I'm noticing my parents growing older faster and it's strange to me now that I don't get to see them as often. They're starting to forget small things now and that gets me scared because I do not have the time nor resources to take care of them yet.
Last time I visited my mom over christmas I watched a movie with her, and yesterday she was telling me about a movie she watched that she couldn't remember the name of and she described the movie we watched. I did remind her we watched that movie and she then remembered we did that but it still concerns me.
I was talking to my dad about the blues artist Robert Johnson and we got on the topic of similar blues singers and he mentioned Robert Johnson as one of them.
They are 64 and 65 respectively. What do I do bros?
It happens brother. The only thong you can do is take care of yourself In mind and body to get ready to eventually take care of them. The circle of life in a way, they carried and raised you and you are due to return that favor
It happens to everyone. Be lucky you are close to them when they start slipping away
I posted in the other thread about how my girl might be cheating rn. You guys give good asf advice but I think I'm going to just stay with her but stop kissing her as long as this lasts maybe? The cuddling and sex seem to make the BS worthwhile. Although I'll stop compromising on my health- no more gaming or movies with her, junk food, etc. I've met her family and they seem to like me a lot, I don't think she'd do anything really bad tonight since she'd be betraying them as well
Confront her about if shes cheating using any evidence you have and if she acts weird about it then that means shes cheating. Don't lose your dignity as a man by thinking with your dick. That relationship won't last anyways if she's cheating.
whats the evidence anon? without anything solid I would be hesitant to accuse anyone of anything
but imo if you really cant trust her anymore maybe its time to split, give it some time to think it over but if the trust is gone its better to be in no relationship than being a mess every day thinking about your sweetie pie blowing that one guy who she is too friendly with from her work
Warm whole milk, chocolate Gold Standard whey protein, and a couple banana slices.
I sperged out at work today. Some guy asked who I got for the NFL game today and I didn't realize he was talking to me, even though no one else was around near our work stations (warehouse wageslave). I didn't say anything and clocked out about 10 minutes later since it was end of shift, but I've always been a strange guy at work. My reputation is already fricked.
I also don't know what to do with my life as I approach 30. I can either >go through with electrician apprenticeship by taking the aptitude test OR >work in career aligned with my degree
I'm tired of being borderline NEET in my parents house and it feels like life never really started for me and I'm already way behind. On top of other issues, I contemplate an hero just to end the indecision, paranoid nihilism, and social ineptitude I continue to deal with.
Idk
>go to bar with friends >waitress is a 8/10 cute brunette girl >make literally zero moves
I know that a waitress isn't a good target, since they're just being friendly and probably get hit on daily
but holy frick, how do you learn or get the courage to approach women in real life? the mere thought of blatantly hitting on a girl is so terrifying
I know I'm not 100% sperg since I've had girlfriends and my last relationship lasted 5 years, but those were classmates, so it wasn't cold opening with a complete stranger
Bump, I don’t even know about approaching classmates or anything. I haven’t been in a relationship since I don’t know how to meet women in the first place
Hot cocoa, please.
Didn't exercise all week, since I was sick. Now I'm feeling fat and disgusting all the time, even knowing that objectively I'm not fat at all.
I hope it will get better.
Since i posted that I think its been conclusive. I asked if she lied to me and she said that she doesn't cheat, but that we also aren't technically dating (??????)
The original suspicion was just because she asked if she could go drinking with her bawd friends and the guys hockey team from our uni, and when I reacted poorly, she said she had to go out for a shift at work. And then she kept texting me about how she was at work etc when normally thats not necessary
I’m in-between this state of thinking and optimism. I’m turning 31 next week, and in the days leading up to my birthday I spend a lot of time self reflecting on previous years. It’s sobering stuff, really. I think of all the squandered opportunities, the missed connections, and all the things I missed out on in my youth. It’s not so much that I missed out on living my best life in my teens and 20s, it’s that I didn’t take action. That’s the thing that keeps me up at night. I’ve had opportunities for dream jobs literally dropped on my lap, I had girls give me all the signs, I had friends invite me for cool shit—and all I did was stay at home. It’s constant self-sabotage and I’ve made the decision to cut that shit out.
