wanting you to go to the gym early morning.. Well, fuck that. Just go. Not really fair that she wants you to change your friday schedule for her and isn't also willing to compromise for you on that end.
Part of being in a relationship is compromising. Rework your routine so you’re still getting the same volume in 4 days instead of 5. Don’t sweat a few extra calories when she cooks. If you’re really worried about it, just skip meals to make up for the extra calories.
I’d hardly call what she’s doing sabotaging. It’s not like she’s telling you “I don’t like guys with muscles,” feeding you candy and telling you that you can’t go to the gym at all.
>Part of being in a relationship is compromising
are you a woman? serious question.
get urself a gf who understands how important exercise/lifting is to the wellbeing, she should be proud you go fridays...I know I was proud when my ex would ask me to wait a bit because she was exercising before seeing me. Happened way too little tho, and thats why shes my ex
Just talk and explain to her
How about you stop being a gay and simply do what's right for you?
Tell her to measure what she cooks or start cooking yourself.
>She doesn’t let me cook meals
Does she stand in front of the kitchen with an assault rifle? Simply walk up to the kitchen and cook your own shit bro
My ex used to constantly sabotage me by making high calory dishes like lasagna until I put a stop to it.
I'm married and theres no reason why you can't make your own breakfast and lunch. Dinner on the other hand you should expect to eat what the family is eating and enjoy this time bonding.
As for her wanting to spend time with you after work on Fridays. You should honestly appeiciate that she 2ants to so this and change your 5th day to early in the morning or do something late at night.
Woman are gains goblins and you knew this already.
>She won’t use a recipe, she “eyeballs” everything and never makes anything consistent.
based freestyle cook
I was in a relationship like this before. Dont start changing yourself and what you enjoy just for her because you will eventually resent her for it.
At most find a way to both be happy but DO NOT let her change you.
This is exactly how resentment starts.
>she gets off work earlier on Fridays and wants to hang out.
ive never had a gf. so why dont you just tell her you're lifting
eat a portion of her food then throw the rest of it in the trash
Sounds like you're just a bitch
I have a fetish for a girl trying to sabotage my weight loss and then shaming me from being fat by tickle torturing me
This is just classic woman moving in on your time, attention and changing your routine because she believes she's entitled to it. You do not cave to her demands, because if you do it won't stop. And a year later you will be fat, out of shape and she will dump you because you don't look like you do when you started dating. You never cave either she accepts your routine and stays or she leaves.
You need to put your foot down. Tell her if she doesnt like it then we can end the relationship
>You need to put your foot down
not everyone is a footfag. you fucking degenerate coombrain.
Shutup or I'll put my foot up your ass
have a nice day.
my wife has been getting in the way of my exercise for 25 years now. it's generally worth the trouble. just get creative and flexible about how you use your time. women will adapt with time, they won't need your time as much. I honestly can't imagine my wife making a demand on my time for company at this point beyond asking me to do an errand for her.
Maybe if you weren't a pussy and told her no from the start yiu wouldn't have to deal with 25 years of nagging on your exercise.
-complains on fridays
-complains about morning workouts
-doesn't let you cook
-doesn't let you weigh food
-weighing throws off her "rhythm"
-offended if you voice opinion about possibly taking her food to work
Sounds like you need to dump this controlling woman. jfc anon!
sounds like your gf needs to get a life bro
>girls cooks for you
its all so tiresome
>femoid cooks up some goyslop with 1g of protein and 1000g of carbs
>some cuck on 4chinz: "OH MY GERRRDDD WHY U COMPLAININ"
>She doesn’t let me cook meals
*sound of a whip*
you let a woman decide whether you cook your own meals? NGMI
i miss my ex a lot but reading threads like this im glad i broke up with her ass
Ignore her and work out as usual
lift weights at night when shes asleep
1. You're a bitch for letting someone else stop you from doing what you want.
2. You're a gay for not appreciating the fact that your girl can cook decently healthy food which saves you time and allows for bonding (this board is constantly screeching about traditional gender roles and family units so fuck you if you disagree)
3. You wont make gains any faster by training more often because muscles dont atrophy after 2 rest days like most gym bros dogmatically believe. In fact, you are probably overtraining (read training like a bitch and too often) and could use more rest days.
rest days turn into rest months when i do them
>noooo my girlfriend wants to spend time with me and cook for me save me IST
you people are fucking insufferable
>She doesn’t let me cook meals
Imagine letting a woman dominate you like that. You're her bitch, gay, and she's more of a man than you.
You'd make more progress chowing down on her (delicious cooking), lifting full body 3x a week, and doing some short runs on the off days.
Then once you get jacked you convince her that having a home gym is ideal for maximizing your gains as the household defender and put a squat rack in the living room.