I was rolling with an attractive 20something woman in nogi yesterday and she got to mount and I instantly became erect. She ended the roll and went to the restroom or locker room (not sure which) immediately. I felt super awkward and I'm worried that I'll be seen as some sort of predator or something. Wat do? Should I switch gyms?
Probably went to rub one out. You're good.
Also for more context I know the girl decently well, I have her number but we're like gym friends. I've never hit on her and I don't think she's ever hit on me. Should I text her and apologize?
Why apologize you fricking beta cuck? You just wanted to frick a woman you cuddled with. That's as normal as it gets kys autist loser
no need to get angry and insult me weirdo
ok, i was leaning towards never bring it up as well. i will probably take that route. i'll just show up today to roll and act normal. thanks for the advice anon
You're a good guy, despite asking for advice here of all places. Be cool stay cool and if it's awkward say something
thanks man you too
make a thread and let us know how it went anon
men deemed to be subhumans aren't supposed to have a sex drive
>never bring it up
most likely scenario you will get banned from the gym. happened to a mate of mine, told him to never bring it up. he apologized, he got banned the following day. was one of our competing purple belts. gym owner said he was sorry but sexual harassment is a no no. the woman right now has no proof. you could have been wearing a cup or she felt a bone or something. if you admit to it you give her the nuclear option. unless she approaches you and asks you to get a drink with her, just pretend it never happened.
>women understand it happens
treat her the exact same as you have before, she's part of the team. things will pass.
This is the correct response. Deny until you die. Just pretend it never happened. It's like saying Black person in front a black person. Don't stop what you're saying and just continue on like you never said it. They won't say shit usually.
Same with k ikes as far as I'm aware, just keep the conversation flowing.
say zero
if asked just say it was a good day you guess (insinuating you have a massive wiener not that you got hard)
I want to have sex with her.
Guys listen up. I had a friend get hit with a touching allegation in college. There was an immense amount of pressure on getting him to apologize, a lot of fake niceties and the like. The reason for this is because the other side HAS NO PROOF. They want you to admit that you are guilty so they can just get it over with. If you have any feelings of shame, that’s between you and God.
In this case, you should look at it from the gym’s perspective. At this point, she may never tell anyone about what happened. If you admit it and apologize, especially in any recorded way or with others around, the gym HAS to kick you out, whether or not it actually wants to.
You go from a random guy that trains there to the guy that “sexually assaulted” a girl (but you feel super duper bad about it for real). The moment you apologize you admit to sexual assault. Then you are an evil lewd rapist forever to anyone there who knows you. Do not admit.
All of the above applied to talking to police as well. Unless you have a plea deal negotiated by an attorney, never ever admit to anything.
this seems over the top. i guess it makes sense though
It's the clown world we live in anon. You don't get good boy points for being honest. If they'd kill Jesus they don't mind crucifying you.
>inb4 who is they
the satanist mind bug people and their spiritual acolytes.
>anything you say CAN and WILL be used against you
Why do you think they say that? They are just trying to make you the perpetrator. What they don't tell you is ANYTHING you say in your defense
>no she grab my dick first and said she wanted me to touch her
won't be able to be used in court in your defense as they will say it's hersey. Talking to cops never helps your case.
Well his allegation, regardless of how spurious it was, spiraled into a year long investigation and title XI trial that he only made it through with my help.
Had he made any concession at any point the title XI group would have had a good reason to err on the side of not ending up in the news as an institution that harbors rapists.
>anon sexually assaulted me but said sorry
Congratulations, you have now admitted guilt and put whatever the relevant authorities are in an impossible position where they pretty much have to act.
t. law school
Never put anything in writing unless it benefits you or can't be traced back to you. She has no proof. Don't give it to her t. married to a lawyer
Bro can you explain to me the difference between being detained or under arrest.
If I'm detained am I also free to take the 5th or can that be interference with police investigation?
Is it correct to say that anytime I am not free to walk away that 5 covers me?
If youre being serious... if you haven't been instructed whether you're under arrest or detained, ask if you're being detained. If they say yes, stop answering questions and don't say another word until you're booked (because theyre planning to arrest you anyway), and even then the only thing that should come out of your mouth is "lawyer". If they believe they have enough evidence to arrest or detain you, then let them use what they already have. Anything you give them helps their case, not yours. With that being said, don't put yourself in situations where you need to worry about these kinds of questions to begin with. It's not worth it
nta anon but...
>I'm detained am I also free to take the 5th or can that be interference with police investigation?
Your 5th Amendment rights can not be violated ever. They can't make you incriminate yourself. Just keep hush and demand a lawyer. The more trouble they make for you in acquiring legal council and not talking to them the more of a case you have to use against them for violating your rights.
>Is it correct to say that anytime I am not free to walk away that 5 covers me?
