The bar is open

Come take a seat. Have a drink, on the house. Gather around for last call and tell what's been troubling you

  1. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Had a massive row with a family member and they are now ghosting me.
    Worried I'll catch monkeypox off gym equipment, or a plane seat.
    Feel totally despondent. Can't see any future, just spiralling energy bills, blackouts, endless recession.
    Old fashioned, please.

  2. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Thinking back to the time some girl would always stare at me for minutes. She'd do this every time we shared a class, always chalked it up as her having vision problems(she had glasses) and just staring in my general direction. Wonder if there was more to it.

  3. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I STILL can't figure out how to adjust the angle of the benches at my gym properly. I have to ask for help every time, the lever just doesn't fucking work when I do it.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Just ask one of the staff members to show you how it works. One thing I've learned over the years is that if you don't act awkward or embarassed you avoid awkward and embarassing situation.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      There's scientific proof that asking for a very small favor can actually make people like you more, as long as it's very small and not too often. If you ask a guy to help you with the bench, it will increase his disposition with you by +5 as long as he's in between sets.

      It took me forever to figure out the bench too retardanon don't feel too bad

  4. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I have 8 weeks left of my last ever summer holidays (NEETing between uni years). For the first 8 weeks I spent partying and hooking up with women and training in the gym. But I still spent most of my time either sleeping too much or wasting time on the internet waiting to go to the gym.

    How can I make the most of the last few weeks? I find it hard to want to leave my house without someone to do something with, and all my friends are busy with work etc in the day.

    One of my biggest fears is not making the most of life, and sleeping 10-11h a night and browsing the internet for another 4h before I go lift is not making the most of my life.

    What do I do in these next and final free 8 weeks of my life?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >What do I do in these next and final free 8 weeks of my life?
      Whatever it is you already know you should be doing. Working on some project, picking up a musical instrument.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Pick something non-destructive you wouldn't normally do but have some kind of interest in and give it an honest attempt regularly over some weeks. You might find a new hobby.

  5. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Nothing you can say or read in this thread will save you from your own crippling problems. Make the move to be better everyday OR continue to be a loser and die from a mundane fuck up. Something easily prevented.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Misery loves company anon. It helps to know that I am not the only getting his ass handed to him by life.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      bot

  6. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Gonna start doing super squats tomorrow to finally fix my twig legs, any final advice lads?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      First time I post in a long ass time
      I lived without a computer, or the internet, for most of this year until now. I worked my ass off, and trained hard. I focused on my christian faith more than ever.
      I lost my virginity the other day, bros. I'm 25. It was awesome, and well worth the wait, the pain and the effort. I felt something unlock inside me, what was like the last bit of confidence, experiencing a connection with another person, and so on. WAGMI bros.

      Squats are the most complicated lift, learn the form and use it well. Do many sets, not too many reps. Then do some sumo, some leg press or whatever. Cycling is also good, go for high resistance. Get crippled on leg days and it will pay off eventually.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        sex is before marriage is a sin, you're going to hell boy

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Eat a shitton of food

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      If it's your first time, then start with 4 pl8s

  7. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm leaving IST. Goodbye.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Good luck old friend. I hope you make it

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      You'd be back gay.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      See you tomorrow

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous
  8. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Day ten of nofap has been difficult. Seeing sexual images in everything and fantasising about last partner's and girls I turned down or didn't pursue like I should have. The day is coming to an end and my will remains strong. I will make 30 days

  9. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Live in a country where I dont speak alot of the language, want to train Bjj and Judo but worried about slowing a class by needing translation. I need martial arts in my life and cant do strinking anymore due to my left retina being fucked so its grappling only

  10. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    im 19 and feel like ive already screwed up my life

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      You just don't know all the potential you have.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      How so anon?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Unironically give it 10 years and you'll realise how much you can still fuck up

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      can i harvest your organs? youre too stupid to have youth wasted on

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      The “life” I had as a stupid ass 19 year old is nothing compared to what I am now in my 30s
      Just keep your head down and work hard, you’ll get there anon

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Dude you're still so unbelieveably young. Even when you're 29 you'll still be young. Don't waste your time dwelling on the past. Secure a future for yourself.

      THE PAST REFLECTS THE FUTURE. USE THE PRESENT TO BUILT A GOOD FUTURE AND THE PAST WILL FOLLOW.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        not him but just turned 28 and feel at a stump. needed to see this.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      what life? your fucking 19 kek. unless you caused serious health problems or criminal charges then all the shit you consider heavy right now you will laugh about in 20 years. if you really fucked up somehow then just get a job and move and start fresh. life can be whatever you want it to be and is very precious, god speed anon

  11. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Bros, how do I tell if a picture has been edited. I'll give a bit of background info.

    >girl on Twitter DMs me kind of out of the blue
    >a bit later in the conversation she sends me a picture of herself looking super cute, unironically model-tier
    >spidey senses start tingling
    >pic looks like it might be facetuned or edited in some way but it's hard to tell
    >we're both using pseudonymous accounts, so I have no way of verifying whether that's actually her in the picture or some photoshopped version of her, or maybe a different girl entirely

    Picrel is not her but a girl she sort of looks like. I've already tried reverse image searching. No search results came up, so I'm fairly confident that it is actually her and not some other girl.

    >inb4 post the pic she sent you so we can see
    I promised not to and I'm a man of my word.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Video call her

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I don't want to doxx myself to her though.

        In that kind of situation I'm just straight up and ask them for more proof theyre who they say they are. snap pic or something, I don't fuck around wasting my time potentially talking to some perverted freak using someone elses pics

        Like I explained in my OP, I'm pretty sure that is actually her in the picture she sent me, I just want to know if it's been heavily edited. Asking her to send more pictures won't help with that.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      In that kind of situation I'm just straight up and ask them for more proof theyre who they say they are. snap pic or something, I don't fuck around wasting my time potentially talking to some perverted freak using someone elses pics

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      stop posting coombait
      leave the thread
      have a nice day

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >I can't look at a photo of a woman's face without cooming
        >This is other people's problem, not mine
        Seriously, you have an addiction.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          I don't, but others - including (You) - do, rabbi

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            This thread was doing just fine with a photo of a woman's face in it until you showed up. Literally no one even acknowledged it until you did.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        It's not coombait you mongrel.

        >I can't look at a photo of a woman's face without cooming
        >This is other people's problem, not mine
        Seriously, you have an addiction.

        This.

  12. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Miss her like no tomorrow. Couldn't care less for the girl I'm dating.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      That happens. Felt the same 8 years now.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Should I stay or should I leave before I get in too deep? Already moved in together...

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Up to you Anon, for me the pain never went away. Been with my current gf 5 years and still think about her.

          What ever you decide to do, stick to fitness. It will never let you down fren.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Fitness will never leave me, nor will I leave it.
            Are you happy? Is respecting the current gf enough?

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              >Are you happy? Is respecting the current gf enough?

              That's a difficult question to answer. Not really, I mostly just dive into my work and get on with things to shut it out.

              I just want to be free sometimes, free to go and pursue other thing's

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                Fuck. That's what I was afraid of. I shouldn't have moved in.
                The worst part is that I might have gotten back with the one I think about every day if I hadn't... I think now she thinks I'm happy.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                Idk how old you are but I am now in my 30's. If I could do my life over again, for what it's worth I wouldn't have got in this relationship and focused on the person I loved deep down.

                God speed what ever you decide to do.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                Early 30s. If I could change it, I would have definitely stayed with her if I could. Just right now we've taken different paths.
                I still make sure to talk to her a few times a year though. It keeps opening the wound, but I can't bring myself not to.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      The First Cut, anon. There's no getting over it, only coping.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I got over it. but now I can't find another woman to be with

  13. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I've been working in restaurant kitchens for 7 years and I don't want to keep bouncing between menial labor jobs. I'm unemployed and recovering from injury right now. Working out a bit as my injury allows.

    What line of work should I break into? I'm weighing the merits of comp-sci learning to code, where I know there's jobs and money waiting, but I'll need to schedule socializing and going outside into my free time. Wouldnt be hard because I'm great at math.

    Or I could get certified in a trade.

    Any other ideas? What do you do, assuming you don't hate it? Or what do you wish you did? I'm 24 with some savings and no debt, what would you do if you were me and wanted to achieve bigger things than just managing restaurant kitchens?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Only you can figure that out. If there's nothing that's calling out to you, either keep working while trying to figure it out, or quit and take a break from work. Maybe travel if there's someplace you've always wanted to go. Or NEET it up for a bit and see if anything comes to you in the boredom.

  14. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    already having a preworkout monster. gonna update in case someone else knows my story

    >met massage therapist
    >eventually she turned to be an escort but only for "good guys"
    >we have fucked at least 5 times
    >cuddling, drinks, nights out, couple shit
    >we connect perfectly

    last night she almost cried to me telling me how much she likes me.
    also
    >she does it for free
    I like the free great sex and cuddling but holy fuck what am I supposed to do. I think she likes me because I treated decently and whores tend to be damaged goods.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      There's a reason why you connect perfectly. Damaged goods are the female equivalent to guys who feel for that gosling character and lift. I too consiously want a normalfag gf, but the damaged type, with daddy issues or self harm scars or whatever is the one I randomly connect to, and it goes both ways. Just be careful because women exaggerate those things; she almost cried while talking to you, but it's not as grave as it would be if you were the one doing that. Don't overvalue her emotions.
      I aspire to write dating advice in the local paper, do you guys think I can make it?

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        thxd brah. you have talent with words

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Hell yeah bro with writing like that I'd read ur articles

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      She's a whore dude

  15. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I know this has been asked a trillion times but I'm going to the gym for the first time next week and I'm scared shitless that I'll make a fool out of myself.
    Been here for a couple of months now (mostly spent my time on IST before) and lost 10kg/22lbs and I manage to run 10km/6miles now. I already picked a routine.
    But I have zero muscles and I struggle to lift a sixpack of beer. I'm also 26 and afraid that a bunch of zoomers twice my size will laugh at me struggling to lift the bar or whatever.
    Please someone call me a pussy and tell me it's gonna be fine.
    Also the first session and my gym (Eurofag btw) always comes with a trainer, not sure what to expect there.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >Please someone call me a pussy and tell me it's gonna be fine.

