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  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Hopeless enough to actually be wondering what the easiest way to die would be. Still working out though since it's just routine. It doesn't even feel satisfying lifting anymore, it's just part of life I can't not do it.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      For once, I'm rather good, OP. How are you?

      Only thing that comes to mind here is try to change your surroundings as much as you can. Sometimes a mix up of what your surrounded by (even if it means just painting a part of your house or building a shed) can make all the difference to your mentality and how you view things. I think this could reignite your spark for lifting. Above all, exhaust all means.

      I’m fucking broke. I’ve wasted my 20s I’ll be 27 next month. No idea what job to do and at this point I don’t care as long as it’s not retail/food and it’s something I can actually do. Tried trades, tried working on an ambulance, tried sales, I’m a failure. I don’t care about being passionate anymore. I don’t know that I can hold down a soul sucking office job for more than a year but fuck…. I have no skills. I’m going no where in life fast. I fear I will end it soon.

      I was broke until I was 25, I'm older now, by not much. I messed around going for an all time record on the biggest asshole award. Genuinely was a grim person, constantly partying and acting foolish. If I can change my life, and I did for the better, then you certainly can. There are far worse off cases than us and everyone has their cross to bear. I had little no know skills, I started reading into something that I found to be enjoyable and now I ever so fortunately work in pathology and virology. Whether you want to be a singer, construction worker, dancer, salesman, whatever it is; the capability is in your hands.

      I’m too fat for military either and I don’t think I’d even survive in that environment. I’m fasting right now just letting myself lose gains and strength for the sake of being lean so in a worst case scenario if I don’t figure things out I can join and get through basic, at least that’s something. But I’m losing my fucking mind. I’m terrified.

      Keep up the good work, the strength will return once your body has realigned. "Realigned" being a bad term to use, but this is only the beginning.

      I feel fucked, girl and I decided to stay friends but I still want to kiss her, I’ve got an exam tomorrow and an essay due tonight. I hate love and what it’s done to me, my mood has fluctuated so much in the past week. Before that I was just depressed

      You're likely undergoing emotional unrest as a result of a major intimate/romantic change in your life. And yes, it couldn't have come at a worse time than before a deadline, best advice I can think of; Imagine what the five year older version of you would say to you right now. You'll face far bigger challenges, this one just feels worse because it's so fresh.

      https://i.imgur.com/4VWjiW5.jpg

      I started dating a real tomboy, we even compare blisters on our hands from working out, im so happy :DD

      Arguably based, though I'd avoid her handjobs. God speed, fellow man of culture.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >Whether you want to be a singer, construction worker, dancer, salesman
        Being a singer or dancer isn't a real job. 99% of jobs are fucking meaningless and soulless. I don't feel passionate about scamming old people into some shitty deal or pouring concrete. Idk about that anon, to me a job is the shittiest part of life. But there is no way around it, you have to beat yourself every day to make money so you don't live in a rented bug-chamber.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          I’m that anon and that’s part of why I feel so fucked up. It’s necessary to have money, but 90% of jobs are meaningless and it’s like… Like bro look at the reality of this: I’m on the edge of my 10th panic attack about this issue in the last 3 months, I am stressing over trying to do something I have no desire to do because it’s basically giving away all my time for some rich dickheads wallet.
          I was trying to do a job where I could be active and hands on more than anything vs punching a keyboard in a cubicle, got an EMT license and quit after one day in the job realizing how fucked up the job was. 15 hour days for $15/hr at most, dealing with super fucked up sad sick people, pissy cunt boss etc.

          Now I’m at the point I’ll take the soul sucking office job just to start saving money and to get by but I don’t even qualify for office work. I’m seriously considering bullshitting resumes and lying about experience and just dicking around at jobs until they figure me out and fire me.

          Ideally I could have my own business but I have no business considering that when I have $150 to my name and still live with my parents.
          Yeah shit could be worse for me, I could be out on my own having to make rent but I’m losing my fucking mind because the issue of paying rent or a mortgage is so far out of my way…

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah I honestly have no clue how to approach this issue. I have some passive income from before but its not enough to save up for anything serious. I will probably just have to bite the bullet. Lying about your resume and experience might work if you don't overdo it and the employers don't care too much, but I think this is dependent on the country or area. I know it wouldn't work where I live because of how much these morons glorify education.

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              What I seek to do is find any bullshit job for a short while and just use my earnings to start working on an Amazon shop, get that to the point I’m making like $3k a month and then quit the job and focus on building the Amazon shop up. I can’t fucking deal with other people I’ve forced myself to socialize for years (hence wasted 20s) and I just can’t fucking do it it’s so uncomfortable to me.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >How are you?
        Same old shit different day

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Identify what stresses you and avoid or eliminate it.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        How do I eliminate loneliness by myself?

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          socialize, learn to be alone without stimulation

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      if you're willing to resort to something as drastic as suicide, try some other drastic change in your life first instead, kill your old life, by starting a new one. there are so many other options, with better outcomes and possibilities for happiness or living for some cause greater than yourself. choose one of them first.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Report to Canada Government Services. Very helpful for white people who want to anhero.
      https://www.canada.ca/en/health-canada/services/medical-assistance-dying.html

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I’m fucking broke. I’ve wasted my 20s I’ll be 27 next month. No idea what job to do and at this point I don’t care as long as it’s not retail/food and it’s something I can actually do. Tried trades, tried working on an ambulance, tried sales, I’m a failure. I don’t care about being passionate anymore. I don’t know that I can hold down a soul sucking office job for more than a year but fuck…. I have no skills. I’m going no where in life fast. I fear I will end it soon.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I’m too fat for military either and I don’t think I’d even survive in that environment. I’m fasting right now just letting myself lose gains and strength for the sake of being lean so in a worst case scenario if I don’t figure things out I can join and get through basic, at least that’s something. But I’m losing my fucking mind. I’m terrified.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >if I don’t figure things out I can join and get through basic, at least that’s something. But I’m losing my fucking mind. I’m terrified.
        I'd at least give it a try anon. What have you got to lose?

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah that’s basically what I’m doing with the fasting. I have to lose about 60lbs to be at a weight where I can start running without risking fucking with old knee injuries. I can’t even run 1/4 mile right now that’s how weak of a person I am. I wouldn’t even get accepted in my current state. So while I’m not doing shit and I’m clueless about what’s gonna happen to me in life I’m at least starving the fat away so I can start building my endurance asap. 6’2” 260lbs. If all else fails, I can at least try to join the Air Force or something and do my 4 years or however long it takes to get benefits. Or end up staying if I find I like it.

          It support level 1. Apply for entry level jobs. Wait for your life to be changed.

          I have zero technical inclination and can only do the most basic things on a computer.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Unless you do something retarded like join army or marine infantry you'll be fine. Basic hasn't been about being fit for a long time, it's really just you having to prove you're not an illiterate retard and don't break down the moment someone yells at you a little. Go join a technical MOS that could translate to something you'd be interested in doing as a civilian and it'll be a normal job with the occasional business/camping trip with guns, use the GI bill afterwards to pick up a bach degree in whatever since companies just filter people without degrees even for menial shit these days.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      It support level 1. Apply for entry level jobs. Wait for your life to be changed.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        nta I really want a career in IT, specifically I was thinking of doing the CEH then OSCP
        I'm capable, I've always been good academically, and I'm financially just secure enough from doing manual work that I can study for a while
        anyone have any specific help? like what should I study exactly, is this a good path/idea for a good living?

        https://i.imgur.com/5RxG0gZ.jpg

        what are you guys masturbating to tonight?

        my ex

        https://i.imgur.com/dT0bzyn.jpg

        Come take a seat. Have a drink, on the house. How the hell are you doing this fine Friday?

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        I got turned down by two friends tonight
        Hasn't been the case in a long time, won't happen again soon

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >specifically I was thinking of doing the CEH then OSCP
          I work at a pentest firm. It sounds way more fun than it actually is. Unless you're really into the stuff, I honestly wouldn't recommend it because you're either dealing with total retards and spend half the engagements blocked on credentials to run fucking authenticated scanning, or you deal with egotistical project managers and devs who don't like their precious shit being run through like that (not because of pride in their work but usually because they don't want their retarded barely functional code looked at too closely).
          And OSCP is fucking hard as hell. I don't know what your timeframe is for it, but you're looking at several years

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >It sounds way more fun than it actually is
            the alternative is getting (deeper) into web dev, I can get a job easily too, but that really doesn't sound fun at all.

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              Honestly, I hate working in tech. At this point I'm collecting some money to have on hand for a move to a new area and a new life, so I'll probably be out of the pentest game by next year.
              From my own experience and the experiences I've gathered from people in devops and sec, unless you're REALLY passionate about what you're doing (like developing your own app as an entrepreneur, or you work for a meaningful organization) tech is just soul crushing bullshit and the modern day version of pencil pushing. The only real benefit is it pays disproportionately well, but that's both leveling out soon and is atrociously competitive with retarded standards that don't actually equate to anything.
              But that's my perspective. If you're going into that route, you need to be pretty dedicated since pentesting is a constantly evolving beast and you need a very conscientious eye or risk doing dumb or bad shit (like misconfiguring a basic scan automation and DoSing a client's website)

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I feel fucked, girl and I decided to stay friends but I still want to kiss her, I’ve got an exam tomorrow and an essay due tonight. I hate love and what it’s done to me, my mood has fluctuated so much in the past week. Before that I was just depressed

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Onenitis for sure.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        That’s the worst part, I’ve had oneitis for this girl for a while and missing the chance at this relationship is tough, I’m slowly getting over it though

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Went to go talk to my advisor and overheard him and one of my profs talking about how I'm lazy and annoying and think I'm "special". Idk what to do, I thought they liked me.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Other peoples opinions dont matter

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        It does when your advisor is in charge of disbursing department funds to students.

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I started dating a real tomboy, we even compare blisters on our hands from working out, im so happy :DD

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Nice to hear

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      haha krtek

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    It’s probably best I don’t drink. A water please.

    About 30% of the time that I blink I’ve been seeing myself hanging from a tree for a short period of time. It feels somewhat like I’m being pushed into a box at the same time. I’ve been suicidal before but I don’t even think I want to right now. It’s exhausting.

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >run out of weights to progressively overload
    >buy new ones on gumtree
    >dude shows up to give me the weights
    >"so are you just starting lifting?"

    Am I really that unfit?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous
    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      The delivery guy lifts for a living

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    what are you guys masturbating to tonight?

