Sexual Fitness Advice

I have no problem getting sexual partners but I can never maintain an erection. I tried working out, drinking, Xanax, gas station boner pills, quitting smoking and various supplements but nothing worked. I feel like my anxiety is turning me asexual. Has anyone here ever overcome something like this?

  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Age, height and weight?

    You can achieve an erection but fail to maintain it?

    Do you watch pornography and/masturbate?

    Are you depressed or under great stress?

    I've had this problem. I found my causes to be:

    1. Alcoholism
    2. Depression
    3. Fucking women I'm unattracted to

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Jesus are you me? Glad there is some hope. Trying to fuck disgusting chicks is no joke. Also booze. Man it sucks I had this petite Indian milf all worked up and I couldn't even come close to getting it up even though I thought she was attractive because I was just on a 3 day bender. Fug

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      get your T levels checked
      do cardio, not just weight lifting
      and what said

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I had trouble with erections and it was #3 in the end. I guess I can't into escorts.
      I was worried about it but then I finally got a GF and yeah. No problems with her.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Dude, number 3 wrecked my brain for a long time. I was obsessed with just getting any pussy that I could, even if the quality of the women was shit. When I finally met my girlfriend it was like I had taken Viagra and all the problems disappeared.

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Stop masturbating.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Stop masturbating.

      Stop using condoms

      >Stop using condoms

      Stop watching porn

      >Stop watching porn

      ^these are all excellent pieces of advice tbh.

      Assuming you can get an erection in the first place, something is going on hormonally

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Stop using condoms

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Stop using condoms

      this
      also this

      Have you tried finding a sexual partner that you actual connect with or are you just trying to bang sluts at the bar?

      If you're fucking for the sake of fucking and you don't really have any interest in the chick you're doing it with your dick won't lie to you.

      is the main reason people can't get hard.
      we think that sex is some physical performance, but i realized over the years that it's literally some spiritual shit. i'm going to sound like some new age fag, but your dick is incredibly attuned to these energies. your dick will never lie to you.

      the problem is that you're forcing your dick to perform when it doesn't see any meaning in it. ie it doesn't think that the girl you're fucking is worth it. it's truly bizzare.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >dick makes you go through all the bullshit of getting a woman to fuck
        >decides last second it has no interest
        >refuses to elaborate
        What a cunt.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          last second it has no interest
          many factors are involved. i literally go soft if the woman smells "not right" (most women do). that could be happening to you as well.

          we men take our dicks for granted. but our semen is literally the source of all life. every person you see was some man's sperm. think about it for a sec.
          sex can never be a physical act because it's literally a vessel for the creation of a human being - literal human souls are inside your balls. women do not have that power - which is why for them, it's merely a physical act.

          if you see sex as merely a physical act, you'll constantly fail. if you realize that the partner you are with is someone worthy of receiving a soul, then your dick will never go soft.

          but the problem is that we are taught that getting laid is the most important thing in the world. if we think like that, we will fuck sluts who are not our spiritual match. this leads to soulless NPCs that are litertally everywhere.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Checked. I've tried to make peace with this fact. I have no desire for a serious relationship but still want to fuck. All I ask is that she is someone I can get along with and is genuinely attractive to me. I hate how so many women like to brag about their fuckin daddy issues or mental problems like I'm supposed to find that shit attractive. Fuck, I love fucking older women now because 9/10 they know exactly what they want, are chill, and can hold decent conversations.

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              >I hate how so many women like to brag about their fuckin daddy issues or mental problems like I'm supposed to find that shit attractive.

              think about it this way:
              you know how women dress like sluts? who are they attracting when they do this? basically my point is - spiritually, you manifest what you truly desire (and i'm not trying to be mean here).

              there are genuinely attractive women out there who hold decent conversations, who are smart and who are literally your match. Plato discussed this in the Symposium - that all men were once two headed, four-legged, four armed entities that were seperated by the Gods - thus there is a direct match for everyone out there.

              your match won't be on tinder or in bars though. it's not going to be a milf that you have a good time with. you won't find them - they'll find you once you desire to be found. it's literally going to happen when you least expect it.

              trying to get with someone just because you want to fuck using your divine soul-creating masculine energy to literally satisfy some animal instinct. trying to find chicks to fuck is literally tempting fate - in a sense that God did not intend your semen to be used this way.

