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Midweek edition
what are the effects of alcoholism in regards to lifting?
otherwise typical bar thread order as you usually do

  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Rum and Coke, thanks. New people at the gym means it's more packed than usual. I've noticed more people blatantly stare at me when I lift, with some even nodding in approval. I'm not freakishly strong by IST standards but I've had other gym goers tell me I am strong. There's also a bunch of chicks and I'll catch them looking once and I'll tell myself to smile next time it happens, but it never does. It feels like they actively ignore or avoid me. I know I shouldn't care but it does get to me especially because I've been feeling lonely recently. I'll get over it like I always do, but it'd be nice to have someone to spend time with.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      A girl smiled at me today at the gym it caught me so off guard, then I went up to her and chatted with her a bit. I've learned that if there is any opportunity take it immediately. I tend to overanalyze and talk myself out of talking to a girl which leads to me waiting too long. I didn't even try to ask her out or anything tho I just talked to her with no expectations. Good luck. Also she looked a bit older than me like 30 (I'm 25) I always have better luck with older women can anyone explain this?

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Sparkling water.
    Doing a "vegan fast" as a religious thing to start the year off, but I don't think I can keep it up. My body feels fucked by it and my mood is completely awful. I can't concentrate and my fingers keep twitching.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      what sort of religious ritual is this?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Daniel Fast
        https://ultimatedanielfast.com/ultimate-daniel-fast-food-guidelines/

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          faurk mirin' that goddamn get

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Fucking hell, are the vegans on to something after all?

            God has ordained me with those holy quints. Too bad this diet is wrecking my body.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Fucking hell, are the vegans on to something after all?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          How the fuck are these quints 18 HOURS OLD and only one anon has checked them? Holy shit.
          IST is dead.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          are you an orthodox brother?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Well I broke it. A little unhappy, but I just wrote a journal entry about it and I feel good.
      I came to the realization that I'm trying to do everything perfect, including irrelevant challenges. I know what I need to do to succeed -- I just need to do it and start slower, be better about tracking and reflecting on my tasks, and don't crash and burn in the times when I fuck up.
      WAGMI, bros. We just need to be patient and ride out the storms. I've got some chicken baking in the oven, and will unwind tonight by watching Falling Down.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        yeah stop worrying about doing raw vegan fasts and stuff and just eat enough meat eggs and milk and lift hard and do cardio and get good sleep and stop sweating the details beyond that.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      It sounds like you might need some electrolytes and water. Good luck!

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Choccy milk, shaken not stirred.

    My favorite fat Latina in shapewear is back but I'm still the same mentalcel as last year so.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Rum and coke

    Made out and fingerbanged a girl I know at her friends house, however I did not fuck her as there were three other people sleeping in the same room as us and we were on a air mattress.
    Did I fuck up?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      No you didn't as long as you got her number. I would've tried to fuck her though because I've done it before in a similar situation to yours, it was worth it

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        She asked for my Snapchat that night (I’m a zoomer) I didn’t give it to her then, and I had to leave right in the morning without really saying goodbye. Should I add her now 4 days later?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Yes, add her right now and feel her out. Maybe it was an in the moment thing or maybe you can make it a fwb situation.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I don’t have any text game and she’s going back to school till the summer what do I say

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              React to her story if she posted one and make small talk leading up to asking if she wants to hang. Idk where you live but I've always had success asking SoCal chicks if they're trying to hang because I was bored. Then you kick it at the mall or grab something to eat/drink while lightly flirting to see where she's at. If you don't want to do all that, then ask if she has any plans this weekend because you're trying to hang with her again but don't put any fuccboi emojis or gay shit. If you already have plans for this weekend then ask if she wants to tag along because she was fun and cool to vibe with last time y'all kicked it. You have to be confident and accept if what happened was a one time thing.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Never had any problems with alcohol as I have been to so few parties. Gotta take the good with the bad I guess.
    I'm probably depressed, but I think I have been having some mild depression for quite long. Don't really have energy to do much. Even things that are easily done like putting some things I have laying around up for sale, or applying for a job. Hope to get out of this runt and at least get the job thing done this month.
    Trying to avoid sweets and snacks this month for a start, been going good so far. Doing nofap too, that's also going good. Sleep schedule is still fucked, need to start working on that too.
    Trying to get myself to the gym at least three times a week, been going to plan this week at least. Arms on Monday and a SL pass today.
    The general plan I wish to achieve this spring is to cut some fat and try out some dating app, as the tfw no gf has been hitting harder and harder with the years.
    I honestly don't have high hopes in succeeding with anything of this, except the job part. But there's a glimmer of hope.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >what are the effects of alcoholism in regards to lifting?
    maintaining a non-drunk blood alcohol level is good
    being drunk, ever, is bad.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I finally snapped. I’m on day 3 of a crash diet. I did this in the past for over a year to get lean. I stayed sub 15% body fat for half a decade. Fell off my horse into a hole. I have nothing. I have no one. I’m not going to continue slow cutting until I’m in the teen body fat %’s. I did the one thing I promised myself I would never do and got fat again. Not nearly as fat as I once was but still super fucking fat. I can’t be fucked to lose 1lb/week when I have to lose like 50 just to be normal person sized again.

    And it feels so effortless with my crash diet methods. I’m doing this so I can go into the military because I have no job or skills and seriously need to whip my ass into shape. First things first I need to drop a ton of fat just to be healthy enough to get in, as well as light enough to actually run at all.

    Idk what the point is. I technically yo-up’d because I only did it all for pussy and once I started getting it I grew complacent and realized pussy isn’t all that. All I know is I’m miserable living like this. I know I’m a hell of a lot happier when I’m lean. If the military gives me a career and allows me to start a life then I’ll be even happier.

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      >Fell off my horse into a hole. I have nothing. I have no one. I’m not going to continue slow cutting until I’m in the teen body fat %’s. I did the one thing I promised myself I would never do and got fat again.
      i know the feel, care to share your strategy to crashing?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I actually have what I believe to be a fairly healthy and sustainable approach to crash dieting. I nearly made a thread earlier. I’ll give you a quick rundown
        >get your shit together
        First things first. If you don’t already eat healthy, you have no business crash dieting. 90% chance you’ll binge or rebound or yo-yo or whatever you wanna call it. Spend 3 months adopting new nutritional habits, eating only healthy shut you cook yourself, and perhaps a small deficit as well.
        >the diet
        The key is salt. The water fasting fags are on to something with their snake cum. Electrolytes help you avoid hunger and the fatigue and shit moods and sleep issues, to an extent. Don’t go crazy but make damn sure you’re getting your sodium and potassium in.
        For breakfast I switch it up depending how I feel but it’s either 2-4 whole eggs with salt or it’s oatmeal and some salted almonds. Lunch should be a small snack such as 1-3 servings of almonds or some fruit for the carbs or just a single chicken tiddy, again be liberal with salt. I like dinner to be my largest meal and make damn sure it’s got carbs. So a single cup of cooked rice + protein source, sometimes I’ll straight up ditch the protein source and just eat rice&veggies.

        Because this is already a technically unhealthy way of dieting and meant for those who are over 18% body fat, forget macros.I.e. Don’t concern yourself with protein being high enough. Fat being high enough would be more beneficial for hormonal health and sanity tbqh. Your goal should be to keep your deficit no less than 1,300 calories. Worry only about that. Because you are a fat fuck over 18% body fat, any muscle loss you experience is not true muscle loss. You might lose 0.5lbs of actual muscle through the entire process. The rest will be fluid loss and your muscle just appear flat, it all comes back within a few weeks of resuming normal calories.
        >sanity
        Every 3 weeks if significant progress is made you [continued]

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I actually have what I believe to be a fairly healthy and sustainable approach to crash dieting. I nearly made a thread earlier. I’ll give you a quick rundown
        >get your shit together
        First things first. If you don’t already eat healthy, you have no business crash dieting. 90% chance you’ll binge or rebound or yo-yo or whatever you wanna call it. Spend 3 months adopting new nutritional habits, eating only healthy shut you cook yourself, and perhaps a small deficit as well.
        >the diet
        The key is salt. The water fasting fags are on to something with their snake cum. Electrolytes help you avoid hunger and the fatigue and shit moods and sleep issues, to an extent. Don’t go crazy but make damn sure you’re getting your sodium and potassium in.
        For breakfast I switch it up depending how I feel but it’s either 2-4 whole eggs with salt or it’s oatmeal and some salted almonds. Lunch should be a small snack such as 1-3 servings of almonds or some fruit for the carbs or just a single chicken tiddy, again be liberal with salt. I like dinner to be my largest meal and make damn sure it’s got carbs. So a single cup of cooked rice + protein source, sometimes I’ll straight up ditch the protein source and just eat rice&veggies.

        Because this is already a technically unhealthy way of dieting and meant for those who are over 18% body fat, forget macros.I.e. Don’t concern yourself with protein being high enough. Fat being high enough would be more beneficial for hormonal health and sanity tbqh. Your goal should be to keep your deficit no less than 1,300 calories. Worry only about that. Because you are a fat fuck over 18% body fat, any muscle loss you experience is not true muscle loss. You might lose 0.5lbs of actual muscle through the entire process. The rest will be fluid loss and your muscle just appear flat, it all comes back within a few weeks of resuming normal calories.
        >sanity
        Every 3 weeks if significant progress is made you [continued]

        >sanity
        Every 3 weeks significant progress you can either eat maintenance for 2 days, or you can eat whatever the fuck you want so long as it’s in a deficit. I don’t recommend any cheat meals though, go for the 2 days of maintenance.

