femanon here, I have been with my current boyfriend for a few years, I love him very much, but holy shit hes gotten so fat, not like a little chubby but like morbidly obese. I dont live with him because im in school so im not there to cook for him, but i make him workout plans, cook healthy meals for him when im there, and teach him how to count calories. He has been becoming more and more of a neet and plays vidya and watches youtube all day. Im very active and care significantly about my health and appearance, and he just doesnt give a shit. every time I try to bring up how he isnt losing weight he acts like a woman and goes "but im trying my best and thats what matters" and claims every time I say something that hurts his feelings he feels "less motivated". I have been debating putting test in his coffee, but do you guys have any other advice?
Tell him you’re not attracted to him.
This but add the "anymore". If he doesn't react to this, he's gone beyond any repair or he doens't love you "anymore"
Larp, don't bump it
are you that much of a gay that you think any woman on this site is a dude
>he thinks there’s women on the internet
Literally in the rules
the 'rules' havent mattered since social media took off. youre over a decade late pal
how old are you anon? don't be scared we know we are all here forever but you were here way before most of us it seems
You know I also see anons insulting others for being newfags, but the real insult is being an oldfag. Because they wasted so much time on this stupid website.
I thought these were gay shit when I was 15, grow up lmao
Guys only make significant lifestyle changes if it affects their dick.
I’m guessing that, since he’s gotten fatter, he doesn’t perform as well in bed?
Tell him you missed his stronger boners from when he was skinnier.
He should hop on the treadmill pretty quickly on his own.
You must be 18 to post on this site.
im in college, not high school
Next time he tries to fuck, shoot him down. The only way that wouldn’t work as motivation, is if he’s no longer attracted to you. If that’s the case, he’s a lost cause and you should dump him and come marry me please and thank you
Just say you want to have a talk with him.
Sit him down and tell him how you feel.
Tell him you are worried about his health and that its gotten out of control.
Men are simple creatures, we are more direct and straight forward.
Tell him you want him to start working hard to lose weight and that it starts today.
You don't need to say anything else, just tell him how you feel and make it clear this is something he needs to do now.
If he says he will try, tell him there is no try. He has to lose the weight.
If he gets angry, shouts and says he won't do shit, then you should start making plans to get out of that relationship.
Its that simple.
Don't get emotional or upset, just tell him its something he has to do now.
this. if my ex had explicitly said she's leaving unless i change, i would've taken it seriously.
Assuming this isn't a larp, I agree with this anon. Chances are he will be hurt and that's okay. It stings when someone you love is basically calling you a fat fuck. If the roles where switched he'd probably be looking for a different woman. At least you're taking a chace with him. You gotta do this face to face also. Good luck.
Just tell him if he doesn’t make significant changes to his lifestyle you’ll leave him. If that’s not enough motivation to change then nothing is and you guys shouldn’t be together in the first place.
No one should have to date a fatass if they take care of themselves. Find a guy who has self respect and cares about their health in the same way you do.
Listen here little baby. You're gonna get a lot of hurtful and degrading comments, but that ain't what I'm about. Let me just say, you are perfect the way you are. You hear me sugar? PERFECT. Don't ever change. You deserve anything and everything you want. Stay safe for me, baby girl.
Big larp. Leave him and be with me instead.
Tits and timestamp or gtfo
Yeah same problem, he's complaining about his shirts not fitting but prefers to drink soda instead of water.
We have a hone gym right at the door too
Don't pull any punches.
Deliver an ultimatum - lose weight, or you'll leave him.
If he truly loves you, he'll stop being such a gay.
Just do what a girl I knew did.
I'll meet you at college, be more attractive than your fat loser boyfriend, I'll fuck you for a few months until you can't stand the guilt, you'll dump him for me and then I'll reject you. It's foolproof.
honestly? move on. Itl be painfull but once someone gets that big it takes tremendous effort to get them to lose weight and keep it off. It really has to come from their own motivation, but most fatties just dont have the discipline, which is how they get so fat in the first place. I dont mean to sound like an ass but there is a world full of guys who do take care of themselves, go find one.
so hard to get a gf bros. brutal
Shame him relentlessly until he gets fit or develops a new fetish
kek, he’s only gonna get fatter if he acts like a moron. its easy
not only is it saving tons of money but it also teaches a person about self control and self reliance
broke up with him. He walled himself already
Looks like an AI generated twink
yeah he's so pretty it's unreal
I never saw the appeal even when I was 13
>make thread about squat form
>get 5 replies
>chud makes post starting with :femanon here
>gets 20+ replies
>needs form advice
you are the chud
Inject him with test while he’s sleeping. Best of luck femanon, get ripped together
Kys you larping gay. Did not read a word of your fake story.