So I say I’m kinda optimistic, right? I’m actually kind of lucky. I have steady employment with steady bonuses paid quarterly, I have my own place, and I’m in the best shape of my life. Better yet, I’m going on a weeklong vacation to Hawaii with some dudes I met recently. I’ve been more social in the past year than I’ve ever been from my teens into my late 20s. I’m going to have a good time to build up these relationships and I’ll use these good aloha vibes to carry me throughout this year. That’s the thing—I’m jumping at every opportunity to flourish. I’m not repeating the same mistakes I made as a kid. I have no excuse, I don’t give a shit. I don’t even have a shit to give in the first place. This will be my year. This will be my fricking year.
For all you guys that are feeling down.. wait until you see some progress in life. It’s the best feeling ever, feeling AND knowing that you’re getting out of a rut. WAGMI
>grew up an unathletic nerd >no respect from alot of kids and older people >snobs looked down on me see me as a dumbass >brother was autistic so I got some of his personality at the time >have some friends but still seen as uncool by alot of people
>now 28 >solid gig >own house on lake >near major us city but in suburbs >in shape >also climb and hike >good at cooking >not a weirdo but have had alot of opportunities to be >good self restraint >still feel like people look down on me >women too >no gf but not for lack of trying >think they are better than me or something >not everyone but alot of them >feels unearned >cant really make friends >not sure whether to move or what
Did you get your armchair psychology degree from Costco or Walmart
I posted those because I've posed this issue on this board before and it always comes up if I live with my parents or if I have a job so I might as well go ahead and put those out there in the first post
Gonna get stood up by some girl tomorrow and I honestly can't even bring myself to give a frick anymore. It's what I expect because it happens literally every time. I'm not even mad, I only arrange dates to get them canceled last minute.
I don't really drink, what are some drinks to order at bars that are good so I won't look moronic kek
I basically only get gin and tonics because my friend orders the same shit, I don't think either of us know wtf to drink
Gin and tonic is fine for a non-alcoholic. The rare times that I do drink, I love me a G&T.
Alcoholics will look at you weird and wonder why you aren't drinking gin and soda or vodka soda, but that's because they can't comprehend that anyone doesn't share their addiction and they would be fat if they drank gin & tonics.
Drinking a frick load of beers tonight because why not, drunk as hell but I don't care >turned 27 recently >have owned my own house since 2020 >quiet suburb so its not to bad >good job that pays all the bills and then some >been married for 2 years >best woman I've ever met >smart, beautiful, and funny. The whole package >supports me in everything I do >today, burning cardboard and other random shit with a good buddy of mine >mentions how this is it, the suburban dream everyone has >realize this is the most exciting my life will get from here on out, aside from random trips allowed by our time off from our jobs >snapped at her tonight while we were drinking trying to have fun >she went to bed and I just worked on the house >fixed up some plumbing and flooring while drinking in anger >did all the chores on my sunday list tonight so I have nothing to do tomorrow
Is this it bros? Just keep lifting, working, pleasing the wife and working on the house? I know that by many peoples metrics I've "made it" but honestly I'm fricking miserable. I used to move all over the country, not giving a frick where I ended up and just having fun and experiencing life. Now I'm tied to a mortgage and a wife (that I love) but honestly I'm just tired and bored. I feel like I got to my goal to early and I don't know what to do.
You're supposed to have kids and live vicariously through them.
We tried for kids for a couple years but I recently found out my swimmers aren't charged, like, at all. So at this point it's either adoption or no kids at all. We talked adoption and were looking into it so that's a start I guess.
Now you either double down and have kids or go schizo and ascend to a higher level of personality formation at the cost of everyone thinking you’re a weird loser.
I took the weird loser pill this year actually, people that I work with treat me like a charity case and I think it's funny. I've gotten so much free food and supplies for my house because of it that I'm keeping it going. Better than nothing I guess.
>another IST guy with a perfect life yet talks about how bored and miserable he is
i hope you get cancer. maybe that will bring some excitement to you
>i hope you get cancer. maybe that will bring some excitement to you
Funny you say that, I'm getting tested for some type of brain tumor so hopefully for you I have something that's going to kill me soon. Trust me, if you have any type of mental illness or no fulfillment in life getting my life won't change it.
Explain how you found out your swimmers aren't charged... Like low sperm count/quality? Is your wife not conceiving (and could she secretly be taking birth control)?