        >lifting
        Go easy. Like literally just lift two days per week to maintain muscle and do 2-4 lifts 2 sets of 12 reps each.
        >cardio
        Go for it if you’re used to it but be careful. I only walk.
        >Protip
        If you’re genuinely having one of those shit days when your mood is bad and you’re angry as hell and you’re starving, you can add 500 calories of just carbs but you must do a cardio workout after. Doesn’t matter if you don’t burn 500 calories you’ll still burn a decent amount and be in a deficit. This is to be used sparingly on those harder days.
        >supplements/other shit
        Melatonin if you get the hunger insomnia like me. 2.5mg-5mg max. If you’re new to it, try several forms and brands. Only hard tablets work for me.
        Water. Carry a gallon jug around with you, try to drink slightly more than a gallon a day. When you’re hungry, down water to fill your stomach. It works. Ice water is better for this.
        >forgot to add
        Space your meals out right. OMAD has a time and place and a crash diet where you eat sun 1000 calories per day is not one of them. If it works for you then I guess try it but it doesn’t for me. I get through my days easier with the plan I mentioned in the above post. That’s what makes it effortless for me
        >coming off it
        I recommend slowly ramping calories up to whatever your new maintenance is. Add like 150 calories every few days until you’re there, then take a few weeks to reassess and get it dialed in.
        >another side note/tip because I’m stoned and forgot
        You can increase cals a bit for a couple weeks if work is getting demanding or stressful or you have exams or whatever. But stay deficit, do cardio or walk a couple hours to compensate.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >sparkling water(I stopped drinking).
    Been in bed because I got sick for past 2/3 days , had time to rethink my life quite a bit because it’s the new calendar year. I can’t go with my sinner way no more , I know my path in this life will be blessed only through the gift of the LORD , I feel ashamed of myself for being saved by his grace again…for the way I acted for past months. I’m just a tiny dust in his almighty hands in the end of the day but he just keeps his word to me, Im just a sinner like you wouldn’t even believe , I’ll change my ways because I know I need to walk the right path.
    I know I need to stay humble and not let myself be deceived by all this things around me that have no real value for me , I just don’t know how to show my gratitude towards the LORD , I had my back against the wall few days ago and I’ve been praying for past 3 days and he delivered.
    I always put GOD first because I got my reasons and no one can tell me shit, I’ve just seen too much this past days…

    Proverbs 1:7
    The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

    Psalm 56:4
    In God I will praise his word, in God I have put my trust; I will not fear what flesh can do unto me

    Psalm 27:1
    The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      okay but what if i don't worship the sky garden gnome?

      https://i.imgur.com/9uSdgiI.jpg

      Midweek edition
      what are the effects of alcoholism in regards to lifting?
      otherwise typical bar thread order as you usually do

      gin and tonic please

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Bless you Anon

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Jaegerbomb with a Hot Toddy in 45mins time

    I'm coming to the realization that some of the few close friends I have are retarded, and I need to distance myself from them but I don't want to socialize more to make up for the loss. I go to bed at 4PM and wake up at midnight to go to the gym. I might start playing an MMO again or something.

    Also my gym routine is non existent and I'm finding myself just going and working on different muscle groups that don't feel fatigued until they are, it's hard to figure out what exactly to do routine wise with the amount of discourse online.

  10. 1 month ago
    OP

    So after 1 year of voluntarily avoiding dates & sex (got fat and now got back to where I was), I got out with a girl I met on Bumble.
    Everything went smoothly, and I could see that she was into me. For some reason, at the end of the date, I just didn't feel like kissing her and thought that this would make her even more into me.
    After the date (we split at 12AM), she texted me at 2AM to see if I reached home (drove 40 minutes at the other side of the city).
    I hadn't seen it because I have my Messenger notifications OFF and I saw it in the morning.
    After that, although she seemed eager to meet for a day, she ghosted me.
    Although I do not care for her and I do not see anything happening between us, I have to admit that this hurt my ego, mostly because I had taken her for granted.

    I'm thinking about texting her now, genuinely asking why did she vanish. But, on the other hand, I know that what she did is a red flag and I have promised to myself to fucking listen to red flags from now on (the reason I avoided women altogether for 1 year is after one toxic ex who made me realise that I should put my needs first and, when I go to dates, screen women for me instead of just wanting to be approved of from the woman.)

    Thoughts? Should I roll the dice and text her?

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      personally ive decided to only go for persistent chicks that actively chase me. for that to happen i need to become a very attractive prospect and its what im currently working towards. if going by my approach, i'd say leave it, but that just my 2 cents.
      also you didnt order anything fag

      • 1 month ago
        OP

        Your approach is most certainly correct. However, have you ever thought that, this way, you are weeding out casual sex?
        One problem I always encountered is that I would only have sex with women I really liked, and because I really liked them, the whole thing turned into a relationship (even if I did not want it to go that way), as I found it hard to cut contact.

        • 1 month ago
          barman

          >However, have you ever thought that, this way, you are weeding out casual sex?
          yeah its just something that comes with the territory, but i consider casual sex a waste of time anyway. should mention ive only had sex with 2 different chicks and was in a relationship with both of them (at different times)

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Water please.

      I've decided to take up online dating. Made a profile that shows a bit about my personality. I've liked about 10 women within 40 miles.
      What I've been thinking about is, are my standards too high? Or at the very least, do I keep my standards for a partner that may not even exist? Never even met a tomboy in my life.

      Gonna watch the first episode of the new Tomochan anime later, even though I know it'll just make me sad. I'll channel my negative emotions into gym + study motivation.

      If I may ask, how long did it take for you to get a match?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >Tomochan
        Anon, I sympathize with you, but you need to go ahead and get THAT particular ideal out of your head. Literally no one will ever measure up to Tomo, it might as well be high fantasy for how realistic it is. Set your sights lower and try to keep ideals of perfection out of your head, because no one is perfect, including you. Imagine your BARE MINIMUM requirements for a woman, and go for ANYONE who is at that or above.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I know that... I know. But I can hope.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Relationships (real ones) are about trust and cooperation. Trust me, the perfect athletic tomboy who shares all of your hobbies is a wonderful ideal, but just finding a woman that you don't find ugly, that you get along with and that you can trust and cooperate with for the rest of your life is more than enough. You find one of those and you'll feel so unbelievably lucky that you won't mind her imperfections.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I've decided to take up online dating
        Huge mistake. Dating apps worked a decade ago, nowadays they're P2W for men and an ego booster for women. The apps, by design, won't let you see all your matches, won't show your profile to prospective matches and the ones you do match with have the personality of chalk.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Rum and coke
    >girl agreed to go out with me
    >she's suddenly became unavailable at that date
    Why are women like this? She should have said no in the first place. Also are there any song out there about me being an idiot?

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      >are there any song out there about me being an idiot?
      i suppose i could find something fren

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Did you meet her through an app? The issue with that is always that they're talking to 50 other guys, and maybe a guy who seems better have her an offer.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    just coming into this thread to say that switching from my previous horrible job to my current one has literally been a 180 on my mood and that none of you should be afraid to quit your job if you hate it. I hope all of you kings find what you're looking for. 2023 is gonna be a good one and I have a good eye for these things.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      What was the last job what’s the new one

      T. Jobless neet with no skills barely any experience and huge gap in employment

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I work in video marketing for hollywood/gaming shit. Big industry in LA. Was working for this big company with a terrible rep that made all these promises to me when I joined and basically just lied and never did any of the shit they promised me. Finally got fed up and started looking elsewhere, old contact hooked me up and now I'm at another place that actually lets me do the work I wanted to do in the first place. Took a pay cut but honestly so worth it since I'm not fucking miserable on the daily.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          That’s pretty much why I left the last job I had. During the interview I was lied to about a policy which can hold you an extra 2 hours per day. It’s 12 hour shifts stuck in an ambulance all day but the occasional extra 2 hours doesn’t sound too bad. Except it’s not occasional or potential it’s a guaranteed and it’s an extra 4 hours not 2. Paired with low pay and unlimited extra shifts means you’d have to work 7 days a week to make ends meet. Meaning your life with them is overwork, go home sleep less than 7 hours, back to work. Zero down time, patient after patient. Fuck that. I’m no longer in that field at all.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I can't believe the shit some employers are allowed to get away with.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Oh great, you produce ads with morons for globohomo.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    why is boxing stance so hard to learn
    somebody answer me

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Because you have to move and keep it going AND coordinate your hands feet and everything else.

      It's hard as fuck bruv.

      .t guy leaving for sparring in 5 minutes

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      What’s so hard about it? What stance are you taking?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Read jack Dempseys book. And learn to use your lead shoulder for guidance, very similar to fencers

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        im reading frazier’s book right now
        should i read both?

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I have nothing going for me. I guess I need to accept it’s going to take awhile to get out of the hell I’m in but there’s no relief in the short term.

    I need to get my teeth fixed, I need a job, and I need to lose a lot of weight. I hate where I live and I can’t seem to get any traction. It is the worst.

    Water, neat. Thanks.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Sounds like you've got nowhere to go but up friend. Keep with it.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Believe it or not, I’ve done a shitload of work but I inherited one of the worst hands of cards life can throw. But yeah, you’re not exactly wrong.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Fix your gut health and get sun light and obviously keep lifting! stay strong anon! You got this!

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Why are 3/4 of ISTners alcoholics?

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      i think its a causation vs correlation question here
      it could be that certain groups that would have been alcoholics anyway gravitate towards IST for whatever reason
      but then theres also things like 4chan and redpills, it can be pretty tough to be redpilled and essentially alone
      tl;dr
      who the fuck knows

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      A small groups of very vocal alcoholics make multiple posts
      Go to any bar, you will see that the drunks are more than happy to talk your ear off about their problems

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Orange juice please
      My boyfriend is a lazy stoner and I can't take it anymore. I have done everything for him the last two years. I'm about to graduate uni with a bs in a tech related field (he is finishing an associates that he failed last semester) and I can't see myself wanting to have children with him. I know I need to end it, but he starts crying whenever I try to so I back down. I hate seeing him upset so much. I can't forgive myself when I make him cry. Lately when I tell him I love him he says shit like "are you sure? I'd be very sad if you didn't..." and it's killing me inside. He's 260 lbs ffs. He can't even keep it up during sex anymore. I'm so tired of it all but I can't bring myself to hurt him. He's my little baby but I can't have a family with him. What the fuck do I do?

      I don't drink because I don't want to age myself. I don't even like being drunk. I am also confused at the amount of alcoholics here.

      https://i.imgur.com/W3P2Ti8.png

      Rum and coke
      >girl agreed to go out with me
      >she's suddenly became unavailable at that date
      Why are women like this? She should have said no in the first place. Also are there any song out there about me being an idiot?

      Sorry anon at least you can move on. Unless she offers a different date, she's not interested.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        4 years hurts less than 5, pull that bandaid off

      • 1 month ago
        barman

        >What the fuck do I do?
        i seldom ever give advice to women, but i suppose i'll give it a go.
        unless you want to condemn yourself to a life of nannying an man-child, who may very well have a mid life crisis, disregard everything youve done for him, and leave, you need to pose an ultimatum that you will uphold:
        >stop being a useless degenerate obese stoner gay
        otherwise
        >the relationship is over
        the tough part is deciding the specific terms of the ultimatum, and then ultimately upholding it regardless of whichever way he decides to go.
        ive been in similar ruts personally, someone my gf flat out dumping me probably wouldnt have made it better, but her allowing it to continue wouldnt have been good either.
        if he decides to get his shit together, help him. break him down and build a partner you would want to have a family with.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Haven't you posted about this before already? Pretty sure everyone told you to dump the motherfucker. At this point you're just being a woman, venting about a problem without actually wanting to solve it.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Shut the fuck up you stupid hole

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Last time I posted an alcohol thread I had about the same amount of seething puritans as I had proud alcoholics

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Drink after lift. Simple as

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Day 4 of OMAD and im feeling weak, I know if I hold on for a few more days Ill adjust and it will be easy again.
    I also just got my cpap machine and fuck thats something to get used to.
    I can tell im extremely irritable because Ive taken to writing long youtube comments on schizo material and arguing with retards in the comment sections and it fucking sticks in my craw that people can be so retarded

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >cpap machine
      Wew

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Fairlife choccy milk, thanks.

