Got cheated on and I can't move for shit. Others can use that as motivation, but with me it just destroys me. Been months and I just can't do it anymore. I keep imagining her getting plowed and it legit makes me go into a fetal position. Straight up suicidal
frick off back to your discord or whatever hole you're from
>Normie problem #33333352354234
not my problem
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condition yourself to push harder when you get that thought
it's easy, that's what I do when i start feeling shy at the gym
She's not forcing you to have these cuck thoughts anon.
Okay? I'm not in control of how my brain thinks. It chooses to torture me
woah dude. you are 100% in control of your thoughts and emotions. it's hard to move on and maybe you need more time, but don't use such a lame excuse. I can't imagine what you're going through, but you're gonna need to take it one day at a time. start with just getting up and cooking breakfast. ignore women for a while
This is your mind on porn.
This is your mind on talking to pasta (see #73347873)
Stop remind me of that b***h I had a big heartache
Get over your gigantic ego, she probably cheated on you because you're an insufferable narcissist.
What the frick are you blabbering about? What ego?
thinking your stupid heartbreak matters this much is pretty egotistical. if you are moping like a b***h (i.e. this thread) instead of trying to figure out what you did wrong you are NGMI
>cheating doesn't matter
jew
You are quite literally in charge of how your brain thinks.
Unfrick yourself, go to the gym, and find a new b***h to plow for a while
Just know it gets better in time and prepare for a long journey (I'm talking months of bad mental health). You can cope with some activities for a few days. Try to be outside and talk to other people IRL more.
she's cheating on you
you at least had sex right?
Yes, that's why it hurts me more if anything because I bonded with her
Better be a fit cuck than a fat cuck anon
Keep in mind that at one point the bull dick slipped out and she probably removed the condom and put it back inside
got dam. put on some music, get new pussy asap. gains are at stake
Chad here, i fricked OPs wife and I will frick OP next
the fact that you even have the luxury to sit around curled up in the fetal position is proof that your life isn't that bad. stop being a b***h.
That's the most moronic take imaginable
If you're able to put your life on hold to cry about a woman then you clearly don't have a lot of responsibilities to worry about. Grow up.
>then you clearly don't have a lot of responsibilities to worry about
I work full time, Black person
So how come you can drag your ass to work but not the gym?
It's different. The way I would train is for hypertrophy where I would push my limit i.e. train to failure, but I lack the will power now.
alright well continue crying like a woman about it, surely it will solve the problem
You're a homosexual
sounds like someone needs to lower their tone
That's depression and after months you're still giving her power over you after she betrayed you. That is some cuck grindset shit tbh anon.
Go on amazon and but some l-tyrosine, semax, bacopa monnieri and asgawandha.Take all 4 and 20-30 minutes afterwards go do whichever cardio possible, it can just be elliptical, stationary bike or walking, frick jump rope just something until you break a sweat.Do this twice a day each day like it's your only job and I'll check in with you in a month king
fricking supptards omg what is wrong with you goblins i swear its a cult lmao
She probably wasnt all that in the first place. Stop focusing on the good times and focus on the bad times with her. No girl worth putting on such a high pedestal in your brain. You have to convince yourself of that. Your brain got fricked from getting cheated on, but you have to fight back against the thoughts. It may take a bit.
Yeah, it's tough. But it will pass. One day it will not be on your mind daily. I wouldn't even force workouts, just east fast and easy good foods like eggs.
Putting yourself out there can help, falling for someone else, even when you don't think you can. Being busy, boredom, alone, 3am at night is the worse.
Life will do that. And some girls you'll always feel a little sorrow for, but then one day family members who you care about will cease to exist, and that will hit hard. One day you'll be 70 with the constant thought if old age and death on your mind.
So I guess you appreciate the stage you're at right now. There is no medicine, cure, or fast answer. Time. Surprisingly we adapt.
"Hobbies" and shit don't seem to do much imo, as nothing is fun when you're sad. My only "distraction" has been nature, walking, trying to enjoy.
>. One day it will not be on your mind daily.
Nah it's been 2 years i've broke up with my girl and i still think about her
My gf is thin and hot, but she started shit talking to me when we have an argument and she won’t shut the frick up. She will even make fun of me. She never cleans my home because she says it’s not her house despite her sleeping her 4-5 days a week and eating rice cakes on my bed and always leaving plates on the table after eating. Whenever I bring it up she told me that my house was a mess before she met me and that she helped me cleaned it twice(4 months ago was the last time) she told me that she has a house of her own to clean ( she lives with parents) and they even have a female cleaner from Phillipines or something.
We are getting married in August
how r u going to marry a woman that doesn't even respect you anon?
she's a prostitute and you deserve better.