It's both, low counts and quality. I had my test levels taken recently and they showed as 1000 ng/dL so I'm not low on that. Apparently it could be some genetic thing or whatever, wife's not on birth control. We went to her OB/GYN together and got her results back as good. She can have kids but not with my swimmers. It's either adoption or no kids.
you've reached the perfect machine slave build, you're as tied to the system as it gets, most your freedoms are gone and you'll live to retire by the time your body is a pile of shit
[...]
good goy
[...]
unironically what that guy said, there a reason you and many others in the same situation as you feel no fulfillment at the end of the day, this lifestyle is repressing our primal nature, seek knowledge through schizo reasearch, you might find something
I would also advise you to read The Way of Men by jack Donovan and The Republic by Plato, that would be a good start to begin unlocking that noggin of yours
Remember, this isn't the lifestyle were meant to have, merely the one meticulously constructed by our overlords to be the perfect cogs in the machine
>you've reached the perfect machine slave build, you're as tied to the system as it gets, most your freedoms are gone and you'll live to retire by the time your body is a pile of shit
Whats weird is that I lived completely opposite to that for most of my life until 4 years ago. It's scary how fast the bullshit catches up to you.
>We tried for kids for a couple years but I recently found out my swimmers aren't charged, like, at all.
Shit man, that's my nightmare.
>Shit man, that's my nightmare.
It was mine for the longest time as well. We were super excited for kids, made up a nursery and everything. At the end of the day adoption is our best chance.
>Set her free, she has no kind of life with you.
I offered that to her but she refuses to leave me,surprised me honestly.
Unlike other anons I will give you some legitimate advice (and no having kids won't make you happy).
-What you actually, genuinely need, and should strive for, is financial independence. Otherwise you are going to be chained to your job and mortgage.
-You are not tied down to one place for the rest of your life. You have a valuable asset that you can rent out while you can do whatever the frick you want. You can use it to gain more assets, even.
-Suburban life is dreary. There's literally nothing to do and everything requires a car. It might simply be that you're unhappy living in such a place in America. There's other options, also other countries.
Appreciate the advice anon, I've thought about renting out the house and just traveling since my mortgage is so low and I could rent out the house for a lot but I have this sinking feeling that something will go wrong. I'm being a total pussy aren't I?
Do anything you can to improve your count and quality.
Stop taking hot showers - cold, or lukewarm.
Practice semen retention.
Avoid anti-spermatogenic things in your diet.
Try a bit more, then resort to adoption.
I'll start that ASAP anon, I appreciate the advice. I've been so demoralized by it that I kinda gave up. I'm gonna try harder now.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>I'm being a total pussy aren't I?
Nah. The concern is legitimate. You have to be careful who you rent to and that means being heartless. Given that it's your first home, you're not in a position to give people a chance. It's all about risk tolerance. There's a thousand and one things that can go wrong when you rent out to shitty people and first time landlords get routinely taken advantage for it.
Do anything you can to improve your count and quality.
Stop taking hot showers - cold, or lukewarm.
Practice semen retention.
Avoid anti-spermatogenic things in your diet.
My first marriage, from when I was 22 to 25, ended because I was infertile. We both wanted kids and she had to look elsewhere. I not only have very few sperm, but they are severally damaged. Even if a miracle happened and I impregnated a woman, the resulting child would be severely physically and mentally handicapped. I got a vasectomy to prevent such a tragedy. I'm now 36 and just married the love of my life; she's infertile due to an ovarian cyst. We are happy together and I hope you consider your current wife may not be right for you.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>22 to 25
I tried to get married around that age and thank the world every day that there weren’t any takers.
Happy for you. Could have gone way worse.
1 year ago
Anonymous
It absolutely could have. Everyone involved is substantially happier and more affluent now then back then.
Now you either double down and have kids or go schizo and ascend to a higher level of personality formation at the cost of everyone thinking you’re a weird loser.
I’m not going to regurgitate summaries that are everywhere online, but basically James Marcia is right about everything and most people go through life without really being known by anyone including themselves or doing anything they actually want to do with their life.
By the time the midlife crisis hits they’re usually too old to do anything about it and go into permanent moratorium at best.
you've reached the perfect machine slave build, you're as tied to the system as it gets, most your freedoms are gone and you'll live to retire by the time your body is a pile of shit
>another IST guy with a perfect life yet talks about how bored and miserable he is
i hope you get cancer. maybe that will bring some excitement to you
good goy
>ascend to a higher level of personality formation at the cost of everyone thinking you're a weird loser
Not him, but go on...
unironically what that guy said, there a reason you and many others in the same situation as you feel no fulfillment at the end of the day, this lifestyle is repressing our primal nature, seek knowledge through schizo reasearch, you might find something
I would also advise you to read The Way of Men by jack Donovan and The Republic by Plato, that would be a good start to begin unlocking that noggin of yours
Remember, this isn't the lifestyle were meant to have, merely the one meticulously constructed by our overlords to be the perfect cogs in the machine
Unlike other anons I will give you some legitimate advice (and no having kids won't make you happy).
