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Take a seat. Have a drink. Put a song on the jukebox.
Enjoy the emotional fitness thread.
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life sucks and then you die
i'm ready for the dying part
If you’ve really given up on happiness and fulfillment and you believe yourself to be courageous, then put your life towards something meaningful. Sacrifice the next 40 years to working and improving the lot of others. You likely have skills or virtues which would make you valuable as a worker and thereby as a member of your community. Use them. That would be brave, it would make you a man.
Why are you low status? If that were the case you’d feel invisible, not vilified. More likely you represent some kind of liability because of your risky or impulsive behavior? Or maybe you’re selfish and compromise the interests of others to serve your own?
Try a relationship unless there’s a real reason you can’t be with her romantically. There might be. Try to determine what that is, in your mind. Also be clear with her what your intentions are.
wholesome, and I guess I agree about you, but the truth is it becomes hard to want to help other people when you're unhappy, even if all things considered, you're doing a lot better at life. after a while I've become so bitter that I feel I have little remaining empathy. It's like I've gotten trapped in a toxic cycle of self improvement, where I only really care about making my situation in life better.
Ya shit sucks sometimes but it sounds like you believe that you deserve something and are resentful that you didn’t get it. Which raises a lot of questions that you should ask yourself:
>what do you feel like you deserve in life?
>is it the same allotment afforded to everyone? If not, why?
>how far short is what you recieved?
>is there something about you which you believe entitles you to more than other people?
>what is your goal, if it’s happiness, why don’t you buy it with booze and pills? And if not, why do you do care that you’re unhappy?
>write a list of things which you believe would make you happy. How many of these things are intrinsically valuable, and how many might have just been sold to you by influences like entertainment media?
>are there happy people who do not have what you believe you need to be happy? How do they manage? Is theirs, or anyone’s happiness somehow incomplete or worth less for any reason?
thanks anon, I'll reflect on this. but tbh the main thing I want is just a good group of friends and a woman who loves me (original, I know). i've taken some steps to help with this, but so far they haven't really paid off. I drink on the weekends to cope with the loneliness/boredom but I want to stop at some point.
I remember being 14. You are going to miss these days
Everyone has abandoned and betrayed me for being low status male. What do?
Increase status x failure
I've enrolled on a law degree as of now but I don't know what else to do?
>learn to be funny
>learn how to be personable
>find fun things to do that you like and others can easily join in on
>have loving gf or be a player
>make money and don't be a miser when you're going out to have fun
Lifting and studying law sounds like a good track to me. Once you graduate with a good body you'll be head and shoulders over 95% of people
I tried doing my uni rowing team but kinda fell off the tryout process because I don't like the commitment.
On a related note, I want to bang hot women despite having a fwb who is really into me and even cooks for me and let me rent her extra room (I am the only reason we are not in an actual romantic relationship, she is 100% for it)
Get with the FwB.
She's really into you and going off this post she seems like a good choice. Even if it doesn't work out you're pretty young.
Unless you actually are currently nailing someone else, or have another sure thing going, just try a relationship with the fwb.
I'm not sure how physically attractive I actually find her and she's the first girl I ever had sex with (she doesn't know that of course.)
>unless there’s a real reason you can’t be with her romantically.
We are both 2nd gen diaspora from the same country except from different (not always friendly) ethnic groups. I am a Croat and she is a Bosniak for the knowers.
I'm 23, I was on a hiatus from university for 3 years and grew in my bitterness while my lust for women never diminished. Basically I feel an overwhelming urge to enjoy beautiful women now that I'm back in civilization that they actually occupy
I'm pretty clear that I'm not committing to her fwiw
Look man I’m a bit older than you but was in the same spot a couple years ago. I failed to commit to a relationship with the girl I was fricking- because something didn’t seem right. I assumed at the time that there must have been something wrong with her, something that wasn’t consciously perceptible but I was aware of nonetheless. I found out in the years after giving up on her that she really was a rare opportunity and none of the however many women I met afterwards would compare to her. The problem the whole time was that I expected to let her down. I felt I’d fail so would rather not try. Really analyze if there’s anything wrong with her and if there isn’t try to make shit work. You’ve got no idea how many people you see dating or married are basically just coworkers or acquaintances who just share a dead light. Godamnit man. If you’ve got any magic between yourselves really try to nurture that. Once you get a couple years older it’s way easier to draw the interest of women but much harder to find one who can be a true companion.
This is the first women I've had sex with and the longest "relationship" I've ever had, even though it's not actually official. How do I know what I want?
I'm fricking my landlord's daughter, yes
It’s hard to tell whether you don’t like her for that or whether you’re afraid of your own flaws and insecurities. A problem in your situation is that if you try for a relationship and frick it up your living situation will be compromised. You should talk to her to see what she wants and then seriously reflect on why you don’t want to provide that
pretty good chance she's still with you because she thinks you'll eventually agree to something real. imo if you don't a relationship it's kinder to cut her off, but what do I know
So you're fricking your landlord?
Move?
Gl bro
Me too, tbh.
Just water for me, barkeep. Wife kinda blew up at me today. I tried calmly explaining what my issue was to diffuse things and she blurts out " tou don't like anyone or anything" whatever that means. Had a good dinner out but, idk if it's possible to fix. I will put effort into it, but she won't reciprocate.
Mostly just coasting to avoid child support and what not. And not really trying to have to find another place to live in bidens economy.
I promised myself I wouldn't be like my dad, who only consumed music and movies from when he was in college, but here I am still listening to the exact same playlist for the last 10 years.
Listen to the radio. You'll stumble on something you like eventually.
That or ask friends for recommendations.
My workout playlist is all the shit I listened to in high school and college.
But in gatherings and in the car with other people I'll listen to and even enjoy modern stuff, even if those high school bangers still hit just a little harder to me.
Focus on your studies, but also lift. Find some classmates who want to lift too.
I got fit in college, got a law degree (was actually the strongest I've ever been during my 1L year because the gym was my stress release and I was stress eating a ton).
Try to read non-text books before bed to give yourself a break from civil procedure or wills and estates or whatever, and to keep you well-rounded (I also got back into my childhood hobby of tabletop gaming in law school, because it was a healthier alternative to vidya for me).
I've only been on a few dates in my life and they were all completely propositioned by the girls.
I don't believe I am autistic but none of my friends are average/normie in their interests or ability so I quite honestly don't know what regular people do with their time, I am from a very rural area so living in the city doesn't make much sense to me.
Does anyone have advice on actually dating for the first time in your late 20s? I'm in a big city, 6'6" with a PhD but can't be assed to go to bar alone when I will just be drinking while unconsciously waiting until I get to go home and sleep.
Tell me what you music you like and I'll rec.
I could easily fall into the same trap, but to avoid it I find the specific names of sub-genres I like, go to rateyourmusic, make a chart of that subgenre and listen to like the top 30 of that style. Most of the music ends up not being modern but at least it isn't the same stuff all the time.
Almost same position but severe brain trauma. Also soon-to-be wizard, but you know it's not best to keep distance anon.
No. I know many men in their 30s that went to college and had maybe even more fun because of it. It doesn't matter. There is a subpopulation that does care but who cares about them, they don't know anything about life.
What type of work do you do? / what field was your degree in? It’s surprising to hear about a dude with your stats having woman troubles. Are you decent looking and mentally stable?
Women expect you to ask them out but will give you very clear opportunities to do so. If you’re a good dude you probably aren’t picking up on the cues, even if women might frustrate themselves to death trying to get you to initiate
>It’s surprising to hear about a dude with your stats having woman troubles
easy when youre autistic
Field and job is on drug design.
Very average looks, often compared to Josh Groban.
Truly don't believe I am autistic since I have no issues on social cues really, a lot of it is my coworkers don't talk to each other and since I'm not used to city living I don't know what people do to even make friends. I love music/go to concerts but that might be the only social setting I want to go to.
Honestly dude you’re in a tough spot. The best way to make friends is usually by having friends and getting introduced to people. Women will also be more comfortable with a guy who has a decent circle of friends, so you should focus on meeting dudes to start off with. For someone in your position I’d recommend joining a cycling club for weekend mornings and weeknight evenings. It’ll cost you some money getting the gear but will be the way to meet a bunch of solid guys who aren’t pieces of shit. Also see if there’s anything for rowing, casual adult football (or soccer), skiing, etc.
If you try to go to events with the intention of meeting women, stuff like organic finger painting, community garden, dance therapy, etc, it’ll be super transparent and kind of sad
here, I've also got a phd man, uncanny. I'm a 6'5 manlet though. I can't help with the dating but I can tell you that people don't actually care about the phd, it's like that scene in whiplash where the parents only care about the football kids
except they're right phd means nothing lmao
sorry about your dad
Yeah I know no one cares, said it so people know it's not a motivation/money issue, more of a me thing.
Hope everything goes as well as it can with your dad man.
I feel cursed. I've tried to move on from the past but everything I do to try to move forward inevitably fails. My family are universally clueless and unhelpful and either think it's still 1950 or Year 0. I've never given up and always crawled forward but I've had my will slowly drained from me and I'm not sure how much longer I can go on. I want to run away and never return because I'm surrounded by bad memories and people with no desire to improve themselves. Life is fricking torture.
Drinks for this feel?
Sobriety my dude. It took me over a year of being free from the alcohol devil before I got my shit together enough and FINALLY stopped listening to moronic family members trying to lecture me on MY life. I'd about live in my car before dealing with anyone trying to micromanage me. Drinking won't help.
I don't drink. And as much as I distance them from my life, they STILL try and show zero interest in understanding things from my perspective. They are a cancer. And it's basically the straw that breaks the camels back, a bunch of pointless morons chiming in when the chips are down.
