>be me
>turning 24 soon
>decent body but socially shy (not to the autist extent)
>only have acquaintances, no friends or gfs, only hookups occasionally
frick guys 🙁 how do i socialmaxxx in the span of a year? i feel like an absolute failure of a human being
how do people even make friends at this age
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Friends are moronic, if you're having sex anyways why bother? Friends are only valuable for people who need social groups to have set, they serve no other purpose and are a hindrance
i need friends because im fricking lonely bro, to the point where i feel like i ought to kill myself in minecraft
i want people who can understand me
i want to feel understood
to add on, if people know that you have little to no friends im pretty sure they automatically subconsciously register you as a loser in their mind
Loneliness is such a stupid instinct. People always say shut like were social creatures but we aren't. We are opportunists at heart and 99% of people have nothing to offer, everyone will just backstab you anyways
check out the losers with a maladaptively low predisposition to prosocial, cooperative behaviors
You talk like a gay, and anyways it's the truth. There are no "friends" everyone is temporary and not worth the effort unless you have something to gain
NTA but life is so much less bleak when you try to give instead of take. Give it a shot, it's payed massive dividends for me and that wasn't even the intent.
I did try to give and everyone just takes. Giving is beta as funky, why should I be the one to put in effort to make friends? Why shouldn't they approach me? Why shouldn't they organise stuff? Why shouldn't they offer me support? You start giving and that's what you become, the giver
Well trying to give doesn't mean you become weak. If people don't appreciate you then you remove yourself from their life and that's their loss. You end up with others that have similar mindsets and it's a good time.
No, that's the strat I used when I needed to change states for work a year ago. I toured a couple dozen places that were looking for young professionals and stuck with the place I vibed with the most. I was 22 at the time and my landlord was 27, I saw we could be good friends and that I could learn a lot from him. His strat with his house was to have three roomies that cover his mortgage, and to be very selective to only let people move in that would be a good addition to his existing social circle from work, poker, skiing, etc. There other two people in the house in addition to us have come and gone, but they're all cool and I consider them friends even after they've moved out. I've met dozens of people and we have some sort of social event at the house every week. I think when I buy property in a few years I'll try to do something similar.
I can talk about building a moderately big friend group from scratch senior year of college if you want. It would be harder to reproduce as an adult but still doable with patience.
Cope, seethe, dilate etc
What are you, 16?
Theres a reason very villain is utilitarian
First easy mode: move into a house with cool people. Super low effort once you've moved in, can't beat sheer time together for building friendships.
If you wanna be the leader of a group, have a good place to have guests over and then make friends from hobbies. Being the social hub and creating a group feels very meaningful even if it's a lot of effort and awkwardness putting it together.
> I don't have social hobbies
Start some, it's fun and you only need to be good enough to talk to other people that like it.
Wish you luck man, I was in a similar spot a couple years ago.
was moving how you got better yourself?
>move into a house with cool people
what the frick is wrong with city folk g'hyuk
Socialmaxx at the gym. It's unironically the best place for autists to practice social skills. Just make sure you lift a decent amount.
This spot some people practice shooting the shit between sets.
Everyone is literally one:
>Looking good today bro
Away from having a gym buddy.
Gay
>start wearing warm sweaters for fall, nice shoes, khakis or other pants
>do fall walks and hikes, apple picking, pumpkin picking
>tell people about it at work, gym, or any people you’re kind of friends with
>find the person or people you want to be your friend
>invite them out to drink
>open up about you don’t have much and do these things alone
>open up more about overcoming the anxiety of doing things alone
>now you have a friend +his friends down the line
>download tinder
>100% fall focused profile
>get gf
>be warm homely guy in the winter meet the girls friends
>indoor activities and reading
>spring comes do spring activities
>summer comes do summer activities
You get the jist
This is the most beta shit I have ever read Holy frick
Jesus christ I've never felt so violated reading a IST post
Make a friend who has a lot of friends, try to get close, then get him to invite you to stuff.
That's what I've done pretty much after moving; I've met tons of new people through him