    Wasn't thinking and had a big ouchie at work today. After more ouchies last month and november. Was trying to make it a few weeks to lock in some stuff for when I resign but now that's in the air.
    On top of that, busting my ass to make my freelancing work, I've spoken with almost 2,000 business owners at this point. Slowly getting work but not past the hump where you just get referrals and freaking out. I've busted ass to save and get my name out, I don't see any path forward but to either rot at job, get fired, or quit and make this work.

    The GOOD news is that I'm 9lbs down since my heaviest new year's day so BOOM.

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      my football coaches always used to tell us choccy milk is a great post workout drink, good choice

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Met a couple of teenage parents at the park today and it was so fucking enlightening. They looked genuinely happy with their baby and way more socially adjusted than the average zoomer. We should be procreating young instead of falling into the university/corporation trap and waiting until 30s.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    bros should i pretend to be a richfag and go to europe and bring expensive chocolate as a gift to cute neighbor in hopes of attracting her to me? i say pretend because i would basically be at $0 upon return but on the bright side i really wanna go too

    ive read woman are only interested in money, status and physique. im working on this 3 things but im also a hermit so nobody notices me

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      dude just use the money to get a gun and off yourself, if you think giving "expensive" chocolate to a girl will impress her you're beyond help

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >spending dollars on a girl who's not giving you sex

      No that makes you a simp. You want her to see you spending money on things that are not for her so that she wants in on it. If she's getting money and expensive things from you for nothing then she's got no reason to give you her attention. You're just simping. If anything bring back a box of chocolates and offer her one only and eat the rest yourself to be polite, show your wealth, but make her not feel special.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >ive read woman are only interested in money, status and physique. im working on this 3 things but im also a hermit so nobody notices me
      just work on yourself and don't think about women too much. if all a woman cares about are those things and she doesn't really love you she isn't worth anything. if you like your neighbor just try to be nice and make social gains talking to her.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >just work on yourself and don't think about women too much
        Not the person you're replying to in the first place but I've taken this to heart this year. I'm thick solid tight, attractive, have a full head of hair that looks good, get tons of looks from girls but none of them ever amount to anything and it's either
        >oh no thanks I'm not interested
        or
        >immediate cold shoulder
        I've since stopped giving a shit anymore probably jaded to the point I don't even look around anymore if girls are mirin.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Just ask her out for coffee or something. Gifts are for when you are already in a relationship, she's treating you well and you want to reward her good behavior, not when you barely know each other.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Why not just order expensive chocolate online? In fact you could probably find it at the airport without having to fly to Europe.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This literally happens in an episode of Peep Show with posh bread

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      No you should stay in America, you should also continue to focus on yourself, your lonely yea well shit so am I and a lot of men we all want a girl so do you know what I did I got a pair of balls and talked to girls at my college campus I thought I was autistic but no it turns out I'm normal out of 6 girls I talked to 4 met for coffee stop being a hermit a girl isn't going to fall out of the sky while you sit at home you must realize that you have to make an actual effort

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just water.

    31 here. Just got back to lifting after years, I kept being active doing cycling daily tho. Dropped out last year and I told my parents I would try to take some courses or something but I really don't know what I wanna do since everything sounds awful and a God forsaken grind with no purpose since I'm not a normalshit.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    All I do is rotate between work, home, and sometimes the gym. I am 25 yo in decent shape; I am successful but still live with my folks and don't have a social life which I think girls might find off-putting. I also don't have many places where I interact with girls. What do you guys recommend I do and actions I take? I would like to pick up more hobbies to make more friends, what else can I do? How do I make friends and meet girls?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >I am successful but still live with my folks
      hows that?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Community theater, dance classes, community College classes, donating platelets, or some sort of volunteering where you have to work as a team. The main thing is being put into situations where you are not just around them, but need to interact with them and work towards a common goal. At the very least, you can make friends and expand your network, which can be big.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Rec leagues for sports nearby or pickup a hobby like disc golf/runningand join local Facebook groups that go do said hobby

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Make friends first then meet girls.

  23. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >friend who lives 1.5 hr away tells me he wants to hang every month
    >cancels 99% of the time
    >repeat for years
    >sick of it
    >he does it again a few days ago
    >didnt even expect him to follow through
    >he wants me to come help him move next weekend
    >I just dont care anymore

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      say yes
      cancel last minute

  24. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >christmas was shit
    >family does same passive aggressive bullshit every year
    >nobody wants to be there
    >nye is always shit
    >I work all the time
    >got sick on my winter days off
    >moved to a new area few years back for work and only know one or two people who are married and always busy
    >current gym kind of sucks
    >love lifting but dont look forward to dealing with the dicks there
    >met a girl and hit it off but she said she didnt want a relationship because she just got out of one
    >other friends live all over the place
    >no real reason to leave the house anymore
    some people came to my house earlier trying to sell me stuff and I could feel the rage flow through me
    I think I feel people trying to take advantage of me or think they can bullshit me and I flip out

    just generally in a shit mood anons
    looking for the next step in life everything feels stale and expected

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >August bros, I kneel

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >I work all the time
      >no real reason to leave the house anymore
      r u me?

  25. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I got ghosted by this girl I’ve been talking to for a couple of weeks after she found out I got the jab. I regret getting the jab and don’t judge people who didn’t get it. Feels bad man.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Based femoid. Non-jabbed is a requirement for me as well.

  26. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    We broke up. She asked what I wanted from the relationship, and I just said 'Ok. I think it's time we went our separate ways. And then I left. I didn't really feel much of anything but I did masturbate slightly more than usual that night. In other news, are pistol squats a meme?
    >pictogram unrelated

  27. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The main downtown club for young people is having a singles night every first friday of the month starting this friday, should I go?

    I've got all the traits IST tells me should give me a free gf, but I don't have. I only ever interact with dating app sluts because I never leave the house. No friends group for going out, they're all either in relationships or shut-ins but unlike me they don't want to break out of being shut-ins so inviting them to go is a non-starter. I feel like even if I go on Friday I'm going alone and doomed to fail and be the weirdo alone at the club desperately trying to get a gf on singles night.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yes anon go, it's the one time no one is going to care that you're there by yourself.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Give it a shot, I've been going to one for over a year now and haven't met any girls but at least it's fun to hang with the boys. So long as it's constructive and not just "I'm single woe is me" bitching

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This anon back, the singles night is apparently 30+ lmao

      Nah dawg, I'm 29 and not going even when I'm 30. There's already another club in town where the old gals go if you want milfs.

  28. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'll take a virgin Martini, thanks. Well I want to go to the gym more, I like it a lot. I've been going to a planet fitness because it's cheap and clean but it's also an eighteen minute drive one way, without traffic.
    There's an anytime fitness that's only a two minute drive away but it's incredibly tiny, it only has a single toilet and they cost $25 every two weeks which I can't afford. I'm already budgetmaxxing buying food that isn't oiled-up dogshit. Plus they want a $50 signup fee whereas I'm only paying $10 a month at PF.

  29. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Do you have coffee back there? I don't drink, haven't in 6 years. I'm feeling more stress at my job than usual, so I'm thinking about asking for more money if it's gonna make me feel worse. Either that, or I should work harder on getting a different job. Eh, I guess I'm also working on some classes to be able to work for my dad as a graphic designer. I've got a date set up for Friday, rescheduled from Tuesday because she wasn't feeling well. I swear, they always cancel the first one.

  30. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Gin, please.

    I finally graduated college after nearly 6 goddamn years. I feel like I've changed in some ways, but at my core I'm still the same clueless kid full of fears and anxieties. I thought I would have more figured out by now.

  31. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I’ve spent the past few years studying by philosophy, and one thing I’ve truly learned is that you will make mistakes on your path to living a better life. More mistakes then you did before because now you recognize all the ways you do wrong.

    You can’t let this discourage you, let go of the need to be perfect, to always make the right choice. To err is to be human, is one of the truest maxims I’ve read, and with everyday it means more and more to me.

    Live on bros, be better today then you were yesterday, and forgive yourself when you aren’t.

  32. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Water for me fren

    Just got an annoying cold that kept me from training for a couple of days. Seriously dudes, training does make your life better and you will miss it if for some reason you can't do it.

    Fuck it, I'm going today.

  33. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >ED at 22
    >Spent $400 at two different Asian massage parlors hoping to fix said problem
    >Hopelessy fail to get hard both times, best I can do is suck and grope their tits as they awkward give my flaccid penis a tug
    >Get asked by the second kinda cute one who seems to be around my age in broken English ‘why it don’t work’ ‘what wrong’
    I don’t know, I don’t know. I wasted my youth being an obsessed cum brain fapper. Now it’s over…

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      It's not over anon, plenty of dudes fix coomer induced ED.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Testosterone, I wasn't getting hard much but then been going to the gym for seven months and now it happens a lot, even when I'm not aroused.
      Stay away from porn

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      if you get hard with porn and masturbation you dont have ed, you have performance anxiety

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Bro this happened to me when a chick went dead fish. I never understand how you're supposed to get it up in a sterile situation like the tugjob places. You realize in Asia they like lube you up and all this shit and warm your body up? God damn western society is so disconnected from the body.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Same. I thought I had ED after an experience with this girl I brought in who had giant tits but otherwise wasn't that hot, and she was also the first girl I ever encountered who just deadfished. I was like half chub and she was literally just laying back and moaning but doing shit all. Same with another girl I wasn't really as attracted to but was willing to do some crazy sex shit.

        Made me realize attraction and being actually turned on does matter, especially when you get older. You're not a machine, it's normal if you don't instantly produced a giant diamonds boner at all times under any circumstances regardless of mentality. If there's something going on that makes you not really turned on it won't happen.

        Ironically I just watched this yesterday https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZpHtmz1b50
        Male pornstar talks about new guys getting thrown into blowbang scenes and panicking in the back trying to jerk their dicks hard and despite having taken a ton of viagra they can't get it up due to the weird environment with man ass all around them, a film crew and cameras, lights, etc.

  34. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Peppermint schnaps.
    I miss my ex.

  35. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    diet coke.
    i am so neurotic and in my own head its hard to let myself feel good. i hate that i am like this but it is so hard for me to be at mental peace and love myself. sometimes this comes on as really bad gym anxiety. my mind gets racing when i get in the gym and i get so many intrusive thoughts i can't focus on anything and end up hating my workout. i almost experienced this earlier but while i walked on the treadmill i made myself do deep breathing to calm down. this was enough to keep me calm and grounded for the short time i was at the gym tonight, but sometimes it becomes unbearable and i get almost paranoid. i feel so pathetic and weak because of this, i just want to be confident and in control. i want to make 2023 a good year for me finally but if i can't get over this i will remain stuck, what do i do?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I have experienced the same before, it's probably different for everyone but the problem for me was feeling trapped and unable to grow. I had this issue when I had exams coming up in a uni semester and was so incredibly behind on studying that I had time for literally nothing else except gym. It wasn't the importance of studying that made me anxious, it was having no room to BUILD something for myself/others that made me feel like shit.
      Have a look at your living situation, see what achievements you have to your name and what can be improved.

