No this is the right time to dry fast and focus on the health gains you made as well as practice patience because your body needs time to restore and recover.
This is very embarrassing, but whenever i get discouraged and want to give up because things are not going how i wish they would or it seems like i will never reach my goals, my brain plays this. It is so silly that it makes me grin and then i am in a better mood and decide to trust the process and keep going despite it all.
I am sure you look better in clothes now than you did before. I also bet you like your face now a lot better than before. That is not nothing. You want to give up because it is not perfect? That is pathetic. Ofc your body will never be the image of perfection ever again. But if only perfection is worth it to you then yeah, maybe ending it is your only option since perfection is rarely achieved irl, much less held on to for more than a moment. Striving to get as close as possible will still always be worth it, no matter how close you can realistically get. As long as you strive towards it, you are going up and that is more than what most people do. Most live in a perpetual state of decline. Having improved your body composition already puts you way ahead of that since your markers are going up.
Idk, I avoid looking in the mirror ever in general
10 months ago
Anonymous
Well then, do you FEEL any better? Any health issues that have improved? Think hard. Because it is easy to forget how shitty you used to feel 80lbs ago. I remember 40lbs ago i sometimes got heart burn when lying down and felt like not getting enough air. This is gone completely. Or i used to get stinging in my soles in the morning. Gone too. My skin was all sorts of fricked up and healing took forever. Way better now. Focus on these wins.
10 months ago
Anonymous
I feel slightly better maybe, but it's barely anything
I was confident enough to look in the mirror today naked and it was a huge mistake
10 months ago
Anonymous
Yeah, i feel you. Don‘t ever do that again. Your body will never look how you want it to look anon. It sucks but it is what it is. It will look better than it did before but not perfect. If seeing how not perfect it is floors you like that then your only option is to NOT look at it and keep going anyways. Personally idk if i will ever get to a point where i can look in the mirror and feel ok with what i see. That ship has sailed long ago and i know how fricking demotivating and painful that feels. I do understand the thought of why even keep going if this is what you get for all the discipline you have put in. Idk if there is a right answer. For me, giving up is not an option because there is so many other things in my life that are worth it even if my body does never live up to my standards to make keeping on keeping on a valid strategy. I suppose this is not the case for you because otherwise you would not be contemplating suicide. Idk what to tell you really. You have made it this far. Few do. That requires inhuman amounts of discipline and keeping your head up despite it all. You really want to quit now? Why not see it trough a little longer and see if you might not find something that makes keeping on feel worth it again?
10 months ago
Anonymous
I'll keep going I guess because I don't have anything else left, but I won't be able handle mentally that I'll never be able to look in the mirror ever
10 months ago
Anonymous
>handle mentally
Well then maybe your next focus should be on building mental endurance anon. You CAN falter in the face of adversity, but is that really the best you got?
My guy I’m gonna practice some radical candor because I feel like that’s what you came here for.
Have you looked into surgical options?
I feel like at this point you could get a doctor to argue that it’s non-cosmetic due to bacterial concerns or something.
Seriously, congrats on the weight loss.
Also this. You can go to a psychiatrist and probably get insurance to cover surgery because it causes you insane mental distress to the point of being suicidal. Friend of mine got her boob job covered like that. But i agree with you, surgery is not going to make you like what you see in the mirror either. You will always see the scars and how things just don‘t sit quiet right. So really, your option here seems to be to exercise the frick out of your mental and emotional stamina and power.
10 months ago
Anonymous
you’ve gotta be kidding about the boob job lmao
10 months ago
Anonymous
Nope. She didn‘t do it though because she figured it would do her better to work on her mental health instead of trying to cater to her insecurity by trying to appeal to it and work around having to git gud emotionally. She still does not like her boobs (to be fair, they are tiny and saggy, so she really got unlucky af there) but she is doing fine otherwise.
As far as I know the insurance here covers surgery costs as longs as I can prove that my BMI changed at least by 10 points
[...]