It's cruel, but it unironically will give you the results you need.
>mention there's a new guy who started coming to class
>mention he started sitting next to you
>mention he's making convo with you
>"anon he's pretty chill and really funny!"
wait some time
>make up an event, idfk, like studying late or something
>a bunch of your friends/classmates are getting together
>be very slow with texts, or just don't text for several hours
>"new guy helped me a lot with my research! gave him my number to get help with homework in the future"
so on so forth.
if your boyfriend isn't a basedslop cuckfuck, then the idea of New Guy Friend should bother him. then, one day if you make him a healthy meal and he eats it, compliment on how it makes you happy that he enjoys your cooking. he's deep down going to want to please you in practically every category, because New Guy Friend is "oh so smart in class", so you'll kinda Pavlov him into thinking "i eat her healthy food, she likes me more". it wont be that directly, but the premise of it will exist in his mind. make yourself distant during sex if you really want to drill the idea in + bonus points if you guys have sex after you have very recently made a comment about him needing to lose weight. also, test in coffee might help (zinc is another great starter to boost test naturally so maybe feed him zinc-heavy foods) because it's going to make him insecure and energized. the joke about estrogen making women "emotional" can be applied to men and testosterone; just not in the "boo-hoo lets watch sad movies" way. put on lifting stuff, or boxing stuff, after giving him test/zinc.
for shits n giggles, could possibly throw in "New Guy Friend always sends me tiktoks about lifting haha".
anyway, tldr: your best bet is emotional abuse/manipulation.
ps: keep in mind that there is a chance he doesn't give a shit about you or the relationship, and only wants to be catered. at that point, abandon ship.
just tell the guy straight what your problem with him being fat is. Instead of being a slimy, manipulative fuck like this anon wants.
if it's really a woman posting, she won't be able to do that. She will dance around the issue trying to be "gentle" and "supportive" and then she will cheat on him and manipulate him into believing it's his fault.
OP either tell him to lose weight within x amount of time or just leave. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
He will just stealth eat.
>your best bet is emotional abuse/manipulation
retarded and you're not even good at it
>your best bet is emotional abuse/manipulation.
Found the real woman in this thread.
cheat on him with me, that'll show him.
As a woman your biological clock is ticking
You can’t waste it on a fat fuck. That’s the simple truth. You have to think of yourself and be realistic. He ain’t gonna lose any weight.
You can accept being with someone obese forever or you can bite the bullet and break up. If the latter better doing so sooner rather than later so you’re not wasting time which is limited for women.
Based. Why would you waste your child bearing years with a fatty. Aren't females supposed to be selective about the genes that would go into their limited supply of eggs? Even they're fat themselves, a fit guy would have a chance to improve the gene pool between the two.
>play trombone noises on your phone when he walks in the room
>jiggle his belly
>don't say hello, insteadly loudly shout HEEYYYYYY FATTY BUM BUM
>show him photos of bodybuilders or fitness models and go OOH LOOK AT HIS SIX PACK
>whenever he eats unhealthy food shout WHO ATE ALL THE PIES, WHO ATE ALL THE PIES, YOU FAT BASTARD, YOU FAT BASTARD, YOU ATE ALL THE PIES
>whenever he tries to be intimate, run away shouting BELLY'S GONNA GET ME BELLY'S GONNA GET ME
>don't say hello, insteadly loudly shout HEEYYYYYY FATTY BUM BUM
lost at hey fatty bum bum. nice post anon
Leave. Don't try to fix him. If you manage to get him to lose weight, he'll cheat you first chance he gets because he's built up resentment against you. Honestly I don't even understand how you can respect yourself if you're having sex with a fat fuck. Why are you acting like this guy's caregiver? You should work on your self-esteem instead of trying to slim this fat slob down. I can assure you he hates your guts. You're going to work this hard on your health and appearance only to be dragged down by someone who doesn't care? It's pathetic. I genuinely think you need therapy because this behavior shows you're very prone to being abused.
