Picrel is literally me. WHAT DO?

>I started strenght training three years ago
>I am fit, people at the swimmingpool mires
>I still having low self steem, I avoid confrontation and I am afraid to fight
Anon, I ask for advice because I feel miserable. I am better than when I was a lanklet, but I still being a bug like picrel. What to do? Is there a way to train bravery?
Thanks.

  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

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    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Wew. Thanks, brother.

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just jump on gear and do cocaine. What do you have to lose?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >What do you have to lose?
      Health?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      based self destructor

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      This but unironically. It will fix you for the small price of a few decades. I did it and it worked, you will break through barriers like you wouldn't believe, it's mind-shattering.

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >is there a way to train bravery
    yeah, if it makes you uncomfortable, do it anyway. You'll never know the actual result of things if you just hypothesize what could happen and never attempt it

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks anon. Seems like a good advice.

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    No elevator shoes?

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >bravery is the capacity to do something worthwhile even if it scares the hell out of you.
    >cowardice is the opposite, you don't do what scares you even if it is wortwhile.
    >consider that bravery and cowardice are both triggered by the same thing: fear.

    Your current chain of actions is as follows: see thing you would like to do > feel fear > automatically decide not to do the thing. First option is to rewire yourself to automatically act anyway when you feel the fear. use it as a prompt to chase your goal, not to back away.

    Second option is to get over the fear by constant exposure to that what scares you. If you watch a horror movie a hundred times it stops being scary.

    Both come down to grabbing your balls and just doing what scares you. Eg: See girl > want to talk to her > afraid to do so > count down 5 seconds > do it anyway.

    Do that enough and you'll get over it eventually

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/6nnF4VD.jpg

      >I started strenght training three years ago
      >I am fit, people at the swimmingpool mires
      >I still having low self steem, I avoid confrontation and I am afraid to fight
      Anon, I ask for advice because I feel miserable. I am better than when I was a lanklet, but I still being a bug like picrel. What to do? Is there a way to train bravery?
      Thanks.

      Bravery is being the only one who knows you're afraid.

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Cold showers don't increase shit. It's a meme and you fell for it.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Cold showers are a way to fight climate change though.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Meme for a meme

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      they help ease muscle soreness
      >proof?
      my body

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I used to be chubby and happy, and got attention left and right because of the person that I was. It has nothing to do with courage. Self-loathing and a constant feeling of not being good enough makes you relate to people completely different. Instead of letting your feelings flow naturally, your mind is only focused on what you objectively do not have. Purge yourself of any "pills". Focus on your own happiness for its own sake, and work out because it's good for your health. All good things inevitably follow being in a state of contentment.

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Do a team sport or martial art.

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    The only way to get over something is by doing it. Stop picking the safe route
    Failure to do this will kill you mentally. You will be worth absolutely nothing.

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Throw out your reservations with talking to people. It is literally that. Just talk to anyone you can, people at work, etc. when you are good enough friends they will invite you to hang out with their friends, bingo. Just be cool and talk to people.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      And what the fuck do I talk about I don't watch shows, sports or other normie shit

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Listen more, ask them to teach you. You can also just talk out of your ass like you know what you're talking about, or at least try, but it is much more effective to LISTEN to other people even if it seems trivial cause it might be pretty cool

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Not him but what would I even say?
      Even if I manned up and pushed through the remains of my childhood shyness, I don't have anything to say to complete strangers.
      I don't hold back because there's nothing to hold back.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        find something
        stop being a useless fucking pussy sitting in the corner. emtpy your fucking head of expectations of what a conversation should be like and just fucking start
        >but I don't know what to say
        literally make it up on the spot
        >but it makes me nervous
        good
        >but I don't want to
        ok then enjoy dying alone in a corner
        how fucking stupid can you people be

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >don't have idea
          >solution: get idea

          >literally make it up on the spot
          like what? it's not like any ideas pop into my head

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >reservations with talking to people
      I started lurking IST 16 years ago. Last years I checked and posted here, in 4chan and IST almost everyday. Wtf am I going to talk about? Memecoins? Hitler? moron IQ? jb? 6 gorillion?
      I am 33 and talk about some TV show, the vaccine and the masks, celebs is not an option. Believe me.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I don't even know what to say to family or the few acquaintances I have. We might have fucked up, friend.

  11. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    There are a ton of people on this board exactly like this, including myself. I one day think they will diagnose it. It is just a genuine inability to do normal human things. I think it stems from exposure to wild west internet in early 2000s

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      word

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        God imagine if that were real

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      It's called Autism.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's all in your head. Literally every self-defeating thought manifests in behaviour and patterns.

    I developed something i call the "I"-Method:
    >Identify
    Become aware of your negative thought patterns. Identify them and how they make you feel.
    >Ignore
    Pay no attention to these negative thoughts. Ignore them. Say "no" out loud if you're alone or in your head.
    >Inspire
    Inspire yourself with positive thoughts. This will overwrite any negative thoughts and you will act accordingly to your new gained positive perspective.

