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  1. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I haven't had sex in a week

  2. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Ghosted by another chick from a dating app. This one stings bros ngl I kinda liked this prostitute.

  3. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Stressed about college bros. Know I can do these classes if I put my mind to it. But I get too distracted and doubt my abilities. Don’t want to let my family down bros

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You can do it man, get a job with the school preferably one that has something to do with your major. That way you'll make money and be able to have on the job experience. At the end of your freshman year start applying for internships for the summer, you might not get one but you'll have interviewed so you're more likely to get one after your sophomore year. Get to know your professors, go by their office during their office hours and ask questions about anything you didn't understand about the weeks lessons. My advisor told me "they pay me to sit here for two hours a day, you never come to see me and it shows that you don't give a frick." Also actually go to class and take notes when you leave the class go and study those notes in between classes, this will show you what you need to ask your prof when you go visit them that afternoon/later that week. Get involved in a club or intermural sports, this helps you meet some of the upperclassmen and gives you something to fill some time with that's beneficial. You can do it anon going to college is the absolute best you'll have a great time. One final bit of advice wrap your fricking dick, lots of Stacy's are looking for that Mrs. Degree

  4. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I’m trying to unfrick myself and my life. It’s like I will work on and mak progress in one area at a time while the others get worse, then fall again. Like 3 steps forward 2 back in each area that needs fixing. And everything needs fixing.

    I believe where I am right now, about 50% of my issues would begin to resolve if I just moved out already. I can’t live at home any longer. My father guilts me nonstop and his pissy or depressed moods weigh on me. Every week he tells me hes gonna die. It’s all I think about. I’ve somehow developed OCD again, which I somehow brute forced my way out of as a teen and thought would never be a problem again.
    >”I’ll probably die within 5-10 years”
    he just randomly says this shit.
    This week he told me he doesn’t want me to move out and actually start my life because he worries he’s gonna die in his sleep and no one will know, and in the same breath told me I’m the only reaosn he hasn’t gotten to retire yet. So I feel like shit either way. Then randomly goes “oh I know it’s not the same for you but I’ve worried about everyone my whole life I constantly worried about my parents dying and that’s why I worry about you” the dude doesn’t even realize what he’s done to me. I’m and my mother caused me to be the mess that I am and I cannot take responsibility to fully fix this while living with either of them. There’s way more issues too but that’s what’s on my mind right now. I can’t take this.

    And I feel fricked, all the jobs I qualify for aren’t gonna make ends meet. I’d have to get a studio apartment or a 1 bed in the hood. I honestly don’t know if I can work full time and go back to school and do well in my classes to hopefully someday get a career making more than minimum wage. But I know that while I’m living here that’s not gonna happen.

    Should I just take whatever the ruck job, get whatever place I can afford and then figure the rest out (school) when I cross those bridges?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Should I just take whatever the ruck job, get whatever place I can afford and then figure the rest out (school) when I cross those bridges?
      Yes. Your father is emotionally abusing you. Even if you live in a shitty neighborhood to start out you should be better off than living with someone who is wrecking you emotionally every chance they get. My father did the same thing to me

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Does what I’ve said in that post and this one

        And I have tried a lot to fix my relationship with my father. He’s unwilling. The most I’ve gotten is he randomly expressed regret for divorcing my mom and then dating a psychopath who drove me and my sister out of his life and ruined him financially. That’s the most I got. My only relationship with him is worrying that he’ll die soon.

        My mother is much worse. Neurotic in different ways, the people she dated were 100x worse and she’s a typical liberal sheep woman so she will NEVER admit she fricked up with that. The dudes either hit me, or threatened to frick my sister all in front of my mom who did nothing about any of it. And she wonders why I no longer speak to her or feel comfortable around her. She thinks making sure I had food and clothes means she did enough of her job. I get panic attacks if I’m near her now.
        I can’t focus and fix my life living with these people.

        make sense? Is it logical that this shit would be holding me back from making the moves I need? Stuff like cutting, not being an anxious mess, going back to school and being able to do well, etc etc.
        It’s like living at home all I wanna do is find distractions to escape.

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          It does make sense. When I decided to leave my abusive father behind I felt such a weight lift off me and so much work got done to improve my life. It freed up so much emotional bandwidth after a few months that I was able to put out so much more work and got my life in order. You can't improve your life when you constantly feel like you're on the defense. You don't have to cut ties if you don't want to like you did with your mom but if you can feel him trying to drag you back then a little more distance might be a good idea

          • 11 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Should I just take whatever the ruck job, get whatever place I can afford and then figure the rest out (school) when I cross those bridges?
            Yes. Your father is emotionally abusing you. Even if you live in a shitty neighborhood to start out you should be better off than living with someone who is wrecking you emotionally every chance they get. My father did the same thing to me

            Thank you brother. I think the worst part of this is I’ve only truly realized how bad things are as an adult. Spent most of my life thinking my parents were saints and beating up in myself for having my problems and it starts clicking last year that things lead to this. I wasn’t always barely functional. I was once extroverted and charismatic and the happiest person I knew for fricks sake, now I’m the complete opposite.
            Hopefully I get one of the jobs I’ve applied to this week and can move out in 6 months. Seriously dude thank you. I’m going to see this through.

            • 11 months ago
              Anonymous

              It's a rough time waking up to that but you're going to be all the better for it. Best of luck getting your life together brother. I wish nothing but the best for you

              • 11 months ago
                Anonymous

                Spoke with my sister. She helped me find a handful of apartments that are more appropriately priced than what I’ve found on my own. Studios and 1 beds. I would be more than capable of moving out on $15/hr if my rent was $900-$1400. Not super comfy but I can manage that for a year while living frugally. It’s definitely gotta be more comfortable than living at home.

              • 11 months ago
                Anonymous

                If you start looking outside of cities then you can definitely get something on the lower end of that range and be slightly more comfy. The commute to work might be a little more but it'll be more quiet and you'll be able to have more than the bare minimum

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      And I have tried a lot to fix my relationship with my father. He’s unwilling. The most I’ve gotten is he randomly expressed regret for divorcing my mom and then dating a psychopath who drove me and my sister out of his life and ruined him financially. That’s the most I got. My only relationship with him is worrying that he’ll die soon.

      My mother is much worse. Neurotic in different ways, the people she dated were 100x worse and she’s a typical liberal sheep woman so she will NEVER admit she fricked up with that. The dudes either hit me, or threatened to frick my sister all in front of my mom who did nothing about any of it. And she wonders why I no longer speak to her or feel comfortable around her. She thinks making sure I had food and clothes means she did enough of her job. I get panic attacks if I’m near her now.
      I can’t focus and fix my life living with these people.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Talking about don't beeing able to fix relationship with father.
        My father beaten my sister while drunk near 2010' and "beat" her boyfriend after (her boyfriend just ran away in reality when he saw my father), then my father simply broke his motorcycle.

        Besides all of this, my sister sister married her boyfriend, and the guy and my father became friends. They all pretend a domestic violence never happen.

        Sometimes I wonder if I should really confront both for this episode

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          >They all pretend a domestic violence never happen
          I don’t understand how people do this. I’m not someone who can just willingly be oblivious to shit. If it bothers me it bothers me.

          If you start looking outside of cities then you can definitely get something on the lower end of that range and be slightly more comfy. The commute to work might be a little more but it'll be more quiet and you'll be able to have more than the bare minimum

          It’s not really an option where I’m located, otherwise I totally would. One of my goals is moving to another state though.

          https://i.imgur.com/fqadBNs.png

          How do I stop hating on my ex for moving on? I hate her but at the same time I am too broken to find someone else. Idk what to do, this rage just keeps getting bigger. I've already blocked on everything so I can't see shit anymore, but so far no results

          Depending on how long it’s been, it may just be because you need to find new b***hes. I spent 4 years feeling how you did about an ex, had multiple girls hmu but refused to proceed in any way with them. Gave in and started seeing one and boom stopped caring about the other finally. Even after that new one ended, idc

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          >They all pretend a domestic violence never happen.
          >Sometimes I wonder if I should really confront both for this episode
          If they can just let it go, who cares, if it's a one time thing and it didn't frick either of them up long term it's not that unusual to let bygones be bygones for the sacke of familial harmony. Since your sister doesn't want to cut her father out, they all have to deal with each other, why bring up dirty laundry when everyone seems content with just leaving it in the past. If you're dad is just a bad guy that's a different issue, but people have their failings and weak moments, among family and close friends you can get through shit like this

  5. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    lost my virginity to a 8/10 hooker from colombia. it was very comfy and she was eager to please. kept complimenting my body and rubbing my abs, paid for an hour and stayed for 80 minutes.

    my confidence is through the roof right now comparatively speaking. im 23 and turned down countless of potential hook ups due to my fear of intimacy and lack of experience. next time i WILL not sabotage myself and go along with it.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Impressive

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      ayo gimme her number

  6. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I feel the gains goblin of regret creeping up again. What do?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/TFUWq8I.jpg

      What’ll be, Anon?

      Even worse I'm schizomaxxing lately and getting burned out at work.
      Honestly if I wasn't lifting I would have already cracked.
      What do? It's cope at this point.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      [...]
      Even worse I'm schizomaxxing lately and getting burned out at work.
      Honestly if I wasn't lifting I would have already cracked.
      What do? It's cope at this point.

      There is no way this is going to end well.

  7. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    How do i 'un-incel' myself unironically.

    I have broken up with my bpd ex 6 months ago and i still haven't bounced back. I was having no problems with my dating life whatso ever infact i was in a 5 year relationship before the bpd ex (which i loved a lot) and now im single and blackpilled af. I read a lot of blackpill theory and lookism threads here on IST and they got me for good i don't even look the good in women anymore. No im not gay. Also im on nofap day 22 right now and i have severe depression

    Any tips?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      The dating scene gets exponentially worse every year my man you are now trapped in the inferno with the rest of us

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      What’s the point when you already had several girlfriends? Stop reading shit for fricks shake.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        >What’s the point when you already had several girlfriends?

        Who’s gonna tell him?

  8. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Everyday is becoming harder with my sleep apnea. I'll do a sleep study next week to maybe discover something I can fix with surgery, but I doubt it. I fixed a deviated septum last year, and it barely helped me.

    I'm tired all day, every day. I wonder why was I made like this, what lesson is there for me to learn by not sleeping well and killing myself like this. I exercise, I've fixed my diet, I do everything. Yet due to something I've been born with, I can't live a normal life.

    It's been more than ten years since I've had a good night's sleep. I'm becoming more and more tired, more and more hateful, and life is losing the last few of it's sparkles because I'm just so tired. I trust in God, but I'm tired.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Get a blood test, you are probably deficient in something
      (iron likely)

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        I did one recently. My results are good. My issue is purely mechanic because I've recorded myself sleeping and not only I snore, I also do weird noises.

        I’m trying to unfrick myself and my life. It’s like I will work on and mak progress in one area at a time while the others get worse, then fall again. Like 3 steps forward 2 back in each area that needs fixing. And everything needs fixing.

        I believe where I am right now, about 50% of my issues would begin to resolve if I just moved out already. I can’t live at home any longer. My father guilts me nonstop and his pissy or depressed moods weigh on me. Every week he tells me hes gonna die. It’s all I think about. I’ve somehow developed OCD again, which I somehow brute forced my way out of as a teen and thought would never be a problem again.
        >”I’ll probably die within 5-10 years”
        he just randomly says this shit.
        This week he told me he doesn’t want me to move out and actually start my life because he worries he’s gonna die in his sleep and no one will know, and in the same breath told me I’m the only reaosn he hasn’t gotten to retire yet. So I feel like shit either way. Then randomly goes “oh I know it’s not the same for you but I’ve worried about everyone my whole life I constantly worried about my parents dying and that’s why I worry about you” the dude doesn’t even realize what he’s done to me. I’m and my mother caused me to be the mess that I am and I cannot take responsibility to fully fix this while living with either of them. There’s way more issues too but that’s what’s on my mind right now. I can’t take this.

        And I feel fricked, all the jobs I qualify for aren’t gonna make ends meet. I’d have to get a studio apartment or a 1 bed in the hood. I honestly don’t know if I can work full time and go back to school and do well in my classes to hopefully someday get a career making more than minimum wage. But I know that while I’m living here that’s not gonna happen.

        Should I just take whatever the ruck job, get whatever place I can afford and then figure the rest out (school) when I cross those bridges?

