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  1. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Anyone here have peroneal tendonitis? How long did it take to heal?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      whisky sour bar tender.

      It's no secret that a lot of people come here to complain about >tfw no gf. But the final redpill is that most of you actually don't want gfs. Or, maybe it'd be more accurate to say you want gfs, but not more than you want to save yourself of any embarrassment or spilling spaghetti.

      If you really want something bad enough, you'd be surprised how far your Will can push you to shatter barriers and obstacles.

      i had patella tendonitis and it didn't go away until I switched my leg workouts to be posterior chain focused rather than quad. And it took a while. So go easy on the joint and train oppositional muscle groups (which in your case would be the Tibialis anterior). Idk I'm not a physical therapist. Take my advice for what it's worth.

      In dire need of having my face nestled between the butt cheeks of a qt gym bunny
      so fricking sick of imagining the smell, bro

      have you tried talking to her?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >have you tried talking to her?
        I'm /misc/-tier ugly

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          why does that matter? You're clearly attracted to her. So do what you want and talk to her.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          You are not going to kill someone just talking, so what does it matter?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >Or, maybe it'd be more accurate to say you want gfs, but not more than you want to save yourself of any embarrassment or spilling spaghetti.

        This is the truly final redpill about all the >tfw no gf, it’s all people trapped in their own hell created by pride and cowardice. You are so afraid of being seen as the loser you think you are that you refuse to put yourself in a situation that you may confirm it, AKA talking to the women you’re interested in.

        My advice to these people, get over yourself, cultivate some humility.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >train oppositional muscle groups (which in your case would be the Tibialis anterior).
        >Take my advice for what it's worth.
        Very good advice. Yeah, that probably contributed. I also read similar advice elsewhere. The tibialis might help in shock absorption. Thanks.

  2. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    In dire need of having my face nestled between the butt cheeks of a qt gym bunny
    so fricking sick of imagining the smell, bro

  3. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Unpopular opinion but:

    Alcohol is for nervous homosexuals that can't handle life without a liquid narcotic. Anyone that drinks it automatically weak and should be treated as a second class citizen.

    Pussies. All of you.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >t. autistic incel NEET

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Can't argue with any of this tbh. There's literally no gain from drinking alcohol. It really is one of the worst drugs imaginable.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >
      Alcohol is for nervous homosexuals that can't handle life without a liquid narcotic. Anyone that drinks it automatically weak and should be treated as a second class citizen.

      >hits vape pen, sips energy drink

      >Pussies. All of you

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      this is the same class of opinion as the moron homosexuals on IST that claim you didn't beat Elden Ring unless you played wretch, never leveled up, and never used anything other than the starting weapon
      you are a bitter moron that has no friends and is spiteful towards the world for no reason other than the fact that you think it makes you interesting
      you've also likely never uncovered the fact that alcohol is insanely good for you in moderation, we've evolved to consume it, and it makes food taste 1000% better when done correctly:
      >juicy steak with a dry bordeaux or chianti
      >hard cheeses and seafood with a pinot gris or sauv blanc
      >greasy british sloppa with a stout
      >nice sweet oily reuben with an irish red ale

      not everyone who drinks, gets plastered to 0.18 BAC like a college student, homosexual

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        For me, it's a nice ruby port with just about anything

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >walls of text
        >not everyone that drinks is a pussy

        I can feel the estrogen seeping from your pores as you type. b***h.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >being this assmad at the idea that a person might drink a beer

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >he drinks fermented yeast shit

            Keep em coming. You know you're a degenerate that can't control his addiction. Must suck knowing what you could have been.

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              >You know you're a degenerate that can't control his addiction.
              >projecting this hard
              you must be a riot at parties
              and my that I mean that you're obviously a bitter manlet college homosexual teetotaler who's upset that stacy is getting piped by chad at a frat party within 100 miles of you
              what is it with zoomers thinking that the only possible way to drink alcohol is to play slap the bag until an EMT places you in the recovery position?

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >The b***htit beer drinker recoils as he strikes you

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Found the addict. Alcohol is the liquid israelite.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >you've also likely never uncovered the fact that alcohol is insanely good for you in moderation
        Im not one-bit antibooze, but holy shit this is just wrong

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >we've evolved to consume it
        Thats the dumbest thing I've ever read on IST

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      fun tho

      im going out tonight gonna try to be personable and friendly, gonna consider sleeping with this one girl that likes me but i turned down before. wish me luck anons

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      right i will drink too that

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I tend to only drink, in the rare occasions I do, alone, or in the company of family.
      Around strangers I prefer to stay as sober as possible.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I agree to a point
      Drinking in a public social setting is somewhat necessary because people are just too inhibited otherwise
      Having a habit of drinking by yourself to help get to sleep is serf-tier though

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >I am a social reject so I need to pretend my non-participation in society stems from a moral superiority and not from being a loser

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >need to consume literal poison and make a complete ass out of yourself to be a good goy citizen
        A culture without values is not a society worth participating in.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >if I blame the israelites enough it won't matter I'm a friendless virgin

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Temperance drinks like coca-cola and pepsi and the like probably do as much or more damage to physical health as alcohol.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >alkies genuinely believe this

        .be

        Soda is also poison but alcohol fricks literally everything in your body from top to bottom
        Everything

  4. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >hate my job

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >leave

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >boss says you’re supposed to enjoy the wage cage
      >develop anxiety because you don’t

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >Wagie Wagie, get back in cagie

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >boss says you’re supposed to enjoy the wage cage
          >develop anxiety because you don’t

          https://i.imgur.com/FKT1rtr.jpg

          >hate my job

          >tfw work from home Chad
          I like my job

  5. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >did yoga for a bit while recovering from an injury
    >instructor turned me into a thigh guy
    >went on vacation for a month
    >came back and all the classes got shifted around
    >tell myself "what a shame I'll never see her again, I should've asked her out before I left, I'd totally do it if I had a chance"
    >see her training this week
    >I have no balls to make a move
    I hit a few PR's this week but that just made me weak inside

  6. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    i need a hobby that will be a substitute for a real job. i cant do this neet shit raw anymore

  7. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I'm turning 32 and feel like I wasted a lot of my life because I never got into any athletic hobbies besides lifting, and that was at 24 years old. My parents never pushed me or signed me up for any physical activities growing up. I wish I had learned a sport and had a passion for it, but now I try and can't find anything that pulls my interest in at all. It all feels so boring but I desperately want to be part of a league and be a sportschad that builds his endurance and health as I am starting to age, but it's either boring as shit or I am complete gutter trash at it. Guess I will just keep lifting in my garage and using the treadmill. Why am I so fricking boring or complete shit at things I wish I could do well. Thanks for reading my blog.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Of course you’re trash at something you’ve never done before, but that’s what makes it a worthwhile lifetime endeavor. The worse you are at a new activity, the more depth it offers you to explore.

  8. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I've been trying to fast and eat less to lose fat. Turns out I have sleep apnea, brain says to stop breathing.

  9. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >be me, 6ft, get up to 230lb
    >squat up to 425, DL up to 555, bench at 305 (slap tear that's never fixed)
    >decide I'm tired of feeling like I'm gonna die and clothes fitting like shit
    >start cut, eating nothing but yuzu ponzu salmon, bok choy, white rice
    >go to gym
    >get on bench
    >have to roll of shame after rep 2 of 185
    what the frick
    the strangest thing is that my squat hasn't really suffered

  10. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >be 35yo
    >2023 hits
    >Wife says she's divorcing me
    >Find out she has another
    >I move out from my house
    >Week 1 depression and lots of tears
    >Week 2 started full carnivore and built home gym in my new flat
    >Week 3 lot's of water weight goes away and my former Greek god physique starts to slowly come out (still at 1% of what I used to be so this is just the beginning)
    >Week 4 remember I had a crush for one girl I met at my previous job around the time I met my wife.
    >Figure why the frick I wouldn't send her a message
    >Sent the message
    >Turns out she broke up with her bf too
    >Tomorrow we're having a date
    Still miss my wife, but I know I swapped Ferrari for lambo so it's not that bad.
    Keep your crowns high, kings

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Good anon, I hope you bang her.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >he took the marriage pill
      >gets absolutely btfo'd when his wife leaves him

      Many such cases.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        It's hard to understand why people make the high-risk low-reward investment that is marriage in this day and age.
        She's not yours, it's just your turn.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Babby went to r/theredpill for the first time in his life and now believes he knows everything there is to know about women

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >wife cucks me and decides to blow up the marriage
      >I move out from my house
      marriage seems to be a bad deal if it incentivizes one party to break it

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >>be 35yo
      same
      >>2023 hits
      same
      >>Wife says she's divorcing me
      it looks like my virgin ass has dodged a bullet.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        gib me dis comic

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >wife decides she doesn't like you no more
      >lose your house, career and livelihood
      must be suck to be a married cuck in *current year*

  11. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >5ft5 manlet
    >turning 30 tomorrow
    >like to go to gym,shoot pool, or hike
    >loney and miserable because no social circle
    >have a good job I like
    What do bros?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Find a hobby that forces you into social situations, such as martial arts or a club of sorts

  12. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Feeling down. Getting random outbursts of involuntary crying, even when my head is empty and not thinking about anything in particular like inbetween sets or taking a shit.
    Lifts aren't going great and my hair is thinning at an alarming rate.
    Been doing more cardio which feels nice but I've yet to notice any changes in my day to day life. Hoping it'll give me better sleep and better recovery for lifting.
    I'm in a bit of a slump since no one is hiring me and I have no income but at least I can focus on kicking the bottle and lose some weight. Not really sure why I'm typing this.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I believe in you, anon. You're doing what you can and it's enough. I know it's hard but just keep putting yourself out there for jobs.

  13. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Are relationships between white dudes and asian women generally frowned upon? I feel like a lot of people seem kind of disappointed or something when I tell them about my girlfriend. Not so much that what I'm doing isn't allowed, but instead while people normally encourage productive enterprizes and your friends and acquaintances might be like "hell yeah bro" if you get a new job, when people see me with my girlfriend the vibe is more like "whatever you want bro", "its your life lol", etc etc

    People don't ask about how she's doing, and generally comtextualize or seem to understand our relaionship as a sexual thing

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I oppose racemixing in general despite having a brother with a Chinese wife. But for me I look down on a lot of WMAF couples I meet in the wild because they fit the stereotypical mold of
      >man is weak/soft/effeminate/uncharismatic
      >woman is ugly/domineering/golddigging
      >kids grow up socially awkward
      But it is the most common interracial pairing in the west by a mile

  14. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >find gf that wants to wife up and have family
    >minimal previous relationships
    >Christian
    >increadibly hot
    >very intelligent engineer
    >open and enjoyed experimentation in bed
    >also an absolute anxious basketcase (the reason she was available in the first place)

    The more serious the relationship got, the more insane her reactions and paranoia and eventually straight up depression.
    I ended it, both for me and from the thought of how she'd react in actual stressful situations like if we had kids, vs. just her freaking out over normal dating shit. It was absolutely the correct decision.