  36. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm bored.
    Boreeeeed.
    I'm tired of working. Having a gf is nice but I'm tired of all the bullshit associated to making it possible to bang her. I'm tired of waking up with a schedule planned every single day. The last time I woke up not knowing what I was gonna do that day from start to finish was like two years ago.
    Everything is so expensive. I don't even need it. But I need women so I have to spend. I fucking love working out and luckily girls love a fit body, but no one likes an empty wallet. I feel the need to work to ve sucking my soul out. I don't get enough satisfaction to counter the pain that work induces. But at the same time, being a broke loser with no gf sounds like an awful life. Been there, hated every single moment of it. Being a broke loser with a gf was the life, but now we're moving "forward" in life and I can't just play the guitar all day and forget about the alarm.
    I just wish I was the king of the world and could do whatever the fuck I want all day. Being a plebeian sucks. Most people would say I have an awesome life but I'm starting to think that I'd rather starve to death than working another day.

  37. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Have any of you ever felt as if you were too emotionally withered to be emotionally invested in a relationship? If I was in one, I'd love the sex, love the affectionate lovey-dovey shit, probably would hate to see my partner feel bad and would want to see them happy, and would be somewhat depressed if we had to part, but I'm not sure how much I could bring myself to genuinely care about a woman. I think I'd feel like an impostor, an alien trying to imitate what he thinks people in such a relationship with a woman would do, say, or feel. Yet there would be little in the way of substance to it all within.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I'm right there with you and have no idea what to do about it. Probably need therapy. But I'll most likely just wait around for the "right one" and keep trying to date and hurting girls when they like me and I can't or don't want to connect with them. Feels bad.

  38. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Orange juice on the rocks, please.

    I've been neglecting the gym in favor of developing other hobbies (drawing) because it's such a time commitment, but now that I've finished a piece It's been requiring more effort to make myself go to the gym. How does one balance multiple hobbies while not neglecting the gym and sleep when you have to wage for most of your day? This sucks.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Rest days. Do your other stuff on rest days, and consider gym days as rest days for your other stuff.

  39. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Water.
    I have already stopped browsing /a/ and IST daily. Next up is probably IST. These boards are just terrible nowadays except for a few threads.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You can do it man. It was a wonderful few weeks during the holidays when I left this shit hole behind. I only came back today to get some of my questions answered, but I've had to realize that there's no question I cannot just simply google. Or the issue is so specific that no one could answer anyway.
      I think I'll just have a few discord servers where I can ask for help if I'm really desperate for a discussion about fitness, or want some recommendations for new mangas to read.
      There's nothing here besides coomer bait and tfw no gf depression. It doesn't worth it for the weekly fit humor thread.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        you're here forever, don't lie

  40. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This is the year I'm gonna shoot my shot and ask her out boys
    Just have to find 'her' first haha

  41. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    get me a highball
    what are the effects? probably nothing good, same as it would affect anything else. anyway, i hate working. really need to get out of the cycle soon. this pace of life has run its course for me, and it's high time i start living a little more honestly.

  42. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I think a girl likes me back bros

  43. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Whiskey and dry, thanks. I'm honestly wondering why I even bother looking for relationships with women. Don't think anyone would ever be interested in me. I often think about suicide, because I don't think I can take another fifty years of being alone.

  44. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Give me a NyQuil
    I stopped drinking and my sleep routine is absolutely fucked up. I have work in 2 hours

  45. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    A glass of milk please.
    Making steady progress in the gym, in uni and at my hobbies. Still experience the occasional depressive episode here and there but overall nothing seems to hold me back anymore. I dont even know where i will go, i am just aiming for the stars and will continue doing so till the day i die

  46. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    bulked too far and got fat am still strong. On everything else its just fucking apathy and suicidal thoughts. I just dont want to keep going, but i know i have to no matter what. If i dont get better i wont have any chance to make new friends and get a gf
    If someone sees this, i need some motivational words.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Try this anon, it's been helping me recently

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      We're all going to make it, anon. I've had my struggles and they come and go, you are doing better than you think. Fight back against your doubts because you are stronger than that.

      https://i.imgur.com/zfOzjwq.jpg

      Try this anon, it's been helping me recently

      is onto something. This is the most depressing part of the year due to less sunlight. Do two things: View sunlight daily in the morning, but ALSO supplement Vit D3. 4k IU/day. They're cheap at walmart. It's an important contributor to your mood

      You can do this
      - Random upstate NYgger

  47. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm scared that I'm never going to make it bros, I've only been working out for a couple months but I feel like I'm not making progress fast enough

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      That's because you're not making progress fast enough and you never will, same as literally everyone else. If you actually feel satisfied with how you're doing, then you're a very lucky person. Just keep progressing and one day you won't care about the RATE of progression, because you'll actually be where you want to be. Keep going anon, don't stop, don't look back.

  48. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Coffee pls.

    How do i deal with the fact that my blonde,white wife wants to get pregnant and make a family.

    She's gonna get fat and our what's left of our sex lives will deteriorate

    Imagine both of you being fit and striving for your education, pure sacrifices worth struggling for.

    Now she wants to throw it away? So much fucking time lost.

    I think its because of her religous parents and background

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      How old are you and how old is she?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Water please.
        I wasted tons of energy and a bit of money on an ungrateful horrible cunt of a person just because I was so lonely.
        Thankfully I cut ties with her and now I can focus on the gym and my goals again properly. But holy fuck, the despair and loneliness is so soul crushing from time to time, all I do is go to work, then gym, then cook/prepare meals and sleep.
        So fucking tired of feeling miserable, lonely and mentally tired all the time.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Get other fulfilling hobbies anon
          Learn an instrument
          Pick up painting
          Start woodworking
          Something that has a learning curve you need to get over, and focuses your mind. Consistent effort over time to improve is the key.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      If your sex life is already bad, you should leave her. It WILL completely disappear after the kid is born. You should always make it clear from the start of the relationship, that frequent sex is non negotiable.

  49. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    my ex just passed my house while i was outside and i had to talk to her because she stopped and started talking to me. fuck bros i was doing well and my day is semi ruined... SEMI BECAUSE I WILL HIT THE GYM SOON MOTHERFUCKERS

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Fuck her post-gym, then leave as she did to you.

  50. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    failed my driving test lads

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Few of my friends in high school failed their 1st attempt as well anon, don't sweat it.

      Guys, about to drop a $100 on a cummaxing supplement cocktail, should I?

      I'm not getting them solely for cum maxing, but there's some not so essential ones I'm considering dropping like Onions Lecithin and L-arginine, Should I just say fuck it and go for it?
      I'm not really short on money, but I feel kind of stupid spending the money just to shoot thicker ropes.

      Are you actually having sex with someone right now? If so, do it if you think it will improve your sex life. If you're not sexually active and just want more fun masturbating, then don't do that.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Not sexually active, but I do like shooting thicker ropes, I think I might actually go for it, these things take months to start showing results anyway, it'll be too late to start by the time I actually do start having sex.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          They're grifting you.

          L Arginine (vasodilator, makes you harder)1.5g day
          Sunflower lecithin (NOT ONIONS LECITHIN. makes you shoot more fluid) 1.2g
          Zinc (less than 30mg a day, ideally 20 (DO NOT HAVE TOO MUCH ZINC))
          Vit D 3000 iu

          Now you hydrate like a motherfucker and salt your food with iodized salt. Btw results should be in 2 or 3 days.

          t. Coommaxx sage

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Gonna see about getting my boyfriend on these, thanks anon

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              Only other caution is that L Arginine is a nitrate. If you take any kind of heart medicine, you want to avoid it. Also, if you take things like Tadalafil of slidenefil (Viagra/Cialis) than it can be a problem for your health (blood pressure may drop dangerously low). Otherwise, happy shooting.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Appreciate the heads up, fortunately he's healthy as an ox, and hopefully about to shoot like a horse.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Don't sweat it. Everybody does, due to some random bullshit usually. Book another ASAP, the waiting list is usually long as fuck.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Took me 4 attempts
      Went to another DMV after the third and everyone was nicer and the test was easier

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        br*tish so it's all government shit, if it takes me more than four goes then I don't really see the point in it (worst case scenario)

  51. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    A mug of Irish Cream Whiskey please.
    Anons, I have given up, I do not understand life, it's unfair, short, and random. I suppose I have to go on trying but I don't have any expectations of a magical third act where everything comes together, I want a life like a cozy book or series, with a tight knit friend group that goes on wacky adventures, everyone once in a while there's a beach episode. But that's not real, I just know I'll end up dying and be kind of disappointed in it all. It's a shame. But my outlet know is to just make things up in fiction, where in some way that world is real, maybe heaven is real too.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You sound like such a gay, grow up you fucking idiot

  52. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Guys, about to drop a $100 on a cummaxing supplement cocktail, should I?

    I'm not getting them solely for cum maxing, but there's some not so essential ones I'm considering dropping like Onions Lecithin and L-arginine, Should I just say fuck it and go for it?
    I'm not really short on money, but I feel kind of stupid spending the money just to shoot thicker ropes.

  53. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just a seltzer for me.
    My dog turned 10 today. I'm going to figure out a good dinner for him tonight.

  54. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >"I'm here for you anon, you can talk to me about anything".
    >I tell her a little about how I feel
    >She ignores me and ghost me for days
    >She posts stories on her ig and shit so it's not like her phone is broken or anything.

    Why I keep falling for the "I'm here for you" bullshit. Literally every person who told me that does the same thing, no one cares about me and how I feel and every time I do that the person ends up walking away from me instead of talking about my problems they supposedly cared so much about.

    I hate that you can't trust anyone these days.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >her
      Found the problem. Women do not care about your personal problems and will not help you unless they have to or unless it benefits them. If you want someone to bounce your problems off of and help you out, do it with your close friends. They can actually empathize with you. If you don't have any friends, good luck.

  55. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'll take an Old Fashioned and some sparkling water, please. Whatever (affordable) bourbon you recommend.
    I've been stuck in a rut for over a year now where I consistently fail to achieve anything. It's gotten to the point where I can't even muster up the ability to try. I think if I didn't have a job I wouldn't even get out of bed.
    I'm so deep into this rut and so tired of being a fuckup that I've started fantasizing about putting my pistol in my mouth and pulling the trigger. I'd never do it (I saw what happened to my family when my uncle an heroed), but the intrusive thoughts are just one more thing on the pile of shit I'm trying to get over. I'm also a solid year into my current job and have no fucking clue what I'm supposed to be doing, which is eating at me all the time and probably the core of the issue. Think I'm also struggling with internet/vidya addiction or something.

    I actually got up on time today for the first time in like three weeks and made myself a nice cup of coffee to go with breakfast, so that's something. Made my own lunch too (normally I grab fast food). Goal tonight is to go on a nice, long walk and get to bed on time. Maybe do some prayer and Bible reading if I remember.