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm coughing up stomach acid again

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm freaking out. Just found out the wife is pregnant with our first. Had shit parents so no idea how to fuck I'm gonna raise a kid. Maybe just start bloatmaxxing and larp as onions kratos

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      it's the feels bar, not the fucking normalfag bar

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Congrats anon. Freaking out is the normal reaction btw. You'll be fine

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      don't hit your kid, support them. be nice to them, treat them how you want them to treat you, children learn by example, not by being beaten into submission, all that will teach them is that they have to try and beat you into submission. do not hit your kids. it changes everything.

  11. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Well, I just bought a flat now I have to break up with my gf (can't loose wieght and have mental issues, don't want to deal with that shit 24h/7), but I hate it cause it'll hurt here. So I lift to forget about this.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Fairly drunk and it's not even 4PM where I am yet.
    I'm so tired about having my only sexual encounters being in my dreams as of late. Haven't been on a date in about 14 months, and haven't been laid in about 16. I know I'm preaching to a choir of angry incel virgins, but I've been trying to just be consistent and solid with self-improvement efforts, and my fucking libido is messing with me severely.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Are you on dating apps? If you find them unsuccessful maybe try finding some hobby shit or classes to attend wherever you live, this means you get to learn something and immediately have something in common and to discuss with women you may meet there

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I'm not but I'm also choosing to do some "monk mode" shit for 6 months which involves 0 jerking off and sex of any kind.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Sounds like an interesting endeavor, godspeed brother

  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I might have quit porn. I don't even remember the last time I fapped (probably a week ago) and the last time I watched porn was sometime in the past month. I think I made it.

  14. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Feeling tired bros. Tired of the work, gym, eat and sleep cycle. On days off all I do is scroll because I’m bad with people, idk what to do about it. I want more out of life, I know I need to start putting myself out there but people are just turned off by me when I try to interact with them. I’m going to a work Christmas party in an hour or so, the guys I work with are cool so at least I’ll see them, maybe chat some others up. There’s this whore I used to fuck who’s obsessed with me, might have her over just to fuck something and sleep with someone else for a change, been a while.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      That and the impending recession is looming over my head, I barely scrape by as is and my cars gonna shit the bed soon, will most likely have to move back with my parents if shit gets bad. That or share a flat with a few friends but I doubt they’d do that. Just very uncertain about the future, it looks bleak but I’m gonna keep trying

  15. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You fucking idiots ruined the feels bar by making two.

    Anyways been feeling pretty lonely these last few months. I can see a light ahead

    Generally only match with hogs on Hinge, but ocassionally I'll match with a cute chick like I did in pic related. Am I still in the game here? Her last message took 2 days to arrive. I usually live by "if a girl wants to date you, she'll move quick and be responsive", which usually holds up pretty well. Maybe online dating is a bit different.

    Should I keep pushing forward here? Go for the date maybe?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I have the same rule anon and I'm saying just ask for the date here. Either she agrees or she ghosts you but you'll never know unless you try

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        yeah that's what im going to do honestly, no sweat off my back if i lose it, it's a low risk, high reward situation.

  16. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Gonna spend christmas eve and NYE alone for the first time in like 25+ years

    Have just gotten over a cold that knocked me out for almost 2 weeks

    I think i have some job depression or something, did jack all today besides sleeping

    Feel pretty unmotivated to lift sadly

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Brother, I'm sorry you're gonna be alone those days but please don't stop lifting. I've been in your situation but I found even just going to the gym and doing cardio or a few lifts at 50% made me feel a lot better. Being alone with your thoughts will only make you feel worse, go focus on perfecting your form for a little to ease your mind.

  17. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I believe I should stop fapping and stop watching porn, but I fail everyday... I definitely reduced the frequency, but the desire is there and it is strong... I don't know what I am supposed to do. I CAN'T talk to women. I just can't. I don't know what to say and etc. Whatever people are born with that allows them to talk to each other in a sexual/romantic way, I just don't have it. I never developed it. Nobody taught me; that's, if somebody should have taught me at all...
    I also worry, because I feel like I will never love anyone else in the world. The only girl I loved was a crush at school and since them I've never developed feelings for anyone else.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      We all gonna make it anon

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Whatever people are born with that allows them to talk to each other in a sexual/romantic way, I just don't have it. I never developed it. Nobody taught me
      that's a conflicting statement, you imply that it;s genetic, but then that it can be taught, you can't talk to women because you are in a state of doublethink.
      p.s. it can be learned, and you will love others, the key to both is just to talk to girls. practice and learn how.

  18. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    tfw nail fungus probably
    tfw havent called the doc back in 3 weeks now after giving them a sample

    fuck social anxiety
    fuck this shit

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just buy over the counter clotrimazole gel, you nasty fuck, it's like $5

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        that shit doesnt work anymore
        ive tried shit like that for years

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Congratulations, you've managed to breed some kind of super-fungus that's resistant to the thing that kills any fungus ever. God job, you've doomed humanity.
          Try turpentine

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            not cool man

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Tea tree oil it.

  19. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I remember that night when I accepted lords gift , jesus , him dying for my sins. I just can’t be thankful enough to this day for everything that came after.

    “And call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify me.” Psalms 50:12

  20. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Woke up today to see the bulleting board with promotions not including me despite having met the requirements and never having any negative feedback. Manager couldn't be arsed to tell me beforehand and basically fucked off on vacation for the past 3 weeks without letting me know beforehand why. End of year bonuses are also going to be shit. Seriously considering finding another job but the pay is still very good with great work life balance - also don't really feel like being unemployed in this market.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Why not just start looking for a new job? It won't hurt to send out resumes. I think you should just always be looking for a new job.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yes you are right, I tend to get too comfortable and it usually takes me a long time to set out and do something different. This is also my first full time job (graduated last year) and I'm slightly worried about the interview process. But you are right, it's time to get out of my comfort zone.

        Also the apartment right above me took on fire today 🙂 Now I'm freezing in my room with the windows wide open to get all the smoke out. Will hit the gym as I can at least shower there, there's water pouring all over the living room and bathroom from the ceiling. Luckily nothing was destroyed.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          damn that sucks anon, hope they fix it quickly

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          holy shit at least your place didn't burn bro. dodged a bullet there.

          But yeah it seems that people who are always feeling potential new jobs out have more success. I heard that switching jobs is the best way to make a higher salary. Now I guess you ought to take my advice with a grain of salt since I'm still trying to finish my degree so I've only had jobs as a waiter and stuff before. I'm just relaying you stuff other people told me.

          But even when I get my first job I think it'd be best to make sure my resume is updated regularly and probably after 6 months or so I'd start getting more serious about looking for something better while I'm still working.

  21. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Saw a married girl I tangentially know on bumble. Odd, maybe her marriage fell apart, haven't seen her for a few years. Swiped, but no match. A shame really, she's the only person I know who's more shy and introverted than I am.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Saw that my 2nd ex, longest lasting relationship i had, got married last year

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        To be fair, I like her twin more, at least that one actually made an effort to talk to me a few times. Didn't even meet her through mutual acquaintances or anything, but at a work conference.
        Eh, who cares, today was a leg day and I added 10kg to my RDLs for reps.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Small wins anon, step by step

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      The only reason I have dating apps is to scope out broken relationships.

  22. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Today i dreamed with a wife and children. I even dream about the day of Christmas with her a my children. Lift to avoid this.

  23. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    got drunk and screamed at whore fwb last friday
    been a whole week now and she hasn't returned my texts
    >ghosted
    >no chunky goblina slut to slam my pud into anymore

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >got drunk and screamed at whore fwb last friday
      >anger and commitment issues: the post

  24. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Developed deep feelings for gf's best friend.

    Developed piriformis syndrome from driving too much for work.

    Not sure which hurts more

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Developed deep feelings for gf's best friend.
      Infatuation thats all it is, ask yourself what it is that youre missing with your gf anon
      Not worth throwing shit away

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >ask yourself what it is that youre missing with your gf anon
        A question that no man should ever really ask himself. Don't know about that guy but if I asked myself that I'd end up living on my bro's couch for another five years.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Well then there are some deep lingering issues in your relationship anon

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            And I'll keep ignoring them until I can bench enough to decapitate me instantly

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Infatuation? Probably, but I still have to work through it and it blows. The three of us were together almost all year since she was single and I started getting those kind of childhood crush attachment feelings.

        My friend recently had his first kid, making me the only one in my circle without any and Im not getting any younger. Gf has no interest in kids and tbh I dont see her doing well as more than an aunt.

        I figure Ive got about a 2% chance at going the sister-wife route with them.. Otherwise theres no good end here. At least I can yoga out my ass-muscle.

  25. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Applying to work my college’s security job, feeling pretty good

  26. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Turns out the store where I normally buy tech has keto bread and wraps on delivery. Unfortunately today's Friday and that means I'll only have it on Sunday.
    I'm so hungry I just ate a whole stick of chicken bologne and it did fuck all. Why the fuck did I agree to go on keto with gf for a week? So hungry...

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >being a cuck

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >fit/cels swarm the thread
        Took less than two hours for you guys to show up. Pol going slow, huh?

  27. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Old fashioned please. I've been having a dull pain behind my left nut for week, I pray it's not a hernia, can't lift because of it.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      you probably strained a ligament in your groin
      just work around it and avoid ultra heavy leg work

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        With all due respect I'll avoid listening to IST for this one, but I hope you're right.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          I am a rehab doctor not that I expect you to believe me. you should be fine. perhaps reflect on what you may have done the days prior to feeling the pain so you can reduce the chances of something similar happening again.

  28. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    41. NEET. It's starting to get darker.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      What's your story?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I liked Care Bears too much as a high school boy and I had no father to tell me I was being an autist and my coddling mother overly encouraged it because my older brother died jumping his motorbike over the town laundrymat and she was happy to have her only child left safe at home watching the same old care bear vhs tapes over and over again. my mom died in an elevator accident when I was 19 and with the help of my uncle we were able to get a 20 million dollar payout in wrongful death lawsuit. although I still have the majority of the money I have never recovered mentally and never will.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Jesus christ
          Sorry anon..
          You gotta find some purpose bro. Start martial arts - it will build you up

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          That's one hell of an origin story.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            I'd watch a gritty Nolan CareBearMan tbhon

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous
        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Do you have any interests beyond Care Bears? Are there any skills you have or are willing to learn?
          I don't know your money situation but I'm assuming you have enough set to support yourself. That being said, maybe a career could get you out of a darker mindset and preoccupy yourself. My condolences to you, you'll never truly get over what happened. But you still have a chance to build yourself up.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Anon, if true, you should probably get into manufacturing Care Bears or something along children's stuffed animals.