>visited family today
>now watching wrestling
>then gonna watch UFC
Comfy day brahs
Been in a mental rut- can’t stop fixating on negative things which people have said or done to me. Mostly happens while I’m driving or while trying to fall asleep. I think it ties into some kind of fantasy that my lack of success is due to people persecuting me for arbitrary reasons, or maybe that their faults make me virtuous in comparison? Not sure. For example:
>coworker insulting me through carelessness
>girl at my uni telling me she isn’t romantically interested in me but would be interested in me as a social resource, if I could invite her to parties etc
>ex insulting me. When I told her I loved her she’d intentionally draw out emotion by acting reluctant- “It just doesn’t feel right to say when you haven’t done anything special for me…” etc
Obviously these things are meant to draw my attention away from more uncomfortable certainties such as my own failures and inadequacy, things which would either require energy to fix or which compromise my internal narrative. Not sure how to fix it though
Take ashwagandha
>be me 23
>Recently had a 4 year relationship end
>want to start dating around and frick some goth girls
>since all I do is work, gym and school have no pictures of me doing anytnjng
>currently in best shape of my life but not sure what to take pics of
>also live with parents till I go to med school
>won’t be fully on my own till I am 25 due to how app cycles work
Anons any advice? How do I get tinder pics? Do I just take mirror selfies?
If you're feeling particularly devilish, wait until halfway through M1 when all the LTRs inevitable fall apart. It'll be a feeding frenzy, happens in almost every class.
>t. knower
>LTRs
LDRs I mean
Thanks anon, from the sounds of it. Medgay also? What do I do in the 2 years till I actually go tho. Also question, are most med students skinny fat dyels like in college? Or will I get gigamogged
1 year not 2
>Medgay also?
Yup, third year medgay.
>What do I do in the 2 years till I actually go tho
Depends on how your app cycle goes, I can only speak for the US process. Do it right the first time cause this shit is too expensive to do over if you don't have to. Crush the MCAT, get your volunteering done, and have a good personal statement. Save up money if you need to, if you apply to a bunch of out of state schools it can cost $1-2k total. Other than that, just enjoy your last bit of freedom.
Don't feel like you should study med school shit before starting. Nothing will prepare you for the content or pace of the material, you'll be better off just jumping in the deep end from the start. A lot of the study habits the people use in undergrad don't transfer over very well.
>Also question, are most med students skinny fat dyels like in college? Or will I get gigamogged
A lot of them are surprisingly fit. You'll get the occasional college sport superstar or triathlete, some casual gym goes, but most are just average guys.
Thank you anon I really do appreciate the advice. I take the mcat in January and then applying this May. Best of luck to you on your step exams (also usgay)
Thanks anon, by some stroke of luck I actually managed to pass Step 1 (p/f these days). For the MCAT just trust in Uworld, do it twice if you have time. The AAMC section banks are hard but excellent practice, and you should do all the full length exams under testing conditions. I'm sure there are some good anki decks still floating around, very helpful for the psych/soc section. Godspeed.
The goth girl thing is like how a young woman might fantasize about a guy who fights her dad. If you find yourself drawn into that instead of unsettled and disgusted, you should reflect on what is driving your desires. Most likely you desire something with novelty and sensuality which exceeds what you had in your previous relationship? I’d bet you though that if you got with one of these girls and had her dress up in some black lacy costume and rubbed glow stick juice all over her breasts and ass while fricking her you’d find yourself feeling empty and alone and would wish you could just be with a plain Jane who you could eat chicken soup with and talk to about your coworkers.
You are correct. The only girls I’ve ever went out with I’ve dated for long periods of time (years) and both were shortbread. I guess I just want girls that are more my wavelength since I am a lot more fun and spontaneous compared to my prior gfs who were great girls and had their head on straight but were too straigntnosed
Yeah but any girl with a similar or corresponding (?) personality to yours will come across as much less exciting than yourself, much more straight-nosed, because they have way less time to get their life and career together based on social expectations in this day and age. If they became comfortable in a relationship they’d probably also be down to go weekend camping or skinny dipping in the summer or willing to do whatever night classes or dance lessons you want. You might think an alt chick is more your speed if she’s willing to spend time on diversions with you, but you’ll find yourself watching her spin out of control, pieces falling off, crashing and burning, her vision of the future fading as her looks and career ambitions either simultaneously. If a girl is down to frick after a couple weeks of dating or drive around with you on a Friday night listening to music or come on a last minute date, she’s probably spontaneous enough to satisfy whatever is in you.
Go talk to girls at your local gym or library. If they’re interested they’ll give you opportunities to talk to them. If they don’t, get more sleep and exercise more. Tinder will be a crunch on your mental health since not only will you have to contend with guy/ girl ratios but also Pareto distribution on top of that.
Thanks anon, without sounding dumb but how do I talk to girls out of the blue? I definitely get some mires at the gym but have no clue what to say
Women have incredible peripheral vision and can immediately tell if a) you’re attractive and b) you are checking them out. If so, she’ll make a point of looking back at you pretty expediently and the two of you will make eye contact for a second. At this point you should smile and and nod at the very least. If she smiles and seems receptive ask her how things are going or just start a normal conversation.
In my personal experience the best bet is checking out her face, and not even staring or looking that long. If you have to try to get her attention you won’t, she’s not interested.
The failure of both guys and girls comes from neuroticism and insecurity. You’ll try to look serious and stoic and manly, which she won’t see as attractive (why would she want to talk to someone with a stick up their ass?). Or when she looks back at you, you flinch or look away. If your intentions are good you shouldn’t feel shame or fear. Her failure will be if she’s overly neurotic and doesn’t look back at you or play her part in the tango, and expects you to walk over without the communication which naturally precedes that.
Does that make sense?
Thanks anon this does make a lot of sense. I get a lot of the eye matches and we both flinch away but I always just thought i was looking somewhere and accidentally caught her gaze lol. I will smile next time, do you just do a soft smile or like full teeth and everytning? Sorry I am moronic so have to ask questions like this
If you flinch and look away it implies you’re ashamed or afraid. Both imply that you think there are good reasons that the two of you should not interact. And if you think that, she’ll take your word for it.
When you make eye contact, hold it for a second and smile gently, no teeth. She might reciprocate at this point. If it’s rapid and forced (she very quickly draws her mouth into a smile and relaxes again, no eye changes) she’s just being politely respectful and is not interested in you. If it’s drawn out and she seems like she’s waiting for something you can say howdy or whatever. If she’s a woman she’ll be way more nervous than you, keep that in mind, so might only take her earbuds out after you say Hi.
Just be attentive for if she’s only being polite. Or if she’s trying to trap you. Don’t ask her out unless you have grounds to do so. Women are very good at making it clear whether they’re available. If they don’t make it clear, that’s probably for a reason.
>dad recently got diagnosed with early onset dementia just like bruce willie
>have to watch my mum suffer with her partner of 40 years slowly degrading
life can be cruel, it's hard to know people you love are hurting
don't even feel bad about almost being a wizard anymore, it's better for me to keep a degree of distance from everyone I meet and stay asocial and ignorant
grandma is currently dealing with dementia. grandpa passed a few years back, mom is the main one dealing with the pain now. it’s a sad sight and i wish i knew how to comfort my mother throughout this. i feel for you, anon.
it's an awful disease
I always visit my mum every time she invites, I mostly smile when there's the awkard jokes about dinner being a little dry since he started cooking at midday. I guess just try being there for her
also, I've developed an irrational(?) hatred for the popup charities that are near my local supermarkets because when he goes for walks by himself they keep signing him up even though my parents need the money and it's obvious he can't communicate properly, those motherfrickers are taking advantage
The only attractive women who want me are either not legal or are taken already. Everyone else is ugly. I want to be with an attractive woman who isn't going to get me shot or would put me in jail (possibly also shot)
Can anons weigh in is it weird to be 22 and changing majors a 3rd time? My first years at my current uni were during covid so a basically made no friends and didn't join any clubs etc. I am making an effort this semester to actually be social and join clubs.
I think I feel weird and honestly ashamed of myself for taking so long to figure my shit out. I worry that people will be put off because of my age and the fact in on my 3rd major. Will my circumstances stop me from making any friends or romantic connections?
You don't have to bring up all your extra classes. If there's some truth to it (I'm sure you were working on something) you can just say that you got a slow start to your classes since you were working on/at X and Y at the time.
I was gonna do an assignment and then get high, but I had to shift my schedule around. So instead, I went on an intense run, and studied some as well. I'll just get baked tomorrow instead.
I'm jealous you have the means to live on campus and go out freely. I'm poorgay and already started working, and had to go through the 4 years so far of college isolated, and about to do a master's, remote. I'm gonna quit my job soon though, it's not worthwhile in my eyes anymore.
I don't think it's an issue if you can afford it, just don't dick around and waste away time without making headway in your academics, but obviously don't neglect the social side like I had to. You can just lie if anything, or be candid if you're insistent, but when I actually went on campus, there were some people just dicking around and changing majors, so you'll be fine.
no I don't live on campus both my parents have serious health issues and had me late. They are old and need help at home. I wish I could have gotten a typical on campus 1st year experience but fricked up and did jack shit with no real direction until I was 20
well I shouldn't say jack shit I actually got a 2 year diploma at the first place that accepted me because I spent no time thinking about what to do with my life so that 2 years was spent on the verge of suicide. Then went to uni for something else and then am now changing my uni degree
>taking so long to figure my shit out.
I changed my major at 22 because I hated it and decided to pursue one that I actually liked. Got my degree at 25.
Being a bit older is nothing to be embarrassed about. If you're confident enough it can actually be a plus.
My fatass has been gorging shit for the past week like holy shit. I suddenly have additional income and now I'm eating like a pig.
I'm attempting a two day fast rn, breaking it when I get home from work Monday.
covid fricked my cardio gains
Well this may be it for me bros. Been getting weird yellow and blue flashes in my vision, like a small flash of light that isn’t there, for the last few weeks. Happens at random. It’s gone as fast as it came. Less than a second.
My right eye is basically legally blind. Left eye is my dominant eye with near perfect vision. If this is my retina detaching then I’m done for.