      You're actually being a huge bitch about this entire thing. No one gives a fuck what you're doing as long as it's not breaking the equipment or obviously something retarded.

      I have been in dozens of gym's and most people who go don't know what the fuck they're doing anyway, zoomers are the worst for it. Normally they're too busy showing their mates some shitty Tik-Tok or talking about some abstract number of sets they have to do because some influencer said on Instagram.

      Just go fucking lift bro. Enjoy it and make progress.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      You're being a bitch about it. I've never seen nor heard of anyone judging a beginner for not being Larry Wheels.
      Ask your trainer to teach you Bench, OHP, Squat, and Deadlift. Having the form right would be a great head start.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      every ripped person you see had to get past that barrier too. nut up.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      youre a pussy and it’s going to be fine

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I returned from the gym now, there was like 8 year old boy that went there himself (shitty parenting?) and he walked the treadmill and then randomly went and curled way too much for his weightclass. Why should you feel ashamed if you're just starting? Nobody cares, everywhone is there to lift.

  16. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I feel nothing for the girl I'm dating but I love the way she treats me.

  17. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >using power rack to bench for the first time
    >want to reach failure a few times and don't want to do the role of shame
    >set safeties about where I think they should be
    >bar touches my chest
    >raise the safeties one notch
    >bar stops so high I'm practically half repping

  18. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm standing at a crossroads:

    >35
    >khv
    >Not fat, but not IST (BMI = 22).
    >But motivated to change.

    I can find fucking buzzfeed articles all god damn day telling me that it's never too late to build muscle, and experience happiness, but I'm worried that I'll never be able to truly be happy if I'm always walking around amongst people in my age-range who have ~15 years of mind-blowing, edge-of-your-seat-tier experiences.

    I expect that if I were to become muscular, get into a relationship, possibly even become a father, that I'll always feel as though I would be wearing a military uniform that I just bought at some surplus store, but didn't really earn, so I wouldn't "belong" in that wholesome, normal life.

    I'll have a shot of absinthe. Don't dilute it.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      One thing you learn when you put yourself out there is everyone is faking it.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Everyone puts on that uniform one sleeve at a time, just like you would. Also, everyone who's jacked started working out weak. You seem to be psyching yourself out and overthinking everything.

      Tell your brain to shut the fuck up, and just do it. You'll always make it if you try and never give up- might not be the fastest or best way there, but you're guaranteed to get there. Also isn't that what you want, to earn your stripes?

      Literally get off the computer and do some push ups. Then rest a minute and do another set. Then rest a minute and do another set. Now do it all again in a couple days. There we go, now you're earning your stripes. Make haste to graduate to pull ups, and eventually you'll need to lift weights. You're on your way.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >isn't that what you want, to earn your stripes?
        Damn straight it is. Thanks for the words, fren!

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      The past is dead anon. You cannot change it and it doesn't matter. Stop treating your life like some story that needs to be have a good beginning to have a happy ending. Just fucking right now. Today. Work towards the things you want.
      >~15 years of mind-blowing, edge-of-your-seat-tier experiences.
      Nobody has that. This probably comes from being undersocialized but the vast, vast majority of even successful people don't live lives like that.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I empathize with your situation. If you want my words of advice, I’d say; you’ll never be happier if you don’t at least try to build yourself up and move forward. You can’t change the past, and I would try to make peace with that. You have control over yourself right now, and that can mold your future to something unimaginably great.

      Go get after it. You’ll be happier that you did.

  19. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I haven't worked out all summer. I've been eating less than 2000 calories a day all summer. I've watched the few gains I made over the course of the last 14 months wither away in front of me in the mirror. It's my fault for moving to a different city for a summer job, but the pay was too good to pass up. I just want it to be September again so I can move back home where I have all my lifting equipment and start all over from square one. I probably won't even be able to bench 1 plate anymore.

  20. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >Another day of my gf realizing she is fat and subsequently doing absolutely fucking nothing to change it

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      God this was one of the most infuriating parts of having a GF. complaining about her body and subsequently ordering fucking pizza

  21. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Fucking gays with monkey pox spreading diseases in the locker room at my gym. Saw a red bump on my arm, might be over boys

  22. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I had unprotected sex with a woman a week ago, I ended up getting these 3 little bumps right below my belly button and had some itching on my asshole could it be herpes? There's nothing on my dick, no burning when peeing or anything else. Got an appointment for test later this week, could it still be herpes? I thought if it were herpes I'd have bumps on my dick and burning when I pee

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      It could be that or HPV

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Fuck man this has me worried.

        >I had unprotected sex with a woman a week ago
        WHY the fuck would you do this unless you thoroughly vetted the bitch

        I was drunk and she was really pretty, I know I fucked up...

        monkeypox

        How bad is monkeypox compared to herpes?

        looks like ingrown hairs. could possibly be folliculitis. don't know about the asshole though, did you eat her ass? have you recently eaten raw fish or foods?
        def get tested doe

        I hope so but I doubt that's it. There was no oral, just straight vaginally sex

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >I had unprotected sex with a woman a week ago
      WHY the fuck would you do this unless you thoroughly vetted the bitch

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      monkeypox

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      looks like ingrown hairs. could possibly be folliculitis. don't know about the asshole though, did you eat her ass? have you recently eaten raw fish or foods?
      def get tested doe

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Can't tell with the 2 on the left, but the one on the right really looks like an ingrown hair, I honestly wouldn't be worried. Still get tested and never have unprotected sex with random hoes. Don't have sex outside of marriage period or Satan will have rights to give you a disease to steal your gains.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      looks more like friction burn, a few plucked hairs in the come and go of thrusting, sweaty sticky bodies rubbing together.
      About the asshole itch though...she might have given you some parasitic eggs, from basically crotch-to-crotch contact. It might be pin worms. Honestly if I were you, I'd just go to the pharmacy and ask for an anti-parasitic pill, I think they give you fluconazole. A broad spectrum one will nuke any fungal or parasitic colony you may have picked up.
      As per STDs just keep an eye on the area, look for more symptoms.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Sorry anon, it's AIDS. Trust me, I'm a doctor.

  23. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Literally another day of feeling like I'm being physically stopped by my own thoughts to talk to a woman.

  24. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    she is the one who got away. how to enjoy life

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >how to enjoy life
      Distract yourself by doing as much shit as possible. There'll be moments when she doesn't exist. And the more active you are the faster you'll fall asleep too, no sitting around and thinking. And if you got shit to do in the morning you won't be dying in bed thinking either.

  25. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    crippling gambling debt and no job after i finished college

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      anybody ?

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Get a job, work out a way of paying back your debts that doesn't involve more gambling. Don't be so retarded in future

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          thanks, i'll ban myself from getting money into gambling, i need to. Any online ways to earn money in the meanwhile?

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        dont give up bro

  26. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm a 30 year old virgin

  27. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >Bet a tenner with a workmate I will look fitter than him (compared to an average person who doesn't lift) in a month since he's starting gym tomorrow.
    I've been doing boxing for a year. I really feel bad for him losing his money

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      dont feel bad, in fact you should be glad you've given him a goal and motivation to work towards.
      I would go into a bulk right when my newbie friend/coworker is starting so they win the comp and get addicted to the drive. i love being a guardian angel to people.

  28. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Guessing nobody here has genetial herpes?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I do, been a few months since my initial outbreak and so far haven't had my second one yet. Have had sex with a couple different people since initially getting it and both wanted to still have unprotected sex with me

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        how long did it take to get your intial outbreak after you first got it? I've fucked around a bit (~20ish count?) and have yet to get tested.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          If you haven't been using condoms there's a pretty good chance you could already have it. For me it took about 3 weeks after I came in contact. Doctor said it can take up to 3 months after contact for the first outbreak to happen. Some people have such little symptoms they don't even notice (which was the case for who gave it to me), some people don't have any symptoms. Probably should get tested my dude and play safe.

  29. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I was out at a banquet for work last night and ended up going out for drinks afterwards with, among a bunch of other people, a sales manager from one of my clients. She is a little younger than me and very pretty (in a natural, good bone structure, Disney princess sort of way rather than just Instahot). Kind of petite and has a good figure.
    We ended up hopping around hotel bars around the event venue and after wearing out my business credit card we are all several drinks in and at varying stages of buzzed to drunk. She starts complaining about her husband, mostly to two other women (one client from a different company, one who works at a rival firm) who were sitting at our table.
    >I don't know he's just been gaining weight lately and he has a beer belly now. Like I'm worried about his health right? I just wish he would take care of himself and stuff, like you know–
    She looks around for a second as if she is trying to find an example but looks across the table and points at me.
    >–like you anon! You work out and stuff don't you? You look great! I wish I was married to you!
    At this point the lady from the other firm, who is older but still a certified MILF, is nodding her head enthusiastically while my other client is looking somewhat uncomfortable and my older male coworker at the table next to us is cutting his eyes over in disapproval.
    I'm married and don't plan on doing anything with this information I just thought it was amusing. She is very pretty though.
    Also I had to go retrieve my truck this morning from a public garage after Ubering home and I paid like $55 for parking.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Lel, alcohol really brings out the shitty parts of people. Thats stuff she should keep to herself and her husband

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I felt like it was in good humor, at least I hope so since they have kids and stuff. She doesn't seem like the type (sober or otherwise) who is really holding it against him.
        Interestingly another one of my coworkers went to college with her (kind of weird since they went to a large college but it's about 400 miles away and in a different state) and he showed me a picture of them on Facebook from when they were in college, let's just say he really outkicked his coverage. Good for him though.

  30. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    gf went to the countryside house her family owns, went with 2 of her friends and close family for the day, she took some really slutty pics where it's pretty much just an excuse to show how her titties look in that bikini. How to cope with the fact that even my shy nerdy cute girl is a slut?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      it's over

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      IKTF breh. I told my ex straight up that shit is fucked and I don't want her posting pics that horny men are gonna be masturbating to on the internet. And she didn't. Little did I know she made tiktok videos with her other retard friend 10x worse than the shit on instagram lmao.