    Now I either hold out for another 10/10, intelligent, religious, freak in bed, or get to face the reality that any girl I'm talking to may have none of the bad qualities, but only 50% of the good.
    I kind of wish I'd never met her.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      One near perfect girl can ruin you for life.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Idk dude you probably have some flaws too. Like if you've got some options in the dating market you're probably not a bad guy, decent looking, maybe your job is alright too, so good on you for all that. But when you go into a relationship you should understand that you'll have to accept some of the other person's flaws, and rely on their grace to acceot yours. And by working together and sometimes coming into conflict you develop a healthy dynamic where u can work together and improve.

      To hold out for someone absolutely perfect seems like cowardice, a convenient excuse to avoid something frightening. Like its tough asking women on dates and going through the early part of relationship. Its easier in my experience just to tell yourself that you're alone because noone else is good enough.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Oh I know I'm not perfect, but the whole
        >working together
        Thing needs to come from both sides. I'm not gonna sit here and prove it, but I put in the effort to make things better and she didn't.

        There's nothing tough about talking to women. It's just tough having the same banal conversations and knowing it's not a match

  15. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    First week back at the gym after months long break. Holidays, being lazy, etc. Lifts are nowhere near what they used to be. My cardio is decent and improving quickly, but I'm still slow.

    Feels great. I'm pretty sore. It was hard to walk yesterday. Going again today. I didn't drink the month of January, but replaced it with junk food and candy, so not much weight lost. I had a few drinks last night and I'm pretty hungover. After I workout, I might have a beer. Maybe not. I don't really miss drinking. I get really into working out for a few weeks then fall off. I want to be more consistent and lose some of the weight I gained from October to January. I was 153 lbs in September but now up to 168 lbs. I looked great in the 150-155lbs range.

  16. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Tomorrow will mark my 14th day in a row working out. Feels good to be consistent again

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      be careful bro. Congrats, but thats also how a lot of us end up with joint and connective tissue injuries

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      be careful bro. Congrats, but thats also how a lot of us end up with joint and connective tissue injuries

      If you're young you should be fine, I lift 6 days but sometimes if I need to shift my schedule forward I'll skip the rest day and make it a 13-day streak. Have had no issues from this. Also if "working out" is just a combination of lifting/cardio/misc. sports there's no problem at all working out every day indefinitely, as long as you vary it up

  17. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    i had a call from my family today, my sister had a scheduled surgery today but she reacted pretty bad to the anesthesia, her blow pressure dropped extremly low and she might not wake up.

    i still have no idea what is going on, it's like my brain refuses to process this

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      blocks out the emotions until you're in a situation where you can process them better

  18. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Forgive me bartender for I have sinned greatly.

    >break up with ex
    >libido is normal, nothing to worry about
    >coom to porn twice a week but no biggie, even with not having sex
    >meet new girl but things are very casual right now because we are both very very busy
    >quit porn entirely, sex with new girl maybe once a week tops
    >urges to coom come back like a tsunami
    >every time I see my ex (same friend group sadly) I’ve blown her back out
    >unironically have to avoid seeing her because I want to date this new girl seriously but I’m back to being a monkey
    >REALLY don’t want to coom to porn anymore since quitting it has made me enjoy sex so much more

    >inb4 lift moar
    Tried that and it only made me dump a gallon of coom down my ex’s neck

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >we are both very very busy
      >sex with new girl maybe once a week tops
      >so I frick ex too
      sounds like new girl and you have to work out more sexo time if she wants to be exclusive with you, you're a red blooded man after all

  19. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I want to make babies but I got no LTR or own a house yet, frick my testosteron br3eding instinct

  20. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Deleted all my dating apps about a month ago. All they got me was laid every 2-4 months and a whole shitload of fricking psycho girls in my life fricking up my peace.

    But now I have no real avenues to meet girls either. Don't really know what to do. I'm 30 and just feel I'm getting older and on a time limit, getting further and further away from prime girls in age, but also at this point my best bet is somehow just make a ton of money and settle for a gold digger who will at least pretend to love me while I supply her a free ride.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      She probably made that tiktok for attention

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        What else would a person use mass media broadcasting for?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        My gf has made that exact joke, but yes she wants attention

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Everyone making TikToks are looking for attention

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Get a social hobby like climbing, ballroom dancing or any social area where you can meet new girls.
      Or cold approach girls you find cute that you meet anytime you're out and about, ask for their insta, whatsapp or phone and set up a coffee date.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      All girls are gold diggers by nature, some are just much worse.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Contemplating doing the same. Used to have no trouble getting laid. Moved to a small/mid sized town and I don’t know anyone. Tinder is remarkably tedious and I am having little luck on there. But it’s really all I have.

  21. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >Be me
    >Friends with this girl
    >She's into me but really wasn't looking for a relationship at the time
    >Reject her
    >Fast forward a few months
    >She gets with that one guy in our group of friends who is a gigantic simp
    >Literally only greets women and obviously just tries to get on their good side to frick them
    >All of the women easily see through this and if it was up to them he'd disappear
    >Except for her
    Uhh, do I have a moral responsibility to warn her or some shit?
    I'm pretty sure this is going to turn really fricking sour in 2-3 months by the latest and she's not exactly the most mentally stable in the first place, kinda feel guilty for rejecting her because she genuinely is a good person and it would've prevented this shit but then again her and I wouldn't have worked out either, she seems to be off the deep end and she's definitely the type to double down when people tell her something is a bad idea so no clue how to even attempt this, I know the other girls already told her in private that she's being a moron but she ignores it.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      your just jealous that she isnt simping for you anymore. if she wants to date that guy thats her prerogative

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I'm kind of in a relationship with a different girl, I've thought about me being jealous but I don't think that's it, could be though on a subconscious level or some shit, part of me just refuses to believe that his shit could possibly work on anyone, I think I definitely lost a bit of respect I had for her because of this lmao.

        >Uhh, do I have a moral responsibility to warn her or some shit?
        You're just going to look like a jealous butthole. Let people make moronic mistakes.

        Yeah that's what I feel like it's going to come across as so best move is to just say nothing and watch the trainwreck I guess...

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >Uhh, do I have a moral responsibility to warn her or some shit?
      You're just going to look like a jealous butthole. Let people make moronic mistakes.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      she wants to make you jealus, anon

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You jelly

  22. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >day 3534536 of not knowing whether to break up or not
    I'll have some fricking absinthe

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      If you have to even ask yourself you know the answer anon...

      https://i.imgur.com/KNtOt28.jpg

      >had hot gf last year
      >asked her how her last relationship ended
      >told me she cheated on her ex with a coworker
      >wasn't even remorseful for it
      >used to work in very fancy bars and clubs
      >celebrity, even a couple billionaires clientele
      >was since unemployed
      >helped her looked for a job but explicitly forbade from taking that line of work ever again
      >argues but agrees in the end
      >doesn't find a normal or "safe" job or just lied and never took up the offers or interviews I set up for her
      >goes behind my back and gets a job at one of these fancy places again
      >dump her the next day
      Most of the time I think I made the right choice. But I get flashes of doubt that the only other girls out there are fat or prostitutes or simply wouldn't be into me.

      Just the peace of mind is worth it having broken up, you made the right move.

  23. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Ill have a pint of stout pleaz sir

    I went to a pub with a friend tonight for a couple pints and then we got some falafels wraps, very tasty.
    Before returning to the car we went to another pub just to grab a last can of beer for later. I noticed there was this "former" friend there so i just acknowledged him and went to pay without talking to him.

    Do you guys ever get ghosted by people you thought were friends ?
    We used to work together then he quit, so we only saw each other for a pint every now and then, but all of a sudden he stopped replying to messages, never invited me to his new place and was a boastful condescending dick in general the last time we talked

    That makes me sad.
    Anyway i just needed to vent a bit, i hope you guys are doing good.

  24. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >extremely motivated when smoking weed
    >become creative, write down goals and analyze my life
    >sober up, be depressed and soulless
    >quit for 6 months hoping it’s the weed draining me
    >still feel like shit

    i don’t want to be a junkie but i am objectively happier and more productive when smoking.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I think you need adderall moron

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        the pharma israelite is not much better

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You shouldn’t feel bad for smoking weed if it makes you happy and content. You have to realize that a lot of Normans have bad take on weed from decades of CIA drug war propaganda

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        i agree. it’s not so much the stigma it has that makes me feel bad, it’s just that i think i should be capable of being happy and fulfilled while being sober.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I've always viewed junkies as people who don't have their shit together. If you can smoke weed and keep your shit together, more power to you.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      i've had a similar issue and i realized the weed was just lifting inhibitions i had because i was uncomfortable and not used to sitting around by myself. what did you do during your six months sober? did you try to make a habit of being creative, writing goals, analyzing your life? maybe set a timer for thirty minutes every day where you sit and focus all your attention on something? draw or play music or sit and reflect? because you aren't used to it sober you have to be a bit disciplined to create the habit. that helped me at least

  25. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Due to vacation, sickness,, and inclement weather, I’ve been missing the gym for a month. This sucks.

  26. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I’d like a jagerbomb

    I’m almost out of college and am planning on moving to a different state. My gf has dropped hints about wanting to talk about what will happen to us but I’m not worried about that until I’m leaving. I want my future wife to be IST and she’s pretty average and I don’t think she has the dedication to get fit or will let herself go if I put a ring on her.

  27. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I was a beta male at a situation today.

    A qt personal trainer was talking with me and she was playful and the moment we went at the reception,3 other people were there including the qt receptionist that I like, out of the blue she called me STUPID in the context that i didn't understand something another guy there said. The bad thing is that i stayed silent and didn't respond back like im accepting that shit. There was silence there and i didn't even smile or do anything and there was some small talk between all of us and i left without saying anything after 1 min. That fricked me up because if my ex gf did something like this i put her in her place so i feel guilty for treating my ex like shit and letting a thot have a pass.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Damn, she btfo you

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >there was a silence
      she probably noticed how awkward she made the situation ?
      Ive been there on both sides anon, and let me tell you she probably feels even worse than you for saying this.
      Dont think about it too hard, dont let this moment stay rentfree in your head. Brush it off, and if you need to think about something, its how to act the next time she talks to you : will you say hi politely and walk away to the gym equipment, or will you take a few seconds to tell her "yeah so i really didnt like you calling me stupid out of the blue, its not the end of the world but i didnt appreciate that"

      Anyway, things like this happen all the time to everyone and chances are she felt comfortable enough with you to throw a "friendly" insult into the conv.
      Dont worry too much, anon.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Thanks bro nah the thing is that if a b***h is not my gf or someone I wanna frick I just ignore but it’s not a good habit because my smv drops instantly, women should not talk

        just give her the cold shoulder from now on. This will 100% start working her guilty bone and she will probably descend into internalized screaming levels of anxiety and self-loathing every time you see her. You will see her start acting shameful/avoidant of you.
        Few things. Now she has made herself look STUPID in front of those other guys. She probabl wanted to impress that other guy by making you look bad in comparison. But usually men don't view this sort of like diminishing behavior as a positive trait in women. Instead he probably made a mental note like 'wow this girl is lowkey rude : avoid'.
        Right.
        Secondly if you really want to stick the knife in her heart and twist it real good : if you remember what the guy looks like, if he a regular at your gym, someday just go and approach him and coming from a humble place, start talking with him and pick something relevant to ask him for advice. Try and subtly subconsciouly bring back the memory of her embarrassing you by acting like you seemingly respect him./view him as smarter. His bro instinct will kick in and he will be extra nice and uplifting to you, in a ''you don't have to feel like this bro, i'm not that smart'', you know what i mean.
        Then you will have sort of instilled the thought on him that this b***h hurts people and is careless even more, and he will start treating her even more badly (which to women means, he will be more distant, less inclined to agree with her takes, view her as less smart/less of a good partner).