It was already bad enough doctors refused to prescribe contacts in case it fricked my good eye up. It was already risky to consider getting into a combat sport, which now is potentially not an option to even start like I had hoped to.
I’ll have to make an appointment. If this is my retina detaching then I’m probably fricked. What a sick joke this life has been. It would be one thing if this was happening from a combat sport, or protecting someone, or fighting in a war. But just randomly occurring. Imagine how fricked that is? A sub mediocre life, then going blind in your late 20s. I’m not gonna live a life as a blind man. I would refuse to work. I would most likely rope. Oh well at least I managed to get some pussy.
get an eyepatch
>another redscarepod user pops up on IST
bizarre how many of us there are.
I don't know what that is but it sounds gay
It is, it's a subreddit.
Not same guy, but I sub to their patreon. Something refreshing about hearing the female point of view.
I watch some of their content on youtube sometimes.
I spent election night 2020 getting drunk and watching Chapotraphouse's free stream, shit was cash.
Not him but fellow listener. It’s enjoyable but I find their approach is generally pretty limited to defamiliarization? -picking apart a widely known concept or juxtaposing elements of it to make it seem nonsensical. It seems like smth that people do to accustom themselves to living with failure
Yeah sometimes seems like they're just using big words to seem more intelligent.
Any of y'all listen to War Mode?
No I wouldn’t say that. What I mean is that they just seem to pick apart things, like old maids. Obviously funny to listen to, but if I as a man started talking that way, any respectable woman would find me catty and irritating to spend time with
Agreed, but I think that's kind of the main appeal.
My introduction to them was them picking apart Lex Fridman lol.
An eye patch isn’t gonna help a lot. The other eye is already damn near blind. I wouldn’t be able to drive anymore, I wouldn’t be able to do the usual things blind people struggle with. I would be fricked. I don’t think an eye patch would make me feel much better even if just for amusement.
They really need to work more on this area of medicine. I wish they had a protocol that just cured all eye problems within a few months, or allowed them to simply replace any blind or shitty eyes effortlessly.
Is natty lifting even worth it bros? You either get fat and doughy and look kinda big, or you get shredded and skinny and look DYEL.
Lift for your own health and because you enjoy it, not to impress others.
I lift to impress myself, but I'm perpetually disappointed.
Kek I don't have any answers for you then anon, I'm in the same boat
Recently I've been having a severe episode of IST addiction (I'm not meming, I'll try to explain it well).
I'll open a few threads in the morning and compulsively click back to the catalog to open more if the ones I'm in don't update or give me (You)s fast enough. I glance at the clock and say "I'll leave after this hour's up" or "I'm just waiting for these threads to hit archive" and suddenly I've wasted the whole day. I phonegay at work and I'm productive enough that nobody's noticed but I know this is grossly unhealthy.
I tell myself I'll stay away the next day and then in the morning say "well these threads I was in are still up, may as well see them through to archive" and the cycle repeats.
What do I do?
World's coming at me too fast
I have to move to another country in less than a month, and I have done things quite late which compels me to do them with a sense of urgency.
On a side note, I'd like a caramelbunny like pic related but because of k-pop, most girls in my country are on some kind of skin whitening regimen
30 days ago I was ghosted. sent her a letter saying how much I loved her with a rose. it delivered two days ago. this moment I got angry and let out my anger by saying I'm throwing her ring in the river tomorrow and some other shit, basically solidifying that she will never come back now. I don't feel good. but the thought of her coming back was eating me alive.
>be me
>take the kids over to my brother's house to play with their cousins
>tell him I'll pick them up later
>back to my house, looking forward to alone time and maybe early evening sex
>me and wife laying on bed watching cfb
>get her naked, giving backrub
>have not had anal in like seven years, wife likes butt plugs and the occasional fingering but hasn't gone all the way in a long time
>she rolls over spooning
>tease her with my dick, thinking she will push away
>instead she pushes into me
>it's happening
>sweet talk her while my dick slowly goes in her ass
>she takes it like the old days
>start fricking her and rubbing her clit
>she's moaning, super into it
>fingering her pussy while I frick her ass
>she starts gasping
>oh shit she's going to cum from anal
>frick her hard, ready to cum
>right as she cums and I start blowing my load in her
>DING DONG
>she jumps half off the bed
>did not safely eject USB
>she runs to bathroom while I throw on clothes and go to front door
>it's brother and kids
>"hey bro I had to go pick up pizza so figured I would save you the trip"
>oh... thanks
>probably never getting anal again
bless you for the story, cute!
For three straight nights I've been cumming inside my girlfriend.
What are the chances that I get her pregnant?
considering guys can't get pregnant, not high.
Depends on a variety of factors.
I'm not qualified to answer your question usefully. I've been pussyfree for almost 7 years.
An e-girl on Twitter that lives in Europe is super obsessed with me and wants to kill herself over me, genuinely the worst case of BPD I've ever encountered. What do I do?
I've been told by music teachers and other musicians that I play guitar at intermediate level.
I also hit the gym and I want to pick up piano.
I seriously want to start dating though I I have an ugly face and it'll take 3 years to finish an orthodontal surgery (my teeth are similar to RHCP Flea's teeth).
Should I even bother with dating, even talking to women?
How can I even get an optimistic attitude when I'm talking to a woman, after getting rejected so many fricking times?
Will solely chasing my degree, wealth and possibly become a part-time music teacher or musician (for extra income) help me a attract a woman who actually wants me?
Like I said my teeth are pretty much the same as Red Hot Chili Peppers' basist's teeth: Flea.
Though I'm willing to bet that he managed to become the father of his 3 kids due to his wealth and his skills as a musician.
I'd appreciate your answers.
Anyone?
I'll have a Long Island while I wait I guess.
It's probably not your teeth that's such a major issue. They are a source of your insecurity, but it's your overall insecurity that is probably holding you back.
Say you got in a hockey accident as a youth, or just own it.
But if you're successful in those other areas, that can make you confident and that confidence will spill over to other areas.
Okay bartender, it sounds like everyone else here is just here for some kind of homosexual group therapy session. I'm here to drink. Give me a Mai Tai. I want to get lit.
There's a local NFL game tomorrow. Trying to pick between going to a bar to watch or the actual game alone. Bar is probably less loserish, eh?
Go watch it alone
both are alone, you mean physically going to the game?
Yeah
done. bars are open after anyway
Going to my first Divine Liturgy tomorrow. Ex-muslim. It feels good to have found Christ.
Glory to God. Does your family know?
God bless us all, no they do not. I will tell them eventually, mom won't like it, maybe some aunts and uncles might stop talking to me, but i've found salvation and i will still pray for them.
Will do, thank you.
God bless you, you're more brave than I am. I hope you enjoy the Liturgy.
It was wonderful. God is so full of love. I hope everyone finds the truth someday. Best wishes
>Verification not required
look into bethel and hillsong spontaneous music, I see a lot of positive comments on their videos from ex-Muslims
I just pissed a girl off by saying she doesn't have autism because shes too high functioning socially. But I couldn't think fast enough on alcohol to salvage the situation.
Sounds simple enough to salvage. "I just think you're perfect/hard to imagine anything wrong with you". Something to that effect.
I gave a polite reason for why I didnt say anything. I was drunk and thinking really hard on what I was saying after pissing her off. But she was also being passive aggressive in her own way mentioning someone she might still be fricking
I finally started going to college. I was so nervous that I wouldn't make any friends, and would just end up alone. And do you know what? I was right. I tried so hard, and wanted so badly, to be cool. To be a jock, or a frat bro, or part of a big group of nerds. Really, anything but me. But that has all failed, and I'm alone again. I've lived my whole life mostly being alone, but now I'm faced fully with the bitter realization.
*I* am the most common denominator.
It's not my situation. I've worked hard to change my life situation multiple times now, and still I don't make friends. It's not my looks. I'm a tall white guy, I look nerdy but plenty of nerds have friends. It's all me. I just wish I knew what it was. How come it's so effortless for others? So easy for them to fall into social circles, and so easy for me to fall out of them? I must truly be unlikable, and I am cursed to not know why. I can only imagine the reason is as pathetic as me.
Today, there was a big college game. I had no one to go with, but I wanted to go just to tailgate. Instead, I panicked, and couldn't muster the strength to go, ending up all alone again. Perhaps that's why I have no friends here, I just don't have the strength to put myself out there. I've done so before, but it never gave me anything. No bonds. I don't even care about fricking women, I just want friends that care about me.
Tomorrow I'm going to the gym, at least. Physical pain helps offset the mental anguish. Then, I'm going to try enjoying college life as the loser I am. I give up trying to be normal and happy, I'll just be the autist I always was, and try to find happiness and meaning in that life. If I can't, I'm killing myself. Sorry mom.
As for the drink, I'll just take a water for now. If I'm back in a week, I want you to fricking kill me. And if any of you homosexuals actually read this, thanks I guess.
>Going to college for the sense of community
>Not going to actually study something
I feel you but that's not going to get you anywhere. If you lack passion and are just there to score then you're just gunna burn out and be depressed, again.
But, I'm in the same boat honestly. Already flunked out of undergrad once. Now I'm in a PhD program, but I'm old. I wanted to come back to make friends and score a girl, but it's just not going to happen if I want to succeed. I'll have a job I actually love by the time I'm 30 so I can love whoever comes my way, at the very least.
>inb4 thanks for playing
i was in your situation up until recently
i made a lot of friends just by clinging onto people that gave me the chance
eventually i got over myself and can make friends with anyone without any help and have a healthy social network
i've even had multiple lady friends and a real relationship
BUT
i never recovered from being sad and lonely
i act like a wounded animal and lash out even though i know my situation is better now
i snap on people for no reason and am generally just a shitty person when my true colors show
i've burnt almost every bridge i've built and have to keep building new ones just to keep up
recently i was incredibly shitty for no reason to a girl i loved and who i was hoping to build a future with. now even that's fricking over
i try so hard to be good to other people but eventually a switch always flips in my brain and i schizo out on people i really care about. it destroys me inside. there are very few people willing to put up with that and the vast majority of them are men
the road is very long and somewhat hellish. i know this isn't very encouraging, but even in my situation there were many moments that just make everything worth it. once you taste one of those moments of "i made it and it's all gonna be OK" you will never give up, no matter how much suffering is involved
btw being lonely is never the correct choice. you have biological needs for socializing almost on the same level as your biological need for food or water
Easy with the self-judgement there bucko. Most people develop lasting friendship when very young, the later you start the harder it is, not because of you, because people start having other priorities.