  56. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Was 5kg from my goal weight of leaving skinnyfatdom and then gained 10kg so now I am 15kg away. On the bright side when I was at my lowest weight my face and jawline was looking great and would look better with that extra 5kg off so I have that to look forward too.

  57. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Bourbon on the rocks please.
    Had a shit end of 2022. Had to end a relationship of almost 6 years and it was hell for a while. I hastily signed a lease for a one bedroom after the breakup since I didn’t want to quit my job with everything else happening but now a few months later I think that was a mistake. I think I’m over the hill so to speak so I’m hoping for a better 2023. I just need to relearn how to talk to women. There’s a group of girls I’ve seen at the gym for the last year or so and I’m 90% sure one of them is into me but I’ve been out of the game so long I don’t know what to do about it. Newbies at the gym are in my fucking way all the time but I know they’ll filter out the next few weeks.

  58. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Sparkling water with lemon slice please. This cut leaves me with low energy most of the time. But the upside is people complement me. I’m pretty DYEL by my standards, but the complements stroke my ego enough to make the cut bearable.

  59. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Water please

    The fridge had lots of little wine bottles left over from having family over for Christmas dinner and I opened one and took a sniff and the smell of alcohol almost made me gag. Good to know it’s physical impossible for me to ever become an alcoholic.

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      >Good to know it’s physical impossible for me to ever become an alcoholic.
      dont be so sure fren, alcohol used to revolt me too, then i ended up chugging it near-daily

  60. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    How do you succesfully lie about past relationships?
    Everytime I go out with a girl who is actually decent at one point she asks me about my past relationships and it goes downhill from there since they were not long and serious.
    I always thought that honesty was best however now I am approaching late twenties and am tired of the same shit, and also realised that most guys lie about it anyways and have a huge advantage over guys that don't.
    So, how do you lie about your past relationships in order to get the most favorable reaction? Also what is a good reason for the break-up, is it better whether you left her or she left you?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Buckle up anon cause I lied about all my past relationships.
      These are rules you should definitely follow:
      1.) never talk bad about your ex. No matter what. It’s simple psychology because people then think it could be her fault as the abused/ wronged one never talks bad about past relationships.
      2.) Make up a name/ Age and where you met, never ever change those 3 points, even if you tell it to different people and know they would never meet because it will just confuse yourself in the long run as what you said to who.
      3.) Say the last serious relationship was 2 - 2,5 years ago. It gives a feeling of a bad break up that you had to go over, showing your emotional and weak side, believe me people love that shit.
      3.) If they ask for pictures just say following thing:
      >Why should I still have pictures of my ex? That’s really strange.
      It shuts them up pretty quick and they never ask for it again.
      And now on why you broke up. It depends on yourself as a person really and what kind of image you want.
      The good hearted boyfriend who got cheated on because she was insecure, maybe the relationship that turned out good but developed into a mental war over time because she got jealous and never wanted you to meet anyone so you had a big fight and broke up.
      Or later we found out that it just won’t work out because we wanted different things in life (like children, or moving to another country, city etc.)
      Choose for yourself what image you want.
      OR
      Just say the truth that you never had a real relationship because you were unlucky and just went to the wrong women.
      Women in your age love this kind of shit because it shows that you are still innocent and you don’t have to hold up a lie all your life long if it does work out with her.
      The most important thing is that you don’t act like a fucking child while talking to her. Be it
      >Oh shit should I call her right now even though I didn’t write her
      1/2

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        2/2
        >Damn I wrote her first in the last 4 days now it’s her time to write me! EVERY relationship channel says that!
        No get that thought of your head you are a grown ass man and not 15, You aren’t her most important person in life because you talked for 3 months with each other she has definitely more important things in her mind than you. Just leave your ego behind herself and call/write her first.
        Also talk about personal stuff like future goals, how your life’s were etc.
        Good luck Anon you’ll need it but don’t forget all you need is just 1 yes and you won who cares for the other 100 No‘s.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        2/2
        >Damn I wrote her first in the last 4 days now it’s her time to write me! EVERY relationship channel says that!
        No get that thought of your head you are a grown ass man and not 15, You aren’t her most important person in life because you talked for 3 months with each other she has definitely more important things in her mind than you. Just leave your ego behind herself and call/write her first.
        Also talk about personal stuff like future goals, how your life’s were etc.
        Good luck Anon you’ll need it but don’t forget all you need is just 1 yes and you won who cares for the other 100 No‘s.

        thank you

  61. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Went back to uni since I can't get a job with a mere BCs in petroleum engineering, hate being there with every fiber of my being and something screams at me to get out as soon as I get to campus.
    Had to severely cut back on my workouts and workout intensity because of it and everything just kind of sucks dick. Haven't drank since christmas and trying to keep it that way for another month or two.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      What do you hate about uni, the people? I'm going back this week and find the culture on my campus insufferable.

      Rum and lemonade thanks.
      I'm seeing my reaction to slipping into depressive episodes get worse and worse over the years. It used to be borderline motivating when I was younger, as if it was something to beat, or I could at least wallow in the aesthetic of masochistically working through intense pain to get through everything. The difference now is that I genuinely don't feel a drive to improve my circumstances, I can feel myself sinking deeper and I lean into that aspect of it, without even wanting to (previously would make situation worse to more "explosively" recover from it through pain).
      For instance at the moment I'm not washing, my diet has fallen off to eating sub 1k calories a day, desire for drug use is skyrocketing, degen habits are coming back, exercise is completely unfulfilling, nights are down to about 5h of sleep. I feel conversationally stunted, I can't communicate smoothly with friends as before, I'm growing intensely jealous of everyone being friends with each other when I'm not around, and generally just feel lonely no matter the company I keep.
      Really not sure at what point everything fell off, but it just feels like I changed my perception of being depressed from something to escape to just a state that I'll always be in, and it's been in the most destructive way possible. At this point I think antidepressents are an actual goal to get to, I just don't think my mental side is cutting it alone anymore.

      Onwards and upwards, anon. You said yourself your old philosophy does not cut it anymore. Seek and ye shall find purpose again.

      https://i.imgur.com/3BwchPx.jpg

      Anyone else get depressed when you realize you're doing all you can but you're not getting the results you want fast enough?
      At least I lost about 10 pounds from being 283, that was about 1-2 months ago, but I hope I've been gaining some muscle too...

      I get depressed when I realize I haven't been getting the results fast enough, but it's because I get the impression I could have done more. And maybe I could have. But I try to console myself that it's not a race, no one will ever be perfect, and to content myself with the things I have achieved instead of the things I haven't.
      Also if you're cutting trust the mirror, not the scale. Those muscle gains will offset some of the fat loss.

      https://i.imgur.com/9uSdgiI.jpg

      Midweek edition
      what are the effects of alcoholism in regards to lifting?
      otherwise typical bar thread order as you usually do

      Just water.
      I'm going back to uni after 2 years away and I'm a bit nervous. I want to make the most of my time, grow stronger as a man while having the sex and fun that I missed out on the first time around. I thought I would be bigger and more collected than am I now when planning this. I'm not gigachad yet but I am much better than I was last time. I'm afraid that deep-seated feelings of bitterness will resurface, as well as that the extra responsibilities will wear me out again.

  62. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >she hasn't responded
    chocky milk for me 🙁

  63. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Rum and lemonade thanks.
    I'm seeing my reaction to slipping into depressive episodes get worse and worse over the years. It used to be borderline motivating when I was younger, as if it was something to beat, or I could at least wallow in the aesthetic of masochistically working through intense pain to get through everything. The difference now is that I genuinely don't feel a drive to improve my circumstances, I can feel myself sinking deeper and I lean into that aspect of it, without even wanting to (previously would make situation worse to more "explosively" recover from it through pain).
    For instance at the moment I'm not washing, my diet has fallen off to eating sub 1k calories a day, desire for drug use is skyrocketing, degen habits are coming back, exercise is completely unfulfilling, nights are down to about 5h of sleep. I feel conversationally stunted, I can't communicate smoothly with friends as before, I'm growing intensely jealous of everyone being friends with each other when I'm not around, and generally just feel lonely no matter the company I keep.
    Really not sure at what point everything fell off, but it just feels like I changed my perception of being depressed from something to escape to just a state that I'll always be in, and it's been in the most destructive way possible. At this point I think antidepressents are an actual goal to get to, I just don't think my mental side is cutting it alone anymore.

  64. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    uh... some linden tea please
    im sick my intestines hurts but im still at the gym cuz i could go for almost a week bc i was sick and had exams

    i dont think im in depression anymore... wait this thing had an end ? you might wonder how... well uh i found my religion i guess... back i mean i found it back and saw that worying about this world that will end is stupid and Allah gave me a lot of blessings like health and a mother that cares ( even thou i dont realt like her) and i had a chance to be born with mongloid but here i am... i dont know anons its realy weird but i swear religion was the painkiller of depression in my case and it might be yours too(might thou) i still dont have money or a gf or better grades but why tf would i care about this world that i will only live idk maybe a minute maybe a year or more... theres paradise;the endless and most beatifull and hope i find it...

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      *NOT IN
      fuck im sick af

  65. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Anyone else get depressed when you realize you're doing all you can but you're not getting the results you want fast enough?
    At least I lost about 10 pounds from being 283, that was about 1-2 months ago, but I hope I've been gaining some muscle too...

  66. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Got grandpa's funeral tomorrow. I'm trying to honor his legacy by working extra hard in the gym and my studies. He was one of the few who always believed in me. Miss you.

  67. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    So it snuck up on me but I’m a KHHV at 30. I’ve had opportunities for hook ups but never took them, I don’t see the point of them, I need emotional attachment but was never really ready for a relationship.

    I’d like to think im ready now, have a career, looking for a condo and finally feel sorta mature. How fucked am I just now entering the dating market? I will add I’ve lost like 170lbs and a bit scared of intimacy but I think I can get over it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Depends.
      If you're okay with single mothers, you're a prize catch for them.
      If not, it'll be harder, but not impossible.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        No I think I’d rather die alone

  68. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    >You need to realize
    We all realize this anon, it's not rocket appliances. No one here is under any sort of delusion that they would be so desperately desiring women if it weren't for a biological drive to put aside them being retarded to fuck them regardless.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      It's really annoying to watch a sea of retards trying to figure out what women are and how to hack them, and failing endlessly.
      Women will run roughshod over everyone who posts about them here, and that's because you idiots lack:
      -anger
      -originality
      -philosophy

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Fuck you moron I fingerbanged her and was asking for the next step you gay

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          The next step is you make a fool of yourself and get manipulated

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            If you get manipulated by a woman your brain dead. I’m trying to manipulate her into sucking my dick

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              [...]
              >just give up on relationships every being worth it
              go away moron

              Get rekt retards. I have friends from other parts of the world where they literally abducted girls and held them and knocked them up, until they turned into adoring wives. One kid tied a bitch to a tree, stabbed her and left her there for a while because she insulted him. She's still with him, loves him.
              And here you are, getting "ghosted", trying to scratch and sniff a little crumb of pussy-wussy mommy plz plz.
              gays. Retards.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                >I'm a moron and I'm proud of it

                >mUH rElAyShUnShIpS
                Fag
                Looking for a mommy for yourself. gay.