-What you actually, genuinely need, and should strive for, is financial independence. Otherwise you are going to be chained to your job and mortgage.
-You are not tied down to one place for the rest of your life. You have a valuable asset that you can rent out while you can do whatever the frick you want. You can use it to gain more assets, even.
-Suburban life is dreary. There's literally nothing to do and everything requires a car. It might simply be that you're unhappy living in such a place in America. There's other options, also other countries.
My girlfriend and I broke up last Tuesday and I saw her friend's Instagram where she's at the club having fun and I can't take it.
Full disclosure, she has Borderline Personality Disorder. It was manageable until a couple weeks ago when she started to physically abuse me. She would threaten to kill me and that she would murder me. Last Tuesday, when we were at the gym she was triggered and started to punch me in the face. I grabbed my stuff and left her apartment. I've been doing fine until I saw those pictures. For fricks sake! She abused me and yet my heart melts when I see her. What the frick should I do?
I don’t believe anyone that says someone they know is crazy anymore. Half the time they’re the one that’s crazy and making shit up to make the person look bad.
Girls are instantly going to go out and get dicked after a breakup and post it on social media. They'll cry alone in their room but they're not gonna post that. They'll only post having fun. This will only make you seethe and cope.
Water, I need to think. I need to reasses what I’m doing, I need to figure out who is truly my friend or if anyone’s my friend. I’m beginning to think the second one is most likely it. Ive been moody this past month and my grades are slipping. I made a resolution that I would kiss a cutie for every month of the year and right now I’m 0 and 12. Im at 12% bodyfat right now so I think I want to cut to 8% for a week to enjoy that, then I’ll be bulking after that. I need to get on nofap and reconnect with god but touching my pp feels too good. I know what I need to do but idk if I have the strength to do it
another girl just rejected me. I could have asked her the question about 2 weeks ago, instead I mentally psyched myself up. I recognize that its over, and I need to move on, yet my mind wont let me too. Head is going through all these scenerios, all those thoughts still telling me a I have a chance, somehow.
I remember getting on a date with her, the discussion is getting a proper flow, and then she starts talking about her ex and how she loves him. I cut the meeting short, how do I get a better mental game? I just couldnt deal with it
You were right to cut it off, no good woman, or even man for that matter brings up past relationships and tells you how much she/he used to love him/her
why chase women, when u are man. man is strong, man is perfect. man is god's image on earth. manhood is greatest gift world offers. be good, trust yourself.live your greatest moments.
>sitting in the train >it’s busy so lots of people standing >i sit next to this big glass pane that touches my shoulder >a qt comes and she leans onto the glass >without the glass plane we would be touching bodies >at one point i look to the side, she does too, our faces like 30cm from each other >we hold eye contact for a few seconds and she smiles, look away >feel a rush go through my body >autistically avoid her gaze the rest of the ride
goddamn it i promised myself next time in a similar situation i would ask out or talk to the girl but i still didn’t do it.
I used to think me being super introverted was just a consequence of my social anxiety, but after fixing the latter the former just stayed. I do reasonably well socially. Have friends, acquaintances and have no trouble interacting with strangers. But I absolutely cannot stand being around people constantly for more than 12 hours or maybe a day. And even less if we don't have any activities. I stopped going on holidays with friends because after at most 2 days I'd rather be shot than spend more time talking about the same things or nothing at all.
It's not that I don't like people or don't get along with them, I just get tired of them very quickly. I like being alone but this behavior is very off putting to most people especially women. Anybody else deal with this?
just hot cinnamon tea, can't drink
made a tasty broth today. about to graduate with my bachelor's. happy healthy can't complain
3 scoops vanilla whey
3 scoops powdered milk
1 scoop powdered peanut butter
1/2 scoop instant coffee
Whole milk
Shaken, not stirred.
Drunk as frick. I just downloaded tinder despite being a dyel homosexual. Probably going to delete it in the morning when I sober up
Nevermind, still banned lol
I'm noticing my parents growing older faster and it's strange to me now that I don't get to see them as often. They're starting to forget small things now and that gets me scared because I do not have the time nor resources to take care of them yet.