Making friends is not as viable anymore if you have:
1. Studies
2. A relationship/Family/Kids
3. Work
4. Hobbies
And please make a proper distinction between friends and acquaintances.
I'm very successful in making friends for one single reason, I'm really interested in the plight and dreams of the other.
If you suffer, we have something in common, if you have a drive about ANYTHING, I'll be curious to find out about your inner workings.
If however you have neither, we probably won't relate. Which is probably why I'm unable to befriend people or even have a romantic relationship with most women, they don't really suffer much, or their trials in life are surface-level, and their dreams are either non-existant, or again very surface-level. I can't related to people who have "travelling" as their main goal in life.
I'll have anything strong enough to make me blackout
>be me
>having a pretty good day
>finish two college assignments (I procrastinate a lot, so this feels like an achievement)
>clean the house a bit
>have some free time so play some vidya with my friends
>decide to open instagram at night to see what folks are up to
>a bunch of people posting pictures with their gfs
>suddenly every single rejection I've ever had hits me like a truck
>can't stop thinking about how no matter how many mires i get I'll always be a weirdo shut in with niche interests and nothing to offer women besides my looks
I was having such a good day too...
Most of the time I manage to ignore feeling like that, but sometimes it just hits really hard. Worst part is everyone just assumes I'm a super confident chad or something and I get girls all the time, it feels like everyone (Especially women) expects me to be someone i can't really live up to.
At the end of the day I mostly like fixing and playing with retro consoles and watching old school mecha anime (I do have more normal hobbies though, but I'm not as passionate about them), and I doubt most women are interested in that.
fake it till you make it brother
glad you got those assignments done, I'm just like you so I know how important that is
I don't have any social media app installed on my phone for that reason. If I want to check insta I have to do it in a browser which dissuades me just enough
Thanks man, I've been doing that and I managed to get into a friend group pretty quickly in college, and I'm pretty friendly with people outside of said friend group too.
It's really dating that eludes me, I have no problems making friendships with women weirdly enough. I didn't even care about it all that much, until I hit my 20s and got some gains and started receiving way more female attention than I could ever deal with, I genuinely feel completely overwhelmed and have no idea where to even begin as I got no practice as a teenager.
Manhattan with extra cherries please.
It's dumb but I'm worried my expressions while we frick isn't sexy. Is it unrealistic expectations from porn? Is it autism? He keeps staring during and it's making me overtaking.
Look up Ahegao
Bro get that ethot bullshit outta here.
I think he assumed you were a woman and not a gay anon. Heard an interesting story today and how the good HIV medication destroys your kidneys and bones lel.
kek no bussin lil' zoom zoom?
Its a common insecurity women have, the answer is they are sexy, knowing that you're causing someone enough pleasure that they lose control is hot. In porn the faces probably look sexy because the girls are faking pleasure. Dont stress about it.
Get me straight gasoline on the rocks.
I might finally have to break up with my girlfriend. She recently developed chronic pains that are making it difficult for her to walk and generally function and basically impossible for us to have sex, and after months of seeing doctors there's no plan of treatment whatsoever and no sign of any improvement in the future. She wanted to lose weight to potentially improve her symptoms but she's actually gained weight and after a while I realized she's completely delusional about her eating, she will eat over 3000 calories in a day and be convinced she just ate 2000. Ive tried to bring this up to her several times and it just starts a huge fight since she won't believe she's not overeating. She also seems to have emotional issues with food and since these pains started she keeps gaining weight since she keeps focusing on comfort foods.
The breakup will be complete hell for both of us and will probably make me a villain to a lot of people, but the realization that its either this or stay with her til death and never be sexually gratified again is hitting me so hard. Frick man. One of my friends also got fit, but unlike me his gf got fit with him and they went from dumpy nerds to a power couple. I am so jealous and so upset that couldn'tve been me and my gf.
knock her up and report back
sounds pretty straightforward.
>I have a libido
>I won't be attracted to you if you're fat
This is why you're open about your hate of fat people from the get-go anon
A food journal usually helps delusional people to see their habits up-front, tell her / help her with that. If she doesn't want to, then she's not delusional, she doesn't want to lose fat.
Also, it doesn't really matter bro, take it from a loser like me who has spent the last three years of a 6 year relationship on the dry because she didn't want to fix the problem. All I was getting was "all you care about for is sex" then I'd end up feeling bad, ignore my urges for a few days then start talking to her about it again.
This built up resentment towards the world because not only was I not having sex, I was not having sex with my girlfriend which is the only person you should have sex with, but also had to realize that she didn't care about my needs at all since she wasn't even trying to think about a solution to this problem, therapy couldn't even have been considered by her, but she wasn't even doing anything else intimacy-wise. We were friends in a romantic relationship, that's it. But I lied to myself that it'll change, that I would find solutions, that she will think about me as well.
Nothing, that was going to be the rest of my life and I couldn't take it anymore. If I was going to feel alone, I'd rather actually be alone than be alone while in a relationship.
And I thought she was the one, to this day I still think that.
how do i forget her
we had an extremely sudden and dramatic breakup complete with police involvement over the course of a single day
now she is unsuccessfully (so far) trying to ruin my life
we would cuddle and watch movies together all the time
i really liked her and we made each other noticeable happier, even to others
i've seen other girls since then but it just isn't the same. it has even become unenjoyable
i really thought this one was different. i never learn my lesson with these girls
i just want to feel happy with a girl i care about again but i am going to have a hard time trusting women or myself for a while now
i've been working all i can but when i'm not at work there is a gaping hole in my chest. i never knew i would let a girl do this to me
worst part is i would get back with her if we made up and she became the person she was before even though i know it can never happen
Alright, can someone please explain to my autistic ass what the frick I'm doing wrong here?
>girlfriend of 4 years has recently expressed interest in losing weight, though takes no active steps to do so
>I try to be as encouraging as humanly possible, staying positive all the way through
>cut to today, where we are out shopping
>she sees a dress she likes but says she's too fat for it
>I follow that up with "for now", to keep her spirits up and to let her know she can do it
>she immediately gets pissed off and tells me that she hates when I do that, and that she never wants me to say shit like that to her again
Seriously, why?
the only thing worse than calling a woman fat is calling her a bawd
If she's similar to my girlfriend then she doesn't want fake positivity. Women sometimes intentionally feel bad about shit so they can use it as fuel. Maybe it'd help if you were real with her about what it's gonna take, and then demonstrated to her that, despite all that, you're still gonna be there with her every step of the way. Women have like 5 times more thoughts per minute than we do, so she's surely thought of the downsides already. Maybe she just needs to hear you be like, "look, this is gonna be tough. But we have x, y, and z advantages so I think we can pull through." Just be straight up with her but also at the same time show her that you're gonna support her.
Sounds cringe but have you seen The Office? Remember the episode "Traveling Salesman" where the boss Michael gives a rallying speech to his assistant Pam when she's frightened? You can try giving her a speech like this.
1/2
Why are you going to so much effort for a fat stupid b***h
Lol
I monitor my gf's bodyfat and weight and just say she's getting fat if she gains a pound
>you can't do that
I am an abusive manipulative toxic gaslighting controlling man. Deal with it chuddies.
I'm aware there's people like you
Why aren't you one? My gf loves me more than yours love you. I know brcause I secretly installed a rootkit on all her personal devices and read all her texts and listen to all her phone calls.
It's cute to see people expressing their creative writing skills on here, keep it up!
Anon just find her password and put a single file on the main hdd
I ain't even a tech autist it is easy
lmao ur admitting to a felony on a honeypot website, skiddies btfo
>believes any of the shit he sees in these threads
aight
>u-uh n-no I was only KIDDING y-you guise did you know that people tell LIES on le hecking INTERWEBS?
Come on I'm waiting rdx above the door
2/2
Pam: I can’t do this.
Michael: What’s that?
Pam: I can’t do this. I had a real job. I sat ten feet away from my fiance. I had health benefits. I was just feeling impulsive. I should have gotten a tiny tattoo on my ankle.
Michael: Blech.
Pam: I just keep getting bored. And I let things build up and build up and then I – I, I do something too big, like this. Who does this?
Michael: Well you know what? My mom always used to say that average people are the most special people in the world. And that’s why God made so many.
Pam: We don’t have any money. We don’t have an office. We don’t have anything.
Michael: Well we should make a list. Lists are good. Lists are good. Lists are good. First on the list, let’s get you out of the car. Alright. [Pam tosses list out car window] Okay…
Pam: How come out of everyone in the office, I’m the only one that went with you? Is it because I’m that stupid? I mean, your own grandmother doesn’t even believe in you!
>Here's the part you should talk like:
Michael: I want you to listen to me. Because I want to tell you the situation that we are both in right now, kay? You quit your job. I quit my job. We both quit. Those are the facts. That’s what happened. Now, what are our choices right now? Because you know, kiddo, you quit.
Pam: Yeah.
Michael: So what are our options? Well, we can start this paper company. We can try. Or… that’s it. That’s our only option. Because we quit. Pam, I do my best work when people don’t believe in me. I remember in high school, my math teacher told me I was gonna flunk out. And know what I did? The very next day I went out and I scored more goals than anyone else in the history of the hockey team. See what I mean? I thrive on this. I thrive on it. So I’m gonna go inside. I’m going to make some calls, I’m gonna get us an office space, and I’m going to show you why you joined this company. Okay? [Pam nods]
>libido high as frick right now, whacking it four times a day
>no frickbuddies
Damn. Just want to colonize some Asians and hot Indian girls so bad bros.