      God modern women are awful. This is coming from a man who can't leave the house in a T-shirt without getting mired and eye raped, that shit gets boring REAL fast. I have no desire to post my abs on the internet for approval from strangers or likes on instagram, how the fuck these women don't get tired of it after a week I have no idea.

      Now I'm just that guy that fucks these slags once then ignores their messages. That is after all what they seem to like the most, so fuck it, more new pussy for me.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Based. Also idk if she posted the slutty ones on Instagram or whatever since I don't have any social media but I do hope she didn't. I know I shouldn't care that much but I do. How do you get easy pussy? Dating apps?

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          I mean if she only sent them to you then there's no problem anon, she wants to look sexy for you. But if she posted them on instagram then yeah she's got the modern whore disease.

          >How do you get easy pussy? Dating apps?
          Yeah dating apps and slags at clubs

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Would you mind posting body?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >went to to a country house with her friends, "family", and without you
      it's over hahaahah. What could she possibly be wearing a bikini for and not bringing her boyfriend over? she's going to be around dudes, she wants to evaluate her options.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      All women are awful it's insane. The only ones that aren't awful are too afraid to be awful but will become awful the minute they get the chance. It's frustrating but you can't text women back too early, you can't show too much interest, you can't really give them compliments, and if you do find a nice innsecure girl, you're gonna have to basically never tell her you think she's pretty or she'll leave you.

      Not to mention the physical barriers to getting a girl to consider you.

  31. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    There's this girl I've been hanging out with as of late, proper waifu material, but I can't decide if she's interested. I'm having ice cream with her tomorrow and she's invited me on a hike in the country, just the two of us, been talking more about how she's lonely, yadda yadda, but carefully avoided if I interest her. I just don't know man, don't want to make it weird, she would be an asset for my carreer anyways, even if I kept her comfily in the friendzone.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      if she asks you out to do that crap it means she's interested in you, in our 20s we don't hang out with the opposite sex unless we're trying to form a relationship. Make a move, if you don't you'll get friend zoned, if she rejects you you'll get friend zoned, so basically if you don't try you lose.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        But what do I do? Snatch her hand? Ask her out to the movies at a later date? Ask if she's into me?
        Normally I'm pretty confident when it comes to socializing, but womanbrain just does not compute

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          nvm she's bringing a common friend
          she even asked if I mind
          fml

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Not that anon but kek, been there. Careful you don't catch oneitis, you gotta try meeting someone else and keep this one at a distance for a while tbqh.

  32. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    A mimosa heavy on the champagne, please. Not sure if I should keep pursuing a career in the game industry or just get a masters for a museum career so I can start having kids before I'm 30.

  33. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Not sure if this is the right thread but fuck it. How much does height really matter? I'm only 5'6 but taller than nearly every girl I see in public. Do you need to be TALL tall or just taller than the girl you're interested in?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      If you're going to let something like height dictate your life choices then I can assure you she isn't interested in you bro

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      It doesn't matter. You're not a statistic, and neither is your girl.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Its easy for me to throw blackpill tv videos, statistics, anecdotes, call every whitepill a cope but I have been on incel forums and the amount of lanklets that post on there including me and honestly on this board is incredible. Meanwhile I know people your height with loving qt gfs. Idk man it matters if you keep lurking the internet. Get a fucking life man, this website offers you nothing and get out while you can or youll end up like me
      >t. 6'1 khhv who wants to die everyday

  34. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Tomorrow will be my first day in the gym in 10 years.

  35. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    30+
    working a dead end education job
    I graduated college to make this little money and housing costs soaring means i'll be renting in the ghetto the rest of my days
    I did not realize that all of my teachers in school came from money or had husbands with 3 times their income

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Keep in mind though, that the one thing you will never have to do is justify what you do. Teaching children is literally one of the most noble things a human can do, so your job is always meaningful. A banker or software s_o^yboy can't necessarily (or even frequently say the same).

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I wish my noble intentions could upgrade my life or pay bills.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Sure, I'm not trying to downplay your struggles, but you should zoom out and recognize the positive aspects of yourself and you decisions as well.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >so your job is always meaningful. A banker or software s_o^yboy can't necessarily (or even frequently say the same).

        I've frequently wondered, all these jobs in tech, software engineering (what everyone on fit is)... what the hell are these people doing? What are they creating? The massive industry and salaries, what things are they doing to really improve society?

        The people who work at google, their jobs are mostly about making advertising more penetrative to people?
        Facebook, what in the fuck are those people doing?
        Netflix, their jobs are all based around what exactly? Making a better "app" for people to watch netflix on?
        Amazon is making better data harvesting to sell shit to people?

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >he doesn't know that big tech is subsidized by our elite class to keep the masses compliant and to spy on them and crush dissent

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Amazon and Google are bolstering their cloud offerings (AWS and GCP) as companies migrate offerings to cloud-based shit. Think financial firms that develop user portals, or Healthcare systems providing outpatient shit that can be organized and coordinated between patient and providers. Amazon and Google are hosting and sometimes being commissioned to help create these digital products. Facebook is developing that Metaverse shit, and I haven't looked too much into it to give a fuck.
          I work in cybersec with clients that cover all spectrum of these kinds of offerings, but the idea is basically to develop user experiences with the big tech companies providing de-localized infrastructure so that menial shit can be off-loaded from human effort. Like instead of needing to coordinate something between 3 different offices, the apps and systems can coordinate instantly and provide a more immediate outcome. In many cases this is directly beneficial to customers, and from the company side it is ultimately not costly (the development and improvement from a team of 100 offers much more transactional scaling than teams 3 times that doing the same work manually).
          That said, the other side is the big companies are swallowing the little tech firms whole, so if small companies make something really beneficial they are quickly put under the umbrella of a giant and its why you don't hear about flashy new up and comers for long.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            that shit sounds fucking gay. whoa you work cyber security, that is so cool. your companies and work are truly making a difference in the world.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >guaranteed salary w/ yearly increases
      >nearly impossible to fire (if tenured/permanent)
      >recession-proof income
      >health paid for
      >retirement paid for (at least in my state)
      >summers off to work another job if you want
      >shit ton of vacation time
      >easy as fuck job if you’re not a whiny bitch
      >can redpill kids on the DL

      t. fellow 30+ teacher/Commie Babysitter

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >tenured being an option
        >summers off UNPAID
        >Easy job
        >vacation time ever
        Tell me you work in a union state without telling me you work in a union state.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      You literally have the most important job on the planet
      The ability to influence young minds is very powerful for better or worse

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >Live in a zogged out city
      >Wtf this sucks
      Yeah, no shit retard

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Nope I live in suburbia not even close to the "downtown" area of my city.

  36. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Good morning sirs I have busy day tomorrow at customer service job and help the people do the needful

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Good morning, sirs. Do you have dowry for to buy American bitch lasagna yet?

  37. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm going to be 27 in a few months and it honestly feel like life is down hill for me ever since I turn 20. Family was in big trouble. My dad went full schizophrenic and refused treatment. Had to spend months slowly coaxing him out of a dingy hotel room. He was a paranoid wreck. Had to spend even more time convincing him to get treatment. And as a cherry on top, my sister was failing her education and was mixing with the wrong crowd. Had to pause my career to help them.

    I got things more or less in order now. But at the same time I couldn't help but feel bitter I sacrificed my best years for my family. I rejected romantic advances and opportunities because I don't have the energy left after dealing with everything.

    My smiles don't quite reach my eyes anymore. And I feel tired. So very damn tired. I've never been in a relationship while some of my friends are already marrying. My career is several years behind everyone in my friend group.

    What scares the shit out me is there are moments where I thought it would have been better if I had ran. Couldn't help but wonder what would have happened if I just abandon them to their fates. Just throw their burdens, troubles, and responsibilities away so I can finally focus on my life.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >What scares the shit out me is there are moments where I thought it would have been better if I had ran.
      Its totally normal to have sometimes such thoughts, but dont dwell in them. Your a good Guy, Family is Family (Insert vin Diesel). I Hope you dont have a grudge against your Family. Also dont worry, you have plenty of time to make it, your best years are ahead of you. Men start to peak in their 30ies.

      >My smiles don't quite reach my eyes anymore.
      gonna steal it this line

  38. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    One water please, got wasted yesterday for no reason and spent today recovering. Its all so tiresome, looking forward when i finished my phd thesis and can take a week off.

  39. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Milk, whole.

    I feel like a creature living in my own skin, I simply cannot live like normal people do, and I cant for the life of me imagine a world where a woman loves me for me. I'm hidden under so many layers of deceit that I've crafted in a pathetic attempt to fit in I hardly know who I am anymore. This is the only place that understands.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Anon I don't have advice or anything witty to say, but I feel the same way. I hope it gets better for you.

  40. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Well, finally noticed that my marriage was a mistake. Getting ready to file in the divorce papers. And I'm not sure what I'm gonna do from there, probably find a job in another state and fuck off from Earth. I definitely need to buy that plot of land and set up the homestead.

  41. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    What percentage of people do you reckon regret their marriages/long term relationships?

    Finding it hard to believe being with someone is better than being single tbh. People suck nowadays.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      A lot. Specially when the other party basically lead you on just to do a total pro gamer 180° and basically don't hold steady their goals. Honestly, I just want to live by myself, even though I want to have kids, I can't find a good woman to marry (again).

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I think lots of people are stuck in relationships because they are afraid of being alone and maybe never finding anybody again.
      Actually at least half of the couples I know are horribly unhappy, constantly fight and obviously shouldn't be together.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        lot's of people "flee" to relationships yes. that's why there's so much arguing and fighting and divorce and so on. every relationship will have its struggles, but most people is there just because the further you are from the average bonfire, the colder and darker it gets.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          I consider it a virtue to be able to stand far away from the bonfire, alone in the dark and be alright. I'd rather have a loving gf but I definitely prefer being alone to the shit others have to deal with

  42. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    About to hit a 12 week crash diet, bros.
    >~1200 calories
    >200g protein
    Basically going to be all chicken breast/pork loin, canned green beans, egg whites, spinach, lettuce, cottage cheese, shrimp, a whey shake, and some fish oil caps.
    Will run this for the 12 days, do a carb refeed weekend, eat maintenance for 2 weeks, then lean bulk for awhile.