          Not being weird, just saying that it's autists that have obscure passions that end up changing lives.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        41 years is a long story. My situation right now is I live with my gf who is the sole bread winner in the relationship, and doesn't care if I work or not. I sit at home all day besides when I go grocery shopping or to the gym. Sounds like a cake situation but I think I'm starting to lose what little self worth I have left for myself.

  29. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Captain Morgan
    How does one get over past sins? Serious stuff where I caused mental damage to a close relative in angsty teenager autism
    May have involved violence and threat with a sharp object

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >How does one get over past sins
      If they will see you or be near you at all, atonement requires positive interactions or deeds equal to 10 times the negative sins. in time, quantity and "value" (not monetary)

  30. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Trying to start new and good habits, meditaion, reading, eating right, and going to the gym. Its diffucult now becasue im still trying to get used to it, and i know itll get easier eventually and more automatic. Just keep catching my self asking the quesion of why...

  31. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    doing leg day in proper gym for first time
    these machines feel so great its like im cooming in my legs
    this is pretty great

  32. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I’ve looked back at my life and realized I’ve been a loser and a reject through almost the entire thing. My confidence is at all time low. I am in the bottom 10% of all males. I have mental illness and terrible thoughts enter my head, who knows why anymore. I guess the only thing left is to find some companionship from other weirdos and try to make the world a little warmer for someone before I go

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I'm sorry you went through that, but you have a good heart if you truly want to help others not experience what you went through. YGMI

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        t-thanks you too

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Been there. 3 years of self improooooving later I wasn't there anymore.

      Top 4:

      No FAP
      Exercise
      Healthy eating
      Limit internet as much as you can.

      Do it gay

  33. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    my grandma just died and i feel nothing, if anything i find it interesting that something is finally going on

    what the fuck is wrong with me?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      People die, it happens. Nothing to get bent out of shape over.

  34. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I just started lifting again for the first time in years.
    I'M SO FUCKING CROOKED AND INFLEXIBLE HOLY SHIT I CAN BARELY DO A SQUAT
    also somehow I can still do 1pl8 OHP for 4x8

  35. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >taking a long bus ride across the state
    >get off at destination
    >meet a cute girl who was also traveling on the bus
    >me and the girl hit it off immediately
    >decide we want to go get some burgers somewhere
    >pull out my phone to find nearest place
    >girl sits next to me to help
    >starts to really lean into me while looking at my phone, basically cuddling up with me
    >reciprocate and lean back into her
    >eventually we find a 5 Guys
    >go get out food and go back to her place
    >after a while we end up making out, which then turns to having sex
    >we then cuddle
    >I wake up
    >it was all a dream
    I've been thinking about this every day since. I can still feel what it was like to cuddle and have her skin pressed against mine. I'm so fucking lonely and touch starved guys. My only solace has been a fucking dream that I had recently. Just end it now.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >I'm so fucking lonely and touch starved guys. My only solace has been a fucking dream that I had
      I am right there with you man, just trying to stay motivated and better myself because people always you have to work to change your life. I sure hope they are right, I feel like I am running out of time.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      hang in there bruv wagmi

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      holy shit iktf bro

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      go outside. talk to women. me and a buddy went out to some bars and a random girl just started talking to us, she turned out to be a little redpilled and unvaccinated, thought my mate was handsome and gave him her number.
      go the fuck outside to social situations and talk to females.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >me and a buddy
        NTA but none of my buddies are interested in going out to bars and clubs and stuff. I'm 29 and they're all either married or in relationships or just not the type to want to do that anyway.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          I'm 33, we made some friends at one bar, there was a guy wearing the satin scorpion jacket from drive, my friend was talking about saying something to him but was being shy, so i just walked right up and said
          >"hey mate, do i know you from somewhere?"
          >he replies: "no mate i don't think so :)"
          >so i ask him: "do you drive?"
          >he turns around so pleased someone recognised his jacket and shakes my hand,
          >my mate comes over and i point at the drive guy and say "he's literally me" and we all laugh
          >drive guy pulls out a fucking patrick bateman business card
          >we talk about memes and have a laugh but his friends start to leave
          >was too drunk to remember to ask if we may join them to the next bar
          godspeed drive guy, hope you're doing well out there.

          tips for opening up socially; you gotta kinda warm up and get in a social mindset, can be draining for us autists and people with social anxiety, the anxiety drains you. you feel more comfortable if you stretch your arms up and make an open/wide posture. also i find a lot of my social anxiety stems from ignoring some big problem and going ahead with things anyway, so stop ignoring it. if there's some problem, confront it, because i guarantee, the temporary unpleasantness of confronting things that are bothering you is nothing compared to extended social anxiety and letting yourself suffer so that what, some arsehole can avoid an uncomfortable interaction? fuck 'em. Confront the thing to dispell the social anxiety.

  36. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Been okay I guess, just pretty lonely.
    On the bright side I am gaining weight and looking more toned, so I have that going for me. Got a dentist appointment in a few days then it's time to get a new job. Hopefully it will not suck, and I can make some new friends to hang out with. Even if that does not happen it will allow me stack some cash for a motorcycle this spring.

  37. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I don't think I'm gonna make it

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      We're ALL gonna fucking make it brah, that's it. Don't be a sad cunt.

  38. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    What does not being depressed feel like? I can’t seem to outlift not enjoying life

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >not enjoying life
      I thought my depression was gone because I no longer think about killing myself as often, but you’re saying I’m supposed to be enjoying this shit and not just feeling neutral or at terms with life?how do I enjoy this shit when I’m stressing over

      [...]

      what’s essentially going to make me 10x more miserable. I need a job, but can’t find one that even pays me enough to get an apartment by myself in my area, and even if I did where’s the growth that will lead to joy in life? What, I at best take a 5 day vacation once a year if I can afford it?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >not enjoying life
      I thought my depression was gone because I no longer think about killing myself as often, but you’re saying I’m supposed to be enjoying this shit and not just feeling neutral or at terms with life?how do I enjoy this shit when I’m stressing over [...] what’s essentially going to make me 10x more miserable. I need a job, but can’t find one that even pays me enough to get an apartment by myself in my area, and even if I did where’s the growth that will lead to joy in life? What, I at best take a 5 day vacation once a year if I can afford it?

      i got out once or twice, but it happened so gradually, i didn't notice, you just feel neutral normally, you feel kind of ... motivated? that grey cloud of inner misery is gone, you just feel neutral. and like you want to get up and do things sometimes. i only realised i was out when someone betrayed me and it was like "oh, this is a familiar feeling, i didn't feel this yesterday"

  39. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Let's treat ourselves to a white russian tonight, barkeep!
    Bros, I recently started putting myself out there again after a 9 year relationship, had some dates, some rejections, some girls I had to let down, it's all going pretty normally, more smoothly than I first expected. I figure I even have the self esteem to try online dating, but there's a problem: I have an irrational fear of having my picture taken. It makes me physically ill. I haven't had a picture of myself on my phone since I was in high school. I'm not ugly, I'm in good shape and confident, I want to get out there. What do I do? Do I just have to accept that I'll probably throw up in the time it takes me to get a few good images? Can I hire someone to go do some activity with me where they can get good candids? I'm in the dark here.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Take a video of you doing something you normally do and then take screenshots of parts u like. Better than nothing for now

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I thought about doing this, but the only hobby I have that I could reasonably do this with is tinkering with/dismantling and reassembling clocks and pocketwatches. It's much more interesting to talk about than it is to watch, I think.

  40. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Been traveling for a couple weeks now in south america, and I thought I would have more friends by now (because that was the case last year).

    I think the difference this time was that I focused wayy too much on girls and dates which I did go on, but nothing long lasting or mentally enriching.

    So here I find myself on a friday night, last night in Buenos aires, on my computer with noone to even talk to.

    I need to make more dude friends at this point

  41. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You don’t need to be big
    You don’t need to make 100k
    You don’t need to be a socially acceptable person
    All you need to do is l max women find autist adorable tbh and hate fake men
    Don’t take the advice of men saying women only care about about your money and status.
    Stay IST and women will wind you adorable if you are able to atleast not look like a fat slob wearing waifu shirts
    The difference between me and my incel coworker
    I was able to maintain a IST and aesthetic body
    This signals to women this is a man willing to endure and put in the effort protect me like man should be
    A fat slob signals to a woman no matter the his status this is lazy slob
    So poor chad < rich fat beta

  42. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    can't tell if girl is shy or she's not into me
    >meet shy quiet girl trough friends
    >hangout twice (in friend group)
    > said fuck it and sent her a text asking if she wanted to hangout.
    >said she wasn't in town but she wanted to hang
    >she invited me to some show
    >picked her up
    >we got there late and it was closed, but we bar hopped instead
    >I had a polaroid so we took a few photos
    >on our way home she says she wants to do more stuff visit the museum and go to the show
    >As I drop her off, she says:
    >Thanks Anon, I really enjoyed it *smiles*
    >Next day we hangout with the group
    >we go to a bar but the girls want to go to a club (I hate clubs,not going)
    >thought this day the two of us aren't talking much, she's super quiet as always
    >"you are coming to the club Anon, yes you are"
    >No I am not.
    >as we head there, it starts pouring.
    >I cover her with my jacket and she's reluctant, but accept's it.
    >I don't think she liked it and at some point she gets out of under it, and it's in the rain
    >"You are in the rain..."
    >"It's fine really"
    >wtv.jpeg
    >took her home that night, as well as other friends.
    >Today I texted her about rescheduling the show
    >She still wants to go and set a day.

    Going with what she says, I think she's interested, but sometimes I feel like she's cold and doesn't open up.
    I've been with a shy introverted girl before so I know they can be interested and be really bad at showing it.
    How do I up the pressure?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      just kiss her already lol

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      just kiss her already lol

      nevermind, she just texted me asking if our other friends can tag along to the show.
      it's over.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Ask any other girl from the same group out. Right now.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >Ask any other girl from the same group out. Right now.
          Can't. One of them is ugly and has bf, the other is fat and just got out of a relationship.
          They are also my friends, for 3 years...

  43. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm at a crossroads in life.

    I have an opportunity to relocate overseas, to a city I've been living in temporarily for the past year. It's a great city with plenty to do, but the problem is I have a limited social network. It makes seeing all the fun things painful, because I've got nobody to do things with.

    The offer will allow me to get by, but I'll be struggling financially. It will also involve inferior work from a technical perspective (engineer).

    The alternative is to move back in with my parents at home...at 28 I feel like this isn't the right move - I have to spread my wings at some point. But the work at home will be technically superior, for about 15% lower pay.