Frick loneliness, man. Humans weren't meant to experience long-lasting social isolation. All I do is lift, drink and work. Kill me.
>inb4 some homosexual tells me to try
I AM trying. Just let me b***h to nobody in particular in peace.
I double-dare you to try a dating site.
yeah I'm the same way. but I feel like I could easily if I could get out of my shell. I've been repressed my whole life, didn't have any close childhood friends and I was so scared of judgement one time in middle school I peed my pants instead of asking to go to the bathroom.
just so scared, of judgement, rejection, or something else.
because of that I almost never fail at anything, because I always take the safest, surest path. I think that's the core of the issue.
That is exactly me. Even the pee story.
I even went an entire year of school with absolutely no friends in the class.
I think it's caused by emotional neglect in infancy.
I was put on artificial milk at 1 month old and was raised by a manipulative and neglecting nanny only interested by the money I got her.
> "I have been emotionally neglected"
Sounds like homosexual talk but it's one of the major cause of mental illness in today's society.
Working "mothers"...
I had the opposite
I would just play video games or read books under my desk all class
Got straight A's and my parents were easy to trick into taking my side so teachers never wanted to start shit since my parents were known for suing schools I went to when I made up believeable stories about the tracher emotionally and or sexually abusing me in private
People tried to be friends with me but I just ignorrd guys, fricked girls, didn't give a frick
So having a mother eho's too invested can be bad too I guess bro
I feel fine but most men day I'm a piece of shit lol epsecially dads of the girls I frick
Hmmm...seems like the only persons having a problem with that are the others.
You seem somewhat satisfied with your life, even maybe happy.
Compared to the depression leading to sometimes suicide from emotional neglect, it seems way better.
Do you want to mingle with people but can't ?
What do you lack in your life ?
What do you want that your raising has made difficult to achieve ?
I'm genuinely interested.
>What do you lack in your life ?
I can only feel alive when I sense genuine antagonism and hatred from people so I constantly get into verbal fights with armed people, try to bair police into attacking me without actually doing anything illegal (police are typically morons who don't know the law) and suing the pd, having sex with 17yos (legal in my state) and rubbing it in their dad's face etc.
But idk if that's even a consequence of my environment, the psychiatrist I had when I was younger said my anti sovial personality is caused by brain damage during birth. I just get bored unless I escalate to doing more extreme things and being in more extreme danger.
Have you thought about joining some PMC or politics ?
You might just be adapted to a world where adventure was around the corner, which doesnt exist in the west anymore.
Maybe try the hobo lifestyle, or backpacking in foreign land. Have you thought about that kind of stuff?
quit drinking
it WILL ruin your life if that is the only thing you do just for fun
Got hit with a case of what seems like ED, only 25, I’m pretty good besides that actually. Resolved a bunch of mental health issues I’ve had for years, but just very suddenly found my wiener not working right. Anyone know to how recover?
On any medicine to help mentally? That can cause ED. I also got ed suddenly at 25 on no meds so now im on taladafil daily. They had started me on viagra but that stuff gave me a headache and no wood
No nothing like that at all, this has actually completely blindsided me as I haven’t had any major stress or medical issue that might of caused it. I reduced my caffeine I guess? It’s been about 11 days since I realised something was wrong, probably had it as in 13 or 14 days ago maybe? My erections are at like 80% or less and my libido has dropped hard.
How do you thrust while having sex? I don't understand the movement, it feels so off when I try it. I can't stay hard during sex because I don't know what I'm doing. My gf gives me BJs and titfricks regularly, no erection problems there, but I still haven't managed to cum from benis in bagina yet.
Can someone describe what I should be doing in autistic detail
Have you tried having sex with men?
If you can't figure out how to procreate then maybe you weren't meant to.
Ancestors didn't use condoms didn't consider impregnation a risk. Have you tried not being a condescending Black person?
Your ancestors also didnt have practice baginas like onaholas or jars of peanut butter
Sheep
His ancestors were too autistic
>"h-hey sheepy, c-can I h-have some sheepussy?"
>*baaaaaah* (runs away)
>"y-you too"
wut
you know how to do this
every single one of our ancestors figured it out
just stop thinking about it or stop being a fatass
You have something wrong with you and should never procreate lol
Literally just thrust your hips...
Surely there are different ways to thrust your hips, what muscles do you engage in the process
Depends on the position but we both generally prefer doggy and I mostly feel iy in my quads and glutes
I do squats and shit but it's my endurance that starts giving out not strength
Got a new gf and her sex drive is too high
How do I improve thrust endurance
I can only pound her for 15 minutes before I get tired and she complains
I feel more open to the idea of a relationship being 24 and inexperienced now, but I realise how disadvantaged I am by the likelihood of me fricking up even basic stuff in couple or god forbid intimacy. At the same time, it'd only get worse over time and the only way out would be grinding through relationships to fail and learn
What do you even mean to learn?
You should have learned everything you need by age 8 max via basic interaction with family and peers
Lie, manipulate, gaslight, deceive, get what you want by saying whatever you have to. A "relationship" is no different grom friendship lol
have this girl who is blatantly into me and basically waiting for me to make a move. problem is that she’s my coworker, 19 (im 23) and i don’t want all the gossip around the office. she’s pretty hot but definitely not gf material, probably best if i steer clear unfortunately
I had an extremely painful head ache and unfortunately after taking some medicine it didn't go away. I'm getting better just now. However, I just beat my meat to ntr hentai. I feel bad. I hope I can overcome pornography one day. Specially this weird kind.
How do I stop being an autist? I grew up as a fat bastard that secluded himself and now that I’ve lost the weight, I have no social skills. All I do is lift, work, eat, and sleep.
Talk to people, basically. You don't get good at something without practice.
Read ‘How to make friends’ by Dale Carnegie, it has lots of tools you can use to carry a conversation and navigate the social world. The problem us social morons face is that our social compass is uncalibrated or we don’t know how to read it live. So read the book and have exploratory conversations with people you either won’t see again (like attendees in some convention) or just won’t lose by being you (like your dad).
Best of luck
i honestly believe its over
im not autistic but had traumatic childhood and was isolated and now that i have developed social skills i still dont want to associate with people because i was conditioned to hard to be a grey rock
You're all fricking homosexuals and I wish you hell.
Get rejected on grindr all night?
i lost everything in my life recently and am living out of my car
had career fiance etc and now have to start all over again
i fricked up bros
just found out my ex just got married with some old ugly ass dude... we're both 21..
im so confused and depressed
Keeping tabs on your exes is kinda toxic unless you look at it as a sign of you doing better without them.
>toxic
zoomer ass homosexual
It's not zoomer like bussin that doesn't mean anything meaningful. Toxic is an apt term to use when you're dealing with stuff that hurts you just to touch it.
WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
Aside from getting the anger of my zoomer gymbros, why shouldn't I as a 30-year-old phd student ask out the 18/19-year old cuties at the university gym?
if you have to ask you are never going to do it pussy
No reason not to, but you need to establish rapport first.
Some will think you're weird for asking them out because girls are socially automatons and they've been told any older man who has interest in a younger woman is a creep. Others will respond well if you're attractive.
>rapport
Lol
If you have to jump hoops to get your dick wet you are unfrickable
I'm not surprised an autistic person thinks being baseline social is jumping through hoops and not as natural and zero effort as breathing.
You don't need a rapport you just chat with them for a few days invite them to your house, they're dumb teenage freshmen in a form so they're impressed then you frick them record it and find another b***h lol
>you just chat with them for a few days
Congrats that's literally what building rapport is tardgay.
You have nothing in common with an 18 year old, and they become annoying too fricking quick.
I failed in everything and was too much humiliated in life. I don't know how to live for now on. I guy pointed that the symptoms that I am suffering for almost a decade are very similar to PTSD, I tried to check myself I a think some of the symptoms match... I don't have money for therapy.
Being alive is a hell for me sometimes.
I want to frick a blonde bombshell.
sometimes i want to have a gf but then i realize that i would actually have to spend time with her
This is me.
>get horny
>download tinder
>get shitton of matches (white guy in asia)
>thinking about how hot the sex will be, hit up a bunch of them
>get 2-3 girls who wanna go out today
>wish we could skip straight to the sex and instead ghost them so i dont have to waste my time
Why the frick am I like this bros? I'm not even shy. Just lazy.
This is me.
>get horny
>download tinder
>get shitton of matches (white guy in asia)
>thinking about how hot the sex will be, hit up a bunch of them
>get 2-3 girls who wanna go out today
>wish we could skip straight to the sex and instead ghost them so i dont have to waste my time .
Why the frick am I like this bros? I'm not even shy. Just lazy.
It's about the journey not the destination. Flirting for six hours can be more fun than 10 minutes of awkward sex with a stranger
>cuck
Wherever you go, there you are
Just admit women are annoying prostitutes
If I wasn't afraid of being called gay I'd just download grindr women are insufferable I hate them
Women are your only option for you to express sexuality. We're the same for them, we're their only way to express sexuality. If you enjoy sexuality then you enjoy the company of women. I say sexuality not sex, you can get sex without liking them.
People socially are tedious to deal with. I had a girl melt down on me because I didnt think she was autistic. My "irl friends" dont include me in anything anymore. Others that I know I cant seem to summon the willpower to give a damn enough or they're not interesting to try and deepen. I want someone to be worth it.. But I am not sure why thats so hard. Or maybe I am just not good enough.
Yeah this is partially true i guess. Once i get there and meet them it usually is a lot of fun and most of the times it does end in sex. But i just have such a hard fricking time actually going through with it purely due to laziness. Same with meeting my guy friends too. But i never meet them because there's no chance of sex ending. Why do i only care about sex wtf.