Idk, count calories
Everything else is just bullshit, and eat a lot of potatoes (not deep-fried in oil)
Did not know the details but i suppose that makes sense. However, as the example of my friend shows, they sometimes also do cover plastic surgery not related to weight loss if the emotional suffering is too great if not done. Probably greatly depends on what country you are in though. This is how it is in switzerland.
10 months ago
Anonymous
>not the us
This does math all of a sudden. Ty anon ur country sounds cool.
10 months ago
Anonymous
I'm stupid though, becuase I have no actual proofs of my staring weight, aside from my yearly medical checkup where they shoudl weight me but they never do
10 months ago
Anonymous
You can just calculate what weight you would be at a bmi of around 22/23 and take that as the goal for now.
10 months ago
Anonymous
My goal weight is 200lbs, I checked plenty of pictures and that weight should be ok with my height.
I mean, it‘s your body but i‘d be devastated if the guy i dated would get his body hair removed. Just looks off but might be personal preference. Imo it is always better to try and work with what you have instead of going for a totally different aesthetic. It is just exhausting and never looks quiet right. Ofc you will never have one of those pale smooth twink bodies, but there is other ways you can be hot af, yknow?
I don't know maybe it's just me grossed out by my body hair I just think it looks like shit.
Afaik shaving doesn't work for vody hair because it will grow back even worse
10 months ago
Anonymous
Well then that is a frame of reference. You can always adjust that once you reach it if it is not what you thought it will be. >shaving
Nah, it does not grow back stronger (i know for certain, i‘m a hairdresser, kek). What happens is that you cut off the tapered ends and thus it appears more coarse and prickly. If you wax it, that won‘t happen because the new hair growth will also have a normal tapered tip instead of a flat cut off one. Pic rel (cut sharp, natural tapered, fizzled out) Personally i just use hair removal cream because it doesn‘t result in the prickly growth like shaving and does not cause so much stress to the skin like waxing or laser. Best of both worlds really. It just melts off the visible parts of the hair so the new growth has kind of a fizzled out tip, which is pretty close to how it would grow naturally.
10 months ago
Anonymous
So I just apply the removal cream and the hair just "falls off"?
10 months ago
Anonymous
Yep. Well, you basically exfoliate it off (i use exfoliating gloves instead of the weird spatulas that usually comes with the cream for easy of use and maximum softness and thorough removal). It dissolves the keratin. It is actually quiet satisfying, the hair becomes almost gelatinous and you can stretch it like jiggly rubber.
10 months ago
Anonymous
That sounds great, maybe I can finally remove hair from my back
10 months ago
Anonymous
Yes, that could work. You can get these things with handled to put on body lotion (pic rel left) for your back and apply it like that and then use these back exfoliating things (pic rel right) to take it off again.
10 months ago
Anonymous
As far as I know the insurance here covers surgery costs as longs as I can prove that my BMI changed at least by 10 points
Do you have any weight loss tips?
I’ve plateaued about 30lbs from my goal weight.
Idk, count calories
Everything else is just bullshit, and eat a lot of potatoes (not deep-fried in oil)
10 months ago
Anonymous
That’s sick that insurance covers it.
That would be crazy motivation for me.
How many points down are you so far?
10 months ago
Anonymous
I don't know my starting weigh, but it was around 46bmi, current bmi is 36.8
10 months ago
Anonymous
My fricking guy.
You can quit in .4 of a bmi or whatever and qualify for the surgery.
what if they’d let you do it twice if you got from 36 to 26
10 months ago
Anonymous
This was mostly a joke.
What’s your goal weight?
10 months ago
Anonymous
No way, I don't want any kind of surgeries until I'm 190 or 200 lbs.
I saw lose skin surgery pics and some people do them while they are obese and they look like freakshows afterwards
10 months ago
Anonymous
This. Get to your goal weight then give your body AT LEAST a year to restore and recover the skin and then see what needs fixing if at all. Als, as the other anons said, look into how to help your skin elasticity. Trace minerals, hyaluronic acid and collagen as supplements might be worth a try. If they don‘t help, they at least don‘t make it worse, eh?
why don’t you just fricking have a nice day you self loathing pile of shit
you made it through all that effort to lose 80lbs and you still b***h and whine like a fatass
As far as I know the insurance here covers surgery costs as longs as I can prove that my BMI changed at least by 10 points
[...]