    People keep asking me...am I moving or going back home? I can't be honest with them and say the most appealing option for me is to resign, go travelling with 30% of the money I saved up, whilst I make a few plays in the stock market with the other 70%. If they make profit at the end of my travels...that's a sign to keep trying. If I lose it all, I'll end it. That's what I feel I truly want to do

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      You’re 28 moving back home is not an option brother. You’ll settle in to the place you’re living and you’ll have to find group activities, meet ups, etc.

      If there’s that much of a gap between what you’ll make at home and what you’ll make in your city, it’s obviously a stepping stone job and you’ll move on eventually.

      Whatever you do, don’t go back home gay. No matter how broke you are, you’ll make it eventually, that’s what’ll make you a man.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I'm 30 and moved in with my grandparents

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Why did you say you’re 28 in the post?

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            I'm not the loser you were originally talking too. This is a new loser encounter.

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              Fair enough, so my advice still stands. Make your own home and be broke as shit. It’ll mean more when you finally make it.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                But I was homeless

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                So what’s your deal? The fucks going on, I don’t know why you responded to a comment meant for someone else.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                Maybe you should reread the thread then I guess. Sorry you don't understand. Wagmi

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                I just did and you’re retarded. What do you want to talk about man, talk to me.

                I’m 36, I’m an airline pilot, I have a wife and two kids, I make 270k, I own a house, I have a home gym.

                Just popped into this thread because I’m at work in Cancun sitting on the beach drinking some beers.

                I literally have no idea what you’re talking about, if you want to talk about something talk to me.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                Sorry for wasting your time. Keep living the dream. Someone has too. You earned it.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                I am living the dream but I struggled everyday of my life to get here. That’s why I want to talk to people on fit and get really bad advice at the same time. What’s up?

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                You are so far above me any advice you could say to me would be utterly worthless. Like a black hole devouring a single ant. I truly apologize.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                That’s not true at all and you’re a gay for thinking like that. I came from a poor working class family who clawed their way up.

                You’re on this board and that’s a start, as gay as it is.

                The very first thing you need to do is recognize that you’re a man and it’s time to be a man. It’s a cold and lonely journey.

                Seriously, what the fuck is wrong just say it. It’s the internet, people will judge you but this thread will be gone tomorrow.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                Like I said I'm just a 30yr old who lives with his grandparents because I was homeless. Ive saved 6k usd fix my life. Thnx supreme skylord

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                [email protected]

                If you want to talk brother. All you gay garden gnome ass morons can spam it if you like too, if you want to talk as well.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                This is the brightest glowing post I've seen in a long time.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                Sure may seem like that. Sometimes a guy just wants to help other guys, don’t see that much in todays world.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                yeah the glowies totally want to just help a brother out. don't be so jaded dude

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                Anyone who falls for that post deserves to get groomed into whatever entrapment scheme that glowmoron has prepared for them.
                >picrel "i just wanna help you out bro"

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                we're not gullible retards, if he starts glowing you just stop emailing him (with your burner email), simple as

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I'm the guy you replied to...not that other weird cunt. I'm not sure I can be bothered struggling anymore. There's just not enough in life for me to bother bearing the shittiness of it all - the good days just aren't worth the bad. I just need something promising

        >pre approval expired
        >lifts stalled
        >need to cut but don't have decent lifts
        >niggling shoulder and knee issues
        >stopped going on dating apps. Used to get dates and things dried up
        >weak social network/friend group

        Wtf is the point. Other people want me around to keep paying taxes. I think I'm about 10 years overdue for sudoku

  44. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Water for me fren.

    Why is so hard to do an extended fast anons? Seriously, just doing two weeks of fast would really change my life..

    The hardest part is that after two days i usually have Brain fog Wich is pretty annoying considering that I am an IT Fag. So I kinda feel forced to end it by then.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      If it’s too much on your body try something else, don’t let fad diets consume you.s0za2s

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        s0za2s to you too good sir. *Tips fedora*

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Somehow drunkenly typed my captcha *tips fedora to you sir.* fag

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Lel updoot

            I literally spit coffee all over my computer laughing at you're comment.

            ......
            Your*
            *FACEPALM*

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              Ok man, hope you have a good night.

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                xD frfr 100 no cap. Hopes u has a gud knight 2 bruthu. *Griddies on the Fortnite™ beat*

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                What’s wrong?

              • 2 months ago
                Anonymous

                Baby want bah bah!!!!!!!!!!!!! WAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!WAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I already tried everything else. I did lose a shit ton of weight (i was morbidly obese). But those last 30 pounds thar separate me from muscular chubby to ripped Chad aren't going ANYWHERE.

        Yes, even CICO failed me. After a couple of days of lowering the calorie intake i start to feel letargic and weak. The only things that works is omad dry fasting, but it's Veeeery slow progress at this point.

        I did two weeks in college as a chem major during an objectively terrible time to do so.
        >nearing finals for quant, calc2, biochem, special advanced org elective
        I got through it just fine.
        I think people overestimate the extent of brainfog. Their thinking "feels different" and they sort of panic and assume they aren't able to think properly at all. It also seems like a lot of people are just sleep deprived and dehydrated.

        Interesting, did you consumed anything during that time (vitamins, electrolytes) or just water? Did you work out? Did you feel any mental improvement?

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >After a couple of days of lowering the calorie intake i start to feel letargic and weak.
          Welcome to cutting. If it was easy there would be no fat people.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            If true then that sucks. I don't want to be weak for months. There must be another way.

            You’ve plateaued. It happens to all of us and you need to push through it and keep up the hard work. It can take weeks. You got this though brother.

            Thank you fren, but i lost the first 50 pounds a couple of years ago. I plateaued at 180 pounds for the last two years. Only Omad dry fasting (not just Omad) made that scale move.

            I drank an electrolyte mix similar to the snake juice stuff that gets posted here except I used a magnesium citrate powder instead of that awful epsom salt. I also took half a multivitamin tablet every other day. I can't exactly remember what my reasoning was for that. It might have been something someone told me about it upsetting your stomach.
            I did workout as well. Just lifting. I had some five day routine that was like 2 upper and 2 lower days and something in between not that it matters that much. The way I remember it, I was at about 90% of my usual weight for the same reps those two weeks.
            As for the way I felt mentally: it's hard to describe. My thought processes felt calm but also subdued. I never found myself unable to engage with my coursework as I had been before the fast. It was just different. It's like the pace was slowed (but not enough to cause problems regarding time) and the urgency was dialed back. I'd doublecheck myself constantly only to find that I did things correctly the first time. Halfway through I managed to stop second-guessing myself.

            Checked. Thank you for answering.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          You’ve plateaued. It happens to all of us and you need to push through it and keep up the hard work. It can take weeks. You got this though brother.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          I drank an electrolyte mix similar to the snake juice stuff that gets posted here except I used a magnesium citrate powder instead of that awful epsom salt. I also took half a multivitamin tablet every other day. I can't exactly remember what my reasoning was for that. It might have been something someone told me about it upsetting your stomach.
          I did workout as well. Just lifting. I had some five day routine that was like 2 upper and 2 lower days and something in between not that it matters that much. The way I remember it, I was at about 90% of my usual weight for the same reps those two weeks.
          As for the way I felt mentally: it's hard to describe. My thought processes felt calm but also subdued. I never found myself unable to engage with my coursework as I had been before the fast. It was just different. It's like the pace was slowed (but not enough to cause problems regarding time) and the urgency was dialed back. I'd doublecheck myself constantly only to find that I did things correctly the first time. Halfway through I managed to stop second-guessing myself.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I did two weeks in college as a chem major during an objectively terrible time to do so.
      >nearing finals for quant, calc2, biochem, special advanced org elective
      I got through it just fine.
      I think people overestimate the extent of brainfog. Their thinking "feels different" and they sort of panic and assume they aren't able to think properly at all. It also seems like a lot of people are just sleep deprived and dehydrated.

  45. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    What the fuck is wrong with me?
    >have lost a shit ton of weight
    >lowered bf% but still can't see all my abs although can see the outline
    >women actually look at me constantly in the gym
    >just caught myself in the mirror
    >Look bloated and fat as fuck
    >completely lose self confidence and esteem
    What is this, why am I feeling so bad and why do I look so shitty now?

  46. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I posted this in the other thread, but it seems this one took off and the other died. Got good advice there, but figured more input is better. Not expecting any difference advice though. Here goes:

    I'll have a Manhattan served up, stirred not shaken please. Better make it two of those while you're at it.

    I have cognitive dissonance about a girl I've been seeing. I can't tell if I'm just retarded or if its my gut telling me something I don't want to listen to.

    >Spend the last 2 years getting myself out of fat lard mode and into the best shape I've ever been in my entire life. To the point where I look in the mirror and cannot believe I'm looking at my reflection.
    >Start dating again 3 months ago
    >Things suck at first
    >Really dial in what I'm looking for and create a set of genuine standards
    >Things start getting better. so much better in fact that I suddenly have an abundance of women to choose from.
    >Find one I'm really into and hit it off
    >After a month of seeing her, decide shes way better than any of the others girls I've been seeing. Cut all other girls off. Tell her as such.
    >She says she likes how things are going so far, but she takes more time. Ok, no problem I think.
    >Another month, things are still going great.
    >Had a date with her again tonight, she suddenly cancels, saying shes got to help her grandfather out. Suddenly get this really bad feeling that she isn't interested.

    Why am I like this bros? I've come such a long way with confidence not only in myself as an individual, but also with women specifically. Is this what it's like to feel strongly about a girl? Why does one quite frankly realistic reason to cancel a date make me feel, fuck I'll say it, insecure about her? I literally have no reason to feel insecure from an objective standpoint, but my gut is out here telling me I should be worried about whether or not things are as good as they seem. We seem to agree on just about everything in terms of what we want out of life & our core beliefs.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Old habits die hard anon. You spent a lot of time as an insecure fat shit. Now you have proven to yourself and the world that is no longer you.
      Problem is that your mind it does not believe it yet, it needs more proof.

      Look, and you know this already, she is busy and canceled on you once. The best thing you can do right now is not freak out and show her that insecurity. Let it ride and KNOW that you will be okay even if it ends tomorrow. (Because you will)
      Call her up in a few days, ask how grandpa is doing and invite her to something else as long as she is still not busy. Then you look caring, secure, and still interested.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I gotta be honest with us man, trust your gut. If a chick is truly into you, you’ll have to be finding ways to fight her off just to get some time to yourself.

        If she’s not a constant presence in your life, it’s time to move on.