Last time I visited my mom over christmas I watched a movie with her, and yesterday she was telling me about a movie she watched that she couldn't remember the name of and she described the movie we watched. I did remind her we watched that movie and she then remembered we did that but it still concerns me.
I was talking to my dad about the blues artist Robert Johnson and we got on the topic of similar blues singers and he mentioned Robert Johnson as one of them.
They are 64 and 65 respectively. What do I do bros?
I'll have a decaf by the way
>I'll have a decaf
It happens brother. The only thong you can do is take care of yourself In mind and body to get ready to eventually take care of them. The circle of life in a way, they carried and raised you and you are due to return that favor
It happens to everyone. Be lucky you are close to them when they start slipping away
Thanks guys, I just hope I can be there to take care of them when it gets bad. My job makes it difficult for me to take time off.
Kek
i know this feel 🙁 mom’s almost 70
I'll take a mikes hard lemonade
long island
I posted in the other thread about how my girl might be cheating rn. You guys give good asf advice but I think I'm going to just stay with her but stop kissing her as long as this lasts maybe? The cuddling and sex seem to make the BS worthwhile. Although I'll stop compromising on my health- no more gaming or movies with her, junk food, etc. I've met her family and they seem to like me a lot, I don't think she'd do anything really bad tonight since she'd be betraying them as well
>taking relationship advice from IST
>"bruh that advice deadass good asf rn no cap bruh"
moronic zoomer
Lmao you cuck
Confront her about if shes cheating using any evidence you have and if she acts weird about it then that means shes cheating. Don't lose your dignity as a man by thinking with your dick. That relationship won't last anyways if she's cheating.
whats the evidence anon? without anything solid I would be hesitant to accuse anyone of anything
but imo if you really cant trust her anymore maybe its time to split, give it some time to think it over but if the trust is gone its better to be in no relationship than being a mess every day thinking about your sweetie pie blowing that one guy who she is too friendly with from her work
Warm whole milk, chocolate Gold Standard whey protein, and a couple banana slices.
I sperged out at work today. Some guy asked who I got for the NFL game today and I didn't realize he was talking to me, even though no one else was around near our work stations (warehouse wageslave). I didn't say anything and clocked out about 10 minutes later since it was end of shift, but I've always been a strange guy at work. My reputation is already fricked.
I also don't know what to do with my life as I approach 30. I can either
>go through with electrician apprenticeship by taking the aptitude test OR
>work in career aligned with my degree
I'm tired of being borderline NEET in my parents house and it feels like life never really started for me and I'm already way behind. On top of other issues, I contemplate an hero just to end the indecision, paranoid nihilism, and social ineptitude I continue to deal with.
Idk
you are way behind and will never recover anyway. suicide is the best option for people like us
>suicide is the only way for people like me
ftfy
Cool, go kys and I'll actually work to get better.
>go to bar with friends
>waitress is a 8/10 cute brunette girl
>make literally zero moves
I know that a waitress isn't a good target, since they're just being friendly and probably get hit on daily
but holy frick, how do you learn or get the courage to approach women in real life? the mere thought of blatantly hitting on a girl is so terrifying
I know I'm not 100% sperg since I've had girlfriends and my last relationship lasted 5 years, but those were classmates, so it wasn't cold opening with a complete stranger
Bump, I don’t even know about approaching classmates or anything. I haven’t been in a relationship since I don’t know how to meet women in the first place
My friend, start small with a simple compliment like"Hi your beautiful" and then with time you will feel more comfortable and confident
>Hi you're beautiful
yeah don't fricking do this to service staff, you might as well flex a 'cep ffs
american moment
Turning 30 on Thursday and I'm ready to give up. The last two years have been hell.
Honestly my life didn’t start getting much better until after I turned 30
Good luck lad, hopefully the same experience will happen to you
Hot cocoa, please.
Didn't exercise all week, since I was sick. Now I'm feeling fat and disgusting all the time, even knowing that objectively I'm not fat at all.
I hope it will get better.
Since i posted that I think its been conclusive. I asked if she lied to me and she said that she doesn't cheat, but that we also aren't technically dating (??????)
The original suspicion was just because she asked if she could go drinking with her bawd friends and the guys hockey team from our uni, and when I reacted poorly, she said she had to go out for a shift at work. And then she kept texting me about how she was at work etc when normally thats not necessary
Doesnt matter now
I’ll have a neat whiskey.