              it's more difficult than you think, and i totally understand you, but trust me, you'll come to this realization just like me. if you realize that what you have in your balls is the most divine treasure, you'll not want to spread it willy nilly.
              just my two cents.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                >in a sense that God did not intend your semen to be used this way.
                I'm not going to disagree with you and I will completely acknowledge my upcoming taker is probably moron-tier, however, the idea of finding the 1 is such a foreign concept to me in our current world. But the idea of forming a harem of women who I enjoy being with is even better. If I genuinely like and am attracted to a girl (could be some tomboy, could be a fatty), I can have a good conversation and fuck them. And having them know that you can bounce at any second leaves them in a state of mind where if they like you, they will do more ot please you. Being "official" is a way of saying that you WILL put up with shit because "muh relationship". Obviously in a good relationship it isn't as bad, but as I have said, in today's world this seems nearly impossible.

                I'm

                Embrace the situation. This Friday I'm going out to some mommy body 40 something MILF's place out in the middle of the country. She is a solid 6 that I'd never show off, but GODDAMN she has curves in all the right places. Her face looks old and wrinkled and I can either choose to say, "Wull... she's not like my 2D mommies or the people I watch on PornHub" or I can acknowledge what she is and fuck her with my full attention and might. If you are watching porn then there's a good chance that you are trying to recreate something you saw. You're not attracted tot he person, but the idea. If she looked like the girl you coomed to (assuming said girl is someone you don't have immediate regret for) you'd get hard.

                Basically:
                >don't look at porn
                >be fully honest if you are attracted to what you're fucking
                >nothing wrong with kinks and fetishes, just make sure you want to fuck the person as well and not act out some fantasy

                1 week of NoPorn and Zinc and you will want to fuck anything that moves. And I do mean NOPORN. Don't go looking shit up on /gif/ to satisfy some craving.

                and while my situation could be seen as fucked up, al I know is that this woman wants my dick, is attractive to me, and can hold conversation. I honestly don't care for much else.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                i'm not saying you need to be in a relationship. i'm saying that if you're looking for something more than sex - and trust me, all bitches become a chore after a while - then the way is through some sort of divine connection, whatever that means.

                i just wanted to help anons out who are concerned about losing their erections. my point is that they shouldn't be worried - it's not their fault. it's literally their dicks saying that the slut they are banging is not someone they want to give a soul to. the dick - being an organ of divine soul-bringing into this world - knows more than we do with our stupid brains.

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              I love banging girls with daddy issues, send them my way

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Stop watching porn

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Stop masturbating.

      never
      you know chad watches BLACKED and pornhub every day and he still can get it up for stacy? if you really think taking all the joy out of life will fix your sex life you might as well have a nice day.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Chad here. I only watch HWD porn. BLACKED is gross asf.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, well OP isn't Chad, is he? He's some average fuck trying to get his dick to work better.

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Have you tried finding a sexual partner that you actual connect with or are you just trying to bang sluts at the bar?

    If you're fucking for the sake of fucking and you don't really have any interest in the chick you're doing it with your dick won't lie to you.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Hm i think this is me. Cannot maintain hard erection, i think im not attracted sexually to the hooker im with. Any tips?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Embrace the situation. This Friday I'm going out to some mommy body 40 something MILF's place out in the middle of the country. She is a solid 6 that I'd never show off, but GODDAMN she has curves in all the right places. Her face looks old and wrinkled and I can either choose to say, "Wull... she's not like my 2D mommies or the people I watch on PornHub" or I can acknowledge what she is and fuck her with my full attention and might. If you are watching porn then there's a good chance that you are trying to recreate something you saw. You're not attracted tot he person, but the idea. If she looked like the girl you coomed to (assuming said girl is someone you don't have immediate regret for) you'd get hard.

        Basically:
        >don't look at porn
        >be fully honest if you are attracted to what you're fucking
        >nothing wrong with kinks and fetishes, just make sure you want to fuck the person as well and not act out some fantasy

        1 week of NoPorn and Zinc and you will want to fuck anything that moves. And I do mean NOPORN. Don't go looking shit up on /gif/ to satisfy some craving.