        Like the other anon said, your father is abusing you emotionally. He might not realize he's doing it and probably does it instinctively, since some people are just like that. I've had the same issue with my mother. They seem to know the exact words to say to attack (and then soothe) us. Just leave, man. Don't kill your spirit because of that guy. Let him sort his own issues out and take care of your own life.

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          >and then soothe
          Yours soothe? Sounds nice lol. My sport has died, truly died 5x in my adult hood. I refuse to quit and I always revive it but frick it seems I’ve gotten no where in life. I’ve LOST progress since highschool ended.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Sleep facedown. Make a big hole for face like in a massage bed.
      You will drool much, so prepare water near the bed.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Look up Inclined bed therapy

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >sleep apnea
      Stats? How thick is your neck? Are you natty? This is genuinely something I'm interested in studying as well, so if you could help an anon out.

  9. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Has someone found a cure for loneliness yet or will the next 50 yrs be like this?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Have you tried improving your situation? I'm in the same boat and while it sucks, I am trying to put myself out there

  10. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >have a gf who wants sex all the time
    >still addicted to porn, sometimes fap on the same day I know she'll want it and then my dick isn't in the mood for sex that night
    >knowni need to quit but not strong enough

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      How do men become addicted to porn is beyond me. The most boring media you can consume.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        You could become addicted to rubbing sand in your eyes if you did it every day before orgasming for years. That’s what men do with porn. I gave up masturbation and I still check out porn sometimes, but it is indeed uninteresting now

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Most of us have been doing it since we were like 10, bro. The ingrained addiction runs deep.

  11. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I actually have a really decent life
    the only missing part is a GF and I'm too picky with it but I get mires a lot so I aim to seal the deal sometime this year

    work hard and train hard anons, stop thinking about a month ahead and a month prior, focus on 12 months, things do really improve

  12. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Okay bros how much sodium is considered healthy in a day? For the life of me I cannot find any good resources on the topic. For the time being I've limited myself to 1500mg per day but im curious if that's excessive.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      There's salt sensitives that have trouble excreting excess sodium through their kidneys and develop hypertension (hence the somewhat outdated recommendation to limit salt intake) and then there's people that have no issue and can excrete higher amounts of sodium without issue. It's a 25/75% split as far as I know and caucasians are less likely to be salt sensitive while blacks are more likely to be salt sensitive. The real risk (appart from actual dehydration but that's not what we're talking about) is developing hypertension which in the long term fricks up your cardiovascular system. On the off chance that you're salt sensitive, keep an eye on your blood pressure first and foremost

  13. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I've got one, and y'all are gonna hate me for it.

    I want to help. Legitimately, I want us all to make it. I've been reading about this shit for years, lost over 100lbs, and I even -gasp- have a social life. Feels pretty comfortable saying I 'made it' - even if things aren't perfect, they're good.
    And I want you, reader, to make it too.

    Problem is, every time I get bored enough to lurk around here, I see every other thread full of racism, antisemitism, hopefully-ironic nazi jokes, and so on.
    And unless you live in hicksville, nowhere? That shit won't fly in real life. And the more you're struggling to hide it, the less fluid you can be in social situations.

    Then there's the crabs in a bucket. People desperate to prove everyone else is as fricked up as they are, dismissing any attempts at real, non-meme info with whatever quippy meme comes to mind.

    I get it, this site was always trolls trolling trolls, and maybe I was just less aware of it back when I was sixteen and learning about fitness here for the first time. But now, years later? I can't help but see y'all reinforcing the behaviors that are making you miserable.

    Cortisol kills your gains, y'all. Hate isn't just unhealthy and a social-life-killer, it's fricking up your gym life too.
    I know asking IST to be nice is like asking an animal not to shit everywhere, but I'm hoping at least some of you will read this and think about what makes you mad, and why you seek that out. Maybe try to see whatever group it's fashionable to hate this week as someone in need of help and empathy.

    It's a longshot, I know. Can't wait for the quippy responses about how gay I am. But I can hope.

    And I really do hope you make it someday, y'all.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Frick you. You seem like a virtue-signalling homosexual. have a nice day and leave this thread for the people that actually need it.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, that's about what I expected.
        Good luck with whatever you're dealing with. It sucks to be that angry.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >y'all
      >redditspacing
      >virtue signaling homosexualry
      >caring what others think
      8/10 bait but you could've spent your time better than this

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      asking IST to not be racist is like asking gravity to stop working, I really don't know what you expected

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I've lurked this board and many others for close to 10 years and I've probably posted about as many times. Being racist and hateful got laughs from my friends but all that time pretending changed who I am. Pretty pathetic to say but that's the only way I thought people would want me around.

      Anyway, Back in my hole I go. Thanks man I'll try.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I wouldn't be a racist antisemite if Black folk and israelites weren't so fricking vile.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I have nowhere else to go, Im a failed normie

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        It's a big world out there anon

        If you truly want to engage with others, join some volunteering activities, or join some foreign language course, where you will be forced to talk to others.
        I met my wife in a Spanish class

        How old were you? Were you both in college or something? Not that anon but I'm in my 30s and it feels hopeless sometimes.

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          I met her when I was 24 and she was 22.
          I am 31 now, so I am unsure if something like this would work even at my age, to be honest.
          The other anon is 26, so it's much more likely for him.
          At my age, I play in a band, and most of my bandmates get random girls quite often, but I dislike girls who attend the events where we play, tbh

          • 11 months ago
            Anonymous

            >I am 31 now, so I am unsure if something like this would work even at my age, to be honest.
            Im 31 as well, I feel fricked because I didnt manage to find a girl in the 20's. Not that I didnt try, I just got dumped over and over again. Its becoming ever more apparent that its getting much harder to get a date, let alone convince a girl to choose me. I am in a quite a pickle ye, and out of ideas frankly

  14. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just about to finish out the semester, also feeling confident about new job. Feels good.

  15. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    no matter what i do i can't shake my attraction to fatties it is my greatest shame

  16. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    To whoever saw and responded to my post last thread about me letting my ex know the truth;

    Thanks for reassuring me I did the right thing and keeping my head straight.

    I haven't missed a workout since I started back one month ago. Already getting some of my lost gains back and feeling great.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I’m not sure if you’re the same anon I’m thinking of but good for you man. If you’re the guy who’s gf was texting his bro while you were sitting next to him then fricking outstanding. I’m the guy your post gave some reassurance towards with a similar situation. YAGMI frick that hoe

  17. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Trying to get coworker to come over to my place. She's clearly interested, so I've invited her and other female coworker to drinks. The other coworker ended up being the center of attention, she said she likes me, she drunk way too much, I played along. Went home alone. Thought the girl I'm interested in got mad since I was such a horndog so I've texted her and she said she had fun and would like to do it again. At that point it kind of occured to me that I should have invited alone. Sent a text saying we should go out alone next time.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Goodluck my dude!

  18. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Brehs from last thread, is 10pm too late to rizz on my neighbor? Should I just wait until the morning at this point e.g. try and borrow some sugar. She's cute af and barely ever home

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      The rizz must flow, day or night

  19. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Bartender I'll take a chocolate milk and a basket of tendies.
    It takes me 2 weeks to heal from a single workout fully, wish I could heal faster.
    Sometimes I still think about the chicks I used to know who I warned about the clot-shot(but they took it anyway and got sick), one of them was supposed to visit me from overseas but she went and juiced up and she fell to the wayside.

  20. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm sad bros. I'm lonely. My friends are all busy with girlfriends and I don't have one. I just can't find a connection with a woman. I just have a deep undertone of sadness.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You're not alone, I feel the same way

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        I hope you find what makes you happy anon. It's a lonely world these days. Love you brother

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          I'm not very religious, but I'll pray for you anon. Perhaps it'll help make your life a little better. It's the least I can do to repay you for the kind words.

  21. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Jack and coke, please.

    Family had something they thought was impossibly heavy that needed moving. I told them I could move it and they acted like I was suicidal. I moved it easily. It was probably 200lbs max.

  22. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Bartender, one Whiskey please.

    Lads, I can’t even get myself to try dating because I’m 5’7”. I genuinely feel like even if a girl seemed to like me she would regret it later down the line and she’d be ashamed when all her friends have taller boyfriends.

    Give it to me straight. Is this mental illness or just realism?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I have am 6'4 and alone and my best friend is 5'6 with a beautiful goth Gf about to move out of our town and travel south American for a month while I'm here unemployed. He's very social and I am a recluse. despite my attempt at going out and meeting people people just don't seem to like me. it might sound narcissistic but I am tall and good looking and I think it makes other men not want to hang out with me. I am very alone and just lift and read.

      So it's not all about how long you are. If you live and interact with the world you'll probably make out better than the shadow that I currently exist as.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Not that anon but more or less the same situation. 6’2”, 5’4” best friend who’s got an actually cool and worthwhile woman. He’s got it all together. They’re moved out, he’s always been social guy. Whereas I’m a recluse and feel like a shell of my former self. Was never Chad, but I once “had it” I was just that guy and fairly social. Now it’s not like that.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Saw a cute built guy near my height. As long as you build your shoulders and exude a masculine presence youre good

      A little tan is good too

  23. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm living a good life atm in terms of fitness. However, I have an issue scheduling my time to include other aspects of life. For reference I am renting a room in a city in which I am doing (paid) work experience for my engineering degree. While I am there, I want to maximise my life gains. Essentially my days look like this:
    >Wake up 5am, eat, dress etc.
    >In gym at 6am, cycle uphill to gym for 15 mins
    >Finish workout around 7:20, grab a shower, go to work for 8am
    >Finish work, cycle home, 17:20pm
    >Make dinner, clean, it is now 18:30
    >Do shopping, or other bits and pieces, read 5 chapters of the bible and a bit of meditations. It is now 20:30
    >Go to bed, 21:00
    Aside from gym I do HEMA on Tuesdays and kickboxing on Thursdays. My free time between dinner and reading is spent practicing with my longsword. So where is the issue? I'm a Catholic, and found a TLM nearby. 3 weeks ago, after mass, in my 20 years of life, I had for the first time had a conversation with someone roughly my age in/after mass, a nice young Catholic lady and her mother no less. I want to capitalise on this opportunity and build a network of friends, maybe even a girlfriend if God allows, but between me only having leisurely time on weekends, and half of them being spent back home with the family, I find myself stuck timewise. On the one hand I want to find an actual Catholic community to belong to. On the other hand, I do not want to compromise on the goals I have set out for myself.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I think you are overdoing it.

  24. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'll take a Vodka Redbull, appreciate it. Another weekend being alone and it's starting to wear heavily on me. I recently got back on dating apps but i haven't had any luck setting up dates. At least I'm still making progress in the gym and professionally, but the lack of social interaction is killing me. My mental health is taking a turn for the worse, especially as I'm not 100% over the girl I lost due to me being an butthole and for once, I can't make things right. I'm getting real tired of the constant battles and struggling, but what choice do I have? My heart honestly hurts when I think of others dealing with this same pain, I wouldn't wish this on anybody.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I get it, especially with finding something new and his tiring it is
      It's like you know eventually it usually works, and something starts moving somehow
      Especially when you used to very nearly have what you're looking for. Although in my case the chick was the butthole, and I always follow the "it ended for a reason" philsophy
      It's tiring and has no visible progress, and the only thing to do is keep going anyway
      My advice, play some calm music, turn the phone off, just really disconnect and dive into being alone for a night
      Then get back to it tomorrow

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Thanks anon for replying to my post. I think I'll take your advice and confront my loneliness instead of trying to suppress it.