Yes.
Book recommendations:
*You Have the Right to Remain Innocent by James Duane
*Arrest-Proof Yourself by Dale C. Carson, Wes Denham
*Constitutional Law in a Nutshell by Jerome A. Barron
What the other two said, but if cops tell you to stop and try to intimidate you into talking the only thing that should be out of your mouth is
>am I being detained
They wont' answer the question but no matter what just keep asking
>am I being detained
if they say no then just walk off. If they say yes ask them
>what am I being detained for
They'll usually say some bullshit like
>I'm investigating
>suspicious
Neither of these things is a crime. You don't even have to give them your name or any information when you're
>detained
The only time you have to give information is once you're under arrest. Then they can get you on
>failure to ID
not before.
TLDR: Just keep asking if you're being detained, if not just take off. If you are detained don't say shit till you're fully under arrest. And no matter what do NOT fall for the
>i'm putting you in handcuffs
As a indication you're under arrest, that's another tactic they use to intimidate and trick you.
>And no matter what do NOT fall for the
>i'm putting you in handcuffs
>As a indication you're under arrest, that's another tactic they use to intimidate and trick you.
Can you explain this? Putting you in handcuffs but not arresting you?
Don't just assume anything about what they're doing and make them verbalize everything they're doing to you.
>Never put anything in writing unless it benefits you or can't be traced back to you.
This Black person knows what's up
>apologize
for what? if it ever comes up just act oblivious
>erect? what?
I've rubbed my dick against lots of people if you act like nothings wrong they will never being it up, it's a dick, it's there, is it rock hard? maybe, maybe I just have a massive dick what do you know
>Anonymous 01/19/24(Fri)13:12:47 No.73369276
based, i like this
There's not necessarily a correct move, but apologizing is definitely the wrong move
What the frick is wrong with you? Why do you feel the need to feel bad when you get a boner from a woman literally rubbing herself against you? Is this some sort of american moment?
>Is this some sort of american moment?
its a betamale moment
>apologize
that would be confessing that having a functioning sex organ is somehow immoral, imagine being that moronic
>Grappling with women
Couldn't be me. Maybe go into an actual manly
and hard grappling art and you won't have to fend off hoes all the time.
why do women even do bjj? Men have no control over their boners and they all just go easy on the women anyway
>be woman
>get raped
>finally come to the realization that men are stronger and faster than you
>think to yourself “i will learn martial arts”
>men you spar with only go 10%
>start believing that you may be competent
>get raped again
>quit
Good. Women should stay away from masculine hobbies
what a marvelous post, anon. thanks for sharing. here’s another one 🙂
This guys never actually talked to any high quality women lmao
And that's a good thing
Because they are dirty bawds and enjoy being overpowered and choked by men.
If there was a class where you could be fondled by Japanese schoolgirls, you'd sign up right?
What kind of silly question is that?
>If there was a class where you could be fondled by Japanese schoolgirls, you'd sign up right?
Where do I sign up for a class like that?
So this means you regularly grind crotches with the other men and none of you think anything of it?
It's not usually crotch to crotch but yeah you just kinda try to ignore it, it can still be funny though
Just boys being boys imo
I know this story is not true because only out gays and latent homosexuals do BJJ lmao
Black belt BJJgay here. It happens all the time when guys are rolling with girls. If you don't like it wear a cup to practice and no one will know.
What if you roll with her and kiss her
>be white belt in bjj
>new girl comes to the gym
>roll with her
>stay in north south position on top of her for the entire roll, applying hip pressure to her face
>practice ends
>never see her again
checked and real
yeah fair enough, i get that take
It's a completely normal reaction. You're getting physical with a woman. She ended the roll an excused herself, and you didn't force anything. It's ok, embarrassing but just don't mention it. Let her partner up with you if she wants, do not try to actively partner her, or she might think you're deliberately doing it for sexual pleasure.
I have rolled with attractive women before in gi and no gi. Never had a boner at all a d before reading these stories I didn'teven imagineit was possible to, but maybe that's just me. Whenever I'm rolling or sparring I just go 100% into a different headspace and it's almost like I'm with a nondescript humanoid shape in a completely white space. Everything that's not important just gets filtered out; environment, sound, smells, shapes, etc. all disappear and it's only me and the person I'm on the mats with.
Wow u r so cool
Not really. Why would I be cool?
if you aren't getting a diamond hardon from a girl sitting on your hips, you're a literal homosexual homosexual. should've been obvious since you do bjj lmao
I believe this is caused by not interacting with women enough. Not having enough sex. It's like a starving African child seeing food for the first time.
I like women, I just like fighting better. It's the only thing I'm truly good at and the only thing that ever makes me happy to do.