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    stop roiding

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Like, you are in the middle of having sex and your dick goes soft? Does that actually happen to people without cumming? I have had whiskey dick before and couldn't get it up, but that was years ago in uni.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Some of us are so attractive we can’t get it up for anyone because you’re all so ugly. It’s tough.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >you are in the middle of having sex and your dick goes soft?
      I've had sex two times and exactly this happened both times.
      She was really hot too.
      I think for me it was a combination of
      >alcohol
      >tiredness
      >anxiety
      >sex is way more cardio than I though
      >years of watching porn and masturbating
      >a bit thin dick so it didn't feel that much
      >shame from getting too self conscious about my dick size
      >awkwardness of doing it with a stranger
      Quit porn after that and haven't masturbated with my hand since then.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        If you can be open with the girl that you aren’t that experienced and she says it’s okay, it relieves a lot of pressure.
        No porn + no alcohol + not being psychologically under pressure = great erections

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Did it help?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      That happens to me quite often but after like 30 mins of sex. It gets really soft and i stop feeling anything. Hard to finish too so we just take a break and go at it after a bit. But i rather not lose erection.

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Thankfully I’m a narcissist and I get off on myself being desireabe, so I’ve never had this problem

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Have you tried...

    being in love?

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    you just might have issues where sex makes you feel vulnerable so you can't get it up. all these people in this thread only addressing the symptoms not the illness - try going to therapy for it. very common issue for men

  11. 2 months ago
    Lysergine

    Step 1: Become as Healthy as possible. You want to lose weight through cardio, lower body exercises (especially ones that affect pelvic muscles), and eating healthily. Sleep enough hours daily while taking melatonin supplements, because melatonin encourages Human Growth Hormone productions. Stay away from drugs, ESPECIALLY STIMULANTS LIKE CAFFEINE.
    Step 2: Learn to jelq once a day, do penis stretches twice a day, and use a penis pump three times a day. While doing any of these, apply the following mix to promote the maximum amount of circulation, health, and growth: coconut oil, aloe vera gel, l-arginine powder, and rosemary, lavender, sandalwood, cardamom, and almond essential oils.
    Step 3: when not doing those exercises, apply a DHT cream with either HGH pills or powders. Cycle this on 4 weeks and off 2 weeks with off weeks being on DHT blockers to resensitize your body’s receptors. DHT allows the growth needed.
    Step 4: Don’t jack off more than once or twice a week. Sex is okay.
    Step 5: Use the following supplements daily: d-aspartic acid, zinc, magnesium, horny goat weed, creatine, protein, butea superba root, sorghum bran, boron, cayenne pepper, chaste berry, tribulus terrestris, grape seed extract, and bovine orchics. Take Vitamin D-3 supplements.
    Step 6: Do visualization exercises, keeping a positive mindset. Also think about using affirmations.
    The combination of promoting healthy circulation, hormones that help its health, and tissue health should give an inch or two over a year’s effort.
    Steps 1, 2, 3, and 4 are the most important, especially the DHT cream. 5 is very helpful if you’ve got money. Step 6 is good when you’re meditating.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    erections are pure cardio which IST hates

    • 2 months ago
      Lysergine

      true!

  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I have the opposite problem as OP. Bust ropes after 30 seconds pass and no tragic horrible visual I conjure up to distract me seems to work

  14. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Can you maintain an erection during bj's or handjobs?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Can you maintain an erection during bj's or handjobs?
      yes

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        You sound just like me then. I wish I knew what is wrong with us. The times I did have normal sex though is when I stick it in as soon as I get my first erection. If the foreplay takes a little too long I lose it and it become a problem.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >I wish I knew what is wrong with us.

          I have a couple of hypotheses:
          1) death grip. basically when we fap we hold it too tight. vageen can't match that.
          >solution: no more fapping and no more porn
          2) pussies are inherently ugly and disgusting. they can also stink, which destroys our imaginary view of pussies. mouths and hands are cleaner and sexier and it is a bit more taboo
          >solution: don't fuck random bitches, don't fap, find a girl whose vageen you'll actually like, whose smells you will actually enjoy, and who you literally want to breed.

          in both cases, the answer is to stop fapping and watching porn

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            > pussies are inherently ugly and disgusting. they can also stink, which destroys our imaginary view of pussies. mouths and hands are cleaner and sexier and it is a bit more taboo
            You actually might be gay dude. When I see or smell a vagina I go animal mode and get completely overcome with horniness. It would be impossible to lose the erection before cumming. Your disgust with vaginas probably means you’re gay or mentally I’ll or both

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              not all pussies smell the same. you'd realize this if you weren't a virgin

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                >you’re a le heccin virgin incelarino!
                Nice reddit tier argument gay, I dated and fucked the same girl for 4 years