        That's how you come out on top. And if you make a friend out of this bro, then maybe at some point you open up to him about meeting women and them judging you too harshly, in general, don't mention her, and if he's a real bro he will try to hook you up, or maybe invite you out to meet his friends, and 100% he will feel some guilt based responsibility to sort of like hook you up with a female friend, like he will talk you up, act like you're a prize, vouch for you.

        To be honest I think she always tries to bring me down when the cute receptionist is there. I’m already good friend with the other guy and we have similar physique although he has more muscles and he is richer but he is 40 and I’m 30. Anyway frick that hoe, I should have answered and tell her to shut the frick up inseatd of crying here. I was for sure a simp

        I don’t know about cold shouldering here maybe you are right

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Learn and live bro

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      just give her the cold shoulder from now on. This will 100% start working her guilty bone and she will probably descend into internalized screaming levels of anxiety and self-loathing every time you see her. You will see her start acting shameful/avoidant of you.
      Few things. Now she has made herself look STUPID in front of those other guys. She probabl wanted to impress that other guy by making you look bad in comparison. But usually men don't view this sort of like diminishing behavior as a positive trait in women. Instead he probably made a mental note like 'wow this girl is lowkey rude : avoid'.
      Right.
      Secondly if you really want to stick the knife in her heart and twist it real good : if you remember what the guy looks like, if he a regular at your gym, someday just go and approach him and coming from a humble place, start talking with him and pick something relevant to ask him for advice. Try and subtly subconsciouly bring back the memory of her embarrassing you by acting like you seemingly respect him./view him as smarter. His bro instinct will kick in and he will be extra nice and uplifting to you, in a ''you don't have to feel like this bro, i'm not that smart'', you know what i mean.
      Then you will have sort of instilled the thought on him that this b***h hurts people and is careless even more, and he will start treating her even more badly (which to women means, he will be more distant, less inclined to agree with her takes, view her as less smart/less of a good partner).

      That's how you come out on top. And if you make a friend out of this bro, then maybe at some point you open up to him about meeting women and them judging you too harshly, in general, don't mention her, and if he's a real bro he will try to hook you up, or maybe invite you out to meet his friends, and 100% he will feel some guilt based responsibility to sort of like hook you up with a female friend, like he will talk you up, act like you're a prize, vouch for you.

  28. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >had hot gf last year
    >asked her how her last relationship ended
    >told me she cheated on her ex with a coworker
    >wasn't even remorseful for it
    >used to work in very fancy bars and clubs
    >celebrity, even a couple billionaires clientele
    >was since unemployed
    >helped her looked for a job but explicitly forbade from taking that line of work ever again
    >argues but agrees in the end
    >doesn't find a normal or "safe" job or just lied and never took up the offers or interviews I set up for her
    >goes behind my back and gets a job at one of these fancy places again
    >dump her the next day
    Most of the time I think I made the right choice. But I get flashes of doubt that the only other girls out there are fat or prostitutes or simply wouldn't be into me.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You made the right choice. She went behind your back, she doesn't respect you. She didn't even feel bad about cheating on her ex, it was just a matter of time until she cheated on you. Move on to better things, bro.

  29. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    It's bad form to pursue a girl with a boyfriend right?
    >was out with her the other day
    >got a stick up my ass and asked if she ever would have said yes if I asked her out
    >she said yeah she would have
    Kinda figure best way forward is just wait it out since I don't think they're a great fit but it's kind of hard when we see each other daily and have for the last 4 or 5 years.

    Also I can't seem to eat enough calories to bulk it's fricking hard to eat clean and gain weight I feel

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Just gonna say that if she dumps her boyfriend for you, or cheats on her boyfriend with you, she will do the same to you.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >Just gonna say that if she dumps her boyfriend for you, or cheats on her boyfriend with you, she will do the same to you.
        Maybe so. I'll just wait it out I guess.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >It's bad form to pursue a girl with a boyfriend right?
      Husband yes, fiance yes, boyfriend frick no, that's how the dating market is supposed to work.
      If she was 100% sure he was the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with they would be married by now.
      Women stay in shitty relationships with men they feel no connection with because they don't want to be alone or feel like they don't have any other options.
      If you approach a woman with a boyfriend all you're doing is presenting another option to her.
      So long as you're not pushy or obsessive about it and can take "no" as an answer and move on, all you're doing is presenting an opportunity to someone.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Not him but if a girl I liked had a bf and I knew it I woukd not pursue, not with that said if she pursued me might be different

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        ...and you get the chance of acquiring a prostitute that will do the same to you

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          absolutely cucked mindset

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Everything you say is correct, but in terms of quality of a partner those kind of women are shit tier
        Compulsively having to be in a relationship, feigning interest in your relationship when you aren't enjoying it, monkeybranching, and not being able to walk away and be alone are all red flags

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >If she was 100% sure he was the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with they would be married by now.
        What kind of cuck feels the need to invite the government into their personal relationships? There is zero reason to get married by the state these days.
        >mmmm govern me harder daddy, love that boot!

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Gives me some optimism. It's not been long and frankly get the feeling its not solid. I may let them do their meetup and go from there because he's still flying here whether or not I do anything and I think I've laid all the cards I could on the table.

        But I'm not gonna aggressively pursue it. I'm in my self improvement arc and if she'd rather date some fat guy making less money than me who is 10 years older than whatever

  30. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I'll have a rum and coke, bartender
    How do I fix years of constant and irrational insecurity, stress and anxiety? It's started to frick up my hairline recently in addition to making me unable to enjoy anything
    All my "hobbies" are introverted (gardening, woodworking, pottery, language learning) and I spend far too much time at home outside of work

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You need to step out of your comfort zone. It's the only way.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >years of constant and irrational insecurity, stress and anxiety
      You need to find the source of those insecurities and try to "do something" about it, I guess. Cant really elaborate much more without knowing if its a family issue, or bullying, or anything along those lines.

      >All my "hobbies" are introverted
      thats great ! You just need to extrovert them.
      >gardening
      There must be a collective-garden association somewhere around ?
      >woodworking
      >pottery
      same
      >language learning
      There are countless of forums, sites or apps for meeting people who speak other languages, did you dig a bit in that way ?
      I have this friend who asked a (foreigner) colleague at work to spend a few hours every now and then with him and speak her native language only, so he could practice. That helped a lot apparently and he made new friends

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I don't know if there is a source. I can remember being in primary school and still being just as tensed up, overthinking everything and in need of external validation as I am now
        I'll try looking for guilds in my area I guess, though I feel like for woodworking/pottery 99% of people there are going to be retirees

  31. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Whiskey on the rocks.

    The company I applied for decided to move forward with another candidate after getting through 3 rounds of interview. The good thing is that they told me the door is open for any other position on the department, and I had another offer on the table; I just liked the first company more. I will use this other job to get some more experience and then apply for this company that I like more.

    Now the real reason why I got discarded was because my wife refuses to relocate even though I'm willing to. I guess I'm gonna sit down with her and talk, but Jesus, she took it personally and started blaming the company. Sometimes I wonder if I would be better off by divorcing her.

  32. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Vodka please.
    I am worried, friends. I am worried that I become a cynical drunk dad who always criticizes his children, ruining their self-esteem. Shit, I want them to grow up mentally healthy and not suffer the moronic shit I went through in school.

  33. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I’m super discouraged. I’ve worked really hard to get my career on track but am frustrated with it not getting anywhere. I feel like self employed is my only route but it sucks never having a lifeline or anything other than do everything myself. I’m getting burnt out.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I'm in a similar boat only I ditched the last shitty job that was burning myself out for a more peaceful one.
      Imo if you're going to burn yourself out then you might as well burn yourself out working for yourself.

  34. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Is life worth living? I've had suicide on my mind for years and I'm pretty sure this is the year I'm killing myself. With my way of thinking everything is meaningless and I'm stuck in a path I fricking hate.

    I'm in finishing a masters in finance and absolutely hate it. I wish I'd go to jail so no one would hire me. I don't want to be hired but I got rejected from every internship I signed up for my final MsC project so I guess they don't want me either. I wanted to do arts but my family pressured me to follow something else because I was good at other subjects and my greediness lead me here. I also downloaded tinder in the beginning of January and had +70 matches with girls I thought attractive but they stop replying after 2nd message or just ghost after an interesting convo. It doesn't help that I hate myself so much that I can't create an Instagram because I hate seeing myself in pictures so when girls find out I don't have insta they just look at me weird.

    This ramble is just unorganized but that's just how I feel rn with no direction or order just going to the gym, passing tests and laying in bed with no motivation to live.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      How old are you?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I'm almost turning 24. I think I'm good looking and that I have good style but I can't see myself in pictures. I only ever kissed 1 girl in a night out and I went out to nightclubs so many times since I'm out of my country for a few months on ERASMUS. Maybe it's dysmorphia from here but I don't think being 5'7 helps. Is a girlfriend too much to ask. I'm not even thinking of fricking I just want to be less lonely as I think it's pathetic not having s relationship ever in my age. I isolated myself during my bachelor's and hindered my social opportunities as result.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Nothing worthwhile comes free, take action and earn a good life. b***hing about it solves nothing.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          bro you're twenty four and from Europe?
          Look into taking a working holiday visa, there are a few different ones, like deals between countries. You get 1 or 2 year full work rights visa to another country like Australia, NZ, Canada, Argentina, Colombia etc...
          And once you get there look at the backpacker community, you stay in hostel first when you land, then you can go to a farm job in the country (Aus/NZ) and you can easily make 50k euros working on a farm picking fruit/veggies. It's basically a slave trade deal with european youths going to other countries in exchange for a nice vacation. Most farms they give you lodging, you can sleep and eat there. If you're savvy you can stay 2 years (3 months farm work requirement to get 2nd year) and save like 95% of your checks. I knew a guy that came back with close to 100k euro from his trip.
          He just took rides with other backpackers who bought 4x4 to farm jobs, stayed there, went to the beach, lived frugally (no big spender) and when he came back he had enough money to open his own business/deposit for an apartment.