>Same with meeting my guy friends
Just frick them
"Laziness" is just the word you use for your real problem. It's obviously more than just "laziness"
I literally just dont feel like going outside because it's too much effort (when it comes to meeting women). Wtf else is the problem then moron?
>decide I'm unhappy living in my city
>move to a different one
>still unhappy
>decide I'm unhappy living in my country
>move to a different one
>still unhappy
>repeat, move to yet another country
>still unhappy
so yeah I realized that the problem is just me.
now I'm also in a different country with no friends and struggling with everything in a new environment.
I'm trying to enjoy the opportunity and have fun but holy frick it's just depressing to think that I could have spent all this time just trying to fix myself I guess
You were working through trying to identify the problems. Now that you know what the problem is will you rise to the occasion? You need to find what makes you unhaply.
i'm getting in a good period with training and food, but my girlfriend left me like 4 days ago. I'm feeling more "bored" and a bit down, how can i counteract this, when i have days of work
I don't drink, just drugs for me thanks.
I recently came out as a ex-Muslim to my family and it was as about as I expected. We had a big explosive """discussion""" about why I don't believe anymore but at the end they decided to leave it.
They're not happy about it. I guess they hope I'll revert at some point and it's the purest form of tolerating something but I'm fricking ecstatic. Finally, no more hiding.
>they decided to leave it
Better than what would happen to me
Sorry to hear that bro. Sounds like a skill issue but you should try it and see how it goes.
I've had a dating app profile set up for weeks but I refuse to make it public and take the plunge
I'm so wrought with anxiety about the state of online dating chaps, give me your wisdom
not worth it
it's just a stew of horrible people, just lowest of the lowest trash in both women and men
It's worth it if you keep this knowledge in mind and go through with it to get your po sucked tugged and fricked. I've been doing it and have fricked 10+ b***hes from there this year. But it's fricking annoying meeting a new b***h and preteneding to give a shit about them for 3 hours before finally getting to the fricking. And then you gotta fight and debate to go condomless. Shit sucks.
For example yesterday i met a b***h on tinder and we agreed to meet up so i went and she was slightly less pretty than her pics. Ok, not that bad though and fit. Then we walk and eat and click well, makeout some on a bench and i suggest going somewhere private. She says she's scared to move things too fast. Frick i'm not wasting my time, grab her hand and put it directly on my hard wiener and she giggled some. Suggest again. She says ok ONLY after i promise not to frick her. Shit's so gay. We get to her house where she immediately jumos on me, rips my clothes off, then starts sucking my wiener til it's hard and precumming. Guess what the c**t said next? Do you have a condom? My wiener went flaccid immediately. Did not want to waste all this time so i ran and got one and came back and fricked the b***h and BLOOD GOES EVERYWHERE. She's on her fricking period and didnt even let me know that when i was eating her out at first. Frick. She wanted more but i said i'd only do it if she let me go condomless, despite the blood, tried it and almost fricking gagged from the smell.
Well she did try and warn you about no sexxo
>t. Low test sub who just got his anus piped by a dominant alpha male
sorry I hit a nerve there buddy, dating apps are use by peasantry and basically people that have nothing going on for them in their lives
>t. Low test homosexual with so much going on in her life she posts on IST
worth it
you can meet girls you wouldn't meet otherwise, it just increases your exposure. most are bad but there are good ones
What kind of dating app are you talking about?
cringe (hinge)
I'm running away from life once more. Frick. Things move too fast and my mind is overtaken by this damn fog or desperate escapism for months at a time until I catch myself, just for the whole thing to happen again after the slightest period of complacence or self-doubt.
In happier news I've been toying with the idea of 3d printing a semi-functional Lament Configuration and sanding/priming/painting/assembling it as a small diy project.
i’m very skeptical of this 9/10 at my work. she is completely out of my league and has a relationship but acts weird. she asked me to come with her to the grocery store because her phone was empty and can’t pay, meanwhile she showed me something like two hours earlier with 80% battery. besides that she’s always overly happy to see me and touchy feely.
for a second i thought she just wanted me to pay for her shit but the same evening she sent me the money + extra. weird stuff, not sure what she wants from me.
Cum in her and change jobs
Getting ready to move away from my home town for the first time in my life at 32. No idea how to make new friends, do I just join a local hunting or fishing club? Rotary Club?
I met this girl who I really like
But she has a boyfriend
I was still getting closer to her and I feel like she likes me as well
But in the process I met her boyfriend
And I really like him in a heterosexual way as well
I think he'd be an amazing friend
And now I feel like a piece of shit for wanting to cuck him by getting close to his gf
What's the right move here
Threesome
I know a guy who was in the exact same situation but the girl kept leading him on and saying she was gonna leave her bf for him. He started shittalking the guy all the time and pressuring the girl - basically acting like the b***hiest beta - until she lost any attraction to him and nothing happened. Nowadays he's friends with both of them and with her very jealous new bf/fiance - who certainly doesn't know anything about it - and dates her ugly dangerhair sister while pretending that nothing happened and denying the whole situation the few times I asked him about it.
What I'm trying to say is: don't act like a b***h to the point you have to live in a web of cringe and denial down the line.
Want to add I have a former friend who did this. The woman he did it for was a fat slob. Rotund obese cow with a bad face and a whole list of mental disorders. The guy is my former friend for other reasons, but this did cause me to lose even more respect for him. He would shit talk the other guy like a massive beta b***h and the whole situation was just pathetic for everyone involved. The girl was obviously using him and he legitimately believed he was this crazy alpha badass. It was something any moron could have done. The girl was cheating on some video game addict neet loser with an incel who had an okay paying job and his own place. Dude peaked in highschool and did this mid 20s, would brag to everyone about how he hangs out with the bf and the bf has no clue the sow is fricking him. He also actually believed she wasnt having sex with the neet dork, delusional to avoid acknowledging they most likely hit on the same day. And the cherry on top of it all, when he finally pressured her into leaving the neet and to commit to him he moved her into his apartment the same day. SAME DAY. They were messing with each other for less than 4 months, but officially dating for under 24 hours and she moved in. And then she started beating him and any time I saw him he’d have black eyes and bruises and he’d break down crying about how he made a mistake, just to crawl back to her and accept his fate. I couldn’t keep someone like that around any longer. Dudes still delusional enough he brags about this, as if its hard to steal an ugly mentally ill abusive fatty from an absolute loser who still lives at home and doesn’t have a job or as if she hasnt turned him into her b***h. The worst part, and this is the key part of my point, she started to try to frick me often times right in front of his face. Quite literally asking me at times about how great sex life is because she was sure I have a massive wiener.
Youll inevitably get the same treatment as the bf.
Man, I'm
and the guy from your story is pretty much exactly like the one from mine. At some point he even called himself an "emotional bull" because she was constantly talking with him and treating him like a bf, except no sex lmao. She was a bossy and loose bpd hoe with a loser boyfriend, a giant body count and almost ten years older than this guy and he still acted like she was some kind of prize. It hasn't been long since he started dating the danger hair sister but I'm absolutely sure she's the one who wears the pants in the relationship and it wouldn't surprise me if he becomes a figurative or even literal cuck down the line.
>massive body count
The guy in my story brags about this. His blatant cuck mentality (paired with him being a shifty friend in general) got to be so much I had to cut him off. I remember so vividly when we had this conversation about body counts, it was along the lines of
>talking to him about why I’m on the fence about dumping my at the time gf (ex now), one of the redeeming things about her is her body count is the lowest of any woman I’ve been with, sub 3 and I’m either 2 or 3
>oh but how do you know that
>well I believe what she told me about her dating experience and normally I wouldn’t but she’s so one princess when we frick it seems like I’m teaching a virgin how to do the most basic things in bed
>thats horrible I need a real woman one who’s been around the block and fricked a bunch of different dudes like my girl, that way she knows what she’s doing
I even mentioned the fact that with an one pricked girl she’ll learn as you guys date and have sex over time, and even better she’ll learn specifically what YOU like in bed. And he acted like that wasn’t possible. Like it made no sense. Some people are just destined to be dumb pathetic individuals slaves to their delusional worlds.
Unrelated but same dude would tell me any woman I was talking to or dating were hideous (hottest was 8/10 face, 5’3” and 100lbs while still having an actually nice ass instead of being sticc) and then say that shit about how he has “a real woman” because she’s got titty and ass he can grab. And it would take everything in my power to not blurt out “yeah and she’s got a neck you can fold in 3 and a fupa and a 6” deep belly button and arms like a hippo on birth control”.
I think what did it was watching our other friend who knew him longer than me follow his downward spiral and end up in a sexless relationship with an unemployed obese girl of his own. I just had to get away from these losers.
So inexperienced*** not “one princess” wtf is that typo
To clarify, it was very awkward when we first began fricking, so much that I thought she actually was a virgin due to how tight she was. Shame she was such an entitled b***h, would have liked to stay with her. Hopefully I meet another woman of equal attractiveness with a low body count.
Cuck mentality:
>"Bro I don't want a virgin because I want a woman who's been trained to frick by other men."
Chad mentality:
>"I would prefer a virgin who will learn to frick with me instead of learning to frick with other men."
Idk what’s so crazy about this. I do realize for some people who argue against it it’s just virtue signaling, even if there’s no one else to hear it but the two people involved. But some people like that guy seem to actually believe what they say.
It’s just so logical to me to desire a lower body count or preferably virgin woman. No shit she’ll be inexperienced and awkward at first, who cares. She’ll also be shocked if your stroke game is even mediocre. But most importantly she will learn how to frick you exactly how you like. Sex will be more meaningful, the bond it fruits will be much deeper.
>Unrelated but same dude would tell me any woman I was talking to or dating were hideous
The guy I know is too woke to badmouth any woman but he constantly shittalked any men he knew about how they dealt with women. He always found something bad to say about them, no matter if they failed or succeeded on their conquests.
He's indirectly responsible for making me more comfortable with escalating things actually. The first time I did it and had a sexual conversation with a girl he mocked me and said I wasn't the kind of guy who could get away with doing that. I just thought to myself "who this motherfricker thinks he is to say what I can or can't do" and started doing it more.