        Been with my girlfriend for 5 months, get feelings like that all the time, makes me want to fucking kill myself

        Thanks anons. My current plan is to take a step back and force myself to be a bit less invested, while still trying to initiate things. Anyways, I appreciate the feedback. It's what I needed to hear.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I gotta be honest with us man, trust your gut. If a chick is truly into you, you’ll have to be finding ways to fight her off just to get some time to yourself.

        If she’s not a constant presence in your life, it’s time to move on.

        Been with my girlfriend for 5 months, get feelings like that all the time, makes me want to fucking kill myself

        Turns out my dumbass gut was right. I knew I ordered that 2nd manhattan for a reason. Heres to starting over after 3 months. It's all for the best right? ... right?

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          At least it was only 3 months, nothing to get bent out of shape about.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >Really enjoy time together
          >You're great to me
          >Best I've ever been treated
          >Still breaks up
          Women.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            https://i.imgur.com/t2GLUYj.png

            [...]
            [...]

            Turns out my dumbass gut was right. I knew I ordered that 2nd manhattan for a reason. Heres to starting over after 3 months. It's all for the best right? ... right?

            Completely normal. Women are mindbroken by slutting themselves out since teenage years. They can have a great time with you and you make them feel good and happy, ecstatic, but none of that leads to any bonding and connection for them. They can essentially LARP love but never feel any bond from it and just move on to the next without any feelings.

            It's not your fault. You just need to find the rare girls who haven't shredded their ability to develop a bond with someone.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I gotta be honest with us man, trust your gut. If a chick is truly into you, you’ll have to be finding ways to fight her off just to get some time to yourself.

      If she’s not a constant presence in your life, it’s time to move on.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Been with my girlfriend for 5 months, get feelings like that all the time, makes me want to fucking kill myself

  47. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    How do I embrace a life of secular celibacy? Is it simply working and exercising enough to be too exhausted to want to even jerk off?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      why

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I can't have kids, so no point in me dating and mindlessly attempting to fuck women

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >I can't have kids
          How do you know?
          Have you got a second opinon? I have heard of guys who thought they were infertile end up having a kid.

          >mindlessly attempting to fuck women
          Also, because it feels good and is fun? I would think that was obvious.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Through a long string of surgical shit, I found out I was born without vas deferens due to a genetic condition (the surgeries cost me my right nut). I may be able to have kids via IVF, but I don't want to pass on this illness to a child, even in just a carrier capacity. And for reasons of the illness, I don't want to adopt a child due to the high likelihood of me dying before the kid becomes an adult.
            >because it feels good and is fun?
            I don't find hook ups enjoyable. I would want sex with relationship partners, and I don't want to get into that realm anymore since a) women who don't want kids are often psychos and b) I don't want a woman's commitment to me to be the reason she doesn't have kids. It's better to just forego this whole thing and since I wind up using masturbation as a "last resort" kind of thing anyway I want to stop that too.

            • 2 months ago
              Anonymous

              Bummer dude.
              I dunno, I hate being lonely, but I agree with about hookups sucking. I would be searching for a women who does not want kids or cannot have them. It really narrows down your options but it's better than accepting no sex/love for the rest of my life... I would not wanna go on if that was the case.
              I am wondering if I will ever get another gf and might end up calling it quits anyway, but that's another can of worms.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >muh trad family legacy heritage
          stop sacrificing your life to imaginary gods (social constructs/spooks)

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >asks about secular celibacy
            >"stop sacrificing your life to imaginary gods"
            I'm not religious. That doesn't mean I want to support the degenerate bullshit pushed on society. The fact that I'm infertile just reduces the reason to go out and date.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Good luck I work a physical labor job and work out every day and still have a strong urge to jerk it everyday day.

  48. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    haven't had alcohol for 1 year today and my life isn't much better but I did lose 20 pounds and look more muscular due to low bf% so I guess that's nice.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Nice anon

  49. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >27 and still live with my father
    >work 2 dead end jobs because I didn't and still don't know what to do for a career
    >obviously don't make a lot even with 2 jobs since they're both part time
    >house flooded due to huge storm back in june and insurance is only just doing something about it
    >they put us up in hotel apartments until they sorted their shit out
    >they aren't renewing the hotel and so we're here until Christma Eve
    >insurance says they'll pay the rent to a house if we get a successful application to one
    >neither dad nor his partner work as they're focusing on being fulltime parents to my 3 younger siblings, they haven't worked in years anyway
    >all this sudden stress has made them choose to just move out into the country, where the majority of our family lives
    >they're going to sell the house once it's all fixed back up and just buy the house they're renting
    I don't want to follow them out to the country, but I now have to find a place of my own. I was going to start studying next year too, so I could actually do something with my life. Don't know if I'll have the time as I will need an actual full-time job again just so I don't end up homeless. Going to look for the cheapest rent available so I'll still be able to study. Even with the stress of potentially being homeless, this will be a good test for me. Time to get my shit together.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Here’s a tip from someone who is just finishing STEM M.Sc.

      You can almost always pay to enroll in a single course or more while not officially a full time student at that university/college.

      If you want to do STEM I’d advise you to pay to enroll into 1 introduction math course, and just do that 1 course. Try to get an A. Then keep doing this.

      You can work while doing 1 course on the side. This means you can “warm up” your brain to the maths. Harvest some A’s.

      Then when you become an official student you can transfer over all your A’s and instantly have part of your degree done with a 4.0 GPA and being able to apply for good internships at companies so you get that on your CV too and maximize chances of being hired 100k starting after uni.

      If you just enroll as a full time student out of nothing you’ll most probably get your face smashed in and try to survive with a low GPA and no internships

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I haven't studied since highschool, although I know I'm not an idiot and can pick stuff up relatively quickly. This is a big help, I'll look around to see if this is applicable in my country (it should be). Thank you very much, Anon. I really do appreciate the advice.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          The advice is very dangerous tbqh

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            How the fuck is it dangerous bro I’m literally telling him to pay to enroll into 1 single course and focus on getting an A in that in the beginning rather than enrolling full time with 91639126217173 courses and getting one shot stuck with a low GPA and no internships / student jobs as no company will touch him

  50. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm dealing with some unusually frequent PAWS episodes lately after quitting alcohol a year ago. The anhedonia sucks but just gotta wait it out, I guess.

  51. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    applied for a visa that would change my whole life if it gets accepted
    also finding a new job for me to pass the time and give me the dosh
    this new year really gonna decide my future bros

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Good luck anon. I hope shit works out for you.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Based anon good luck, I've been wanting to do the same for a while but have no good path

  52. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I bumped in to a girl I dated in high school (6 years ago) when I was walking into the gym. She got pretty chubby while I have been escaping skelly mode and becoming IST. She wants to have drinks next weekend and "catch up". I'm gonna try and fuck her

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just don't get hooked by the past.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Gross if I can't fuck either right there or withing 2 hours I lose all interest.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        lol I get it, but she would only suck my dick in high school, she didn't want to go farther, so now I really want to accomplish what past me didn't get

  53. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Crown and Coke please, appreciate it. Another semester came to an end. I made no friends but I did make a few acquaintances through shared hobbies, so it wasn't all bad. I could've tried making more of an effort to talk to girls instead of relying on group work. I'm not afraid of talking to them, it's more of waiting for the right time when I need to make an opportunity, not wait for one. Lifts are going up and I'm noticing girls looking at me in the gym so I'll take what small progress I can get.

  54. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm having a really rough night tonight. I've tried to read or watch a movie but I can't focus on anything.
    I've been seeing myself falling down this path the last few days. I tried to get out of it by doing at least a little bit of cleaning here or there or to get out and do something but I crashed tonight.
    I don't want to talk to anyone but I'm also feeling very lonely.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      bro put on a Harry potter or Lord of the Rings audiobook, hug a pillow, close your eyes and relax.

  55. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Tequila cruda. She said she couldn't give me what I want and left. It hurts

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      succinct. the hardest part of this is going to be coming to terms with the realization that she did you a favor. you deserve someone who gives you what you're looking for. She openly said she can't. Godspeed.

  56. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Experienced a real life nightmare last night. Realized at 6pm I had been studying for the wrong test, which was at 9am. I shouldn’t have been allowed in law school.

  57. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Growing up with unrestricted access to computers has left me completely fucked up from a habit and reward system perspective. I literally just can't function like a normal person

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Sounds like it's time for a detox anon.
      Take the Ted pill for a couple months then reevaluate.

  58. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Having a break since last weekend from my gf of 2 years. We've had some arguments which culminated in this. Feels kinda bad ofc but it might be time to call it quits. I'm also graduating in a month and is a bit worried about jobhunting.

    Had a good back workout today, so that's something at least.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Why do you want to call it quits? Are the arguments getting that bad?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Not necessarily that bad and I don't really want to break it off, but it feels like we're too old for this shit (28 and 30) if we're incompatible.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Well if you guys are taking a break maybe that's a sign to talk about where your relationship is and where it should go. Maybe you should end it if you think more arguments are going to continue along with the breaks

  59. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    She called me tall bros
    She’s not interested in me but I still feel great after that

  60. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I can't fucking sleep. I've had 4 hours of sleep and it's 5:30 and I'm not tired at all.

  61. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's honestly horrific to me that people think this thing is impossibly hard. The quality of the average human being is so low that

    >An hour and a half of "exercise" (walking counts)
    >45 minutes outside
    >20 minutes of reading
    >Baseline human hydration and nutrition

    Are an impossible dream. This shit is like baseline human level existence.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      If it's for 75 days straight (2.5 months) then the whole "no alcohol, no cheat meals" thing is kinda bogus.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      It's not an impossible dream, and nobody actually treats it as such. You're looking at a marketing image which is why that retard with his 2 company brands and branded shirt are plastered on the bottom.
      What you need to recognize about the modern grifter entrepreneur is that online they have to develop a literal cult of personality. Cults operate on 3 primary factors:
      >there is some kind of enemy (either metaphysical or physically present) holding you/us back
      >there is a leader that has cut through the enemy's bullshit
      >this leader offers you the alleged path they used to cut through the bullshit
      Change the topic of dissatisfaction -- money woes, poor physical health, poor mental health, poor relationships/sex life -- the list goes on, but there is ALWAYS someone to grasp at that for a quick buck. And now we're living in an age where any literal retard can drop $200 on a professional looking set up, and speak like a guru freely while the money rolls in.
      That guy probably packages the "challenge" with some of his other content to keep people coming back for more (notice how there's no mention or reducing streaming content like videos or podcasts). There is a slight element to it that people often make their work and/or family a priority to the point where they don't take care of themselves, so having a more dedicated, mindless regimen attached to something can at least kickstart the repair process. But there aren't many people benefiting beyond that. People like to think they're part of some "in-group" that is dedicated to something, so that challenge provides that element to what is otherwise purely solo endeavors

  62. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    How to people talk to women and end up dating / fucking. I talk to women semi functionally but there's just no transition to intimacy. It feels so robotic and forced. There's this wall of apathy I hit every time, and there's just no way I could hold a conversation for an entire date, although I've never been on one.