    Godspeed, anon.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      saved. Thanks

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

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        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          I feel nothing but sometimes I do? perhaps I cannot just process it right, I feel no boredom, I feel no joy(maybe for around a few seconds?), I've never had any interests, while i've been interested in doing some different things like Archery they will be gone in the morning like i've never had them in the first place, I feel no jealousy(truly), I've not felt any insecurities(truly), but I've never either had the Will to improve myself I guess? I don't understand why, It doesn't sound very pausable when writing this down but it's the truth.. I've felt the desire to burn my face, I've felt some kind of madness, the desire for human flesh(long gone), I was diagnosed with said BDD but I don't believe it, my face changes everytime I look at it, I cannot remember faces, atleast not mine.. Maybe I'm just somewhat retarded and mommy forgot to tell me. PLEASE MOM IM VERY OLDFAG NOW PLEASE TELL IF IM RETARDED PLS. Do retards go to Heaven?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      good post. For some reason i get alot more negative thought patterns when i used to smoke pot (possible due to paranoia or getting too stoned).

  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >I am afraid to fight
    Boxing lessons. Or Judo. Both if you want. Once you know how to hit someone without hurting yourself and what it feels like to get hit some of the fear will go away. Once you have some experience fighting and have won some fights even more fear will go away. If you want to skip all the hard work, go for lead poisoning when you were a kid instead.
    >I still having low self steem,
    Therapy and making friends. Start with people online if you have to (IST doesn't count). Connect with people who have shared interests online and see about meeting up in-person. Most likely they're kind of sad/pathetic person, but sometimes they're not. If you do the boxing lessons you can start socializing with the people there instead, which will be better. Your low self esteem is more a matter of the narrative you tell yourself about yourself than how other people perceive you, so as long as you can fake being confident then other people will see you that way and eventually you'll Stockholm Syndrome yourself into being confident. The cognitive dissonance of acting confident while feeling pathetic will resolve into you feeling confident, because the human mind will change in order to justify behavior. This is a known phenomenon and it applies to you the same as everyone else.

  14. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    anons i just saw from another thread that mewing works? how do i start?

  15. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >I feel miserable
    Ask yourself why and fix it
    >Avoid confrontation and I am affraid to fight
    Join Martial arts/Combat sports where they punch you in the face many times a day until you get used to it. then learn how to defend yourself from these punches, then learn how to punch back. There's no easy way out, but if you are willing to put the effort, you'll be better than 70% of people out there

  16. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    It seems like you're just missing the T. You've got enough T for your muscles but now its time to redirect a bit. You need T for your soul
    Start talking to more people, especially strangers. Learn to fight, put yourself in really uncomfortable situations, and PRAY PRAY PRAY as often as you can for strength, guidance, courage, and spiritual testosterone from God.

    Still, for all of these to work you also have to change your mindset.
    YOU are and want to be in control of your attitude. Circumstances cannot shake you. Watch how Thomas Shelby behaves in Peaaky Blinders, and watch Ferris Bueller's Day Off to understand what I mean.

    YOU are in control when YOU not only take initiative but remain calm when people try to push you around.

    Psalm 26:1 SAAS LXX
    >The Lord is my light and my savior; whom shall I fear?
    >The Lord is the defender of my life; whom shall I dread?

    Live by these verses. With God in your walk, nobody can shake you. Still, also understand this walk will change your life, it's a dynamic relationship which will free you in the end and you will thrive in life, BUT it is a hard road to master. Best of luck to you brother, may God be with you 🙂
    Love you man, keep striving. I hope you get over this someday.

  17. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Exposure. Implement exposure therapy on yourself. What are you afraid of? Do a baby step version of that thing. Afterwords, reflect on how it didnt destroy you. Reward yourself. Repeat with another baby step.

    This is how a psychiatrist would help if you if you could afford one. It works.

  18. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    This is actually a good look. I see married med dudes all the time. You don't have to be blonde to score.

  19. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Self-improvement is masturbation.

  20. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Take LSD

  21. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Squinting seems useless
    >Not smiling is trash tier both inside and out (get braces)
    >Don't use a penis pump
    >Don't worry about being a Chad or not
    >Wear brighter colors+nice pair of shoes?

    I really like BJJ and muay thai, but it's a lifestyle. You might want to look into it without committing. If you do so much for appearance/confidence/improvement, maybe take some of it away piece by piece to see which one(s) has an outsized effect on making you miserable. If all of them are working for you/if it's not enough, maybe do the opposite where you make a list of things that might be fun (including martial arts) and go along piecewise until one of them clicks or you see a marked change. Find some SOVL

  22. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    If you're in EU or UK just join a hardcore hooligan team

  23. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Best to learn from guys who have lots of expirience

  24. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Go spend a week or two nailing Thai or Filipina sluts

  25. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Anons this happened to me today and I need help

    >cycling through the city on my fixed gear shirtless
    >two girls on a car pass by me
    >one of them yells "you forgot your shirt boi"
    >i try to sprint behind them but they speed away

    Was this a mire?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      you should've pulled your pants away too, boi.

  26. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Up your t with supplements, stop giving a shit about what people think, carry a non-lethal weapon for self-defense and sign up for some martial arts.

  27. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Obsessing over looks is literal bitch behavior. You’ll never “make it” because you don’t deserve it, nor would you know you did if it somehow landed on your lap.
    Your looks should only complement and aid in your vision as a man, they shouldn’t be the vision in itself (the fast track to dysmorphia/depression)
    You need actual skills (not just “PUA social skills”), but skills that make you valuable to others. If you disregard that, you’re just trying to fulfill the feminized-ideal of a man that you’ve been conditioned to believe is peak achievement: useless, harmless, subservient, but a good sex toy to look at. Develop your character, build your skills and network, start actually living for once.

  28. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Get some braces and relax. Maybe go to a swinger's club to see how your dick actually stacks up to other people. You dont have to have sex with anyone. Honestly the swingers club might solve a lot of things. Just be professional and polite.

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