Also, he might already be cheating on you. Fat ugly guys always cheat on their hot gfs to get some sort of revenge because they know how their gfs truly feel about them. He gets off on the idea of humbling you. Would you be able to handle being cheated on by a fat fuck? No, you won't. Leave asap, don't overexplain, just block him and never have any contact again.
didn't read but you're his gf just cook smaller meals that are more filling and do all the shopping
reward him once a week with something sweet, that is homemade and sex
Find out why they're gaining weight. There's always an emotional reason. There's some new stress in their life that is going unresolved. Without addressing or solving that problem, they cannot improve themselves. They may want to lose weight more than anything, but there's no way to win against their brain. They themselves may not know yet what it is, but if you talk through it with them it might help. You are trying to address the emotional issue of which the weight gain is the symptom (and may eventually become the issue leading to a self-sustaining feedback loop). People can't lose weight until they are in the right mental state, so focus on that.
> I have been debating putting test in his coffee
Pretty sure it would be illegal for you to go to a doctor, claim to be trans, get test gel, and add it to his lotion.
>"but im trying my best and thats what matters"
Where did this bullshit even come from? What a cancerous phrase. No, your level of effort does not matter. It is irrelevant. Results matter. Success matters. Doesn't matter even if you legitimately give it your all if you end up failing. Failure is failure.
Yes, I know this is an obvious bait thread, I just felt like going on that tangent.
>He acts like a woman
Work on your fuckin larp game moron, there many giveaways in this post and I will demonstrate 3 to you:
1- women always post pics of themselves in these kinds of posts, every single female on the face of the planet has an ego fuelled by perverted dms that they believe they're god's magnum opus and their pics to be the holy scripture
2- even though women don't act like it, they are the strongest proponent to lookism, but they are extremely ashamed of admitting it so they cover "being ugly" as "being toxic/perverted"..etc, so a female would never mention that its obesity that's the issue, god forbid she ever admits looks are all that mattera to her, she'd say things like "my bf is starting to become toxic/boring/lame..etc"
3- I don't remember the 3rd point
Little Jack Horner sat in a corner eating a goyslop pie. Stuck in my thumb, pull out a plum and say "what a good goy am I"
>lazy fat ass has a gf that cares about him
Show us your tits
Are you a fatass aswell? If so, get in shape and if he doesn't click after dump his fat ass.
no, but I was before I met him, but i lost all the weight
Work on getting in shape and then dump his ass
Threaten to dump him, and if he doesn't straighten up, actually dump him.
Ditch the zero and get with a hero (me (if you are not fat or ugly(actually you can be fat but just be proportioned right and have a pretty face*~~.
>my boyfriend is clearly depressed, should I cheat on him?
Why are trannies like this?
I never said I wanted to cheat on him you fucking garden gnome.
kek the seething replies to this thread when the gender reverse of it is posted like every 4 hours
It would be similar replies because fit hates fatties and women, among other groups
fit hates everyone, because fit hates itself
I know it's hard to believe, but not everyone here come from
it's at least 30-40%
SORRY CHAD BUT THIS IS REAL LIFE
THE FAT RETARD GETS THE GIRL
>uses lingo like "neet" and "plays vidya"
Try harder bro
if theyre on IST thats not unlikely. your super secret clubhouse language is actually common here.
I have the tism, thats the only reason a woman would be on this site. Or for male attention i guess. I like IST because its full of retarded people like me, but most women have fake autism nowadays
Post your bussy plz
Can you squat him like my girl can?
How to achieve head-sized arms?
Fuck is that even natty?
Time for some tough love. Make him weigh himself in front of you, then tell him that you refuse to enable his self destruction anymore, and that if he wants to stay with you, that scale had better be 10 lbs lighter next month.
Go fuck yourself, hole. The only ones who want you here are pathetic simps.
That guy is a huge gay
obviously dump him retard
I had some friends that were in a almost the exact same situation but with the genders swapped. They had been together for almost 10years and their relationship went to shit in 9months all because she couldn't stop stuffing her fucking face and making excuses.
It's over OP, he's ngmi and neither is your relationship, the best thing you can do is end it before you become bitter. Take solace in knowing that it's the best wakeup call you can give him because so long as you're still there trying to handhold him through life he doesn't have to care about anything you say.
Say Chads keep making advances on you at the gym and you really need him to start showing up there with you.
yes do that
Love your bf regardless and please his fat cock and belly.
>acts like a woman
>test in his coffee
Stop larping as a woman and making up fantasies.
tldr, but idk dump his lazy fat ass maybe?
This happened to me a few times with my exes. Idk what it is but like about 3 years in they just get lazy and start ballooning. You have to understand there is no fixing it, it's a mental thing and genuinely an addiction. I don't even think about it any more, as soon as they start weighing more than me I'm gone. It might sound cold but the reality is there is always going to be someone out there who is actively putting effort into keeping themselves healthy and fit and that's the sort of person I want to date. If you want to be fat then go for it but know you're going to be fat and alone.