  43. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Does stronger DOMS correlate to greater gains, assuming I eat and sleep correctly?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Absolutely not.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        How do you know that your workout was effective then? Do you just have to wait a week and see if you can progress?

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          You know if it was effective if you lifted in a good RPE range (7-9) for sufficient volume, or if you did more weight/reps than you did last time

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          The workout is less important than the recovery. Lifting is simply the stimulus to your body that it needs to grow muscle in certain areas and proportions. The actual effectiveness of growth depends on the factors outside of the gym.

  44. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    It hurts so much being alone bros, I really dont know how much longer i can do this

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Have you tried dating apps? I'm thinking of going back to them but I know they negatively effect my mental health. They help me meet chicks and go out/fuck but after I still feel lonely because they're not worth pursuing. It's a temporary solution but I'm hoping to find a more permanent one that's not a heavy lead dosage.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I once met a girl from work and we dated for about 2 months. After we broke up I honestly felt more depressed than I had been in years, I get attached too easily, I think dating apps would kill me honestly.

  45. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    The difference of beauty between 18~20 year olds vs mid 20s+ girls is insane. I am so fucking glad I am born a man and look better and better as I age and take care of myself.

  46. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I hate women and modern dating so much it’s unreal.

  47. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Can't wait to finally have the means to move and be with my gf. Living to accommodate her time means I am lucky to get one or two good nights of sleep a week. So many times I gotta wake up at 1-2am and then try and sleep some more when she gets busy

  48. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Everyone likes a good story right?
    >me
    >go to nude beach every so often for the test boost/tan
    >literally only real reason I go is for the sun on the balls meme
    >am smart enough to know that most girls look better with clothes on and nobody ever got a date at a nude beach so I'm usually pretty humble about the whole thing/ignore people
    >find a spot with 3 pretty girls at it to ogle
    >8/10 skinny girls
    >decide fuck it and ogle them for like an hour while tanning
    >another girl approaches, I guess it was their plus one
    >they start doing this weird thing where they run their hands in circles around their breasts
    >completely mesmerized, can't look away
    >peaking over my arm with one eye open
    >one girl notices I'm staring
    >they all stare back for like 5 seconds
    >initially refuse to look away, smile, they smile back
    >stare again
    >more smiles
    Then a beta male approached them and made small talk. Could tell they weren't really into it and they left without him getting their contacts.

  49. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I am deeply upset that I dropped out of college. There's a lot of reasons why dropping out of college has made me feel worse about myself, but one major reason why I am so upset is that I feel like I wasted my chance to make great memories. I feel like if I had continued to pursue education I could have met new people from different walks of life, gone to parties, made good friends, learned new concepts, and maybe I could've ended up with a job I enjoy. I feel like I am far behind on everything in life snd I will continue to have these thoughts until I eventually pass away. I hold a lot of anger and regret in my life to the point that I'm not sure if I want to live in the next five years

  50. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I am angry at myself for being stupid, more specifically, I am sad because it takes me a while to grasp ideas and concepts. I don't want to be a low IQ idiot but that is ultimately not my decision and I would rather die than be an idiot

  51. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Date tomorrow with Palestinian girl and I'm excited to dunk on garden gnomes with her.

  52. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >Really miss my Ex

    >broke up like 25 days ago

    >got my dick wet after we broke up and all of that but I just want to be loved

    >really like the way she was to me but
    She ended up not talking to me for almost 2 months bc she was having some problems in her life

    >Those problems well she didn't count me in at least to try to help her

    Idk bois what did i do wrong?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      What were her problems?

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        She never told me we just broke up

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Helps to reflect on how you were in a relationship and how you could improve for the next one, but in reality there’s a high chance that you did nothing wrong. Brutal reality is that no one owes your their love or care, it’ll just take time to get over it my guy, but you will

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >Brutal reality is that no one owes your their love or care

        I would add "attention", and that about it. Facts.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >She ended up not talking to me for almost 2 months bc she was having some problems in her life

      How were you in relationship and not talking for 2 months? This sounds weird, did you just hang around all mute in the house or?

  53. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm terrified. I feel like every possible aspect of my life is spiraling out of control. I don't know if this is just god throwing adversity my way to make me stronger, but i get really scared at the thought of my future and whats ahead. I don't know what to do. Im coasting and i have no path visible.

  54. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I have no good coping mechanisms, i had a terrible childhood so i feel like i cant connect with anyone. I feel like the only way i can manage my day to day life is the gym and cutting myself. Its become daily and i dont know what to do. I cant talk to anyone about it, but i dont know how to stop.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      you cannot go to a psychologist?

  55. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Lost my dog and best friend back in May. I still cant move on, she was an Earth angel if there ever was one. The only source of unconditional love in my life. I know it’ll get easier some day but ive grieved harder for this dog than many people i know who have passed away. Fuck.

  56. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Life is okay I guess. I'm learning how to paint with oil paint, saving money, making new friends.
    I saw my gym crush today after not seeing her after several months but now I have a gf, it's a strange feel

  57. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I posted this in the earlier bar thread but I think it got deleted. Could use some advice. I have been on something like a 6 year dry spell to the point that I may as well have regained my virginity. Recently moved back to near where I grew up, and have committed myself to getting out of this self imposed/perpetuating social isolation. I decided to go out solo to have a few beers at some familiar old places even though I dont really drink anymore. For the first time ever, women (and people generally) seemed super interested in intiating conversation with me. Long story short, I ended up getting this womans number. Everything was going pretty well minus a few awkward moments (like grilling me on why I was single) but I'm so rusty socially and by that point drunk, my brain just had a meltdown and I kind of paused, touched her shoulder and then just sorta left. I'm completely mortified and I'm not even sure whether I should text her. We made tentative plans for next weekend but she probably thinks I'm a true autist at this point right?

    Anyway, mostly just venting. I swear trying to resocialize yourself is the most challenging thing I've ever done. How can you be so bad at something that other people just do automatically? People are brutal. It feels like a high stakes poker game. Being a shut in is the easy route by far but I'm so sick of feeling abnormal and I do want a kid at some point.

    Incidentally, alcohol is fucking bullshit. It turns me into a turbosperg. I hate how ingrained it is into meeting people.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      don't sweat your interactions with women. Most of them are familiar and smooth in certain types of situations, but in candid conversation are a lot less certain and confident than men. Just be normal when you text her about the weekend, and if she's available then make sure you already have a plan, for example; "Earls at 7pm Saturday?".

      If you have a lot of free time I'd recommend getting a cashier or customer service job to do maybe 2 days a week. And practice your greetings and conversations on every customer. Especially with women, it'll make it habitual to just be candid and cheerful when you talk to them.

      Also when you talk to women be aware of what your intentions are and be as straightforward as possible about what those are.

      I think it was google that analyzed male figures in novels for women and constructed an archetype of the attractive male: straightforward, honest, confident, self assured, values his own time and goals, competent, successful. Just try to be that.

      Lastly keep in mind that the likelihood of getting rejected when you talk to women in a candid manner is low. Like 50% if you're an average guy and a stranger to her, much lower if you make uourself appealimg.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        You're too much in your head, man. You got her number and have tentative plans to do something together on a weekend.

        You know what that means? You're doing good, and you're not as much of a sperg as you think you are. She's attracted and wants to see what you're about, so try to relax and enjoy it. That negative voice that's coming through your writing has beaten you down long enough. It's simply not true, and you're well on your way.

        Stop putting some much emotional weight to everything. You are the master of yourself, not your emotions or insecurities. If you're interesting in her, get to know her, but don't latch onto her like a drowning victim. You're not drowning, so relax.

        Also, who cares? By that I mean, who cares if you're a sperg or an autist or a shut in or any of those things? The fact that you're willing to get outside your comfort zone is miles above any of those labels. And no one cares about those things unless it's a serious problem (like you literally don't take care of yourself or actively don't try).

        You can only be who you are meant to be. Fuck everyone who has a problem with that. But clearly this woman doesn't have a problem, so see where it goes and if it leads to nothing, it leads to nothing. Learn to let go and just enjoy yourself. You only get one shot at this life, don't fill it with regrets and coulda-woulda-shoulda's.

        thanks bros, think i just needed some reassurance. being an island can definitely have its tough times. gotta just put the work in like aything else.

        >straightforward, honest, confident, self assured, values his own time and goals, competent, successful.
        whats funny is i actually behave in this manner in all other aspects of my life but its like when it comes to women i turn back into a scared little boy. its so embarrassing.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      You're too much in your head, man. You got her number and have tentative plans to do something together on a weekend.

      You know what that means? You're doing good, and you're not as much of a sperg as you think you are. She's attracted and wants to see what you're about, so try to relax and enjoy it. That negative voice that's coming through your writing has beaten you down long enough. It's simply not true, and you're well on your way.

      Stop putting some much emotional weight to everything. You are the master of yourself, not your emotions or insecurities. If you're interesting in her, get to know her, but don't latch onto her like a drowning victim. You're not drowning, so relax.

      Also, who cares? By that I mean, who cares if you're a sperg or an autist or a shut in or any of those things? The fact that you're willing to get outside your comfort zone is miles above any of those labels. And no one cares about those things unless it's a serious problem (like you literally don't take care of yourself or actively don't try).

      You can only be who you are meant to be. Fuck everyone who has a problem with that. But clearly this woman doesn't have a problem, so see where it goes and if it leads to nothing, it leads to nothing. Learn to let go and just enjoy yourself. You only get one shot at this life, don't fill it with regrets and coulda-woulda-shoulda's.

  58. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I was officiating a youth soccer match today and a parent tried to confront and accost the teenage kid who was the center because of a PK call he disagreed with. I got in between them to tell the parent to talk to me not the kid and he ran away with his tail between his legs. I like to imagine it was my fit physique that helped.

  59. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I have ruined all of my 20s working at a pathetic, humiliating job. I barely do anything all day and I've truly completely humiliated myself. The boss thinks that I do so much and cannot be replaced. I put in 2 weeks notice for my last day to be last Friday end of July. Last Monday we discussed the situation, basically my only option to them is doing an aspect of it in a remote way that will be maybe half to 3/4 time that I can do at home in the evening. I think we are meeting tomorrow to see if they are accepting it. If they don't accept it then I'm leaving

    I have no other job lined up and honestly don't even know what the hell to look for or what to even do considering how I've wasted my entire life. I enjoy nothing and I have very few skills. The thought of having to fill out a resume and do a job interview with the state of my life terrifies me.