  25. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Do you have any protein shakes? If not, I'll have some cold tea. Last year I hit 1/2/3/4 for 5 reps and passed my level 1 CFA exam, I was so happy. Unfortunately, since I started studying for level 2 last November, I've been stressed - I've had more difficulty sleeping and I've found it difficult to grow in terms of upper body. Over the last couple of months, my upper body lifts have actually declined. I used to be able to bench 245 for 3-4 reps, now I can barely do it twice. Strangely enough, I'm still growing in terms of squat and deadlift. I've pretty much given up on upper body after today's failure and decided to focus solely on lower body. I'll just keep on doing 1pl8 ohps and 2pl8 benchs while growing the rest. I'll end this year with a 1/2/4/5

  26. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >it's not that I'm ugly
    >it's not that I'm moronic
    >it's not that I'm socially awkward
    >it's not that I don't have skills
    >it's not that I'm broke or jobless
    >it's not that I'm fat or short or bald
    >it's not that I'm boring
    >it's not that I don't believe in myself
    >and it's not that I can't talk to girls
    but
    >it's that I just don't know any
    >it's that I go to work all day, come home, eat and fall asleep
    >it's that i'm in a sleepy town full of boomers and tourists
    >it's that I'm depressed and have no hope and stuck in my hole
    >it's that 2020 and the ensuing bullshit came along and fricked up everything
    >it's that social divisions have made interacting with people painful
    >it's the god damned dating apps and tik toks
    >it's that loneliness begets more loneliness
    I'm seriously considering dropping everything, selling all my shit, and moving back across the country to my hometown, because I know there's no future for me here, I don't like the culture here, and every lonely day that passes makes me care less for living. You can't hide misery from your face forever and pretty soon the mask will have to come off. I've felt like this before, knowing that one day I'll hit the road and disappear, and in the months leading up to it everything feels so pointless and futile. time just drags on like I'm stuck in purgatory.
    I wish I was 18 again with no worries, playing music again, going out to places to actually meet chicks, but this time I'm a little stronger and a little better.
    Life right now is just killing my soul.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Can you feasibly move back? If so, I think you should do it anon if it'll make your life truly better.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >360 dump it 6 months ago because it was getting too serious and she wasn't good enough, so I wouldn't commit
      >Now I struggle to pursue anything because no one offers that same feel
      Now lads this move here is a modus operandi. I do this every god damn time. I don't understand why she was different. I guess it was the closest thing to actual love I ever had. I mean she really believed that fate had brought us together and it was meant to be. But I know that I'm a piece of shit, so when she was willing to make serious life decisions to be with me, I pushed her away. It was one part wanting to save her from a huge mistake and another part my selfishness knowing I was going to break her heart and not wanting it to be worse for her than it had to be.
      Normally by now I've totally forgotten but this time I just feel very alone and can't stop imagining myself at old age with no one. And it's all my own fricking fault.
      I just fricked a genuine 8 two weeks ago and left feeling gross and demoralized. Sometimes I get this terror that I blew my best shot at something real. Then I calm down and think of how many times I felt she wasn't enough. But that's always how it is. You never get the whole package. When I was younger I reveled in having so many bodies. Now I find myself in this camp of people who all did the same, and now just want cheap sex, unable to form anything lasting. Time is running out snd I'm losing the game.

      I know that urge to run all too well friend. I packed up and disappeared to another continent. I've been all over the world. I'm never going home. It has made for an interesting yet lonely life. I have acquaintances everywhere, but no friends. No family. Great memories, but only of transient places and people.

  27. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >I've really enjoyed getting to know you, you've made me feel safe and comfortable, which I haven't felt in dating for a long time. I just have a lot of doubts about myself and relationships and don't think it's fair to drag you into them. I think I need to work through them alone for a bit before getting into something serious, and I am so sorry it has taken me this long to realize it. I would still be interested in being friends but totally understand if that's not what you're looking for.

    Got this Wednesday from a woman I had matched with and started seeing in late March. Dates were once or twice a week, easy to plan, she came off as quite down to earth, introduced me to her friends...I thought this was going somewhere. Obviously I don't know her life story but I feel like one of the major keys to a relationship is having some faith that your partner will accept you as person who is on some level, imperfect. Ten years ago I was posting on /LULZ/ for frick's sake. My buddy invited me out for drinks last night which was appreciated and I did have a nice time but I couldn't ignore all the couples out in the city.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I'd say it's a 50% chance you did something weird in front of her friends that she didn't notice and they started making fun of you and she realized she didn't like you enough to defend you and 50% that her real choice came back into her life and she wanted to clear the path to her vegana

  28. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Is it morally wrong to just not talk to your parents? My mom is very mean to me and frankly I'm tired of it.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I’d calmly but sternly set her straight. No reason to get her out of your life like a jilted woman would. Just drop your dick on the table and tell her how it’s going to be. If she starts shrieking hysterically like women tend to do, then hang up the phone and let her get it out of her system without taking up your valuable time and emotional energy

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I know how you feel but no it’s not. I feel guilty because I just love my family no matter what, and also because it affects my sister, and then because despite how I feel I understand my mother is a fricking moron. If you scroll up you’ll see my posts about wanting to move out and some of the issues I mentioned.
      But my problem with my mom was two things. She was super neurotic and chased me out of her house ultimately, because she would do stuff like tear my room apart to find drugs because I was a relatively normal teen (socially, which’s he ruined with her behaviors btw) and smoked pot once. This occurred into my 20s until I left for the lesser of two evils to live with my dad. I shouldn’t have to detail how ridiculous it is to be a grown man and have your mother desperately searching for issues so she can baby you and feel like a parent.
      But the thing is, I chose to live with her full time as a teen because she finally broke up with her bf who was pretty bad to me. Just for her to get back with him a year later and then start dating a different butthole who was mean to me. She never did shit about them being mean to me, once asked why I disliked them and then slapped and yelled at me when I told her. She allowed one of them to say he was gonna frick my 18 year old sister just to bully me when I was 14, in front of her and my sister. She did nothing ever. She 100% prioritized her dating life over her kids and it didn’t even pay off for her or us financially at least. She thinks because she managed to feed house and clothe my sister and I on $30k/year that she was a good mom. And looking back, she wasn’t. She was nuts, she’s a b***h, probably dementia somewhere in there.
      And yet I feel bad for barely every speaking to her since leaving to live with my dad because I know it makes her sad. Mostly because I know it makes my sister sad but I’m not the one who did this.

      If your parents are that bad you gotta prioritize yourself dude.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I know how you feel but no it’s not. I feel guilty because I just love my family no matter what, and also because it affects my sister, and then because despite how I feel I understand my mother is a fricking moron. If you scroll up you’ll see my posts about wanting to move out and some of the issues I mentioned.
      But my problem with my mom was two things. She was super neurotic and chased me out of her house ultimately, because she would do stuff like tear my room apart to find drugs because I was a relatively normal teen (socially, which’s he ruined with her behaviors btw) and smoked pot once. This occurred into my 20s until I left for the lesser of two evils to live with my dad. I shouldn’t have to detail how ridiculous it is to be a grown man and have your mother desperately searching for issues so she can baby you and feel like a parent.
      But the thing is, I chose to live with her full time as a teen because she finally broke up with her bf who was pretty bad to me. Just for her to get back with him a year later and then start dating a different butthole who was mean to me. She never did shit about them being mean to me, once asked why I disliked them and then slapped and yelled at me when I told her. She allowed one of them to say he was gonna frick my 18 year old sister just to bully me when I was 14, in front of her and my sister. She did nothing ever. She 100% prioritized her dating life over her kids and it didn’t even pay off for her or us financially at least. She thinks because she managed to feed house and clothe my sister and I on $30k/year that she was a good mom. And looking back, she wasn’t. She was nuts, she’s a b***h, probably dementia somewhere in there.
      And yet I feel bad for barely every speaking to her since leaving to live with my dad because I know it makes her sad. Mostly because I know it makes my sister sad but I’m not the one who did this.

      If your parents are that bad you gotta prioritize yourself dude.

      Oh and I meant to say, try talking to her before anything if you haven’t already. Even try again. I wish I could talk to my mother to begin to attempt to repair things. But I can’t.bi can’t look her in the eye, I can’t be anywhere near her without a panic attack. And I hide this anxiety from everyone because it humiliates me. So I avoid her. But I would love to sit her down and tell her “[these things] that you did, what the frick is the matter with you? You fricked up. You loved to tell me how great you were because your parents kicked you out at 18 but wake up and smell the coffee dipshit, you are batshit insane and you were horrible. The way I am now is 100% your fault and now I get to struggle with taking responsibility to fix it. All I even need is an apology and for you to express that you realize and understand you fricked up.”
      But that’s part of why I can’t do it, she needs to tell me she regrets it on her own. My father who I mentioned earlier in this thread at least had the balls to express regret over similar things on his own accord and give me some comfort and closure with him. It was like a weight lifted off me instantly. I shouldn’t have to ask for remorse or an apology from my own parent.
      But she’s a woman and god forbid she admits she messed up. So it’s too late for me to even talk to her about it. I hope that’s not the case for you dude. Try talking to her first, then do what you gotta do.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      For me, it's one of those things where I do just enough to not seem resentful. Once I hang up the phone, I go back to leading my own life, and if she's too mean then I hang up on her. I'm an adult, I don't have to take it anymore.

  29. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Getting the body I want is hard work. Getting to be as healthy as I can be is hard work. Fixing myself in the ways I've fricked up from bad habits is hard work. But it'll all be worth it in the end. I know I can be better and I will be as long as I work hard and I'm smart about how I approach it. We all can be.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      The picture you used makes me cry every time is see it. My ex whom I dated for 6 years broke up with me and sent that to me in one of our last messages. I would show her Pepes when we were together and she would say that they were me. In fact, seeing any Apu fills me with sadness

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        I'm sorry anon. If it makes you feel better to know that someone else is going through something similar, I'll automatically make the same lame jokes that my ex did and an immediate wave of sadness washes over me. For example, a friend saying "I can't stand you" to which I reply, "good thing you're sitting down!" Even typing it out makes my heart ache. I hope you get through this quickly brother

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          The picture you used makes me cry every time is see it. My ex whom I dated for 6 years broke up with me and sent that to me in one of our last messages. I would show her Pepes when we were together and she would say that they were me. In fact, seeing any Apu fills me with sadness

          Hang tough lads. There will always be a scar, but the pain doesn't last forever.

          • 11 months ago
            Anonymous

            I'm sorry anon. If it makes you feel better to know that someone else is going through something similar, I'll automatically make the same lame jokes that my ex did and an immediate wave of sadness washes over me. For example, a friend saying "I can't stand you" to which I reply, "good thing you're sitting down!" Even typing it out makes my heart ache. I hope you get through this quickly brother

            thanks frens, means a lot.

            Been over a year, and i am dating another girl whom I would say I love and is perfect but I still think of her and I hate it. Still so many things I cant think of or do. I dont think ill ever bring myself to watch like half the studio ghibli movies or lord of the rings.

            I just cant believe I spent so much time together, she was part of my family, we created a whole world of characters, references, ways of speaking, and im just never going to talk to her again. Fricks me up

  30. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I miss taking magic mushrooms so badly lads. I got in trouble with the police last year as a parcel got confiscated and I got warned so chances are I cant order again without getting caught by the police again but frick I miss them badly as there is no experience like them.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I think spores are legal to mail though and easy enough to find online, yeah? Or do you not have the space to grow

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah not a bad shout to be fair I got the space are they easy enough to grow?

  31. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I wont try to do anything that will help my position in life, and I despise myself for it; which makes it harder to want to try.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Why won't you try

  32. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    How do I stop hating on my ex for moving on? I hate her but at the same time I am too broken to find someone else. Idk what to do, this rage just keeps getting bigger. I've already blocked on everything so I can't see shit anymore, but so far no results

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      The rule of 5. Frick 5 fives and you will be over her

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I don't have any great advice or a magical way to fix your situation, but I'm in the same boat. However, I realized that the blame I put on her, was actually my fault. I don't hate her anymore, instead I hate myself. She actually tried and I pushed her away. I LITERALLY want nothing more than to wake up and realize this was all a dream, so that I may be given a second chance. But I can't and it won't happen. You need to confront your emotions and understand that hate is a terrible thing. It's a double edged sword that seems like great motivation at first, but it slowly poisons your body. It's not going to be easy but what's helped me is writing things out and talking about them to someone I'm close with. There's too much hate in this world, accept how you feel and keep placing one foot in front of the other.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      women are just built different bro aka they are prostitutes.
      >t. my ex left me 2 months after I lost fingers on my hand due to a firewoks accidents, and 2 weeks post breaking up she was having dinner with another dude who would be her boyfriend for the next 3 years.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        That's tough brother, I'd like to say it's not the norm but I can't excuse the fact that enough women do similar things. I hope you're doing better now, truly.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Unironically you have to realize women are not capable of true love. They will change love like the wind changes direction. Listen to "You were never really mine" by the Lumineers. Best of luck bro

  33. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >gave into urges
    >paid 40€ to a huehue escort
    >pictures were fake, she was cold af and the sex was terrible
    >came quickly
    that was terrible and a waste of mine. Didn't help that on my bicycle ride there I passed by around a dozen 9/10's university students who looked at me.
    That's was the last time I paid for sex. Ever. To punish myself I took on more work

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I hope you learned your lesson anon. This really isn't something most people need to learn the hard way, but don't beat yourself up about it. The wasted time and money is punishment enough.