Just turn your sadness and dissapointment into anger. Use it to fuel your workout routine.
Sith-maxxing
>can't workout anymore
>can make a post whining about it on IST
pull yourself together and LIFT
You don't need motivation. You need discipline, and you already have it. You've proved that because you've already kept a training regimen. You've just lost sight of it because you're in pain.
I have never recovered from getting dumped and cheated on behind my back when I was in boot camp in May of 1993. Yes, 1993. That long ago. Never got over it. I even got revenge: I fricked two of her friends AND beat the shit out of her new boyfriend, a guy I'd known since I was a toddler as our families had been friends for generations. And the knock-on effects of all that were revenge trebled or squared: he dumped her after they got matching engagements tattoos because he was so scared of me and didn't really care about her anyway. Those two friends of hers ended up becoming enemies after she revenge-fricked their new guys. My ex ended up institutionalized behind all this. And I still felt like shit.
I racked up a body count of 35 at least in college, including yet more friends of hers, and still felt like shit. I moved abroad and partied like Europeans do with their cocaine and house music, and still felt like shit.
What made me feel better was lifting weights and any other exertion like hiking or swimming, any intellectual challenge like reading a classic novel or watching some bizarre art house film, visiting museums, and all the other components of a real life that's being lived well. In other words, treating yourself like a human being, because she never will again.
You don't get over it, especially if it's a first cut, but you can get through it. You just go to the gym. You just go to the library. You just go to your job or class or any of the other things that you have to work for and eventually they just become habits, and unlike the unhealthy ones that provide a brief distraction from your pain, it becomes permanent, almost an afterthought.
Just rebuild that routine: train your body and occupy your mind, and you tame your soul.
Thanks anon. Not OP but I will try to live a life worth living
Is a good relationship worth this risk? How do you even know when to trust someone with your affections? It's all such a riddle to me
Most of the risk in a relationship really comes from your inability to manage it properly. By that I mean the worst shit about a relationship almost always involves you as a guy not being able to be like "we're done." Not being able to do that results in guys staying in relationships for a year that should have been over in a month for example. As soon as you start taking damage in a relationship, if you always keep your exits open and liberally use them and if you have reasonable expectations, most of the risk in a relationship vaporizes. Shitty family? We're done. She starts playing games to make you jealous? We're done. And so on. That's the risk.
So the risk is you stay in a situation and it's like "her pussy stinks and I hate it, but we're not done...I'm going to try to learn to love her stinky pussy." And you probably won't learn to love it, but you'll learn to deal with it. To tolerate it and before your very eyes you'll become "the guy who is okay with stinky pussy." I've got news for you though, you see flies, there's probably shit. By that I mean whatever bad shit you uncover is probably just the tip of the iceberg of other bad shit to come and so over time you end up having to become Mr. Compromise and Mr. Tolerance and all the while the quality of your life slips further and further down the toilet.
All because you couldn't just go "we're done" because maybe you would have felt like a bully breaking up with a girl for having a stinky pussy. That's the sort of mindfricking that has taken place on men in the modern age and it's why so many men can't get out of their shitty relationships because having standards as a man has been equated with being abusive. If you shake off the chains of modernity or really more accurately post-modernity and you can just keep your standards fair in your eyes and enforced, most of the risk is eliminated. The worst of the risk comes from your own lack of will though.
I would add that there's a communication element in having reasonable expectations. I'm at an age where I'd rather communicate with a woman and give her a chance rather than just say "we're done" as soon as something bothers me, or as soon as I make negative assumptions about her. I used to leave as soon as anything bothered me
I do believe in always remaining willing to leave if your boundaries are crossed
I wasnt cheated on but I understand how you feel.
took me a while but it turned to rage. I have no respect for a person that does not honour their word. If I make a promise to someone, I expect the seriousness with which I regard it to be reciprocated. Theres no room for prostitutes in my life, theres more than enough decent women in this world.
gay
doesn't it turn you on when you realize that BLACK BVLL TYRONE pleased her so hard she was moaning in pleasure all the time, saying things like "daddy please, please PUSH IT HARDER HARDER INSIDE ME" and had the best orgasm of her life?
Happened to me too once OP. You'll get over it. Just date other girls, that's what helped me.
*BLOG POST*
Thankfully her best friend ratted her out to me before I slept with her again because she was fully planning on never telling me either. b***h cried crocodile tears begging me to forgive her and I just hung up and proceeded to make a PoF account. Told an old flame about what had happened, and she told me to come over to her house and bang her raw and finish inside her to get my mind off the b***h (context: she had just started taking birth control a couple months prior, was on a dry spell and has been dying to try it out specifically with me because I had "one of the biggest, nicest wieners she's ever seen") which I followed through with. I had a new gf within 3 months of using PoF and had long forgotten about the c**t that cheated on me.