          Maybe that's what you need. Look up working holiday visas from your country, the agreements with other countries. You might be able to do that.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >Argentina
            >100k euro from his trip.
            just how moronic are you people. lol

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              He mde it in Australia. I just mentioned there is a variety of destinations. It just depends what your goal is. IF you just want to travel/into the wild then Argentina is a good choice. But for money most backpackers go to Australia apparently.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                homie there's no chance in gods green earth you will go for slave tier manual labor and expect to make money. who the frick pays people above minimum wage to pick up fruit.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I don’t want to minimize your problems but holy shit they sound little baby ga ga goo goo problems. You have / will have a degree, if you don’t want that you can probably pivot into another job. Girls? Cold approach and stop being soft pusy. If you’re like 25 at most you have literally all the time in the world to make it. Jesus

      >No motivation to live
      Try getting divorce raped, joblessness, homelessness, nothing to build off of, no money, no friends, or whatever else these anons have going on.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        The perfect life for one might not be the one for another. What the frick does a degree mean nowadays. And all the economy/finance people are just bootlicking and working like slaves trading off their lives to get up in their careers.

        Don't, if you breath you can still change and improve your life.
        Life is what you make of it.

        Is it even worth it though? Why not just pussy out. It can all be over in a matter of minutes. I've been depressed for so long that I don't believe anything can fulfill me and give me joy.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >what the frick does a degree mean?
          Fair point but if society returns to sanity and you can show competence you’ll get rewarded then if not now. Assuming you were the guy I replied to, you’ll get SOMEWHERE with it. It may not be the dream or ideal but SOMEWHERE and that is important to your other goals in life.

          >art
          Anon unless you’re exceedingly good looking, israeli, or a minority you will have a fricking hard time in art anything. You will work like a dog to have any measure of success and that’s if you don’t Van Gogh yourself. I’m speaking from experience here.

          You need to put together a clear mission for your life. What is acceptable, what is not. What is the success criteria, how to get it, and so on. For most people their goals should be fit, money in the bank, sexy wife.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      make sure to take out as many loans and credit cards as you can, empty the accounts in cash and travel abroad to some place cheap. Live like a free man for a while, do whatever you want, live like a bum on the beach and stretch it out for as long as you can, then reassess whether you really want to kms, and if you still do just buy drugs and take the easy way out. Otherwise...maybe if you find yourself there...you can come back find a job, declare bankruptcy, get a payment plan on those loans/cards...Or dodge and keep living abroad, get residence abroad etc...
      I mean all I'm suggesting is maybe you need a break from all this goals bullshit and living like you are actually going to kms in a few months might help. Like frick bro...steal money, travel abroad, go to the beach every day, party all night etc...See if its worth it then.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Don't, if you breath you can still change and improve your life.
      Life is what you make of it.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      PUSSY

      Now that I got that out of the way, don't have a nice day man. Yes, life is grim at times but its not like your life is magically worse than others. I have a degree in History and I (like 70% of other uni grads) have a job in something completely unrelated. You sound like you lack drive which is something you need to realize before you can work on fixing.

      >no girls, no pussy
      Dude, I am a LITERAL MUTT, and I can still pull. You are either chasing vapid stacies that are only on dating apps to peoplewatch in their free time, or you have no charisma. If you hate how you look, change it, whether its working out (which it sounds like you don't do much of), dressing well, or getting a hairstyle/glasses that suit what God gave you.

      If you REALLY wanted to have a nice day, you would have done so a long time ago and never even fathomed coming to a fitness board on a Malaysian Yu-Gi-Oh! fansite in the first place. Exmplary of this is your post here:

      The perfect life for one might not be the one for another. What the frick does a degree mean nowadays. And all the economy/finance people are just bootlicking and working like slaves trading off their lives to get up in their careers.

      [...]
      Is it even worth it though? Why not just pussy out. It can all be over in a matter of minutes. I've been depressed for so long that I don't believe anything can fulfill me and give me joy.

      where you push back at people that can easily see that you're not suicidal but just doomposting because you're lost.

      Take an internet detox, go to the library, or start learning a new language because your current habits are going to make you even more sour.

      WAGMI

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      do a flip mf. no life's not worth living, it's that same for everyone. a lot of us here probably think about unliving. after turning 30 i think i lost what was left of my empathy or humanity. what keeps me going is pure seething hatred about everyone that includes outliving whiny losers like you. kys unironically.

  35. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    how do I stop giving women so much power over me?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      SIMPle, you don't.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        :/ how

        there's times I skip a certain workout because there's a hot girl in a different area, or I'll stay on a workout 2x as long because my gym crush is beside me

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Stick and focus to your workout, don't let pussy dictate your workout. Women only have power over you if you allow it.
          Just stop, use your big head.

  36. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Just had a big ol bowl of chili with crackers for comfy Friday night food. At least there are some nice comforts bros. Watching Lethal Weapon 3.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I like the LW movies, enjoy comfy froggi

  37. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    One IPA pls

    Started rewatching all the 007 movies. Just finished the Sean Connery arc, life is good

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Rank the Bond actors

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Connery
        Brosnan = Craig
        Moore (his movies really didn’t age that well)
        Lazenby
        Dalton

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Why Dalton so low? I think I'd agree with the rest of your list as it is, except I'd put Dalton even above Connery

  38. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    After working towards this goal for basically 7Y since I was 18 - I got my dream job today.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      congrats man, you're going to crush it

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        thanks homie.

  39. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >broke up with my gf of 8 years last October
    >immediately regretted it
    >went into alcoholic stupor for a month
    >tried to get her back and failed, she already fricked someone else
    >sober up
    >heavy self-reflection and self-improvement
    >no longer delusional of my role in our split and my weaknesses in the relationship
    >stop drinking and smoking, detox myself from social media, start studying
    >lost 25lbs since December
    >started trading again, up 2.5k in 3 weeks by sticking to my strategy and being disciplined
    >moved in with parents to save money for a house
    >see the immense change I've been able to do over just 3 months
    >looking forward to the future for the first time in a long time

    I'm still socially stunted so I haven't been with any women. Learning to socialize again is going to be the hardest part of my journey. But I know I can do it and I wanted to thank the Anons here that have talked me through my worst days of this breakup.

    I was the guy who's gf ran up 17k in frivolous credit card debt even though I paid 80% of the bills if anyone remembers. Thanks, again, for reading my blog.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Keep it up bro and don't get discouraged. You're doing a lot better than most people would be in your position and even gave me some hope for myself.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Thank you man. We're all going to be ok

        Women will actually be the easiest part of all of this because you know that hard work and discipline can yield very gratifying results.

        Unironically living at home is a huge gift here because you can go out and meet women but knowing that taking them home isn't an option, or the simple fact you live with your parents will take a lot of pressure off the interaction. You can just go out and talk to women and not worry about impressing them.

        Once you realize how easy it is to talk tonthem without the pressure of an agenda you will develop that skill a lot faster, but more importantly you will want to develop your own financial independence, having your own place and more that much more.

        When that does happen you'll hopefully have standards knowing how hard it is to earn what you earned and won't give in to some girl because she gabe you attention.

        Great insight here, very interesting to consider. It's also another reason to be grateful for my circumstances; I was feeling anxious and embarrassed about approaching women while I live with my parents (I'm 28), but this really does put it into another prospective. My brother also reminded me that most women out here are broke anyway so there's nothing to really be ashamed for.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Women will actually be the easiest part of all of this because you know that hard work and discipline can yield very gratifying results.

      Unironically living at home is a huge gift here because you can go out and meet women but knowing that taking them home isn't an option, or the simple fact you live with your parents will take a lot of pressure off the interaction. You can just go out and talk to women and not worry about impressing them.

      Once you realize how easy it is to talk tonthem without the pressure of an agenda you will develop that skill a lot faster, but more importantly you will want to develop your own financial independence, having your own place and more that much more.

      When that does happen you'll hopefully have standards knowing how hard it is to earn what you earned and won't give in to some girl because she gabe you attention.

  40. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I think it’s over bros

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      It never started, anon.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      No

  41. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    One Cappuccino pls.

    Have not touched alcohol since last august.
    Never really had a big problem with it but I have seen the life of my father and some friends go to shit because of it.

  42. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >be 29
    >my white braphog gf has been offered a job in another state across the country
    >we talk about it
    >I've got good job here at my firm and I don't think they'll transfer me to a different state just for my gf
    >gf and I break up on mutual terms
    >now I need a new girl
    >at my firm is a petite Latina qt who is fit
    >think about asking her out
    I don't want to race mix, but this woman is literally better educated and has a healthier lifestyle than my ex. Plus, asking her out might help me get over my oneitis. And she's been flirting with me ever since she started with us a year and half ago.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      dont shit where you eat, you risk both

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        she works at a totally different department and there is no company policy prohibiting it explicitly. a couple of others actually met spouses at the firm. it happens. I don't know if I'll go through with it though. I might ask at the roommate of one of my buddy's girlfriends, but she has a kid. so, I'm still thinking the girl from work is my best bet

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah I know how you feel. I've talking to this girl, she's alright, but she's very short, like your picrel. I'm 183cm and she's probably 145cm. I don't want to curse my kids with manlet genes.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, that's the problem I have. If I hit it off with her, we might end up in a long term commitment, like the other couples at the firm that ended up married. Sometimes the kids grow up to be normal height despite the mother being short. Other than that she's actually a pretty decent girl.

  43. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    everything is just so fricked i don't know what the frick i'm doing wrong i've read the sticky thousands of times at this point i've watched a million vids i've been to mad type of doctors but i make no progress i look like the schlub i was when i started i have pain but nothing shows up in examinations or scans, when i put myself under the microscope if a lift feels good it looks like shit on the camera and if it looks good on the camera i feel like shit during and after, and it's all so fricked and i don't know what to do and i only expect the same advice and tips and pointers i've read a hundred times but i just have to get it off my chest

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      information over load. just cool it bro, dont worry about barbells, dumbells or form just yet. go on the machines and train hard. do a few warm ups, then an all set till failure. rest and drop the weight a pin or 2 and repeat twice. 2 compounds per workout, 2-3 isolations keep it simple. just follow a bro split eg: chest+tri, back+bi, legs, shoulders, arms+abs. once you gain some confidence add in some dumbell work just dont over think it. alternatively hire a good coach to work thru all of these and shut out other sources of info for now

  44. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >break up with ex because I’m too immature and insecure to be in any good relationship
    >constantly worry she’s cheating, constantly worry she doesn’t want to be with me
    >plan to fix my life and try again either with her or someone else once I’m ready
    >truly believe this girl is one of the few worthwhile ones but I’m fricked in the head
    >doesn’t put up with any of my major bullshit
    >get back with her
    >no clue how to fix myself
    I have this paranoia in everything I do. Jobs, friendships, relationships, etc.
    ex.
    >have job where my boss (the owner) is as experienced in business as I was doing the job, I’m basically running his entire business for him while he’s too busy working full time (doctor) and getting married
    >doing great at my job, work hard as frick and become known company wide as some wierd freak of nature for how hard and often I work, making this frick $500,000 a month on average, way more other months, highest paying job for me at this point, worry DAILY I’m going to get fired constantly have panic attacks and shot convinced I’m getting fired
    >put in a 2 week and he BEGS me for days not to quit because he can’t replace me
    >agree to stay, still paranoid 24/7 I’m getting fired
    I started therapy for my issues and I’ve made some progress. But frick I don’t want to ruin this. It’s like I hyper fixate on any one thing and obsess over it and that in turn makes me terrified of it going bad

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You've got to chill the frick out dude, get out of your own way. I find myself overthinking like this all the time, and it's definitely done some damage. I'm hoping I can salvage a relationship like you did. Sounds like you're your own worst enemy though, which is great as long as you keep yourself in check. Just stay the course bro.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You've got to chill the frick out dude, get out of your own way. I find myself overthinking like this all the time, and it's definitely done some damage. I'm hoping I can salvage a relationship like you did. Sounds like you're your own worst enemy though, which is great as long as you keep yourself in check. Just stay the course bro.