  34. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >be me, 15
    >me and my friend have crush on gigastacy from another school that everyone likes
    >we compete against each other for her
    >eventually she says she likes my friend
    >gutted.jpg
    >ends up going for neither of us and goes for gigachad from another school
    >12 years later
    >I had a glowup, she doesn't look as good as she used to but still looks nice
    >she likes me on dating app, we're speaking

    Somehow it feels cucked, it's like she rode the wiener carousel and now she's ready to settle down. I should just ghost her right?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Based and congratulations bro. I'm 28 rn and I'm also starting to get a bit of that. Women are my age are starting to hit the wall and crawling back to men they know liked them in HS.
      >Somehow it feels cucked, it's like she rode the wiener carousel and now she's ready to settle down. I should just ghost her right?
      You are damn right. What she's doing is not nice. At least set up a date and stand her up.Don't even feel bad about it.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Ask if she has a younger sister

  35. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    geez a cider please mate
    >look in mirror
    >i am a handsome young man
    >look in same mirror 2 hours later
    >i am a fricking goblin
    what does it mean?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Some mirrors are kinder than others based on how well it reflects. This lighting, inflammation, water retention probably does it.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Mirror really does make no sense man, what is more true that or a camera? We gotta pray its the mirror cause that at least gives us glimpses of looking good

  36. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    i catch myself obsessing over the gains i could have had and how long its going to take to reach goal body.
    i know its bad but do anyone have proverbs or shit like that i can default to when i feel down about it and dont want to keep going?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Imagine two versions of yourself. The one who continues the habits you know are bad for you, and the one who stops them in their tracks and replaces them. Which one would your rather be? Also learn to bring order to the court that is your mind, with a single action/thought. Like a gavel's strike. It'll help you focus.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        >Also learn to bring order to the court that is your mind, with a single action/thought. Like a gavel's strike. It'll help you focus.
        Good advice. A lot of our run-away distressing emotional states are caused by problematic thought patterns. Being able to identify these thought and then adjudicate on them makes a world of difference.

  37. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Help me/fit/, this just happened five minutes ago. Who is in the wrong here
    >I offer to give gf a ride somewhere crowded so she doesn't have to find parking
    >she shows up and the hair salon she was at has straightened her hair (it's normally curly)
    >I tell her it looks great and that maybe she should straighten it for a while
    >she immediately gets angry at me because this is apparently an insult, how dare I insinuate her curly hair isn't good enough
    >I tell her I'm in a good mood and she can take the negative energy to another room
    >drive her to the event, she responds to every attempt at conversation with silence
    >do grocery shopping then pick her up
    >tell her now she's got me in a bad mood because of what happened earlier, ask what's going on
    >she says it's my fault for shutting her down by saying to go to another room
    >tell her u wouldn't have said that if she didn't suddenly get angry and negative out of nowhere because I said her hair looks nice
    >we get to my place, I stop in front of her car and say "do you want to go home?"
    >she doesn't say a word, just gets out of my car and goes home
    All this because I offered to give her a ride and say her hair looks nice. What the FRICK.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      sounds like she wanted to get mad at you and/or ruin your mood and needed an excuse

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Woman clearly in the wrong. Don't apologise. If she doesn't apologise and attempts to make a big deal out of this then you need to consider there may be something going on behind the scenes.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      she's a goblin. if she doesn't apologize just dump her and find a new hoe.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You both seem kinda dim. Perfect for one another.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      women are just moronely more emotional for a myriad of reasons, this kind of shit happens, if it's something obviously moronic your first instinct should be to not take it serious and not give into her anger. Could've just made a joke about it and told her she's right and ask her if she thoguth about getting a full afro next time. Women get angry because of serious shit and because of moronic shit and you can 100% bullshit your way out of the moronic shit if you're persistent, eventually she'll just call you stupid and calm down. If this kind of shit happens all the time, it can be a serious issue and might be a reason to bail, but with most women you'll have to deal with these tantrums once in a while, it's not necessarily a flaw of character, women are just more emotionally volatile by default

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >buy a hair straightener
      >wrap it up all nice life a gift
      >tell her you're sorry about the other day and got her this gift
      >hand her the gift

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      She's probably on her period and wanted an excuse to get angry. If you had said nothing she'd have gotten upset because you didn't notice her new haircut, forget about it an move on.

  38. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just went full monke on my bluetooth earbuds and smashed them with a frying pan. Fricker beeped at me one too many times

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous
    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Water please.

      University is going well, but I feel lonely.
      >Have a few female friends, none of which are viable partners (mostly gay because zoomers)
      >Tried dating apps but not matches
      >No girls at the recreational clubs I attend
      >Hate nightclubs, don't drink. Last time I went to a bar I got hot chocolate because free refills
      I keep holding out hope that I'll meet a really nice girl that's my type, but it's hard to stay hopeful. All I can really do now is work on myself.

      based

      I'm 27 and I still think about that one time in 10th grade I turned down sex with a girl because I wanted to get my firecape in Runescape.

      please learn from this mistake

  39. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Water please, as per usual.

    Lads, I'm feeling good for some of the dumbest reasons today. I hit shoulders hella hard yesterday along with arms, and I realized I have at least decent if not good shoulder insertions given I basically don't really hit them at all but they still look okay ish. Honestly, I don't think my muscles will get fricked by genetics, besides the calves which are high insert. That makes me feel great since I can get a hella aesthetic physique. And I feel close to it too. Another year of hard work will basically have me there. Brad Pitt in Troy, here I come.

    I'll admit, I'm afraid of the norwood reaper fricking me prematurely and ruining my chances at making it the way I dream of, especially when frickers like Charles Manson never got hit hard by it. But, I'm in a good career, gonna get a prestigious graduate degree after I finish my 4 year, and I've got a hell of a wit. Not to mention, the money will inevitably let me buy 18 year old prostitutes to my heart's content in the future.

    Being a virgin is a little bit easier to stomach when you realize how much potential you truly have, and how much you already have going for you. The last 5 years were ripe with loneliness, but I also managed to establish some great habits and learned a lot. Maybe, I'll make it after all. Maybe we all will.

  40. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >be me, single for about a year after I cut off a long time ex
    >know this different girl for awhile, never was too close
    >we have a conversation randomly, find out she is my type so start trying to get close to her for about a month
    >finally tell her I like her and would like to get closer
    >Says she isnt ready for a relationship but would like to get to know me better too, I make it clear Im not just being a friend and she say ok
    >Things go great till 2 days ago, she has a panic attack or something and tells me she isnt sure about this. I say its fine but I wish things could go back to how they were before all this
    >Yesterday morning I get a wall of text saying how she is sorry and that she should of handled it better, I apologize because I got upset and she didnt deserve that
    >We set some boundaries, and I make it clear again that I am trying to pursue her
    >We have a really good night together, until she says something about how Im a good "Platonic" friend
    >I obviously get mad, she tells me she didnt understand
    >Walk out on her

    I cant tell if she is genuinely stupid or I was getting manipulated. It would of been fine is the first night she could of just dropped it with me. Thanks for reading me be a b***h, feel a lot better

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      She's just ignoring what you say and friend zoning anyway.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      She sounds like a typical hypergamous prostitute, she IS hooking up with guys regularly.
      She wants you (and the other guys in her friendzone) to be around to help her through her hoe phase and so she has guys ready when she thinks it's time to settle down.

  41. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Man I hate fricking flips so much. Literally the israelites of Asians

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      My filipina gf was with another dude literally 1 day after we broke up. She was even trying to get us to stay together for some reason but i alrdy felt smth was wrong

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Man I hate fricking flips so much. Literally the israelites of Asians
      why do you feel that way

  42. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I just found out a possible member of my family become a prostitute. Should I change my surename? How should I deal with this shame?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      hire her

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Ask her about her story. I'm sure she's done something arousing. Then after you've cum shun her.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      hire her

      this

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You've already had prostitutes in your family history somewhere. It's impossible not too, a good chunk of the world comes from prostitutes.

  43. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Whey protein with half a banana and water, please.
    Outside of discipline, and pushing myself every training session, how do I develop a type A mentality (hyper competitive, assertive, working against the clock, more extroverted)? I compete in an intense sport and have not had success partly to my weak mindset. It also affects other aspects of my life

  44. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I just want to find a girl that's a match
    I can usually get some girl interested in the space of a couple weeks
    But the values or personality, or less often looks, don't attract me
    I've got super high standards in everything, but I have eventually found work and similar life things that I feel satisfied with
    It's just taking a long long time to find a good girl to wife
    And I'm getting a bit tired

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Every day your options shrink. Learn when to fold em and cash out before you're left with nothing.
      t. 39 years old, should've married the college gf

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah I'm 31, but most of my attention comes from career focused 24-28 girls
        That won't last forever though
        Like I said, I was the same way about every job I've had until I hit the current one that's perfect for me
        Went from constantly thinking something needed to change to just thinking
        >this is just nice, I hope it continues and keeps getting better
        That's all I need, the first girl that gives me that, just nice, feeling gets the ring
        If I can't have that then I'd just stay single, as much as I don't want that
        Anyway it's back to searching tomorrow, have a good one anon

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          You too m8. Can I ask what field you're in? Pretty much everyone hates their job, surprised when someone seems content.

  45. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm tired of sucking at cooking but God fricking damn, I try. I try so fricking hard to make good food and I end up lying to myself that it's good and just throw it out. I'll never put on size, I'll never get stronger, I'm never make it

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Where are you struggling most, breh? I'm no professional chef but I can cook reasonably well enough, maybe I can help.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You just need some good recipes, if you're trying to wing it you lost before you even started. Here are a few of my favorites:
      >Slow cooker beef stew

      >Slow cooker garlic chicken

      >Moroccan chicken tagine
      https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/257104/moroccan-chicken-tagine/
      These are a great foundation for lunches and dinners. For breakfast it's eggs, sardines, and homemade yogurt (much cheaper and tastier than store bought)

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      the good stomach assimilates all that it is given. just eat what is there.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Buy good quality ingredients and follow some fricking instructions for a high rated recipe. How can you frick this up?

  46. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Stress has wrecked my body, I've lost so much strength

  47. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    When do you actually notice any benefits with nofap anons? Did it over a month and felt nothing. I feel like at this point its all bullshit.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      When you get out of the deadzone and your libido comes roaring back with a vigor you've never experienced in your life.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        The deadzone? If you're not having sex what is all that extra libido going to do?

  48. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    just a rant.

    Went to the mall, it seems like every customer service rep is pushy or being forced to go hard, you ask them a question about their product like "what might be a right fit" and them being unsure / straight up lying

    I was searching for a running shoe and just thought I would walk in and figure it out - end up going home with what I thought was a runner at the advice of the associate - but was actually classified as a lifestyle shoe when I got home and not recommended for actually putting some miles in.

    LIterally asked about a phone plan - lady was literally like "oh you can do it all online / call the number etc etc" like stupid shithead if I wanted to do that I wouldn't be here asking you questions - I could tell they really just wanted to lounge around.

    malls deserve to die after todays bullshit, unless I absolutely have too - all materialism / vain clothing purchases/upgrades are gonna be done online - no sales associate gonna get credit from my ass. I can't believe I've habituated trusting retail when its such a lame fricking experience in 2023. Maybe I was clinging onto how it was when I was a kid or something always giving it the benefit of the doubt.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I go to a homosexual specific running shoe store with a treadmill in the syore so you can put on a pair of shoes and take em for a run.
      Sometimes I pretend to go home to "think it over" and buy the ones that I liked for cheaper online.

  49. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just got broken up with. Boys let me give you some advice. If you're absolutely forgiving she won't respect you, but if you do some andrew tate shit like "I'm leaving if you look at another man" it also telegraphs insecurity, which to woman appears very ugly on a man. Establish that you'll stick around so long as the relationship seems worthwhile, indicated my the thought and commitment contributed by both parties.

    Once a feeling of security is established, women will rock the boat a bit and push boundaries, to find how your respect for her measures against your own self respect (which is a surrogate for your value, to an extent). This manifests in her acting provocatively, pretending to be unaware of what she is doing, such that she can't be blamed for her action but you can be blamed for your reaction.

    Establish and hold firm boundaries. However never act in a manner which contradicts your mutual self interest (for example undermining her self-respect by bullying her). Act firmly but not wildly hostile. You're out for each other's best interests. Neither of you can profit from one another.