Idk, count calories
Everything else is just bullshit, and eat a lot of potatoes (not deep-fried in oil)
That’s sick that insurance covers it.
That would be crazy motivation for me.
How many points down are you so far?
Dry fast and make sure to eat foods that have good effects on skin/collagen, consider surgery if thats in the cards, keep going this is impressive.
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It's understandable but what you've done is nothing short of great progress, do what you can to improve your apperance and remember that even if you feel you look like shit you DO look better clothed, and I'm certian you feel better physically, YGMI OP
My guy I’m gonna practice some radical candor because I feel like that’s what you came here for.
Have you looked into surgical options?
I feel like at this point you could get a doctor to argue that it’s non-cosmetic due to bacterial concerns or something.
That’s an awesome plan.
I think you’ve got your answer then, homie.
Keep killing the game on your diet in the mean time, keep your head down and buy some well fitting clothes.
That was the first time I've ever seen myself in a mirror and I'm repulsed by how I look and it's about 40% the hair. So i'll just get it laser removed or some shit
I mean, it‘s your body but i‘d be devastated if the guy i dated would get his body hair removed. Just looks off but might be personal preference. Imo it is always better to try and work with what you have instead of going for a totally different aesthetic. It is just exhausting and never looks quiet right. Ofc you will never have one of those pale smooth twink bodies, but there is other ways you can be hot af, yknow?
wtf your loose skin, especially your breasts and body hair looks like mine but i lost 90kg (180->90) at 182cm
anyway gl, you didnt lose all this weight just to kys
also are those breasts gyno or just loose skin? mine look exactly like that but i cant tell
You have two choices: wallow in self-pity or keep going and work out until your body gets better. You may not be where you are today, but tomorrow you won't be here either, so internalize the fact that time is fleeting and that rockets can't go in reverse.
Watching former fatties realize their horrendous disgusting lifestyles cant just be brushed under the rug by losing some fat tissue makes me so happy hahah it's hilarious
And please dont KYS OP. You should live as an example to other pigs so that they are reminded of what they are.
Ah yes because kids can chose the circumstances they are born into and the ingrained habits that come with that and they should be able to overcome these at age 6, no matter the habits of everyone around them so they do not end up getting obese by age 7. Silly me, how could i have forgotten. Seriously anon, this is just sad. Ofc people have to take responsibility for their health and ofc there is always a way out of it and ofc the goal should be to never even let it get to that point but thinking you are better just because you either never got into that situation or you beat it sooner than others is pathetic. Being raised with good habits or having the resources to learn and implement good habits early enough to not suffer the consequences of not having them is nothing but pure luck. Sure, the older you get, the more time you had to educate yourself and overcome the less than ideal start to life you had but rarely does someone just have bad eating habits but their life is going well otherwise. Usually kids that end up getting fat come from families that have neglected them due to their own dysfunctionality, Chances are that if your parents could not i grain healthy eating/exercising habits into you by the age of ten, they also failed to teach you all the other necessary things to be a healthy person physically, mentally and emotionally and that not only leads to being fat but usually the fat people also do not have good relationships, have shitty education and work dead end jobs. Being fat is just one of many areas in their life that is completely fricked up and it is not because fat people are just stupid and lazy. It is because dysfunctional people are the ones getting fat, being broke and having none or shitty relationships. And wether or not they became adults with a set of habits that set them up for success or not certainly was not in their control up to that point. Anyways, you most likely could not care less. Oh well.
No, now is the time to double down.
Once you can see muscles and definition under the skin sheet, then get skin removal surgery.
It isn't all that expensive (most could save up for it in a years time).
Use it as motivation. Get yourself in order financially as well as physically. Start putting away whatever you can, and use it as the final reward for losing the weight and getting strong.
You already lived life in a gross fat body, this is no different, and infact is deserving of more respect.
You are doing great if you lost that much already. The only thing that should make you want to rope is if you give it all up and go back to being a gig fat.
