Confidence isn't some emotion that people are too stupid to unlock, it's the end-product of consistent positive reinforcement. If you've omly had negative reinforcement or a lack of reinforcement in a given area, it only makes sense that you wouldn't be confident. Telling the romantically unsuccessful to be confident is like me telling someone who's never played chess to be confident playing a grandmaster if they want to win.
If you didn't gain confidence by high school, it's unironically, scientifically over for you.
>he peaked in high school
kek
Not what i said, moron.
utter bullshit - so many people have done well after uni too , after THAT it takes a real herculean effort.
Everyone asks "how do I gain confidence" which is the wrong question. You've always had confidence. You were a precocious, optimistic, world-exploring child and didn't give a frick about what people thought when you were walking and "talking". Look at any toddler and you'll see what I mean.
What the right question is: "how do I get rid of the blockers to my confidence". As you got older, you were told not to do xyz. This is normal. This is part of growing up and not becoming some moron criminal Black person in the world. But since you were told most of these things as a moronic child, you internalized the message partly incorrectly, and reinforced some inappropriate blockers. This shit came from your parents, teachers, peers, bosses, and a lot of people in your life.
So one must learn not to "gain" or "find" confidence. They need to explore where their blockers are and begin actively letting go of them. It takes practice and time, but that needs to be the mission. Telling someone they'll be confident by just lifting weights and fricking bawds is bullshit. That can help tear down some of the blockers I mentioned, but look how many homosexuals here are still unconfident and act like sadc**ts.
Just start letting go, bros. Embrace the joy and the pain of learning to get rid of that which does not serve you.
you are not only wrong, you are stupid.
optimim is for fools.
We're ALL gonna make it
coping homosexual it never gets better
stay mad lmfao
im just being real
Being a defeatist homosexual and having a negative and neurotic outlook on everything is a choice.
yeah ok
learn to write ESL idiot
effort=results
build confidence, don't (passively) gain confidence
be positive, have a better life
we are
yup optimism is cope for normies
YOU'RE ALL WRONG
SUBLIMATE ALL EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS INTO A BLIND RAGE. NO OPTIMISM, NO PESSIMISM, ONLY UNTAMED MADNESS AND BURNING FURY. LET THE PRIMORDIAL TRUTH FLOW THROUGH YOUR VEINS AND CONSUME ALL LIES AND FALSEHOODS, LEAVING ONLY PASSION IN ITS WAKE. LET LAZINESS AND SLOTHFULNESS DIE, ONLY THE UNDYING LIGHT WITHIN YOUR YET-BEATING HEART SHALL REMAIN. I HATE CHAOS I HATE CHAOS I HATE CHAOS I HATE CHAOS I HATE CHAOS I HATE CHAOS I HATE CHAOS I HATE CHAOS I HATE CHAOS AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
meds
The most confident I have ever been was when I was obsessed about death and dying and how everyone around was going to die eventually and how pointless everything was.
I was confident allright but not in a good place.
I was mostly confident before, but during memevid19 it was proven to me beyond any reasonably doubt that I am cognitively superior to the vast majority of other humans on this planet. I am objectively better, why should I ever care about any judgement?
Just give a heavy depressive episode to an unconfident person and if he survives It now you have a beast,the personification of idgaf.
Lesson here is everybody can be confident,but God works in mysterious ways.
positive reinforcement is gained through persistent carrying out of le >b-be confident
insubstantial and armchair psych post, keep it up, bot!
self-confidence comes from practice and repetition. the romantically unsuccessful guy who tries and fails and learns from his mistakes until he’s better eventually becomes romantically successful
You sound like a moron mate, post Hight/Weight, really easy to complain about the miss fortunes of your life isn't. I have a suggestion spend less time on image boards then kek or maybe acutely post about fitness you homosexual
Alright that it, dubs and all the black pilled gays in this thread get smothered to death by boogies tummy
rollin
no, dubs and they accept the truth while becoming immune to demoralization posters
then make the positive reinforcement and find a way out and stop pitying yourself, anon. i believe in you. lift weights and say "i could bend a mf in two" later nerd. Optimism is not for fricking fools, its for people who are smart enough to know how to live, and havent trapped themselves in their delusions. Have hope anon. If you don't, no one else will.
Fight for something you believe in. Even if its downright autistic or dumb. Overcoming the challenges of serving your ideals is what makes you confident. Overcoming = Confidence. Yes, its easier when you are a child. Everything is. It doesn't stop you from doing it right now though. Even if it takes herculean strength. But you dont want to. You just want to get pity from the other pity users here who dwell on their mom's basement telling you about how much they hate the circumstances of their lives. Do not listen, or do, if you want to stay just like them. You don't want to change. You only want to feel better about not chaning. Dumbass.
>CAPTCHA:MOGGM
>then make the positive reinforcement and find a way out and stop pitying yourself, anon.
Unless you have a time travel machine that can send me back when I was young, I don't think you plan works.
I’m sorry your father molested you
>projecting this hard
keffals doesn't send his best
Confidence comes from seeing yourself do something that you expect. Courage comes from seeing yourself overcome something that you dont really understand.