    The one difficult aspect to this is that she'll gradually become more and more comfortable with tracing your boundaries and making you upset, knowing that over time the probability of you actually walking away from the relationship will diminish. What is a man supposed to do? "Do this again and I leave?"? I tried creating punishments to establish the importance of her not pushing boundaries, like cancelling dates that she was looking forward too, but this created such an emotional backlash that she would threaten to leave. Not sure what to do about that.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >this created such an emotional backlash that she would threaten to leave. Not sure what to do about that.
      I don't have much experience, but this seemed like a shit test. If you were being respectful and focused on what you need as a man, you would just let her leave. Ultimatums take away your power, especially if you fold.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >knowing that over time the probability of you actually walking away from the relationship will diminish
      This is why you never ignore and maintain rapport with the cute stacies that always gives you looks. What gives a man power over a woman is indifference, and what gives a man indifference is security, and what gives him security in a relationship is knowing he has OPTIONS.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      When a woman starts threatening you and monkeybranching, all you can do is leave. She’s shown that she doesn’t respect you.
      You deserve a partner, not a problem.
      >inb4 “women can’t be decent and honest life partners”

  50. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I went back to Instagram as a 27 year old virgin seeing all these young beutiful people with a gf was a pretty compelling case for MAID

    It gets even worse when you are returning back. I wasted my youth, i thought I wanted a simple and quiet life but all I wanted was a fulfilling life

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >fulfilling one
      I’m your same age, basically trying to figure my life out. What even is a fulfilling one? I can relate in that I wasted my 20s which has brought me a lot of torment to realize. I’ve had some pussy, no real genuine or good girlfriend though, not even half as much pussy as I could have gotten. I have plans though, get my ass in shape again, go back to school, community college, try to frick as many 18-23 year old sad I can, graduate at about 32 and get a career in what’s probably the only type of work that will ever interest me and bring me any joy or satisfaction in life.
      But I can’t say whether it will be fulfilling. Is it just fricking b***hes? Having one woman who’s just down for me no matter what and who isn’t a braindead thot to have a family with? Is it outside stuff? I often think if I was fighting in a combat sport I’d feel satisfied and fulfilled, fights among friends and growing up have been the only times I felt alive and in the moment, present and like I was living.

  51. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >be me
    >fricked up but fairly harmless fetish (i like getting stepped on by grills)
    >gf won't do it so i stopped even asking
    >end up paying some random chick i found on dating app $100 to step on me for an hour
    >she's worried she will hurt me but when i take off my shirt she goes "you're obviously very fit..." and doesn't seem worried anymore
    it's been 3 months ago but it gave me insane motivation to hit the gym twice as hard, i can't get it out of my head

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous
    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      How do you go about getting girls on dating apps to do shit for money? Just ask?

  52. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >messaging girl on Snapchat
    >she says we should hang out sometime
    >I reply and say cool, tell her when I’m free
    >It’s been two days and she hasn’t opened my message
    Is it over, bros? It was going so well. I haven’t had attention from a girl in awhile, so I’m trying not to frick this up

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Did you give a specific time and place? Or did you ask her passively if she would want to go out?

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        She’s the one who said we should hang out, and I gave her a general time I’m free. However, she hasn’t even seen my reply to her hang out suggestion, which confuses me.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Sry bro I think it’s very unlikely that she wants to meet with you still. People make time/effort for what’s important to them.. if she couldn’t take a fraction of a second to open a snap, she’s probably not interested. think about it: if you were interested in a girl and she sent you a snap you’d be excited to open it, You wouldn’t leave her on read for 2 days. Also, if you asked someone to hang out with you you would be checking to see if they had responded. When you ask someone a question, you anticipate an answer especially if it’s time sensitive (like meeting up with someone). Best thing to do in my opinion is nothing. We can’t really be sure why she’s acting this way and it doesn’t matter. All you need to do is leave it alone. If she’s interested in you, she will respond to you eventually…. But if she was truly interested, she probably would have replied by now. if you never hear from her again consider it a bullet dodged.

      Sidenote: I’m guessing you’re either fairly young or haven’t had a lot of experience with women, because this sort of thing is unfortunately extremely common. Women seem to be a lot more confused about what they want with a man than men tend to be in regards to women. The slightest thing can cause them to flip-flop their opinions and beliefs regarding men. I literally just had a girl give me her phone number without me even asking for it a couple days ago, I texted her the next day, she answers me seven hours later, then not at all the next day. I just said if you want to talk sometime hmu and of course she immediately responds apologizing for “how hectic her life is” lmao. Like a. I don’t care I didn’t accuse you of shit, and b. How hectic is your life that you can’t answer a text ? An alligator bit your hands off? Damn that’s hectic.
      I honestly don’t wanna be a misogynist, but women are truly moronic baka

  53. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    From last week, my lifts have started to improve, and I've started adding volume. However,

    >Wife doesn't respect me and demeans me whenever I express emotion.
    >Oldest daughter doesn't respect me because I don't have a six figure job like her friends.
    >Demoted at work due to attendance from being sick.

    I don't think I'll make it, bros. It seems like everything outside of lifting is crashing down

  54. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm turning 27 now and was psych-israelited and made fat and unathletic by being chemically lobotomized with antipsychotic pills against my will. This left me bedridden for several months on end and I lost all my progress in the gym as well as my natural athleticism.

    I really regret admitting to that first psych-israelite that I tried to hang myself when I was 17, it resulted in me being locked up despite not doing a crime and ruined my life with multiple future lockups and everything. I had no idea back then how bad antipsychotics are, furthermore I lost my natural drive and studying ability as well.

    I'm now on copious amounts of steroids and 215lbs at 5'8", benching 275 for 1 and seated OHPing 185 for 1 and Pendlay Rowing 275 for 5 with lifting straps. But the love handles I got from antipsychotics, as well as the gyno, are still there. And I can't lose weight because I literally can't get out of bed the next day or do much if I don't eat 3000 calories a day. I track my macros and get around 273g of protein and stuff, and I only started lifting again 2 months ago so I'm happy with my progress.

    But me being a 5'8" manlet with a mediocre/slightly ugly face, with 10 years work gap and empty resume at 27 years old, with a 9 year dry-spell and social autism women can just sniff out, with a criminal record because of being in-and-out of the system and unable to go to my home province because of the psych-israelite medical records there getting me chemically lobotomized again and essentially jailed for at least 2 months even if I'm defending myself and am justified with violence... It just seems like there's no hope for me. I'm in Canada and most people here stay with their high school cliques and don't leave the cities they grew up in. As I said before I can't go back to the province I grew up in due to the medical records and me being persecuted there.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      (contd. because of word count limit)

      My only hope would be to move to the US to a big city and start a new life, but I heard they mostly accept Canadians with university degrees only and I'm only smart enough for a diploma now since the chemical lobotomies. And my criminal record is only assaults and mental health but I might not get US citizenship due to that. And I can't drink because I'm fat enough as it is and have gyno and alcohol would only make it worse.

      I hate this, best hope I have now I think is to learn a bit of French and move to Montreal. Even then I don't have high hopes for my situation.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      say "psych israelited" some more

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        It's literally a racket and basically swindling and drugging you more and more, giving you a drug that causes numerous serious side effects and then more drugs for those side effects that also cause more side effects. At the end you're another income stream for the psych-israelite rather than a genuine patient, and whereas diabetes can be tracked with blood tests and objectively proven mental illness is often smoke and mirrors and more about big pharma and psych-israelites getting profit than about your health. The drugs literally cause brain damage, tardive dyskinesia, diabetes, etc. among other serious side effects.

        I will say it some more. I call em as I see em. I don't deny the existence of mental illnesses, but I think they're greatly over-diagnosed and misdiagnosed and once you're in the system there's basically no getting out.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      What was jail like? Think you'd handle being a real crim?

  55. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Gin and soda with a lime, please.

    Life is going steady, no complaints, just ready to be done with grad school. It's hard on top of a career and a marriage, but seems worth it.

  56. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >work 8 hours
    >Sleep 8 hours (lmao as if)
    >Cooking, cleaning, hygiene, transportation 4 hours
    >Gym 1 hour
    I bust my ass to live for 3 hours a day. Such is the life of a wageslave

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >work 8 hours from home
      >sleep 8 hours
      >8 hours left to do what i want
      feels ogod mang

  57. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Reach summer body goal
    >Feeling really good about myself, best shape of my life
    >Finally got the nerve to post a pic in the CBT
    >Get asked what gender I am

  58. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Forced a little pus out of a blind pimple on my cheek, it's aggravated my skin and made it more noticeable. I have a date next week and it's fricking embarrassing because my skin is generally pretty good. Now I'm getting more spots coming up, thinking about leaving my stubble to hide the ones on my jaw but this blind pimple is still there.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Tea tree oil

  59. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm a 28 year old kissless hugless handholdless virgin but I think I might actually be asexual. I've had numerous chances in the past to have sex with women but I always beat around the bush or get myself out of the situation because sex sounds like something that isn't for me for some reason. I have a libido and find women attractive, but I don't want sex with them. I just want to cuddle or some shit. All of this and I still think sex is the only way to prove you're a man and to fulfill your biological purpose. It's over.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Is it the thought of sex itself, or sex with a random stranger that scares you?

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        The thought of sex itself. I can't tell if I'm too self conscious/have too low self esteem or I genuinely aren't capable of truly desiring to have sex.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      just cuddle and foreplay until they're begging to get fricked and see if you want to commit or not.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >I think I might actually be asexual
      that is cope my dude. you can keep coping or face your fears, whatever pleases you most, but you're only trying to convince yourself of a lie with thoughts like that

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      The thought of sex itself. I can't tell if I'm too self conscious/have too low self esteem or I genuinely aren't capable of truly desiring to have sex.

      you have reached an advanced age and still a kissless virgin and you're too afraid to have sex with them for fear of embarrassing and humiliating yourself and exposing that you're that age and still a virgin. you arent "asexual".

      btw this describes how i got to the age of 31 as a kissless virgin and still ongoing

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      This sounds like a cope tbh.

      I wasnt much interested in sex before I lost my virginity either. Its easy because youve never done it so you dont know how good it is and the thought is so terrifying that it seems unappealing, so I was just happy to do the more PG things because they werent intimidating and still very exciting for my inexperienced self.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You're coping, hard. You're not asexual, you're just a pussy.

  60. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    a glass of arsenic please.
    i keep thinking about how when i was a kid my mom loved giving us double binds and would try to brute force my sister into wearing synthetic or woolen clothes despite my sister throwing tantrums and scratching off her skin like an autistic kid. mom screamed and yelled so loudly i was sure my sister lost hearing from it. never felt too bad for her because she'd break my toys and if i tried taking them back she just screeched until mom or dad slapped me around for making my sister cry. my brother never struggled with this because if he did it and my sister screeched they believed him.
    i hate to be this ''woe is me, middle child syndrome'' and maybe someone stronger would cope better but christ this shit got to me and fricked up my life by turning me into this hateful distrustful insecure creature.

  61. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm 27 and I still think about that one time in 10th grade I turned down sex with a girl because I wanted to get my firecape in Runescape.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      did you get the firecape

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Had she asked me any other night I would have leapt at the opportunity.
        However I had reached the final precipice in my quest to defeat Jad, My previous attempts to get my fire cape came close, and I did not want to lose my momentum.
        I ended up getting my fire cape just before sunrise. I felt such immense elation, the following Monday I didn't even care that she was ignoring me.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I fricking dropped out of school to get Slayer cape bro what the frick was I thinking.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Was it an untrimmed slayer cape at least?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Good job, firecapes are way cooler than sex with some random girl

  62. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I hit in some girl at the gym, she’s only 20yo but she’s absolutely gorgeous and modest while also being sexy af. Pulled up made small talk but eventually she said I’m too old for her (31yo) but she was laughing and smiling the whole conversation, still catch her staring all the time, duck bros I want his chick so badly she’s wife material

  63. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm enjoying the gym after never being able to go consistently before.
    The only issue is, the reason I enjoy going is it's the only thing to make me forget about the fact my wife I just married started cheating on me 3 months into the marriage. Now going through a divorce but my mental state has been permanently scarred for life. I always believed I'd never be cheated on and I'd never even think about it. So of course the second I get married shit gets fricked

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      That's rough, sorry anon

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Frick this world man, just get IST and bang thots is all there is for us to do

  64. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >had sexo with new girl
    >went well
    >spend next 3 days cooming non stop
    i need to control my urges

  65. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    49 years old. Wife wants me to work myself to death at a job I hate. Kids are becoming spoiled brats because I am never at home because I am always working. Wife doesn’t cook anymore. We eat out all the time. I see them spending the money I earn and I can’t get them to stop.
    I have a duty to provide for them but am seriously considering hanging myself. Bottle of whiskey. Bucket of ice. Glass tumbler.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      42 here with 2 daughters, divorced 3 years ago from a dead bedroom marriage of 13 years. Went from being the same kind of non-appreciated workhorse as you are (also fat and miserable) to being fit with a 12 year younger girlfriend, living in my own place with 50-50 custody. You are the man of the house. Ask yourself that what do YOU want. Start working towards it, not the family. Keep being a father to your children, but don’t live for your children. Live for yourself. When I divorced, I kept being a good father that was happy instead of a father not being present and miserable.