I was in a similar situation twice. Long story short, it did not turn out well. Do i regret it? No, because i don't regret anything i ever did, so yeah i would do it again. If you care so much about her boyfriend maybe you should go on a date with him instead.
turn it into a trio and they both can frick you
Joined a muay thai gym and my knock knees along with my lack of flexibility are preventing me from doing the leg kicks right.
Also it turns out i suck at fighting which is in total contradiction with what my mind told me many times through my many intricate day dreams and night dreams.
You wouldn't expect yourself to magically know how to sew or sail a boat right out of the blue. Just keep practicing. If your coach or the guys you train with seem impatient with your progress remind yourself that some of them might be brain damaged and they might mentally be unable to go beyond:
>New guy can't kick for shit
>Grug wants good kicks
>why can't new guy understand Grug?
>Grug mad
Kicks are shit in a serious fight (armed/multiple opponents) anyway.
Real value of muay thai is in its clinch. Learn to clinch people and throw them from clinch.
>be 28, 6'0, 7/10 decent looking
>join church youth group cus no friends
>there's a bunch of cute girls there
>one three guys, all manlets
how to proceed? looking for a wife btw.
>Anon joins church group
>Immediately dismisses the men there and looks at the women as things he may acquire
For fricks sake. I know that in 2023 these words don't hold much meaning but you're in a church homie, try to be better. Have you thought about how you may be friendless due to the apathetic way you look at those around you?
Just like our forefathers did at church too.
oh good God, look at him go. People have been going to church for many reasons, but also to find a partner who holds a similar world view, so don't give me shit for looking in the right place. I'm not a eunuch. God said to go forth and multiply.
this.
>get knocked down
>don't want to get back up but do anyway
>each time i get knocked down it takes longer and more energy to get back up
is this what age is? just year after year of this shit until you finally have enough and lay down and die?
Water, as always.
The loneliness is hitting bros. So...
Have you ever dated an obese girl?
How is the sex? how bad the post nut clarity will hit? How did affect you socially ?
You're feeling lonely because fall/winter is coming and that is prime cuddle season.
If you're debating it this heavily you probably don't actually want to do it.
I'm an argie. Spring is coming, but I'm not.
>I'm an argie
My condolences. I hope one day they find the cure.
I love Argentina
Rigged
Cope seethe and dilate, homosexual.
Girl I was vibing with hard past two weeks got mad at me last night because she opened up with something vulnerable while I was drinking and I was at peak harassment tipsy and didn't catch what I said when I fired off real quick. She got pissed, left and then left me on read. Didn't even get a good night. Nothing this morning. Finally hit her up and spoke honesty that she knows I am sorry and that I mean it.. But she's still fricking mad at me and asked for more time. I have this bad feeling she won't message me tonight or tomorrow and then I will forcibly end it tomorrow.
What was her vulnerable thing? A dead family member? Can’t imagine you messed up that bad
She said she thinks she autistic, and working as a teacher I can say 100% she's not autistic. Shes got some debilitating psych problems but everyone has some of those but I chose to keep my mouth shut instead of trying to explain that distinction. She hangs onto shit people in her life all the time giving them a million changes, but because I am damn near perfect in comparison to most its actually hurt her more and she's gonna hold it against me long enough that I decide to cut my losses and end it. Shit like this is why dating is so discouraging.
I hear you. Most discouraging thing for me is accountability. Everyone makes mistakes and fricks up, but when it’s actually a big screw up I need the person I’m letting into my life to be able to suck it up, own that they fricked up, apologize, and take the opportunity to move past it with me if I’m providing one. I don’t necessarily need the apology even, just the ownership and taking the opportunity to work past the issue or regain my trust.
And most women can’t do that. It’s the classic
>yeah I know I made a mistake and hurt you but I will not apologize or accept that I did this, and now I will punish you for even mentioning it to me and I also expect YOU to apologize and make it right for speaking up
I can only okay that for small trivial shit. Not something bigger that diminishes my trust for you. It’s a clear sign I will be betrayed eventually.
Women are terrible about the emotional manipulation where they just leave a lot of shit unsaid but expect you to say everything like you mentioned. She knows I fricking care about her and want to see her do good. I know shes had terrible taste in men in the past, but frick it we're on a certain wave length where everything comes natural seemingly. Then she chooses to get mad at me after an EXCELLENT night of fun when I was drinking. I was in the fricking zone. But she chose after a certain point to just get mad at whatever I said. It had started with me trying to explain "tit buyoancy" when certain girls have the supple breasts that maintain their shape and she assumed I didn't like her breasts. I dunno what else I said but I know it definitely started with that and at the autism comment she blew up.
I dunno, if she doesn't start opening back up to me tomorrow I am going to chalk it up to her being a toxic b***h and hitting her ex up again. If she just said "hey I am going to be hanging out with the girls tonight and I think I might start crying if we talk.. So can we talk tomorrow? Don't your ass go anywhere, I still want you" would tell me a whole lot more than "I need more time" like b***h give me a timetable. I already warned her about my trait of having high standards for myself where I will cut people off that aren't improving my life.
Yeah it doesn’t sound like you messed up that bad. She sounds like she’s just choosing fights where there are none for the sake of having drama. Which is something I’ve seen far too much of. I just want a peaceful happy relationship, even if it’s only like that 50% of the time. I’m sick of the whole “you said X that clearly means you’re trying to say Y to me” NO b***h, IT MEANS X. IF I FELT Y I WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM SAYING IT TO YOUR FACE IN THE MOST BLUNT WAY IMAGINABLE. TRUST ME I DO NOT FEAR LOSING YOU, I MANAGED WITHOUT YOU AND I CAN CONTINUE THAT.
Or to provide a specific example
>I went through your phone and I saw you refer to me to this guy on Snapchat as [city name] girl so clearly you’re cheating on me
We’ve been together for 2 months. None of my friends know who you are. Why did you go through my phone
>no you’re lying you obviously have a girl in ever city nearby
Okay and do you see all these hoes in my phone
>silence
>IT DOESNT NATTER THAT MEANS YOURE CHEATING ON ME
And then it dragged on like that until I left her a few weeks later. Shit could chill and we’d start to be happy again and she instantly restarted the fight or wanted to give silent treatment. Shit she actually broke up with me over this saying she needed space then came crying back an hour later
>they just leave a lot of shit unsaid but expect you to say everything
Depends on their emotional attachment style and your gf sounds like she's the anxious type. They are needy with low self-esteem. She wants you to reassure your feelings for her, but needs it in such a roundabout way. Usually unprompted as well. You don't get the almost nonexistent hints and it only worsens things, which then obviously pisses you off too. There's ways to handle this, but it just depends if you're willing to.
>her being a toxic b***h and hitting her ex up again
Again, anxious and therefore seeking validation elsewhere.
>I will cut people off that aren't improving my life.
You don't owe anything to anyone. Especially someone causing you constant grief.
This isn't a "frick relationships" reply. In the end it's whatever you're willing to make the relationship work based on who she is as a person. I'm hoping this just leads to a better understanding of the situation.
Yeah I get all the things you're saying, its just hard to summon up the willpower to drag a woman kicking and screaming to happiness.
Is she actively trying to improve herself? A relationship is both parties working together to resolve an issue. It shouldn't just be on you to fix things. Do you really want to live the rest of your life with a woman like this?
I don't know. I thought so. Currently none of that matters because I am being impaled on the cross like Jesus.
>You don't owe anything to anyone. Especially someone causing you constant grief.
Not that anon but I needed to hear this. Thank you. I’m missing my ex from last year who most likely has long moved on from me. And I think back that’s all it did, cause me anxiety and shit feels. I don’t miss her. I miss the female companionship. Shit, she didn’t even live close enough to me for us to see each other often.
>emotional attachment style
Tell me more
It's based on how your parents/caregivers treated you as a kid and how that developed your perception of close relationships. It can seem like one of those dumb personality quizzes, but I feel like self-awareness can help you identify and understand behaviors to then improve upon them.
NTA but I alternate between Avoidant-Dismissive and Avoidant-Fearful.
I recommend anyone relating to this image to check out Pete Walker's books, they've helped me immensely, to the point where I can look back even at some of my mentally ill frickups in the past with pride knowing that I overcame it.
I thought therapy was bullshit until I found one and was able to talk to him on a personal level. Literally one appointment. Not only did he say its entirely unlikely i have any disorders, my issues are from more or less raising myself and having to be emotionally available for my mom to vent at me while never feeling like I could talk to her.
Tragically, many such cases.
Pete Walker's books are written precisely with people like you in mind.
Chapter 5 I believe of "Surviving to Thriving" is called "what if I was never hit?".
You don't need to accept any diagnosis at all, Pete Walker's work is for anyone still carrying baggage from childhood.
As for his credentials, he's a psychologist and spent his childhood being physically beaten and gaslit by his parents; his books draw both on the stuff he tried that didn't work (but might nonetheless have value, such as meditation) and what ultimately did work.
https://cptsdfoundation.org/2021/01/11/managing-emotional-flashbacks/
https://pete-walker.com/13StepsManageFlashbacks.htm
This idea of "emotional flashbacks" is pretty central. You can read that link within ten minutes, check it out, it's a good intro.
Good luck, anon.
I thought so too and I found one that was helping and then he kind of hit on me and it made me too uncomfortable to continue. Gave a homosexual a chance… I at least learned to mostly stop getting stuck in anxious negative thought loops and I’ve started crawling out of depression.
Checked. I’m saving your posts.. I WANT and need to fix this shit.
Only recently realized but my parents divorce likely had a much bigger impact than I thought
Huh I feel like I'm fairly in the secure camp but I do absolutely act out once all 4 steps have failed in the secure section e.g.
>GF and I are clearly having issues
>She starts acting batty and distrusting of me
>She gets increasingly paranoid
>Set up ways that she can regain trust in me
>Those fail and back to square one
>Result: Cut her off.