You can still make it brother
Dude congrats, you are seriously making it, keep up losing the weight. I am sure other anons will be able to tell you how long it will take for baggy skin to go away but you are seriously doing good
No this is the right time to dry fast and focus on the health gains you made as well as practice patience because your body needs time to restore and recover.
congratulations bro, you've done well. keep going
This is very embarrassing, but whenever i get discouraged and want to give up because things are not going how i wish they would or it seems like i will never reach my goals, my brain plays this. It is so silly that it makes me grin and then i am in a better mood and decide to trust the process and keep going despite it all.
its not embarrassing if it helps you, anon
as they say, dont kill the part of you thats cringe, kill the part of you that cringes
no it's the time to lose 80lbs more
Why bother if I look this shit now?
I am sure you look better in clothes now than you did before. I also bet you like your face now a lot better than before. That is not nothing. You want to give up because it is not perfect? That is pathetic. Ofc your body will never be the image of perfection ever again. But if only perfection is worth it to you then yeah, maybe ending it is your only option since perfection is rarely achieved irl, much less held on to for more than a moment. Striving to get as close as possible will still always be worth it, no matter how close you can realistically get. As long as you strive towards it, you are going up and that is more than what most people do. Most live in a perpetual state of decline. Having improved your body composition already puts you way ahead of that since your markers are going up.
Dunno I look like ass in clothes too
Sure, but less ass than before, no?
Idk, I avoid looking in the mirror ever in general
Well then, do you FEEL any better? Any health issues that have improved? Think hard. Because it is easy to forget how shitty you used to feel 80lbs ago. I remember 40lbs ago i sometimes got heart burn when lying down and felt like not getting enough air. This is gone completely. Or i used to get stinging in my soles in the morning. Gone too. My skin was all sorts of fricked up and healing took forever. Way better now. Focus on these wins.
I feel slightly better maybe, but it's barely anything
I was confident enough to look in the mirror today naked and it was a huge mistake
Yeah, i feel you. Don‘t ever do that again. Your body will never look how you want it to look anon. It sucks but it is what it is. It will look better than it did before but not perfect. If seeing how not perfect it is floors you like that then your only option is to NOT look at it and keep going anyways. Personally idk if i will ever get to a point where i can look in the mirror and feel ok with what i see. That ship has sailed long ago and i know how fricking demotivating and painful that feels. I do understand the thought of why even keep going if this is what you get for all the discipline you have put in. Idk if there is a right answer. For me, giving up is not an option because there is so many other things in my life that are worth it even if my body does never live up to my standards to make keeping on keeping on a valid strategy. I suppose this is not the case for you because otherwise you would not be contemplating suicide. Idk what to tell you really. You have made it this far. Few do. That requires inhuman amounts of discipline and keeping your head up despite it all. You really want to quit now? Why not see it trough a little longer and see if you might not find something that makes keeping on feel worth it again?
I'll keep going I guess because I don't have anything else left, but I won't be able handle mentally that I'll never be able to look in the mirror ever
>handle mentally
Well then maybe your next focus should be on building mental endurance anon. You CAN falter in the face of adversity, but is that really the best you got?
Also this. You can go to a psychiatrist and probably get insurance to cover surgery because it causes you insane mental distress to the point of being suicidal. Friend of mine got her boob job covered like that. But i agree with you, surgery is not going to make you like what you see in the mirror either. You will always see the scars and how things just don‘t sit quiet right. So really, your option here seems to be to exercise the frick out of your mental and emotional stamina and power.
you’ve gotta be kidding about the boob job lmao
Nope. She didn‘t do it though because she figured it would do her better to work on her mental health instead of trying to cater to her insecurity by trying to appeal to it and work around having to git gud emotionally. She still does not like her boobs (to be fair, they are tiny and saggy, so she really got unlucky af there) but she is doing fine otherwise.
Did not know the details but i suppose that makes sense. However, as the example of my friend shows, they sometimes also do cover plastic surgery not related to weight loss if the emotional suffering is too great if not done. Probably greatly depends on what country you are in though. This is how it is in switzerland.