    The reason that I have finally decided to quit is because since turning 30 all I think about all day every day is how much I have ruined my life and I literally want to kill myself every single day. If I'm so pathetic that with a college degree I can't get a job in the great resignation, despite the incoming recession, then I deserve to be unemployed and I'm going to kill myself anyway.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      This 100% lines up with me, I have three months to 30
      For no reason, a little while ago, I calculated how many pennies per second I make
      Then I started thing about how many seconds I have to tolerate to be able to afford small things like Taco Bell value menu or a gallon of gas or something

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        The thing for me is I don't even care about money. I have nothing to spend money on anyway. I have no dreams that require money like home ownership or travel or anything. I don't care about "retirement". I pay my parents rent to live with them, that's pretty much it.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          take a year off and go anywhere man. If you have nothing holding you back fuck it. go to the beach, island, new city, go whoremonger in SEA, go to Europe, wherever man.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            i honestly have no desire to go anywhere or do anything. i dont want to travel anywhere. i definitely dont want to go to south east asia to find human trafficked whores. complete anhedonia

  60. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I don't even know where to start rn, my life seems to be falling apart right in front of my eyes. I recently finished my degree with an okish result but honestly it feels so shit because I could've done so much better. Over the past year I've gotten way too comfortable with everything which ultimately ended up leading to the consequences I'm having to deal with now.
    Mental health is at an all time low, physique looks like when I started the gym 5yrs ago. My gf of 4 years who I'm still crazy about and having a hard time dealing with her not being in my life. Have my physical health and a loving family, cool dog and few decent friends, having a ridiculously hard time being grateful for those things. I was in a terrible place mentally before the break up, but that definitely put me into a new low which I've only felt ever once before. 5 years ago after my 1st gf cheated on me.
    The worst thing is I understand why my gf broke up with me, I've become such a stagnant and boring guy, from someone who did a little bit of something and trying to progress in all facets of life to a guy who does the bare minimum and never leaves the comfort zone. It's easy for me to blame covid but I think I should own up to my own mistakes and inaction. I don't know, shit's complicated. On top of all been struggling to find a job because the current market for tech jobs in my country is in shambles. So I'm broke, sad and horny lol.

  61. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    HOLD THE LINE.

    1. DO NOT CALL HER
    2. DO NOT TEXT HER.

    REMAIN #STONECOLD

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      There are things I want say to her, but I'll just let her live instead

  62. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I am 5'7 and hate myself for being born short. I genuinely want to kill myself every time I see blackpills posted online. I notice myself lifting less and feeling demotivated. I don't know what to do anons, everytime I read whitepills the blackpills just overwhelm me. I feel like I shouldnt exist for being short

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Please don't have a nice day anon. You need to try leaving this site if it's messing with your head that much. I'm being 100% sincere when I say I hope you can get better and overcome this challenge.

  63. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    These are the only threads where I have someone to talk with, so thank you for them.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Until the gay jannies delete them again and keep the hundreds of coombait and offtopic threads up.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      What I would give to have a friend/s like you gays where I can just be absolutely open and talk about whatever dumb bullshit I want

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        This only works with strangers though. Its why these threads work.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >XXI century
          >society is on the edge of collapse
          >sanity of men around the world relies on a shitty forum where they can vent their shit so they can live another day.
          >they call themselves frens.
          Frens will be studied in the future as humanity's last resort on these dark pages of history

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah but, like, I can't really tell my friend that I want to kill myself because that will only worry him and make things weird. I can tell it to you guys because I'll never see or hear you after this post.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >society is on the edge of collapse
            I fucking wish it was bros.
            >sanity of men around the world relies on a shitty forum where they can vent their shit so they can live another day
            Unironically venting in these threads makes me feel at least 5% less shit.
            I remember watching some "blackpill" or some other compilation on youtube and one clip was from a tiktok where a girl was saying something like
            >"When you're at your lowest and need someone to hear you out and help, who's the first person you call?"
            and it cuts to some lite-Chad looking dude
            >"No one. Nobody cares. I'm a man"
            Yeah... just fucking grit your teeth and bear it, I guess. Bootstraps just need to be pulled a bit harder.

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              >I fucking wish it was bros.
              Anon, look around you, it's happening. problem is that people is waiting for the apocalipse. you know, tomorrow you wake up, the sky is red, nukes flying, comets falling, stock markets collapsing, everyone is at war with everyone and so on. and that's not going to happen. what we have now is what happens. a slow decline, it could last decades.
              >just fucking grit your teeth and bear it
              isn't it ironic? I grew up with the picture that men were sex driven monkeys and women were emotional and fragile.
              now what I see? women looking at wallets over anything else and men fantasizing about being hugged while their gf tells them "it's gonna be ok"

              https://i.imgur.com/m4a7RDn.jpg

              deleted her contact info

              i think i just annoyed her

              nice, keep moving. it's over and closed.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                >what we have now is what happens. a slow decline, it could last decades.
                Pointless. Still have to cope on a daily basis. It's not a collapse until it actually collapses. Slow boiling frog shit, who cares, we're all sitting in the comfort of our homes shitposting with our fridges full, who cares if gas prices double and meat triples. Still gonna keep going. Only thing I see is climate change creating so many refugees it creates authoritarian regimes in the west/collapse.

                > I grew up with the picture that men were sex driven monkeys and women were emotional and fragile.
                >now what I see? women looking at wallets over anything else and men fantasizing about being hugged while their gf tells them "it's gonna be ok"
                Biggest lie we ever got told. Or maybe it was true at some point? What a mess.
                >and men fantasizing about being hugged while their gf tells them "it's gonna be ok"
                Who would even take fucking over this? Unironically.

  64. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I turned 33 today. 1 year and a half since last relationship. No girls or real opportunities yet. Can't really meet new people where I live at and I have been trying with all my heart. Thinking about leaving my country since I have an European passport but that means leaving my friends and family behind. Job is kind of meh. Some things are nice some aren't.

  65. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >hear about bros being sad and lonely, feelings of isolation
    >want to do something about it
    >best I can do is invite folks out to a bar on the weekend
    >in exchange for telling me how life is treating you, I'll tell you how to make whiskey, the basics of how soils are analyzed and tested when it comes go putting structures on them, and the fundamentals of welding
    >maybe we can make a habit of it, meeting up and talking about our lives and how to improve them
    >try my damnedest to keep the rib golems out, they already get plenty of support

    Would you show up IST?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      no because i have severe avoidant personality disorder. and the thought of telling someone about how pathetic my life is terrifies me. its the same reason i never go on a date or try to establish friendships.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        We're stronger together anon. No fren left behind.

  66. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    i turned 24 1 hour and 28 minutes ago. is 24 considered old? im freaking the fuck out and now am depressed over this shit. is 24 old? like i wanted to compete in mens physique but i had a hiatus due to a low point in life and stopped lifting now im worried i wont be able to get as big as if i was like 19 or 21? im currently worried about my speaking abilities/ cold approach with women, same with missing out on hot chicks. can someone help me out/ give advice im tweaking tf out right now from caffeine and shit

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      If you live around 80, I'd consider 24 old.
      I'm 30 and I feel like I am middle age.

  67. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I haven't yet formulated this to a good one liner, but you can't let your insecurities surface in friendships or romantic relationships. They just "reflect" back on you in weird ways from your friend / partner, such that it modifies their behavior too. You kind of own it to yourself and to them not to let your insecurities control you.

  68. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    broke up with my gf I COULD NOT get over body count which apparently isn't even that high these days(it was 15 including me)
    this is never going to work I'd rather have stayed a virgin

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Unless you are a teenager you're not going to meet a virgin / low body count wheat field girl of your age anyways.

      If you are like 25+ years old you are just being delusional about prospects too.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I know, it's why I'm giving up.

        Why couldn't you get over it?
        I'd think that if she was someone you really wanted to be with you could forget about it.

        What

        Facts like that aren't something you forget about, they basically define a person and as such change your view of them when you learn them.

        said plus I have been a complete hopeless romantic purityfag since I was 15. I went in with that knowledge thinking I could make this work and this would basically be a way to prove to myself I could get over it and I should be able to get over it but I just can't, it hurts my psyche too much and made me constantly paranoid that I was just another chump having his turn and yeah I probably was.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          You shouldn't "give up", just adjust your expectations.

          Though seriously loose women and men (15+ body count) probably cannot make friends or love, but not everyone has such high body count.

          > paranoid that I was just another chump having his turn and yeah I probably was.

          Yeah you probably were, funny. Life's like that.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          I would consider 15 to be pretty high, but not a dealbreaker. Means she's less likely to settle down successfully.
          Keep putting yourself out there anon.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Why couldn't you get over it?
      I'd think that if she was someone you really wanted to be with you could forget about it.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Facts like that aren't something you forget about, they basically define a person and as such change your view of them when you learn them.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          maybe next time you shouldn't ask

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            I was not the poster you were replying to, I just gave my take.

            > maybe next time you shouldn't ask
            Yeah, don't ask questions you don't want an answer to (but your relationship is already gone if you can't ask the body count question).

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      yeah 15 is high as fuck, what a whore

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Unless you are a teenager you're not going to meet a virgin / low body count wheat field girl of your age anyways.

      If you are like 25+ years old you are just being delusional about prospects too.

      Why couldn't you get over it?
      I'd think that if she was someone you really wanted to be with you could forget about it.

      I don't know what to do about this. I rationally know any normal girl in her mid 20s is gonna have 5-20 sexual partners. And that I would've had too if I didn't spend so many years being an antisocial shizo. But it still feels weird to enter a relationship with an imbalance like this and the knowledge a dozen other guys fucked her as well.
      Met an awesome chick recently and totally hit it off with her. I'm scared to find out her body count and to reveal mine.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Does it really matter the body count? She never knew you existed before this relationship. End of the day it's not uncommon for people to have 5+ sexual partners.