      Well she just dumped me. We’ve been back together for like 2 days. She’s hurt and pissed, making insane demands. Maybe I was right all along. She’s demanding I prove I care about and want to be with her by just talking to her while being on a break, that I have to let her be a single woman and basically revert to the talking stage until she feels I’ve proven I care and can date me without it breaking her heart again.
      Those are all the wordings she used. I explained how I understand her hurt and anger towards me but that’s a super fricked up thing to ask anyone no matter the situation and the equivalent would be if I was demanding she step down to status of side pussy before I deemed her worthy of dating me again.

      So I told her no I’m not doing that and that’s that. How am I supposed to not be paranoid now? Like what the frick. Okay this girl is out, but what about the next one.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I could use advice from anyone on this. I finally felt at ease in a relationship for the first time after opening up to her. I don’t think I can do that ever again.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          In dealing with big emotions, time is your biggest ally. Use time in conjunction with fair compromise (doesn't tread upon your dignity) to reach your ends in a relationship. It's a mix of Machiavellianism and compassionate empathy that yields the best results.

          Like, it's totally reasonable for her to demand that you spend your breaks talking with her. You hurt her feelings pretty bad I imagine. It's pretty hurtful for her to say she doesn't want to be official with you in the relationship, but that is her trying to protect herself from your apparent self-destructive tendencies. If you can get assurance she isn't seeing other guys, like maybe she shares location or something (that is revealing enough without being too invasive, maybe something else will work better just spitballing) does it really matter to you what the relationship is called? The end goal is a long-term relationship so don't get caught up in the day to day dramas.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            best I can explain it for you...really dumb it down. You're making no effort to be in a romantic relationship so she's forcing you to date again basically to prove you're not going to revert to scratching your balls and farting in her face within two weeks of getting back together. I don't know how you act in person but clearly you must have killed the passion and she likes you enough to let you take some baby steps again because you might be worth it.
            So fricking step up and treat it like what it is, a trial. See if you can really deliver on her demands (let me guess, more seduction, romance, affection, more ''chase'' you find in dating).
            Don't treat people like you take them for granted. Make a fricking effort to show the person you're not just ''tolerating'' them. Some people want to feel loved and desired, they need to actually see that in the other person, the ''they want me''.

            Forgot to mention, but she lives about 3.5 hours away from me. That is why I do not think it’s okay to ask that even if I understand her reasonings behind it. It’s not like I can start dating her the same way again going on simple weekly coffee dates and shit. This would require me spending a ton of my free time on the phone with her without being able to call her my gf or look forward to seeing her. I can’t exactly romantically pursue to the same degree as if I was able to take her out and see her often. Am I supposed to assume she’s not doing anything with anyone? You see what I mean lol?

            And honestly she snapped out of no where on this. She was finally good, I finally felt secure in the relationship after talking things over. She missed my text and tried to explain herself I genuinely said it’s okay I understand but that I was going to sleep vs starting a fight over it like I would have in the past. And she kept pushing it expecting me to get upset or argue and I didn’t. Then she hits me with this shit.

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              Shit was finally good**

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          On to the next one

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        best I can explain it for you...really dumb it down. You're making no effort to be in a romantic relationship so she's forcing you to date again basically to prove you're not going to revert to scratching your balls and farting in her face within two weeks of getting back together. I don't know how you act in person but clearly you must have killed the passion and she likes you enough to let you take some baby steps again because you might be worth it.
        So fricking step up and treat it like what it is, a trial. See if you can really deliver on her demands (let me guess, more seduction, romance, affection, more ''chase'' you find in dating).
        Don't treat people like you take them for granted. Make a fricking effort to show the person you're not just ''tolerating'' them. Some people want to feel loved and desired, they need to actually see that in the other person, the ''they want me''.

  45. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    hEY BARTENDER ILL HAVE AN OLD FASHIONED PLEASE

    i HATE WOMEN

  46. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Something that will help me sleep tonight please. I guess I'm one of the hopeless ones that one anon said the other thread.

  47. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    feeling less stress now but this feeling of being constantly aware of being alone in this world no one knowing the real me is barking hard everyday i wake up

  48. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    My ex keeps bothering me. Dumped me nearly 2y ago but she text me on new years and I didn't respond. She's been prank calling me with her friends ever since (bizarre I know).

    Wish she'd just leave me alone tbh, wanna move on.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You should answer one of her calls or respond via text and say something along the lines of
      >"Please stop talking to me. you broke up with me, remember?"
      She probably realized her mistake and thinks she can get you back. You can, and should, provide closure

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        That reminds me of a time I broke up with an ex and she sent me a message that I didn't say Happy Birthday to her. Woman, we broke up, I was busy that day.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      If you really want to move on then just block her.

  49. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I keep bouncing between cycles of highly motivated productivity and discipline, and complete apathy. There's so much I need/want to do, but I wind up fricking up in a snowballing way and get back to square one repeatedly.
    I need to stop this cycle, but when I'm up for doing anything, it's pretty much only to the extreme. So I either need to focus on one or two things at a time and then add on more.
    >get strong
    >get better cardio
    >clean up diet
    >study for cert exams -> get a better job
    >work on materials for acting -> audition more often
    >improve my social circle -> get a gf
    >be consistent with self reflection/journaling and meditation
    I'm thinking of just drilling down more on studying and lifting for now, then after a few weeks, implementing another item on the list. What do you guys think?

  50. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Water, with apple cider vinegar.
    I am set to start a new job soon, one that could set me on a serious career path. But it seems I'm just aimlessly going through life with no drive. I wanted to be a pro fighter, but kept losing in amatuer, self image is down the toilet.
    Socially inept, lacking self respect and respect from others. I had other hobbies that don't interest me anymore. I'm just tired, have to go to bed soon so sorry for the ramblings.
    God told man to "be fruitful", but I don't know how. I'm useless, pathetic, weary.

  51. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    i am good today. Friendly reminder to that all orcs and skaven are scum

  52. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >had a physical
    >Dr tells me I need to take it easy with alcohol
    >drink more alcohol
    This is what happens when you get lead on and ghosted by a 9/10 female coworker because you were plan B

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >coworker
      Don't shit where you eat.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I'm 30 years old, no social circle, I'll take what I can get.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Me too. Build your own, my man.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >solid workout routine
            >good diet
            >flawless hygiene
            >dress well
            It's not enough for a 5ft 5 manlet

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              My man, you need to relax and find a nice outlet. Men can bound literally over digging a hole. I made frens by just lifting and building model kits.

              • 1 year ago
                Anonymous

                >hit the gym regularly
                >shoot pool because it's fun
                >go on hikes because it resets the mind
                It's not enough I'm fricking miserable. I do very well at hiding my insecurities but I get no attention from women. I'd kill to have a wingman to go out with

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Shit happens, anon.
      but seriously this:

      >coworker
      Don't shit where you eat.

      If it makes you feel any better, I was an option B and option A was a fricking MARRIED hobosexual. This really fricked with me.
      Sometimes life is cruel, but hard times make strong men.

  53. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    2 years ago I was drinking two handles of whiskey a week. Today I'm officially 41 days clean from getting blackout wasted alone in my house. I've never had a problem socially drinking, but I'm monitoring it closely still. We're gonna be alright fellas.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Was this induced by lockdowns? I smoke a boatload of weed still since lockdowns

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        No, claiming that I was drinking heavily 2 years ago was misleading on my part. I'm not sure why I said that actually. I've been heavily drinking since like 2017. I guess I only identified it as a problem and had issues stopping 2 years ago.

  54. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >recently got a gf from bumble
    >lotta red flags but hot and sex is out of this world and she worships me
    >go to restaurant with mum last night
    >cute waitress gives me her number in a lil note
    >smile and say bye to her
    Ny gf is bi and am thinking of suggesting a trio relationship, not just cuz of the waitress girl but want to try it out, have any of you done this b4?

  55. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I found out this afternoon my wife is having a miscarriage. She wasn't that far along (maybe 5-6 weeks, just took the test last Saturday) but that makes two kids and three miscarriages (and the two kids were both preemies).
    I guess I should be thankful I have two healthy happy kids but this one especially feels like a punch in the gut. We both want more, in this day and age if you're a stable married couple you need to be having as many as you can afford and then some. Two is great but seems, I don't know, incomplete? Both daughters too, I don't have an heir yet although I feel destined to have only girls.
    Our window is closing too, we're both 36 with a 9-year-old and a 3-year-old. We were going to have a ten-year gap between oldest and this one, won't get any smaller. There's already a big gap between oldest/youngest because, again, miscarriages.
    I'm in a rut and was barely holding it together before this, the high/low of finding out she was pregnant then this in a week really blows. I was already going to be in bad shape since we're living in a tiny two-bedroom house I've owned since I was 23 and can't seem to get out of, it stays wrecked with toys and junk. I just got out of a busy project at work late last year that fricked up my eating/sleeping habits and family time, now there's one coming up in a couple of months one state over. I got a new job during covid and make $40k more and can't even tell.
    Just not progressing, not reaching the next level and living like a normal human being with a normal family. It was fine when I was in my twenties but I'm turning 37 this month and I look, act, and live like a jackass. I'm posting on an anime forum on a Friday night when I should be doing literally anything else, including sleeping. I don't even use the little free time I have productively. I would hate to see myself at 40 doing what I'm doing now but I said that about 35 and 30 too.

  56. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I want to talk to a cute girl at my gym but she's always got her headphones in

  57. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Doubt anyone remembers but I’m in my 30s fricked a 21 year old coworker on a business trip. My gf knows, she’s cool with it. The coworker started giving me the cold shoulder, talking to me like we were just cordial. I saw it coming but it hurts. She started seeing a Russian fitness instructor (woma) I’ve met. This lady is in her 30s-40s and is shaped like a mewtwo girl, I’ve never seen an ass that big and shapely in a Russian.
    I’m attracted to her and my girl knows it. Meanwhile I’m getting into the bdsm scene as a hobby but all the people I meet are uggos. What should my goals be? I don’t need no trad bullshit gospel. How do I get women with proportional hips and fat asses? I feel like I’m on the verge of greatness if I can stay on track.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I meant my gf started seeing the Russian. Apologies for sloppy writing.