I’m in-between this state of thinking and optimism. I’m turning 31 next week, and in the days leading up to my birthday I spend a lot of time self reflecting on previous years. It’s sobering stuff, really. I think of all the squandered opportunities, the missed connections, and all the things I missed out on in my youth. It’s not so much that I missed out on living my best life in my teens and 20s, it’s that I didn’t take action. That’s the thing that keeps me up at night. I’ve had opportunities for dream jobs literally dropped on my lap, I had girls give me all the signs, I had friends invite me for cool shit—and all I did was stay at home. It’s constant self-sabotage and I’ve made the decision to cut that shit out.
So I say I’m kinda optimistic, right? I’m actually kind of lucky. I have steady employment with steady bonuses paid quarterly, I have my own place, and I’m in the best shape of my life. Better yet, I’m going on a weeklong vacation to Hawaii with some dudes I met recently. I’ve been more social in the past year than I’ve ever been from my teens into my late 20s. I’m going to have a good time to build up these relationships and I’ll use these good aloha vibes to carry me throughout this year. That’s the thing—I’m jumping at every opportunity to flourish. I’m not repeating the same mistakes I made as a kid. I have no excuse, I don’t give a shit. I don’t even have a shit to give in the first place. This will be my year. This will be my fricking year.
For all you guys that are feeling down.. wait until you see some progress in life. It’s the best feeling ever, feeling AND knowing that you’re getting out of a rut. WAGMI
>grew up an unathletic nerd
>no respect from alot of kids and older people
>snobs looked down on me see me as a dumbass
>brother was autistic so I got some of his personality at the time
>have some friends but still seen as uncool by alot of people
>now 28
>solid gig
>own house on lake
>near major us city but in suburbs
>in shape
>also climb and hike
>good at cooking
>not a weirdo but have had alot of opportunities to be
>good self restraint
>still feel like people look down on me
>women too
>no gf but not for lack of trying
>think they are better than me or something
>not everyone but alot of them
>feels unearned
>cant really make friends
>not sure whether to move or what
its ok anon you posted your job and house you own first so those things are more important than your lack of friends or relationships
yes
Did you get your armchair psychology degree from Costco or Walmart
I posted those because I've posed this issue on this board before and it always comes up if I live with my parents or if I have a job so I might as well go ahead and put those out there in the first post
the worst part is when you feel an intense desire to better yourself but its midnight and you can't act on the desire
alcohol is trash
Gonna get stood up by some girl tomorrow and I honestly can't even bring myself to give a frick anymore. It's what I expect because it happens literally every time. I'm not even mad, I only arrange dates to get them canceled last minute.
I don't really drink, what are some drinks to order at bars that are good so I won't look moronic kek
I basically only get gin and tonics because my friend orders the same shit, I don't think either of us know wtf to drink
also L-arganine is amazing
Gin and tonic is fine for a non-alcoholic. The rare times that I do drink, I love me a G&T.
Alcoholics will look at you weird and wonder why you aren't drinking gin and soda or vodka soda, but that's because they can't comprehend that anyone doesn't share their addiction and they would be fat if they drank gin & tonics.
Think i've got shoulder impingement from work to go along with my pulled it band from hiking. This year's starting off great.
I pulled my trap muscles and am on my deathbeds from it
So idk, do you have fricking lean?
Drinking a frick load of beers tonight because why not, drunk as hell but I don't care
>turned 27 recently
>have owned my own house since 2020
>quiet suburb so its not to bad
>good job that pays all the bills and then some
>been married for 2 years
>best woman I've ever met
>smart, beautiful, and funny. The whole package
>supports me in everything I do
>today, burning cardboard and other random shit with a good buddy of mine
>mentions how this is it, the suburban dream everyone has
>realize this is the most exciting my life will get from here on out, aside from random trips allowed by our time off from our jobs
>snapped at her tonight while we were drinking trying to have fun
>she went to bed and I just worked on the house
>fixed up some plumbing and flooring while drinking in anger
>did all the chores on my sunday list tonight so I have nothing to do tomorrow
Is this it bros? Just keep lifting, working, pleasing the wife and working on the house? I know that by many peoples metrics I've "made it" but honestly I'm fricking miserable. I used to move all over the country, not giving a frick where I ended up and just having fun and experiencing life. Now I'm tied to a mortgage and a wife (that I love) but honestly I'm just tired and bored. I feel like I got to my goal to early and I don't know what to do.