>avoidant
Frick
I will check it out. I’m going to have to. Glad to hear it’s possible to overcome.
C-PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving is a good guide, The Tao of Fully Feeling is a good emotional help, I'm not sure how to express it.
I read The Tao first and it put me in a place emotionally where the guidelines in Surviving to Thriving were easier to work with.
It's based on it but that shit changes a lot over the years - also has been indicated how you were treated as an infant is an incredibly small role.
I only say this cuz I've seen people treat it like myers briggs and pidgeonhole their personality into whatever bullshit that they get as a result. It also gets mostly misused by moronic women who spend too much time on social media and blame the moronic shit they do in relationships on it.
Secure is the goal, all others are symptoms of other shit. You don't have a specific 'style', you have other shit going on that prevents you from having normal, healthy relationships.
>I've seen people treat it like myers briggs and pidgeonhole their personality into whatever bullshit that they get as a result
I don't disagree. This is one of many tools that, again, can help you to easily identify issues to then improve upon. Environment also shapes who you are as a person as well as other infinite nuances. You are allowed to change. It's just good for some anons who don't know how to begin to find a general starting point.
Every night I dream that I wake up in a summer day, grab my stuff and go for a run in an european beach. I run the entire beach looking for topless women, then run back home. But it's a long ass dream, I run and run looking for every topless b***h as it gets late abd eventually I wake up horny.
I miss europe so bad.
Muscles don't matter when it comes to sex
Just be low bodyfat, I learned this lesson the hard way
>he thought bloatlord was just an aesthetic
What part of "you have to live it" was ambiguous to you?
>break neetdom at 29
>actually useful at my job
>good career prospects
>started lifting again
>bought a cheapo guitar and learning scales and stuff
is this what it feels like to have your shit together
how did you do it
learned to code
yeah, but those are the problems you encounter moving forward, they're preferable to just staying in place
What are you coding
desktop software for a solar energy company
I went in with a "whatever happens, happens" mindset, just realize that this new reality for you is just another day for everyone else, there is nothing special about it nor does it deserve to drain you mentally, do what must be done with a cool head
27 here will be 28 soon. I’m trying to break out of it but if I don’t into my apprenticeship this January and I still can’t get ANY job even a min wage retail one in the mean time, I’ll be neet for another year. What did you go into to this guy
?
I tried learning to code but I couldn’t get the hang of basic python.
Cheers man that helps
I got a CS degree and found a software job after months of searching
Good luck to you anons
What I meant more is that the problems you solve.. Just get progressively harder and more numerous the faster you solve them.
how/what did you use to "learn to code", and how do you know that it could translate to any random job like desktop stuff ata solar company
Yeah, until life starts throwing you curve balls. I'm trying to buy a house at the moment and its sapping all my energy to get it out of legal hell and on top of that financial hell as I am having to pay a bunch of upfront costs.
Hey man I'm about to break out of neetdom too at 28. Starting my first job in a few weeks.. you got any tips for me? I just want to handle it well mentally
I'm a former neet, but now i am back in education. What sucks is that i can't afford an appartment because my wage is so ridiculously low. Now i'm stuck living with my mother until i'm 28 or 29.
IKTF and it fricking blows. Being damn near 30 and living with your parent. It stunts you, makes you feel like a little kid. And that feeling of ease and comfort you had as a child is gone, it can only be found in your own house.
If you have online classes I recommend looking at rents in cities a little further away. I’m over my hometown, it’s invaded with nigs, but I managed to find a city about 2 hours away that’s mostly white, a lot safer, cleaner, and rent is significantly cheaper. Here a 1 bed in the hood is $1700-$2500. Up there I can find a 1 bed for $1000-$1300. I still need a fricking job to be able to consider that, however
where is a good place for spergs to meet cool people?
Bit of an off-topic question for a feels bar, but I don't know where else to ask so I may as well seek help from my IST friends.
I can't fricking load images on IST. Every other website I have no issues with: images load fine, videos load fine, but on IST it takes 2-3 minutes for a single image to expand if I click on it. I use Google Chrome. I've tried clearing my cookies and my cache, but that didn't fix anything. I don't know what the frick is going on. Could it be my add block?
It's been a thing
Thank you so much anon. I asked basically that same question a few days ago and no one replied so I assumed it was an issue on my end.
I thought it was just me. I wonder what it is? I noticed if phone posting turning on wifi fixes it and it insta opens
>reeeee phone poster
Don’t care
I'm a functioning Alcoholic? I've been drinking regularly since I was 15. I'm 31 now and started going to the gym again. I hear Alcohol is horrible for gains so I'm 2 weeks in and feel blegh
Define "regularly".
Generally if you're drinking by yourself or have difficulty getting through the week without a drink, you're an alcoholic.
Alcohol is pretty bad for gains, especially if not done in moderation.
>lowers testosterone
>interrupts protein synthesis
>CNS depressant
>hepatoxic
>irritates the digestive system
>spikes insulin (I think)
I'm going to go to the gym again tomorrow, though I'm nervous Anons, I keep finding legendary ways to frick up my squats, without my previous mentor who's on the other side of the country I'm afraid, but I'm going to warm up, I'm going to try Anons.
>the 4/10 nerdy girl i was paired with for lab last year is ghosting me
maybe it is actually over, perhaps even so over
Welcome to women liberation era.
See you at 40 where you'll have a line of desperate single moms begging for a partner in life.
It's not over, it's just stupid. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Stop looking for romantic companionship and do something with your life instead, love is a game where the one that desires the least, wins.
At least for most people.
I'm legit rich and can do anything with my life by spending money but I don't have any ideas. As moronic as it sounds what would you do if you could?
damn that must be painful
I would just do normie shit like luxury travel and eating at fancy restaurants where it's $200 for small portion, my life wouldn't change in any meaningful way. That's the thing about money, yes it's great if you don't have to work and most of your problems are easily solved by opening your chequebook but you're deprived of a conventional structure in which people find meaning, identity, and purpose. Everyone thinks they would develop all these interesting hobbies or devote most of their time to mastering something but most likely they would become yet another boring rich person.
I got rich in a moronic tech way. If you make it but are a sperg it's still just fricking over. Money can't compensate for a lifetime of sperging. It's why techdouches are so fricking tasteless and weird. That scene in Silicon Valley about the biz guy telling the nerds they are too pussy to drive a McLaren was true.
>I got rich in a moronic tech way.
what does this mean?
equity lottery + yoloing money into random shitcoins and stocks years back. Literally luck and no skill.
Understandable.
Then, as advice for your financial stability would be securing your money like another anon has said, freedom is much more valuable than products of any type.
I'd secure my bases, I'd get a house or flat to have a place to return if needed, if unused due to other circumstances, you can rent it out.
Then I'd spend quite a bit of time on researching banks and stocks to secure some sort of passive income.
If I can invest a large sum of money to earn the bare minimum necessary for me to live without working a job (food, upkeep, transportation, housing/renting), then I'll have the upper hand in handling job offers freely or spend my time attempting to make stuff that I actually care about.
Unfortunately the minimum wage in my country is enough to pay for city flat rent and upkeep, not even enough to eat.
If I would have an income of 600-700 bucks per month, I'd be able to give up working and start working for myself freely.
But I have no experience with that level of finances especially from other countries and all I have is a motorcycle to my name, don't even think I'll be able to own a house on my own, maybe when my parents die and get their flat so my advice is probably not even good, best case I can make is to invest your money as such you avoid the poverty-line as much as possible.
>I got rich in a moronic tech way
>That scene in Silicon Valley about the biz guy telling the nerds they are too pussy to drive a McLaren was true
I'm curious two things:
1. The "moronic" method
2. Your starting income/investment
There really isn't anything stopping you from buying McLaren just so you can go 5 mph over the speed limit in traffic like everyone else. Maybe it takes some social chops to throw ritzy parties and snort coke off prostitutes but the reason you don't do this is probably lack of interest, possibly lack of self-confidence if that isn't the case, but there is no great obstacle. You should to develop something absent of money that can't be easily taken away from you, maybe it's as simple as a fast 5k run time, but whatever helps you feel comfortable in your own skin and not a random weirdo who got luckily playing the improved lottery.
First thing I'd do is actually secure my money supply. Make some investments, get some dividend-earning stocks, maybe get an ownership stake in a startup or something so I'm entitled to a decent amount of money. Obviously startups are high-risk but you said you wanted ideas.
In fact, that is my suggestion. Look into startups that seem to have promise to do some good for the world. Be a venture capitalist.
It's natural for people to, once they have their needs satisfied, to look outwards. Have fun travelling and stuff, maybe buy a house in an area that you would want to live in, but think longer-term as well.
hes an autistic moron who has realizedmoney cant buy his happiness. you think getting more money will do anything for him? lol
Reread my post. I said secure it first, then try to do good with it.
Learn niche craftsman things. Go to Japan and apprentice under a Noh mask maker, live a couple years in Switzerland learning watchmaking, visit that american guy who made a wooden table full of puzzles and secret locks and pay to learn carpentry under him. I would also finance people who do this, like that one westerner who mastered the Japanese bamboo flute or that British sculptor who studies ancient sculpting techniques.
I'm
. Basically, I'm depressed and disgusted with myself for the past few months after ghosting my gym and coach. I haven't trained, and other aspects of my life got worse after I left. Now I'm stuck working a shitty overnight, sleep deprived, and back to vices.
I ask, is it possible for a coward with no virtues to change and make it? I'm already in my late 20s and am behind on nearly every metric
When do you know it’s time to end a relationship?
How do you move on when she really seemed like the one and you feel like you’ll meet another woman who it works with?
haven't drank in a week
i got really bad withdrawals when i stopped so i know i have a problem
i feel really good now but i will be severely tempted this week to just have one or two at a bar with people i haven't seen in a while
i wish i knew people that didn't drink all the time