        You're just being very insecure, unless she's been with a non-white, then it's a deal breaker and you should leave ASAP.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Men married virgins for eons, it is deeply ingrained in our psyche to prefer them. Yeah he is insecure but there is a biological reason for that. Shaming men for feeling like this makes you look like a woman, which you likely are.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            see

            https://i.imgur.com/xXkoOIe.jpg

            This is my first time coming back to IST in about 2 years, and let me tell you, chief, this place is fucking terrible now.

            I love you, random anon. You came here with good intentions - the best intention, trying to make a better future for yourself. It's gone terribly wrong.
            My advice to anyone wanting a better physique, improved mental health, higher self esteem, even better luck with women, is to get out of this place at Mach Fuck and never look back. Even now, you're probably thinking, "Oh, this will probably get someone less motivated to give up and leave, but not me - I'm special. I get something here I can't get anywhere else." You're not special, you've fallen into a digital psychopathic succubus den. You've abandoned your crew, Odysseus, to go listen to the sirens. You think they're telling you secrets that no other man knows but they're just trying to eat your giblets.
            This is your catalyst to leave. The universe just gave you a sign via my sunday night, slightly drunk rant. Go. Go. Go. Go lift your weights, eat your food, and make new friends, and for the love of God almighty stop coming here expecting success to follow.

            Coincidence, I left IST around 2015 and only come every few months after a 7 year hiatus to feel better about myself. Most people on this forum are so socially inept it's almost frightening. Makes me wonder if I was as bad back when I went here daily. I like to think IST was better back then, but in all reality I probably stooped down to this level as well. I'm glad I got better, and hope everyone else does at some point.
            I think most people initially come here for self-improvement, but this forum definitely has the opposite effect. There's nothing positive about becoming cynical and hateful to people who are happier than you are.

            It's easier to bring others down to your level than to raise yourself to theirs, but you never really got any better in doing so, did you?

            https://i.imgur.com/CLHbBQK.jpg

            Similar experience, Came here in 2016 after a break up expecting to learn how to improve and ended up more of a degenerate. Came back for some morbid curiosity as I now have a solid job, GF and such.

            A lot of misinformation on basically everything to do with fitness and self improvement. Some are shit posting but most of them are too far gone they legit think half the shit here is solid advise.

            People here believe finasteride is some drug used for castration and somehow using fucking vinegar and micro needling is the answer to MPB.
            150 minutes of cardio is a meme and bullshit.

            Do yourself a solid, get away from this place Anon's.

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              Fuck off gay, I have a normal life and bench 130kg. I don't want to see society's standards slip with more whores around (which also negatively affect myself).

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                I bench more than you and am also happy because I don't care about how other people enjoy their lives. I'm happy for them, and am sorry for you.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                Cool story bro, when people just live their life it will indirectly affect you. And there are certain things that I don't like, as well as many other men like women having fucked an entire football team by the time they graduate college because it feels nasty to be with them. If you don't keep people up to a moral standard, it's a nihilistic free for all, the last men as Nietzsche described it. So stick it up your ass.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                > My entire identity is based on how much I can bench.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                Not him, but I live on a world were people take pride on gettin assfucked, choking on dicks, mutilating their genitals and whatever sex fuckery you can name.
                so I don't blame that anon, at least how much can he bench is an achievement he earned through training.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          lol dumb americuck

          if your wife cheated, you would suck her boyfriend's cock with her pussy juice still fresh on it no doubt

          in my country of Saudi Arabia, we do not allow women to have multiple sexual partners.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          That's what I said, I don't think it's some kind of problem in the sense of thinking less of her. I just feel like it creates an imbalance. When a girl is the first person I ever loved and the first or one of the first to have sex with she is incredibly special to me, while for her I'm just sexual partner #15 and boyfriend #5. As the consequence our perception of the experience we are sharing is inherently different. Even if she truly loves me, that love will always be diluted with the knowledge of previous men who she felt the same for.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah, that's too high

  69. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I keep watching videos like this and getting blackpilled. Its one thing when I see posts on this website but when I see blackpill content it makes me want to die.

  70. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    worried I might have mercury poisoning. started having canned tuna everyday in my sandwhiches about 2 weeks ago but found out today about mercury and I do feel more retarded than usual

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      i dont think you have mercury poisoning. not after such a short time and not in those amounts. now if you were eating all of your protein in canned tuna every day for months then id be more worried.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >about 2 weeks ago but found out today about mercury and I do feel more retarded than usual
      kek we all have to elarn that sometime anon
      I remember eating so much swordfish that I could taste metal

  71. 1 week ago
    Anonymous
    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Same doesn’t bother me that much though now
      I rather be alone than with people who pretend to like me

  72. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm knocking on the door of 40, I'm married with kids and in general a happy guy. I do keep having these what if thoughts, like I'll think about an ex-girlfriend and past life choices.

    For example, recently thinking alot of this girl Julie I dated in the early 2000s. Only really dates for half a year or so but she asked me to elope with her and move to the rural Pacific Northwest with her. Keep dwelling on how different my life would be if I did that. Or sometimes think about this job offer I had to go to Chile that I didn't take.

    I dunno, stuff like that I keep thinking about. I almost feel like I'm in a mid life crisis.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I'm 34 and I do that too with my 'what if' girl. It's just a natural part of being older and seeing more doors closed to you than open, I think. You'd think this way even if you had eloped.
      I'd say try to look at your life in isolation - if you're happy with it then great. If not then make changes, or just go buy that Miata.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah like I said I'm a happy guy and I'm very happy with my family. Just these past memories keep my mind racing, especially on slow nights at work like tonight where I listen to a lot of music and my thoughts start to drift.

        Just remember driving around with Julie in my clapped out fox body mustang. Blasting shitty nu metal while chain smoking cigarettes. I felt so free back then. Now I got a mortgage and a family, I gotta make plans to go to the beach where before I'd wake up and be like "ya today is a beach day" or randomly drive to Chicago to try deep dish pizza which is like a 20hr drive from me.

        While I do think Miatas are cool I ended up getting a Corvette for my midlife crisis car. I'm too tall for a Miata anyways

  73. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    It’s my birthday today turn 27
    I am really sick and tired of this it’s literally the definition of insanity
    I am not unattractive
    I have been non sexual friends with women even friend zoned 3 women
    It is all do to my lack of balls
    I have a problem speaking to women I like because
    I don’t want to come off as rude and annoying

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Happy birthday anon. Just keep working on yourself and putting yourself in social situations.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Happy birthday anon

  74. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I've been with the same girl for 6 years
    She's turning 30 this september
    keeps asking me for a baby and keeps bringing up marriage
    I don't want either I just want her to stay
    Am I ruining her life?

  75. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Do people here genuinely believe a 15 bodycount is low? Most people legit dont have more than 7 partners their entire life.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah, I feel like IST strongly overestimates the number of partners most people have. There are a lot of people who only have sex in the context of long term relationships. It's hard to get a body count over 10 that way.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I am 24 yo incel and have 0 body count. The standard is like 20 kek.

  76. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    im gonna tell my older brother who is a fat bald piece of shit whose bad with money to fuckin kill himself

    legit looks like this fuckin frog. fat manlet sack of shit is refusing to pay me back $14,000 i let him borrow to pay the irs last year when i was saving up to buy a new car in fuckin cash

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      One of my best friends brother's hung himself recently. My best friend shut down, never seen pain like it.

      Be ready for it if you go down that route Anon.

  77. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >had crush on girl at work last year but got over it because she is in a long-term relationship
    >became friendly enough over the past year that she invites me to a barbecue at her place
    >don't know anyone there but decide to go
    >everyone's playing some yard game when I arrive, don't get invited to join
    >her bf isn't very welcoming and ignores me too but she makes an effort to chat with me between rounds
    >at least food and beer is alright
    >everyone stops playing the game, chats for a short while then goes home
    >just me, her and her bf
    >want to go home too but I'm a slow eater and want to finish my drink
    >awkwardly talk about anime with them, he's kind of dismissive about anything I recommend
    >just finish my food and drink and hurriedly excuse myself
    >she says I should visit again next time they have a barbecue

    I haven't really put myself out there socially since covid but this is the kind of shit that makes me want to remain a recluse, fucking hell just kill me.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      talk about anime with them, he's kind of dismissive about anything I recommend

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Hey man, I know it can be hard to put yourself out there, but in the future don't do this.

  78. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Anyone else have driving anxiety? I have my license, but every time I get behind the wheel I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack if anything goes minorly wrong. I lived in a walkable city until recently, so lack of experience is probably part of it. I just feel like this is something I should have fixed by now, at 25.

  79. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Some days I have rage for no reason. I just want to decapitate a motherfucker. Spent most of my life learning how to beat the shit out of the vast majority of people. Have a belly now and don’t care for any sort of exercise. Had no guidance in this life and was thrown to the wolves from a young age. Full of flaming hate at the moment because I’m impatient for my future. Have class in the morning but I can’t sleep despite only getting 3 hours the previous night. Just want my degree to be done already so I can move forward to the next stage of my life. At the point where I’m really starting to feel lonely with friends and destroyed the relationship with my childhood friends who I should have treated better and grown up with. No gf, don’t even think about it anymore because I’m a slow starter and can’t keep people around until the good part comes out. Constantly seeing the people I grew up with live successful lives and wonder when it’s my turn. Hear about the generation after mine already finding their success too.

    TLDR; I’m an impatient bitter shit who’s watching all the bad decisions he made in life flash before his eyes as he’s trying to fix them. At least I still have my brother and mom

  80. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    This is my first time coming back to IST in about 2 years, and let me tell you, chief, this place is fucking terrible now.