>not the us
This does math all of a sudden. Ty anon ur country sounds cool.
I'm stupid though, becuase I have no actual proofs of my staring weight, aside from my yearly medical checkup where they shoudl weight me but they never do
You can just calculate what weight you would be at a bmi of around 22/23 and take that as the goal for now.
My goal weight is 200lbs, I checked plenty of pictures and that weight should be ok with my height.
I don't know maybe it's just me grossed out by my body hair I just think it looks like shit.
Afaik shaving doesn't work for vody hair because it will grow back even worse
Well then that is a frame of reference. You can always adjust that once you reach it if it is not what you thought it will be.
>shaving
Nah, it does not grow back stronger (i know for certain, i‘m a hairdresser, kek). What happens is that you cut off the tapered ends and thus it appears more coarse and prickly. If you wax it, that won‘t happen because the new hair growth will also have a normal tapered tip instead of a flat cut off one. Pic rel (cut sharp, natural tapered, fizzled out) Personally i just use hair removal cream because it doesn‘t result in the prickly growth like shaving and does not cause so much stress to the skin like waxing or laser. Best of both worlds really. It just melts off the visible parts of the hair so the new growth has kind of a fizzled out tip, which is pretty close to how it would grow naturally.
So I just apply the removal cream and the hair just "falls off"?
Yep. Well, you basically exfoliate it off (i use exfoliating gloves instead of the weird spatulas that usually comes with the cream for easy of use and maximum softness and thorough removal). It dissolves the keratin. It is actually quiet satisfying, the hair becomes almost gelatinous and you can stretch it like jiggly rubber.
That sounds great, maybe I can finally remove hair from my back
Yes, that could work. You can get these things with handled to put on body lotion (pic rel left) for your back and apply it like that and then use these back exfoliating things (pic rel right) to take it off again.
As far as I know the insurance here covers surgery costs as longs as I can prove that my BMI changed at least by 10 points
Idk, count calories
Everything else is just bullshit, and eat a lot of potatoes (not deep-fried in oil)
That’s sick that insurance covers it.
That would be crazy motivation for me.
How many points down are you so far?
I don't know my starting weigh, but it was around 46bmi, current bmi is 36.8
My fricking guy.
You can quit in .4 of a bmi or whatever and qualify for the surgery.
what if they’d let you do it twice if you got from 36 to 26
This was mostly a joke.
What’s your goal weight?
No way, I don't want any kind of surgeries until I'm 190 or 200 lbs.
I saw lose skin surgery pics and some people do them while they are obese and they look like freakshows afterwards
This. Get to your goal weight then give your body AT LEAST a year to restore and recover the skin and then see what needs fixing if at all. Als, as the other anons said, look into how to help your skin elasticity. Trace minerals, hyaluronic acid and collagen as supplements might be worth a try. If they don‘t help, they at least don‘t make it worse, eh?
why don’t you just fricking have a nice day you self loathing pile of shit
you made it through all that effort to lose 80lbs and you still b***h and whine like a fatass
because you'll look less like shit
Frickin’ this. god damn it
Dry fast and make sure to eat foods that have good effects on skin/collagen, consider surgery if thats in the cards, keep going this is impressive.
71683529
It's understandable but what you've done is nothing short of great progress, do what you can to improve your apperance and remember that even if you feel you look like shit you DO look better clothed, and I'm certian you feel better physically, YGMI OP
you'll always look like shit if you half ass everything
My guy I’m gonna practice some radical candor because I feel like that’s what you came here for.
Have you looked into surgical options?
I feel like at this point you could get a doctor to argue that it’s non-cosmetic due to bacterial concerns or something.
Seriously, congrats on the weight loss.
I'll go to a surgeon when I reach my goalweight, but I have no delusions I'll look just as shit as now
That’s an awesome plan.
I think you’ve got your answer then, homie.
Keep killing the game on your diet in the mean time, keep your head down and buy some well fitting clothes.
Do you have any weight loss tips?
I’ve plateaued about 30lbs from my goal weight.