Have kids.
We tried for kids for a couple years but I recently found out my swimmers aren't charged, like, at all. So at this point it's either adoption or no kids at all. We talked adoption and were looking into it so that's a start I guess.
I took the weird loser pill this year actually, people that I work with treat me like a charity case and I think it's funny. I've gotten so much free food and supplies for my house because of it that I'm keeping it going. Better than nothing I guess.
>i hope you get cancer. maybe that will bring some excitement to you
Funny you say that, I'm getting tested for some type of brain tumor so hopefully for you I have something that's going to kill me soon. Trust me, if you have any type of mental illness or no fulfillment in life getting my life won't change it.
Explain how you found out your swimmers aren't charged... Like low sperm count/quality? Is your wife not conceiving (and could she secretly be taking birth control)?
It's both, low counts and quality. I had my test levels taken recently and they showed as 1000 ng/dL so I'm not low on that. Apparently it could be some genetic thing or whatever, wife's not on birth control. We went to her OB/GYN together and got her results back as good. She can have kids but not with my swimmers. It's either adoption or no kids.
>you've reached the perfect machine slave build, you're as tied to the system as it gets, most your freedoms are gone and you'll live to retire by the time your body is a pile of shit
Whats weird is that I lived completely opposite to that for most of my life until 4 years ago. It's scary how fast the bullshit catches up to you.
>Shit man, that's my nightmare.
It was mine for the longest time as well. We were super excited for kids, made up a nursery and everything. At the end of the day adoption is our best chance.
Set her free, she has no kind of life with you.
>Set her free, she has no kind of life with you.
I offered that to her but she refuses to leave me,surprised me honestly.
Appreciate the advice anon, I've thought about renting out the house and just traveling since my mortgage is so low and I could rent out the house for a lot but I have this sinking feeling that something will go wrong. I'm being a total pussy aren't I?
I'll start that ASAP anon, I appreciate the advice. I've been so demoralized by it that I kinda gave up. I'm gonna try harder now.
>I'm being a total pussy aren't I?
Nah. The concern is legitimate. You have to be careful who you rent to and that means being heartless. Given that it's your first home, you're not in a position to give people a chance. It's all about risk tolerance. There's a thousand and one things that can go wrong when you rent out to shitty people and first time landlords get routinely taken advantage for it.
Do anything you can to improve your count and quality.
Stop taking hot showers - cold, or lukewarm.
Practice semen retention.
Avoid anti-spermatogenic things in your diet.
Try a bit more, then resort to adoption.
My first marriage, from when I was 22 to 25, ended because I was infertile. We both wanted kids and she had to look elsewhere. I not only have very few sperm, but they are severally damaged. Even if a miracle happened and I impregnated a woman, the resulting child would be severely physically and mentally handicapped. I got a vasectomy to prevent such a tragedy. I'm now 36 and just married the love of my life; she's infertile due to an ovarian cyst. We are happy together and I hope you consider your current wife may not be right for you.
>22 to 25
I tried to get married around that age and thank the world every day that there weren’t any takers.
Happy for you. Could have gone way worse.
It absolutely could have. Everyone involved is substantially happier and more affluent now then back then.
>We tried for kids for a couple years but I recently found out my swimmers aren't charged, like, at all.
Shit man, that's my nightmare.
You're supposed to have kids and live vicariously through them.
sup sup vicarious poster, haven't seen you in mire threads for a while, how have you been?
Now you either double down and have kids or go schizo and ascend to a higher level of personality formation at the cost of everyone thinking you’re a weird loser.
>ascend to a higher level of personality formation at the cost of everyone thinking you're a weird loser
Not him, but go on...
I’m not going to regurgitate summaries that are everywhere online, but basically James Marcia is right about everything and most people go through life without really being known by anyone including themselves or doing anything they actually want to do with their life.
By the time the midlife crisis hits they’re usually too old to do anything about it and go into permanent moratorium at best.