    I love you, random anon. You came here with good intentions - the best intention, trying to make a better future for yourself. It's gone terribly wrong.
    My advice to anyone wanting a better physique, improved mental health, higher self esteem, even better luck with women, is to get out of this place at Mach Fuck and never look back. Even now, you're probably thinking, "Oh, this will probably get someone less motivated to give up and leave, but not me - I'm special. I get something here I can't get anywhere else." You're not special, you've fallen into a digital psychopathic succubus den. You've abandoned your crew, Odysseus, to go listen to the sirens. You think they're telling you secrets that no other man knows but they're just trying to eat your giblets.
    This is your catalyst to leave. The universe just gave you a sign via my sunday night, slightly drunk rant. Go. Go. Go. Go lift your weights, eat your food, and make new friends, and for the love of God almighty stop coming here expecting success to follow.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I knew this a long time ago when I no longer needed to know if x was better than y, but I've gotten all I need from this place and all that's left is rot

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Coincidence, I left IST around 2015 and only come every few months after a 7 year hiatus to feel better about myself. Most people on this forum are so socially inept it's almost frightening. Makes me wonder if I was as bad back when I went here daily. I like to think IST was better back then, but in all reality I probably stooped down to this level as well. I'm glad I got better, and hope everyone else does at some point.
      I think most people initially come here for self-improvement, but this forum definitely has the opposite effect. There's nothing positive about becoming cynical and hateful to people who are happier than you are.

      It's easier to bring others down to your level than to raise yourself to theirs, but you never really got any better in doing so, did you?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Similar experience, Came here in 2016 after a break up expecting to learn how to improve and ended up more of a degenerate. Came back for some morbid curiosity as I now have a solid job, GF and such.

      A lot of misinformation on basically everything to do with fitness and self improvement. Some are shit posting but most of them are too far gone they legit think half the shit here is solid advise.

      People here believe finasteride is some drug used for castration and somehow using fucking vinegar and micro needling is the answer to MPB.
      150 minutes of cardio is a meme and bullshit.

      Do yourself a solid, get away from this place Anon's.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I disagree and I think many people would. You try to be smart about it and use a predictable straw-men argument that everyone who believes browsing IST is not as counterproductive as it is for you is wrong. Let me explain to you why this is bullshit as succinctly as I can. As far as my experience goes, there is merit in listening to opinions of others. These are people who include everyone that is not (You). This means your family, your colleagues, strangers etc. Internet has allowed for a scale of communication and exchange of information unparalleled in the real world, and in the past. Because of how much internet changed the world, and due to other reasons, for some it is difficult to communicate in such a way in any other way than on the internet. Now, if somebody happens to search for fitness-related, or beauty/dating/lifestyle-related content, there are many forums to choose from. There are arguments to be made for choosing IST as your go-to forum. I am not saying that spending large part of your free time here is necessarily beneficial, nor will I dwell on how your generalizing, self-centered assumption that it benefits no-one is illogical. What I am trying to say is that everyone has their own way in life and decisions you make can be influenced by anything, literally anything you see. Who is to say that reading IST isn't a part of that? If you had never gone to IST, you wouldn't have concluded that it has a bad influence on you. Surely, even this realization itself has had some effect on how you look at things. Don't say that there is no good in this

  81. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm getting too fucking old to live in a shared housing but the real estate here is a fucking dumb and it's hard to afford anyone. I get so pissed off by having housemates I sometimes fantasize about getting into a violent outburst and beating the ever lasting shit out of them even though they don't deserve it (too much).

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Invest in yourself, that's the best thing you can do. Learn a skill that people don't have so someone will pay you big money to do.

      Use your hatred of morons and your shared housing as motivation.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      bro the globohomo and his zog hound won't let us have anything
      your best course of action is only invest in yourself
      like that guy said
      take nothing for granted
      putting your money back into the system
      is a sure way to never see it again
      honestly wouldn't even think about buying property now
      just enjoy life now, to the fullest
      spend your own dime on you
      live like a king
      don't worry we're all going to get fucked in the ass
      in the end, they will come for all we own
      just take care of yourself
      you have nothing to lose
      you only got yourself
      ultimately just like all of us
      live life grand, refuse yourself nothing
      bro tomorrow they could decide to freeze bank accounts
      to take people's properties
      you better off spending it as soon as you get it
      on yourself, and yourself alone
      no commodities
      just you...good food, good times, experiences, skills, knowledge etc...
      the rest can all be taken away
      not your health, not what you know.

  82. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I went on some leg related machines and worked to failure. My legs a ducking killing me and I can’t even sit without those DOMS kicking my ass. Still worth it

  83. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm not ok. life can't be this. life can't be a constant anxiety of wanting to die.
    my time here is over and I keep waking up. it feels like I lived a thousand years.
    I'm walking on a tunnel but there's no light at the end. I'm heading nowhere.
    there's no cure for this, there's no rest for the tiredness I have.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      There's no love for everyone.
      She doesn't care about me.
      I'm not enough. I don't have anything for her.
      I can understand. I can not accept.
      I want to be with her. but she doesn't care.
      Moving on. again. just let time heal things, again.
      tomorrow will be another day, again.
      and again.
      and again.
      like a hammer nailing you to a cross falls. again

  84. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Ungrateful cocksuckers in this thread feeling down about whether they made the right choice about settling with the woman they're with.

    Meanwhile, many people on IST are lonely guys who have never been in a relationship.

  85. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Sun is out
    >want to lift
    >want to go take a walk and enjoy the day
    >want to study and read books
    >want to eat healthy
    Cloudy
    >want to kms
    >no motivation to do anything
    >eating cheap junk food
    >switching between lying in bed and watching youtube all day
    Can't believe my mental health depends on a ball of melting metal

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Careful with that language anon, that "ball of melting metal" gave you life. And it can take it away as quick.

  86. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Anyone still ITT?

  87. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Why is it when I get something I (think?) want, I get a wave of depression?

    I had this crush on this girl for a long time, asked her out, nothing came of it, and then finally she reciprocated, months later. For some reason I felt sad, depressed, anxious. I nearly had a panic attack. It was nice though, the date.

    Its strange.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Iktf, I think this is normal because first you may feel sad and ashamed and shot down, and then when the situation changes for the "better" you see that she treats this whole matter more lightly than you, since she can change her mind, and she doesn't care, at least less than you do, so now you are supposed to go from unhappy to happy but it's not as easy as it seems and you still remember the negativity so you feel sad because you are conscious about it.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Greentext?
      I hate having that small part in the back of my mind thinking
      >maybe now that she knows how I feel, she'll see something in me after we haven't seen each other for a while
      It's pure cope and I'd love to be able to erase her and move on, but fuck man, just knowing that shit happens prolongs this crap.

  88. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    any 30yo + in this thread?

    how to cope

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      There's no cope.
      cold and calmly consider suicide. I discarded it because I think it is death idealization. dying is shit.
      Now I just need an income. once I have that, I'll burn my days here. my time here is over, rest of my life is just spare days.

  89. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm going to tell this girl I like her today, or rather when she's able to get back to me after she's done being busy...

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      you are in for a massive failure.

      my cousin yelled at me to ask for a favor (even though they owe me big time) when I wanted to stay a night enroute to airport... was going to buy them a meal and whatevs in exchange for sleeping on the fucking floor

      old mate said I could stay then said he didn't want me there at the last min

      i'm just on my way overseas for a funeral, turns out I have no one who gives a shit despite me always trying to lift them up...

      lifts for these feels? (keeping in mind that iv recently had surgery then got covid)

      the right feeling here is rage. I would suggest to punch stuff.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        should I tell the cousin to get fucked and unleash on old mate who let me down at the last min? i'v had a few drinks and am big angry...

        I would have been happy to spend 2-5x the price of a hotel room on my friends/senpai just to sleep on a fucking floor, they don't even have the time of day for me though, fucking glad i'm moving on (again)

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          no, you just mind your business.
          don't even get mad, that will help you training but will burn you out.
          if they call back you have some really important shit to do, then you do whatever the fuck you want.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            yeah I think your right anon, might just be time to ignore incoming phonecalls indefinitely.

            will just send nintendo switch game credits and shit to the son and ignore the other useless cunts

  90. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    my cousin yelled at me to ask for a favor (even though they owe me big time) when I wanted to stay a night enroute to airport... was going to buy them a meal and whatevs in exchange for sleeping on the fucking floor

    old mate said I could stay then said he didn't want me there at the last min

    i'm just on my way overseas for a funeral, turns out I have no one who gives a shit despite me always trying to lift them up...

    lifts for these feels? (keeping in mind that iv recently had surgery then got covid)

  91. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >met and dated a girl from IST

    i don't know where to go beyond that lads

  92. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Got some weird bump on my foreskin lads can i post

  93. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    > tfw love my gf but she really is into all that Instagram and TikTok shit

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      and? youre on IST m8

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      and? youre on IST m8

      kek op is a little fucking cunt

  94. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I'm gonna try to nut up and ask a girl I know to go bowling with me

    Wish me luck

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Better be good at bowling anon. Imagine losing to a woman.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I'm really good. Wanted a way to ask her to hang after she gets off work without being too direct so I was gonna give her a free game pass with my number on it and say if she wants to blow some steam off after work to hit me up.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >too direct
          >bad

          You are a man, be as direct as possible.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Don't wanna make her feel awkward or trapped at work if she ain't into me.

            Doesn't help I've still got it in my head I'm back in my awkward high school days when asking girls out.

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              I'm hardly one to give advice, but sometimes just asking is the best thing to do.

              >"Hey wanna go on a date sometime?"
              >no
              >"No problem"
              >yes
              >"Can I get your number?"

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                If I ran into her at the grocery store I think I'd be fine shooting my shot like that. The only place I can find her is at her job where she's behind a counter and around coworkers, I guess I'm just afraid of making her feel trapped or obligated if she doesn't want to hang out with me. With what I was doing she has an out but she has an in but it's clear I want to hang out.

                I'll consider your route

  95. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Haven't seen gf since Thursday (she was with her family out of the city), couldn't wait to see her today.
    >She says she's super busy
    >Mentions that she's reading a book
    I love her, but she hurts me so much bros
    I really need to talk to someone about this relationship...