Lose 80 more, save up for surgery, groom your crappy body hair
that's all you can do
>suicide
always the best option, real question is, can you do it?
you're more suit for rocking a dad bod, anon. You're in luck, chicks prefer your type of body than a fit man with abs.
Thats not a dad bod, it's not appealing.
And i'm considering getting rid of all hair soon because it's fricking gross
>hair
Idk anon, i like the hair. Getting rid of it would probably look way worse if i am being honest. Like a plucked chicken.
That was the first time I've ever seen myself in a mirror and I'm repulsed by how I look and it's about 40% the hair. So i'll just get it laser removed or some shit
I mean, it‘s your body but i‘d be devastated if the guy i dated would get his body hair removed. Just looks off but might be personal preference. Imo it is always better to try and work with what you have instead of going for a totally different aesthetic. It is just exhausting and never looks quiet right. Ofc you will never have one of those pale smooth twink bodies, but there is other ways you can be hot af, yknow?
Nothing is gross to a woman if you have enough money, but I agree to fix it if you're doing it for yourself.
wtf your loose skin, especially your breasts and body hair looks like mine but i lost 90kg (180->90) at 182cm
anyway gl, you didnt lose all this weight just to kys
also are those breasts gyno or just loose skin? mine look exactly like that but i cant tell
I'm 188, I started at probably 165kg probably, I'm about 128-130kgs now.
I probably have really bad gyno yes
Of course not.
You have two choices: wallow in self-pity or keep going and work out until your body gets better. You may not be where you are today, but tomorrow you won't be here either, so internalize the fact that time is fleeting and that rockets can't go in reverse.
Watching former fatties realize their horrendous disgusting lifestyles cant just be brushed under the rug by losing some fat tissue makes me so happy hahah it's hilarious
And please dont KYS OP. You should live as an example to other pigs so that they are reminded of what they are.
Ah yes because kids can chose the circumstances they are born into and the ingrained habits that come with that and they should be able to overcome these at age 6, no matter the habits of everyone around them so they do not end up getting obese by age 7. Silly me, how could i have forgotten. Seriously anon, this is just sad. Ofc people have to take responsibility for their health and ofc there is always a way out of it and ofc the goal should be to never even let it get to that point but thinking you are better just because you either never got into that situation or you beat it sooner than others is pathetic. Being raised with good habits or having the resources to learn and implement good habits early enough to not suffer the consequences of not having them is nothing but pure luck. Sure, the older you get, the more time you had to educate yourself and overcome the less than ideal start to life you had but rarely does someone just have bad eating habits but their life is going well otherwise. Usually kids that end up getting fat come from families that have neglected them due to their own dysfunctionality, Chances are that if your parents could not i grain healthy eating/exercising habits into you by the age of ten, they also failed to teach you all the other necessary things to be a healthy person physically, mentally and emotionally and that not only leads to being fat but usually the fat people also do not have good relationships, have shitty education and work dead end jobs. Being fat is just one of many areas in their life that is completely fricked up and it is not because fat people are just stupid and lazy. It is because dysfunctional people are the ones getting fat, being broke and having none or shitty relationships. And wether or not they became adults with a set of habits that set them up for success or not certainly was not in their control up to that point. Anyways, you most likely could not care less. Oh well.
are you that fat moron who doesnt push his body at all or care about nutrition but then constantly posts his body and blames his genetics?
Selfie
No, now is the time to double down.
Once you can see muscles and definition under the skin sheet, then get skin removal surgery.
It isn't all that expensive (most could save up for it in a years time).
Use it as motivation. Get yourself in order financially as well as physically. Start putting away whatever you can, and use it as the final reward for losing the weight and getting strong.
You already lived life in a gross fat body, this is no different, and infact is deserving of more respect.
You are doing great if you lost that much already. The only thing that should make you want to rope is if you give it all up and go back to being a gig fat.
You can still make it brother
The hair makes it much worse than it is
Don't end yourself, bro
Dude congrats, you are seriously making it, keep up losing the weight. I am sure other anons will be able to tell you how long it will take for baggy skin to go away but you are seriously doing good
werewolf bear mode
Start filling up your frame now with muscles.