      Do a plan what you actually want and start working towards that, do not listen to a woman. If a divorce is to happen because of your ambitions, then think of the absolutely worst possible scenario that could happen and make peace with it. It almost never comes up to that, but at least you’ll be ready. In the mean time, work towards what you want, not what others expect of you.

      But do not off yourself, it solves nothing. Solve your problem and make your own happiness paramount.

      Good luck bro, it won’t be easy but you can do it. I did all this and first time in 30 years, I’m actually happy and feel like my life just started. I wish to hear yor story in a couple of years here.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        My father was a much better father to me broken up than with my mother.

  66. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Yo anon still ITT?

    Tfw everyone around me is marrying, moving in together etc
    I'm only 32

  67. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I am thinking my best plan of action is finding a mid 30s professional woman with money
    I am IST and handsome with no shortage of them you would be surprised how some of them are willing to drop 5k on 20 something dude
    They are very unhappy and desperate to find a husband but no one approaches them
    And unlike male sugar daddies who tend to be ugly fat fricks who have to pay for sex because no woman actually wants them
    These woman are IST beautiful and have plenty of cash to support their beauty routine
    I just want a competent partner not the money i don’t care about material goods
    My ex showed me what true incompetency is Imagine being given every advantage in life
    >bills paid by men
    >college expenses paid by men who you dated
    >simps online give you 800 a day just for a chance to date you
    >2 boyfriends ago you dated a millionaire dispensary owner who gave 2k a week for shopping
    All to end up a objective failure living in a shitty apartment driving a shitbox car
    The b***h has nothing and never will have anything from her own incompetency

  68. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    i have not had a gf for 5+ years

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      is this her?

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        yea

        30+ years here

        damn

        https://i.imgur.com/AkFZHSN.png

        it's soon to be 6 years for me bros.
        wonder if I'll ever find a decent girl, I'm 28 btw

        man like im 32 now and while it would be great to find a woman to maybe go in the direction of moving in etc. im too content to be who i am now somehow
        its a weird feeling

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      30+ years here

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      it's soon to be 6 years for me bros.
      wonder if I'll ever find a decent girl, I'm 28 btw

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        I have faith that you will

  69. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I love my life so much bros. After 5 years i finally found a medication which helps me with my ibd, i absolutely annihilated my exams and did much better than i anticipated, i now have friends that i really enjoy spending time with and to top it all off my doctor confirmed that the lump behind my ear isnt a tumor. After working so hard for it my life improved so much since highschool and i am just so grateful for it. Every moment can truly be a eternity of happiness

  70. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >in the gym
    >doing db shoulder press
    >qt grill grabs the bench next to me
    >stares at me doing the presses
    >walk over to the pullup bar stand to do some, you guessed it, pullups
    >it's completely empty since it's pretty early
    >same grill comes over and starts doing some trx stuff just next to me
    >finish pullups and go to the cable machine to work on the guns
    >grill takes the one on the opposite side
    >she makes eye contact
    What did she mean by this?

  71. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Be me, 21, overweight but physically active
    >Gf of three years left me for another man two months ago
    >Spend the last two months wrestling, running, and hitting the gym
    >Remove all alcohol and fast food from my diet
    >Lose roughly 16lbs
    >Check out some dating apps
    >Drive to a nearby town to have sex with a girl I'd been talking to
    >Look in the mirror during the act
    >The lighting is just right, notice a slight bicep vein
    >Mfw

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Good job anon

  72. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Posted in the last thread, but had a new set of feels and wanted to write it out.
    >gf went away for the weekend on a trip
    >I've been exceptionally productive and had an excellent couple of days without her, and today looks to be a third
    >really enjoying this time to myself, feel a calm and satisfaction that I've missed for a long time
    >started thinking last night about how it might be nice to be single again, just so I can have my time back and focus on my projects and goals
    >feel like a dick now, because she didn't do anything wrong, but I don't want this weekend to end
    Am I just emotionally artistic?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah, probably. first and foremost it sounds like you guys don’t have the healthiest dynamic when it comes to having alone time. If you feel like you aren’t getting enough of that from her, why wouldn’t you just approached her about it via a calm and kind conversation and wish you request more time to yourself? You jumped straight to break up. That really makes me question your attraction to her, as well as the strength of the relationship itself. It’s just such a garbage reason to leave someone, other reasons that are steering your mind in this direction. If you don’t actually value her to the utmost degree then honestly for both of your sakes, you probably should be single. Then you can have your freedom and she can be with someone who actually values her.
      Anyway, it take us with a grain of salt because I was dumped by my autistic GF not long ago and she basically pulled this shit on me (could’ve just had a normal conversation, but she broke it off entirely no shot at redemption, no regard for my feelings).
      But I’m not you and I don’t have all the info. If you are having trouble coming to a decision on this, maybe you should make a list of pros and cons. You could compare the benefits and detriments of being with her versus leaving her.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Thanks to all of you for your input.

        You do sound like you're still bleeding from the breakup, but I get your point. I'm not saying I'm dumping her because I had a nice weekend, but I'm definitely going to talk it over with her when she gets back. My fears over my freedom and my ability to pursue my goals/dreams while with her has been a longstanding back and forth in our relationship, and it kind of ebbs and flows. It's like she sedates me, and it causes some building resentment as my nights and weekends disappear with nothing to show for it but comfort. The dynamic needs adjustment.

        Grass is always greener...

        Very true, and I don't miss the hookup scene or dating.

        Meh ive felt this with literally every woman ive been with.

        The fact is, outside extremely rare exceptions, women really have zero interests, so of course they are always going to want to spend all their free time with you. Its kind of annoying when you do have interests outside of cuddling and watching netflix.

        Like other anon said, try to advocate to get some time to yourself. Start slow and work you way up. Some girls are okay with it and others arent from my experience.

        If this girls ticks a lot of boxes, I would be hesitant to break up with her for this reason alone as its quite common.

        I've gotten the same impression as you have with most women, but I have no patience for it. I'm generally very driven and want a partner who isn't just a sack of potatoes that needs to be coddled. I've been vocal about needing her to have her own stuff to do and her own goals/ambitions, which she's been slowly exploring. If she can continue to build up some interests of her own, it'll be good for both of us.
        She's generally a great partner and very reasonable, and we can talk about anything, so I'm hoping that we can readjust and slowly stop having this conversation as she fills in some blocks of time with her own life, freeing me up here and there to do my own thing.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Grass is always greener...

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Meh ive felt this with literally every woman ive been with.

      The fact is, outside extremely rare exceptions, women really have zero interests, so of course they are always going to want to spend all their free time with you. Its kind of annoying when you do have interests outside of cuddling and watching netflix.

      Like other anon said, try to advocate to get some time to yourself. Start slow and work you way up. Some girls are okay with it and others arent from my experience.

      If this girls ticks a lot of boxes, I would be hesitant to break up with her for this reason alone as its quite common.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Congrats, you're a man, that's always how it's been. We love women, but we don't like them.

  73. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Doing my PhD right now and I'm thinking about quitting again
    I hate my lab, I hate my coworkers and I hate being stuck there

  74. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >move across the country to a city where I know no one
    >decide to spend money on fun equipment for myself, probably the most amount of money I've spent on myself in years
    >next day car has a breakdown
    every time I try and do something fun or enjoyable for myself I get hit with either car damage or serious life expenses. I can afford the repairs but it's still gonna hurt.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      What fun equipment you buy, anon?

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        a kayak
        cost me a pretty penny, but I love getting out on the water

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          I mean why work if you can't buy or do something you want sometimes.

          Just use the shit out of the kayak so you didn't waste your money.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >every time I try and do something fun or enjoyable for myself I get hit with either car damage or serious life expenses. I can afford the repairs but it's still gonna hurt.
      Black person what type of car do you have? I bought a used 2012 civic in 2016 and im still driving that b***h with literally ZERO issues.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I know what you mean dude. Every single time I attempt to do something to better my life that will lead to happiness or some joy, it goes wrong in the worst possible way.
      >break 5 year dry spell, drive to meet up with girl again, old israelite slams on his breaks and totals my new (used) Tacoma
      I saved so long to buy that. I spent a year taking no days off from work, easily working over 70 hrs a week in a job I hated with all my being. I saved enough to move out and replace my dying 25 year old Lexus. Had it for 4 months. Had enough left over to move out, but then had to replace the truck. Got a used 2013 civic. Barely any money left over then the guy sued me. He immediately told me (EMT) “OI! My neck! OI! My knees and back!” and then 15 minutes later told the medics he was fine and was walking around.
      >pick self up start improving life again
      Then he lied. His car was barley dented somehow, but he sued for $30k to have it replaced even though it was only valued at $12k. Idk where the $18k came from but I assume medical fraud shit. My lawyer out israeliteed him and they settled on the last of my savings, $5k. So now I’m legitimately broke after I slaved and pushed myself harder than I ever did to fix my financial situation. Just like that back to zero.

      It’s always some stupid shit man. Another time hooking up with that girl later on, I felt weird and looked out the window towards the lake and there were several zoomers on a boat spying on us. They quietly came over to the secluded part of where the house was. I got her covered and closed the blinds. But she didn’t trust me and believed I sent them out there to spy.
      These are two examples but I have endless ones, because it’s no bullshit always some crazy shit. I try to take it for what it is, character development and stories to tell. That’s the brightest side I can find anyways.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Dude, I've seen you post both these anecdotes MULTIPLE TIMES NOW.

        Move on. Find a way to draw a line under the past and move forward. Stop wallowing in victimhood.

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          Look man you’re right, and I can even realize b***hing about it all in these threads is almost a form of mental masturbation to cope. But it’s been rough. I haven’t even posted about half the bullshit I’ve experienced in the last 7 years. It’s been a lot man. I’m not saying you’re wrong, but it’s not easy. Every single time I try the most absurd buklshit occurs. Yeah obviously that’s life, life ain’t easy. But when does it end? Not to sound like an “I can’t catch a break” person but it’s frustrating. There’s never normal levels of hard in the things I do, it always comes with some crazy fricked up twilight zone tier obstacle.
          I haven’t even mentioned the new wild shit that’s occurred since these same things I’ve b***hed about. I’ll drop it outlet because you called me out on what I needed to hear and try to just keep moving forward. But frick man I’ve had enough already. I just want to be able to live my life and do shit to be happy again without some absurd thing occurring off the bat to ruin everything.

  75. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I’ve missed such a huge number of opportunities, for a better social life, relationships, opportunities, better grades and jobs, wasted a lot of money. But I’m twenty one. Apparently I’m still young. Apparently I can still change. When I sleep at night there’s a fifty percent chance my thoughts drift to suicide, fifty percent chance I go immediately to sleep.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You are still young and it will get better

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You're just getting started. I'm 30 and 21 feels like ancient history.
      For a little context, consider how long you'll live if you don't off yourself. Let's say 75 years? You've got more than two times your current lifetime to completely become yourself and make the best life you can. And, that number isn't even a good representation, because you've just become an adult in the last few years. Childhood and adolescence aren't generally a time when people are thinking about the long game, but you're in a great spot right now to start with that, right as you're becoming an adult. Most don't start serious self-reflection until much later, when they've missed way more opportunities than you have.
      Try to imagine where you want to be (or specifically don't want to be) in five years, or ten, or twenty, or on your deathbed. Let your experiences be a guidepost, showing you which paths you don't want to take. Then make a rough plan and get moving, because every step forward makes life a little bit better and the path a little bit clearer.

  76. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >wake up at 6
    >at the gym at 7
    >shower etc and leave for work at 9
    >arrive 9:30 and home at 6.
    >cook, eat and do chores till 7.
    >basically exhausted at this point
    >have a girlfriend who wants sex and attention so we hang out till 9
    >sleep at 10

    This is life. I try not to think about it too much as it makes my mental health go kooky. I thought about cutting into my sleep but it has a devastating effect on me, ideally i should even get 9 hours.

