>be me, happy 27 yo with good lifting routine, stable job and gf
>suddenly a couple of weeks ago, gf announces she got a promotion and is now outearning me
Since apparently I'm a petty gay that only defines himself through my career, this has completely shut me down
>T has plummeted
>fail all my lifts
>barely eat
>distracted at work
>cannot get hard during sex anymore
How can I ever cope/recover from this?
gay
>I'm a petty gay that only defines himself through my career
do wagies really
If I were a pretty gay I wouldn’t stress about it since I’d looksmog her
He said petty thoughever
Why does that frog have no nose
Anon, if you have a petty problem what you need is a petty victory. Pick a fight with someone weaker than you. Verbally abuse a retail worker. Chase someone who cuts you off in traffic back to their house and livestream the confrontation on their driveway on FB live and then get banned for all the slurs you use. Feel like a big man.
Just break up
It's only a matter of time before she dumps you anyway
Not what I wanted to hear. Then again, the way I feel there is surely something off about that dynamic.
I kind of want to bust my ass to get a promotion myself now but I feel like that would be even pettier and create kind of an unhealthy dynamic. I don't want to compete with my gf. But then again, apparently I do.
How do you cope? Have you just accepted your fate? Do you plan on becoming a stay at home dad when you guys have kids?
>How do you cope? Have you just accepted your fate? Do you plan on becoming a stay at home dad when you guys have kids?
I already cook take care of grocery shopping, gardening, household DIY etc, whilst she manages our joint finances and bills and stuff. She's got a good head for that kind of stuff, she's very organised and likes to plan things out weeks or months in advance, I'm more of a spur-of-the-moment, spontaneous personality. We're playing to our strengths I guess. IDK I'm pretty right-of-centre and socially conservative, but I never based my self-esteem on my career or my income.
Thanks. I'm glad it works out for you. I guess I have to figure out my priorities in the coming weeks
I really, really, really, really don't want to get back on dating apps though
Thanks bro. Disregard your income and her income: is she the woman you want to be the mother of your children? If the answer to that question is yes, then nothing else matters, hold onto her.
This mentality is retarded. When you are a couple you are a team. There is not me, neither you. Money does not matter as long as you can sustain yourself. You should change that mentality, your woman has raised in value in society and is still your woman. Embrace that, and do not believe the stupid maymays that appear on the internet about being an "alpha" and the "provider". She will not leave you because she earns more, but she will absolutely leave you if you are an insecure bitch about it.
This anon advice is what you should follow OP.
>is she the woman you want to be the mother of your children
If only I knew
>gf announces she got a promotion and is now outearning me
Be careful, this happened to me when my fiancee dropped out of college and become a cop while I was still in college my junior year. Became a total bitch all the sudden because:
>"anon, we are different places in life now since you're still being supported by your parents and I make 65k and now have my own apartment"
I should have killed the relationship right then and there but I held on trying to do everything to live up to her expectations of being "independent" while busting my ass passing ochem so I could get into med school.
Some women will lose attraction when they become the top earner in a relationship, be careful anon.
>Some women will lose attraction when they become the top earner in a relationship
All women will lose attraction when they become the top earner in a relationship
Agree to an extent but some women are cool and don't care, but they're rare
Nah, I had the opposite experiences back when I was having issues
Most, not all.
My wife is partner at a law firm and outearns me 2x. Still ogles me whenever I'm dressing/undressing and grabs my ass several times a day. She's definitely the exception to the rule though, she's unironically "not like the other girls".
Based grass-toucher
That's kinda gay. As a man, you should effortlessly outearn a woman, unless she's some sort of genius. If that's the case and she's making upwards of $200k you should impregnate and be a sahd.
I assume that's not it though and you must have a shit job. You should get a new one, it's easy to get around 150 in any trade
You're an idiot and should be happy for her, you know how many girls out there are bums that do nothing for their lives or have shit for work like sex work
You will not recover from this unless you will somehow feel superior to her again
If u feel inferior to a girl it's pretty much over
>NOOO
>MR. SHEKELSTEIN CAN'T PAY YOU MORE THAN ME!!
>I AM THE SUPREME GOOD GOY WAGESLAVE!!!
kek imagine
She will probably leave you now.
It's sad but true.