                >I hate everything good in the world and I'm proud of it

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                At this point, I think the morons actually are superior to you.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                That's cool and all but here doing any of that will get your arrested so it's not really an option, hence why dudes are having to bend over backwards for scraps of female attention since they have all the power.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Yes but what I'm saying is, maybe they shouldn't bend over backwards, maybe this is a dire terminal cancer situation that requires a fundamental change in tactics.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Yeah but again, they're only doing that because stabbing a girl and tying her to a tree isn't a realistic option in any country where other men will come place you in prison for doing so. You have to play women's game by their rules.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                That's gay, and untenable, and no you shouldn't be "playing women's game", nor should you be discussing how to play that game, you dumb slow gays.
                You will literally put up with anything.
                You'd take dick in your mouth and rarionalize it with "what can you do, the law is the law, at least I'm not a moron".

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Well, being imprisoned is also untenable, so you can see the rock and the hard place creating the frustration in these threads clearly.

  69. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Been randomly feeling pains in the right side of my chest past couple weeks
    Is it over for me IST?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      No, as an accredited legal and medical professional, I can say that it would be an issue if you had the pains on the other side of the chest.
      I.e. not the right side of the chest, but the other one.
      The second side. Of the chest, that is.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        So I'm retarded for thinking my heart was on the right side of my body?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          No, don't be hard on yourself, not everyone is trained and qualified to use the "search engine" tool in "browser" software. Don't blame yourself for not having that expertise, you will acquire it someday.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I literally have no idea what those are but thank you for believing in me it means more than you know

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You can be talking about:
            -ignoring women
            -leaving
            -drugging bitches
            -intimidating women
            -ganging up like the shitskins

            But instead you're talking about how to jump through the most humiliating hoops ever invented.
            Cause you're fags.
            Fuck you, I'm glad you'll all be hurt and humiliated.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              Meant for

              Well, being imprisoned is also untenable, so you can see the rock and the hard place creating the frustration in these threads clearly.

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              >You can be talking about:
              >-ignoring women
              >-leaving
              Which is the opposite of getting girls then since it leaves you with no girl.

              >-drugging bitches
              >-intimidating women
              >-ganging up like the shitskins
              Which will get you imprisoned.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Literally everything I've listed except for ignoring women, which is possibly the best option for many, is a way to get women.
                >muh imprisoned
                Yeah you will need to break laws, or be a white nerd fag slave.
                Also, it's not like these conditions stand to improve or be corrected in any way. So within the lifespan of everyone posting here, you will all have to be choosing between the most humiliating lifelong serfdom+castration, and "being a moron".

                Also, imprisonment is alright, it's not worth fearing.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                >Literally everything I've listed except for ignoring women, which is possibly the best option for many, is a way to get women.
                Yes and as I said they will land you in prison or not get you women.

                >ignore women
                That's literally what everyone here does. They stay in their basements ignoring women.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                Every other post is a moron like this

                Rum and coke for me. I lined up a bunch of hookups with some pretty hot girls from my uni and the other one in my city but have been slowly cancelling/ghosting each one, when I'm horny sure it seems like a good idea but that's a temporary thing and I just don't feel the interest in casual sex that I used to have. I'm 24 and I just want to find a good woman who I can grow and mature alongside of, not fuck around for a few more years and pick up some used good by the time I'm in my 30s.

  70. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    >just give up on relationships every being worth it
    go away moron

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      ever*

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >mUH rElAyShUnShIpS
      Fag
      Looking for a mommy for yourself. gay.

  71. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Been having insomnia issues lately. For some reason my brain decided to go "fuck you" and does not allow me to be in proper deep sleep, I've never had this before. Basically I lay down and normally I feel like my brain detaches itself from the body and I am in dreamland. But now its like im aware that I am laying down and sleeping while at the same time halfway dreaming. I don't know how to stop it.
    I asked my psychiatrist (I have OCD please no bully, dont take meds just therapy) and she didnt really know what to do about it.

  72. 1 month ago
    barman

    [...]

    in my view women are rather malleable
    find a over protected 18 yr qt3.14 and your set, but you have to be the one to make her a wife
    if youre a fuckup loser, thats what you'll imprint onto her, and she'll just make your life exponentially worse
    >captcha: KMS PV

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      an overprotected*

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      an overprotected*

      YOURE* FUCK
      NEED MORE COFFEE

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        WHATS UP BARMAN I THOUGHT YOU WERE ALREADY SNOOZING ON THE TILL

        • 1 month ago
          barman

          AYE, NEVER SLEEP ON THE JOB

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >find a over protected 18 yr qt3.14
      Good luck with that. If they're overprotected you won't find them or be able to interact with them.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        This.
        It's something that barely exists, and when it does i.e. she's young, not trash, had a good and strict father and somehow was not turned against him, these girls marry well and marry early.

        >just find solid gold bars in the clearance bins breh

      • 1 month ago
        barman

        This.
        It's something that barely exists, and when it does i.e. she's young, not trash, had a good and strict father and somehow was not turned against him, these girls marry well and marry early.

        >just find solid gold bars in the clearance bins breh

        no shit theyre rare. im just gathering resources, rep, connections, etc so it'll make my quest for a boyfriend-free girl atleast a little easier

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I actually have and it's a pain in the fuck.

      >can never hang out because she still lives with her parents and they basically keep her under lock and key
      >when we do it can only ever be for a few hours at a time
      >can't drive, doesn't have a job

      • 1 month ago
        barman

        anon its either this pain, or the pain of finding out how many miles of dick the average college aged gf had taken

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I actually found one this summer, but her parents were divorced, so while she has a strong relationship with her Father, she became too independent from either of them. Dated her until mid September, but she was too immature and felt like she was too stressed out. I still think about her, and how I can get her back before ((they)) get to her.

  73. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    september i weighed 156 now I weigh 175. i hate winter holidays

  74. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    lactose free milk 2% plz

    spent 40 minutes digging my car out of the snow and went to the gym this morning, first trip of the new year(I've been remodeling a house the last week). not a single open space and no legal parking nearby. I hate janurary

    got a good core workout throwing the snow though

  75. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Rum and coke for me. I lined up a bunch of hookups with some pretty hot girls from my uni and the other one in my city but have been slowly cancelling/ghosting each one, when I'm horny sure it seems like a good idea but that's a temporary thing and I just don't feel the interest in casual sex that I used to have. I'm 24 and I just want to find a good woman who I can grow and mature alongside of, not fuck around for a few more years and pick up some used good by the time I'm in my 30s.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Enjoy the uni girls while you can man. It's the last place you'll be around girls routinely enough to establish attraction outside of work if you're lucky.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah I get that and part of me definitely does want to take advantage of it while it's there, I think it's a lot to do with the fact that my depression has gotten worse recently

  76. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I don't drink alcohol.
    >Diet coke for me fren.

    Boxing class was suspended... Now I'm bored and stuck at home. I wanted to do an extended fAST, but it's so tempting to order a pizza today. Give strength my fasting bros.

  77. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've spend so many years as an incel I cannot comprehend women being into me. Never been ugly although super insecure, but thanks to lifting and general healthy lifestyle I managed to become pretty good looking recently. Still any time I see women miring or even have them approach me, I subconsciously panic fearing they might find out who I really am. Like I'm somehow fooling women into being into me and they will realize sooner or later that I'm actually not attractive if they interact with me.
    Doesn't help that pretty much the only experience I had with women was a few months ago when I met a chick at a festival through friends, we hit it off and then she went from literally not being able to look me in the eyes without blushing the first few dates to completely ignoring from one moment to the next. Never mind I hat a genuinely pretty chick into me and let me fuck her, for a few weeks at least, but the incel part of my mind doesn't care about that apparently
    I guess this is just some form of generalized impostor syndrome. I have the same shit everywhere
    >uni
    somehow in my retarded brain I'm only excelling at my stem major because I'm good at studying + exams and actually retarded
    >social
    I have tons of friends and acquaintances and everyone I interact with seems to like me but they actually just tolerate me because others tolerate me and I kinda weaseled my way into social circles
    >fitness
    I outlift, outperform and look better than any any person I know IRL and most people in the gym. To me I'm just weak because I've been lifting for close to a decade with meh stats and look awful because I got rather wide hips and narrow shoulders.

    Somehow in my mind what I am to others and what I achieve is not who I really am. Because the person behind those actions is the person only I know, the me that only exists in my own thoughts. And I cannot imagine anyone ever liking that thing, so I'd rather keep letting my normie shadow take the credit and never let anyone really in

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Look up Sam Vaknin
      Internalized bad object

  78. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Gonna probably break up with gf of 4 years. She'll do it.

    Marriage is fucking with her mind because she's from a different culture and for the past six months our conversations revolved around nothing but obligations, responsibilities, duties, etc. This got her into a depressive and anxiety induced rut and she's refusing help. Didn't even propose to her yet, not engaged, no kids. Nothing. but her mind is OBSESSED with shit like not moving to far away from her mom because she needs to take care of her grandkids. (she never moved out in her life). Current life is a mess due to her work and her living situation (hates being where she is, refuses to move in, hates her mom, yet goes full stockholm with her future)

    At this point I'm dulled and uncaring. Whatever happens, happens. 31 years old. Had a good time but if this is how its going to end then so be it. Better dodge this bullet now before getting married and hit with a 180 in attitude and everything. This isn't the person I fell in love with anymore. I made peace with that.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This is what you get for having yellow fever

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Jungle fever lmao

        I fell for the tomboy gf meme

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          That's what you get for fuckaçao monkeyçao

  79. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    An amf. I am 21 and I'm still a virgin. I've been obsessing about it for over an hour and have an awful headache. I can't get over the embarrassment of it.

  80. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i am on the brink of starting a villain arc. now that i am closer to my goal body my confidence is growing. finally became confident with women and i can’t fathom that it used to be so hard to attract them. i just want to get a gf, cheat and play games because i missed out on it when i was younger but more importantly i want to self indulge en have fun messing around. but my morals are holding me back.

  81. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Rum and ginger ale please mate.

    2022 was quite the shite year, didn't progress in anything, stopped lifting, failed my studies and long term gf left me. Stuck in shitty retail job barely scraping by. Just a pathetic state of existence.
    Anyway I don't have time to dwell on any of this, just pushing through, past 2 months been going to gym 4 times a week and I almost got back to my peak strength levels. Will get myself a good job this year, and a hotter gf. There'll be brighter days

  82. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I dont feel human. Between my skele looks and my lack of human experience, I feel like a perpetual child. I'm only a couple years off of 30. I need change. I have to make it this year or it will be my last.

  83. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Why are 99% of girls so fucking boring to talk to?