  63. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Are there any other parents here? How do you raise a /fitlit/ family?
    My girlfriend and I are at that stage where we're talking about marriage and starting a family.
    I'll be honest, it's sort of a miracle I found a gf, I was a shy loner and an outcast until I was 27. I missed a lot of normie experiences in school and my first kiss was in college to a girl who whored herself out for weed. Even though I have found a gf, and even though I have been in a relationship for a number of years I feel like I wasted most of my life. If life was a game you'd want to restart this save file because I hit all of the focus tress too late. The first 26 years of my life might as well be a black hole. I missed so many vital social experiences it is at times difficult to relate to my wife and her friends or most people at work.
    If we have kids, especially a son, I don't want him to end up like me. I want him to be an old man one day, fondly reminiscing about this first highschool sweetheart and his school friends.
    I want any kids we have to surpass me in everything. I know my work is cut out for me, so I want to start planning now.
    I feel my mother (I was raised by a single mom) made a huge error in not enrolling me in any team sports or scouts. Based on what I have read team sports or scouts are probably the best way to instill a sense of adventure, independence and camaraderie onto a young boy. Is this right? I don't really care about the sport they play, as long as they play a sport. If I'm rich I'll sign them up for hockey, otherwise it's soccer/baseball.
    I also want my kids to be well read, I only became familiar with a lot of classic literature and philosophy in my 20s. I was frankly an average student and I know if I applied myself I could have accomplished more. Maybe my children will develop a natural sense of wonder and desire to learn if I tell them about the same classical literature and history that interests me?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Not a parent, but I've been preparing myself for taking on a more fatherly position for my nieces and nephews since I can tell the writing is on the wall for my sister's divorce. There are important elements in raising kids:
      >stable structure
      Children's minds are chaotic by nature since they are exposed to near constant new shit. As such, there needs to be something orderly and predictable among that chaos so that they can create a sense of focus for certain things. This structure is made up of stable family life (or as stable as possible given circumstances like chronically ill siblings or a deceased/disabled parent) and stable routines (bed/wake times, meal times, chore/activity times, church attendance if religious this gets easier with school). With those, the child can see a) what is expected of them, and b) what the authority looks like to justify the expectations (shitty and abusive parents make children question fucking everything about the structures around them). Being a physically strong, well-read, even-keeled and supportive father will provide masculine form of stability while your wife should provide feminine.
      >some flexibility
      This goes hand in hand with stability because a child will test boundaries, and they should. A child needs to learn an appropriate level of risk-taking so they can learn independence and are open to new experiences. But the key phrase is "some flexibility" -- you're not giving carte blanche for recklessness. Bamboo is strong not because it doesn't break, but because it bends quite a bit before breaking. Keep flexibility healthy so the child can question authority and themselves appropriately.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Pt 2
        >respect for the child as a person
        This seems obvious but it's easily overlooked. Once the child has enough verbal capability to understand communication (even in developmentally disabled children like those on the spectrum), the adults around the child are often quick to dismiss the kid on the grounds that he is a kid. His opinion is not asked, or if it is there's no true consideration behind it. The kid's emotions are often dismissed because we adults think what the kid is valuing so much is too inane or stupid to warrant such emotions. And a lot of the time, adults adhere to their first impressions of kids as the defining factor of their relationship (first impressions are significant in relationships, but kids are not as privy to abstraction of other's thoughts).
        So in respecting a kid, you are
        >telling them the truth, even if the truth is explaining why you won't tell them something
        >asking the kid questions about themselves (this encourages the kid to discuss emotions in a healthy manner)
        >being stern but supportive when needing to correct or discipline a child (disciplining them should be about correction, not punishment)
        >respecting the kid's boundaries (this is a larger discussion but you can get an idea of this pretty easily)

        I think by incorporating those 3 elements, you raise a healthy kid with a good level of independence. They can be encouraged to do the healthy activities like being active and developing a good thirst for learning, while also indulging in some fun shit like vidya on occasion. You can introduce them to healthy eating early and not have to disguise healthy foods with bullshit like those chicken nuggets where the meat is ground up with veg to include vegetables on the plate. You can get them to develop a sense of confidence and self esteem that will carry them in peer groups and make them more tolerable to be around for yourself. And they may be smarter (or at least articulate) enough to communicate effectively for it.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Pt 2
        >respect for the child as a person
        This seems obvious but it's easily overlooked. Once the child has enough verbal capability to understand communication (even in developmentally disabled children like those on the spectrum), the adults around the child are often quick to dismiss the kid on the grounds that he is a kid. His opinion is not asked, or if it is there's no true consideration behind it. The kid's emotions are often dismissed because we adults think what the kid is valuing so much is too inane or stupid to warrant such emotions. And a lot of the time, adults adhere to their first impressions of kids as the defining factor of their relationship (first impressions are significant in relationships, but kids are not as privy to abstraction of other's thoughts).
        So in respecting a kid, you are
        >telling them the truth, even if the truth is explaining why you won't tell them something
        >asking the kid questions about themselves (this encourages the kid to discuss emotions in a healthy manner)
        >being stern but supportive when needing to correct or discipline a child (disciplining them should be about correction, not punishment)
        >respecting the kid's boundaries (this is a larger discussion but you can get an idea of this pretty easily)

        I think by incorporating those 3 elements, you raise a healthy kid with a good level of independence. They can be encouraged to do the healthy activities like being active and developing a good thirst for learning, while also indulging in some fun shit like vidya on occasion. You can introduce them to healthy eating early and not have to disguise healthy foods with bullshit like those chicken nuggets where the meat is ground up with veg to include vegetables on the plate. You can get them to develop a sense of confidence and self esteem that will carry them in peer groups and make them more tolerable to be around for yourself. And they may be smarter (or at least articulate) enough to communicate effectively for it.

        Thanks anon, that gives me something to think about at least.
        Hopefully your nieces turnout alright

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      When I was a kid I read a lot of books. I remember being really proud of myself in 2nd grade when I read a 200 page book in one day. (It was called the Power of Un, I think.) I used to like the harry potter books in 3rd grade, too.

      I never had to be forced to read. Maybe I was a bit of a nerd but I think a good book is just entertaining. It's the same as watching a movie but I think you learn to focus more, you build a bit of an imagination. And I can feel in my mind that some of the books I read as a kid made some deep impact buried somewhere in my brain, even if I barely remember the book. I used to read a lot of these adventure books and even when you forget them, when you read them at such a young age they stick with you somehow.

      I just wish I could have those sort of experiences in real life, but I was never really given the opportunity. I read those survival books by Gary Paulsen. Robert Louis Stevenson books. Other ones. But I never got to go camping as a kid, no scouts, nothing like that. We did go on road trips to national parks but it was kind of ruined by having a shit family. In hindsight I wish I'd done scouting.

      I also wanted to do JROTC since middle school but my father never let me. Never gave me a good reason, either. Finally he let me do it one year before I'd age out anyway and it was great, but I never really forgave him from holding me back from doing it for all those years prior. If I'd done it for five years instead of one it would have been really good for me.

      I did play baseball and I loved it. I kept it up till the start of high school. But my father also forced me to play soccer which I sucked at and I hated. He also sent me to swimming lessons like I was preparing to be on the swim team. And he sent me to a bullshit mcdojo too because they told him it would build my discipline (protip: it didn't). I dreaded all of these things and every day I knew at the end of school I'd have to go suffer for two hours.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      When I was a kid I read a lot of books. I remember being really proud of myself in 2nd grade when I read a 200 page book in one day. (It was called the Power of Un, I think.) I used to like the harry potter books in 3rd grade, too.

      I never had to be forced to read. Maybe I was a bit of a nerd but I think a good book is just entertaining. It's the same as watching a movie but I think you learn to focus more, you build a bit of an imagination. And I can feel in my mind that some of the books I read as a kid made some deep impact buried somewhere in my brain, even if I barely remember the book. I used to read a lot of these adventure books and even when you forget them, when you read them at such a young age they stick with you somehow.

      I just wish I could have those sort of experiences in real life, but I was never really given the opportunity. I read those survival books by Gary Paulsen. Robert Louis Stevenson books. Other ones. But I never got to go camping as a kid, no scouts, nothing like that. We did go on road trips to national parks but it was kind of ruined by having a shit family. In hindsight I wish I'd done scouting.

      I also wanted to do JROTC since middle school but my father never let me. Never gave me a good reason, either. Finally he let me do it one year before I'd age out anyway and it was great, but I never really forgave him from holding me back from doing it for all those years prior. If I'd done it for five years instead of one it would have been really good for me.

      I did play baseball and I loved it. I kept it up till the start of high school. But my father also forced me to play soccer which I sucked at and I hated. He also sent me to swimming lessons like I was preparing to be on the swim team. And he sent me to a bullshit mcdojo too because they told him it would build my discipline (protip: it didn't). I dreaded all of these things and every day I knew at the end of school I'd have to go suffer for two hours.

      Cont'd. Ran into the character limit. Hope you don't mind.

      Anyway I think that if he'd told me to TRY soccer, TRY swimming,this and that, it would have been fine. If I were a father I'd want to give my kid opportunities and if he says hey, I hate soccer but I love baseball then I'd go sure son, just play baseball, that's fine.

      Ironically I actually built self-discipline when I was in JROTC but because I was the one who kept asking him to do it he never seemed to care until one day he started saying that HE was the one who made me join it.

      As far as sports go I think baseball was great, socially and physically. If I could go back I'd want to stick with that a bit longer, and I would have loved to go to an actual martial arts place like boxing or kickboxing, or BJJ. If I could have started light sparring in middle school or high school I think I'd have a better sense of self-esteem now. And I wish I'd have started running sooner. I recently started running and it's been good.

      I wish I never got on the Internet or video games as much as I did though. Really messed me up, especially academically. I probably could have gotten into a way better college if not for my problem being on the computer all the time.