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                >I dated and fucked the same girl for 4 years
                my condolences.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                Sorry some of us enjoy pussy and don’t have erectile dysfunction at the ripe age of 21 kek. The literal one thing your body is biologically designed to do and you can’t even get it up, what a complete failure

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                >enjoy pussy
                Virgin

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                Don't get me wrong the thrill of fresh pussy is great, but nothing beats the pussy of the girl you love. There are always moments of the grass seeming greener but it's not the case. I only fuck girls I don't love because it helps take the edge off and hold me over until I get another girlfriend. :'(

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            I considered many different explanations and honestly I think at the end they all play a factor to some degree, but cookie cutter solutions never worked, because there were moments where I did have proper sex with a proper erection that didn't go away. just good ol' sex. I wish I could put a finger on what made those moments, well, work.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Holy shit this is so me. Im very much like you. If the foreplay become too long i become bored and my dick will become not very hard. I must stick it as quickly as possible when its hard and feeling the stimulation from contracting vagina to maintain my hardness. Thats why i mostly only doing 1 or 2 position when doing it and mainly in misionaries position if i want to shoot my sperm because im afraid my peepe becoming soft without stimulation.
          Whats wrong with us is this a psychology shit or some spiritual mind? Or this is because of my age? I will be 40 this year.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Idk bro I'm 32 and it really fucking sucks. Like come on I should be hard as fucking diamonds sucking on her titties and playing with her pussy and yet my dick goes soft so quick, it's like it has a mind of it's own, because in my head I'm enjoying the moment, like I'm horny, but my dick just ain't feeling it.

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              Anxiety

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              Yeah i know that feel bro cause thats exactly the same thing happen to me. Fuck this shit. I hope this is just temporary thing and in the future my dick will improve. Need to train our mind, body, and dick i think. Wgmi bro

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              Performance anxiety

  15. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    How the fuck do I last longer?
    I can barely last a minute masturbating to the imagination, let alone fucking my gf.
    I have to take several breaks just to hit the 3 minute mark, and it just takes me out of the experience.
    I have no trouble getting hard again, and I can keep hard through a few orgasms, but I'll cum just as fast every time.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >I can barely last a minute masturbating to the imagination, let alone fucking my gf.

      you are worried about performance, which makes you think about other things (your performance), which leads to quick ejaculation.

      if you didn't give a fuck about it, you'd last like me - literally an hour of straight fucking. i literally had texts from chicks saying they couldn't walk the next day.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >I can barely last a minute masturbating to the imagination, let alone fucking my gf.

      you are worried about performance, which makes you think about other things (your performance), which leads to quick ejaculation.

      if you didn't give a fuck about it, you'd last like me - literally an hour of straight fucking. i literally had texts from chicks saying they couldn't walk the next day.

      I went through a period where I would cum fast with my wife, it literally is all just in your head. I was so frustrated by it and we would have conversations but it wouldnt help. One time though we were about to fuck and she could see I was nervous as I knew I was gonna bust so quick and she just held my face for a second and said "Don't worry about it, I just want to have sex with regardless of how long it lasts" she then kissed me. Not sure why but it made all the insecurity melt away and we had sex for about 40 minutes. It helps when your wife/gf is your cheerleader and not working against you or working it worse.

  16. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Long story I guess but here we go
    >Had an ex who constantly wanted sex
    >She didn't put in any effort so it was no fun and I was just a tool, which isn't as fun as it sounds
    >More and more pressure
    >Sex confidence went down because without stimuli I couldn't get it up
    >Break up
    >Next gf
    >Always stop me before I make her orgasm
    >This is no fun for me
    >Take her virginity
    >Fuck it up somewhat, trouble getting hard because other ex
    >Sex isn't great because she's even ashamed to be naked, weird thought process
    >Break up eventually
    >Covid hits, gyms closed, decide to start running instead since I have nothing else
    >Cardio is fantastic
    >Cardio makes me fit as fuck
    >Decide to tinder and fuck around
    >Mindset of 'fuck it, I'll just have fun'
    >Get some matches
    >Also fuck a powerlifter from the gym
    >"I didn't tell you anon, but you made me come multiple times"
    >Fuck a match from tinder
    >Fuck someone I met at an event at a bar
    >Tindermatch becomes gf, has high libido just like me
    >Our day together the time after we fuck for, no joke 3 to 5 hours, water breaks and all
    >No more trouble getting it up
    >Can decide when I do or do not cum most of the time
    I masturbate multiple times a day, watch a shit ton of porn but have no problem getting it up. Cardio was literally the best thing I've ever done for my sex life. I just walked to the local lake 3-4 times a week and ran around it. I always make sure they come first by my hands or whatever means and that already has me rock hard from the foreplay.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I think I know you - SE QLD?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Nope, not whoever you have in mind. Kind of a funny coincidence you know someone like me though.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          literally sounds like one of my boys lmao

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Kek, I hope he's having a better time than me though, life's a bit shit lately.