    I just don’t get the appeal. Perhaps I’ll switch to a 3 day routine so I get 4 more hours in the week.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You need a hobby, bro. I know you don't feel like you have time but trust me, finding something engaging to do will help a lot, even if it's just for an hour once a week.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >wake up at 5
      >commute 1.5hr
      >work to 5
      >commute home
      >gym
      >dinner
      >chores
      >bed by 10
      >repeat
      I don't have time for a gf. At least I can read on my commutes. Weekends are chores and drinking bottles of wine.

  77. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    My childhood best friend, who got me into lifting and who I do nearly all of my hobbies with, now wants to become trans. I've told him all about the fricked up reality of it for years but he told me out of the blue and is set on his descision. I have no idea how to deal with this.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Never speak to him again

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Give him a copy of What Is a Woman? (2022)

  78. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    i have a very important job interview next friday that could possibly change the rest of my life
    i will most definitely frick it up, however

  79. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I think when im very sad and consider suicide I never take it seriously because I know I'm sad.

    But recently I found myself seriously weighing the pros and cons in my head while in a good mood right after a run. I feel like an entitled b***h because my life isnt bad at all, just boring, but I just find being alive painful and the more I isolate myself because of my depression the less people I have who I'm going to hurt.

    I kind of understand why it gets so much more common for older people, when your mortality starts to feel more real as you get closer to old age you stop seeing it as self harm and start seeing it as just checking out early. Like I remember when Robin Williams killed himself and people made images saying "THIS IS WHAT DEPRESSION LOOKS LIKE" with him smiling. But he didnt kill himself because he was depressed, he killed himself because he was developing dimentia and wanted to die physically before his mind died. Kind of ridiculous to me people take suicide so seriously but when old people rot alone in hospice care for months and die they dont have that same kind of empathy.

  80. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Is a woman who's entertaining a simp a red flag?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Depends on why, if she actually likes him no its not. But if she doesnt and shes just leading him on for fun yeah its a major red flag.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Yes. Any woman who leads any guy on for self validation and attention is a huge red flag. Serious, good women, simply act cold towards guys they are not interested in, and are polite about it.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yea I gotta agree with this overall. Taking advantage of people/manipulating people it’s just low vibe regardless of gender. But obviously girls get away with more. Especially if they’re under 30, attractive, and white. So like I kind of get it, people do what they can get away with… it’s almost like it’s not even their faults that they just view men as whatever they can get from them. Nonetheless it is definitely a red flag. A true woman of virtue has too much empathy, integrity and self accountability to dehumanize others. No other woman is worth my time or should be worth yours.

  81. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    my best friend of 20 years died of cancer.

    my ex, who i thought would be my future wife, left me (relationship sucked for the last couple of years, so it's for the best.

    my friend group is drifting apart since everyone is getting married or moving away, i barely see people outside of work and gym.

    my parents are getting old, in a few years i will probably have to start caring for them.

    my work pays great, but it's boring and no longer enjoyable. i always hope i'd start a business by now, but i don't have any ideas.

    i just feel so fricking lonely and hopeless lately. been lifting and making great progress... but loneliness and hopelessness is creeping in every now and then. i had a good week then all of a sudden today i started crying like a child.

    i'll be 36 in a few months, and while life has been very good to me until this point, friends, family, women, money, etc... but i think it's going to get incredibly difficult now. especially meeting women. it just hit me that i'll be fricking 40 in the near future.

    i don't know why i'm writing this, i guess i hope some boomer will read this and share their thoughts.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      homie I ain't reading all that shit

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        understandable

        I'm turning 40 later this year and I can relate to all of it. All I can say is don't give up.

        do you still feel young at 40? i used to think 35 is old but i honestly feel the same as 25, and look mostly the same too. can you still date pre-wall women? i used to date women 10 years younger than me, but now i’m terrified of opening tinder

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          nta im 32 and i unironically feel like im, 23ish or something
          helps that i have a baby face i guess

          • 11 months ago
            Anonymous

            was same for me. 32 was fun, i didn’t even mind being single. i was fricking girls in their mid and even early 20s left and right. but i feel like 36 is going to be a whole nother ball game.

            >my parents are getting old, in a few years i will probably have to start caring for them.
            Man this hits home hard, i can see that my mum is getting older every week now....

            my grandmother had terrible alzheimer, and now i keep noticing my mom forgetting things or acting a little weird. it’s definitely starting. feel bad for my dad.

            • 11 months ago
              Anonymous

              Gramps also got it so... i might be predisposed and stuff. Grandma died of lung cancer and my mum wont stop smoking so there's that.
              The thought of mortality really hits imo when you see your parents actually get old

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          >do you still feel young at 40
          Hey now, I'm only 39, let me enjoy my final six months where my age starts with a 3. My gf is 33, we're both pretty IST. In fact I've never been stronger than I am now. But do I feel young? No, I look at my face in the mirror and see that I have become middle aged. My refractory period after sex is like twelve hours instead of 30 seconds like when I was 18. I need more recovery days after hard workouts, I used to do PPLPPLx and that'd be impossible now, at most I lift every other day.
          But I still feel great physically anon. My dad is turning 70 and is an elite endurance athlete, still has the body of a teenager, and i intend to outdo him. Life is good. I have lots of regrets about decisions I've made ij the past but all of it has led me to being a better man. Onwards and upwards m8.

          • 11 months ago
            Anonymous

            Screw it, I'll post body. I'm pretty happy with where I am as I head into 40.

            • 11 months ago
              Anonymous

              Great physeek anon. Looking better than me at 28... Given me hope

              • 11 months ago
                Anonymous

                https://i.imgur.com/Q0rXQkk.jpg

                Looking good anon.

                Thanks lads

            • 11 months ago
              Anonymous

              Looking good anon.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      I'm turning 40 later this year and I can relate to all of it. All I can say is don't give up.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      >my parents are getting old, in a few years i will probably have to start caring for them.
      Man this hits home hard, i can see that my mum is getting older every week now....

  82. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Cutty and a water
    I graduated from college Friday. I ended up a year ahead due to transferring from another school and can't help feel like I want to make up for that year, but on the other hand I've secured a job and start working Tuesday.
    I guess it's time for me to man up.

  83. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    How dobi focus on my 20 make up homework assignments due Wednesday?

    I keep getting high while doing my work but it doesn't always help

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      lol being young one more time

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Forgot to mention I got a full shift today and 2 acquaintances of mine REALLY want me to be at their rehearsals for their honor project performances on Tuesday 1 to 5 for one and everyday during the week 6 to 10 for the other, bit I need to get these makeup assignments IN

        do I just tell them?
        I'm admittedly afraid of their disappointment, I hate disappointing people because sensitive fricks like me feel it too

        But im also sensitive to failure, these assignments are a must lest I drop (which is dumb and quitting)

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          I don't speak Burger so I have no idea what half of these words mean, but are you saying your friends expect you to spend 4 hours every day of the week with them?

  84. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Feels like everyone knows what they want and know how to figure shit out. You can give them a room and they know how to decorate it and what goes where. I don't. I feel like I'm stuck at 25 and not maturing/as mature as others. I don't know how to improve on this, though.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      same
      everybody got their life figured out, has a gf, on their way to wife house kids, career
      meanwhile me

  85. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Currently on my solo bike trip to Rome. I passed the 1000km mark today and feel only a bit tired, mostly from sleep deprivation. It got very lonely in the first few days but now I am more comfortable with being on my own and accepting that I am not really part of any social circle. Arriving at a campsite I used to feel like shit because I was gonna have to spend the night between elderly people in RV's, but I just get drunk at the nearest bar instead of staying on the campsite.

  86. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    i love my gf so much bros

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      cherrish it
      it wont last long

  87. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Boys I'm nearing the end of my rope here. I have no idea how to be present in the world. Most of my hobbies consist of things that can be done in my room in solitude. I don't know what to do outside, how to meet people and create bonds. Within the next year my life is going to change and more than likely most of my friends will go their separate ways and I'll have to figure something out. How does one build a social life from scratch? Should I use social media more? While I'm fine being by myself, when the weekend comes I have the urge to go do something, but nothing fulfilling comes to mind. I'll be 26 this year and time is fricking speeding by. I can't keep living like this. What do you guys do?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      If you truly want to engage with others, join some volunteering activities, or join some foreign language course, where you will be forced to talk to others.
      I met my wife in a Spanish class

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Unironically read some books breh. I feel so much happier with my life after reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and I’m not even finished it yet. I randomly stumbled across the channel on YouTube and I’ve been reading every work that he’s made a video on. Despite them not being introductory lectures, he articulates Western Philosophy in a really digestible manner.

      Just make sure you don’t fall down the rabbit hole and end up binging Daily Stoic videos like all these other Reddit homosexuals.

  88. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Ashton Kutcher can raise 243 million dollars in a 5 day business week for whatever he wants to do
    I got bit in the ass by a dog for 70 cents a house delivering flyers
    The world is unfair and I do not wish a reward in the next life simply to suffer this one

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      The only solution is to find Ashton Kutcher and bite him in the ass

  89. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    sucked on a fat girls breasts yesterday. I do better with them than with women I'm actually attracted to, like I wasn't even drunk and was talking as if I was. It got me feeling all silly and good about myself, which I hate cause I know the hard self loathing will come as soon as she loses interest in me.

  90. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I did something pretty horrible to a family member some years ago and I've never been able to forgive myself. I moved out, got a job, accomplished some things in life, and got fairly fit. None of it matters. At the end of the day I can't outlift the guilt, no matter what else I manage to do. I have no idea how to live with myself and the only thing keeping me from an heroing is pure selfishness.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Have you talked to this person about it? Until you do, you are stuck. Confessing here won't do anything for you. You can't out-lift or out-work or move away from an emotional wound. That knot in your stomache, that weight on your back, will not lighten one bit, ever. You have to face it head on, get over your fear, and become vulnerable. Then, and only then, does healing begin.
      t. ran away from a problem for fifteen years, only got better once leaned into it and opened up

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        No, but I do see them every time I visit home. They don't seem to hate me or anything, but I can't tell if they're just putting on an act in front of my parents or not. I'm honestly scared to try and talk to them about what happened - what if they hate me for the rest of their life? They would be completely within their rights to do so, but I wouldn't be able to bear it if they did. What if talking about it just burdens them by opening old wounds? What if the best move is just to stay out of their life as much as possible rather than try and apologize? Can I even do anything at this point in order to try and set things right or is it too late? What if their life goes really poorly because of what I did? How can I even bring something like this up out of the blue? Why didn't I try to do something like this years ago? Why did I wait? I get paralyzed by thoughts like these and end up quietly acting like nothing ever happened, year after year.

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          There's the possibility of negative what-ifs, but there's the certainty of how miserable you are now. A decision not to act is a decision to remain in this hell.

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          You're gonna carry that weight. Like a suburban mother who killed that pedestrian with her buick in 1992. This is your tartarus.

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          Anon if it helps I’m in a similar position. I tried to frick my sister while we were early/mid 20s during a hurricane at our mothers house. I haven’t felt the same around my family since. Idk how to fix it. My sister desperately wants to rebuild our broken family and relationships and I’m the one in the way of it. I don’t want to confront it she doesn’t seem to give a frick and I worry doing so will make it all worse. Idk what the frick is wrong with me I feel gross.
          It wasn’t my only intent, I had a bad knee injury and needed to sleep on the only bed that’s as in our mothers house because it would lock up with 10/10 tear inducing pain every hour otherwise. But she knew there was some pervy part in the back of my mind about sharing a bed. And I’m disgusted that’s fricking nasty. Idk why I thought like that. She definitely knew too. Idk how to fix this or stop caring about it.

          • 11 months ago
            Anonymous

            What anime does to a mfer

  91. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Fifteen servings of adderall
    why the hell can’t I focus, my exams are in three months and my mind keeps wandering off.

    I’m trying to force myself into the grindset and I just can’t.
    Still don’t understand how I manage the discipline of hitting the gym 5x a week.

  92. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Bounced around between "home" at my mom's and different cities for school and work for a decade. Finally in October it seemed like everything finally aligned, I moved to a new city to live with my gf, we were talking marriage, work was good. I left ready to really start building a life.
    By December all the red flags I'd been ignoring and all the fighting kept getting worse. I broke up with her, which was good but the last thing I wanted to do

    Since then I've been kicking around the city just kind of here. I made a couple regular acquaintances, even talked to another girl for a couple months but we weren't a good fit

    Now I'm procrastinating on packing my bags and tomorrow I'll once again fly back to the "home" that I never intended to call home again. The hope for the future when I got here (which was always false, I knew the relationship was bad) compared to my current position is depressing

    Sorry for the b***h post. It'll get better, but it's gonna be a though week

  93. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just a water for me bartender, just a water for me.