When I was training bjj ,the girls my age were all hideous beasts, so, fortunately, I never ever came close to have this problem. Also, as a white belt, I always went all out, I find it very difficult to have a hard on in this case.
Thank God I've never rolled with the younger ones.
I once rolled with an ok blue belt girl, and idk if I was seeing things, but she was rolling her eyes when I was in her guard. If the spare went a little bit longer, I think I'd have a hard on.
>Thank God I've never rolled with the younger ones
why are you gay
homie u gay
Don't make a bigger deal of it than it is. Boners happen. It'd be creepier to bring it up. Give that lady a little space and chill
I remember getting an erection when this asian chick went for the north south kimura on me.
Don't bring it up. That be really weird. Just move on.
she probably fingered herself after. you should have afterward gone up to her, take her by the shoulders, and look her and the eye and said something like "we obviously have chemistry and i know you want me"
she would melt right there and youd frick her like a chad
that would be ideal but i dont want to get a rape charge or banned from the gym
just be good looking and not ugly
Something similar happened to me in HS. A girl joined the wrestling team. I wrestled varsity at 135 (this was before the HS weights changed in my state) and she was a couple weight classes lower on JV. I got paired with her a few times and popped a boner like 50% of the time. She had really bad cystic acne but she sucked me off after my senior wrestling season and I busted so hard. I think all the build up of the previous 3 years. Also I was fingering her butthole while she sucked me because she was on her period.
>bjj thread
I liked the part where you could see cheeks
pusy
>oh no the arse to the face, how will i ever escape
wtf i love bjj now
That's a woman on the bottom. Peep the lesbian haircut and chest binding.
I was judo raped by a homosexual predator in a mma gym.
imagine being worried about this lol. this is why men are so cucked.
you're on a list now
way to go boner boy!
i dont want to roll with anyone. in what world does a person go like "yeah i want to roll with another man or female" BJJ is one thing that has kept me from an mma gym. i can join for purely striking purposes, but there are no gyms within walking distance, so theres that.
Why are you so scared?
i dont think im scared, when i was a kid i was comfortable wrestling and getting body on body contact with other males which is wrestling. now that im older, its just wierd.
>getting body on body contact with other males which is wrestling.
it was just play wrestling and it was fun. but thinking back to it and imagining doing that to another male now, not interested.
You don't want to hold and roll around with a sweaty guy? That's pretty odd.
Stop being a homosexual
Check out this technique.
Why does the floor look so wet? ffs it looks disgusting
Probably was mopped just before they started rolling. If they are rilling after class (which they should if they're recording it) it'd be expected for them to have already wiped the mats.
one time a young girl kicked me in the face, we were both covered in blood before i realised i was bleeding. that was pretty embarassing, never saw her again
but mating press, touching ass and tit, kami shiho gatame, sankaku, etc, all should be normal and expected if its not like deliberate harassment. ive sparred with some srs aggressive women, they will pull my hands/head between their legs, grab my dick or press their breasts into my face and give no fricks.
judoka tend to be a lot more comfortable with touching though, in my experience.
ive visited a bjj club that had mats like this
its sweat
>but mating press, touching ass and tit, kami shiho gatame, sankaku, etc, all should be normal and expected if its not like deliberate harassment. ive sparred with some srs aggressive women, they will pull my hands/head between their legs, grab my dick or press their breasts into my face and give no fricks.
Frick, that sounds so hot, should I get into bjj to get dommy mommies to attempt to bully me?
I always wear a cup when I grapple. Don't care if the other guys don't like it.
NGMI
i want to join a mixed bjj class just so i can beat on women and not get in trouble for it. is this a good idea?
Most of the time you will me hugging men.
Terrible idea. Women are molly coddled much more in BJJ gyms than irl. Hurting a girl puts a huge target on your back, even being overly rough with them does the same thing.
I legit used to quit gyms when they got more than like 2 women in regular classes. They can’t fight for shit and then they talk shit to me specifically for some reason, and I was usually on the actual fight team, so I never figured out why.
Anyways, I moved rural and live in bfe now on a farm so I don’t waste my time training to fight anymore, plus I’m old with kids now so no point.
Dude ur so sensitive to this?
IDK how would i respond to this.
would you think ask her out in this situation might be a good idea? I once had a girl I worked out with she rubbed her pussy on my arm and leg during our martial art workout, I was thinking about her the whole day afterward, furiously mastrubated a lot, I never asked her out. I thought it would be umm, it might make her umm... IDK how to bring it up....
she's cute as heck, prob 17 year old tho she looked young, IDK MAN!!! I DONT KNOW!! I DONT FRICKING KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was drilling with the most ridiculously attractive asian girl the other week. We were practicing a straight ankle lock and she had her foot right in my junk again and again. Should I ask her out?
>he didn't wear a boner-hiding apparatus
NGMI