            >you are in the middle of having sex and your dick goes soft?
            I've had sex two times and exactly this happened both times.
            She was really hot too.
            I think for me it was a combination of
            >alcohol
            >tiredness
            >anxiety
            >sex is way more cardio than I though
            >years of watching porn and masturbating
            >a bit thin dick so it didn't feel that much
            >shame from getting too self conscious about my dick size
            >awkwardness of doing it with a stranger
            Quit porn after that and haven't masturbated with my hand since then.

            Oh OP, this reminds me: with new people you always have to 'get used' to them. Kissing etc can be shit at the start, but it'll be fantastic after a while and communicating what you like/dislike.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      How long do you do cardio for and how many days a week?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I have to admit I've been slacking for a while on it. I don't really go for runs anymore until after my holiday and buying some decent shoes. I mostly do Stairmaster or rowing ~3 or 4 times a week after my workout.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      tbf shit partners will also fuck you up. If the sex isn't going to be fun or there is so many self imposed rules (usually by the woman) then it can be difficult to stay in the moment. Women don't seem to get that men need foreplay too.

  17. 2 months ago
    Svetovid

    Stop overthinking, it's all in the head.

  18. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I am 28 years old and I never even kissed a girl

  19. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I recently couldn't fully get it up for a girl I was fucking with, it was terrible.

    >super high libido
    >porn addiction
    >jerk off once or twice a day for years
    >start taking fin
    >begin noticing I don't have the urge every day
    >go a couple days off
    >talking to girl
    >day before second date I jerk off in case we do shit (don't want to cum too quick)
    >fucking around in car, drank a bit
    >mentally find all the shit we're doing hot as fuck
    >can't get it up, soft and small and sad
    >jerk a bit, she sucks it a bit
    >get about 60%
    >mentally screaming and losing edge and getting mentally fucked
    >after a bit we just fucking stop
    >drive her home
    >driving home
    >I cry for the first time in years
    >girl ghosts me
    >have no feeling in my pants for an entire week
    >quit fin
    >finally mentally getting okay

    My ego was fucking destroyed. I'm still recovering.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      but fin has no sides they told me

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Supposedly the the erectile dysfunction only effects less than one percent of men. Might even be a placebo.

        I'm not taking the chance and I don't care about my hair enough to lose my dick.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      but fin has no sides they told me

      The first month apparently is a little rough then it supposedly gets a lot better.

  20. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Answer the following:
    > Weight/Height
    > How many servings/portions of fruit/vegetables you eat on the average day
    > Your cardio routine (type, frequency, duration)
    > How often you eat fast food/takeout

    Literally everytime someone asks this it turns out one of the above is fucked.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      What are the guidelines? I personally have seen some improvement from eating more fruit/less takeout. Have decent cardio and always ate some vegetables with meals if not takeaway or restaurant.

  21. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Do more cardio
    Stop fapping
    Hit 3 arginines an hour before
    Hit a 5mg edible an hour before

  22. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >My anxiety
    You fucking idiot, you were treating mental issues with bodily readjustments.
    >I can't speak 3rd century Latin
    >Must be my teeth

  23. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    quit pornography and try not to think about sex for a while. It'll come back to you 🙂

  24. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Older woman at the gym is constantly eyeing me. How do I approach her and make it clear that I want to fuck her fat piggy body and cum deep inside her without getting banned from the gym forever?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      If she is eye fucking you go up to her after your workout and say hey you want to come back to my place? She will be shocked but if you are attractive she will say ok. Tell her to follow you in her car so she feels safer. Proceed to have sweaty hog sex without conversation and then make her leave immediately.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Er it would be best to suggest her place since I still live with my parents…

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          You aren’t ready.

  25. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I had kind of this issue while wearing a condom, finding myself having to force to stay erect and inevitably cooming fast. Turns out the condoms were too small and compressing my dick so i would barely feel anything. I have switched to magnum and have no problems anymore, anxiety solved too since now I just know it works

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