    Need to realize my control over my eating habits. I pig out to often, and it causes me so much mental stress and frustration.

    The light is at the end of the tunnel though, hope remains.

  94. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    im turkish
    we have a big election coming up
    I'm a very political person and heavily invested in anti-erdogan movement as a supporter and as someone who made investments in the country betting on his downfall

    there are 7 days left till the first round

    I think I'll cut myself some slack and have some wine everyday this week, I literally cant sit idle for more than 10 mins lol, I can see myself lifting running and sipping wine for 7 days straight to take the edge off

  95. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm in the best shape of my life but this came at the cost of everything else. Never been so broke... I'm a freelancer and I'm the lowest I've ever been in terms of motivation and work discipline, can't get anything done. I even dread getting to work and things keep accumulating by the day.

    I know i can turn things around in the matter of months by getting my shit together but that mental blockage won't go away and i don't know what to do.

  96. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >divorced MILF at work giving me lots of attention
    >makes sure nobody suspects a thing
    >it's been going on for like three months
    >only now realize that I should ask her out and maybe actually say something flirtatious
    Bros I'm ready to admit to you I need someone to hold me

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      just do it mane. i did it a few years ago, it was amazing sex. unfortunately i got her pregnant (at 40 lol) but she ended up aborting after a month of hell.

  97. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm almost 4 months sober
    I've lost 20lbs, am doing way better at work, and my liver numbers have evened out but it's been over 2 months now since I've had anything close to 'fun' in my life and I want to drink so fricking bad.
    I can't even exercise away the cravings anymore because I've been overtraining and now my whole body hurts all the time.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Stay strong mate, you made it 4 months
      Maybe the overtraining has something to do with it? I always feel shitty as frick mood wise when I'm not recovering right
      Hope for the best anyway, one shitty night doesn't have to be the end of the world, it can just be a shitty boring night

  98. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Almost 26 and have never had a proper girlfriend. Have maybe slept with 10 girls, only two of them more than once. I’m a good looking guy, socially awkward but I do think I’m genuinely funny and interesting once past that hurdle.

    The problem isn’t meeting girls it’s that after a few dates I start to panic and talk myself out of it. “Is this really the one you’re settling with” etc

    The last six months I’ve been pretty disappointed with myself. I completely ghosted this pretty girl I had been dating and who I really liked. She was funny and we had shared interests. She text last and said “let me know when you want to hang out again” and I didn’t even fricking reply. I don’t know why I’m such a bastard, honestly. Many times since I considered texting her back but it’s been a year.

    The loneliness is getting to me honestly, my roommate for example just settled with the first girl he managed to have sex with and even though she doesn’t seem like a great catch I’m still fricking jealous. It’s like I’m living half a life over here

    I used to be able to console myself with drunken one night stands through tinder but ever since I stopped drinking that’s very difficult. I still get matches but a lot of them ghost me if I say let’s get coffee. I hate dating apps, even when I’m getting matches most of them seem to use it as an ego boost. God forbid the person you swiped on asks you on a date

    Actually going for a date tomorrow, I’m going to make an effort this time. Not saying I’m going to marry her but god being alone wasn’t worth it. I’m moving country in 6 months time anyway so if I could just find someone to be with short term that would be enough.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Bro, I’m sorry, but I don’t even feel the slightest bit bad for you. We all experience those feelings of indecisiveness anxiety when a new connection starts to deepen. But ghosting?
      Come on man.
      I’m calling you out to be a better man than that because that’s feminine behavior. There is nothing more beta cowardly and weak than avoiding confrontation because you’re afraid to communicate. These girls are human beings just like you. Do you prefer people be straightforward with you? Or do you prefer to be ghosted? If you don’t prefer to be ghosted, yet you ghost others… that is sociopathic behavior. It indicates that you do not see other humans to be as human as you are. Otherwise, he would treat them the way that you prefer, or perhaps even demand to be treated.
      Absolutely fricking pathetic dude.
      Man up. If you’re anxious, communicate it. If you’re not feeling it, communicate it.
      Poor fricking girl sounds like she was actually interested in you. Least you could’ve done was politely tell her that you were feeling too anxious to date at this point in your life. Then she could’ve at least had some closure. Like I said before I expect this from women. But from a man is absolutely shameful. If I were you, I would try to write as many of these wrongs as you can right fricking now. Get out your phone, text these girls, and apologize to them for keeping them in the dark. Admit that you felt overwhelmed. They don’t deserve to feel bad about themselves because of your own weakness.

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        Not that anon, but I've ghosted male friends after we were trying to make plans to hang out. It was a weekend night, and I felt unsure about going out after we couldn't decide what to do, so I said I had to babysit out of the blue and haven't gotten a text or texted him in over a month. We weren't too close but it nags at me.
        How do I reprimand this?

        • 11 months ago
          Anonymous

          That depends on the nature of your friendship. Is this a platonic friendship?
          I can’t really advise you optimally without that info. But I will commend you for your interest in being a better communicator with the people in your life. And I want to be open about the fact that communicating uncomfortable or awkward things isn’t easy. Everybody drops the communication ball sometimes. It sounds like it would have been better for you to have been honest with your friend in the moment about feeling indecisive, rather than telling a white lie. I highly recommend a zero lie policy in life (not easy when it includes white lies, but try it and you’ll see your life will be way better).
          If it’s important for you to smooth things out with this friend, then it’s time to communicate properly this time around. Just be calm, kind, open and honest.
          Communicate in your own words, but something along the lines of:

          “Hey what’s up? You crossed my mind today, how you been?”

          Then once they respond, segway to:

          “ I’d like to talk to you about something, mind if I give you a quick call? It’s nothing serious lol”

          Maybe they’ll say no, but assuming they say yes just spit it right out.
          Don’t beat around the bush, say something like:

          “hey! So, there’s something that’s been kind of nagging at me. Do you remember the last time we made plans and I had to cancel? Well, i’m kind of embarrassed about this… but the truth is, I was just feeling really indecisive about going out that night. I wasn’t really sure how to communicate that, so I made up a dumb excuse on the spot. I should’ve just been honest with you about it. I’m sorry bro.”

          That’s it.
          Then just listen. Maybe they didn’t give a shit at all, or maybe it did bother them. Maybe it would feel good to them for you to just listen to what they have to say about it. give them the space to communicate whatever they need to.

          No matter what, yourself approval will increase

          • 11 months ago
            Anonymous

            Thank you for taking the time to write this out, saved for my reference.
            I've been insecure and socially inept most of my younger and adult life, and let my self loathing get in the way of being more authentic and honest in my communication.
            It may be too late to make amends and have certain friendships return, but I'll at least be able to hold my head up knowing that I tried. Bless you anon

  99. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I feel like an NPC some days lads, my mind just goes blank and before I know it the day is over. Slighty worrying cause I dont daydream like I used too

  100. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    picrel
    I wanna go into the mountains and never return

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      modern society is a prison

  101. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Relationship dilemma had me feeling depressed. Haven't been eating and lost 7lbs in two weeks.
    I realized I had unresolved feelings for an ex and it had been eating away at me for literally years. I felt guilty to my current gf and finally told her. She said she still loves me. Now I've started lifting again, stopped drinking + jerking off, and cut back my coffee from 4 cups/day to 1.
    Now that my head is getting clearer though, idk if I actually love my current gf or just the way she makes me feel.
    Started seeing a therapist to talk things out.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      gayest pussysniffing shit I ever read

  102. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I've been meaning to get out of my shitty wet country for years as I feel it's stunted much life experience and want somewhere better. I moved to Europe last year but planned badly and have had to move back. Bought a van to convert and hopefully live in but completely stuck in building phase.

    I feel the last few years of my life have been wasted bar my gf who I've lived with the last year, who hasn't my ideal body but still love a lot. I don't feel in control of my own life. I'm terrified of mediocrity but that's exactly where I'm at. No motivation to improve or learn, expand or grow. Got big in the gym a few years back when I was desperate for female attention and to lose v card, once got a few lays kind of lost the drive other than basic maintenance. Just finished a degree that was 2 years too long and waste of time. Haven't felt like I've done much to be proud of since I served in conflict when I was 18. I feel full of regret for the years since despite not doing anything wrong , just a feeling of fomo cause college didn't turn out yo be all that great and such. I have a constant melancholy tgat tells me I won't live long or have much to live for past 30 so probably off myself then. Don't know where this tide ends. The world feels particularly dystopian since covid, like there's no escaping globalism or the decline of living standards and safety. Yeah that's my mope

  103. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm starting to feel good again. I've began to like this girl after a long time being indifferent to women but she's giving me a cold shoulder for no reason at all. Made me feel real bad for days already because I really saw a future with her. But I'm starting to feel alright and tomorrow I'll start lifting again. All is good lets keep it up. We all gonna make it, bros.

  104. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    How tf do I carry conversation with an 18yr old on tinder? Im 26 and wanna get some virile young prime dicky but literally cannot find anything to talk about with some teenage girl. She says heyy and wtf am I supposed to say?

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      Just say some relating to her bio or a funny pickup line. Either you're hot enough to smash or you're not

  105. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    I really wanna frick my gf up the ass. Is that high or low test?

  106. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    >be me. Have a younger brother. 5 years younger.
    >younger brother works out of town and has a gf there.
    >they start going steady to the point he spends the night at her house with her parents. Even has his own room.
    >over hear my parents talking about the possibility of them having sex.
    >Dad says, "well y'know we did it when when we were that age when I stayed over at your place. Sometimes even while you're parents we're still home".
    >Mom quickly hushes him up.
    >meanwhile I'm 26 and went through the entirety of high school and college with no gf, let alone any intamcy.
    Not gonna lie this feels like a kick in the teeth. I've made my peace with feelings of 'missing out' when I use to compare myself to peers my age, but knowing you abjectly failed when compared to family stings a lot. I guess this is the same humiliation that psycho Elliot Rodger felt when he wrote in his manifesto that when his sister brought home a boy he was emotionally tormented when he heard them having sex through his bedroom wall lol.

    On different, but related note, does anyone know of any good mercenary groups, kek? I heard the French Foreign Legion was shit, and I don't like the idea of signing any fricking contract through traditional military channels. I'm not cut out for the normie life. Just get me out of here. Traveling the world with your bros, and going out by a clean shot to the dome seems like a blessing at this point.

    • 11 months ago
      Anonymous

      You'd sooner join a random mercenary group and die for another man's pockets than go to a coffee shop and talk to some girl anon? Do you really believe yourself to be that weak anon?

      • 11 months ago
        Anonymous

        I don't think it's weakness. It just a natural evolutionary strategy. The Conquistadors and Vikings were all composed of men like me, single, no large stake in society, and directionless. Evolutionary psychologist hypothesize that these attributes drove these men to do what they did. Or to put it more simply, men with not a whole lot to lose tend to take a lot of risk.

        >You'd sooner join a random mercenary group and die for another man's pockets
        gonna ignore your cynical spin on this, but yes, better than sitting around rotting and wallowing in self-pity.
        >than go to a coffee shop and talk to some girl anon?
        I've been trying the dating thing. All online, but I have.

  107. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Of course I'd check for a feels thread as it's on it's way out the door

    How do you guys feel about escorts? I want a long term relationship that becomes a family, but the prospects out there are fricking garbage and I'd rather just bang a sex worker and go back to furthering my career.

  108. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    My cat brought a baby bird in the house. Thought it was dead, had my brother throw it out and he took it to the trash. Told him to get it out of the trash and bring it to the woos because I didn't ant a dead bird in the trash. Turned out to be alive once he dumped it in the woods, so we got it in a little makeshift nest in a box.

    Still breathing and hanging on after I thought it would die by now, so I fed it some whey and mixed greens in water. Maybe the little guy will pull through.

  109. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    won 400 at the casino tonight

  110. 11 months ago
    Anonymous

    Feeling completely defeated when it comes to dating. I’m 30 and have never had a relationship. I’ve tried online dating and apps for several years but never managed to get a date. I’ve tried going to church events but it’s all families and lots of single guys. I’ve tried various hobby groups but it’s also mostly just single guys. I don’t understand how to meet women. Are women even real?

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