  64. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >ex wants to call me
    >entire time she’s yapping my ear off going for a drive bitching about her job and accusing me of leaving her to fuck other girls and then get back with her once I’ve had my fun
    >have explained to her three times now that I need to focus on crucial shit in my life and I’m doing nothing but grinding in those areas and that when I’m ready to date again I’d like to be with her
    I told her it feels like projecting after a bit in the phone and she wouldn’t stop, reiterated that I’m not fucking other bitches and just focusing on my life and said “you might be doing that but I’m not.” She started asking me shit like if I value a relationship or a good person, and then asked if I think she’s a good person. And my honest answer was “I don’t know.”
    She started asking why I wanna be with her if that’s the case and honestly I can’t blame her for asking that. Why would I? Be it my own anxiety or my gut, I have no room for people who make me feel taht I can’t trust them.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      you stupid bros need to get a fucking grip. she's a woman, you're on IST please remember who you are

  65. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just slowly going insane while thinking about the fact that true tomboys are very rare and that the majority of them have been propagandized to become chuds or dykes.
    AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      You can create a world safe for tomboys. If you cannot have them, leave your children a world that will.

  66. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >rarely go out to social places/events because have no friends to accompany me.
    >have no friends to accompany me because I rarely go out to social places/events.

    such is the paradox. Fuck me.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Last little while I've been going down to the little square of clubs and bars downtown in my little university city. I go alone and just kinda talk to people there. It's been good so far, meet friendly guys, haven't gone in a month though cause I got sick. Also it's colder now so I'll have to actually commit to going into the clubs and bars which is a bigger next step. Would recc though if you have such an area.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        yeah I live like 10-15 min away from a little college town with some bars. Mind scope out some places there. I'm 26 though, hope that's not too old to come off as a creep. How do you initiate conversations btw? Or do other people do it? I just don't want to end up standing awkwardly in a corner.

        Just go by yourself brother, it's a truly freeing thing when you enjoy your own company without needing other people around. And you're never gonna make any friends unless you start somewhere.

        Thank you brother. Yeah, I've recently kind of came to the same conclusion: I can't let the lack of friends/companions continue to be an excuse for foregoing the things I want to try and do.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >'m 26 though, hope that's not too old to come off as a creep
          Frankly dude there's gonna be dudes out there who are like 40 even at the young people clubs. You will not be the oldest guy there.

          >How do you initiate conversations btw? Or do other people do it?
          One night I went out for the Halloween events and it was great because costumes are the instant conversation starter. Other nights I just hang out and talk to random people by saying "Hey man whatsup for you guys tonight," and most dude groups are super friendly. Usually they'll say they're out looking for girls or just having a dude night. Generally ask if they're from around here, what they do, convo flows from there. If you find a good group of bros then you can approach girls from there.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            gottcha thanks for the input man.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just go by yourself brother, it's a truly freeing thing when you enjoy your own company without needing other people around. And you're never gonna make any friends unless you start somewhere.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        not him, but how do you meet others without looking like a loser trying to make friends?

        all of my friends live 1+ hr away now so it's not possible to see them that often, but I don't know anyone in my new city

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          Frankly if you smoke weed or something you'll make friends outside any club/bar.

  67. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I cant sleep because my fiance wont fuck me because she has a UTI. Ive been lifting and running more so Im constantly horny. And I cant sleep when Im horny. At least I dont have to work tomorrow. I'll take my frustrations out on weights again I guess

  68. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    been studying for an exam for half a year. Exam is exactly a week from now. I hate my current job and passing this exam is the only way for me to expedite getting the fuck out of it. Pressure is fucking on

  69. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    This has been the past month for me
    >test positive covid november 16
    >had some cold symptoms for 4-5 days but otherwise was fine
    >december 1 my right ear closed up with wax, bought some earwax removal online but took until today to get here so ive dealt with a week of muffled hearing and high pitched buzzing
    >december 3 birthday become a 31 year old khv loser
    >beginning of this week achilles tendon got really sore and have been icing wrapping and resting it, had to give up some sports that i enjoy as a result
    another horrible month in the ongoing horror of my pathetic life.

  70. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I’m getting a house and I’m super excited but my mom is not doing well
    >says the same things day in day out
    >seems to only be able to respond to the negative aspects of anything
    >can’t seem to organize her stuff
    >went through menopause a couple years ago
    She’s getting dementia isn’t she

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Was about to point it out, then you already said it. Those surely are the signs anon.

  71. 2 months ago
    Keep it 100 till the day I day

    >1 gewurtz
    >1 rose
    >1 Chardonnay
    >1 merlot
    >6 Heineken
    >few bumps of that white you know what I mean

    You bros listen me out , it’s 2022 , fucking internet and shit , Im straight talking that shit being drunk and high and dealing with whatever. I can’t explain it , the lord trying to give me signs , Im here for some fucking reason , I didn’t die , lmao.
    I just wanna say I love y’all , from the fucking deepest parts of my heart , I love y’all , be whatever the fuck you are. I don’t care , I never did , my life ? Shit son , im talking that gangsta shit and I don’t even wanna tell you about it. It’s deep , I don’t even tell my homies because they know and they just keep silent and sitting there with me. But anyway , I love you bros , I never wished anything but pure love for you gays , anyone who reading this shit , I hope you make it in whatever it be , what ever your heart fucking desires . Put the LORD first and everything will come straight , lmao , no , lmao at my fucking life. Who ever imagined I”ll post that stupid shit here , but here it goes. Im just a fucking voice in this bitch , just a little screw in this gods creations who can’t understand why yet but keep moving you know, I got some purpose here I’m alive. Maybe there will be a day I stop posting , maybe I’ll regret it tomorrow because alcohol and shit but that’s not the case. Im not justifying myself or shit , but in the end of the day you know , even when everything shit, praise the lord , do what you gotta do , keep your head up , shit sucks. I can’t feel your pain , misery , agony or whatever… but keep being strong in faith and do good , fuck the rest , heavens already decided. I know it’s black and white but I gotta keep it 100 no matter what.

    Anon.

    >tell the truth even when no one wants to hear it
    >sake, five million hoods , canada, big time mobb , keep it real even tho you disappoint me bro

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Love ya brother, wagmi

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      you are a real one. Stay gucci big man

  72. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Any Belgian ale you have on tap.

    I'm at a professional crossroads, I think it's time for a new job. Tuesday morning I have a second round interview with Company A in a similar industry that is likely to pay at least $7,000 more than the "promotion" my current job, Company B has offered me. I've already stalled a month and they want an answer by Tuesday afternoon. I think it's unwise to tip them off that I am actively looking elsewhere until I have something else on the table to use as leverage. I get along with my director, and I am conscious of what a fuck you it will be to accept the position then bolt immediately after getting a job offer with Company A, but frankly if they just paid more I'd be willing to stay. There's also a remote chance one of the people I've aggressively networked with refers me for an entirely different position at unknown Company X I might like, but I have no clue if/when that might happen.

    Based off what I can gleam from Company B reviews and first stage interview, the work life balance is much better there, which would be great. I've lost 15 pounds due to the workload of peak reporting season- I've always had a slight frame so it's very easy for me to just not eat when I have a busy schedule. I had to move back in with my parents last week because my landlord wanted to occupy the unit 2 months into the lease, which I guess works in my favor if I take the new job because I'd need to move quickly, and most of my stuff is already in a storage unit.

    It would be a cross country move though, so I wonder about that. Before losing my rental unit, I lived about 4 hour drive away from most friends and family - still within the range of a weekend trip. Now I'd be a 4 hour flight away. If I move, I'll already know people in the new city, and with my 26th birthday coming up next month, the reality is a lot of my hometown friends have grown just like I have through college and our mid 20s, so the dynamic just won't be the same anyways.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I haven;t gotten my degree yet but I think you should do it.

  73. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'll write my feels in a bit (not too bad at all) but I db curled 40lbs for two reps and it feels so good. Curling 30ish lbs for 9 reps right now. Progress feels great.

  74. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Why did she have to be married ,bros.. She is just so amazing in every way

  75. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    dont know what to do bros. my ex gf keeps stalking me after 2 months of breaking up and. at the first month she used to call me everyday and she stopped at one month because i blocked her, then she sent me emails. long story short yesterday she reached me again from another number and she wanted to talk and i told her to fuck off and she got angry and hang up. i regret being an asshole with her but she talked with another guy when we first started dating and the other guy was jealous and he shit talked me and she went on his side. i founnd out nine months later and i dumped her after a year because i couldn't live with the thoughts.

    Should i take her back? she travveled the otherside of the world for me got me presents she said she would die for me buut her actions when we were together said otherwise.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Anon don't be a dumbass. Those thoughts are going to return if you get back into a relationship with her as the trust isn't there.

  76. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I made another move on a mid girl just to get curbed.
    I'm so sick of this. Just don't accept the date if you are not into me you fucking bitch. AHHHHH

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      She accepted the date with you but then another guy asked her on a date who is of higher social value to her.

  77. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >10/10 I've been seeing around is 11/10 like not an exaggeration she btfo's any and all human females in the world
    >literally 1/1,000,000,000 tier girl
    >other day I see two of her
    >she has an identical twin sister

  78. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    For the longest time I've ben stuck in a rut where my life is going nowhere and I'm doing nothing to improve it. Why? Because I just can't picture a future for myself where I accomplish anything. I just can't see a future version of me that is at all successful or happy or confident in life. If I can't see future me what am I even working towards?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Whoaaaaa-oooohhh-ohhhh-ohhh
      For the longest time

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Im this dude

      I'm the guy you replied to...not that other weird cunt. I'm not sure I can be bothered struggling anymore. There's just not enough in life for me to bother bearing the shittiness of it all - the good days just aren't worth the bad. I just need something promising

      >pre approval expired
      >lifts stalled
      >need to cut but don't have decent lifts
      >niggling shoulder and knee issues
      >stopped going on dating apps. Used to get dates and things dried up
      >weak social network/friend group

      Wtf is the point. Other people want me around to keep paying taxes. I think I'm about 10 years overdue for sudoku

      I'm at a crossroads in life.

      I have an opportunity to relocate overseas, to a city I've been living in temporarily for the past year. It's a great city with plenty to do, but the problem is I have a limited social network. It makes seeing all the fun things painful, because I've got nobody to do things with.

      The offer will allow me to get by, but I'll be struggling financially. It will also involve inferior work from a technical perspective (engineer).

      The alternative is to move back in with my parents at home...at 28 I feel like this isn't the right move - I have to spread my wings at some point. But the work at home will be technically superior, for about 15% lower pay.

      People keep asking me...am I moving or going back home? I can't be honest with them and say the most appealing option for me is to resign, go travelling with 30% of the money I saved up, whilst I make a few plays in the stock market with the other 70%. If they make profit at the end of my travels...that's a sign to keep trying. If I lose it all, I'll end it. That's what I feel I truly want to do

      And it's got me feeling like I'm destined to end it. I don't have a 'why'. Wtf is the point in putting up with all the shit life throws at you when you don't have a reason to?