  58. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Water.
    You know, life's actually pretty good lately. I have a boxing match coming up and the results of my hard work are starting to manifest in ways that others notice instead of just me. Been talking to girls lately, not trying to start a relationship or anything, just practicing.

    Most importantly two of my close friends are having a baby together soon. They called me earlier and asked if I'd be the godfather. They said they discussed it between themselves, there's no one they'd rather have than me. It's the kind of mire that reaches your soul.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      that's awesome anon, stay on the path

  59. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >hitting the guy 4 times a week
    >eating 1200 calories a day
    >kicking my ass
    >lose like, 4 pounds.
    >girlfriend lost more by just sitting there.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      What did he do?

  60. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >be me, 19
    >best friend invites me over to his Uni dorm to party tonight
    >take the train down
    >super excited and happy cause I haven’t seen my friend in a while
    >forgot a fricking form of ID
    >Can’t get into the dorm, guy at the desk is a total dick
    >Me and my friend are disappointed. He seems really upset
    >he gives me a hug
    >I immediately start crying and am doing a shit job of laughing it off like a moron
    >say our goodbyes and I leave
    >go to train station and hop the turnstile because I was too much of a simple moron to figure out the gay Technomaxxed fare machine that was vandalized to shit
    >20 degrees (freedom units) out. Wind is so bad that my phone dies from being too cold
    >hour and half waiting for train, no sense of time cause phone got raped
    >”people of the night” everywhere.
    >still crying

    Felt so vulnerable from beginning to end. My ego is absolutely crushed.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Jesus..forgot to mention that I’m home now at least.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      The consequences of being a city slicker

  61. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Anyone else in the bad have a horrible childhood or complete lack of guidance? Feels bad.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >paranoid schizo mother
      >shiftless lazy father
      >both were mid 30s when they had me
      >divorced when I was 5
      >receive zero love from mother (because she was crazy) and zero discipline from father (since he has none himself)
      >I'm a sperg, one sibling is a troony and the other a drunk, we are abject failures
      you VILL have ze children
      you VILL fulfill your biological imperativerino

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >paranoid, controlling mother
        >would never discipline just berate me for every tiny little thing in my life she thought I was doing wrong until I agreed
        >unavailable autist dad
        >both 35 when they had me
        >divorced when I was 12
        >never got any affection from either
        >basically roommates that got angry when my grades were bad
        >both my brother and I needed until our late 20s to actually grow up
        Honestly I'd rather been beaten now and then instead of raised like this

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Yes. It stunted me for sure and I missed out on a lot of normalcy especially in my middleschool high school years but you can turn it around. And most people also have at least one shit parent so you're not alone. Life gets a lot easier when you just assume everyone else is as fricked up or more fricked up than you instead of thinking you are the weird one

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >paranoid schizo mother
      >shiftless lazy father
      >both were mid 30s when they had me
      >divorced when I was 5
      >receive zero love from mother (because she was crazy) and zero discipline from father (since he has none himself)
      >I'm a sperg, one sibling is a troony and the other a drunk, we are abject failures
      you VILL have ze children
      you VILL fulfill your biological imperativerino

      Yes. It stunted me for sure and I missed out on a lot of normalcy especially in my middleschool high school years but you can turn it around. And most people also have at least one shit parent so you're not alone. Life gets a lot easier when you just assume everyone else is as fricked up or more fricked up than you instead of thinking you are the weird one

      outside of being well off financially yeah my parents basically provided very little else in terms of raising me
      >had me in their mid to late 30s
      >dumped me off to be raised by babysitter when when i was like 6 weeks old so they could get back to work
      >mother emotionally distant, father narcissistic and always angry
      >should have gotten divorced but never did despite constant threats and father even sleeping in guest bedroom for a few years
      >never taught me any basic life skills
      >have basically no happy memories of them from my life, even our yearly vacations would usually turn into some fighting
      >neither of them have ever had any friends or social life
      i remember when i was in college i would rarely talk to them and when i would i would be telling them how miserable i was and how i wanted to drop out and rather than realizing this was a problem they just told me to shut up and stay there

      now im 30, a complete and utter basket case loser, i still live with them because i just dont see the point in doing anything else when ive already ruined and wasted my entire life so who cares anymore. im waiting for death.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I had a good childhood but shit adulthood which has fricked me up.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      yes, raised by an alcoholic single mother with 0 other family members present in my life since I was 10, you can imagine how that went

      took me until I was 24 till I acquired enough life experience "passively" by just existing and observing normal people to start fixing my life on my own, and man was there a lot to fix... 28 now and it's far from done but I made a lot of progress, socially I'm in a decent spot, though still haven't had any serious relationships (fell in love and lost virginity at 27 though)

      however I will probably never be ok mentally, I always feel like I have no clue what do to in any new social situation and can never shake the feeling that people look at me like I'm a freak and recognize that I'm socially moronic from the moment they see me

  62. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Finally found a dealer who sells me clean weed (virtually impossible to find in Germany) and now i have something to look forward to after my exams are over. Weed is my only vice and after my last dealer broke contact with me for no reason i was worried about having to switch to microdosing shrooms and lsd if i want to have some fun

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      What is weed tainted with here? I really don't enjoy smoking anymore and realized weed here is just trash and feels weird when I visited the Rotterdam and got some coffee shop weed. It's not even that the weed I get here in Germany doesn't make you high, but it's a weird uncomfortable high.
      Also good luck with your Prüfungen Bruder

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        It depends on what state or city you live in but most of the time weed is either laced with spice, fertilizer or haze spray. In my city you should basically never buy from anyone who doesnt grow it himself because otherwise youre practically guaranteed to get very shitty weed

        >it's a weird uncomfortable high
        Yes thats very common for laced weed. Weed that is laced with spice for example makes you feel absolutely terrible 9/10 times. It makes your heart race, gives you paranoia and also makes it nearly impossible for you to stand up or walk.

        >Also good luck with your Prüfungen Bruder
        Danke Brudi

  63. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Matched with a girl on tinder who checks EVERY FRICKING BOX, we talked all night but it turns out she’s only in my city for the weekend. We’re meeting up tonight but I think I’ve somehow caught feelings already bros.

  64. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Choccy milk, please.
    I’ve quit dating apps about a week ago and didn’t follow up with any of the women I was texting about going out and having sex with this weekend. I don’t regret my decision since using these apps was destroying my spirit, but letting things go is hard when I remember all the effort I went through and know that cooming inside someone tonight is just a couple texts away.

  65. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    If I'm talking to multiple women (and have had sex already with a few). How do I convey to one of them that this is the case, so that she may put in more effort into our relationship?
    Context:
    >We agreed to be transparent if ever we talk/date to someone else (this happened after she found out i went out with another girl)
    >So far I haven't said anything, but I am talking to others
    >She has been transparent and says theres a guy that likes him but she says he's too soft for her

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >How do I convey to one of them that this is the case, so that she may put in more effort into our relationship?
      I don't understand what your goal is here. Do you want her to want you more because you have other options or just transparency for the sake of being honest?

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        The former really, but I also don't want her to think it's okay to see other guys as well. The moment she does, it's cut contact for me. I'd apologize for the double standard if men and women were the same

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          That's tricky because it really depends on the girl. Some will latch on to you if they even suspect other girls are interested in you but would lose all interest if you actually pursued the other girls. And then some will take you seeing other girls as a sign that they can see other guys. Really the only sensible thing is to either have the goal of being exclusive with her or just cutting her off, but that's just my opinion

  66. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Any tips for getting enough sleep with a newborn and a toddler? I feel like absolute shit a lot of the time. I still lift but I feel like I'm not getting much out of it when I only get like 4-6 hours of sleep per night. Im also getting fat from a mix of poor sleep and a strange eating schedule and intense cravings at like midnight for shit food. I've got that under control just through willpower to not eat but the lack of sleep is killing me

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >Any tips for getting enough sleep with a newborn and a toddler?
      This is cliche advice but just sleep when you can. I used to come home and sleep an hour, I'd sleep during my lunch break at work. If you have relatives nearby who can help that's great too.

  67. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I wasted my entire youth being depressed and isolating.

  68. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I am going sober on everything except ciggies. Alcohol is bad, weed is easy to misuse, and everything else will frick with your brain chemistry.

  69. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >go to friend’s wedding
    >notice how twinks have girlfriends
    >realize that I will never outlift my autism

  70. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    New Year's resolutions
    >Stop picking my nails
    >Stop picking my nose
    >Stop jerking off
    >Get a gf
    I stopped picking my nails and nose.
    I keep relapsing after 1-2 weeks and go on a cooming spree. Definitely something I need to work on. Somehow I have to rewire my brain to chase real women instead of videos.
    I WILL get a girlfriend.

    I hope you're being the better version of yourself everyday, anons.

  71. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >There's this girl at work I like
    >we chit chat little bit here and there
    >There's another older girl I talk to that talks to her and likes to gossip
    >asked me month or two ago when my birthday is
    >"oh wow that's her birthday too"
    >keep my cool and just say oh that's nice
    >figure it's safe to assume she told her my birthday is same as hers (today)
    >yesterday another coworker she's close with mentioned it's her birthday tomorrow
    >on my way leaving yesterday
    >I stop by her desk (which is close to mine)
    >say "hey I heard it's your birthday tomorrow"
    >"yeah, who told you?
    >"anon mentioned it earlier"
    >"oh wow, yeah it is"
    >could tell she wasn't too happy about me knowing but hid it well
    >nice, happy birthday and have a great weekend
    >"thanks anon"
    Walked away and got the frick out the building, figure if she had a little interest she'd ask when my birthday was or try to keep the convo going?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      You're right and you did good anon. Distance yourself from that b***h

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Do not pursue, she does not care about you and made it very clear

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Yikes, pack it up bro

  72. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >match zoomer girl on dating app
    >she's unresponsive on app
    >message her IG
    >doesn't even check requests
    >message her snap
    >she adds me back
    >says "hi" once
    >just sends random pictures of herself making moronic closeup faces from then on

    Is this how some zoomer girls communicate? If she's just fishing for IG followers I didn't even actually follow her there, just messaged her for that exact reason. I might just frick around and send her pictures of my feet for as long as it takes to get her to block me.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      She's doing it for the attention. The clue was that she didn't respond to you after matching you. Why you'd think she'd respond to you on a different app is beyond me

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        That's okay I'm only doing it for attention too. I like seeing notifications pop up on my phone.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >Is this how some zoomer girls communicate?
      Unironically yes. However the same pictures she's sending you she's also checking the box to send to like fifty other simps she's stringing along at the same time.