  96. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    my pec insertions are sooo far apart

    help

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      diamond hands
      you going to need to do movements
      that go concentrically in
      you know what a concentric movement is
      picture two circular motions going inwards
      into each other
      just venn diagram your shit
      you need to hit it from a circular rotation motion
      going inwards into your pectus centre
      really focus and be mindful
      look at it from an engineering p.o.v
      the body mechanics answer to physics
      you can even design your own exercise
      provided you know the limits of muscular and joint range
      concentric shouldn't fuck you up though
      unless your elbows have a tendency to buckle
      or dislocate
      I also would suggest not to involve shoulders
      in your movement.
      I think for you it can be just a forearm/pec/tri movement
      think of the diamond push-up
      that is the sort of motion you need
      but more concentric and even perhaps add
      some inclination if you are lacking at the top of
      the pec...good luck bro

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        matter of fact...anon trust me on this one,
        reverse that diamond push-up and weigh it.
        try this one out for size.
        Reverse diamond push up weighted I think is the engineer's fix here

  97. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    been too obsessed with height lately
    im 6'1 and unsatisfied, my dad is 6'4
    I know I couldve probably grown more if i didnt have such an unhealthy lifestyle during my developing years

  98. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >Raised as a literal yes man to my controlling autistic sister by my parents who never gave a single shit about me
    >Abusive gf who blackmailed me into staying with her and shaped my entire life
    >Now get in tons of fights with people cause im done with anyone trying to control my life
    >Try to cope with martial arts and lifting
    >All I do now is physically hurting anyone who hurts me
    I feel so fucked in the head but I have so much pent up anger, I'm legit scared I will kill a man next time I have a fight.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >abusive ex gf*

  99. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    just fucked my college crush in my dorm, her legs we're shaking

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Storytime

  100. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Don't know if anyone else has this, I have no reason to feel this way and it just happens.

    I left gym today and had a quick chat with the staff there, all was well just the casual.
    Asked someone to move out the way of my bench as he was stood right in front of it when I was trying to bench. Dude took it the wrong way but ignored it as I was nice enough asking him to move.

    Half way home, just overwhelming experience of anxiety and wanting to cry. Nothing happened and no reason for this to happen, Suddenly overwhelming urge to kill myself and hide away from the world.

    I don't get it. What the fuck ?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      CNS response
      you were in the middle of a high effort, taxing exercise
      an antagonistic response caught your CNS off guard
      while the guards were not up so to speak
      it got in deep
      don't sweat it
      it'll release next time you have a physical activity
      make sure to focus on form next time
      get deep in your zone, deep inner focus
      so that you do not let the negative experience affect you again
      just push it away next time you bench
      easy fix there's nothing you can do about a CNS freak out...it's just it was vulnerable then

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      are you me

  101. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    just gonna dump this here. so i've been dating this girl whom i thought was the loml for a little more than a year now. prior, we were really good friends for nearly 7 years. we hooked up a few times in 2020 and then last year we decided to give "us" a chance and i thought things would be perfect, wanted to marry her. things took a turn after the first 6 months and we have been through a lot of back and forth, lots of trust issues, won't go into details but i have caught her in so many white lies and bullshit just short of actually cheating on me. i keep giving her chances but mostly it's because i feel trapped and old. i'm only 28 but i feel like she was my last chance at lifelong real love because we have so much in common and when things are good, we are best friends and it's super chill. i also gained a lot of weight since dating because i let myself get too comfy so i feel very insecure about being single again. shitty, i know. i guess it inspires me to get my diet back in check again. i know i'm young still but it's hard to explain unless you have also been there. fuck bros. idk what to do. i sacrificed a lot and have put in so much into this relationship and i even went from an 80% travel job to a remote wfh job and i can't even take advantage of being able to work anywhere and travel because i'm stuck. i wish i could just get a "single" pass for like 2 years.

  102. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I hate women so much and I hate that I need them

  103. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Anyone stuck or was stuck in my situation?
    >19
    >everyone going off to college/uni as we call it in the uk
    >don’t want that lifestyle but still feel like im missing out
    >friends all went to uni
    >endless job and apprenticeship applications just end with “sorry another applicant has been selected for this role”
    >live in rural bongland, no young people around here

    I have no idea where to progress and gain skills, only to apply to apprenticeships and jobs whilst I do nothing for the rest of the day.

  104. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    This has been a very sadkunt thread fellas.

    Sending love out to all my brothers.

  105. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    my anger is killing me. i fantasize about hurting people who have looked at me the wrong way 15 years ago. i don't know what to do. it gets worse at night or during weekends for some reason. this has been the case since i was a children, i'm now 35.

  106. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    deleted her contact info

    i think i just annoyed her

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >i think i just annoyed her
      iktf

      You're better off for it though. And even if she did actually find you annoying (more likely she didn't ever give a flying fuck, literally took up no space in her thoughts), there'll be others. Personally I can't bring myself to delete just yet, need to see her one last time IRL so I don't feel like a dick. As if I'm the dick. Fuck.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >.. even if she did actually find you annoying (more likely she didn't ever give a flying fuck, literally took up no space in her thoughts)

        true

  107. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    My gf has a friend who's in her late 30s and divorced. She lives with her two sons, one of which is an autistic 10 year old, and her parents. She has a decent paying job. She was going around fucking random guys for a while on match.com hoping to find a provider. A few months ago she found a guy who's in his early 40s, is a doctor who has his own practice, and in the process of getting divorced from his wife of 20 years I think. The guy separated from his wife 8 months ago and then started dating this girl 3 months later. They fucked on the second date. Now he's already asking her to come live with him and bring her whole family to his house. He's going around meeting her whole family and she's been talking about the two of them getting married. His divorce isn't even finalized yet. But something just seems off to me about all of it. She really doesn't have anything to offer him aside from a massive load of baggage. And he's not even out of very long term relationship. What's his angle? Or is she just lucky and found the right guy at the right time?

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe the guy just wants to control her. I would comment on that, but that's it. Do not get involved into it. You don't have to save everyone.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Simps gonna simp

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe she's completely submissive to him and he just wants someone to boss around? Or she does some freaky fetish shit he's into? Or maybe he unironically fell in love with her (kek)?

  108. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Not entirely sure how many revolutions around the sun I've got in me..

  109. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >GF treating me poorly for weeks
    >she finally ends it over text
    >I'm still in denial and get her to agree for a small 2 week break then re access
    >I realise the writing on the wall a few days in, thank her for the memories and wish her a nice life
    >Immediately drives over to mine at midnight crying for me back
    >miscommunication etc, agree to make it work
    >hints at wanting to sleep at mine, tell her not a good idea
    >texts me she wants to break up as she she's driving home

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >she breaks up
      >you get her to agree to try again
      >she agrees
      >you break up
      >she realizes she looks like a bitch so now she needs to get you to agree to take her back so she can dump you
      >you actually fall for it
      Oh anon..

  110. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Passed a guy on the street today. We were those awkward nerd kids in high school who only hung out together because we were unpopular but we actually hated each other then, too (we're still both losers 10 years later). I was leaning on a building looking at my phone, didn't notice him coming down the street. Just as he was passing by, I sneezed and he said in his typical smug holier than thou tone "bless you, [name]" without turning back. Meaning "lmao were you trying to hide from me you insecure shit". I was already saying "thanks" before he finished the sentence because I thought it was some random stranger saying it. Now I look like a low confidence beta bitch who hides from people I don't like. Fuck this shit and fuck him

  111. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Giving people the ILLUSION of optionality, such as the SwipeAppHell (on top introducing gay lifestyle to normal people), is a disaster. People think they're pocketing time, or choices, to use later. It's entirely the opposite. It's burning the candle at both ends.

  112. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Had to throw a hobo off a tram today. Very belligerent and stunk to high heaven. Some dude with a face tattoo tried to intervene, I think he assumed I was abusing an elderly. Then he took a whiff of that piece of shit scum and helped me instead.
    It's interesting how nobody else did anything, even the women around the hobo, and he was yelling at them, calling them whores and worse.

  113. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I really didn't want to be the main character.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Nobody is the main character. We're all equally worthless side pieces.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Main character of my own life, that is. I have nobody to share moments I find pretty.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >tfw no gf
          in 2022 as in 2004

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            also

            > tfw no kids

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              the little steps of the children I will not met haunts my days my soul more and more which each day passing

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                yeah
                i know the feel
                the kids are there, maybe for me that got into a school at 18, or for me that wasn't okay being loner. they met them 10-5 years ago.
                for me? the introvert dead-ender? heh

                its a quite rug pull when you realize you became stone cold loner that can survive alone only to realize being the exact opposite is literally better

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >I have nobody to share moments I find pretty.
          Problem is it's not about having just some anyone, but that one person, that one that makes those moments even more than they are on their own.

          What a joke it all is. Any anons that got that person already: don't fuck it up, retards.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            I don't want to share moments. I am so fucking tired of spending most of my free time on a person who treats everyone except me like absolute trash.
            And I know eventually she'll turn on me too.

            • 1 week ago
              Anonymous

              >I am so fucking tired of spending most of my free time on a person who treats everyone except me like absolute trash.
              So leave, retard? The fuck?

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                I would, but
                >don't fuck it up, retards .

                >I have nobody to share moments I find pretty.


                Problem is it's not about having just some anyone, but that one person, that one that makes those moments even more than they are on their own.

                What a joke it all is. Any anons that got that person already: don't fuck it up, retards. This voice is stronger for now.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                But it doesn't sound like you have that. You sound like you're scared of going back to being alone, so you stick with some chick that makes you feel like shit.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                She treats me like a god. I just don't like how she treats everyone else...
                And yes, I am afraid to be alone.

              • 1 week ago
                Anonymous

                Oh my bad anon, misread it earlier as she treats everyone good except you.
                You'll never be able to change that about her though.. can you really live with her being a bitch to everyone but you for the rest of your life?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Mandatory

  114. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I don't enjoy things. I don't like tv. I don't like games. I've spent most of my life alone and never developed interest in the shit people do together. It makes it very hard to try to spend time with anyone. I ask, "for what?" All I want to do is talk and have sex. I don't care about these pastimes that everyone else appear to need. It gets so frustrating. It appears I have to force myself to watch TV or play stupid board games if I ever want a relationship with a bitch. Oh well. I still get plenty of sex so that's cool. But the whole married life sounds like something in cheated out of by this stupid world.

  115. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Can't recommend counterfactual morality.

    It's a brutal path.

    St. Augustine is hell of a sledgehammer.

  116. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    See you next weekend space cowboys. Thanks for listening to me rambling. Got no one else.

  117. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >love my gf
    >very happy when I'm with her
    >think about breaking up with her all the time when she's not around
    >think maybe I can do better
    >immediately happy again when she gets back
    Why is my brain like this? Am I just an asshole?

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