  79. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Rough but I have faith that tomorrow will be better.

  80. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm gonna smoke a joint if you guys don't mind

    Been having a hard time trying to find meaning for whatever I'm doing

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I vape and take edibles every day to curb the depression and loneliness.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        YMMV, for me it makes me stupider and amps up my anxiety a lot

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          What's ymmv mean? I understand it isn't for everyone. I love taking edibles and lifting weights. And I'm mythic ranked in MLBB. I use to get anxiety and paranoia but I just don't get it anymore. I'm in a legal state so that helps a lot I think. I also studied a lot of philosophy while I took a 6 months break and once I started again it felt like I could manage much better.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            "your mileage may vary", https://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=ymmv
            what's MLBB mean?
            and yeah absolutely, I can only say how it fucks me up, in case it resonates with others after some reflection
            I know it took me years until I realized, despite supposedly not being retarded (intelligence vs wisdom, otoh)

  81. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I miss women
    I keep dreaming about being with beautiful women like Marina Nagasawa, which is nice, but it just makes the loneliness worse when I wake up

  82. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    This is your daily reminder to never fall for this demoralisation thread

    you can choose to be happy
    you can choose to be comfy
    do not let your enemies win, the psyop is laughable

    MFW

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Feels threads aren't demoralization slides, fren. They are community support

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Nobody wants comradery in taking comfort in self wallowing patheticness, any young men readying this. Remember you have already won

  83. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm about to go through a breakup of my 4 year relationship. It's for the best but I feel like shit and lost all my appetite. Luckily I need to lose weight so I'll make heartbreak gains.

  84. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Cougar who seemed into me isn't going to show up tonight. Also got viciously cockblocked by some cunt at the bar last night.

    Not a good weekend. I thought I was finally gonna get some sexual experience.

  85. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >passed driver's license exam
    >Will go on a date soon
    >Handled this week like a champ
    >Making progress moving to my new apartment (rent)
    >Still feel lonely after my ex completely broke off contact a month ago
    Also have to deload at the gym because I had to take off and got sick. My new gymwear doesn't fit because my butt is too big kek. Dunno why I'm being such a downer, I'm making progress yet it all feels empty. At least by summer I'll look sick af.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Not even a gratz on the license
      I hate all of you nowadays, stupid nu-/fit/

  86. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Is it normal to cry after getting home from the gym as a useless fat fuck?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      you went to the gym. that's what matters

  87. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm alright ig. I work all day don't even have a car so I walk work and then hit a hard workout every time I get back Soo there's a heap of cortisol right there not only that my girl is being overly emotional and I can't understand why. She cried all night up until 3 or more idk when she stopped because she went to sleep. I hate it when people are overly emotional, she won't tell me what's wrong and we've been sitting in bed not even talking to each other, like c'mon bro this is supposed to be my break. I'm probably just gonna play oblivion later or something anyways my ankles hurt so bad and that kinda has me feeling bleh

  88. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm v tall, where is my free gf IST keeps telling me I should have? Girls only ever treat me like subhuman garbage and trying to get any of them to give me a shred of attention is like pulling teeth.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >I'm v tall
      but do you have a nice haircut?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I didn't know that was part of the deal I've been just bowl cutting my hair thinking that was irrelevant due to height?

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous
  89. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >gym replaced the lying down leg curl with a "new" (used) seated one
    >someone left it at 40kg
    >sure I'll try that while getting used to the new leg curler
    >12th curl
    >cable snaps on the curl end
    kek they should've stuck with the old machine, but should I notify anyone that it broke, just don't want to be held liable for worn cables

  90. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Feeling good to be fair, got a new bottle of rum and just chilling tonight for the first proper time in a while. Only thing that has been a pain in the ass for me rn is buying christmas presents for people otherwise all is well. How is present buying going for you lot?

  91. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Been sick all week and got ghosted by women online as usual. Normally I'd just lift and box to help with the constant frustration but I can't go and get others sick. Shits annoying.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Stop meeting girls online and start meeting them in person so that when you get their number/snap/ig or whatever then they can ghost you.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I try, have yet to have any success irl unfortunately. I've only been on dates with two girls before and I had met them both online weirdly enough.

  92. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Was mired by a cute saleswoman today and we chatted for a bit. The last time I had some girl I just met so excited to talk with me was back in 2019. It’s not even like she was trying to butter me up to buy shit, since I was only buying paper and she even made a positive comment when I decided to go for a slightly cheaper one. Feels good to get these kind of reactions again after going back to the gym, she even made a small comment about my physique.
    On worse news, a few hours latter I antagonised a guy after he fucked me over. He apologised, explained it was an accident and in the end we talked it out. Still, while I didn’t curse at him or threw a punch, I feel that my atitude was unnecessarily hostile and I could have tried to solve things in a calmer way first. It just sucks how I have no balance and alternate between either acting like a doormat or becoming hostile and hateful to the point guys much bigger than me have hesitated to escalate things in the past..

  93. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Am I in the wrong ?

    I lift 5-6 days a week and do cardio 4-5 days a week. People keep telling me it's an "unhealthy addiction", people being my co-workers, friends, people who find out about my habit etc.
    Yes I am addicted to working out because it makes me feel good and it makes sad head voice quiet.

    How the fuck is it unhealthy ? Am I in the wrong working out so much ? In my mind it's better to be addicted to lifting / cardio than it is TV, Social media or boozing every weekend.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      unless you're at it for 6 hours straight or some shit you're fine. those people are crabs.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        As long as it's not majorly interfering with other important aspects of your life or health it's probably fine

        1 hour lifting a session so about 5-6 hours total.
        probably 2 - 2.5 hours cardio total per week.

        Exercise is a crucial part of life, so long as you have it balanced out with other pursuits. Do you have other interests?
        Your peers may be worried that you're not a well-rounded individual and working out is all you have to offer. Ironically, a lot of people don't exercise at all and wouldn't bat an eye if you said you did booze it up every weekend.
        Being IST is more than the physical aspect.

        I work a lot but that's only because I have a chance at something great that most people wouldn't. The salary is wild.

        Mentally I am a cripple and live in a constant state of anxiety. But if I lift heavy the critical voice goes quiet.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >But if I lift heavy the critical voice goes quiet.
          Same bro... same...

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      As long as it's not majorly interfering with other important aspects of your life or health it's probably fine

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Exercise is a crucial part of life, so long as you have it balanced out with other pursuits. Do you have other interests?
      Your peers may be worried that you're not a well-rounded individual and working out is all you have to offer. Ironically, a lot of people don't exercise at all and wouldn't bat an eye if you said you did booze it up every weekend.
      Being IST is more than the physical aspect.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I’d monitor myself for signs of overtraining. I did that once with a regimen like yours.

      Had a mental breakdown today. Snapped at my father who was just concerned. I don’t really talk to him about stuff other than job advice and work stuff. I couldn’t verbalize it all so I texted him an apology and sent a whole paragraph of all the shit that’s got me all stressed from having a job fuck me over after I got the flu from it (and still sick), to falling out with my only friend who turned out to be a scum bag, to ex GF of 2 months calling me and fucking with my head, and having migraines from fasting. Explained to him that him trying to check on me is just reminding me of it all while I’m trying to take my mind off it.
      Feel like a gay for putting in in text but I was just way too pissed off about it all to talk. Wanted to let him know I was sorry and appreciate him caring. Never sent him a text like that.

      You recovered well

      I have a date tonight lads, wish me luck!

      Good luck!

  94. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Had a mental breakdown today. Snapped at my father who was just concerned. I don’t really talk to him about stuff other than job advice and work stuff. I couldn’t verbalize it all so I texted him an apology and sent a whole paragraph of all the shit that’s got me all stressed from having a job fuck me over after I got the flu from it (and still sick), to falling out with my only friend who turned out to be a scum bag, to ex GF of 2 months calling me and fucking with my head, and having migraines from fasting. Explained to him that him trying to check on me is just reminding me of it all while I’m trying to take my mind off it.
    Feel like a gay for putting in in text but I was just way too pissed off about it all to talk. Wanted to let him know I was sorry and appreciate him caring. Never sent him a text like that.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I hope he calls you a weak gyno moron gay.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Said the 5’3” antique German air purity tester

  95. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Had the most beautiful girl in the palm of my hands and I fucked it up because I'm in a relationship and I jus cant cheat I wish I did.

  96. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I have a date tonight lads, wish me luck!

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I meant to send my best wishes earlier, but how'd it go anon?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Great, hit it off really well. Went on a Christmas river light walk, then went to a restaurant and talked for like 4 hours. First time I have ever had success on a dating app.

  97. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Be me
    >Always have spontaneous meetups with this one girl, movienights and shit like that
    >One fucking day out of I don't know how many I can't because I had other plans
    >She's mad and won't respond
    Why do they have to be like this?

  98. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    One white Russian please, and in half an hour a ginger tea.
    I got stood up on a date. I was surprised, I texted this girl years after we fucked once and she seemed super happy to talk. She also is married but she's a slut and that's what I was looking for. No texts or anything, kinda sucked. I'm going through a lot right now and could've enjoyed the really rough, loud, long, dirty sex we had.
    On the plus side I checked out a cool part of town, and stumbled into a local comedy joint. Free laughs and a long walk, not a bad night.
    Going through a lot with my ex right now. Paying for more stuff than I feel comfortable because we split it and because she's family to me at this point, but I gotta stop because I'm getting resentful. I get sex out of it (when I'm nice, isn't often) but I want my own family, wife and kids, and that's not here. It really hurts to admit.
    Also, I'm trying to figure out where I belong in the world. I have 3 years of free college, with no idea where to spend it.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Paying for ex's stuff. You have zero spine and a complete simp loser. The only time she fucks you is when she is filled with another guys cum. You should unironically have a nice day. You have it worse then me and you're too stupid realize. Kek

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      You deserve it. You are the reason women are encouraged to be sluts

  99. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    My mother came to visit me after three weeks of starving myself. You may call it water fasting but for me it is an eating disorder. I told her everything. I now have to live back home and they want to help me. I'm 185cm(6'1) and weigh 72kg(158.7lbs). I really want to get down to 70 but now that they're forcing me to eat their extremely carboloaded dinners I'm not sure what will happen. I may have to turn to bulimia since they are insisting on watching me eat my entire dinner. I live in northern scandinavia so the snow might be a good place to throw up in. Idk, it feels like my weight loss journey ends here

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Seriously kys. Nobody cares all disorders are just cry's for attention. You are weak and will always be weak.

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