      Cut your losses and move on from this lifeclock trap, or just get her to block you if you really want.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >Is this how some zoomer girls communicate?
      yes. I was texting this girl in Uni and within the first 2 weeks she was sending me selfies, but the ghosted and started dating some guy.
      this:

      She's doing it for the attention. The clue was that she didn't respond to you after matching you. Why you'd think she'd respond to you on a different app is beyond me

      >She's doing it for the attention.

      at this point, if they hit you with selfies very early on, ask them if they are fricked in the head. Seriously. do it.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        >at this point, if they hit you with selfies very early on, ask them if they are fricked in the head. Seriously. do it.
        Nah, I've learned not to say insulting things to girls at this point. They have a social network of friends of friends of friends that'll stretch out and they WILL screenshot what you send them and share it to "warn" other girls about you.

        Had some girl frick around leading me on for months while she was fricking some other dude (at least one) and so when she revealed that I basically called her a c**t and told her the farthest she'd get in life was being a single mom, then just blocked the number and moved on. Months later I had some girl from another city on IG message me calling me a weirdo and saying she'd seen the message and she spread it around to her social group here which actually included some girls I tangentially know. Will never know the extent of social damage I did on my end by allowing a woman to make me react.

        Simply cannot let girls frick up your peace. You will never win if you play their game.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Oh I meant girls you don't know, from tinder etc. If you know them, yeah oc be polite and eat shit.
          funny you tell me that, because something very similar also happened to me in uni and I learned that lesson the hard way.
          >try to get with hot dumb b***h
          >she fishes me for attention for a while>
          >one day we're both studying and she giving me mad signs
          >go for a kiss and she evades
          >I'm like wtv, I tried. No hard fellings
          >b***h goes and tells the entire class that she gave me no signs ever!
          >"We were just friends!"
          >b***h was sending me softcore photos of her naked legs
          >frick other girl from ou class
          >girl hates the other b***h and gets into her IG acount because the dumb hot girl left it open on her phone.
          >girls sends some dude the hot dumb b***h if fricking mad shit talking shit calling her a dumb bawd or wtf
          >everyone thinks I did it by myself.
          >I actually only told the girl I was fricking those things, because they were true, b***h was a bawd and a dumb prostitute.

          like 2 years later, at a house party, she lead on and teased another guy and then said the same shit, except this time everyone else saw it happening.

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >Oh I meant girls you don't know, from tinder etc.
            This was girls from tinder anon. It's a small world.

  73. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    i studied for years to become a veterinarian. now that i have my license the job drains me. usually its neglected animals coming in from owners who were too lazy to care for them until its (almost) too late. it fuels me with anger, i had to hold myself back a few times from beating the frick out of a few owners. I am not happy with my job

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Do it for the animals anon, it took me a long time to find a good veterinarian for my cats. Also, try to course correct the owners moronation. People treat animals terribly but a lot of times it’s done out of ignorance. Half the reason I don’t volunteer at animal shelters is because I know seeing the state they are in would frick me up.
      Anyway, dunno how much this means to you, but I really respect what you do. Easily one of the top five most admirable professions.

  74. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    On the brink of going to the supermarket for beer. God I really need to find a way to fill my time up on the weekends. Bored out of my mind.

  75. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >33 years old
    >owner of 3 houses and 2 flats
    >work in a Hospital
    >have a gf
    But i want to k1ll myself. IDK why. Life sucks and i can't find the reason of my mental disease

  76. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    There’s no adderall at any pharmacy and they don’t know when the shortage will snd and I have the kind of ADHD where I just live in a fricking haze without a stimulant medication
    I’m mad

  77. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Woke up late, went to the gym, talked a bit with with one of the only 2 close friends I have, took a shower, had my proteins and feeling comfy.
    Yes, I’m lonely and I have no love prospects, I see no usefulness in working and saving money for now.
    At least there’s still hope…
    Have a good one bros

  78. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I am socially defunct. Please help me understand myself.

    I need social interaction yet I avoid it best I can.
    I always find excuses to call off plans. Even if it's stuff that genuinely interests me, I lose that interest once it's about time to leave.
    When I'm with friends I tend to gas out quick, after an hour or so I've kind of seen and done it and want to return home. It becomes a chore to make sure I keep active in the conversation, and don't look too disinterested.

    It's gotten to the point my gf is voicing worries over my time management. She's extremely social and active, and I'd be perfectly happy just spending most of my time alone or with her. From her side she needs us both to have our own lives and separate activities. I'm sure if I don't force myself to have a social life she will lose attraction to me.

  79. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >reconnected with a friend I haven't seen in a long time and we made plans to hang out next week
    Feels happy

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Frenz are great, I don't see mine enough. I love my friends yet I also for some reason get anxious about hanging out even with them.

  80. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Doing alright actually. Not much has changed but I’m getting stronger and feel better. I cleaned my apartment yesterday and it’s made my mood wayyy better than seeing junk cluttered everywhere. Gonna go down to the crystal shop later and see if the thick redhead is working and try to chat her up, if the hot tarot girl is there I’m gonna get a reading.

  81. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Finance gay here. I'm spending about $5K a month on Russian and Ukrainian hookers. i keep falling in love with them and then getting bored and going to the next one. I realize my brain is doing this because I know we're going into nuclear war with Russia because of a bunch of buttholes like George Soros and Bill Browder.

    The guy Alex Krainer on this podcast wrote an entire fricking book about this and it was banned by Amazon.

    https://gaana.com/song/the-ripple-effect-podcast-192-alex-krainer-grand-deception-the-truth-about-bill-browder-the-magnitsky-act-anti-russian-sanctions
    Just ordered the Martin Armstrong Book (pic related).
    Thinking of quitting my job, liquidating all assets, and moving to Russia and finding a non-prostitute Russian woman to have kids with.
    Frens, a lot of us are gonna die in the next decade.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >Frens, a lot of us are gonna die in the next decade.
      please god let this be true. hopefully sooner

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Russia does not need more israelites, please stay out

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        i am not israeli. I am Christian. I hate israelites. israelites are the reason Russia is poor...because they stole the silverware in the 1990s from Christian Russia. Now we are all gonna die because of the israelites running the US Government in DC.

  82. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >be me
    >go to doctor Thursday
    >he does a bunch of bloodwork
    >tells me I have type 1 diabetes
    >have to start monitoring my blood sugar thrice a day and taking insulin
    >pretty upset about it
    >call my parents yesterday to let them know
    >they don't answer
    >dad texts me a while later and says they're busy and he'll call me next week
    >turns out they're visiting my brother all weekend
    >apparently they can't take five minutes to talk to me

    Sometimes I feel like you guys are the only people on the planet who truly care about me.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Damn that's rough. Frick your parents.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Jesus, sorry man.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Shit man that sounds like a fricking hassle. Even as little as it means compared to real friends and family, we're always here unless jannies are killing the bar threads. These are the only threads I try not to frick around with people in.

  83. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Feel bad cuz Im getting money mogged by men and women alike. Got a 100k salary and can't compete with a lot of the guys out there. Had a younger girl call me a brokie and my last gf left me for a dude that makes at least 2x as much

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      oh look another demorialization post by a 6 figure earning fit poster.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Taxes take away 30%
        Retirement takes 15%
        I hate women for being so money oriented

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >brags about his 6 figure salary
          >i hate how they are so money oriented

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Women aren't really that money oriented until like 25+, at which point if they're still single then they're already aged out crazies who have repelled every good man away from them.

          Girls 18-22 don't care unless it's some dude offering them millions.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I don't even have a job you fricking homosexual. Give me your job if it's so hard to pay your fricking taxes.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Where are you getting girls that a 100k salary even comes up in conversation? None of the girls I talk to know how much I make and I prefer to keep it that way

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        anon probably mentions that to them first because its the main thing he has to talk about, but then claims its the women who are unfairly obsessed with money

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        I work for the gov. And apparently they can see how much I make. Are you telling me girls don't ask you what you do for work? Is this just an American thing!?

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I'm American, I either ask her to guess and turn it into a game, make something up like being a voice actor for Tom and Jerry, or I'm surrounded by people who do the same thing I do (big tech wagies) so then it's actually kind of fun to compare notes. I don't look or act rich either fwiw

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            >big tech
            as always on fit

            • 1 year ago
              Anonymous

              >niche internet community
              >surprised that people who use the internet and computers frequently are overrepresented here
              Next you'll tell me it's surprising how many people on this board lift weights

  84. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I finally got my hands on some Cialis, even though I normally don't have problems getting an erection, have regularly morning wood etc. But the last two times I was with a girl I got performance anxiety and couldn't get it up, and so it's gotten into my head a bit. Admittedly, there was a lot of alcohol involved and I wasn't super attracted to them, but now there's a girl that likes me and this time I'll just pop half a pill to get over the psychological barrier and fix this mental problem

  85. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Missed another kickboxing dinner gathering because I'm shy, introverted and I'm missing fingers in my right hand so It's extremely uncomfortable for me to eat with strangers. NGMI with social gains bros

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      How'd you lose fingers?

  86. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Just checked my gf's phone - there's a contact listed as "Handsome Black"
    It's over

  87. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    still wanna kill myself over not confessing to this girl until after she started dating someone. I just couldn't take the fact that even SHE didn't seem to like the guy that much and I had to get it off my chest only to find out she would have gone out with me. Worst part is we live together and have for years. I'm so fricking dumb

  88. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Bros is it cheating to kiss another woman?
    My gf and I are going through a rough patch, she barely lets me touch her. We’ve had sex twice since new years and were getting on each others nerves constantly. I’m not sure if we’re breaking up now or in a few months but we definitely will

    There’s a friend of mine that’s really cute and I know she at the very least finds me attractive, and we’re going out on a hike tomorrow. I was thinking I’d kiss her just for some intimacy, and then do the usual “ah shit I fricked up bla bla”

    Yay or nay? I’m thinking it’s a good way to have backup intimacy after inevitable breakup
    >just break up dude
    We live together and if you’ve been in a relationship you know that you know there are relationships with end dates but you can still be a couple until then

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      you're coping. Dump her and deal with the fallout. Cheating is way worse. You sound like a fricking woman

  89. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I'm tired of these moronic homosexuals making threads about some tiktok prostitute trying to bait guys into outrage clicks. I would rather see 2 pages worth of sneedposts in the catalog than the "I'm so scared bros why can't we have mens only gyms" posts made for the thousandth time. At least people try to get creative with that. The news cycle after some Black person gets killed by the cops isn't as obnoxious as this.

  90. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I'm a coward who deserves death, lifting doesn't help. I'm not fitted to live

  91. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    ex just cut me out of her life seemingly for no reason. 'Friends' went with her. They're all having the time of their lives and I'm isolated and weeping over this. I don't get how I'm the only one that's grieving, I don't want to feel this way anymore, but my life's God's so I don't get to make decisions with it

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      If she didn't tell you anything I'm guessing she fricked another guy and then told her friends you're "controlling" or something

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      >ex cut me off her life
      >"friends" went with her
      Mate, you don't need them. I can tell you this as someone who was on your position.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        How'd you move on?

