Why do I do this?

>give 90% of my salary to my mother
>Am fucking homeless
>I literally in the simplest sense of the word can't even afford a gym membership
>Having a clean cigarette is a fucking luxury. I smoke leftovers
>A good thing but I haven't been able to drink for obvious reasons
>Literally been eating table scraps or leftovers at work for so long everybody including my immediate supervisor knows and have actually fucked talked to me about citing the ""pandemic""
>Continue to get cussed out by her over text
>She fucking yells at me whenever I visit to drop off the Tipsney
>I have to fucking shop for her too and send the shit via courier
>She fucking abused me growing up
Tips on acquiring the mental fitness to do what is necessary?

  1. 1 month ago

    Stop giving your mother money. Simple.

  2. 1 month ago

    >give 90% of my salary to my mother
    literally why would you ever do this

  3. 1 month ago

    do you have stockholm syndrome wtf stop giving her money

  4. 1 month ago

    Does she have some sort blackmail on you op? Wtf

  5. 1 month ago

    why are you giving your mom so much of your salary
    how would it hurt her to cut into it for gym membership
    also no offense but what race are you

  6. 1 month ago

    Cut her off and never look back. Don't be an adult about it. Don't be a man about it. Better to do it badly than not do it at all for fear of not doing it right. However it's done is better than not doing it at all, or waiting a single day longer. Block her, don't answer the door, just goddamn leave town if you have to. A good life is waiting around the corner for you.

    Abusive family members need to be cut off like a necrotic limb. She will kill you if you don't cut her off. She is dysfunctional at her core if she abused a family member. She will not get better, she cannot be fixed, there is no hope for her. She is irreparably damaged and every day you put this off will lengthen the time you spend recovering, and shorten the time you spend living freely.

    Every step in the right direction will be a weight off your shoulders. You will be surprised by how much power you have over the course of your own life. I think you doubt your ability to move on. It will appear very simple once you have accomplished it. Just close your eyes and hold your breath and take the first step.

    Good luck.

  7. 1 month ago

    I know this is a shitpost but you've posted the setup so do the punchline already. Why are you giving her that much money?

  8. 1 month ago

    You are a SIMP! Never waste your diamonds on a hoe.

  9. 1 month ago

    OP probably works at a gas station or some shit and his mom manages his only bank account.

    Go fix your finances. If you don't live in a total shithole she'll have to give you a notice before evicting you so you have time to save up if you're forced to move

  10. 1 month ago

    1. She is clearly keeping you trapped.
    2. Your mom is a master manipulator and using your trauma to control you.
    3. Legally, she can't evict you/throw you out- if she does, leave.
    4. Financially cut her out- get a new bank account or hide your money and get the fuck outta there asap.

    What you need to know is that she has zero control over you if you're a grown ass adult who isn't "legally" her responsibility. Find a place to move into really cheap, literally look up "room for rent" in your city on craigstlist. Save your next couple paychecks, explain you're moving out because you're an adult- if she throws an adult temper tantrum call the police. Move into a room or even a cheap apartment, if you're a poorfag you can find help through the gov. with low-income apartments.
    Better yet, you can do what I did- fall in love with a chick or a dude who has a nice apartment or house, agree to pay some of their utilities until you find a job where they live, get job, pay a bit of rent/utilities, live happily without abuse and torture.
    My mother was similar to yours, minus the rent I had to deal with all sorts of bi-polar pyscho shit from her. It isn't worth wasting years of your life to be abused, escape before the stress of things take your life OR your lunatic mom takes it.

  11. 1 month ago

    Just stop getting cucking by your mother gay, kek

  12. 1 month ago

    >Tips on acquiring the mental fitness to do what is necessary?
    start going to therapist. Do it in secret. Do it online if needed. Or talk to someone IRL like a friend or relative or something that you can stay with etc. Expect her to get a bit nasty when she realizes you are about to take your independence back.

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  14. 1 month ago

    >open another bank account
    >give your supervisor your new bank info to transfer your pay there
    >cut contact with your mother
    >wait for her to threaten suicide or claim elder endangerment/abuse
    >once you have the evidence, have her committed (hopefully for life) to the mental hospital
    >whilst she's in there, ask her psychiatrist to become her legal guardian and get the legal documentation to do it
    >once you get it signed off, take control over her finances.
    >sell her house (if she owns it) and send her to a nursing home on her own dime (trust me it's worth it) - she can't even fight that in court, you have all the evidence she can't feed herself, tend to herself, work and needs care, so the judge will sign off on selling the house for her ''own good''
    >hope she withers on the vine and dies quick in a few years

    If she has no money whatsoever, just end her lease, move her in a 1bedroom apartment which is cheaper to save your own dime, then if she has another tantrum, you repeat the process of calling mental health emergency on her, if she is smart she will straighten up quick. Hopefully it only takes one trip and a few subtle threats in the future for her to stop her bullshit. She is clearly mentally ill, OP and this is how to deal with an elderly who is mentally ill.

  15. 1 month ago

    if this was me I'd have the urge to kill her
    not pre-meditated but sudden I'd just lash out and murder

  16. 1 month ago

    stage your own death

  17. 1 month ago

    start dating a woman that is even a bigger golddigger than your mother, that should solve things, fight fire with fire

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