    Once in a blue moon I find a girl who's actually have a personality and can banter.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I don't want to be mean to women but you shouldn't expect them to excel in things they weren't meant to excel in.

  84. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    is there science to bloatmaxing? ive always been relatively slim, but due to the new years ive been eating a lot and drinking alot. for reference im 6'2" 180ish but have bloated to 190 ish over the past few weeks. ive been getting a lot more attention from girls and mires what can this mean? is a mans purpose to take up space? why am i suddenly experiencing attention vs when i was decently fit?

  85. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I’m a little concerned with my new drinking habits
    I never had a desire until a particularly stressful week at work and school at the same time and I wanted to try something to relax on the weekend
    Well I sure did relax, and now I’ve relaxed every weekend since then
    Usually I drink heavily, like 7-9 drinks, once or twice a week. Only on weekends because I don’t want to effect my training too much.
    It’s just concerning. I really really enjoy it. It feels like I can talk to people better and I’m received better, on top of just feeling great.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      sounds like if you found other ways to relax, you wouldn't need to drink like that
      sort that out if matters to you

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        The only other thing I’ve found that makes me feel similar to alcohol is finishing a heavy lifting session. It just feels like everything is ok and I love myself. This feeling is very fleeting though.

        I think it’s hard for me to relax because of my current life situation.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          try meditation, what they both have in common is that your inner monologue basically gives up
          before you start with the 'im too stressed for that', that vietnamese dude did it while burning to fucking death
          you will be better in around 6 weeks with a noticeable difference after 2

  86. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    A Blackni, please.
    I’ve been using dating apps to find some girl to go out with for a week and as always it’s mentally draining. Things are going fine, the both of us even set up a date and then she ghosts or turn a one-eighty on me. That’s not even counting the fact that a lot of these women are dumb and entitled as hell. I thought for sure I had the whole thing set with the last one I’ve been talking with, but she ghosted me today. I’ll try to salvage it latter tonight, but I’m not really hopeful. Fuck, I just want to go out and have some fun, why does it have to be so hard? I know some of you guys think Chad has an easier time, but even a Chad friend of mine has to meander through a gazillion lukewarm matches and aimless talking before he can score a date. Going clubbing seems like an easier time, but I dislike it.

  87. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Gin and tonic

    I've lost close to 25lbs since starting in Nov and while I'm happy for that and seeing the steady progression weak to weak (not just water weight), I went to the gym tonight for the first time in years and severely underestimated how weak I really am. Granted I did shit ass backwards by doing accessory exercises before a core lift, but still it's embarrassing and depressing as fuck when I can't even manage 5 continous reps of bar only squats.

    Upside is that I've missed that good feeling of pumping out a set when you don't think you can finish it. Idk man, just gotta keep looking forward and understanding that after almost 10+ years of gaming and sitting on my ass I'm gonna be weak as shit.

    Might adjust my calorie goal to get to 230 and up my protein intake to help with muscle gain. See how I feel and look then and go from there. Currently aiming for 200 and MFP has me at 120g protein a day. Kinda dig bear mode anyways.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Hey so I had a similar situation as you. I lost 50 lbs and felt weak in the gym. I suggest you keep going. I stopped before my goal weight to put on some muscle and I haven’t gotten near that weight since.
      When you’re in the groove of dieting, just keep going bro. Once you stop or change things up it feels incredibly difficult to go back to the diet.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        That's fair anon, will probably up my protein still and hopefully being so weak is from doing jack shit and eating shit for 10 years. Felt good pushing through the last set of one of the accessories I was doing, didn't think I'd be able to manage it.

        Also need to come up with a clear plan for each day, I put in work today but it had no focus and definitely not optimal thinking about it now. Looking forward to the leg soreness tomorrow though.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          If you’re only squatting the bar then you probably have lots of newbie gains you can go through while in a calorie deficit anyway. Keep it up bro!

  88. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    > what are the effects of alcoholism in regards to lifting?
    Protein powder will wreak havoc on your liver.

  89. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >decide to finally get office job after 10 years in the field after college
    >manager is 9.5/10 small blond fit woman with a nice smile, has extremely charming personality, has these hazel eyes that seem like they radiate light
    >she goes to the gym during the lunch break and sometimes comes back wearing her exercise clothes
    >she's 38 years old, married with two kids, and probably barely registers that I exist when she's not giving me my tasks

    I honestly don't think I can keep working there, I can't concentrate on my job at all when she's around. I've fucked up a few assignments already just because she was in the room.

  90. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >New years Eve party
    >Meet a cool group of people, especially one girl among them.
    >Talk and talk, multiple "what it's XX:XX already?" Everything just goes smooth, this goes on untill the party winds down at 0400.
    >Find a moment to, outside her earshot, ask her friends if she single. (Cool group of people, would probably ruin the good vibes if I asked her out and one of the guys where her boyfriend).
    >Get a yes, go smug AF with the "not for long" response, ask I walk over and ask for her number.
    >Got it.

    And now texting her is the most frigid shit with 1-2 business days between responses. I do not understand it, gonna throw a "Messaging like this is the most frigid shit, but when we met and talked it was anything but. Want to meet again?"
    Because at rate things are currently going It's not like I have anything to lose.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah do it man

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Literally did about 20 secs after posting. During our talk on new years I mentioned how my outlook on life changed after I realized that all the things in life I wanted and actually got, were things I got because of actions I decided to take. Nothing comes to the passive

        After talking about shit like that to a girl I've backed myself into a corner where I must throw the dice or be a complete pussy hypocrite.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/GIS6rYA.png

      Literally did about 20 secs after posting. During our talk on new years I mentioned how my outlook on life changed after I realized that all the things in life I wanted and actually got, were things I got because of actions I decided to take. Nothing comes to the passive

      After talking about shit like that to a girl I've backed myself into a corner where I must throw the dice or be a complete pussy hypocrite.

      In the moment chemistry often means nothing. If there's anything I've learned in my adult life it's that for girls if you are out of sight you're out of mind until she's literally in love with you. If you're not immediately in front of her you're not even a person. The letters and text on her screen don't register as a person either.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah do it man

      Update:
      It still stings to lose, even when you didnt have anything to lose.

      [...]
      In the moment chemistry often means nothing. If there's anything I've learned in my adult life it's that for girls if you are out of sight you're out of mind until she's literally in love with you. If you're not immediately in front of her you're not even a person. The letters and text on her screen don't register as a person either.

      Now this is one doomer fucking take, if in person chemistry doesnt mean anything then what can?

      Also apparently she went on a date wiht some other guy just before new years, and is dissing me in favour of him. So clearly she has object permanance.

      Oh well, nothing ventured nothing gained. Not gonna pretend to be happy or content about this but it's always better to throw the dice and have it land where you dont want it than to never have thrown it at all.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Good job anon, you did the right thing by yourself. Now you won't wonder

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Indeed. Honestly with the frigidity of that messaging the writing was one the wall, but it's good to get it confirmed.

          Started actually throwing my hat into the ring last year (after I moved out), and went on a date that didnt go anywhere. But then it was a mutual "lets not meet again". Important part is to never fucking never make that "What could have been" mistake. I've pulled retarded shit in the past. And as long as I can avoid wondering what could have been I consider it a W.

          Not gonna pretend I'm in some super happy mood right now but I'll get over it.

          >Now this is one doomer fucking take, if in person chemistry doesnt mean anything then what can?
          Often nothing, and that's one of the hardest pills you're going to have to swallow in life.

          You can be in love, have kids, support eachother through thick and thin, and it can all end in divorce meaning nothing. A girl can act like she's in love with you one minute then be fucking another dude the next. There is no amount of connection or bonding you think you're building with a girl that she can't throw it out. Compared to these having a nice conversation for a few hours is nothing.

          Even if the shit you said was true, believing it would do nothing but turn you into a bitter fuck. And that aint good for anyone. I know it stings to lose the closer you get to winning, and I hope one day you'll be able to get back into the ring. Or stay out of it forever, if that is what makes you content. Just that you end becoming happy with where and what you are in life.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Even if the shit you said was true
            Are you saying divorce doesn't exist and isn't the most common outcome of marriages?

            >believing it would do nothing but turn you into a bitter fuck
            That's weird it hasn't done that to me. Accepting basic realities of human interaction is simply learning how to live with life and will make you less angry that it happens. Once you understand there is no level of bonding that you can create with a girl that she can't or won't create with another guy immediately after or even concurrently with you, you alleviate any and all expectations or rationality or loyalty and won't get mad at finding neither. It won't hurt so much when things like that happen because you won't be left thinking, "Wtf we had such a great connection?"

            Connections for pretty girls are a dime a dozen. Every guy is going to interact with them in an engaging way. For you the great interaction and conversation was special because it's rare for you to find an engaging girl, but for her it was just another fun guy entertaining her for the night.

            >I know it stings to lose the closer you get to winning, and I hope one day you'll be able to get back into the ring.
            Are you projecting or something? When did I say anything about myself here?

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              >Are you projecting or something? When did I say anything about myself here?
              I'm just assuming that to end with your mindset is the result of some unpleasant experiences.

              If not personal experience then what made you adopt that attitude?

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                You said
                >I hope one day you'll be able to get back into the ring
                as if I threw in the towel and gave up. But I never said anything of the sort.

              • 1 month ago
                Anonymous

                My apologies then, good.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >Now this is one doomer fucking take, if in person chemistry doesnt mean anything then what can?
        Often nothing, and that's one of the hardest pills you're going to have to swallow in life.

        You can be in love, have kids, support eachother through thick and thin, and it can all end in divorce meaning nothing. A girl can act like she's in love with you one minute then be fucking another dude the next. There is no amount of connection or bonding you think you're building with a girl that she can't throw it out. Compared to these having a nice conversation for a few hours is nothing.