        If she didn't tell you anything I'm guessing she fricked another guy and then told her friends you're "controlling" or something

        not sure about that, but the messaging is that 'I'm going through something', rather than she gutted me and skipped away.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          Try to look at it from a 3rd person perspective. You cut out toxic people from your existence, something down the road if it wasent your ex falling out, would have triggered the same outcome. Blessing in disguise and life goes on m8

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          I cut them out of my life and focused on improving myself. Sit down and evaluate YOUR goals, and works towards them. I embraced the grind and worked on fixing my issues and moved on.

  92. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I'm only pretty sure, that I can't take anymore

  93. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    i look dyel, its been two years and I will never look jacked or strong enough because I am a female. I don't even get the male attention ppl assume females get. I'm 157cm and honestly have lost motivation. I will never grow enough and its not okay, but i will never quit.

  94. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I must confess bros.
    I accidentally drove the wrong way down a one way street a couple nights ago after going to a bar. I had someone honk at me and I felt like a giga moron, thankfully there were no cops/cars/people in the way, but that was probably the biggest frick up i've had in a while.
    How do I repent for my moronation

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      By not doing again and learning your lesson.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, big frickup on my part and I'm never going to do that again.
        Hope I don't get a ticket in the mail or something, dunno if they'll send me one.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          If a cop didn’t physically pull me over and you didn’t break shit/injure people then they’re most likely not going to give a shit, even if there are cameras

          • 1 year ago
            Anonymous

            *pull you over I mean lol

            https://i.imgur.com/A4hpbmo.jpg

            >be me
            >go to doctor Thursday
            >he does a bunch of bloodwork
            >tells me I have type 1 diabetes
            >have to start monitoring my blood sugar thrice a day and taking insulin
            >pretty upset about it
            >call my parents yesterday to let them know
            >they don't answer
            >dad texts me a while later and says they're busy and he'll call me next week
            >turns out they're visiting my brother all weekend
            >apparently they can't take five minutes to talk to me

            Sometimes I feel like you guys are the only people on the planet who truly care about me.

            I’m so sorry Anon, that’s shit. You may wanna look for a support group or something instead of people on a mongolian basket weaving website

  95. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Finally coming out of multiple years of extreme neurosis. The good news is that I've almost beat it, but the bad news is that I realize the unprocessed trauma that was making my life living hell happened early on in life and acted as a significant block to normal growth. I fear that I'm like 10 years old mentally and emotionally, and never having had a relationship and not being able to hold normal conversations and depending on my patents partially confirm this. So I'm not sure what to do from here to try to cram about a decade and a half's worth of growth into a much shorter timeline

  96. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    How do I find friends IRL? I don't go out much because I don't have anywhere to go. I can talk to people at work but I don't know how I talk to people outside of that.

  97. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Thinking about dropping my girlfriend, she does shit that i don't like and we already talked about these things, but somehow she continues after a short amount of time away from doing things. I'm in my late 20's and she's in her mid 20's. I don't feel respected as before

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      help me lads

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      be more specific if you want help
      not sure what is the deal breaker for you
      if you want us to weigh in we need to know the details
      tell you if it is in fact unforgivable

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        she's started drinking more and lies about irrelevant stuff, like thing's that don't matter at all.

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          >started drinking more
          that's bad...
          >lies about irrelevant stuff
          this is like a power thing, like she can get away with it, it's meaningless shit like ''i didn't cake actually, i ate a donut haha he doesn't know'' but really deep down it's about disrespect and sticking it to you in a harmless passive-aggressive and covert way. Like ''he will never know'' and even if he knows, it's nothing...
          That honestly is such a huge red flag in a relationship because that means she lowkey hates you bro. She has some like deep pent up anger against you inside and that's how she exercises it ''unbeknownst'' to you.
          The disrespect itself...okay, but its the fact its covert. I respect a girl that is direct, and expresses herself to my face. This whole ''behind his back'' attitude.
          No lie bro I think the drinking + lying is 100% tied to some form of secret thing she did. Maybe she is cheating/maybe she is starting to have like an emotional affair with someone else she knows. Like these two things combined to me represent deep inner pain : gotta drink + anger/deception : gotta lie to him some type of way to get out all the shit I hold inside.
          No lie bro when girls start getting boozed up and acting out of pocket like that 100% there is another guy in their mind and they're ruining your image in their own head so they can get away with it guilt free.

          Do an experiment. Try and pick up on her emotional state when you spend time around you. Really pay attention and try and see if it seems like the overall sensation you get is ''guilty person acting out''.
          Let me know what you think.

  98. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I feel like I'm always saving up, working on myself, and getting stronger but idk what I'm working toward.
    I had friendships and love at one point. It felt good and kept me busy but ultimately it didn't teach me to live for myself.
    Now that I'm alone again and am living for myself I just feel lost.
    It's peaceful but I have no direction.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      saving up what

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        saving updog

        • 1 year ago
          Anonymous

          What's updog?

  99. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Gf wants to move from our cozy littel small town into a gigantic pozzed HCOL city because job opportunities. We don't live together yet but we're looking for apartments there and the combined rent is higher than now what we pay individually. She'd earn more, me, maybe, who knows. The rent would eat it all up anyway. Would have to commute back to my old job for now. Home ownership is off the table like this. Started drinking again to avoid having to make a decision.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Don't. For your kids.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Where does gf see herself (and you) in 10 years? I live in one of the highest cost cities in the country but I hoard up all the cash like a dragon so rent ends up like 60% of my total living expenses. If you're trying to own a house, and if you also want to raise a family, is this temporary or does she want to stay in the big city for a while?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      tell her to read ''Lost Illusions'' by Flaubert, I think. Also tell her how about you go first and rent in a sharehouse, secure a job first, see for yourself what the quality of life is like, and then I will join you.
      Tell her it's only fair that she is the first one to go and try it out, since it's her decision, and also she wants it.
      Also rule of thumb for big moves like that. Always, always, in every move you make, make sure you got one foot out the door.
      For example...You say I'll keep my apartment here in home town in case you fail, you can come and stay with me for a little bit while we re-assess goals (don't put her on the lease), it's smarter otherwise we will both be homeless. Know what I'm saying. But really you're keeping your pad while she loses her illusions in the city. Her going first is the smart way about it. Tell her probation period of you living there for 6 months where I come visit you (not fair for me to commute to work back and forth, rather do that to see you).
      Then tell her itll make your relationship more strong, more romantic (distance makes the heart grow fonder, cherish moments more).
      But basically by the 6 months mark she will be over the big city dreams and probably move on to something else. Plus every city rat she meets will feed her ''wow you are so lucky to come from the country, I wish I could live there'' and she'll 100% get the message after a while, especially if she fails getting a job.

  100. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Bros I got cut off from my friend clique I knew since middle school. Had a falling out with one friend due to me having a heated exchange with his current gf at our last party. All my friends sided with him and that crazy c**t gf. The sting of betrayal is a bitter pill to swallow

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Post greentext so we can determine if you were really in the wrong or not

  101. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >Came inside a bpd girl
    Bartender I need something strong tonight.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      I'm a BPD dude. If it's "quiet bpd" you're good, if not you could be fricked.

      I'll give ya advice, don't ghost her and instead if you're not sticking around make her feel like she broke up with you.

  102. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Girl I been speaking to admitted she liked me last month when she was drunk and spammed my snapchat. I pretended to ignore it or didnt notice but I dunno what to do cause I never had a gf before and my emotions are still all fricked up and I dunno how to react. I was obessed with her when we first started talking but it calmed down overtime so when she admitted it I didnt know what to say or if I was ready to commit. Embarrassing for someone my age but yeah.

  103. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    saw my reflection in a window while i was out and was so disgusted i drove home. how to fix low self esteem?

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      break all the mirrors in your house
      don't go outside

  104. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >doing a bunch of flashy bouldering problems
    >repeatedly failed them all in front of my gym crush
    the west has fallen

  105. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >First Hinge date last weekend
    >Told her I'd take the train to see her
    >Missed train
    >It's okay, though, ride up with my dad. (still live with parents)
    >Dropped off at train station and call her
    >Meeting for coffee and she tells me she knows a Philz 2 blocks from the train station
    >Literally can't find my way 2 blocks in the city
    >She's cool about it though and we just have fun shooting the shit her making fun of me and me joking about hating the city
    >eventually she picks me up from the train station and I'm in her car and we hit it off
    >park and walk a few blocks to a coffee place still hitting it off
    >once in the coffee place we sit down next to each other in a booth and have more great conversation.
    >she occasionally rubs against me while we're sitting (feelsgoodman.jpg)
    >Leave and drive around to another part of the city while dusk approaches and she asks if I'm getting hungry
    >become super weird and awkward for some reason because I kinda don't want to spend money/wait in line/ruin my macros + have protein bars and banana in backpack
    >I legit almost tear up at how fricking moronic I'm acting it was so bad because she kept pressuring me to tell her why I'm being so weird about not wanting to eat
    >mood kind of ruined but eventually she just insists we go to a grocery store and I just get sushi
    >we eat in her car in the parking lot and I play music
    >we talk some more and I get the urge to kiss her after staring at her glossy lips
    >I go for it and mutter 'can I kiss you' as I lean in and she doesn't say anything so I just placed my lips on hers and we gently make out for like 15 seconds
    >pretty decent for first kiss in 1.5 years

    Anyways, things wound down and she drove me back to the train station and I kissed her again before leaving. Said some stupid shit like 'enjoy your work week' as I got out of the car. Sent her a text saying ~ 'had a lot of fun, have a gn.' Agonize about how long she takes to respond the whole train ride home...

  106. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Every girl I date has BPD, like is legitimately insane

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      Anon, you're likely just experiencing modern women.

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      where do you meet these girls

  107. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    I..
    I just don't know.
    At the beginning of this week I would have told you I was depressed. I know I have depression. But all of a sudden, after a few small changes in lifestyle, it's lessened?
    I'm able to think more clearly, it wasn't a struggle to leave bed this morning. I ate food and was able to hold a conversation with my father without it erupting into a screaming match.
    It's like all the things that were bothering me disappeared this week.
    But I feel the sensation that they'll come back in the coming days. I just don't know what to think or feel. I'm scared of saying I'm happy.
    Whiskey sour please

    • 1 year ago
      Anonymous

      As someone that had a massive depressive meltdown, it takes time and support. You feel that even though things improve one day, you will fall off the horse. But never give up, it takes a frickton of time but things do get better.

      • 1 year ago
        Anonymous

        double dubs of truth i hope
        I have Bipolar Depression, and I just exited a hypomanic phase. I just don't know what to do.

  108. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    >tired of discussing things on hobby board like IST and IST
    Now, IST is the only final place before I can leave this shithole forever

  109. 1 year ago
    Anonymous

    Just a water, maybe a hot tea if you got any.

    I keep worrying about my weight. I dropped to 175 from 250, and rose back up to 185, and that's about where my body seems to like to stay. I keep having lofty dreams of keeping going and getting a six pack or something, but I've already noticed that I'm getting so much more attention from girls that I don't actually have the will to keep cutting. I look at me and think I look great, but I keep fretting about it. I know I'm in the best shape of my life, but I guess I'm just being overly critical.

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