>another IST guy with a perfect life yet talks about how bored and miserable he is
i hope you get cancer. maybe that will bring some excitement to you
you've reached the perfect machine slave build, you're as tied to the system as it gets, most your freedoms are gone and you'll live to retire by the time your body is a pile of shit
good goy
unironically what that guy said, there a reason you and many others in the same situation as you feel no fulfillment at the end of the day, this lifestyle is repressing our primal nature, seek knowledge through schizo reasearch, you might find something
I would also advise you to read The Way of Men by jack Donovan and The Republic by Plato, that would be a good start to begin unlocking that noggin of yours
Remember, this isn't the lifestyle were meant to have, merely the one meticulously constructed by our overlords to be the perfect cogs in the machine
Unlike other anons I will give you some legitimate advice (and no having kids won't make you happy).
-What you actually, genuinely need, and should strive for, is financial independence. Otherwise you are going to be chained to your job and mortgage.
-You are not tied down to one place for the rest of your life. You have a valuable asset that you can rent out while you can do whatever the frick you want. You can use it to gain more assets, even.
-Suburban life is dreary. There's literally nothing to do and everything requires a car. It might simply be that you're unhappy living in such a place in America. There's other options, also other countries.
Maybe... talk to her about what your feeling? She might feel similar and you could make plans for a more exciting life
My girlfriend and I broke up last Tuesday and I saw her friend's Instagram where she's at the club having fun and I can't take it.
Full disclosure, she has Borderline Personality Disorder. It was manageable until a couple weeks ago when she started to physically abuse me. She would threaten to kill me and that she would murder me. Last Tuesday, when we were at the gym she was triggered and started to punch me in the face. I grabbed my stuff and left her apartment. I've been doing fine until I saw those pictures. For fricks sake! She abused me and yet my heart melts when I see her. What the frick should I do?
I don’t believe anyone that says someone they know is crazy anymore. Half the time they’re the one that’s crazy and making shit up to make the person look bad.
Anon, stop checking in on her on social media.
Girls are instantly going to go out and get dicked after a breakup and post it on social media. They'll cry alone in their room but they're not gonna post that. They'll only post having fun. This will only make you seethe and cope.
Were there any witnesses at the gym?
"Take her back" so you can get her physically abusing you at least twice on film, then go to the police.
Water, I need to think. I need to reasses what I’m doing, I need to figure out who is truly my friend or if anyone’s my friend. I’m beginning to think the second one is most likely it. Ive been moody this past month and my grades are slipping. I made a resolution that I would kiss a cutie for every month of the year and right now I’m 0 and 12. Im at 12% bodyfat right now so I think I want to cut to 8% for a week to enjoy that, then I’ll be bulking after that. I need to get on nofap and reconnect with god but touching my pp feels too good. I know what I need to do but idk if I have the strength to do it
I like a girl but she's diagnosed autistic and incapable of expressing any romantic emotion
another girl just rejected me. I could have asked her the question about 2 weeks ago, instead I mentally psyched myself up. I recognize that its over, and I need to move on, yet my mind wont let me too. Head is going through all these scenerios, all those thoughts still telling me a I have a chance, somehow.
I remember getting on a date with her, the discussion is getting a proper flow, and then she starts talking about her ex and how she loves him. I cut the meeting short, how do I get a better mental game? I just couldnt deal with it
You were right to cut it off, no good woman, or even man for that matter brings up past relationships and tells you how much she/he used to love him/her
why chase women, when u are man. man is strong, man is perfect. man is god's image on earth. manhood is greatest gift world offers. be good, trust yourself.live your greatest moments.
Glass of whole milk please.
This cold weather makes me want to stay in. I can't wait for the sun to reappear.
>sitting in the train
>it’s busy so lots of people standing
>i sit next to this big glass pane that touches my shoulder
>a qt comes and she leans onto the glass
>without the glass plane we would be touching bodies
>at one point i look to the side, she does too, our faces like 30cm from each other
>we hold eye contact for a few seconds and she smiles, look away
>feel a rush go through my body
>autistically avoid her gaze the rest of the ride
goddamn it i promised myself next time in a similar situation i would ask out or talk to the girl but i still didn’t do it.
I want to have sex so bad
I used to think me being super introverted was just a consequence of my social anxiety, but after fixing the latter the former just stayed. I do reasonably well socially. Have friends, acquaintances and have no trouble interacting with strangers. But I absolutely cannot stand being around people constantly for more than 12 hours or maybe a day. And even less if we don't have any activities. I stopped going on holidays with friends because after at most 2 days I'd rather be shot than spend more time talking about the same things or nothing at all.
It's not that I don't like people or don't get along with them, I just get tired of them very quickly. I like being alone but this behavior is very off putting to most people especially women. Anybody else deal with this?