*END BLOG POST*
wow anon ur such a chad alpha sigma grindset based redpilled king
>she told me to come over to her house and bang her raw and finish inside her to get my mind off the b***h (context: she had just started taking birth control a couple months prior, was on a dry spell and has been dying to try it out specifically with me because I had "one of the biggest, nicest wieners she's ever seen") which I followed through with
Bro, you slept with a turbo bawd that was trying to get you to knock her up and entrap you with an "accidental pregnancy".
But good for you that you got over the cheater.
>can't work out anymore
Go for walks then.
It will get better when the winter is over.
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Necessary reading for anyone that thinks he should "forgive" a girl for cheating on him.
Just because you forgive them, doesn't mean you should ever take them back.
Nah I would never take them back let alone forgive them. Now THAT is being cucked
Forgiveness just means you let go of wanting to exact revenge.
Don't tell me you let a cheater live in your head rent free that you just plot revenge scenarios in your head 24/7, right? Now THAT would be cucked beyond belief.
No revenge scenarios. Only pain lives on, but "not plotting revenge" is not how I interpret forgiveness.
I loved her. She wasn't just some random chick to me
But that's what forgiveness is. It's a pardon, and not demanding revenge for the wrongs done to you.
It doesn't mean you have to be ok with what they did. That's why forgiveness doesn't mean allowing them back into your life. That's your own personal decision outside of forgiveness, which is just moving on with your life.
Please tell me you at least dumped the b***h and maybe lit her car on fire
A girl cheated on you and you managed to get rid of her and now you're single again. Your problem is ALL perspective my boy.
1. Getting rid of a girl is great because in most cases, they're shit and you're massively overvaluing them as partners in your life.
2. Her cheating on you is less great, but a ton of women do that shit and they do it on pure impulse, it barely has shit to do with you 99% of the time. Women will throw away their lives because their mouth watered when they saw a homeless guy jerking off. So don't take that personally. It comes with the territory of dating women, unless you get a really lucky and equally rare hand early in the game.
2a. You also KNOW she cheated and was removed from your life as a result. This is way better than the dumb fricks out there whose girlfriend happens to be good at cheating and don't even know the shit she's up to. She's gone man and it's very little value lost.
3. You're single. The world is yours to be a part of again.
There's quite a few of us from what I can tell who are basically prisoners in our lives thanks to women we can't get rid of without enormous fallout. Yours excused herself from your life like a total dumb ass and there's a lot more that can be said, but bottom line is: go lift, go chill at the beach, embrace life.
>I keep imagining her getting plowed
Stop being a cuckold.
Bro. We can teach you to lift, but the only one who can stop you from acting like a b***h is you.
Either blast David Goggins through headphones until you get up and stop this cycle, have a nice day, or kill her the guy she did that with. Your only options.
The only way is through m8.
Don't distract urself. Let the pain and tears flow.
Once you've calmed down stay busy. Spend time with friends. Just offer to help friends and family or go volunteer somewhere.
In time you will reconfigure and come out with more drive to move in a new direction
Then end it already. If one woman is all it takes for you to feel like killing yourself, then you aren't meant for this world anyway.
moron take. It's obvious you've never felt love before
I can tell your under the age of 18. Love isn't a one time thing homosexual. Sometimes you have to understand that things just don't work out and move on. You'll find someone else you'll love equally as much if you stop whining so much over your ex.
I'm 28, you stupid frick. You're younger than me but have this delusional mindset of feeling "more grown up" because you're more of an edgelord
YOU GOTTA KILL THEM ALL JOHNNY
EVERY LAST ONE
Any anons here who became volcels after a brutal break up?
I have had a big relationship with a woman I loved a lot and we had insane connection and I can’t really move forward anymore and don’t bother with anything anymore. It’s been two years but the memories are becoming stronger and her moving on and being strong while I’m weak makes me depressed. It’s like I don’t wanna go for a new relationship but I feel like wasting time at the same time
Is this detrimental and will lead to severe depression? I’m 32 btw and things are very weird imo
this seems like a serious problem. good luck anon
>good luck
i will surely need it bro
Mind-wandering is cure. Lay down for a few hours every day and let your thoughts flow, your mind will eventually stumble upon a new way of looking at things or new plans for the future and the healing will have begun.
>sex havers will literally have their lives destroyed because their precious pussy cucked them
Kek, glad I’m a permavigin chad and will never have to deal with this
your ancestors clawed through 50,000 freezing winters of filth and gore to produce you, so that you just give up?
it will pass, improving yourself is the besr revenge. Go out and do something for other people so you dont wallow too much
don't care, rollin for pushup