  91. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Quit the liquid garden gnome anon. Let me give you a little rundown.
    >come from family of addicts, parents died from heroin
    >dad was bad alcoholic and mom was too but not like him
    >gene gets passed to me
    >dad warns me my whole life, learn the hard way anyway
    >drinking a little turns into a lot over the course of 4 years 2 of which i wasn’t even legally able to drink
    >eventually i want to stop but now I have the shakes
    >keep drinking and avoid the problem
    >fast forward to 5 months ago
    >decide I’m going to quit and go to hospital after the shakes being horrible no matter how much i drank
    >lay on couch hoping sleep will help
    >shakes get worse
    >can’t move
    >jigisup.jpg
    >aunt and grandma both find out I’m an alcoholic
    >call ambulance, take me to hospital so i don’t have a seizure and die
    >shaking violently, they stabilize me and release me 10 hours later with prescriptions for vitamins
    >almost fucking died

    Haven’t drank in 5 months anons and never plan to again. Physically pisses me off even thinking about it. I still smoke weed but I’m sure we can all agree that’s a little better. I kept my job throughout all of this surprisingly. Destroyed a lot of relationships, including the one with my ex. Would get super drunk and post shit about Covid vax being a death shot on normie social media and lost a lot of friends.
    Been lifting ever since, look a lot better and dropped 20 pounds.
    Don’t do what i did anons. If you have a problem the sooner you face it the better. It doesn’t get better on its own.
    I didn’t go to rehab btw but if you feel you need to, go ahead, anything that helps.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >still smoke weed but I’m sure we can all agree that’s a little better
      Nah

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You’re right, ultimately I wish i had a steady supply of edibles. Can’t wait to grow it again in the future

  92. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Moscow mule please.
    New shy foreign looking lanklet girl joined gym. I was in front of a squat rack doing rows, and she was doing barbell calf raises on the rack, while doing some weird supersetting with calf machines. Finished my rows and asked her if I could join her to do my squats. She says she is done and I can take it, so I start.
    Before I'm done with squat warmup she comes back and asks if I will take long, tell her to join and alternate.
    After she finishes her set she tries to help me set change one side of the weights, struggles with the 20kg plate, gets nervous, and leaves to calf machine without putting in the rest of my weights.
    While resting before my last set I leave to fill my water bottle, when I come back she is just done setting up my set weights correctly for once (both sides this time), I chuckle and tell her thanks for that, she blushes and says no problem with a yummy foreing accent, and goes away to another machine.

    Very simple interactions, but felt really natural and cute, and I can't remember the last time I was genuinely smiling like today.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      She wants your babbies

  93. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've worked out the last 4 days in a row (crosstraining). I nearly fucked off yesterday's workout but pushed through. Was planning to lift tonight and rest tomorrow, but I don't have it in me, I'm gonna rest tonight and lift tomorrow.
    Pretty proud of my perseverance otherwise, hasn't been the mental battle I thought it'd be. Good start to the year. The last quarter of 2022 really got away from me, so it feels good to be back in the swing of things.

  94. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Boulvardier, please.

    Im seeing a 17 year old girl and Im addicted, I love spending time with her. But its gonna get me socially cancelled, everyone I talk to that isnt my mum really hates it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I've got an 18 year old secret slampiece petite blond who will do literally whatever I like, but I know that if I full gf her my family and friends will be weird about it.

      In fairness, she's not really good for me in general and no way I should be in a relationship with her, but still.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Its a hard pill to swallow

        [...]
        How to meet young cuties?

        Met mine at a cafe, I was hungover and recovering from a ketmine trip from the night prior so I was delusional enough to ask her for her number and instagram. Shes coming to stay over at my place in an hour

        I'm seeing a 17 year old too. we have quite the age difference and shes honestly the sweetest girl ive ever met. im staying with her and idgaf about the social repercussions she's like a unicorn.

        Iktf. I wish to god there were such a social stigma about it, I wish to god she was 18 but unfortunately thats just not the case.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Iktf. I wish to god there were such a social stigma about it, I wish to god she was 18
          We're holding off with more serious stuff till she hits 18. I see it as a chance to bond and extra time for me to do what I need to do. For now were spending time with each other doing different activites and hanging out having a good time.
          She has an overbearing mother but at least shes cool enough to trust her daughter's judgment with me.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I hope it works out for you anon, glad youre being respectful about it

            • 1 month ago
              Anonymous

              Wagmi brother

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Met mine at a cafe
          This is one of the main reasons I never hit on random girls in public, they don't have their age printed on their forehead.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I've got an 18 year old secret slampiece petite blond who will do literally whatever I like, but I know that if I full gf her my family and friends will be weird about it.

      In fairness, she's not really good for me in general and no way I should be in a relationship with her, but still.

      How to meet young cuties?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Tinder for me.

        The hard part though is that Tinder sets your max age range at 5 years older by default and most girls are too retarded to even know it. You're usually going to not even be seen on dating apps by girls 5 years or more younger than you unless they're deliberately daddy issues girls looking for much older guys. These ones tend to be a bit unhinged.

        You can also go to your local club where the college girls go.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Good to know. Thanks, anon.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I'm seeing a 17 year old too. we have quite the age difference and shes honestly the sweetest girl ive ever met. im staying with her and idgaf about the social repercussions she's like a unicorn.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I dated an 18 year old when I was 27. She made me happy for a bit, but that was followed by three years of depression and trying to maintain contact with her.
      It was not worth it and I should've focused on the relationship I was/am in.

  95. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Trumpfags vote against their own economic interests

  96. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Gin please.
    I finally talked to the qt at work. She was a rower in high school so I used that as a conversation starter. We ended up going to the company gym together and she gave me some tips. I sweat way too much and felt so out of shape and honestly think I blew any chance I had with her.

    • 1 month ago
      barman

      if it happened once, it can happen again
      next time be ready

  97. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The biggest gains goblin is losing a pet. My cat died mid-November from kidney failure and I had that piece of shit for nearly 17 years. I've been mostly blackout drunk and a sad cunt since then. Mostly just whiskey, I've tried a few good ones but now it's just cheap vodka. Picked up a new cat from the humane society just before Christmas. She's a good cat but there's something missing and I'm pretty sure it'll never be the same again.
    To be an entirely sad cunt, I tried Laphroaig's quarter cask and it's a really good whiskey, would recommend if you like heavy peat scotches.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      🙁

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      F
      I salute your cat.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      We don't get forever with anyone anon. Enjoy the time we have.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      F
      I understand how you feel, my cat died after 18 years a couple years ago. Take solace in the fact that she had a great and long life with you and being dead is better than suffering from kidney failure. She wouldn't want you to be a sad cunt all the time but be a sick cunt instead, go lift anon.

  98. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Cup of Tea , Please
    Girlfriend has Covid , sick of doing bloody tests, but least im coming up negative

    Bank holiday on monday meant Gym was closed so couldnt get a good start to the week, and looking after her meant I couldnt go wednesday , Least I got to go to rugby training and 5 aside

    She's probably going to end up hospital with it so least i can go to the gym tonight

  99. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm about to hop on a plane and I'm scared....give me your courage bros

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Inshallah anon God is on our side

  100. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's 11am. I'm daydrinking Hispaniced rum and gold monster. Fell out of love with my boxing training and heartbroken with fucking things up with the girl I cared for so much.
    I'm going to try and pull myself together a step at a time, but things feel so tough right now...

  101. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >wake up
    >sore throat feel like I'm getting sick
    >go to climbing gym
    >it's so packed I do a 360 and walk back out
    >try to buy groceries
    >when I see the completely empty parking lot I remember today is a holiday in this part of the country I moved to 2 months ago
    >drive home
    >by now feel too sick to go to actual gym
    Year is starting like absolute shit. I should've skipped the nye party, and started productive into 2023.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Which Country did you move to ?

      Focus on getting better Anon , gym aint going no were and taking a day to recover aint a bad thing

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Germany
        I know it will get better, but I had really unproductive first few days of this year. Last year was great for me, but I had even more planned for 2023 and so far I've done fuck all.

  102. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    A glass of milk, thanks.
    I hope to fully recover from my injury (protrusion) to go back to the gym. The last time I went was in Dec 2020, the year in which I've made the most progress. Let's make it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Hoping it works out bro, glhf.

  103. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >reset my sleep schedule to midnight bedtime two days ago
    >now going to bed at 8AM already again
    >back to work next monday 6AM wakeup time
    Guess I might as well just round the clock it over the weekend then.

  104. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >remove 90% of my IST screen time aka IST and /a/
    >have a lot of free time
    >can gayming for 1 hour or watching tranime while doing a shit ton of productive works in a day and going to the gym
    fags always said gayming and tranime are the worst gain goblin, but this website is the biggest gain goblin out there.

  105. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >4:00 AM
    >both me and wife are awake
    >scoot over to her side of bed
    >spoon her
    >rub her legs, ass
    >hook my other arm under her neck, squeeze her tits
    >pull her nightshirt up to her waist
    >six-year-old comes running into bedroom
    >freeze
    >dives on my side of bed
    >snoring in a minute
    >wife pushes her ass into me
    >keep rubbing
    >slip her panties down her legs
    >pull my cock out of fly of boxers
    >slide it between her cheeks
    >four-year-old comes running in
    >shit
    >jumps on foot of bed, curls up like a dog
    >snoring too after a minute
    >wife hooks her leg over mine
    >slide my hand between her legs
    >pussy is soaked
    >rub it while she grinds her ass against me
    >lick hand
    >lube up dick
    >line it up with her asshole
    >rub her pussy while she slowly arches her back into me
    >her her whimper, feel her spinchter start to stretch around me
    >three-year-old runs in
    >NO DADDY THAT'S MY SPOT
    >climbs on bed and gives me the people's elbow
    >slides between us and cuddles up to my wife
    >fuck man
    >come on

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous
      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >Samsung tv
        ching chong, louis vuitton

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >>feel her spinchter
      >>NO DADDY THAT'S MY SPOT
      what did he mean by this

  106. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >"you dont check all the things in the checklist, but a meetup will be the deciding factor"
    What do? I'm no stranger to shit tests, but this is the first time I've gotten this on a chick ive met online. I meet with hwr next week

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This is literally what she wrote? Lmao I would just laugh in her face and cut contact, that's fucking hilarious. Dating is not a job interview

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      you deserve better

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        This is literally what she wrote? Lmao I would just laugh in her face and cut contact, that's fucking hilarious. Dating is not a job interview

        Unless she was joking, this woman has an ego the size of the world.

        Told her i wasnt gonna waste my time and she replied with
        >just to be clear, i was coming from the fact that your characteristics are different from the guys i’ve dated and usually go for so i’m kinda getting used to you

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Well, now she's the one insisting on meeting you so you massively improved your position, I'd go and see what happens.

        • 1 month ago
          barman

          sounds autistic and like shes saving face
          i'd go if i had nothing to do as this sounds interesting
          i have a stew going so ill go back to it

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >your characteristics are different from the guys i’ve dated and usually go for so i’m kinda getting used to you
          >treating dating like buying a new phone
          Call me a gay but imo dating should still be a little romantic no? Is modern dating this fucking cynical?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            it literally is

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Is modern dating this fucking cynical?
            Online dating is.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Unless she was joking, this woman has an ego the size of the world.

  107. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I got impingement a couple of weeks ago but I have not stopped lifting. I modified my routine to do mostly narrow grip stuff and added a fuckton of rotator cuff exercises and dead hangs. The pain has steadily declined and my rom in the impinged shoulder is almost back to normal.
    Why did people tell me to stop lifting?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Stopping lifting altogether is almost never the answer for most injuries

  108. 1 month ago
    barman

    bars closing, last call

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Water, apple cider vinegar.
      I'm going to be in a different town for most of the day Monday and want to work on approaches for the first time. Where are some good places to try? This town is near a university, so there'd be students there, but I'm a bit older and looking for a job (hence going to this town for interviews). How should I proceed, complete brainlet here.

      • 1 month ago
        barman

        from what i recall the boomer PUA strat was midday at the supermarket, but idk about that.
        hope some anons can jump in and give you some advice before the thread dies

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